JustPearlyThings - Woman DESTROYS 23-Year Marriage And INSTANTLY REGRETS It

00:00:00.000 But I had a huge house and all my bills were paid for and I never had to think how they were going to get paid.

00:00:08.100 My grass was cut, well, not the last year of separation.

00:00:11.800 But you know what I mean? All the basic things that keep the image up.

00:00:15.020 And I gave up my entire image that I was trained to have for my family for 23 years.

00:00:22.500 I like how she doesn't even say she misses her kids.

00:00:24.920 Do you know what I mean? I'm like, kids, you missed the hospital.

00:00:32.360 She's like, I missed the lawn being moaned. I missed the image. I missed my chit. 0.78

00:00:40.000 What up, guys? Welcome to The Jazz.

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00:00:51.120 Today, I'm going to be reacting to a woman who destroyed 23 years of marriage and instantly regret it. 1.00

00:00:59.020 Let's go.

00:00:59.640 I'm going to be happy and trying not to cry. Why?

00:01:02.740 Okay, hear that language? Me. I want to be happy.

00:01:05.560 Because my ex has so much money. He makes more than $18,000 a month easily.

00:01:11.100 And now I sit here with the triggers because he's going to the Clemson Notre Dame game with my kids.

00:01:16.160 I can't just randomly afford that. Hell, I can't even get them all in the same room at the same time.

00:01:20.540 So, I sit here and I'm going to get through this trigger. I'm sucking a buttercup and I move on.

00:01:26.460 But it's not fair. Like, it's not fair. I'm pissed.

00:01:29.600 Welcome back, family.

00:01:31.940 Grass isn't always greener on the other side. It's not.

00:01:35.140 Today, we are going to review this 47-year-old woman who decided to leave her 23-year-old stable marriage in order to find her happiness.

00:01:43.880 And then, she had the nerve to get mad and jealous at her ex-husband because he is doing much better financially after the divorce.

00:01:51.660 Let me start by showing how...

00:01:53.600 Yeah, and it's funny because she is talking about what she can't afford.

00:01:57.740 And look at fake nails. 1.00

00:01:59.420 Look at... I don't even have fake nails.

00:02:00.720 No, I should.

00:02:01.320 But it's like, eh, who's got time for that?

00:02:03.440 So, one, you have to spend the time to go get them done.

00:02:06.500 It looks like she has Botox.

00:02:08.240 Some sort of filler.

00:02:10.500 Heavy makeup.

00:02:11.700 Blonde hair dye.

00:02:12.660 Like, all of that stuff is expensive.

00:02:14.840 So, how do you not have money but you have all of that done?

00:02:17.660 This woman can victimize herself. 1.00

00:02:20.940 I mean, if there was a Victim Olympics competition, this woman would have strike gold. 1.00

00:02:25.140 Now, before the sweet tears, let's watch her summarize her life story in a few minutes.

00:02:30.380 Hey, it's Jenna.

00:02:31.940 Recently divorced and kind of figuring out this new way of life.

00:02:36.380 I was married for 23 years and with that person for three years prior.

00:02:40.040 So, for a total of 26 years of my life, I have been out of the game of dating, making friends, going out.

00:02:47.800 And see, she felt like she missed out.

00:02:49.920 Like that as a single woman in her 40s.

00:02:52.660 Yeah, I'm 47.

00:02:53.660 So, I've raised children.

00:02:55.600 My children are adult children now.

00:02:57.540 And it's kind of interesting because it's so lonely at this stage in life, life after divorce, especially with older children.

00:03:05.620 Because you make all your friends when they're younger, or at least I did.

00:03:09.960 I met my friends mostly through my kids' activities.

00:03:12.500 I was a stay-at-home mom and I took them to practice.

00:03:14.920 Now, she's lost her size from her friend group. 0.99

00:03:17.460 I went to school, all that stuff.

00:03:19.940 During my marriage, my weight went up and down.

00:03:24.200 My looks fluctuated, depended on health needs or what mental state I was in because of the abuse I was dealing with.

00:03:31.780 And also just abuse, right?

00:03:33.640 Children and being exhausted, literally doing everything.

00:03:36.940 So, as your children get older and as you go through changes in life like divorce or anything like that, your looks will tend to change.

00:03:47.580 Mine have obviously changed a little bit.

00:03:50.500 Actually, a lot.

00:03:51.460 I have an autoimmune disease, so I did not have control over my weight for many years.

00:03:56.220 She had a dog.

00:03:57.100 Didn't she say she couldn't afford anything?

00:03:58.520 And once they got my medications under control, and then I got out of my toxic environment.

