JustPearlyThings - Women Are Wondering Where All The Men Went (Call-in Show)

00:00:00.000 No, because men are useless.

00:00:03.780 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.

00:00:06.700 Most young men are single, most young women are not.

00:00:09.720 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America for the last 40 years.

00:00:14.420 It's a different world now, like we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:17.460 Nobody needs men!

00:00:18.700 The future is female.

00:00:21.740 Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it.

00:00:27.560 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:31.560 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:00:34.240 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:37.800 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:41.880 Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:44.360 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:00:47.560 Now many of the red pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.

00:00:52.420 Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.

00:00:55.780 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:00:59.780 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:01:02.600 Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:07.780 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:09.940 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.

00:01:13.520 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.

00:01:16.400 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.

00:01:19.080 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:23.920 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:27.260 You need no evidence.

00:01:28.400 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for.

00:01:32.100 And you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:35.440 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:01:37.920 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:40.400 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:42.480 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:44.800 Before you know it, you're homeless.

00:01:46.260 You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:01:48.160 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.

00:01:50.320 Wives are taught to leave their husbands.

00:01:52.500 And then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:01:54.840 Family is a foundation of society.

00:01:56.560 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.

00:01:59.700 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness.

00:02:04.040 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women.

00:02:05.960 We tell women to date as many guys as possible.

00:02:07.780 We tell them to put off family into marriage.

00:02:09.540 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.

00:02:12.300 You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.

00:02:16.780 Oh, freeze your ex, have an abortion.

00:02:18.600 What?

00:02:19.020 You're evil.

00:02:19.680 I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.

00:02:23.680 Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic,

00:02:27.760 naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.

00:02:30.540 It's self-sabotage.

00:02:31.440 And that's the thing, like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.

00:02:35.220 This is not about happiness.

00:02:37.020 The most important thing is the children.

00:02:39.280 And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings,

00:02:43.760 leave when I feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids.

00:02:46.880 This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?

00:02:51.720 They think, well, men have all the rights.

00:02:53.200 They have all the power.

00:02:54.560 Privilege, patriarchal system that we have.

00:02:56.780 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?

00:02:59.380 I have no friends, no wife, and no social life.

00:03:02.640 Men are alone in this situation.

00:03:04.560 Men are homeless.

00:03:05.520 Men are thinking about eating guns.

00:03:06.880 I have seen so many men on the brink of suicide, and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:03:11.660 How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:03:17.120 The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.

00:03:20.980 Women are helplessly dependent upon men.

00:03:23.640 The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol,

00:03:27.660 three times higher among men than among women.

00:03:30.740 Culture is telling men, you are no good.

00:03:32.580 You've got to get your act together.

00:03:33.780 I think men have failed themselves.

00:03:35.180 What kind of a man are you?

00:03:36.660 What kind of a woman are you going to attract?

00:03:38.620 If men are in trouble, so are women.

00:03:41.280 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:03:44.940 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man to get...

00:03:47.180 500K.

00:03:47.860 500K.

00:03:48.480 300K.

00:03:48.800 300K.

00:03:49.260 200K.

00:03:49.700 Am I crazy?

00:03:50.400 Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.

00:03:52.660 If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.

00:03:56.260 So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?

00:04:00.120 Women.

00:04:01.580 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:04:03.620 I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.

00:04:06.020 I'm over it.

00:04:07.180 When is it going to be my turn?

00:04:08.480 Where are we meeting the men that don't stop?

00:04:10.260 I can't keep having these same conversations.

00:04:13.000 The only simp here is you, Pearl.

00:04:14.300 You simp for men.

00:04:14.700 No, I think you simp for women.

00:04:16.320 She's a provocateur.

00:04:17.300 She says stupid stuff.

00:04:18.480 But Pearl is right about this.

00:04:19.740 It's already happening.

00:04:20.900 It's just not out in the open yet.

00:04:22.340 Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending

00:04:24.960 because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband.

