Woman DESTROYS 23-Year Marriage And INSTANTLY REGRETS It
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Summary
Jenna is a 47-year-old woman who decided to leave her 23-year marriage in order to find her happiness. And then, she had the nerve to get mad and jealous at her ex-husband because he is doing much better financially after the divorce.
Transcript
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But I had a huge house and all my bills were paid for and I never had to think how they were going to get paid.
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My grass was cut, well, not the last year of separation.
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But you know what I mean? All the basic things that keep the image up.
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And I gave up my entire image that I was trained to have for my family for 23 years.
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I like how she doesn't even say she misses her kids.
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Do you know what I mean? I'm like, kids, you missed the hospital.
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She's like, I missed the lawn being moaned. I missed the image. I missed my chit.
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Hurley thinks YouTube channel and welcome to my reaction series.
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Before I start, don't forget, subscribe to the channel, ring that notification bell, like the video on your way in.
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Today, I'm going to be reacting to a woman who destroyed 23 years of marriage and instantly regret it.
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I'm going to be happy and trying not to cry. Why?
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Okay, hear that language? Me. I want to be happy.
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Because my ex has so much money. He makes more than $18,000 a month easily.
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And now I sit here with the triggers because he's going to the Clemson Notre Dame game with my kids.
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I can't just randomly afford that. Hell, I can't even get them all in the same room at the same time.
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So, I sit here and I'm going to get through this trigger. I'm sucking a buttercup and I move on.
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But it's not fair. Like, it's not fair. I'm pissed.
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Grass isn't always greener on the other side. It's not.
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Today, we are going to review this 47-year-old woman who decided to leave her 23-year-old stable marriage in order to find her happiness.
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And then, she had the nerve to get mad and jealous at her ex-husband because he is doing much better financially after the divorce.
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Yeah, and it's funny because she is talking about what she can't afford.
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So, one, you have to spend the time to go get them done.
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So, how do you not have money but you have all of that done?
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I mean, if there was a Victim Olympics competition, this woman would have strike gold.
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Now, before the sweet tears, let's watch her summarize her life story in a few minutes.
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Recently divorced and kind of figuring out this new way of life.
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I was married for 23 years and with that person for three years prior.
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So, for a total of 26 years of my life, I have been out of the game of dating, making friends, going out.
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And it's kind of interesting because it's so lonely at this stage in life, life after divorce, especially with older children.
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Because you make all your friends when they're younger, or at least I did.
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I met my friends mostly through my kids' activities.
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I was a stay-at-home mom and I took them to practice.
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Now, she's lost her size from her friend group.
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During my marriage, my weight went up and down.
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My looks fluctuated, depended on health needs or what mental state I was in because of the abuse I was dealing with.
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Children and being exhausted, literally doing everything.
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So, as your children get older and as you go through changes in life like divorce or anything like that, your looks will tend to change.
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I have an autoimmune disease, so I did not have control over my weight for many years.
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And once they got my medications under control, and then I got out of my toxic environment.
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Because it's not even because of the gym itself, but because it's like the more selfish behaviors women do, where it's like about themselves, the more selfish they tend to be.
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So, I found that like a lot of times gym chicks kind of really self-focused in general.
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But it's interesting because I found that, you know, with this new day and age, I've kind of gotten into TikToks and all that stuff.
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I'm a visual communications major back in the day.
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Most women don't have what it takes to run a successful business.
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Something I could grasp to, I could feel, I could see, touch, all that stuff.
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I've said a million times how I don't connect online just through text and all that stuff.
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And I wanted to bring everybody's attention that I have recently come across and heard a ton.
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I've even had people in my, like, personal life say, you look expensive or you're really pretty, so...
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It looks like she's at work done, uh, the fake hair.
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Probably, you know, I don't understand why you would complain about that.
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Like, like, pretty girls can't have problems or pretty girls can't feel sad about anything.
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The guy just wants to get that girl's attention.
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Someone they've seen on social media for whatever reason.
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Most men don't really think that much about this stuff.
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There's a study done of, like, men when they, like, turn their head and look at a girl on
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They don't really, like, think too much about it after.
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Women are the ones that build up these, like, fantasies about men.
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Like, I've heard of a chick that did a whole show about her ex.
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And this guy didn't even know that she thought they were dating.
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But, like, you don't really hear that with guys as much.
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But they really don't want anything with that girl.
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The attention for that moment and all that stuff.
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And I've said to my girlfriends in close confidence.