00:04:02.800 And honestly, I find refuge in the gym.

00:04:05.420 I live in the gym.

00:04:06.900 I have always been an athlete.

00:04:08.380 I have always loved to work out.

00:04:09.740 So, this is not anything new.

00:04:11.160 It's nothing that's going to happen.

00:04:11.780 Gym chicks is sort of a red flag. 0.87

00:04:14.820 Sorry, guys.

00:04:15.600 Because it's not even because of the gym itself, but because it's like the more selfish behaviors women do, where it's like about themselves, the more selfish they tend to be. 1.00

00:04:26.780 So, I found that like a lot of times gym chicks kind of really self-focused in general. 1.00

00:04:32.660 Change in like six months.

00:04:34.640 And kind of hose the extreme ones.

00:04:37.140 I'm healed.

00:04:38.180 I will always be a gym rat.

00:04:39.440 But it's interesting because I found that, you know, with this new day and age, I've kind of gotten into TikToks and all that stuff.

00:04:48.040 And social media.

00:04:49.080 I'm a photographer.

00:04:49.980 Like, that's part of my job.

00:04:51.340 I'm a visual communications major back in the day.

00:04:54.480 Everything I do is visual.

00:04:55.820 And so, this was like...

00:04:57.060 And she's not really making money like that. 1.00

00:04:59.040 Not like she thought she'd be.

00:05:00.740 Most women don't have what it takes to run a successful business. 1.00

00:05:05.000 They don't.

00:05:05.660 Something I could grasp to, I could feel, I could see, touch, all that stuff.

00:05:09.520 I've said a million times how I don't connect online just through text and all that stuff.

00:05:14.560 So, it's interesting to me some things.

00:05:17.800 And I wanted to bring everybody's attention that I have recently come across and heard a ton.

00:05:23.920 I have had so many people message, comment.

00:05:27.200 I've even had people in my, like, personal life say, you look expensive or you're really pretty, so...

00:05:34.180 She does look expensive.

00:05:35.380 It's because of the nails, the...

00:05:37.200 All the...

00:05:37.500 It looks like she's at work done, uh, the fake hair.

00:05:40.500 Probably, you know, I don't understand why you would complain about that.

00:05:43.980 Like, like, pretty girls can't have problems or pretty girls can't feel sad about anything.

00:05:50.280 Lots of girls get this. 1.00

00:05:51.620 They just...

00:05:52.180 The guy just wants to get that girl's attention.

00:05:54.260 Someone they've seen on social media for whatever reason.

00:05:56.400 She's a girl in their town they know. 0.97

00:05:59.360 They...

00:05:59.720 She has the looks. 0.93

00:06:00.520 I think this is projecting.

00:06:02.060 Most men don't really think that much about this stuff.

00:06:05.580 I...

00:06:05.920 There's a study done of, like, men when they, like, turn their head and look at a girl on

00:06:09.500 the street.

00:06:09.980 They don't really, like, think too much about it after.

00:06:12.780 Women are the ones that build up these, like, fantasies about men. 1.00

00:06:16.200 That have this whole story...

00:06:17.420 Like, I've heard of a chick that did a whole show about her ex. 1.00

00:06:20.380 Like, a TV show.

00:06:21.560 And this guy didn't even know that she thought they were dating.

00:06:24.140 Like, I met this girl...

00:06:25.840 Oh my gosh, she was crazy. 0.81

00:06:27.300 But, like, you don't really hear that with guys as much.

00:06:31.400 You know, whatever the reason is.

00:06:33.060 But they really don't want anything with that girl.

00:06:35.640 They just want the ego boost.

00:06:37.600 The attention for that moment and all that stuff.

00:06:40.520 And then they move on.

00:06:42.240 And so I've had this happen several times.

00:06:44.020 And I've said to my girlfriends in close confidence.

00:06:46.880 And I'm like, I don't understand.

00:06:48.120 Like, I don't get it.

00:06:49.100 What am I doing wrong?

00:06:50.000 And they're like, you're not doing anything.

00:06:51.560 They knew immediately...

00:06:52.700 Sorry, guys.

00:06:53.780 I was up early.

00:06:55.060 You're doing something wrong.

00:06:56.680 And this is the problem.

00:06:57.700 This is why I always ask women, like, why do you lie? 1.00

00:07:00.600 Why can't we just be honest?

00:07:02.020 That you are out of their league.

00:07:03.700 They just wanted you to be the toy.

00:07:05.260 They wanted to, you know, get you and play with this shiny toy that they thought was so pretty.

00:07:11.040 Or they thought had all these attributes that they wanted.

