JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022


Women Are Not Entitled To This...


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12 minutes

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191.69

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2,419

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2

Misogynist Sentences

10

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6


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00:00:00.000 question um do you guys think that women are entitled to child support yes or no
00:00:04.920 entitled in what context um so like do you think that the child child support should exist basically
00:00:12.020 um that's so nuanced a question i mean should it exist i think i think it i think it is there to
00:00:22.420 kind of give people that sense of you have a responsibility when things fall apart but i i
00:00:29.800 don't know i don't know if it should exist or not because you know you didn't get paid to have the
00:00:34.540 kid in the first place i mean i think if you're if it's a tricky one i think if you if you're good
00:00:40.040 and you're a good person and you want to look after your child you will look after your child
00:00:43.080 i don't think for me i think state involvement is with children is a bit of a no-no well yeah
00:00:48.220 it's not what the guy should do it's like should the government force men to pay
00:00:51.960 i don't like the word force i mean i mean because if you don't if you don't pay child support you go
00:00:59.540 to jail yeah so you are for it's like you don't in the uk you don't go to jail for child support in
00:01:04.780 uk but in america um i think i think it depends does does the opposite work in reverse in in the
00:01:11.460 united states because that's what you're referencing so if if you have a man who's got custody of his
00:01:15.620 child he's the woman obligated to pay child support in america um is she up it's not as
00:01:20.480 common um it does happen but they're usually headlines because it's the exception rather
00:01:25.440 than the rule yeah i don't i don't believe in child support at all i think you should get a job
00:01:29.700 like in a failing economy it might be hard if i missed the context i thought child support was
00:01:36.160 forcing the man to give money to the yeah yeah no it is and sometimes it's occasionally it's reverse
00:01:41.480 but i'm saying even in that context i don't understand why you can't get a job as a girl
00:01:46.580 like because you're a woman i think even when you've got a job you still have to pay that i
00:01:50.940 think i know i think it works with with residency so if you if so you know if a child is five days
00:01:56.400 out of seven with yeah she gets the the benefit it's not just child support it will be state child
00:02:02.020 benefit it will be well i think universal credit it will be anything else right but i think it should
00:02:06.220 just be automatically 50 50 like if both parents like not nothing no dv nothing of that it should
00:02:11.900 just be 50 50 and no child support so i've got a because anecdotal story okay go ahead um so when
00:02:18.200 i was raising my son right and and i i mean his mother broke up i was paying uh her without the
00:02:28.060 government right involvement so we agreed on a fee every month and i was paying that every month
00:02:33.600 and then i had my son half the week and she had him half the week so i was like all right that's
00:02:39.700 cool for me and um what happened was is that somebody said to me are you are you giving her
00:02:47.260 money every month and i was like yeah of course for my son and they were like you're not entitled to
00:02:51.380 do that you have your son half the week and i was like really and so i went on the dot gov website
00:02:59.320 and it stated yeah if two people are co actually co-parenting no one owes each other money yeah
00:03:06.320 and i was like oh what am i paying this money for so when i informed her you know what no more money
00:03:11.040 that's when problems began and that was very interesting i'd like to hear from the girls what
00:03:15.960 you guys think about child support um i feel like it should is if if you if the father is not
00:03:27.480 contributing um and he's not doing it just by you know because he's supposed to and looking after
00:03:33.280 his child etc and they there is some relationships where they can't communicate they can't come to a
00:03:40.120 common um ground the child lives with the mother um more time i do believe there have to be something
00:03:46.200 in place um because again even if the mother is working again sometimes due to child care they have
00:03:53.360 they can't work certain hours they can't do certain things and i feel like to give that child a a decent
00:03:59.600 life you would as a father would want to you know pay and do what you need to do whether that's paying
00:04:05.080 for after school clubs i do think there's other ways of contributing i don't but i do think
00:04:10.080 css child support is very toxic as well at the same time it can cause problems but it there needs
00:04:16.260 to be there also it needs to be something in place for when relationships or when parents can't come to
00:04:22.300 an agreement why because then the child gets the child gets left left in a in a why should the child
00:04:30.920 suffer basically you should have lived you know do you think that incentivizes women to make poor
00:04:35.960 reproductive choices because they get bailed out so even if you pick the the guy that clearly wasn't
00:04:42.440 a good father like you still get bailed out because we should be picking men that are will stay in the
00:04:48.940 kids lives like you seem to have a really good relationship yeah i think that but there is
00:04:53.560 sometimes where you could go you've heard stories sometimes people have been with people they've they've
00:04:58.100 been a good guy break up and they've they just change i mean you know and you just but do we
00:05:02.740 base rules based on the exception i think most girls that that happens to they saw the red flags
00:05:07.780 early on and they just don't listen to anybody yeah like yes why are you laughing because it's true
00:05:12.880 it's true right yeah but i feel like that it is i can change him i swear i do feel like the to csa
00:05:20.620 at the moment is been it is being used for the wrong reasons and i also do think
00:05:26.260 that um it will be better if parents could come to an you know an agreement i do believe i don't
00:05:32.960 think money's everything because well i feel that sometimes hands-on help is more is more better off
00:05:37.180 to be honest but everyone's different okay what do you think um i don't think the government should
00:05:43.440 be involved i think if uh two people are mature enough to have a child they should also be mature
