JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023


Women Are IRRESPONSIBLE In Decision Making


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In this episode, we discuss the pro-choice movement and the role of men when it comes to abortion. Who is more responsible for an unplanned pregnancy? Should men have a say in abortion? Should women have more say in the matter?

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00:00:00.000 So coming back to the original question was like, should man have a choice when it comes to abortion?
00:00:05.320 100%.
00:00:05.720 Based on that opinion, you would be no, right?
00:00:09.580 I mean, you guys are fighting for equality, right?
00:00:11.540 So why can't we get it?
00:00:12.340 Pearl's just literally said with her home words that it's our responsibility.
00:00:16.560 So why would you get a say if it's our responsibility?
00:00:18.760 I said it's, we have more choices, so we are more responsible.
00:00:22.180 So if we're more responsible, why do we not have the same percentage of choice?
00:00:25.460 Okay, but you're only having that large percentage of choice while it's in your stomach, right?
00:00:30.080 And that's what you're debating.
00:00:31.080 But what happens when it comes out?
00:00:32.120 I said who's responsible for birth, pregnancy, birth, both. 0.63
00:00:36.660 Plus I feel like it's the egg and the sperm.
00:00:40.680 It's not just, it's like half, half, right?
00:00:42.940 So it's like it takes two to tango.
00:00:44.780 But if it's 50-50, then why are we more responsible?
00:00:47.400 Because we carry it.
00:00:49.260 No, I'm saying if there's an unplanned pregnancy, like we, as women, we have so much more choice than the men.
00:00:57.080 So like we can, we can do abstinence if we want.
00:01:00.000 Like we all could have waited until we were married.
00:01:02.020 You know, we can also, we also have the choice to require the men that we sleep with wear condoms.
00:01:07.620 We could do that.
00:01:08.500 We could also, we also have the choice to get on birth control.
00:01:11.460 You can get an IUD, you can get a pill, that thing in your arm.
00:01:14.080 I know there's side effects, but that's our choice, right?
00:01:17.220 On top of that, we also can be wise with who we sleep with and not sleep with anyone that wouldn't be not a good father.
00:01:23.200 We also have the choice to get an abortion. 0.68
00:01:25.140 We also have the choice to put a man on child support.
00:01:27.400 We also have the choice to get married and leave and then take half.
00:01:31.840 We also get more child support if we take away the kids from the dad.
00:01:36.200 So we're financially incentivized to take away the children.
00:01:39.720 So they have all of the, we have all of this choice and the men have condom or no condom.
00:01:44.700 So it's like, if we have 10 choices, that's a pre-pregnancy choice that the man has, post-pregnancy choice, it would depend on a lot of the things.
00:01:52.160 Yeah, of course we have that choice, but divorce doesn't just get, you don't just automatically get half based on absolutely nothing.
00:01:58.540 Like if you're a woman that's like worked and earned a certain amount of money, it does come down to certain numbers, right? 0.75
00:02:03.740 There's a small percentage of women, but women don't typically make more than men. 1.00
00:02:07.940 We make less and we spend more.
00:02:09.920 And there's also, I just learned about this the other day, there's lawsuits going on in the U.S.
00:02:15.740 where they overestimate how much it costs to raise a child, basically, just so they can get more child support in court.
00:02:23.860 So they'll say like, it costs this much to raise a child, even though it doesn't, like, for example, let's do Kanye West and Kim Kardashian.
00:02:29.540 Like, why does that girl, and she out earns him and he's a billionaire and he still has to pay how much in child support?
00:02:35.940 $200,000.
00:02:36.780 Yeah, $200,000 a month and that's a billionaire woman. 1.00
00:02:39.300 So what happens to the average man if a multimillionaire that married a billionaire can't escape child support?
00:02:46.320 So you believe that a man shouldn't have any say in an abortion or should, based on the fact that you acknowledge that women have all the responsibility? 0.87
00:02:54.220 No, I'm saying like we are more responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.
