JustPearlyThings - March 25, 2023


Woman Is HAPPY To Be A SIDECHICK

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Pearl Paul
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Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

209.03

Word count

2,110

Sentence count

282

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

sentences flagged

Toxicity

25

sentences flagged

Hate speech

7

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about being a side chick, being in a committed relationship with a man you care deeply for, and how to deal with a guy who doesn t want to be a dad. We also talk about how women have low self-esteem and why it's a problem.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 At this very moment, would you get rid of a baby?
00:00:02.760 If you happen to get pregnant tomorrow. 0.96
00:00:04.500 His baby.
00:00:04.880 She said yes.
00:00:05.560 Would you just get rid of a baby? 1.00
00:00:07.280 She said yes.
00:00:07.940 Listen, I would only have a baby with someone that I'm in a committed relationship that I care for,
00:00:15.720 that they've shown that they have good traits to be a father, to be a good husband.
00:00:19.400 Or if I got to an age that was just too old, that I thought I'm 40 and I'm single,
00:00:24.260 I have very good, good male friends that would be spam bonus.
00:00:28.960 Yes. 0.99
00:00:29.200 So it's just like, if I was in your shoes, like, shit, if I'm going to be a side chick anyway, 0.98
00:00:35.740 I would just compete, figure out what the hell he wants and try to be it. 0.98
00:00:39.160 Like, if I was, if that's what you're going to do anyway, or like, or just cut it off.
00:00:44.200 Do you know what the difference is for me?
00:00:46.300 Do you know what I'd say?
00:00:46.940 Do you know what I'd say?
00:00:48.100 I'm going to go a little bit deeper, right?
00:00:50.060 Yeah.
00:00:51.080 And go to self-esteem.
00:00:52.480 Yeah.
00:00:54.160 If you are a woman who is happy.
00:00:56.340 Yeah.
00:00:56.600 Self-esteem wise.
00:00:58.320 Yeah.
00:00:58.960 With being with a man that's not your man.
00:01:01.680 Right?
00:01:02.260 Yeah.
00:01:02.460 Knowing that he's never going to commit to you.
00:01:04.320 Yeah.
00:01:04.880 There's a self-esteem issue there.
00:01:06.220 Okay.
00:01:06.520 So I'm not even going to answer.
00:01:07.880 This is my cousin.
00:01:08.900 So let her answer for me.
00:01:10.300 No, no.
00:01:10.800 No, because me answering, I'm biased, right?
00:01:13.660 You see me personally.
00:01:14.640 There's a self-esteem issue there though.
00:01:15.940 See, the difference for me is, right?
00:01:17.500 There is.
00:01:17.880 If I happen to like someone, right?
00:01:20.400 The majority of the...
00:01:20.820 Because how, how much do you value yourself...
00:01:22.400 This is what I'm going to say.
00:01:23.200 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:01:23.640 How much do you value yourself as a woman, as an individual?
00:01:27.720 Hang on, wait.
00:01:28.620 How much do you value yourself as a woman, as an individual, that you will allow yourself,
00:01:34.520 yeah?
00:01:35.140 To be constantly chasing after...
00:01:38.720 Just, please, just let me speak, right?
00:01:42.660 To allow yourself to be chasing after another man's...
00:01:46.840 Sorry, another girl's man, right? 0.99
00:01:48.620 And be happy with that.
00:01:50.380 I don't know what's gone on with you inside your life within the 30 years.
00:01:55.540 I don't know, right?
00:01:56.860 But on a self-esteem issue, right?
00:02:00.200 You're actually happy with this arrangement.
00:02:03.500 You're happy with the arrangement.
00:02:04.480 I don't chase him.
00:02:05.740 No, it doesn't matter.
00:02:06.580 No, that's my answer, but that's the whole point.
00:02:08.420 I don't chase him.
00:02:09.340 But what I'm trying to say is that you're happy with that arrangement.
