JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023


Woman claims that Men Have Feminine Energy


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12 minutes

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189.22295

Word count

2,272

Sentence count

171

Harmful content

Misogyny

31

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Hate speech

13

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In this episode, we discuss the differences between men and women when it comes to their emotions and how to deal with them. Why do women cry so much and why do men cry so little? Why is it that women cry more and men don t?

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00:00:00.000 Oftentimes when I have a lot of girls on my show, I always hear stories like this where they just 1.00
00:00:05.480 tell me like the absolute worst sob story that's ever happened to them in their life.
00:00:11.380 And it just doesn't seem indicative of what I've experienced with men.
00:00:16.200 So why do you think every girl has a sob story when it comes to men? 1.00
00:00:21.920 I'm happy to start. Why do girls have a sob story? Because 1.00
00:00:26.960 because emotions are actually what's valuable, because that's that's why we are alive,
00:00:35.880 because when we are living, we feel and when we feel it, it actually has some type of meaning.
00:00:43.340 So let's, for example, say something very mundane. Do you remember what you ate this breakfast for breakfast this morning?
00:00:50.540 Maybe not, because it was just a regular day.
00:00:52.900 Do you remember, let's say, like, it was your graduation day.
00:00:58.360 Do you remember what you had for breakfast?
00:01:00.760 Maybe you didn't even eat because you were so you were so you were so nervous.
00:01:04.220 You're going on stage. You're going to get your, you know, so so emotions is what makes things stick.
00:01:12.320 You're not going to remember something if it wasn't something exciting.
00:01:16.100 We don't have the brain capacity to remember everything. So our brains are made to process and really hone in on things that they think is important.
00:01:25.820 So whether that is extreme happiness, extreme bliss, extreme ecstasy to the other extreme of hurt, rejection, pain, trauma.
00:01:36.060 Those are the things that we are going to always remember.
00:01:39.180 So it doesn't matter if maybe this girl actually had 100 really good encounters with guys, but she doesn't value them because maybe she's numb to it.
00:01:47.820 And then all it takes is that one time because maybe she's so traumatized at one point of her life.
00:01:53.520 And so when she does come across someone who validates her her her her perception, which is that men are bad,
00:02:02.780 then she just latches on and then she gets very angry.
00:02:05.760 Why don't men do the same thing? 0.57
00:02:07.280 They do the same. It's not a gender. It's not a gender thing because men and women. 0.83
00:02:13.800 Men and women are different in the sense that women are a lot more volatile and they're a lot more outside when it comes to expressing their emotions. 1.00
00:02:21.100 The problem with men is that you do feel and I actually think that men feel more.
00:02:26.060 I'm not talking about feeling more. I'm talking about men like women demonizing men versus men demonizing women.
00:02:31.500 I'm just curious. Do you guys feel like men and women do it the same? Just going around? Yes or no?
00:02:35.940 No, no, definitely not.
00:02:37.620 What about you? No. What about you?
00:02:40.540 What?
00:02:43.520 Sorry. What was the question?
00:02:46.000 Do you think men and women demonize each other the same?
00:02:48.820 No, no.
00:02:49.800 Can I actually say what I actually think? Maybe why women? 1.00
00:02:53.080 I don't know about the men, but I think this is why women are so well, why the feminists are so angry. 1.00
00:02:59.380 Okay.
00:03:00.400 So I'm going to say feminine energy because I believe that we all have a little bit of both and that's actually a good thing to have.
00:03:08.620 We have both in us and depending on the right situation, you will lean into one more than the other.
00:03:14.620 I think you see it more in a girl because I guess we're more encouraged to be more masculine these days anyways.
00:03:20.140 Now, I think when girls innately are female, feminine energy, they do want to feel cherished. 1.00
00:03:27.720 They want to be taken care of.
00:03:29.120 That is like the most pure basic feeling to start with.
00:03:33.480 Now, what unfortunately happens is that when girls start maturing, so when they start getting into teenage years, when they start getting awareness of sexuality in themselves, they also, unfortunately, girls tend to mature quicker than guys.
00:03:50.920 So they outperform them sometimes at school.
00:03:53.340 They're more quicker at focusing and honing into growing up and being a little bit more adulty, whereas guys might take a little bit longer.
00:04:00.960 And it is just what it is.
00:04:02.860 Guys just takes a little bit longer and that's okay.