00:02:58.100 Like it's more of our fault.
00:02:59.960 And we actually avoid the responsibility after because we make the men pay for our poor choices.
00:03:06.020 So you think that they should have more say in abortions or not?
00:03:09.340 I think that abortion, if it was up to me, it would be illegal.
00:03:12.520 Yeah.
00:03:12.940 So I don't think anyone should have to say.
00:03:15.960 But if it was to be that, what would be your, like, if abortions were not illegal and you were on the side of pro-choice.
00:03:24.520 If I was pro-choice.
00:03:25.440 You would think that it would have to be a signature from the man and the woman for enable, to enable the actual like surgical or procedure to continue based on the facts.
00:03:36.360 That's a good question.
00:03:37.500 That's our responsibility.
00:03:37.600 But see, that's hard because I wouldn't even, I wouldn't be pro-choice to begin with.
00:03:43.120 So why is the question like relevant?
00:03:46.220 Why?
00:03:46.720 Because you're pro-choice.
00:03:47.820 That's what I was asking.
00:03:48.940 Yeah.
00:03:49.080 Um, but if, if you're pro-life, like you don't believe in abortion to begin with, so you wouldn't even get there.
00:03:54.620 So it's not about the masculine and femininist purely based on.
00:03:58.040 It's just like, like feminists fought for equality. 1.00
00:04:00.420 Here it is.
00:04:01.740 Well, guys, guys that are pro-life, right?
00:04:04.240 So when I got pregnant twice, I was actually on, um, anti-contraception.
00:04:08.800 Um, how would you, how would you react to that?
00:04:11.260 Like, obviously.
00:04:12.120 What contraception?
00:04:13.600 Um, I was on pills.
00:04:15.060 Okay.
00:04:15.600 Yeah.
00:04:16.060 And I was taking them regularly.
00:04:17.900 And both of the times I even changed my pills just to make sure, you know, it's a different one.
00:04:23.180 And, and both of the times I actually got pregnant.
00:04:26.140 So it's, it's, it's kind of difficult.
00:04:28.380 Like when you actually don't want to.
00:04:29.460 You didn't switch after the first time?
00:04:31.120 Um, what do you mean?
00:04:31.880 After the first like pregnancy, you didn't switch birth control?
00:04:34.480 I did.
00:04:34.800 I did.
00:04:35.040 That's why I said I tried different ones.
00:04:36.620 Yeah.
00:04:37.020 And then the, the other one is a different one and it still didn't work.
00:04:40.800 And I looked specifically just to check, like, I made sure that I took one.
00:04:44.860 I even had an alarm set, you know, and it is, what would you say to that?
00:04:48.100 I'm curious.
00:04:48.960 Why didn't you get an IUD?
00:04:50.660 That's like, that's the most effective one.
00:04:52.380 What's that?
00:04:53.240 Um, what's the coil?
00:04:55.440 I don't know.
00:04:56.340 Oh, is that what you guys call it here?
00:04:57.540 The coil?
00:04:58.160 I had a coil.
00:04:59.320 I had a coil.
00:04:59.880 Um, but it went, um, it got stuck, um, under, I couldn't breathe.
00:05:04.040 I had to, they didn't even know that it, um, it was that it was stuck under, it was attached
00:05:10.160 to one of the womb tissues or something.
00:05:12.940 It was so painful.
00:05:13.780 And I kept saying like, something's wrong.
00:05:15.900 And they were like, no, nothing's wrong.
00:05:17.220 You ain't had children.
00:05:18.440 So it's, it's not that, you know?
00:05:20.120 And I had to actually go privately, pay for x-rays.
00:05:23.080 And then they told me, no, it's that.
00:05:24.600 And they had to get it out.
00:05:25.520 I mean, I just think, um, you also only ovulate three days a month.
00:05:28.780 So I think you can track your ovulation.