00:04:27.780 The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.

00:04:32.300 We go into population decline and our economy goes into decline.

00:04:36.160 Civilization will crumble.

00:04:37.940 The American story does not end well.

00:04:40.480 This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:04:43.440 What is up, guys?

00:04:51.640 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here on the Audacity Network.

00:04:55.740 I'm your host, Pearl.

00:04:56.880 And if you want to donate, we're almost to $30,000 for the divorce documentary.

00:05:01.620 As you guys know, we were on the fast track to getting this divorce documentary done

00:05:07.160 until the women decided to demonetize me, throttle my channel, and really defame me while they did it.

00:05:14.300 But we're back in the monetization program and we're doing good here.

00:05:18.240 And we're $250 away from $30,000.

00:05:20.580 If we get to around $100,000 for the documentary, we can get it done.

00:05:25.060 And if you guys donate a big amount, if you donate $20,000, you can do a video message to your ex-wife.

00:05:36.700 It could be like, or I could read it, either or.

00:05:40.580 It could be like, Diane, you are the worst woman I've ever met in my life.

00:05:46.400 You're mid, you're overweight, and you're an average at best mother.

00:05:52.960 Stop screwing the whole town.

00:05:54.840 Or whatever, you know, we'll pull whatever.

00:05:57.000 Within reason, I don't want to get sued.

00:05:59.020 Okay, guys, so today we are talking about women are now noticing that the men are gone.

00:06:06.700 So basically, women have told men for 40 years that they don't want to be approached.

00:06:12.200 They have told men that they can do everything by themselves.

00:06:15.960 And it turns out when women keep saying that, men, men, they go where they're wanted.

00:06:21.080 They'll listen and they'll leave them alone.

00:06:23.120 Mainstream media has been in denial for some time about the fact that men are disengaging from women.

00:06:29.100 It used to be expected that men would court women and romance them.

00:06:35.000 Men would move heaven and earth to attract a woman to be his girlfriend or his wife.

00:06:39.220 Women called that misogyny and patriarchy and rewrote the social contract.

00:06:43.760 Now, we have the circus that is the dating market in the modern day.

00:06:48.400 It's gotten so bad that outlets like the New York Times have finally caught on, caught wind of men responding to women's disgust and mistreatment.

00:06:58.320 A writer for the New York Times is begging men to come back to women and romance and court them again.

00:07:04.340 Let's take a look at what they want to say.

00:07:06.340 Now, by the way, guys, as I'm reading this, this is going to be a call-in show.

00:07:11.080 So, I want you guys to think of the question, if you were asked, where have the men gone, what's your answer?

00:07:22.000 So, I was excited this article took place in Chicago.

00:07:26.320 That's where I'm from.

00:07:27.240 Also, if you want unlimited super chats, it's on the website.

00:07:30.240 Okay.

00:07:30.960 A warm Saturday night in Wicker Park, a vibrant stretch of Chicago where seven restaurants crowd a single block.

00:07:36.940 Troy and I were having dinner at Mama Delia, one of the quieter spots.

00:07:42.060 The sidewalk patio held five tables, three, two tops, including ours, and a pair pulled together for a group of eight young women.

00:07:51.160 At those tables, Troy was the only man.

00:07:53.440 The scene was beautiful.

00:07:54.420 Low lights, shared plates, shoulders angled in.

00:07:57.860 This kind of evening, people wait for all winter.

00:08:01.080 But still, I found myself watching the crowd as it moved past us.

00:08:04.220 Women walking in pairs or alone, dressed without a care.

00:08:08.820 Dressed with care.

00:08:10.400 At a table after, at a table, at, sorry, I can't talk today.

00:08:17.620 At table after table, at the nearby restaurants, there was a noticeable absence of men.

00:08:22.900 At least of men seated in what looked like dates.

00:08:26.700 Troy and I have known for almost, Troy and I have known each other for almost 20 years.