00:04:05.100 I think I agree, just to cut you off there, I think I agree with the majority of what you're saying, but I think the point that seems to get missed out these days is that you have more feminine energy in us because you're born that way.
00:04:17.360 We have more masculine energy because we're born that way.
00:04:19.320 I think society now, the problem with society, we're trying to make each other so similar.
00:04:23.720 Even though we're much similar and we're different, we need to appreciate the differences between us.
00:04:28.980 So I don't think there's any benefits to a man being feminine. 1.00
00:04:31.860 Even though this is what females are requesting nowadays, I want my guy to be more in touch with feminists. 1.00
00:04:36.760 There's actually no benefit to it because as a man, you cry.
00:04:42.300 I mean, men cry. 0.80
00:04:43.420 It's not like we don't cry, but you cry in front of your girl and see what happens.
00:04:48.640 She's not going to respect you.
00:04:49.620 I've heard Pearl say this a multiple times because it's true. 0.94
00:04:52.840 What women are actually requesting these days, it's not going to benefit them in a relationship. 1.00
00:04:57.980 You don't want a weak man.
00:04:59.100 As soon as you see that your man is weak, you're going to go elsewhere.
00:05:03.320 Yeah, I agree.
00:05:06.620 That's a very valid point and I agree with you as well and I get where you're coming from.
00:05:10.680 I think just to finish off my point, from what I said earlier, girls then get pushed, if you can see what I'm saying, 0.92
00:05:18.780 get pushed to become very masculine because they feel like, and actually, it's from personal experience.
00:05:23.820 My own mother tells me to, they're pushing us to go to college, they're pushing us to go into very masculine type of trades. 0.97
00:05:31.900 And in order to be, I'm in the medical field, so in order to be, look, if you're coming to see me,
00:05:36.600 do you want me to be a woman who doesn't know how to make decisions? 1.00
00:05:40.120 No, you don't want that, right?
00:05:41.320 Real quick, because it's a very important distinction you just made there and I don't hear much women say it. 1.00
00:05:45.600 It's like, you just said that your mother encourages you to be more masculine.
00:05:49.500 What I hear nowadays is, as we know on the internet, it's men versus women.
00:05:54.500 We don't hear much of examples of your mother encouraging you.
00:05:57.900 We hear men make us like this, men make us like this.
00:06:00.220 You've just been honest there and said that my mother made me more masculine.
00:06:02.620 And do you think, I'm going to say it straight, I think that's a problem, that women are making women become more masculine. 0.99
00:06:10.520 Yeah.
00:06:11.000 That's an issue.
00:06:12.000 But it's just before I just cut it off, that's an important distinction.
00:06:16.620 It's not the men that's doing that because we want you to be feminine. 1.00
00:06:19.720 Men want women to be feminine. 1.00
00:06:21.580 We don't want you to be masculine.
00:06:22.880 We already got to deal with the dudes that are masculine. 0.94
00:06:24.600 We don't want to deal with a masculine female. 1.00
00:06:26.220 So it's an issue, I think.
00:06:29.220 I'm definitely going to agree with you with that.
00:06:30.720 And I'm going to get to the point you made as well.
00:06:32.900 So what happens is that then the girls are encouraged to stand up for themselves.
00:06:38.880 Don't wait around and rely on the guy.
00:06:41.040 You've got to be self-sufficient.
00:06:42.780 By the way, that's a good thing.
00:06:44.140 Because you actually, if you're going into a relationship, you want a partnership.
00:06:48.460 You would want, so this is how it works.
00:06:50.380 So if you've ever seen 300, have you?
00:06:54.160 Why would you want a partnership when that's not how it's worked for all of history?
00:06:58.740 What I meant by partnership, I'll explain a little bit.
00:07:02.940 In 300, Leonidas is the king and he has his queen.
00:07:09.900 When someone comes to his doorstep and threatens him, literally threatens his whole livelihood, his people,
00:07:18.520 with literally cutting people's heads off, walking up to him and showing violence, his queen stepped up and said, this is not okay. 0.88
00:07:29.400 And the messenger was turning around and saying, how dare you as a woman speak? 1.00
00:07:37.180 And in the end, when Leonidas then, before he kicked them down the whale, he actually said, you disrespected my queen. 0.99
00:07:46.380 And actually what she said as well is, she said like, only Spartan women can give birth to Spartan men, which is strong men.
00:07:54.520 So what is beautiful about that relationship is that they are not equal in the sense that they don't have the same energy.
00:08:00.920 But we can agree that they're both strong in different ways.
00:08:04.980 But that's not a partnership because he needs...
00:08:07.240 Okay, so what I meant is, I'm not saying they're equal.
00:08:10.280 She needs him more than he needs her.
00:08:12.100 So what I'm saying is, I'm not saying that they're equal and that they give the same thing in.
