JustPearlyThings - June 05, 2023


Woman Female Obesity On Men

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Why Zherka And Destiny Fell Out Feminist Proves Why Women NEED The Red Pill

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Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

220.92

Word count

2,517

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Harmful content

Misogyny

12

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Toxicity

3

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Hate speech

11

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Summary

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In this episode we talk about letting go of yourself and letting yourself go in a relationship and in a marriage. We discuss the reasons why women let go of themselves and why it is important to do so in order to keep a healthy relationship with a man.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 that's another reason men don't want to get married because they're like i even had a guy 0.98
00:00:03.040 tell me this he's like i don't want to get married i don't want her to get fat but you
00:00:06.640 know why a lot of the time as well i may just say one thing a lot of the time the reason why some
00:00:13.760 some men get a little bit messed up comes down to insecurities and let me land and i'll explain to
00:00:22.400 you why a lot of the time the women that let themselves go in a relationship or in a marriage 1.00
00:00:28.880 is also down to the fact that men now that they own the woman they do not want the woman to be 0.96
00:00:34.800 approached they don't want the woman to be desired by other men it comes down to the whole territorial
00:00:38.480 thing which then means that you are now going to punish or going to complain are you going to put
00:00:43.360 the woman in a position where she feels like whatever she looks like is a problem so she'll 1.00
00:00:47.760 let go of it and she won't even work for it that's also another thing another side of things women 1.00
00:00:52.320 don't just let go of themselves for no reason they start to let go of themselves because there's no
00:00:56.640 desirability in general many to understand as a woman for you to be beautiful and to feel beautiful
00:01:03.520 is not just about you telling me that i'm the most beautiful girl in the world you know i just to me
00:01:07.920 like that's just nonsense girls girls let themselves go because they eat too much and they're lazy i know 1.00
00:01:13.040 a couple girls that got married and gained like 50 pounds none of them are happy they gained the weight
00:01:18.240 they all wish they were thinner but they're too lazy to fix it it's like i don't know and now they
00:01:23.600 have the ring it's like less incentive you know when you get you guys know when you get breakup with
00:01:28.240 someone you are in the gym you're trying to look like you're not me too me too i'm not saying i'm
00:01:34.000 special me too or in the gym we're trying to like get our bodies right all this stuff and then we get
00:01:39.840 a man and we don't we don't keep it i mean the way i was raised you cater to your man so you've got this
00:01:45.920 is right and i'm not i'm not saying you you need to look good for him so i don't know about letting
00:01:50.800 yourself go uh no i i've got him now i need to keep him i i i agree with you but i'm not saying
00:01:57.200 you in particular i'm saying this is what the men are saying this is this are the issues they're saying
00:02:02.400 yeah obviously i i think it's wrong like when you get into a relationship i don't think like letting
00:02:07.840 yourself go i think it's a problem as a woman like why should you do that because it's gonna leave you 1.00
00:02:13.280 so i i do agree do you think a man can leave a woman if she lets herself go he's asked her multiple
00:02:19.120 times to lose the weight and she won't do it i wouldn't say assuming let's say there's no kids 0.97
00:02:23.520 involved because kids kind of change things well let's say there's no kids well to be honest yes
00:02:29.680 because no but it's not unfair you'll be telling your guy how many times do you say listen i told him 0.99
00:02:36.240 a million times to not this do not do this i told him a million times to get up off his ass i told him 0.97
00:02:41.040 a million times to do this yeah he didn't do it i left him if you as a man you're speaking to you 0.99
00:02:46.000 to your girl and you're trying to make sure that she improves and she is better and she is not doing
00:02:50.240 that the problem is not that she's not losing the weight the problem is the mentality which is the
00:02:54.400 fact that you are not willing to be better and get better so that we can both be happy and have the
00:02:59.200 spark for life see this is what this is this is what this is what i mean when i say it's like there's