00:02:11.820 No, it's just calm.
00:02:13.080 So self-esteem comes here Tuesday.
00:02:15.080 So do you know what we call a dad?
00:02:17.120 This is not my goal.
00:02:17.940 You know, when we call a mom...
00:02:19.080 Are you going to let me answer?
00:02:20.240 A dad, right?
00:02:21.060 We've got to say again, bro.
00:02:22.120 What was my question?
00:02:23.240 A dad.
00:02:23.820 A dad.
00:02:24.660 What's a dad?
00:02:25.560 A dad.
00:02:26.600 Like, someone who doesn't have no self-esteem.
00:02:30.560 Are you not going to let me answer the question?
00:02:32.460 Just wait, wait, wait.
00:02:33.300 Go on.
00:02:33.800 Like, she's happy to be a side chick.
00:02:35.620 Yeah.
00:02:36.180 And happy to sleep with other men around and still in her head think at some point in
00:02:41.420 her life, she will set her down, she will find her husband, she will build a family.
00:02:46.260 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:47.140 Because that's what women generally want. 1.00
00:02:48.800 Impossible.
00:02:49.380 Well, okay, but let's just...
00:02:50.740 Okay, I'm just going to be real, though.
00:02:52.540 Most women can and most women do. 1.00
00:02:54.660 Like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:56.060 I'm not saying...
00:02:56.400 That's true.
00:02:56.780 It's not what the guys they want, but like, it's a simp epidemic.
00:02:59.400 Look at the title of the...
00:03:01.200 How many...
00:03:01.720 Yeah.
00:03:02.040 How many stuff daddies we got out here?
00:03:03.540 It's not fun, but let's just be real.
00:03:05.480 But I'm just saying...
00:03:06.520 I'm not saying it should be that way, but I'm just saying...
00:03:09.400 I've seen men.
00:03:09.640 It could be.
00:03:10.460 They're usually...
00:03:10.780 I didn't get on...
00:03:12.160 And number two, you know what?
00:03:13.940 I'm just saying, like, I feel like they want to say side chicks have low self-esteem, 0.91
00:03:19.040 whatever.
00:03:19.840 Yeah.
00:03:20.060 And this is going to be an unpopular opinion. 1.00
00:03:22.280 Oh, fuck. 0.99
00:03:22.680 But I just feel like there are a group of women that will be side chicks, but they compete 1.00
00:03:27.760 and they try to steal your man.
00:03:28.980 I'm just saying, if you're going to do it, I wouldn't sign up.
00:03:31.280 I wouldn't sign up to do it.
00:03:33.780 I'm just saying, if you're going to do it anyway, you might as well...
00:03:36.360 You might as well go your whole range.
00:03:37.760 You might as well...
00:03:39.120 Would you be happy, man?
00:03:40.040 Do you know why I don't want to steal your man as someone that's been a side chick? 1.00
00:03:45.260 Because you cheat, so I can't trust you.
00:03:47.660 I don't want to take you from your...
00:03:49.020 Then what's the plan? 0.99
00:03:50.600 It's just sex. 0.99
00:03:51.280 It's just sex. 0.97
00:03:52.680 But that's it. 0.89
00:03:53.320 But hang on.
00:03:54.120 Before we... 0.97
00:03:55.360 It's just good sex. 0.99
00:03:56.220 We're going to close out soon, but it's good sex. 0.99
00:03:58.620 But do you know, because you're 30, right? 0.97
00:04:00.480 Yeah.
00:04:00.800 No, as you get to 35 and you get to 40 and you've got no kids.
00:04:04.260 You're finished.
00:04:04.520 And wait, wait.
00:04:06.200 When you've got no kids and you've got no future, you're looking ahead of you, right?
00:04:11.600 That loneliness is going to set in.
00:04:13.980 Is it not going to set in?
00:04:15.000 Thank you.
00:04:16.240 Wait, let me finish.
00:04:16.960 Wait, let me finish.
00:04:18.040 The loneliness is going to set in, right?
00:04:19.920 And you're going to look at all of your girlfriends around you who have gone.
00:04:22.660 I've got kids and I've got, maybe your sisters, maybe your girlfriends, and you're going to
00:04:27.760 feel empty.
00:04:30.120 You're going to feel empty.
00:04:31.280 And the thing is, it's like, I don't get it.
