JustPearlyThings - July 21, 2023


Woman REVEALS This Red Pill To The Entire Panel


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11 minutes

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In this episode, we talk about monogamy and how it's not always easy being in a monogamous relationship. We talk about what it's like to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to have sex with their significant other and how to deal with that. We also talk about the challenges of being a single parent and how we deal with it.

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00:00:00.000 I am just so curious though, what if she say had a personal trainer, started to like him and she did want to engage with him.
00:00:07.700 What is it about the rules that would stop you allowing her to be the guy?
00:00:11.100 It's just like 100% off limits from my side.
00:00:13.160 But why?
00:00:14.380 It's just how it is.
00:00:15.160 I get it as a bloke.
00:00:16.100 I tell them why.
00:00:18.280 I'm not sounding with him, I get it.
00:00:19.440 I don't want some guy banging my chick. 1.00
00:00:21.100 Yeah, I get it.
00:00:21.880 You might think it's double standards.
00:00:23.320 I'd say it's not.
00:00:23.900 It's a double standard.
00:00:24.800 But even as women, do you want to bang a bunch of dudes? 1.00
00:00:28.440 No.
00:00:28.820 No, that's the thing.
00:00:29.680 Sometimes it's like, I can say like, oh, sometimes like John arrives and then, oh, let's, you know, let's have sex.
00:00:39.200 Sometimes I'm like so tired and it's like, oh, can you like, you know?
00:00:43.880 So I, I, I'm fine if I say like, oh, not tonight, you know, because I know he's going to be fine.
00:00:50.160 And I'm not like, you know, cutting him like so, you know, and it's not like something that's like, I feel I need so much.
00:00:57.880 Because I'm, there's so many activities that I want to do.
00:01:01.840 That's the truth.
00:01:03.100 There's so many things that, oh, I want to do that.
00:01:05.340 I want to do that.
00:01:05.940 I want to do that.
00:01:06.480 So when he goes and bangs and like come back happy, it's like, oh, this is, this is done.
00:01:12.740 Check.
00:01:13.080 So this is fine.
00:01:14.400 And then also I can do my stuff.
00:01:15.640 So we have like this thing together, you know, like we want to help each other.
00:01:20.940 Like, you know, when I say activities, I say like stupid shit, like painting.
00:01:24.360 I love painting.
00:01:24.940 Every guy wants to be John right now.
00:01:26.740 But I do want to know, how does he help you?
00:01:28.880 So you help a lot.
00:01:30.060 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:30.540 You're very open.
00:01:31.660 How does he point to you?
00:01:32.400 No, he is awesome.
00:01:33.600 He's like, he's really happy.
00:01:35.340 Does he help you financially?
00:01:37.180 Yes.
00:01:37.960 Like I used to have a job.
00:01:39.480 Uh-huh.
00:01:40.120 And it was like that thing.
00:01:42.000 They don't make much in Brazil, right?
00:01:43.600 I love my job.
00:01:44.420 She was like a high-end engineer.
00:01:46.160 Right.
00:01:46.600 I did love my job.
00:01:47.680 Seriously, I love my job.
00:01:49.060 But the problem is being inside of my job and having to take care of like the house, John,
00:01:55.660 like the dogs, it was like just like too much for me.
00:01:58.860 Why?
00:01:59.200 Because like I would do everything like kind of.
00:02:02.360 And I hate that feeling because it like really starts to like stress me out.
00:02:07.320 So, and then he was like, dude, you can like do this little things here and this.
00:02:13.080 So, because he provides you give back in that way.
00:02:16.180 Exactly.
00:02:16.680 Like, I understand.
00:02:17.960 No.
00:02:18.340 Yeah.
00:02:18.580 So, it's like, it's not hard.
00:02:20.080 It's an earned privilege.
00:02:21.120 Yeah.
00:02:21.380 It's not like a hard thing, you know?
00:02:24.460 Baby, we need that.
00:02:25.820 So, God forbid he lost his job.
00:02:27.820 He's going to have to get back to monogamy real quick then.