00:08:31.340 We met at Playboy, of all places, back when we were both learning how desire gets packaged, sold, and sometimes misunderstood.

00:08:39.320 We stayed close friends, bonded, not just by our opinions, but by the effort it takes to stay into someone's life.

00:08:46.080 That night, we made the effort.

00:08:47.380 But still, what I saw unfolding around us felt like something else entirely.

00:08:52.180 A collective shift I couldn't unsee.

00:08:54.260 It started to become clear the previous April, where a man who had been pursuing me canceled dinner at the last minute.

00:09:01.360 There was a scheduling mix-up with his son's game.

00:09:04.080 And I understood.

00:09:05.420 I'm a hockey mom.

00:09:06.320 I get it.

00:09:06.960 Still, I went.

00:09:07.920 I wore what I would have worn anyway.

00:09:09.300 I looked at the table.

00:09:10.080 I ordered well.

00:09:11.060 And I watched the room.

00:09:13.340 Only two tables nearby seemed to hold actual dates.

00:09:16.600 The rest were groups of women or women alone, each one occupying her space with quiet confidence.

00:09:21.860 No shrinking, no waiting, no apologizing.

00:09:25.480 The night marked something.

00:09:27.140 Not a heartbreak, but an unveiling.

00:09:29.600 A sense that what I'd been experiencing wasn't just personal misalignment, but something broader, cultural.

00:09:35.600 A slow vanishing of presence.

00:09:37.880 I spent over a decade behind the curtain of digital desire.

00:09:41.680 As the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties, including sites like Spice TV,

00:09:48.120 I was responsible for some of the most infringed upon adult content in the world.

00:09:53.320 I worked closely with copyright attorneys and marketing teams to understand exactly what it took to get a man to pay for content he could easily find for free.

00:10:04.860 We knew what worked.

00:10:06.220 We knew how to frame a face, a gesture, a moment of implication, just enough to ignite a fantasy and open a wallet.

00:10:13.900 I came to understand, in exact terms, what cues tempt the average 18 to 36-year-old heterosexual man.

00:10:22.040 What drew him in?

00:10:23.500 What kept him coming back?

00:10:25.160 It wasn't intimacy.

00:10:26.340 It wasn't mutuality.

00:10:29.640 It was access to stimulation.

00:10:32.060 Clean, fast, and frictionless.

00:10:34.100 In the world, there's no need for conversation, no effort, no curiosity, no curiosity, no one's feelings to consider, no vulnerability to navigate, just a closed loop of consumption.

00:10:53.160 What struck me wasn't the extremity of the content.

00:10:57.220 It wasn't the emotional vacancy behind it, the drift.

00:11:00.280 The way many men had quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability, not with violence or resistance, but with indifference.

00:11:09.000 They weren't sitting across from someone on a Saturday night trying to connect.

00:11:12.860 They were scrolling, dabbling, disappearing behind firewalls, filters, and curated personas.

00:11:18.460 And while they disappeared, women continued to gather, to tend, to notice who wasn't arriving, and to show up anyway.

00:11:23.860 Okay, I'm 54.

00:11:26.120 I've been dating since the mid-80s.

00:11:27.840 I've been married, I've been a mother, I've gotten divorced, and had many relationships, both long and short.

00:11:33.620 I remember when part of heterosexual male culture involved showing up with a woman to signal something.

00:11:38.780 Status, success, desirability.

00:11:41.480 Women were once signifiers of value, even to other men.

00:11:47.140 Now it doesn't mean anything to buy her dinner, because some other dude is smashing her after dinner.

00:11:53.420 Oh, thank you for the $200 super chat.

00:11:56.760 Holy crap.

00:11:58.600 Thank you, William.

00:12:00.180 Thank you so much.

00:12:01.960 Wow.

00:12:03.380 Holy crap.

00:12:04.300 We haven't had one like that in forever.

00:12:06.300 Thank you.

00:12:08.420 I don't know what to say.