00:07:13.760 They just don't see you as wife material. 1.00

00:07:16.060 And they don't typically see 47-year-old single mothers that left their marriage of 23 years as a risk they're really trying to take.

00:07:24.520 I mean, the way guys are going to see it is you left a marriage of 23 years.

00:07:28.560 What the hell shot in hell do I have of keeping you?

00:07:31.460 If you were married with children to a man and he couldn't.

00:07:34.860 But they knew they couldn't keep you because they couldn't, you know, you're out of their league.

00:07:38.360 No, ma'am.

00:07:39.260 No, not out of their league.

00:07:40.740 Pumped and dumped by Chad.

00:07:42.600 You can try to make yourself feel better by saying that these men were out of your league.

00:07:46.640 But the truth of the matter is that you played yourself by leaving your husband thinking that you could do better.

00:07:51.740 Look where you are now.

00:07:53.180 This past year has been the hardest of my life.

00:07:54.880 And this next season of the holiday season, just triggered myself.

00:07:58.540 It's going to be really, really hard.

00:08:00.080 I can be on the ground right now.

00:08:01.880 And I bet the husband's doing better.

00:08:03.420 I bet she was a headache. 1.00

00:08:04.560 I'm going to cry because I wanted to kill myself last year.

00:08:07.640 I was in parental alienation through a separation in South Carolina separation law that my ex used everything he could to hurt me.

00:08:15.180 And the haughty season was the epitome of hell because I was a stay-at-home mom and I was the magic of every holiday.

00:08:23.260 You mean that you...

00:08:24.760 Okay, didn't you just say she did everything?

00:08:27.260 Pay for anything.

00:08:28.240 You didn't know how good she had it. 1.00

00:08:29.660 Because I was a stay-at-home mom and I was the magic of every holiday.

00:08:33.280 You mean that you had what most women dream to have.

00:08:36.420 You mean that you were a stay-at-home mom whom husband was working his ass off so that you can live a blissful life without having to work. 0.95

00:08:43.700 And you threw all of that away for some fantasy.

00:08:46.400 Guys, this woman had it so good, but she blew it just because she thought that she was missing onto some magical stuff out there that might make her happy. 1.00

00:08:54.180 Check it out.

00:08:54.620 I don't know.

00:08:55.200 I'm in a different stage today.

00:08:56.760 Honestly, I literally have been having a great week.

00:09:01.460 Amazing week.

00:09:02.200 And then all of a sudden today, my emotions...

00:09:04.820 I had the craziest thoughts and I wonder, does anybody else feel this way?

00:09:07.300 Like, I feel like I'm in mourning of the life I thought that I was going to have.

00:09:12.020 And I'm kind of pissed at myself.

00:09:13.660 I stayed in a marriage for 23 years and built up a family and my ex's career and...

00:09:21.200 I see there.

00:09:21.820 That's narcissism.

00:09:23.720 When they say, I built him up, that means they like to take credit for everything.

00:09:27.760 And we literally just got to where it was supposed to be everything we dreamed of.

00:09:35.220 Like, owned a company, making, you know, almost a million dollars.

00:09:38.700 And that was my breaking point.

00:09:40.580 And I left it all.

00:09:42.520 Like, left it all.

00:09:43.880 And I'm not a person that is about money.

00:09:47.000 I've kind of been in mourning of the, like, oh my gosh.

00:09:49.540 Like, I gave it all up.

00:09:51.360 Everything was around my family.

00:09:58.940 So when I chose to leave, I gave it all up.

00:10:03.280 Like, all up.

00:10:04.360 I had no clue that the worst was yet to come.

00:10:06.660 Who in the comments think that she built up that business? 0.99

00:10:10.000 One year of separation.

00:10:10.980 And so it's weird because I find that I just thought today for a split second.

00:10:16.620 And I'm like, what the hell's wrong with you?

00:10:18.640 Like, what the fuck is wrong with you?

00:10:20.460 I thought, I should have just stayed.

00:10:23.880 I should have stayed.

00:10:25.440 It wasn't that bad.

00:10:26.640 Like, you made it 23 years.

00:10:28.360 You made it 26 years total.

00:10:29.720 Your kids are, like, college.

00:10:31.500 And one's almost out of high school.

00:10:33.580 Like, you made it.

00:10:35.080 You was being selfish.

00:10:37.300 Women watch a couple TikToks. 0.84

00:10:39.000 They think the grass is greener on the other side.

00:10:41.000 And they go.

00:10:42.060 That's what happened.

00:10:43.040 You made it.

00:10:43.400 Like, it didn't matter at this point.

00:10:46.360 They can do their own separate life and all that.