00:04:36.340 I'm not going to, I don't, I don't understand how that is your life.
00:04:39.940 I don't understand how that is your life.
00:04:41.760 You don't understand it, do you?
00:04:43.000 I'm confused.
00:04:43.800 Can I just say what I think you're saying?
00:04:46.200 And you can tell me if I'm right.
00:04:47.120 Yeah, that's fine. 0.98
00:04:47.480 In your head, you're going to keep sleeping with him because of the good, the good sex. 0.76
00:04:53.440 That's why. 0.74
00:04:54.340 And so in your head, you don't want to be with him.
00:04:56.060 Try something.
00:04:56.680 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, so you're going to keep 0.96
00:05:01.860 sleeping with him because of the good sex. 0.98
00:05:04.020 Yeah. 0.63
00:05:04.480 And until you meet someone new.
00:05:06.700 Yeah.
00:05:07.220 And when you meet him, but you wouldn't, if he broke up with his girlfriend tomorrow,
00:05:10.700 you wouldn't be with him, even though you love, even though you love him.
00:05:14.720 Loosely.
00:05:15.080 I don't, I'm not actually in love with him.
00:05:16.980 I'm just going off the words that you say.
00:05:18.960 I use it very loosely.
00:05:19.720 A year and a half is a long time.
00:05:21.500 Okay.
00:05:21.880 If I'm just putting myself in your shoes, if I was sleeping with a guy for a year and
00:05:25.700 a half and he was giving, like, if I was in your shoes, I would probably be close to
00:05:30.280 in love with him.
00:05:31.320 If not in love.
00:05:32.160 Okay.
00:05:32.320 I'm just, I'm just so.
00:05:33.200 I should apologize for using that word because I use it very loosely.
00:05:36.980 Okay.
00:05:37.320 No, but listen.
00:05:38.320 No, listen.
00:05:39.360 Okay.
00:05:39.500 Okay.
00:05:39.640 Listen.
00:05:40.260 So wait.
00:05:40.980 Listen.
00:05:41.900 Okay.
00:05:42.340 So, okay.
00:05:43.180 I should also explain.
00:05:44.520 The reason why I see this guy as much as I do, because we're in the same social circle,
00:05:48.180 no?
00:05:48.900 Okay.
00:05:49.360 Okay.
00:05:49.560 Yeah.
00:05:49.860 But I'm on Pearl's side when it comes to it.
00:05:51.660 I don't know how you have the energy.
00:05:52.820 I'm just saying, like, if you, if you, if I was you, I would either compete for him or
00:05:58.140 get out because you're not going to be open to, like, we all know, we all know when we're
00:06:02.600 getting, like, like, if you, you're not open to meeting someone.
00:06:06.500 Oh, I am.
00:06:07.380 A hundred percent.
00:06:08.080 Really?
00:06:08.660 I feel like I'm a very niche market of person.
00:06:11.260 So when I speak my opinion, no one believes me and everyone thinks I'm happy.
00:06:15.900 My constant voucher is I do not cap.
00:06:18.120 At the end of the day, like I said, he gives good sex and I enjoy sometimes more than enough 0.70
00:06:25.180 for people.
00:06:26.180 However, my constant, am I not open to meeting other people? 0.99
00:06:29.660 No, but you have sex with other people. 0.99
00:06:31.100 You have sex with other guys, right? 1.00
00:06:32.700 Yeah. 1.00
00:06:33.180 Yeah.
00:06:33.480 So I'm saying, so when you say you're open, so you're literally open.
00:06:38.040 Not in that sense.
00:06:39.940 Like, you're literally open.
00:06:41.320 Yeah.
00:06:41.700 Some people, Pearl, some people, I feel like that's their calibre and they're okay with
00:06:45.840 that.
00:06:46.120 But for some people, they need more than that.
00:06:47.580 A high calibre of number of people.
00:06:49.040 But obviously, he's, like, he's there to save my, he's there in essential to save my
00:06:54.140 body count from going up.
00:06:55.260 Do you see his, but your body count's already going up.
00:06:58.100 No, no, no, let me explain.
00:06:59.680 Because the other person that I will now sleep with, it's not the person that, oh, I just
00:07:03.760 met an, oh, or the person that, oh, I'm horny, I need to sleep with someone.