00:12:09.640 Thank you so much.

00:12:13.520 Where was I reading?

00:12:14.540 Okay, women were once signifiers of value, even to other men.

00:12:17.780 It wasn't always healthy, but it was meant to, it was meant that men had to show up and put in some effort.

00:12:24.140 The dynamic has quietly collapsed.

00:12:27.160 I know, I can't read, okay.

00:12:29.780 We have moved into an era where many men no longer seek to impress women.

00:12:36.740 No longer seek women to impress other men or to connect across difference.

00:12:41.560 They perform elsewhere alone.

00:12:43.340 They've filtered us out.

00:12:44.900 I recently experienced a flicker of possibility with James.

00:12:48.500 We met on Raya, the dating app.

00:12:50.720 There was something mutual from the start, a wordplay, an emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned.

00:12:58.700 It was brief, but it was caught light.

00:13:02.040 I remember saying to him, even fleeting connections matter when they're mutual and lit from inside.

00:13:06.940 There was just enough spark to wonder what might unfold, enough curiosity to imagine a doorway.

00:13:13.660 But he didn't step through it, not with a plan, not with a presence.

00:13:17.660 He hovered, flirted, retreated, offering warmth, but no direction.

00:13:21.560 Sexual tension and spark aren't reason enough to sit still and hope there's substance behind the shimmer.

00:13:28.200 So I named what I felt.

00:13:29.520 I texted him clearly with care, not simply to declare attraction, but to extend a real invitation to explore what was possible.

00:13:37.740 I didn't chase.

00:13:39.460 I invited, leaving the door open.

00:13:41.340 If he ever wanted to cross the threshold, not just to take, but to me, I was willing.

00:13:46.100 I wanted to, and I still do.

00:13:48.320 He never replied.

00:13:49.340 He still follows my Instagram stories.

00:13:51.340 One of those small gestures of passive engagement that so many of us now mistake for closeness.

00:13:56.820 It looks like interest, but it feels like silence.

00:13:59.300 Who thinks that viewing an Instagram story is closeness?

00:14:04.200 All right, there are thousands of Jameses.

00:14:06.220 I have known dozens.

00:14:07.640 The arc varies, but the undertow is familiar.

00:14:11.780 What I won't entertain is directionless orbiting.

00:14:16.820 The things so many men now seem to mistake for connection.

00:14:20.180 The perpetual maybe.

00:14:21.700 The emoji check-ins.

00:14:22.960 The casual seeing where this goes without it ever going anywhere.

00:14:25.520 We call it a situationship, but mostly it's an avoidance.

00:14:29.300 An avoidance of ownership, a feeling of behavior, of sex that isn't a means to an end, but it is communication.

00:14:39.840 So women often complain about situationships the same way that men complain about not getting laid on a date.

00:14:47.480 Women's burden of performance is getting men to commit after sex.

00:14:52.600 Men's burden of performance is to get women to make women want to have sex with them.

00:14:58.520 That's the burden of performance we both have.

00:15:03.520 There was a time not so long ago where even a one-night stand with tangled limbs and a shared breakfast,

00:15:10.340 when the act of staying the night didn't announce a relationship, just a willingness to be human for a few more hours.

00:15:16.540 Now, even that kind of unscripted contact feels rare.

00:15:19.660 We've built so many boundaries that we've walked off the very moments that make connection memorable.

00:15:25.320 And frankly, morning sex is often the best sex.

00:15:27.760 Sometimes you get a side of eggs before you disappear from their bed and their life forever.

00:15:33.000 The idea that vulnerability is a threat instead of an invitation has created a culture of hesitation,

00:15:38.760 of men circulating intimacy but never entertaining it.

00:15:41.500 And the result is thousands of tiny silos, everyone performing closeness but no one making a move that binds.

00:15:49.500 Isolation, loneliness, a hunger for contact that has nowhere to land.

