JustPearlyThings - May 18, 2023


Woman Keeps Falling For This Disney Fairy Tale

Topics
getting married without a wedding
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Hannah Pearl Davis
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Brittany Renner Capybara Madam
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9 minutes

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2,109

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205

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of a wedding day, why a woman should or shouldn t get married, and why a man should not get married if he doesn t want to get married. We also talk about why a bride should or should not have a big day, and whether or not a wedding should even be a thing at all.

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00:00:00.000 I also think maybe, like, I'm just guessing here, but going with your scenario, I feel like maybe women sometimes, like, they just want a wedding day. 0.90
00:00:11.380 Like, they don't want a marriage, they just want a wedding day.
00:00:13.340 Someone proposes, oh, I can do this and take those bit scrap pictures with my gals and all, and it's all going to be about me.
00:00:20.640 So, you know, it makes sense.
00:00:22.660 I had this conversation with a friend the other day on gay weddings, and I said, I understand why a woman want to get married.
00:00:29.380 Because the whole bridesmaids and the whole, I said, why a man would want to marry another man?
00:00:33.860 I said, it's a waste of money and time.
00:00:35.980 And the guy said, oh, yeah, yeah, blah, blah, blah, men have every right.
00:00:38.980 I wasn't trying to say men don't have right to marry another man.
00:00:41.960 I was just trying to say I understand why a woman wants it, but I understand why a man would waste his time to marry another man. 0.99
00:00:46.620 That's how you know with a man it's intentional, like you said, you know, because there's so much more, especially in this day and age now and the climate that we're living in, there's so much more at risk for the guy.
00:00:55.200 Like, that is a clear signal from the man.
00:00:59.380 That he is committing to you, because, you know, and then if you're a girl and you then just sort of just say yes, I can see it happening.
00:01:07.620 Would you guys get married without a wedding?
00:01:10.560 No.
00:01:11.560 What's the point?
00:01:12.580 You wouldn't?
00:01:13.200 No.
00:01:13.980 Why?
00:01:14.300 Just because I think it's such a, and I'm not one of those girls who's like dreamed of this big white wedding my whole life.
00:01:20.360 Like, I still don't really know too much where I want my wedding and stuff, but I think it's just a nice way to just bring everyone that you love and share that special memory with them, to be honest.
00:01:31.080 You can team school.
00:01:31.760 That's what Christmas is for.
00:01:34.620 Christmas is for that.
00:01:35.900 Rose turkey, family, you only see once a year.
00:01:38.500 Yeah, that's what Christmas is for.
00:01:39.360 But what if he says, okay, we don't have, like, money right now, um, let's just go to the courthouse and get this thing done, I want to be your husband.
00:01:46.840 Isn't that more important than the wedding?
00:01:48.240 I mean, that's what my parents did, to be fair.
00:01:50.420 So, why can't you do it?
00:01:52.260 I mean, yeah, I would.
00:01:53.700 It's not that I wouldn't want to do it, but I'd also want that big special day.
00:01:58.540 Would you be comfortable with getting that down the line?
00:02:02.980 Say that again?
00:02:03.800 Would you be comfortable with getting that big day down the line as more like a certificate of your union and marriage?
00:02:10.060 Yeah, I could do that.
00:02:10.980 So, like, small now and then big, maybe five years, ten years.
00:02:13.600 Yeah, I could do that, to be fair.
00:02:14.960 Why is it not enough to just have been picked, though?
00:02:17.280 Like, if a guy is literally telling you he wants to marry you, like, why do you need some kind of signification that you've achieved this great thing?
00:02:26.500 Like, why is it not just enough in your heart that this guy wants to be my husband?
00:02:30.080 Because they want to flex.
00:02:30.320 You wanted it earlier.
00:02:31.380 No, no, they want to flex.
00:02:32.160 No, I agree with that.
00:02:33.180 I agree with that.
00:02:33.720 Why do you need a legal documentation to tell me that?
00:02:36.280 No, I mean the wedding day.
00:02:36.700 No, the actual wedding day.
00:02:37.380 Oh, okay.
00:02:38.200 I'm deeper, sorry.
00:02:39.060 Don't get me wrong.
00:02:40.100 Of course, it's nice.
00:02:41.360 Like you say, you get your family and friends together.
00:02:43.360 Yeah.
00:02:43.660 Who doesn't want that? 0.53
00:02:44.620 Especially when, you know, because the bride's family meets the groom's family.
00:02:47.700 Like, that's lovely.
00:02:48.980 But at the end of the day, the marriage signifies a partnership and a commitment.