00:02:30.540 But it's like when I first met him, to be honest, like today we have like all maids, 0.95
00:02:38.040 we have people to walk the dogs, we have everything.
00:02:40.360 But when I first met him and you have everything that we can buy, you don't care about so many
00:02:46.580 expensive shit.
00:02:48.700 So, for us it's easy, you know?
00:02:50.640 Like we, he makes some amount that we don't even have time to spend.
00:02:56.040 Like, let's say like that.
00:02:57.180 So, it's easy.
00:02:57.920 It's not like, oh, but like when I first met him, like three years ago, he wasn't rich.
00:03:03.720 He didn't have like that much money.
00:03:05.880 And he was like, he did this stuff.
00:03:07.900 Like, we always try to help.
00:03:09.260 And it wasn't like, Liz, you have to do this, you have to do that.
00:03:12.900 No, it was like, I can do this, so you can do that.
00:03:17.700 I can do this, you can do that.
00:03:19.460 There was a point that like his company was doing bad and I was like my job and I was just
00:03:23.980 thinking, dude, if it goes bad, because like he likes some stuff, but I was just saying,
00:03:30.620 oh, am I able to take us with my wage for some time?
00:03:35.700 And I was to say, okay, so I need to work a little bit more here.
00:03:39.060 So, I was willing to do that because like I chose for, it's like for his mind, you know?
00:03:45.220 I think his mind is really fascinating for me.
00:03:47.960 Well, I found that the girls that say, like he has to earn my submission or he has to make
00:03:53.700 him a bunch of money, they're just keeping score.
00:03:56.160 Yeah.
00:03:56.380 Like relationships aren't good if you're keeping score of what he's doing for you and what
00:03:59.520 you're doing for him.
00:04:00.640 Yeah.
00:04:01.680 Should be natural.
00:04:02.260 I'm curious from the girls. 0.81
00:04:04.820 Okay.
00:04:05.580 Would you rather date a guy you don't, all right, this is for a lifetime.
00:04:09.800 Okay.
00:04:10.520 One guy you don't really like.
00:04:12.940 So, I don't know.
00:04:13.500 Think of the last guy you dated that you just, you're kind of into him, kind of not.
00:04:17.860 Everyone got someone in their head.
00:04:19.100 Okay.
00:04:19.920 Now, now, come on.
00:04:21.360 I mean, you're thinking of someone.
00:04:22.320 I don't know.
00:04:23.060 You're thinking of someone a lot.
00:04:24.420 Or the guy you liked the most.
00:04:26.820 So, the guy you were the most in love with would do anything, got him in your head.
00:04:30.880 Now, would you rather share the guy you liked the most ever and this sort of, maybe not
00:04:37.700 as, you know, maybe it's not his job to screw other girls, but every now and then he's
00:04:41.400 going to get some strange, but you're the main, you're the main.
00:04:44.360 Or stay with the guy that you, eh, kind of liked for life.
00:04:48.360 Kind of liked.
00:04:49.240 Kind of liked.
00:04:50.240 Kind of liked.
00:04:51.520 Can I just say something?
00:04:52.660 I won't share the guy that I like the most, but I'll share the guy that I don't like the
00:04:56.140 most.
00:04:56.700 So, if I like you that much, I want you to be mine.
00:04:59.040 If I don't like you, I'm happy to.
00:05:01.300 If you provide for me, we have an agreement.
00:05:04.600 There you go.
00:05:05.140 Go do whatever you want.
00:05:06.180 I don't give two Fs.
00:05:08.160 Okay.
00:05:08.660 What about you?
00:05:09.560 I mean, I'd rather just stay single, but if I had to pick one, it'd probably be the guy
00:05:13.620 that I don't really like.
00:05:14.760 Because if I really like someone, I am jealous and I am petty as well.
00:05:19.500 And I will do the most if I like you and you're not mine.
00:05:23.280 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:24.640 So, that's my answer.
00:05:25.820 Okay.
00:05:26.080 What about you?
00:05:26.520 It's a difficult one because if you're living with someone that you don't like, you're going
00:05:30.320 to be very miserable and very unhappy.
00:05:33.780 So, would you rather just build yourself to a confidence where you don't mind?