00:15:53.980 Maybe we're between paradigms, mourning what's fallen, not yet fluent in what comes next.

00:16:01.000 The infrastructure of intimacy, slowness, curiosity, accountability have been eroded by haste, convenience,

00:16:07.900 and a kind of sanctioned emotional retreat.

00:16:11.180 It's not about blaming men, it's about noticing the imbalance, about grieving what's not meeting us,

00:16:16.240 and about refusing to dress it up as a personal failure when it's actually a collective reality.

00:16:21.320 Here's what I'll say.

00:16:22.400 You're missed, not just by me, but by the world you once helped shape.

00:16:26.400 We remember you, the version of you that lingered at the table, that laughed from the chest,

00:16:30.680 that asked questions and waited for answers, that touched without taking, that listened,

00:16:36.000 that listened, really listened, when a woman spoke.

00:16:41.960 They don't really listen.

00:16:43.980 They're looking at your tits, okay?

00:16:47.260 You are not gone, but your presence is thinning in restaurants and friendships,

00:16:51.860 in the slow rituals of romantic emergence.

00:16:54.440 You've retreated, not into malice, but into something softer and harder at once.

00:16:57.980 Avoidance, exhaustion, disrepair.

00:17:00.340 Maybe no one taught you how to stay.

00:17:01.780 Maybe you tried it once and it hurt.

00:17:03.180 Maybe the world told you your role was to provide, to perform, and to protect, but never to feel.

00:17:08.740 But here's what's real.

00:17:10.460 We never needed you to be perfect.

00:17:12.340 We just needed you to be with us.

00:17:14.100 Not above, not muted, not masked, just with.

00:17:17.120 And you can still come back, not by becoming someone else,

00:17:20.740 but by remembering what connection feels like when it's honest and slow.

00:17:25.140 When it's earned and messy and sacred.

00:17:27.140 Chicago says, the article is an excellent example of the differences in thought processes between men and women.

00:17:33.560 Thank you.

00:17:34.640 We're still here.

00:17:35.980 Those of us willing to concentrate or co-create something true.

00:17:40.860 We're not impossible to please.

00:17:42.660 One in the chat, if women can be pleased.

00:17:47.720 Two in the chat, if we're impossible.

00:17:49.780 We're not asking for performances.

00:17:52.020 We are asking for presence, for courage, for breath and eye contact and the ability to say, I'm here.

00:17:57.640 I don't know how to do this perfectly, but I'll try.

00:18:00.220 Come back, not with flowers or fireworks, but with willingness.

00:18:03.580 With your whole beautiful and perfect heart.

00:18:05.940 We're still here and we haven't stopped hoping.

00:18:07.900 And for me, I'll keep showing up, not because I'm waiting, but because I know what it feels like when someone finally arrives.

00:18:17.620 So we're going to do a call and show.

00:18:19.400 So we'll put the link in the chat.

00:18:21.120 We want to know where have the men gone and how would you answer this if a woman asked you?

00:18:27.580 So we're going to put the link in the chat in a second.

00:18:29.840 And we're going to do a commercial break while we're waiting for Doug MPA to get on the line, the callers.

00:18:41.160 So we're going to do a 30 second commercial break.

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00:19:27.000 It's Doug MPA on the line.

00:19:28.380 I got a written.

00:19:29.480 Hey, can you hear me?

00:19:31.260 I can hear you.

00:19:32.160 How are you?

00:19:33.660 I am fantastic.

00:19:34.800 I love this topic.

00:19:36.540 Where have the men gone, Doug MPA?

00:19:38.700 Why aren't they taking us?

00:19:40.800 Why aren't they whining and dining us anymore?

00:19:43.360 Why aren't they?

00:19:43.840 Where are they?

00:19:45.360 Like the men that used to go to the bars, the men that used to, you know, that be out in these places.

00:19:49.860 Where are they at?

00:19:50.480 Like you said in your opening preamble, there used to be a social contract, a social contract.

