Woman Is HAPPY To Be A SIDECHICK
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about being a side chick, being in a committed relationship with a man you care deeply for, and how to deal with a guy who doesn t want to be a dad. We also talk about how women have low self-esteem and why it's a problem.
Transcript
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At this very moment, would you get rid of a baby?
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Listen, I would only have a baby with someone that I'm in a committed relationship that I care for,
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that they've shown that they have good traits to be a father, to be a good husband.
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Or if I got to an age that was just too old, that I thought I'm 40 and I'm single,
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I have very good, good male friends that would be spam bonus.
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So it's just like, if I was in your shoes, like, shit, if I'm going to be a side chick anyway,
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I would just compete, figure out what the hell he wants and try to be it.
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Like, if I was, if that's what you're going to do anyway, or like, or just cut it off.
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Knowing that he's never going to commit to you.
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How much do you value yourself as a woman, as an individual?
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How much do you value yourself as a woman, as an individual, that you will allow yourself,
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To allow yourself to be chasing after another man's...
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I don't know what's gone on with you inside your life within the 30 years.
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No, that's my answer, but that's the whole point.
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But what I'm trying to say is that you're happy with that arrangement.
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Are you not going to let me answer the question?
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And happy to sleep with other men around and still in her head think at some point in
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her life, she will set her down, she will find her husband, she will build a family.
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It's not what the guys they want, but like, it's a simp epidemic.
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I'm not saying it should be that way, but I'm just saying...
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I'm just saying, like, I feel like they want to say side chicks have low self-esteem,
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But I just feel like there are a group of women that will be side chicks, but they compete
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I'm just saying, if you're going to do it, I wouldn't sign up.
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I'm just saying, if you're going to do it anyway, you might as well...
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Do you know why I don't want to steal your man as someone that's been a side chick?
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We're going to close out soon, but it's good sex.
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No, as you get to 35 and you get to 40 and you've got no kids.
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When you've got no kids and you've got no future, you're looking ahead of you, right?
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And you're going to look at all of your girlfriends around you who have gone.
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I've got kids and I've got, maybe your sisters, maybe your girlfriends, and you're going to
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I'm not going to, I don't, I don't understand how that is your life.
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In your head, you're going to keep sleeping with him because of the good, the good sex.
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And so in your head, you don't want to be with him.
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, so you're going to keep
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And when you meet him, but you wouldn't, if he broke up with his girlfriend tomorrow,
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you wouldn't be with him, even though you love, even though you love him.
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If I'm just putting myself in your shoes, if I was sleeping with a guy for a year and
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a half and he was giving, like, if I was in your shoes, I would probably be close to
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I should apologize for using that word because I use it very loosely.
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The reason why I see this guy as much as I do, because we're in the same social circle,
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I'm just saying, like, if you, if you, if I was you, I would either compete for him or
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get out because you're not going to be open to, like, we all know, we all know when we're
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getting, like, like, if you, you're not open to meeting someone.
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So when I speak my opinion, no one believes me and everyone thinks I'm happy.
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At the end of the day, like I said, he gives good sex and I enjoy sometimes more than enough
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However, my constant, am I not open to meeting other people?
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So I'm saying, so when you say you're open, so you're literally open.
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Some people, Pearl, some people, I feel like that's their calibre and they're okay with
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But obviously, he's, like, he's there to save my, he's there in essential to save my
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Do you see his, but your body count's already going up.
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Because the other person that I will now sleep with, it's not the person that, oh, I just
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met an, oh, or the person that, oh, I'm horny, I need to sleep with someone.
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It will be the person that I've been dating, got to know, then slept with them.
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I'm just, so remember, so you've said this all on a podcast.
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So I'm just thinking, like, long term for you here.
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Does he want, does he want to make the mother of his chill, like a potential mother of his
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kid, a girl that publicly went on a podcast and said, I'm a side chick.
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Like, like, I'm just saying, I think, I think most men would, would understand, like, I hate
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to say this, but they're, they're more, I think they'd be more forgiving with the slightly,
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slightly, I didn't say go crazy, higher body count, one or two more than a girl that was
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It's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's going to go on years.
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Like I, I can just tell you're still, you're still, you're still, you're still, okay.
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But he, but he's wait, but he's the one that has you and I can, I can tell, and your cousin's
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But like, I just know, I'm just saying, wait, wait, as I'm just saying as, as like woman to
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woman, like, you know, when a girl's into a guy like that, you know, when he's that
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guy for you, like, he's the guy you're breaking the rules for.
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If it was just him, if it was just him, maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe, I've not been an opposite
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side chick, but I've broke other rules for other guys.
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Do you know that there's a meme that actually embodies you?
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No, no, like maybe, maybe there's one or two other guys that it was similar, right?
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I know, wait, I know, I never said like that it was the same exact situation, but maybe
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you felt similar for, but I can, this is the guy you've talked about the most on this
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You brought him up before, before we, you did not have to bring him up.
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Cause I've never been a simp for any other person.
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And so, and your cousin's nodded, like, you know, you know, you know, he's that guy to you.
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And you get, Paul is trying to say, he's not good for your health.
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As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
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