00:10:48.260 You made it to the point where you guys were making so much money.

00:10:51.240 And you had big houses.

00:10:52.280 And you could do whatever you want.

00:10:53.380 And you can relax.

00:10:54.780 And I literally just called my friend.

00:10:56.220 I was, like, freaking out.

00:10:57.100 Because, like, I'm my biggest.

00:10:58.880 I'm the biggest person that keeps me back.

00:11:00.580 Like, I'm terrified.

00:11:01.880 I don't have 401K.

00:11:03.440 My council did not have my back.

00:11:05.480 I was so traumatized when I got out.

00:11:07.700 And then terrorized for the next year that I couldn't even think straight to help the people that wanted to help me.

00:11:13.640 And the people I entrusted to help me didn't help me.

00:11:16.820 And there's just timelines that you can't stop.

00:11:19.260 And so, it is what it is.

00:11:21.120 And, you know, I'm 47 years old.

00:11:23.060 It's not like I'm 25.

00:11:24.240 I'm healthy, kind of.

00:11:25.760 I have an autoimmune disease, which means it's life-threatening for the rest of my life.

00:11:29.300 What is it with all these chicks having autoimmune disease? 0.94

00:11:31.700 What causes that?

00:11:32.760 They both have it.

00:11:34.540 Things can change.

00:11:35.520 But it's not like I'm an invalid and can't do anything for myself.

00:11:38.560 But it is terrifying.

00:11:39.600 Like, I could have stayed.

00:11:41.400 I'm so mad that I...

00:11:42.420 You know, I do appreciate that she's being honest.

00:11:44.760 Because a lot of women won't admit that they made a mistake. 1.00

00:11:47.440 What is up with these filters, guys?

00:11:49.300 What is up with these filters?

00:11:50.920 This way, I could have stayed.

00:11:52.360 My life would have been so much easier.

00:11:54.780 I like how she doesn't miss him.

00:11:56.820 He misses the lifestyle he provided.

00:11:58.640 This is what I meant for your marriage, guys.

00:12:00.560 I could have just gone and done whatever I wanted.

00:12:02.820 Kind of.

00:12:03.340 I mean, I say that.

00:12:04.300 And then I think as I say that, I'm like, but you couldn't.

00:12:07.520 It's like so weird that my brain thinks that way.

00:12:10.140 And I called my girlfriend and I told her...

00:12:11.800 Well, you want all the privileges of being under a man's authority. 1.00

00:12:15.720 But like that comes with a lack of freedom.

00:12:18.220 I probably should have just stayed.

00:12:19.700 I should have just stayed.

00:12:20.960 It wasn't that bad.

00:12:21.860 And she just started... 0.91

00:12:22.940 She's like, Jenna, what are you talking about?

00:12:24.600 Like, literally.

00:12:25.660 And then I just keep thinking.

00:12:26.780 I'm like, but I had a huge house.

00:12:29.100 All my bills were paid for.

00:12:30.440 And I never had to think how they were going to get paid.

00:12:33.040 My grass was cut.

00:12:34.180 Well, not the last year of separation.

00:12:36.040 But you know what I mean?

00:12:37.020 All the basic things that keep the image up.

00:12:39.540 And I gave up my entire image that I was trained to have for my family for 23 years.

00:12:45.600 Like, I was...

00:12:46.360 I like how she doesn't even say she misses her kids.

00:12:49.280 Do you know what I mean?

00:12:50.400 I'm like, kids, you miss the husband.

00:12:52.420 She's like, I miss the lawn being mowed.

00:12:54.600 I miss the image.

00:12:56.800 I miss my ch...

00:12:57.680 All right.

00:13:00.760 I'm a mom and I made the image of we were the perfect family.

00:13:05.160 I have beautiful children.

00:13:06.480 They were dressed right.

00:13:07.460 They, you know, did top sports like cheer and football and went to all that stuff.

00:13:11.980 And I was, you know, the cheer mom and, you know, did all that stuff and then did photography

00:13:16.580 on the side just to make money, to make ends meet while he built his career up.

00:13:20.180 And long enough to just give it all up.

00:13:22.360 But when it was like right there.

00:13:24.500 And I'm so mad at myself because I'm not this way.

00:13:27.900 I don't think this way.

00:13:28.960 But it is hard to be a single female when you're 47, when your kids are out.

00:13:34.280 It's not like I have little kids.

00:13:35.860 I always say, if I have little kids, this would be not even a question because that

00:13:40.260 instinct comes in.

00:13:41.380 I have to, my kids, you know, I got little kids.

00:13:43.900 I got to get them up for school.

00:13:44.960 I got to get them to here.

