Woke Woman Gets SHUTDOWN For Saying This...
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about leaving an alcoholic husband and how we should have handled it differently. We also talk about the importance of a good relationship with our dads and how important it is for us to have them in our lives.
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So I'm 25 and I'm divorced and I did choose monogamy young.
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I always, we got married when I was 23 and why didn't you stay married?
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I, I got divorced because I couldn't compromise because my ex-husband, he, he was an alcoholic.
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I tried offering services, but you can't change what somebody.
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Did you know he was an alcoholic when you married him?
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Was he an alcoholic when you married him or did that happen?
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So it gradually got worse as we, after, actually after we had gotten married.
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So it started to get on him because I know that about that happened.
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He was in combat and he had, yeah, he had a lot of that.
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And in the beginning it was regulated with medication and it was good, you know, but after a while, like sometimes.
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I don't blame you one bit for leaving that type of environment.
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Yeah, it wasn't something that I could compromise with any longer.
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And when I tell you I did everything that I could to stay with him, I did.
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And I would have done anything that he needed to.
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So how could you say you did everything you could to stay if you left?
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I'm not, I'm not even saying you're wrong for it, but I'm saying like, it's kind of not true.
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You know, women used to date alcoholics for like a decade and then they'd stop.
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What I'm not pushing back on is saying, oh, you shouldn't have left that or whatever.
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What I am saying is like this idea that we did everything.
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Well, I just, you know, I'm, I'm Catholic, so I don't believe in divorce.
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So I actually, I think it's like for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse and sickness
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So if somebody was manipulating you every single day.
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Well, women are usually the more manipulative ones anyway.
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I think your dad, I think we would all be in a better place if our dads helped us pick
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Are we going to do a say-off because then we can ask our dad.
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Well, if you want to, if you want to talk about the dads, then like the moms picked the
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So it's like, if they're, I think we need the dads involved.
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How many of you grew up in a nuclear family, like a mom and dad at home before they pass
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I had to pretty much build what I had in regards to what my preferences could be.
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And I think, again, because it'll go to our parents, right?
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And a lot of our parents didn't pick well either.
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Well, I wouldn't say that I didn't have that type of guidance.
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I mean, I definitely have that relationship with my dad where I could bring him.
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I did bring my dad to, or bring my husband to my dad at the time, you know?
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And he probably was, but into the PTSD and everything else.
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And there's a lot of factors that play into it, you know?
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And so he just started drinking and then just became an alcoholic in two years?
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So we were together for all in all three years.
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And good job for getting the fuck out of there.
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You know, at the end of the day, too, he's, it's, he's a great person.
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Like, that's one thing, that's one of the reasons why I loved him.
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Everyone on this earth needs to put their own happiness first above everything.
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If you are, how can you pour from an empty cup?
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I think that's just nonsense, feminist garbage.
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No, no, because you're going to be unhappy in marriage at some point.
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You think our great grandmothers stayed together for 50 years, 60 years, thinking about themselves.
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You know how I could tell the generational switch?
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We got the Taylor Swift generation, which is I'm a victim, blah, blah, blah.
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Where, do you remember, do you remember the song Jolene?
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Because she was worried that her man was cheating.
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And instead of keying his car, which, you know, Carrie Underwood keying his car, she, no, but she stayed with them.
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And it's like it was just a completely different mindset where she's like, I can't live without this guy.
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Where now it's like women, we just care about ourselves and our happiness.
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And if the outcomes were good, then why aren't families together?
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And, you know, I feel like social media has a lot to do with that, too, because there's always like somebody on the back burner or someone we've been eyeing
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or somebody else who we know we could get somebody together.
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Someone that's been liking your pictures for the last two years and are just waiting for their chance.
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Yeah, it's so easy to just get on a dating app and find a replacement.
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That's the guy friend that none of you want to be with, but he's a nice guy.
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And he's the guy waiting on the outside, the guy that's liking all your pictures.
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The nice guy always fucking minutes last in this generation.
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Who here has been in a relationship and had a backup plan?
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I have never gotten into a relationship thinking that it was going to end.
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So I've never had a backup plan, but when I found out that they did something, I could
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have either chose to leave it or chose to get back.
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And that's the only kind of backup plan that I've had.
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It got snuck into me because my best friend had just committed suicide.
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And that's how my best guy friend got to sneak in there.
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If I knew him four years and we didn't do anything, and then when my friend passed away
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and he was being there for me, then he kind of...
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He was always thinking about that in the back of his mind, though.
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I think that if you're going to be a guy friend, you put it in.
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Okay, they're probably waiting for the chance, but we never went on a date.
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Because you told them they're their guy friends.
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And so as a guy, as a guy, if I'm dating a gal, oh, I got five guy friends, I'm like,
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So women, pretty women always have a backup plan.
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If I looked at your IGs and your inbox, your DMs, you got backup plans.
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Because I've been checking my ex-boyfriend's fucking phone, and it'd be all kind of DMs.
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That's because all my friends is in their DMs, too.
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I've made fun of cats, so I get pussy pics all the time.
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So I get people sending me cat jokes because I made a joke about single women, angel numbers,
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I think they're so unattractive women sending dick pics.
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Can I just say this for anybody who's listening?
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Like, girls only like dick pics when we ask for that dick.
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If you ever send an unsolicited dick, there's no woman.
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I'm going to say 10% because I'm 10% of weirdos.
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Yeah, the thing about it, if you send a random dick pic to us, it's very perverted.
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Men are always looking at women as a sexual object.
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Now, if they're simping and they're like, oh, she's going to be my sugar mama.
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Whatever's in the desire of the guy, sexually, what he likes, and he's going to look at her.
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There's objective truth to that, what beauty is, but not subjective, but objective.
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So guys are like, okay, we think with our testosterone.
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Women look at a guy and they go for the resources, not money.
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When I say resources, you're going to have children.
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You want the best outcome and probability for your family to have longevity.
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So you're not going to date no scrub, scrub, right?