00:19:57.960 Okay.

00:19:59.100 It used to be where men and women used to go to the bar and then the women were on one side and the men were on the other side.

00:20:06.340 And then a man would get some liquid courage, see a pretty woman, do the long walk to the other side of the bar, lay down a couple of lines and it either worked or it didn't.

00:20:16.900 And if it didn't work, the guy would have to make the long walk back across the bar and everyone would kind of point at him and laugh.

00:20:23.440 Right.

00:20:23.660 Another social contract, we used to have to go to a woman's father's house, go to the father and say, hey, I'd like to take your daughter out on a date.

00:20:35.140 It was all nice and simple, but women call that misogyny and patriarchy and messed it all up.

00:20:40.440 And it's funny, you guys ever try to get advice on how to approach women from a woman?

00:20:51.360 It's insanity.

00:20:53.260 Oh, just be confident, bro.

00:20:55.820 They don't approach women and they're never going to approach a man.

00:21:00.540 The biggest problem is women, they know not what they ask for.

00:21:04.640 They don't want men to approach, but they're never going to approach.

00:21:08.440 So now there's a staring contest.

00:21:11.080 You know, women want to be in the workplace, but they don't want to do any work.

00:21:16.360 You understand what I'm saying?

00:21:17.360 It's like we're in this great experiment.

00:21:21.020 And one of the best lines I've ever heard, Pearl, is the 20th century was women rewriting the rules to society, the social rules.

00:21:30.860 And the 21st century is going to be men responding to it.

00:21:34.300 Women don't like how men are responding to the rules they set.

00:21:40.440 But you don't get the you can't put it back in the bottle.

00:21:44.480 Right.

00:21:44.980 Understand what I'm saying?

00:21:45.780 Mm-hmm.

00:21:46.160 They just don't like how men are responding.

00:21:49.160 Remember, women want all the freedom in the world, but they still want men to be traditional and masculine.

00:21:54.520 I always say feminism has freed women up from being barefoot and pregnant in the house.

00:22:00.400 But, guys, it also freed you up from your traditional masculine responsibilities, too.

00:22:05.400 Right.

00:22:05.820 You don't have to be a pack mule for a woman.

00:22:08.320 You don't have to pay a bunch of money to take a bunch of women out on days that aren't going to give you anything in return.

00:22:15.180 You can ask what is in it for me as a man.

00:22:20.860 So do you think men that used to be in bars and stuff, do you think they're just like at home?

00:22:27.900 Like, where do you like how do you think it's migrated?

00:22:31.000 Like, would you say like even you like 20 years ago, did you go out more than you go now?

00:22:35.260 Like maybe 100 percent.

00:22:36.920 Friends of yours, would you say it's the same?

00:22:39.220 Go ahead.

00:22:39.520 Ask the last part again.

00:22:42.480 Like yourself and the men your age that, you know, maybe 20 years ago, would you say how often did you guys go out?

00:22:50.360 And now what do you guys do instead?

00:22:53.340 So, I mean, Friday, Saturday nights, you get ready for Friday, Saturday night, go out with the boys, you know.

00:23:00.940 But now, I mean, look, if you being able to get women in bars translated to getting women online.

00:23:09.520 So the same guys that were good at picking women up at bars can pick women up online a lot easier.

00:23:17.000 So a lot of the guys that have the game to pick women up in bars are just getting a lot of women online.

00:23:24.200 Yeah.

00:23:24.600 So it's kind of that's the one guy I know that's a big player in Miami.

00:23:29.440 He said he like never goes out anymore.

00:23:31.600 There's no point.

00:23:32.520 He just gets on Instagram and looks at his DMs there.

00:23:37.660 And here's the thing.

00:23:39.580 And gets him right to the house.

00:23:41.280 It's like Uber Eats, but for bitches.

00:23:46.680 Here's the thing.

00:23:47.780 One thing, being free from these traditional masculine responsibilities, it's made men really think about their time.