00:13:45.940 I got to get them there.

00:13:46.780 I got to go to work.

00:13:47.480 I got to do that.

00:13:48.200 I don't have that.

00:13:49.180 I'm literally at home.

00:13:50.580 The worst time of my day is after the gym at night when the house was quiet and silent.

00:13:56.360 And I just am in my thoughts.

00:13:58.000 And it's so hard.

00:14:00.100 Like I'm my own boss.

00:14:01.400 If I don't go to work, if I get sick, nothing happens.

00:14:04.620 And my general photography would just crumble.

00:14:08.520 And I love what I do.

00:14:09.580 I have a passion for it.

00:14:10.600 I love it.

00:14:11.180 But I'm in my head.

00:14:12.400 Like I'm literally in my head.

00:14:14.280 And I'm booking shoots and I'm doing amazing.

00:14:16.340 I'm so excited.

00:14:17.060 But every time I think future and long run, I freak out.

00:14:20.460 A lot of women feel like this because they will be on benefit. 1.00

00:14:23.980 This is the future, guys.

00:14:25.540 A lot of women will be in roommates. 1.00

00:14:26.980 You're going to see older women living with each other because they did not get married 1.00

00:14:30.980 or they left their husband.

00:14:32.060 The future was right there.

00:14:33.100 Like it was solidified.

00:14:34.240 Like I was comfortable for the rest of my life.

00:14:37.180 Maybe not mentally in my relationship, but financially I was fine.

00:14:42.160 And I gave it all up to be happy.

00:14:44.740 Now she sees how stupid it was.

00:14:47.000 Maybe I should have stayed.

00:14:48.440 It was like stable in every other area.

00:14:50.840 But that like, is my mental health really that important?

00:14:54.320 And then my...

00:14:55.060 Thank you.

00:14:56.380 I'm glad she said this.

00:14:58.020 Why do we think our happiness and our mental health is first?

00:15:01.040 That's last.

00:15:01.680 Your family is supposed to come first because typically doing what you're supposed to do,

00:15:06.260 living out your duty and responsibility to your family will lead to happiness in the

00:15:10.240 long term.

00:15:10.880 I mean, they're like, yes.

00:15:12.020 Like, yes.

00:15:12.600 Like you're just in that crazy in-between stage.

00:15:15.620 And I'm trying to work through it.

00:15:17.480 I'm trying to work through the process.

00:15:18.940 But it's terrifying.

00:15:20.020 It's terrifying to start over at 47.

00:15:21.960 But it's hard to know you gave away.

00:15:24.280 My ex would probably never make less than a million dollars every year starting over.

00:15:28.340 Wow.

00:15:28.780 Idiot.

00:15:29.380 At 47, you thought the grass would be greener.

00:15:32.720 She was a housewife. 1.00

00:15:34.160 Married to a millionaire.

00:15:35.600 A multi-paj... 0.96

00:15:36.400 I don't know what he makes.

00:15:37.320 But like...

00:15:37.820 And she thought she built up the business. 0.88

00:15:40.160 Basically as if I'm a 20-year-old again.

00:15:42.160 And it just doesn't seem fair.

00:15:43.620 And listen to her talk.

00:15:45.080 You don't hear a mature woman. 1.00

00:15:47.300 You hear...

00:15:47.740 This is why I say women don't age mentally. 1.00

00:15:49.700 They're like 16 for life.

00:15:51.160 I think that it was fair for you to leave your husband of 23 years so that you can go be happy.

00:15:56.860 Or whatever that means.

00:15:58.520 Your husband sucked it up and moved on.

00:16:00.660 And now he is doing better than ever before.

00:16:03.820 So you need to woman up and take responsibility of your actions.

00:16:07.700 Now it's time for some sweet tears and more regrets to conclude today's story.

00:16:13.560 Trying to survive this year.

00:16:15.820 I'm gonna be honest.

00:16:16.620 The random things that trigger me are the craziest things.

00:16:20.400 I'm sitting in my car.

00:16:21.500 Literally sitting in my car trying to pull myself together.

00:16:24.700 Because I did what any mom does.

00:16:27.180 And I pulled an emergency drive to my daughter because she needed something.

00:16:31.660 And drove an hour because she's at college to drop something.

00:16:35.060 Can you imagine if this was your mom?

00:16:38.960 Can you imagine the family group chat?

00:16:41.060 They're like, mom posted a TikTok again.

00:16:43.940 Mom, are you alright?

00:16:45.200 And was just so thankful that I could do it for her and fit her in my schedule.

00:16:49.860 And the littlest thing she said just triggered me.

00:16:52.340 And this is the second time in a week that my child has triggered me without even meaning to.