00:07:06.800 It will be the person that I've been dating, got to know, then slept with them.
00:07:11.200 If it don't work out, it don't work out.
00:07:12.940 Okay.
00:07:13.060 Okay.
00:07:13.300 I'm just, so remember, so you've said this all on a podcast.
00:07:16.660 Yeah.
00:07:16.960 So I'm just thinking, like, long term for you here.
00:07:19.680 Okay.
00:07:19.880 Yeah.
00:07:20.280 You have a new guy that's interested.
00:07:22.480 I'll stop sleeping with the other one. 0.97
00:07:23.920 Okay.
00:07:24.300 Okay.
00:07:24.540 Okay.
00:07:24.900 Yeah.
00:07:25.160 Yes.
00:07:25.460 Yes.
00:07:25.940 Does he want, does he want to make the mother of his chill, like a potential mother of his 0.93
00:07:29.760 kid, a girl that publicly went on a podcast and said, I'm a side chick.
00:07:34.140 Like, like, I'm just saying, I think, I think most men would, would understand, like, I hate
00:07:40.980 to say this, but they're, they're more, I think they'd be more forgiving with the slightly,
00:07:45.220 slightly, I didn't say go crazy, higher body count, one or two more than a girl that was
00:07:50.220 willing to be a side chick for years.
00:07:52.040 Okay.
00:07:52.360 It's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's going to go on years.
00:08:12.600 Cause he's still in your head.
00:08:13.700 Like I, I can just tell you're still, you're still, you're still, you're still, okay.
00:08:17.760 Okay.
00:08:18.420 Sure.
00:08:19.080 Sure.
00:08:19.680 Sure.
00:08:20.160 Okay.
00:08:20.360 Okay.
00:08:20.600 Okay.
00:08:20.780 Okay.
00:08:21.260 But he, but he's wait, but he's the one that has you and I can, I can tell, and your cousin's
00:08:27.620 nodding.
00:08:28.440 He has the, your cousin.
00:08:29.540 Yeah.
00:08:29.880 Okay.
00:08:30.240 But like, I just know, I'm just saying, wait, wait, as I'm just saying as, as like woman to
00:08:36.240 woman, like, you know, when a girl's into a guy like that, you know, when he's that 0.92
00:08:40.580 guy for you, like, he's the guy you're breaking the rules for.
00:08:43.300 Right.
00:08:43.760 He's not been the only one though.
00:08:45.380 That's why.
00:08:46.060 If it was just him, if it was just him, maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe, I've not been an opposite
00:08:51.040 side chick, but I've broke other rules for other guys.
00:08:53.360 I understand.
00:08:53.980 Do you know that there's a meme that actually embodies you?
00:08:57.340 What's the meme?
00:08:58.420 She belongs to the streets. 0.92
00:09:00.940 No, no, like maybe, maybe there's one or two other guys that it was similar, right?
00:09:06.420 Or like you had, okay, okay, okay, okay.
00:09:08.580 I know, wait, I know, I never said like that it was the same exact situation, but maybe
00:09:13.660 you felt similar for, but I can, this is the guy you've talked about the most on this
00:09:18.440 podcast.
00:09:18.780 He was the first one you brought up.
00:09:19.960 And as women, as women, okay, okay.
00:09:22.660 Okay.
00:09:22.900 No, no.
00:09:23.340 You brought him up before, before we, you did not have to bring him up.
00:09:26.220 Okay.
00:09:26.580 Cause I've never been a simp for any other person.
00:09:28.660 Okay.
00:09:29.000 Okay.
00:09:29.180 I understand.
00:09:30.300 Okay.
00:09:30.500 After this, bring him around.
00:09:31.660 So, okay.
00:09:32.360 Okay.
00:09:33.000 And so, and your cousin's nodded, like, you know, you know, you know, he's that guy to you.
00:09:37.640 And you get, Paul is trying to say, he's not good for your health.
00:09:41.360 I know that though.
00:09:42.720 He really isn't.
00:09:43.600 I know that though.
00:09:44.800 Mental and physical.
00:09:45.900 I know that though.
00:09:47.060 Why have I ever denied that?
00:09:48.580 Okay, folks.
00:09:49.240 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
00:09:56.000 this platform.
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