00:03:03.760 little things that are open misandry against men and we don't always realize it so like in this
00:03:09.040 instant you kind of hesitated but if i came forward and i'm not saying i don't think it's
00:03:13.440 intentional but if i said yeah i left him because he wouldn't work he wouldn't get a job
00:03:18.240 you would be like yes girl like and you know yeah you and you know you would you shouldn't be with 0.99
00:03:24.160 a bum and it's like that's a female bum a 300 pound whale i'll say it i'll say it again be careful 0.95
00:03:30.240 be careful the reason i'm a bit more sensitive towards women is because i obviously you guys are
00:03:35.200 saying your reality is different but my reality it's always been you've got to be better for your
00:03:40.480 man so my world has always been about the men and i'm and i'm like so what is he doing for me so yeah
00:03:46.960 i've got to learn to cook clean do all this stuff take care of my man but how is he helping me
00:03:51.760 emotionally how is he helping me feel good but men that's not their job to help you emotionally that's
00:03:57.040 like where i think that's no okay okay i want to okay yeah but they don't want to they don't they
00:04:02.880 don't want to hear so this is this is you know this for what what am i like okay you can't i'm not
00:04:06.880 saying they should never like talk to you or what like ignore you all the time but i'm just saying like
00:04:11.120 like typically historically you wouldn't even see your husband that much that's not their job
00:04:16.240 you've had to your friends like your relationships with men and this is something i learned like one
00:04:20.960 time okay i had an ex-boyfriend and i was talking and i was like this person and he was just like
00:04:27.040 i don't care oh i don't care and at first i was like what do you mean you don't care like i was
00:04:34.640 like that was so rude but i like sat and thought about it and i'm like you know what i'm like
00:04:38.640 dumping my problems onto him and that's not his job he's not my therapist like we don't want a guy 0.98
00:04:43.680 that's dumping all his problems onto us we're okay we're okay a companion right but i'm saying i'm
00:04:51.120 saying that's so again again like they remember this is things that we look for from men but men 0.82
00:04:56.400 don't look for from us and so and that's that's what i'm doing all this for you what are you doing
00:05:01.360 for me that's typically what i'm saying i don't want i don't want to be cooking for my man i don't
00:05:06.320 want to i'll tell you i'll tell you so that's what they look so but i'm saying like that you're always
00:05:10.240 going to get protection and that's the one thing like so okay okay okay okay okay but if the world
00:05:16.240 but if the world if someone if someone okay i'll tell you living living here living here i i wish i
00:05:24.400 had a boyfriend because it it scares me a lot of times like living like just you know like people
00:05:31.440 know where the studio is sometimes right and there are crazy people and i'm like it would be so nice if i
00:05:36.640 had a guy here just like not even just to what like if he was staying here and it would be like
00:05:42.240 like if something happened i know he would like there's some level of comfort you have with just
00:05:47.520 having a man next to you and knowing that if goes south you don't have to call the police that he's
00:05:51.840 going to protect you like you know they say women prefer fat guys with muscles over skinny men 0.99
00:05:58.320 yeah that makes sense because it's like ellie i everyone's i agree that's i would take that too
00:06:02.960 not sure and you know why why for example for me i love to cook for people and one of the things that
00:06:11.520 i love the most as well is to cook for my man and i'll tell you why because at the end of the day
00:06:17.680 whether or not i'm a bad girl and i'm you know successful and i can do my own shin i don't need
00:06:23.600 the man it feels nice to make to show somebody you know love through food love through things that you
00:06:29.360 are actually much better at doing obviously i don't mind if a man can cook for me great if he 0.78
00:06:34.160 can go for himself great but i like to cook why because then when i go out he'll pay for me maybe
00:06:41.520 or he'll fulfill a certain role of chivalry that today in today's age is not needed but because i
00:06:47.360 fulfilled my role of chivalry as a woman he'll give me that because we can't say oh he needs to pay a guy 0.53
00:06:53.280 that don't pay on the first date a guy don't don't do this all of these things okay there's
00:06:58.480 there's a transaction with that which means you also cater to him if a woman if a woman don't cook 1.00
00:07:03.040 on the second date then she then she ain't wifey we've never heard that that's what i'm saying it's
