Woman Female Obesity On Men
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Summary
In this episode we talk about letting go of yourself and letting yourself go in a relationship and in a marriage. We discuss the reasons why women let go of themselves and why it is important to do so in order to keep a healthy relationship with a man.
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that's another reason men don't want to get married because they're like i even had a guy
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tell me this he's like i don't want to get married i don't want her to get fat but you
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know why a lot of the time as well i may just say one thing a lot of the time the reason why some
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some men get a little bit messed up comes down to insecurities and let me land and i'll explain to
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you why a lot of the time the women that let themselves go in a relationship or in a marriage
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is also down to the fact that men now that they own the woman they do not want the woman to be
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approached they don't want the woman to be desired by other men it comes down to the whole territorial
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thing which then means that you are now going to punish or going to complain are you going to put
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the woman in a position where she feels like whatever she looks like is a problem so she'll
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let go of it and she won't even work for it that's also another thing another side of things women
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don't just let go of themselves for no reason they start to let go of themselves because there's no
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desirability in general many to understand as a woman for you to be beautiful and to feel beautiful
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is not just about you telling me that i'm the most beautiful girl in the world you know i just to me
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like that's just nonsense girls girls let themselves go because they eat too much and they're lazy i know
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a couple girls that got married and gained like 50 pounds none of them are happy they gained the weight
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they all wish they were thinner but they're too lazy to fix it it's like i don't know and now they
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have the ring it's like less incentive you know when you get you guys know when you get breakup with
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someone you are in the gym you're trying to look like you're not me too me too i'm not saying i'm
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special me too or in the gym we're trying to like get our bodies right all this stuff and then we get
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a man and we don't we don't keep it i mean the way i was raised you cater to your man so you've got this
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is right and i'm not i'm not saying you you need to look good for him so i don't know about letting
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yourself go uh no i i've got him now i need to keep him i i i agree with you but i'm not saying
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you in particular i'm saying this is what the men are saying this is this are the issues they're saying
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yeah obviously i i think it's wrong like when you get into a relationship i don't think like letting
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yourself go i think it's a problem as a woman like why should you do that because it's gonna leave you
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so i i do agree do you think a man can leave a woman if she lets herself go he's asked her multiple
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times to lose the weight and she won't do it i wouldn't say assuming let's say there's no kids
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involved because kids kind of change things well let's say there's no kids well to be honest yes
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because no but it's not unfair you'll be telling your guy how many times do you say listen i told him
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a million times to not this do not do this i told him a million times to get up off his ass i told him
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a million times to do this yeah he didn't do it i left him if you as a man you're speaking to you
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to your girl and you're trying to make sure that she improves and she is better and she is not doing
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that the problem is not that she's not losing the weight the problem is the mentality which is the
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fact that you are not willing to be better and get better so that we can both be happy and have the
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spark for life see this is what this is this is what this is what i mean when i say it's like there's
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little things that are open misandry against men and we don't always realize it so like in this
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instant you kind of hesitated but if i came forward and i'm not saying i don't think it's
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intentional but if i said yeah i left him because he wouldn't work he wouldn't get a job
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you would be like yes girl like and you know yeah you and you know you would you shouldn't be with
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a bum and it's like that's a female bum a 300 pound whale i'll say it i'll say it again be careful
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be careful the reason i'm a bit more sensitive towards women is because i obviously you guys are
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saying your reality is different but my reality it's always been you've got to be better for your
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man so my world has always been about the men and i'm and i'm like so what is he doing for me so yeah
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i've got to learn to cook clean do all this stuff take care of my man but how is he helping me
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emotionally how is he helping me feel good but men that's not their job to help you emotionally that's
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like where i think that's no okay okay i want to okay yeah but they don't want to they don't they
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don't want to hear so this is this is you know this for what what am i like okay you can't i'm not
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saying they should never like talk to you or what like ignore you all the time but i'm just saying like
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like typically historically you wouldn't even see your husband that much that's not their job
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you've had to your friends like your relationships with men and this is something i learned like one
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time okay i had an ex-boyfriend and i was talking and i was like this person and he was just like
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i don't care oh i don't care and at first i was like what do you mean you don't care like i was
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like that was so rude but i like sat and thought about it and i'm like you know what i'm like
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dumping my problems onto him and that's not his job he's not my therapist like we don't want a guy
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that's dumping all his problems onto us we're okay we're okay a companion right but i'm saying i'm
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saying that's so again again like they remember this is things that we look for from men but men
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don't look for from us and so and that's that's what i'm doing all this for you what are you doing
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for me that's typically what i'm saying i don't want i don't want to be cooking for my man i don't
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want to i'll tell you i'll tell you so that's what they look so but i'm saying like that you're always
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going to get protection and that's the one thing like so okay okay okay okay okay but if the world