00:05:31.200 Um, I think you can wear condoms and I think you can not have sex. 0.94
00:05:35.580 Yeah.
00:05:35.960 That's another thing.
00:05:36.780 Um, but yeah, and I just think like, I'm just a big fan of like, you kind of made your
00:05:42.080 bed lie in it.
00:05:43.020 And at some point, like something went wrong.
00:05:45.640 Yeah.
00:05:46.320 Um, but you, you can't see it.
00:05:48.480 I can, I don't see it from the same perspective as, you know, I know a lot of people that's
00:05:54.860 like, you know, just trying to justify, you know, I was on the pill and all this.
00:05:58.600 Um, simple, simple biology, sex creates children, can't, not always, but it's, it's cause and 0.97
00:06:08.440 effect.
00:06:09.180 And I just think we've, and I get it.
00:06:11.760 I say this as a, as someone who, who got pregnant and had a child at 22, that typical age.
00:06:17.500 Um, and, um, yeah, it's like, it's, it's, we've lost, we've lost that in society.
00:06:24.880 It's like, it's my right to have sex with who I want and, um, not have any consequences.
00:06:31.320 And, and I, and I find it hard to say that word consequent because I, I was, I was silly.
00:06:37.420 I made a mistake, but I've been blessed with a child and I've got a beautiful daughter.
00:06:41.120 So I, I don't see it as, oh, that was my punishment or that was my, you know, for, for,
00:06:47.040 for being careless.
00:06:49.400 Um, but it's just, I think we just need to get back to the place of society as just looking
00:06:54.840 at what sex is.
00:06:56.160 And, you know, if you don't want to have a child, then maybe sex should be like, you 0.80
00:07:02.240 know, if, if you're not ready to have a child, then, you know, why are we engaging in sex?
00:07:06.120 But sex is also pleasure and having recreation, so it's both, it's two things.
00:07:11.640 Yeah.
00:07:11.800 It's not just one.
00:07:12.460 Yeah.
00:07:12.800 And, but what's, well, if you can have a child, then surely you want to ensure that the person
00:07:17.500 you're having sex with is someone that you would be happy to have and raise a child with.
00:07:21.680 Like, cause the, cause the opposite to that is what we're left with today.
00:07:24.800 Right.
00:07:25.280 I think that's more of a, we need to be able to kill.
00:07:27.660 That's definitely a female perspective because a guy is not going to just have sex with a 1.00
00:07:31.600 woman who he's hoping to have a baby with.
00:07:33.700 He's just going to have sex with a woman because.
00:07:35.400 Yeah.
00:07:35.940 As I got, like, I just think like you can wear condoms.
00:07:40.160 Like if you're on, okay, if I'll give it to you.
00:07:43.280 If you have condoms and birth control and you track your cycle, I will give you that L. 0.76
00:07:50.160 Oh, but it's like, if you didn't do all three things, like you're responsible at some point.
00:07:55.620 Oh no.
00:07:56.200 I think she was trying to say, um, we, cause you said it was for, you said it was for pleasure
00:08:02.600 and I'm saying if you want to have sex for pleasure, fine. 0.69
00:08:06.160 Um, you can do that, but like, be careful.
00:08:09.460 And, and I just think like, if you didn't do all three of those things, like at some point
00:08:13.720 you were irresponsible.
00:08:14.580 Yeah, sexual energy as well, guys, that's a big one.
00:08:18.480 Like you don't know about this.
00:08:20.820 Okay.
00:08:21.040 I'm not going to say no, but because like, yeah.
00:08:22.980 Okay.
00:08:23.240 You can wear a condom and it'll protect you.
00:08:25.160 And in one way from STDs or creating life or whatever, but no condom is going to protect
00:08:30.140 you from transferring energy.
00:08:31.400 It's an actual energy exchange ritual, if it makes sense.
00:08:36.280 What were two people become one?
00:08:38.400 Yeah.
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00:08:46.100 on this platform.
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