00:02:53.060 And why do you need that wedding day? 0.97
00:02:56.640 So, he asked if you would take it if you had that big day down the line.
00:03:00.440 Would you do it if there was no big day?
00:03:02.700 He just wanted to be your husband, but you didn't have the money for a wedding.
00:03:05.740 So, like, that was it.
00:03:06.980 You just go to the courthouse or whatever and get the document.
00:03:09.480 I mean, of course, if I was completely in love with the man and I saw a future with
00:03:14.680 him and I wanted to live my life with him, of course, I'm not going to say no.
00:03:18.500 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:18.920 Because it is about the marriage at the end of the day.
00:03:21.040 But just for me, I love memories.
00:03:23.760 And I think that would be a celebration of what's to come.
00:03:26.740 So, for me, it's like the beginning of the story.
00:03:29.060 What about the memories that you'd make in the marriage?
00:03:31.880 Yeah, no, of course, but it would be like a celebration of the beginning of the future.
00:03:36.760 But wouldn't you make memories in him asking you, the feeling that you get and knowing
00:03:42.540 that he wants to make that commitment, walking down to the courthouse together, having that
00:03:46.300 private moment together, then whatever you do after.
00:03:48.920 You get all the glasses of champagne.
00:03:50.840 You don't need everyone else to confirm that you've done something great.
00:03:55.700 You don't need to seek validation from everyone else.
00:03:58.360 This is kind of making me want a courthouse wedding.
00:04:01.340 I've got a question for you, for the women, yeah? 1.00
00:04:03.400 Would you women agree or disagree that the more a man has to kind of do in the relationship
00:04:10.320 is like the less you kind of like him as a person?
00:04:14.140 Say that again. 0.71
00:04:14.720 What do you mean?
00:04:15.200 So, for instance, if he has to do the most big wedding, big this, big that.
00:04:19.660 He's lacking.
00:04:20.740 He's kind of lacking.
00:04:21.980 Because without that, you said you have to be in love with him 100% and all these other factors.
00:04:26.120 Whereas, if you really just, you mess with him as an individual, he doesn't really have
00:04:31.360 to do the extras.
00:04:32.700 Because I notice, if I'm not someone's cup of tea, I might have to jump through a hoop
00:04:36.840 or two.
00:04:37.620 If I'm her cup of tea, but we're chilling on biscuits, it's all good.
00:04:42.700 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:43.280 So, there's a difference.
00:04:44.460 So, would you guys agree or disagree with that?
00:04:46.320 Basically, I think what he's saying is, you said that you would do the courthouse if
00:04:50.500 you loved him 100%.
00:04:51.660 Let's say you loved him 70%.
00:04:53.460 Then I wouldn't get married to someone.
00:04:54.940 Does he have to do the white wedding? 0.65
00:04:57.200 70% is high, though.
00:04:58.480 Who's reading about 100%?
00:05:00.340 I think you're right.
00:05:01.340 The more you have to do for a girl, the less she probably does like him.
00:05:04.640 Yeah.
00:05:04.820 Yeah, facts.
00:05:05.760 Yeah, because when you're really into it, you're always thinking about what he wants, what he...
00:05:10.600 You'll have to be just to be around him.
00:05:12.020 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:13.720 Listen to Amanda.
00:05:14.640 Madam, listen to that, because if you're doing the most, it means you don't like him.
00:05:17.600 She's not into you like that, for real.
00:05:19.760 And you set a precedent as well to say, you know what?
00:05:21.980 For you to be with me, I have to come with all these things.
00:05:24.440 Men don't realize how valuable their attention is.
00:05:27.860 Like, because I think women would not... 1.00
00:05:29.660 We would not survive without male attention.
00:05:31.860 If men treated their attention like it was valuable, women would have a very different behavior. 1.00
00:05:36.440 Yeah, guys throw attention at turnips.
00:05:38.840 I've been watching Capybara TikToks for a long time, right? 0.98
00:05:41.600 You know the animal, the Capybara?
00:05:45.060 I don't know what that is.
00:05:46.300 No, seriously.
00:05:47.680 Imagine if every guy said, you know what?
00:05:49.660 I'm not going to accept a girl that has slept with double-digit people. 1.00
00:05:53.400 I'm not going to accept women that are overweight. 1.00
00:05:57.120 I'm not going to accept women with children out of wedlock. 1.00
00:06:00.500 Jesus.
00:06:01.140 Women would make different decisions. 1.00
00:06:03.060 Yeah.
00:06:03.080 Like, imagine if women would not leave their husbands if they didn't think there was a 1.00
00:06:07.600 simp waiting for them.
00:06:08.780 They would not. 0.98
00:06:09.860 Women would not. 1.00
00:06:11.180 They would stay.
00:06:12.140 But it's like, because men will give their attention, which is so...
00:06:15.800 It is so valuable.