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This is why I always ask women, like, why do you lie?
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They wanted to, you know, get you and play with this shiny toy that they thought was so pretty.
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Or they thought had all these attributes that they wanted.
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And they don't typically see 47-year-old single mothers that left their marriage of 23 years as a risk they're really trying to take.
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I mean, the way guys are going to see it is you left a marriage of 23 years.
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What the hell shot in hell do I have of keeping you?
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If you were married with children to a man and he couldn't.
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But they knew they couldn't keep you because they couldn't, you know, you're out of their league.
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You can try to make yourself feel better by saying that these men were out of your league.
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But the truth of the matter is that you played yourself by leaving your husband thinking that you could do better.
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This past year has been the hardest of my life.
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And this next season of the holiday season, just triggered myself.
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I'm going to cry because I wanted to kill myself last year.
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I was in parental alienation through a separation in South Carolina separation law that my ex used everything he could to hurt me.
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And the haughty season was the epitome of hell because I was a stay-at-home mom and I was the magic of every holiday.
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Because I was a stay-at-home mom and I was the magic of every holiday.
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You mean that you had what most women dream to have.
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You mean that you were a stay-at-home mom whom husband was working his ass off so that you can live a blissful life without having to work.
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And you threw all of that away for some fantasy.
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Guys, this woman had it so good, but she blew it just because she thought that she was missing onto some magical stuff out there that might make her happy.
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Honestly, I literally have been having a great week.
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I had the craziest thoughts and I wonder, does anybody else feel this way?
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Like, I feel like I'm in mourning of the life I thought that I was going to have.
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I stayed in a marriage for 23 years and built up a family and my ex's career and...
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When they say, I built him up, that means they like to take credit for everything.
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And we literally just got to where it was supposed to be everything we dreamed of.
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Like, owned a company, making, you know, almost a million dollars.
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I've kind of been in mourning of the, like, oh my gosh.
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Who in the comments think that she built up that business?
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And so it's weird because I find that I just thought today for a split second.
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They think the grass is greener on the other side.
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They can do their own separate life and all that.
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You made it to the point where you guys were making so much money.
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And then terrorized for the next year that I couldn't even think straight to help the people that wanted to help me.
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And the people I entrusted to help me didn't help me.
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And there's just timelines that you can't stop.
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I have an autoimmune disease, which means it's life-threatening for the rest of my life.
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What is it with all these chicks having autoimmune disease?
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But it's not like I'm an invalid and can't do anything for myself.
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You know, I do appreciate that she's being honest.
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Because a lot of women won't admit that they made a mistake.
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I could have just gone and done whatever I wanted.
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And then I think as I say that, I'm like, but you couldn't.
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It's like so weird that my brain thinks that way.
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Well, you want all the privileges of being under a man's authority.
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And I never had to think how they were going to get paid.
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And I gave up my entire image that I was trained to have for my family for 23 years.
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I like how she doesn't even say she misses her kids.
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I'm a mom and I made the image of we were the perfect family.
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They, you know, did top sports like cheer and football and went to all that stuff.
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And I was, you know, the cheer mom and, you know, did all that stuff and then did photography
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on the side just to make money, to make ends meet while he built his career up.
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And I'm so mad at myself because I'm not this way.
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But it is hard to be a single female when you're 47, when your kids are out.
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I always say, if I have little kids, this would be not even a question because that
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I have to, my kids, you know, I got little kids.
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The worst time of my day is after the gym at night when the house was quiet and silent.
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If I don't go to work, if I get sick, nothing happens.
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But every time I think future and long run, I freak out.
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A lot of women feel like this because they will be on benefit.
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You're going to see older women living with each other because they did not get married
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Like I was comfortable for the rest of my life.
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Maybe not mentally in my relationship, but financially I was fine.
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But that like, is my mental health really that important?
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Why do we think our happiness and our mental health is first?
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Your family is supposed to come first because typically doing what you're supposed to do,
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living out your duty and responsibility to your family will lead to happiness in the
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Like you're just in that crazy in-between stage.
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My ex would probably never make less than a million dollars every year starting over.
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I think that it was fair for you to leave your husband of 23 years so that you can go be happy.
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So you need to woman up and take responsibility of your actions.
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Now it's time for some sweet tears and more regrets to conclude today's story.
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The random things that trigger me are the craziest things.
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Literally sitting in my car trying to pull myself together.
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And I pulled an emergency drive to my daughter because she needed something.