00:08:16.620 But what they do is that they complement each other and support each other.
00:08:20.160 And the beautiful thing about that relationship is that she's actually very accomplished.
00:08:24.560 So he feels safe walking away and going into war, potentially never coming back.
00:08:30.680 But he knows that his wife is strong.
00:08:33.220 So she can go and she will use her way of doing things to try and help the country. 0.97
00:08:38.300 Can I just say something?
00:08:39.120 So it's a definition of a partnership 50-50, right?
00:08:42.660 You're right.
00:08:43.820 So I think that's the biggest problem for men when we hear partnership.
00:08:48.900 Because we think, when we hear 50-50, we think, hold on.
00:08:52.280 So if we've got to get into a fight now, it's not 50-50.
00:08:55.040 Because if someone comes to rub us down the street right now, it's not 50-50.
00:08:57.860 I've got to deal with 100% of the...
00:08:59.480 I've got to deal with him.
00:09:00.520 So when we hear partnership, we think that's cool.
00:09:02.820 Because there's certain places where we want women to be feminine. 1.00
00:09:04.940 So if we're at a family gathering, you might be more vocal than us.
00:09:08.480 That's fine.
00:09:09.160 We don't want to talk.
00:09:10.500 So it's like a partnership doesn't have to be 50-50, in my opinion.
00:09:15.360 You can have a solid relationship without having to be 50-50 all the way.
00:09:18.900 But women can be better at some things than men. 0.67
00:09:22.100 You're more maternal than us.
00:09:23.180 You can do with children better than us.
00:09:24.720 We're fine with that.
00:09:25.280 The problem with women nowadays, in my opinion, is trying to make everything so equal. 1.00
00:09:29.540 And it's like, it's just not like that.
00:09:30.900 It's not in us.
00:09:31.460 It's not in our biological...
00:09:33.320 It's not innate at all.
00:09:34.500 Yeah, and I agree with you with that as well.
00:09:36.240 Because I guess I have the...
00:09:38.800 My definition of partnership is a bit different from you.
00:09:40.920 So when I'm saying a partnership, I didn't mean it has to be 100% 50-50 in every single aspect.
00:09:45.780 Right.
00:09:46.420 But you're changing the definition of a word.
00:09:48.100 So it's like, that's why I wanted to...
00:09:50.100 So I do apologize.
00:09:51.460 I'm not trying to confuse you.
00:09:52.200 I'm not offended.
00:09:53.220 I'm just saying, like, that's not what it means.
00:09:55.560 Question for you.
00:09:56.500 What have you seen in divorce court?
00:09:58.080 Do you feel like men and women demonize each other the same?
00:10:00.540 What's your experience with that?
00:10:03.460 No, I think women are more ready to just demonize their husband. 1.00
00:10:07.500 If they're going in the arena of divorce, like, okay, this is happening.
00:10:11.300 They're ready to just cut him out as much, you know, whatever way possible.
00:10:16.680 And I've seen very commonly, the man's like, okay, what's going on?
00:10:20.280 Who is this?
00:10:21.120 You know, where does this come from?
00:10:22.980 And then he just has to...
00:10:24.140 It's sad.
00:10:25.160 So first initial reaction is he's sad.
00:10:27.100 He's like, okay, this is where it's going.
00:10:28.760 And then he has to just now defend himself with this accusation.
00:10:31.440 So, yeah, and then he might be disgusted and then he's just retaliating.
00:10:36.340 But she's the one that always starts it.
00:10:37.820 I'm glad you said that.
00:10:38.820 I've seen just saying how it is.
00:10:40.940 So I'm curious.
00:10:42.400 Have you had...
00:10:43.260 I know the majority of divorces are initiated by women. 1.00
00:10:45.920 Have you had men initiate divorce?
00:10:47.980 Yeah, sometimes.
00:10:48.920 What are the typical reasons that men initiate from what you've seen?
00:10:52.580 So what I've seen, sometimes it's adultery.
00:10:55.440 Or she gets to, like, she's trying to take charge in the house
00:11:01.540 and start demanding things so she doesn't have to. 0.98
00:11:06.360 Like, especially if she's educated.
00:11:08.460 So she's got a job and she's coming home late. 1.00
00:11:12.860 And then she can't, she's too tired to...
00:11:14.780 What's the percentages, just roughly, of your experience of men initiate in divorce
00:11:18.620 and women initiate in divorce? 1.00
00:11:20.600 The percentage...
00:11:21.380 Well, I don't know the exact...
00:11:22.780 Because I know the percentage of that poll's got statistics,
00:11:25.800 but what have you seen in your own experience?
00:11:28.040 That men initiate to divorce? 0.56
00:11:29.440 Like, roughly.
00:11:30.380 The last time we saw it was around, like, 15%.
00:11:33.660 Really?
00:11:34.740 And, yeah.
00:11:35.600 That means a statistic spot on there.
00:11:37.100 That's how bad it is.
00:11:38.120 Yeah.
00:11:38.680 But again, English courts, I have to say, it's not, like, straight away.
00:11:42.860 It's not as bad as California.
00:11:44.220 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:11:47.940 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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