00:07:07.840 like the the double but i think it depends on what you want in a man like you saying you want a man
00:07:13.360 that will um help you financially but i don't to me that's not a priority because what i want is a father
00:07:20.560 someone that would be a good father to my kids he's going to be there i need time do you i need
00:07:25.280 you to okay okay question would you prefer if if all would you okay prefer let's talk about prefer
00:07:32.080 if you could would you want a guy that made more money than you if all things all okay okay okay
00:07:36.960 prefer okay okay okay let's let's wait wait wait okay if you could would you prefer a man that's
00:07:42.880 stronger than you yes okay okay if you could would you prefer a man that's smarter than you maybe can
00:07:50.240 fix things around the house yes no okay so that's what i'm saying there are other things that men
00:07:56.160 bring that you get just from having a man around outside of money like i love that i can call my like
00:08:03.040 we all know as women and maybe maybe you guys are better than me my my air pressure light is always on
00:08:08.960 my oil has never changed my my smoke alarm battery will always be beeping and am i it's like when the men
00:08:16.720 come around and they're like how are you living like this like my dad will like run around you're
00:08:21.360 smiling i bet you can think of a time where someone's done this right and they run around
00:08:25.920 and they'll they'll just fix everything and just be like why are you doing this and it's it's just
00:08:30.880 something like comforting like i i feel better like if i'm stressed or whatever i just love talking
00:08:37.680 to my dad and my brothers like there's just something about talking to like masculine men
00:08:41.360 mm-hmm where it's like you just feel better i mean it's great for a man to be masculine of course
00:08:46.400 but what i'm saying is i value more in a man i want a partner i like i don't care about all this
00:08:52.480 fixing light bulb we can get someone to do that i need someone that cares about me after i've had a
00:08:57.200 long day off i would be really curious i want to talk to you and be like but when men such a long day
00:09:02.960 i want you to just listen to me but when men when women talk to men they're like okay you're telling 0.91
00:09:09.440 me all this stuff what's the solution they want to know how are you going to fix whatever it is you're
00:09:14.240 telling me or is the solution at least you've been a companion no no they're they want you they
00:09:20.880 they really don't care about the venting is mental clutter they're like okay you've told me all this
00:09:26.000 stuff but you're not going to fix it don't come back to me and say the same stuff that you told me the
00:09:30.640 day before fix it and move on that's that's how men's brain works we can come up with a solution 0.99
00:09:36.160 together that's what i mean that's how it's worked and maybe because okay okay so question question
00:09:44.000 that's why i know that men can do your last relationship how long was it uh i'll be like
00:09:49.680 oh i don't like to get personal uh like nearly uh okay okay okay i was just gonna say longer than
00:09:55.680 six months yeah yeah okay okay did you end it or did he i ended it okay so so this is just from the
00:10:02.480 men's point of view okay women will say i want an emotionally available man and this isn't just you
00:10:07.440 remember i see you in different bodies every day and and it's like so then like the what they'll do
00:10:12.960 is they'll realize that the same men they said were emotionally available i dated him we also ended it
00:10:17.840 with yes and and so and i've asked this question a lot it's very rare it was the other way around
00:10:23.600 typically when i asked this like oh he was emotionally available i got the things i wanted
00:10:28.400 it's like well why did it end usually she ended it but i'm not gonna because i i respect you don't
00:10:33.520 you don't have you don't have to say why i don't have to say why i won't go into it i respect all my
00:10:38.240 exes i think they were amazing i've dated very good men i respect them they were kings right but the
00:10:44.640 reason i wouldn't even say like the full reason but in terms of just the reason a lot of women 1.00
00:10:50.960 leave a relationship is because they didn't have other things that keep them excited so things
00:10:58.000 like being ambitious for example or a man that is confident in himself a man that um wants more for
00:11:05.440 himself in life those are the stuff that sometimes if it's missing or maybe a man that doesn't take
00:11:10.720 care of himself like yeah you could be emotionally available to me i love that and that's the reason i
00:11:15.360 stayed with you but i need you to also work on yourself did you not you know be a better man
00:11:21.600 and if you don't want that for yourself