00:05:38.980 And like, I see she's so confident and she's happy.
00:05:42.220 I would rather be with someone that I love and be happy.
00:05:45.260 So, but, but my, do you guys think that most men cheat or no?
00:05:52.160 Yeah.
00:05:52.560 Yeah.
00:05:52.880 Depends where you can get him from.
00:05:54.340 So, why would it be different with you?
00:05:56.780 Like, in your case, it would be like, oh, my guy won't cheat on me.
00:05:59.440 He's going to change for me.
00:06:00.740 It's the same thing.
00:06:01.680 It's just the respect.
00:06:03.300 Yeah.
00:06:03.500 You know?
00:06:04.340 I definitely, it's the respect.
00:06:06.580 I salute you.
00:06:07.760 And I think you're like, I can sense you guys are both are great people, you know, and you're
00:06:12.400 like really subtle, sure of who you are.
00:06:14.860 And it takes a lot of work to do that.
00:06:17.280 But there is also a red line.
00:06:20.040 I think that just boundaries, if you want to create children, healthy relationship, because
00:06:25.580 it's easier, you have to work way harder than I have to work.
00:06:29.540 I'm like, I know my boundaries.
00:06:31.080 He knows his boundaries.
00:06:32.300 Things might slip out of balance.
00:06:34.080 We just like forgive, forget, blah, blah, blah, work them out.
00:06:37.380 But the work that you both have to do, and maybe you're naturally, I can, I can sense that
00:06:41.640 you're naturally are not jealous person, you know, you're naturally are way more open-minded
00:06:46.260 than a lot of women. 1.00
00:06:47.620 But she also met him doing that.
00:06:49.380 Yes, but I think also in the future, when you have kids, things might get out of balance.
00:06:54.160 It's harder work.
00:06:55.680 I think, you know, if you just see relationship, traditional relationship, the most successful
00:07:00.500 relationship was just stay with your woman.
00:07:02.860 If you cheated, don't ever let her know.
00:07:05.220 Same.
00:07:05.840 If she cheated, don't ever.
00:07:07.180 I tried that.
00:07:07.260 I tried that in the beginning, right?
00:07:08.520 Yeah.
00:07:08.820 And there was like times where like she came over and like there was like she came over
00:07:12.060 early or maybe not even early, but I was like sloppy and she like arrived and I was with
00:07:15.200 a girl.
00:07:15.840 Yeah.
00:07:16.140 And it's like giant fight.
00:07:17.180 Right.
00:07:18.060 But we keep, we keep like the emotional stuff like segmented.
00:07:21.140 Separate.
00:07:21.500 Yeah.
00:07:21.640 Like the love and the affection and stuff just with her.
00:07:24.080 Yeah.
00:07:24.400 And that's a lot of work.
00:07:25.740 No.
00:07:26.100 Do you want kids together?
00:07:27.300 Potentially, but we're not sure yet.
00:07:28.860 Are you going to carry on doing this when you have kids?
00:07:31.740 With chat GPT out, I don't know about how much longer the world will be normal.
00:07:35.980 But no, I mean, we're, we're pretty happy with the three dogs we have.
00:07:38.820 It still allows flexibility to travel and do all these.
00:07:40.940 Yeah.
00:07:41.080 It's interesting.
00:07:41.720 Well, I'm curious because you guys going to get older.
00:07:43.860 There's, there is like a reduce of your sexual needs.
00:07:47.400 You probably won't even need to have as much.
00:07:51.340 How old are you guys?
00:07:52.560 I'm going to turn 40 in October.
00:07:54.040 Yeah.
00:07:54.460 But I, but I take like supplemental testosterone to an endocrinologist.
00:07:57.320 I still take like maca and the different libido supplements.
00:08:00.180 So I still have.
00:08:00.860 My point is if that is what brings you fulfillment right, right now, at this point, what would
00:08:05.880 bring you fulfillment in the future?
00:08:08.260 I don't know.
00:08:08.660 I mean, like I come from an interesting background.