00:06:17.640 Like, we cannot survive without male attention.
00:06:20.700 That's why women without dads, like, they're messed up. 1.00
00:06:24.120 Because they didn't get that male attention, so they have to go somewhere else.
00:06:27.320 Male attention is valuable, and if men were more selective with who they gave it to, I
00:06:33.280 think women, like, would be better in a way. 1.00
00:06:35.980 Yeah, I see.
00:06:36.500 Yeah, that's true.
00:06:37.540 But doesn't that link to the whole thing where there was a thing where it's like, guys only
00:06:42.420 go as far in terms of courting as women allow? 1.00
00:06:46.220 Oh, true.
00:06:46.900 So, like, back in the day, Victorian times, why did everyone back then used to court and
00:06:52.200 used to wear, like, the big corsets and have to date someone for, like, two months before
00:06:56.760 you could even see the form of their legs?
00:06:57.980 No, it's not.
00:06:58.520 It's not.
00:06:58.960 No, it's not the men's responsibility.
00:07:01.380 Yeah, it's the women's. 0.98
00:07:02.120 Like, no, it's the sexual market.
00:07:03.820 Like, the purity of women is the women's responsibility because we're in control of sex. 1.00
00:07:08.120 Exactly, yeah.
00:07:08.660 But I do think that the quality, I don't want to say quality, but, like, men, they'll still
00:07:15.820 wife women that have no business being wife, that should be in the streets forever, or 1.00
00:07:20.620 that have had...
00:07:21.280 Like, if you have two different baby daddies, why is anybody marrying you? 1.00
00:07:24.000 Leave you in the streets.
00:07:24.640 Why is any...
00:07:25.360 Leave her, like... 0.99
00:07:26.360 What was her name of the girl with the basketball player, Brittany Renner?
00:07:31.840 Yeah.
00:07:32.320 Brittany Renner.
00:07:33.000 Friend of the show.
00:07:35.020 Brittany Renner.
00:07:35.920 She's one of those girls in that type of situation where it's like, you know her past so well
00:07:40.700 that, like, there's no way of hell.
00:07:42.480 Some women can just be really unlucky. 1.00
00:07:44.600 Like, they fell for somebody.
00:07:45.720 She's not one of those women. 1.00
00:07:46.920 Fell for somebody.
00:07:47.840 Had a kid.
00:07:48.700 Fell for somebody.
00:07:49.200 I think that's an excuse.
00:07:50.580 Had a kid.
00:07:51.300 You choose what you do with your own body.
00:07:53.520 In the same argument as you were saying earlier about if you should have children or not,
00:07:57.480 and you said, oh, it's a woman's body. 1.00
00:07:58.620 I imagine you were referring to abortion, and you have the right...
00:08:02.040 I think you're in complete control.
00:08:03.880 So, you have complete control to not open your legs to every man.
00:08:07.580 Yeah, but people get divorced too. 1.00
00:08:09.720 But there's people that have, like, two, three marriages.
00:08:11.460 And that's not even, like, a small amount.
00:08:13.500 A lot of people get divorced.
00:08:14.360 I'm not even trying to be like...
00:08:14.960 What's the percentage of the women are the ones divorcing? 1.00
00:08:18.600 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:19.360 Like...
00:08:19.600 Yeah, I mean, there's definitely a part to play in that.
00:08:22.340 A part?
00:08:23.120 No, but what I was trying to say is, if I have a relationship with a female, and I'm 0.97
00:08:27.560 with her for five years, and I have a child, and I have a relationship with someone else
00:08:31.780 for a year, and I have a child, like, I'm talking vice versa.
00:08:35.500 Okay, okay, okay, I have a really good solution here. 0.87
00:08:38.080 Okay, don't have sex with people you don't want to have kids with, or, you know, use
00:08:43.840 birth control of some sort.
00:08:46.320 Condoms.
00:08:46.780 Yeah, you know, there's, like, a billion different forms.
00:08:49.180 You can pick one.
00:08:50.380 And maybe, you know, if you have a kid with someone, stay.
00:08:54.860 Those are three valuable, very valuable options.
00:08:57.440 But you can't say if you're not unhappy just because you have a family.
00:08:58.720 But what about the kid's happiness?
00:09:00.100 Why does everyone always go to their own happiness?
00:09:02.240 What about the kid's happiness?
00:09:03.660 Children who come from single-parent homes, unfortunately, statistically, are worse off.
00:09:07.800 That is a fact.
00:09:08.800 True.
00:09:09.200 So you are going against the odds for the sake of your, you're going, you're forcing
00:09:13.880 your child's life against the odds for the sake of your momentary happiness.
00:09:17.520 Happiness is a feeling.
00:09:18.480 They last temporary, like all feelings, whereas that child's development is permanent because
00:09:24.540 of the way that the brain develops.
00:09:26.000 Everything that happens in childhood is a building block.
00:09:27.860 Yeah, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:30.660 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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