00:16:56.680 So we're getting ready to leave.

00:16:58.980 And she's like, well, I'll be home.

00:17:00.840 Because I'm gonna be at the Clemson-Notre Dame game.

00:17:04.400 Because dad's gonna take us all.

00:17:06.120 You think that's nothing, right?

00:17:07.280 Like nothing, right?

00:17:08.360 And it instantly, like she instantly saw a switch in me.

00:17:11.580 And she's like, what's wrong?

00:17:12.380 And I'm like, nothing.

00:17:13.500 Because yeah, jealousy.

00:17:14.860 Control your emotions, Chica. 1.00

00:17:16.460 That's what you do with your mature.

00:17:18.020 Smile through it.

00:17:19.000 And you don't let your daughter deal with your trauma and your animosity and jealousy.

00:17:23.860 That's all, that's jealousy.

00:17:25.200 I don't talk about that stuff.

00:17:26.860 I don't want her to worry.

00:17:28.400 She's like, mom, what's wrong?

00:17:29.180 I was like, nothing.

00:17:29.960 And I had to keep it together.

00:17:31.480 Because last week, she said randomly, I was like, what are we gonna do for Thanksgiving?

00:17:35.880 This is my year to have Thanksgiving with you guys.

00:17:38.540 What do you guys want to do?

00:17:39.280 You want to volunteer?

00:17:40.360 Do you want me to just cook at home?

00:17:41.860 Do you want to go out to eat?

00:17:43.700 Like I'm literally like begging for them to give me any feedback.

00:17:46.560 Because last year, my ex used every single holiday, even if it was my holiday, to be with my kids.

00:17:52.460 To isolate me, manipulate them, to torment me.

00:17:56.340 And everything he could with the South Carolina one year of separation law.

00:18:00.780 And I doubt it.

00:18:02.040 There's more to the story.

00:18:03.400 Lawyer did nothing to help me. 0.85

00:18:04.820 And the laws did nothing to help me.

00:18:07.460 And my children were used.

00:18:08.460 I doubt it.

00:18:09.080 It's pretty easy in most states to get custody as a woman. 1.00

00:18:12.260 She's probably batshit crazy. 1.00

00:18:13.940 Weapons.

00:18:14.680 So last week, she says, oh, well, dad said for Christmas, we're gonna go to Gatlinburg and be there for the holidays and do Dollywood.

00:18:23.720 That man never once, ever went to Gatlinburg or Dollywood, ever in his entire life, before he met me.

00:18:33.260 That was where my family always went.

00:18:35.140 That is, I'm from Tennessee.

00:18:36.280 Yeah, you showed him a cool area.

00:18:37.980 Now he's going back.

00:18:39.400 That's something we always did.

00:18:40.820 It was a bonding thing.

00:18:42.100 And now, that's what he's trying to do.

00:18:44.560 It's like he's taken every single tradition I've ever done and now turned it into his.

00:18:50.540 I mean, if you went to the same place for 20 years, I think he probably just thinks it's easier.

00:18:55.740 Everything I've ever done.

00:18:57.900 And the worst part and the thing that triggers me is that I was screwed.

00:19:02.180 Like, I'm not even gonna lie.

00:19:03.100 There's no way to lie about it.

00:19:04.360 Like, I literally was screwed.

00:19:05.960 Now I find myself triggered because during the hardest time of my year last year, of me literally trying to stay alive, me dealing with all the craziness of my ex, the lying, the alienation, him calling me a whore, him having my children call me a whore.

00:19:22.520 Well, why did they call you a whore? 1.00

00:19:24.560 Not because I did anything bad, because I wore spaghetti straps and all that.

00:19:28.600 What's his side of that story?

00:19:30.320 Only way.

00:19:31.080 Sounds like there's something missing.

00:19:32.600 What do you think the other side is?

00:19:34.020 Yeah, she cheated. 1.00

00:19:35.000 That's what I think.

00:19:35.660 The only way that he could use my children against me was...

00:19:40.180 I bet you the adult kids just don't like her. 1.00

00:19:42.460 I bet you she's been crazy for years. 0.98

00:19:44.360 I was on social media.

00:19:46.260 And some of my children against me was to say I was on social media.

00:19:49.740 Yeah, I can't imagine this is, like, great for the kids.

00:19:52.820 I'm just, like...

00:19:53.980 King, can you imagine this?

00:19:55.640 You're just scrolling on TikTok and you see your mom.

00:19:58.660 Yeah, I know.

00:20:01.520 I'm not even helping myself because my brain is so stressed.

00:20:04.340 I'm just trying to, like, don't, don't keep doing...