00:05:50.220 enough to both provide for the child and whatever means necessary um but like you said i do think
00:05:56.320 it's uh necessary to have something in place for if one party can't keep up their end of the deal in
00:06:03.280 looking after the child so i think it should be harder to okay what do you think um well i had a
00:06:08.660 similar um story to you sarah one of my friends close friends was in a situation it was quite fairly
00:06:16.220 recent actually in lockdown where he couldn't provide um for his children because he lost his
00:06:22.240 job and he was paying monthly a good rate that was discussed before this encounter and out of malice
00:06:31.840 his ex was like okay well i'm gonna take it to you know i'm gonna take it to court and get my um child
00:06:39.480 maintenance increased and that was very detrimental to his mental health because this was out of his
00:06:45.040 control no one knew that the pandemic was gonna occur you know and when you're doing such you know
00:06:51.100 when you're providing such duty for your kids willingly you know despite all of the the fights
00:06:56.580 and the arguments and the break that breakouts that have occurred you're still there for your child
00:07:01.080 still trying to um provide for them and then something happens and you can't know more and then they
00:07:08.440 they use the opportunity because they've got like um the government backing them up to now account for
00:07:14.740 um the the finance is just like do you think that girls would make better reproductive choices if
00:07:20.480 they knew there were consequences yes like if maybe they knew child support wasn't an option if they
00:07:25.680 got pregnant mm-hmm yeah i feel that there would be a lot of premeditated decisions if i knew that um
00:07:33.820 you know if i'm gonna go out with a man and he's he's not gonna be there for me i'm gonna make sure i'm
00:07:38.500 i have my job i'm gonna make sure i have my house i'm make sure i'm i'm well equipped before i get
00:07:43.880 into that make sure you're on birth control yeah as well as well she wasn't gonna mention that
00:07:49.620 i didn't think i needed to i mean i i hold myself to a high regard so yeah sorry um but
00:07:56.200 oh you don't sorry yeah you can oh sorry i could tell if you were carried on sorry
00:08:00.500 no no i'm done but yeah no i just don't wait before you carry on we've got a stat over here
00:08:06.800 um if i let my brother just read that hold up this is for you charlie the rise in single father
00:08:13.580 families is significant by the office for national statistics whose family households in the uk
00:08:18.820 annual report for 2019 says since 1999 the total number of single parent especially fathers is in
00:08:26.020 the region of 2.49 million as of 2019 this is seen as a significant increase on how it was 20 years
00:08:33.400 ago that's interesting why do you think that is not the reception you're right you're not the
00:08:41.380 exception it's it's the second highest growth in single parent households in single fathers why do you
00:08:48.220 think that is um i think it's layered but i think maybe one of the reasons is um
00:08:55.840 people are realizing that women aren't the best parent all the time for the child well i think
00:09:04.440 there was a time in our history like during the me too era where it was almost like women could do
00:09:10.380 no wrong believe all women at any cost and now that things like amber heard have come out and other
00:09:17.800 you know crazy girls that like come to the forefront because again i always say this if it happens to
00:09:22.060 a celebrity who else does it happen to right like that's clearly happened to the average guy if this
00:09:26.180 could happen to someone you know super famous with money and power right um so i think like
00:09:32.820 that has really given men more rights than maybe they had in the past but the system still is really
00:09:40.080 broken it's still skewed to yeah you know it really is sorry you were going to say something
00:09:44.460 yeah just when you when it comes to you know talking about um you know women choosing who
00:09:50.220 they have sex with speaking to them when it comes to women choosing to have sex with you know again
00:09:56.120 people actually don't understand how important it is to pick a man based on is this man going to be a
00:10:02.860 good father is this man going to be here because you know 81 of teen teen parenting come from
00:10:09.040 fatherless homes you know 80 of kids on the street again often fatherless homes if you're picking a
00:10:15.500 guy who yeah just looks good and you know gets the juices going fair enough like your kids might look
00:10:20.560 good but are they going to be actually helping you know propagate society or are they going to be
00:10:26.780 a detriment to society a lot of times you know the men that women complain about come from homes
00:10:34.340 single single mother homes and it's crazy it sounds bad like i don't i don't mean to say that single
00:10:39.860 moms are evil or anything like that but a lot of the worst types of men in this world come from
00:10:46.100 single mother homes because you need a man there to sometimes give a good slap to the son's face when
00:10:51.880 he's growing up just to you know just to humble him and make you think what am i doing in my life
00:10:56.440 what where am i going where am i trying to what kind of life am i trying to lead and so yeah i just
00:11:02.300 think people need to start thinking about a bit more when they're picking who to who to go for
00:11:06.260 i think unfortunately that bad boy image that's been sold to so many women that women are attracted
00:11:12.840 to um makes them as you said gets their juices going but those quote-unquote bad boys which most
00:11:21.280 women are attracted to aren't necessarily going to be a good father right they're not necessarily going
00:11:26.080 to be a good father so i think that bad boy image has been now sold as what manhood is so even within
00:11:35.140 like rap songs right rappers are sold as like the ultimate alpha male right that's that's what it's
00:11:42.260 sold as right they're not generally a lot of them probably couldn't you know can't even do a lot of
00:11:46.700 things but it's sold like they're the they're the ultimate alpha male however those guys nine times
00:11:54.840 out of ten aren't good fathers do you know i mean they're the type of guy who you know have sex with
00:12:01.020 women here and there have a couple of babies here and there and then just move on do you know i mean
00:12:06.200 and i think a lot of women get sold i said they get sold that that hyper masculine man is the one that
00:12:13.420 they can take for you know uh a good stable family man and that's not the guy that you're gonna tame
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