00:08:11.060 Like the reason why I went and slept with 1600 girls, like I came from like a pretty verbal 0.76
00:08:14.540 abusive childhood where like my parents are really nice people, but they're always saying
00:08:17.760 like, you're going to be nothing.
00:08:19.020 You're going to be a failure.
00:08:20.220 You're going to be this, like that.
00:08:21.460 And when I like sleep with a new girl, it makes me like feel like, oh, I'm not like that.
00:08:26.220 Yeah.
00:08:26.660 So the element of you compensating then a little bit there.
00:08:29.880 I don't know if it's compensating, but it's, it's definitely like, you know, I wouldn't
00:08:32.840 have gone and done this had I not come from that background.
00:08:34.980 Like people, like a lot of like the best UFC fighters, they're bullied for instance,
00:08:38.500 as a kid.
00:08:39.180 And they were like, I'm going to become the best fighter in the world.
00:08:41.620 So like, I think my mom like stripped all the like validation for me, like routinely 0.81
00:08:47.020 over, over all this period of time.
00:08:48.100 And the way you come back is to sleep with women to make up for that trauma. 0.98
00:08:51.860 But then what would you, all right, cool.
00:08:54.660 I'm a client.
00:08:55.340 I'm a guy.
00:08:56.560 I come to you and I say to you, right.
00:08:59.360 I sleep with, I don't know, eight women a week, right? 0.99
00:09:05.060 I've been doing it for years, years, years, but now I'm ready to commit to one woman.
00:09:09.380 What advice would you give me?
00:09:10.860 If you want to go from, from seeing a bunch of people just to one, because that's obviously
00:09:15.880 helping me.
00:09:17.380 That's helping my confidence and that's fulfilling.
00:09:19.920 So how would you say to me, cool, stop that, stick to one woman. 0.73
00:09:23.920 And this is how you can.
00:09:25.080 Well, I don't, I don't, I don't ever tell them like, you know, you should just be doing this.
00:09:28.940 But you know, I don't tell them like any societal narratives.
00:09:31.000 I don't tell guys to get a girlfriend or wife or bang a bunch of girls or see a bunch of 1.00
00:09:34.720 girls on the side.
00:09:35.140 But if they asked, I want to be with one woman, how can I go about that? 0.98
00:09:38.980 Would you even give them advice?
00:09:40.660 Yeah.
00:09:41.260 I just want to know.
00:09:42.200 I just want to know.
00:09:42.680 Lots of, lots of guys just want girlfriends, but, but most of them like in practice, like
00:09:46.440 once I teach them to be able to have a bunch of options and they pick the best one usually
00:09:50.420 and get more serious with that one.
00:09:52.160 But you know, if they had that issue where they were seeing a bunch, I would, you know,
00:09:56.560 they have to like realign their internal values and stuff like that, I guess, but they
00:10:00.560 wouldn't even want to do that.
00:10:01.360 I don't think.
00:10:01.660 Do you guys, who here out of the women thinks that all men cheat when given the chance?
00:10:07.100 You know what?
00:10:07.600 I would have to say.
00:10:08.280 I discovered something new tonight completely because she's stunning, gorgeous, right?
00:10:13.180 And a lot of women that get cheated on, they will just say, I'm out of shape. 1.00
00:10:18.400 I'm less, but it's just, I'm realizing your looks and who you are won't stop men cheating
00:10:25.940 and wanting to.
00:10:26.860 I want to, I want to just get this.
00:10:29.080 All right.
00:10:29.360 You think yes.
00:10:30.620 Raise your hand if you think yes.
00:10:32.000 All men cheat when given the chance. 0.80
00:10:34.940 Yeah.
00:10:35.720 Okay.
00:10:36.000 So, um, three girls, I'm just curious.
00:10:39.260 So NBA players have women and I know this, um, I just interviewed a guy who he has like
00:10:44.940 good friends with a couple professional sports players.
00:10:47.460 Right.
00:10:48.160 And he said that on the sidelines, these girls that are tens, okay, nines and tens will come 1.00
00:10:54.280 to their games and just offer them threesomes and say like, we're, we're available and they 0.92
00:10:58.200 hunt them down and try to get them to cheat on their wives. 1.00