00:20:07.700 How old is she mentally, do you think?

00:20:09.200 12?

00:20:09.500 I gave her 16.

00:20:11.400 I keep telling myself, don't 12.

00:20:12.480 You think...

00:20:12.940 Oh, okay.

00:20:13.520 So 12.

00:20:14.560 Just survive right now.

00:20:15.480 Just get through it.

00:20:16.040 Just get through the holidays.

00:20:16.980 But there's a timeline.

00:20:17.900 And if I don't do stuff by February 8th, I can never fix the situation.

00:20:23.260 But if I don't survive now, I'm literally going to be a complete mess mentally.

00:20:29.600 So I'm trying...

00:20:30.180 Like, this is, like, crazy medium.

00:20:32.320 And I'm trying to be happy and show my kids that, like, life can move on.

00:20:37.380 But the triggers, the random fucking triggers that have me sitting in a quick trip parking lot trying not to cry. 0.75

00:20:42.820 Well, I...

00:20:43.820 Has so much money.

00:20:45.280 He makes more than $18,000 a month easily.

00:20:48.020 Or at least he did.

00:20:49.140 He made almost a million...

00:20:50.040 His pocket watch.

00:20:50.980 I bet she thought she could get a good payout and it didn't work out.

00:20:55.540 The year before we divorced.

00:20:57.220 But what does it matter if you're not with him?

00:20:59.180 You're not entitled to it.

00:21:00.320 You wanted to be by yourself.

00:21:01.520 So be by yourself.

00:21:02.560 You're not entitled to his money.

00:21:04.460 And I'm really tired of housewives saying they deserve the guy's money. 1.00

00:21:08.640 Because, I mean, housewives... 1.00

00:21:10.060 A housewife is, like, minimum wage work. 1.00

00:21:12.040 Sorry, guys.

00:21:13.140 Sorry.

00:21:13.480 Don't shoot the message.

00:21:14.520 You're watching kids.

00:21:15.560 15 bucks an hour.

00:21:17.680 Cleaning the house.

00:21:18.800 Like, 15 bucks an hour.

00:21:20.380 It's really not a lot of money.

00:21:22.780 It's really not.

00:21:24.080 So if your skills were so valuable, then, I mean, go...

00:21:28.020 I mean, you could be a housekeeper with those skills. 1.00

00:21:30.020 But, again, a lot of housewives have done nothing for 20 years. 1.00

00:21:33.220 That's why I say the modern housewife wants to be pampered. 1.00

00:21:35.720 She doesn't want to serve. 1.00

00:21:36.880 And that's the problem.

00:21:38.000 As I bet you she got out of this relationship.

00:21:40.380 She doesn't realize how much of a useless parasite she is. 1.00

00:21:43.440 No offense, chick, if you see this. 1.00

00:21:45.440 Because, you know, most women are just doing nothing for their days. 1.00

00:21:50.840 He has all the money in his fingertips to do whatever he wants.

00:21:53.540 Buy my children.

00:21:54.180 Take them on trips.

00:21:54.920 He earned it.

00:21:55.980 And you would have been a part of it if you did.

00:21:58.120 He's probably so happy to be divorced.

00:22:00.080 I swear, some guys, it's like, when the woman leaves, they're like, thank God.

00:22:04.400 Because they're better people than us, usually.

00:22:06.700 So, they'll do the right thing, even if they don't want to.

00:22:09.560 But then the women leave. 0.91

00:22:11.160 And the men are like, praise Jesus.

00:22:13.320 That woman was crazy. 1.00

00:22:14.520 Praise Jesus.

00:22:15.800 They're like, thanking God.

00:22:17.760 Vacations.

00:22:18.540 Why I literally have the bare minimum to pay my bills?

00:22:21.760 On top of trying to restart a career.

00:22:24.060 Because it was a hobby.

00:22:25.300 Because I was a state.

00:22:27.440 I know.

00:22:28.020 I said the same thing.

00:22:29.340 King is saying, guys, that she has her nails and her hair done.

00:22:31.900 Yeah.

00:22:32.500 And also, it looks like she's had work done.

00:22:35.100 It looks like she's got filler, Botox. 0.58

00:22:37.280 And just like he said, I wasn't part of the equation.

00:22:39.720 I was not part of the equation in the entire marriage, this man told me.

00:22:42.420 My role in life was to be the mother of his children and to do...

00:22:48.060 Lady, I've built this YouTube career in like two, three years.

00:22:51.340 If you really want to get skilled at something, you can.

00:22:53.780 You could really focus on one thing and get really good at it in a couple of years.

00:22:57.800 You absolutely can.