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And drove an hour because she's at college to drop something.
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And was just so thankful that I could do it for her and fit her in my schedule.
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And the littlest thing she said just triggered me.
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And this is the second time in a week that my child has triggered me without even meaning to.
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Because I'm gonna be at the Clemson-Notre Dame game.
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And it instantly, like she instantly saw a switch in me.
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And you don't let your daughter deal with your trauma and your animosity and jealousy.
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Because last week, she said randomly, I was like, what are we gonna do for Thanksgiving?
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This is my year to have Thanksgiving with you guys.
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Like I'm literally like begging for them to give me any feedback.
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Because last year, my ex used every single holiday, even if it was my holiday, to be with my kids.
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And everything he could with the South Carolina one year of separation law.
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It's pretty easy in most states to get custody as a woman.
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So last week, she says, oh, well, dad said for Christmas, we're gonna go to Gatlinburg and be there for the holidays and do Dollywood.
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That man never once, ever went to Gatlinburg or Dollywood, ever in his entire life, before he met me.
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It's like he's taken every single tradition I've ever done and now turned it into his.
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I mean, if you went to the same place for 20 years, I think he probably just thinks it's easier.
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And the worst part and the thing that triggers me is that I was screwed.
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Now I find myself triggered because during the hardest time of my year last year, of me literally trying to stay alive, me dealing with all the craziness of my ex, the lying, the alienation, him calling me a whore, him having my children call me a whore.
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Not because I did anything bad, because I wore spaghetti straps and all that.
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The only way that he could use my children against me was...
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And some of my children against me was to say I was on social media.
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Yeah, I can't imagine this is, like, great for the kids.
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You're just scrolling on TikTok and you see your mom.
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I'm not even helping myself because my brain is so stressed.
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I'm just trying to, like, don't, don't keep doing...
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And if I don't do stuff by February 8th, I can never fix the situation.
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But if I don't survive now, I'm literally going to be a complete mess mentally.
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And I'm trying to be happy and show my kids that, like, life can move on.
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But the triggers, the random fucking triggers that have me sitting in a quick trip parking lot trying not to cry.
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I bet she thought she could get a good payout and it didn't work out.
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But what does it matter if you're not with him?
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And I'm really tired of housewives saying they deserve the guy's money.
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So if your skills were so valuable, then, I mean, go...
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I mean, you could be a housekeeper with those skills.
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But, again, a lot of housewives have done nothing for 20 years.
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That's why I say the modern housewife wants to be pampered.
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She doesn't realize how much of a useless parasite she is.
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Because, you know, most women are just doing nothing for their days.
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He has all the money in his fingertips to do whatever he wants.
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And you would have been a part of it if you did.
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I swear, some guys, it's like, when the woman leaves, they're like, thank God.
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Because they're better people than us, usually.
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So, they'll do the right thing, even if they don't want to.
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Why I literally have the bare minimum to pay my bills?
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King is saying, guys, that she has her nails and her hair done.
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And just like he said, I wasn't part of the equation.
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I was not part of the equation in the entire marriage, this man told me.
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My role in life was to be the mother of his children and to do...
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Lady, I've built this YouTube career in like two, three years.
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If you really want to get skilled at something, you can.
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You could really focus on one thing and get really good at it in a couple of years.
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You can freelance and you can figure out a way to do it.
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That way, nobody can turn you down for being too old.
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Anything that was needed for the family, why he built his career.
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So how was that marriage ever supposed to survive?
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Trying to make a marriage, a life, a family, and this man never include me in the equation.
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Then when it was done and I got loose and I tried to survive, that man had been plotting
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for over a year on how to make my life hell because he had all the money, all the control.
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Fucking trigger because he's going to the Clemson Notre Dame game with my kids.
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I can't even get them all in the same room at the same time.
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He said, how is she crying and her face isn't moving?
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I don't know how it's not fair to not get money you're not entitled to.
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And you see how they say like, let's navigate through this new journey, this new stage.
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I love to dress cute but can get dirty no problem.
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Help each other through this crazy life and dating.
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There is nothing in life that is worth having that doesn't require some kind...
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I mean, like some of these women, TikTok replaces their family.
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Once you make a decision, you're going to have to honor and live by it.
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And these women want to make the choice and don't want to deal with the trade-off.
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I'm happy she's being honest about how much her life sucks.
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Hopefully, it'll deter some other women on TikTok that might just get a funny little idea.
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But guys, let me know what you think in the comments.