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but if the world if someone if someone okay i'll tell you living living here living here i i wish i
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had a boyfriend because it it scares me a lot of times like living like just you know like people
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know where the studio is sometimes right and there are crazy people and i'm like it would be so nice if i
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had a guy here just like not even just to what like if he was staying here and it would be like
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like if something happened i know he would like there's some level of comfort you have with just
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having a man next to you and knowing that if goes south you don't have to call the police that he's
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going to protect you like you know they say women prefer fat guys with muscles over skinny men
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yeah that makes sense because it's like ellie i everyone's i agree that's i would take that too
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not sure and you know why why for example for me i love to cook for people and one of the things that
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i love the most as well is to cook for my man and i'll tell you why because at the end of the day
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whether or not i'm a bad girl and i'm you know successful and i can do my own shin i don't need
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the man it feels nice to make to show somebody you know love through food love through things that you
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are actually much better at doing obviously i don't mind if a man can cook for me great if he
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can go for himself great but i like to cook why because then when i go out he'll pay for me maybe
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or he'll fulfill a certain role of chivalry that today in today's age is not needed but because i
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fulfilled my role of chivalry as a woman he'll give me that because we can't say oh he needs to pay a guy
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that don't pay on the first date a guy don't don't do this all of these things okay there's
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there's a transaction with that which means you also cater to him if a woman if a woman don't cook
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on the second date then she then she ain't wifey we've never heard that that's what i'm saying it's
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like the the double but i think it depends on what you want in a man like you saying you want a man
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that will um help you financially but i don't to me that's not a priority because what i want is a father
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someone that would be a good father to my kids he's going to be there i need time do you i need
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you to okay okay question would you prefer if if all would you okay prefer let's talk about prefer
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if you could would you want a guy that made more money than you if all things all okay okay okay
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prefer okay okay okay let's let's wait wait wait okay if you could would you prefer a man that's
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stronger than you yes okay okay if you could would you prefer a man that's smarter than you maybe can
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fix things around the house yes no okay so that's what i'm saying there are other things that men
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bring that you get just from having a man around outside of money like i love that i can call my like
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we all know as women and maybe maybe you guys are better than me my my air pressure light is always on
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my oil has never changed my my smoke alarm battery will always be beeping and am i it's like when the men
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come around and they're like how are you living like this like my dad will like run around you're
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smiling i bet you can think of a time where someone's done this right and they run around
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and they'll they'll just fix everything and just be like why are you doing this and it's it's just
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something like comforting like i i feel better like if i'm stressed or whatever i just love talking
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to my dad and my brothers like there's just something about talking to like masculine men
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mm-hmm where it's like you just feel better i mean it's great for a man to be masculine of course
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but what i'm saying is i value more in a man i want a partner i like i don't care about all this
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fixing light bulb we can get someone to do that i need someone that cares about me after i've had a
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long day off i would be really curious i want to talk to you and be like but when men such a long day
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i want you to just listen to me but when men when women talk to men they're like okay you're telling
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me all this stuff what's the solution they want to know how are you going to fix whatever it is you're
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telling me or is the solution at least you've been a companion no no they're they want you they
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they really don't care about the venting is mental clutter they're like okay you've told me all this
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stuff but you're not going to fix it don't come back to me and say the same stuff that you told me the
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day before fix it and move on that's that's how men's brain works we can come up with a solution
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together that's what i mean that's how it's worked and maybe because okay okay so question question
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that's why i know that men can do your last relationship how long was it uh i'll be like
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oh i don't like to get personal uh like nearly uh okay okay okay i was just gonna say longer than
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six months yeah yeah okay okay did you end it or did he i ended it okay so so this is just from the
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men's point of view okay women will say i want an emotionally available man and this isn't just you
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remember i see you in different bodies every day and and it's like so then like the what they'll do
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is they'll realize that the same men they said were emotionally available i dated him we also ended it
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with yes and and so and i've asked this question a lot it's very rare it was the other way around
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typically when i asked this like oh he was emotionally available i got the things i wanted
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it's like well why did it end usually she ended it but i'm not gonna because i i respect you don't
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you don't have you don't have to say why i don't have to say why i won't go into it i respect all my
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exes i think they were amazing i've dated very good men i respect them they were kings right but the
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reason i wouldn't even say like the full reason but in terms of just the reason a lot of women
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leave a relationship is because they didn't have other things that keep them excited so things
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like being ambitious for example or a man that is confident in himself a man that um wants more for
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himself in life those are the stuff that sometimes if it's missing or maybe a man that doesn't take
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care of himself like yeah you could be emotionally available to me i love that and that's the reason i
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stayed with you but i need you to also work on yourself did you not you know be a better man