00:22:59.200 Luckily, nowadays, you can even freelance.

00:23:01.820 You could learn to be a video editor.

00:23:03.700 You like the social media stuff, obviously.

00:23:06.700 You can freelance and you can figure out a way to do it.

00:23:10.260 That way, nobody can turn you down for being too old.

00:23:13.040 Anything that was needed for the family, why he built his career.

00:23:15.980 I was not part of the equation.

00:23:17.760 So how was that marriage ever supposed to survive?

00:23:19.840 When I was fully 100% in...

00:23:22.620 How can you be 100% in if you left?

00:23:24.720 Trying to make a marriage, a life, a family, and this man never include me in the equation.

00:23:30.380 Because you're supposed to stay.

00:23:31.860 I feel like they should pay me for this.

00:23:33.820 I'm giving them all the right answers.

00:23:35.420 Then when it was done and I got loose and I tried to survive, that man had been plotting

00:23:40.460 for over a year on how to make my life hell because he had all the money, all the control.

00:23:46.660 And now I sit here with the triggers.

00:23:48.200 I bet you she was plotting.

00:23:49.280 Fucking trigger because he's going to the Clemson Notre Dame game with my kids.

00:23:53.720 I can't just randomly afford that.

00:23:55.300 Probably with a hotter chick. 1.00

00:23:56.540 Probably a hotter chick on his arm. 1.00

00:23:57.740 Sorry.

00:23:58.960 I can't even get them all in the same room at the same time.

00:24:01.540 So I sit here and I'm gonna get...

00:24:03.220 Isn't it the consequences of her own act?

00:24:05.460 Trigger.

00:24:06.300 I'm sucking a buttercup and I move on.

00:24:09.000 But it's not fair.

00:24:10.220 Like it's not fair.

00:24:11.420 I'm pissed.

00:24:12.040 He said, how is she crying and her face isn't moving?

00:24:14.340 I don't know how it's not fair to not get money you're not entitled to.

00:24:17.900 I hate entitlement.

00:24:19.260 I hate entitlements.

00:24:20.260 You're not entitled to anybody's money.

00:24:22.060 Oh, no, no.

00:24:22.800 It's not fair.

00:24:23.620 And I don't understand how...

00:24:26.580 Now you can go be happy.

00:24:27.980 Now you can go pursue your career.

00:24:30.000 Now you can be a free and empowered...

00:24:32.040 And you see how they say like, let's navigate through this new journey, this new stage.

00:24:36.020 It's like they want to be the set.

00:24:37.140 Like they want to be a reality show.

00:24:38.740 Oh my God.

00:24:39.360 I want to be a reality show.

00:24:40.340 They want to be the next Kim K. 0.95

00:24:41.580 Forced you to get a divorce.

00:24:42.780 Like a dating app profile.

00:24:44.560 I love to dress cute but can get dirty no problem.

00:24:47.380 I love to work out.

00:24:48.660 Hiking, whitewater rafting, pool time.

00:24:51.580 Help each other through this crazy life and dating.

00:24:54.440 You...

00:24:54.740 Oh, no.

00:24:55.180 She's talking about dating?

00:24:56.460 Your kids.

00:24:57.240 Out of the marriage and you got it.

00:24:58.920 There is nothing in life that is worth having that doesn't require some kind...

00:25:02.580 Save me from red flags and dating.

00:25:04.720 That's you.

00:25:05.460 I mean, how can I save you from yourself?

00:25:07.300 Help me dress cute but not slutty.

00:25:09.740 Just have...

00:25:10.380 Oh, no.

00:25:11.300 I mean, like some of these women, TikTok replaces their family. 1.00

00:25:14.220 ...efforts and sacrifices.

00:25:16.400 Life is all about trade-offs and choices.

00:25:18.960 Once you make a decision, you're going to have to honor and live by it.

00:25:22.440 That's it for today's video.

00:25:24.040 But before...

00:25:24.500 Yeah, life is choices and trade-offs, right?

00:25:26.880 Life is choices and trade-offs.

00:25:28.620 And these women want to make the choice and don't want to deal with the trade-off. 1.00

00:25:32.640 I'm happy she's being honest about how much her life sucks.

00:25:35.560 Hopefully, it'll deter some other women on TikTok that might just get a funny little idea. 1.00

00:25:40.160 But guys, let me know what you think in the comments.

00:25:43.320 Like the video on your way out.

00:25:45.060 Subscribe to the channel.

00:25:46.180 I'll talk to you next time.

JustPearlyThings - December 03, 2023

Woman DESTROYS 23-Year Marriage And INSTANTLY REGRETS It

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