00:23:57.440 Because, guys, if you have a highly valued skill, highly valued trade, highly valued education, you're going to make more money.

00:24:06.960 And early on, you're going to see if you're on the path to success.

00:24:10.720 So now men are really focused on how we're spending our time.

00:24:14.780 As men, we can make more money.

00:24:16.520 That's why you shouldn't really feel bad about these famous guys who get divorced and have to pay their wife half their stuff.

00:24:23.340 They're going to make their money back, but they're not going to get their time back.

00:24:27.160 So more men are being cognizant of their time more than anything.

00:24:31.180 And they're not wasting it with a bunch of women that aren't going to reciprocate anything.

00:24:35.420 Yeah.

00:24:36.360 Yeah, totally.

00:24:38.680 Is there anyone on the line?

00:24:40.560 Oh, yeah.

00:24:41.040 We got a lot.

00:24:41.640 This is a hot topic here.

00:24:43.580 Ladies, a lot of callers.

00:24:45.040 Thanks, guys.

00:24:46.780 So, guys, like the video, subscribe to the channel.

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00:24:58.020 Thank you to all the regulars in the YouTube chat.

00:25:00.200 Always good to see you.

00:25:01.300 And thank you for everyone on the Audacity chat.

00:25:03.680 Oh, and then William Stisher with the big bomb.

00:25:08.620 $200.

00:25:09.220 He's in the Audacity chat.

00:25:12.080 Thank you so much, William.

00:25:13.840 We really appreciate it.

00:25:14.700 I was about to say, we'll send him a membership for that one, right?

00:25:18.020 I know.

00:25:18.560 Wow.

00:25:18.960 Thank you so much.

00:25:20.180 All right.

00:25:20.840 And ladies, you can call in, too.

00:25:23.320 You know, I see a couple of you in the chat.

00:25:25.680 Call in and let us know where you think all the good men have gone.

00:25:28.960 Do you see less men out and about?

00:25:31.120 When you go out, do you see nothing but girls sitting at tables and bars?

00:25:35.320 Let us know, okay?

00:25:36.140 Oh, I want to say, so what I've seen, I want to say what I've seen before we go into the callers.

00:25:44.400 So, if I go to a nice restaurant in a big city, you'll see three types of tables.

00:25:50.860 So, one is a really hot woman with an older guy.

00:25:56.980 Two is a bunch of mids with a club promoter, usually young mids under 30-ish.

00:26:03.440 And then three is a bunch of women paying for themselves that aren't overly attractive.

00:26:10.260 There might be, like, one cute one in the group, but that's what I see.

00:26:13.520 The other thing that I've noticed is that I think that going out places are more, like, divided than ever.

00:26:21.120 So, for example, women might go to a brunch on a Saturday.

00:26:29.320 Or, like, if I go to, like, a salsa night or something, it's, like, more women than men.

00:26:34.400 Because that's, like, things women like to do.

00:26:36.100 But if you go into, like, places men like.

00:26:42.120 So, like, for example, like, dive bars, it's all men.

00:26:45.480 Like, if I go to a karaoke, the karaoke bar we went to, I would say there was more men.

00:26:51.320 Would you agree?

00:26:52.760 Yeah, there was.

00:26:53.440 Yeah, so, like, but I don't think it was because of the karaoke.

00:26:57.180 I think it was because of the vibe of the place.

00:26:59.880 Do you know what I mean?

00:27:00.420 Like, that we were at when you were here.

00:27:02.180 Or the, like, it's just more of, like, a dive bar feel.

00:27:06.760 Like, because I was thinking about the places men like to go to.

00:27:09.960 And they like to go to places where it's, like, cheap beer.

00:27:12.920 If they're going to go drink.

00:27:14.300 Like, they don't really care about the essence or the way it looks.

00:27:17.800 They want to know, like, what is the happy hour price?

00:27:21.020 Where the women want to know, is it a cool place?

00:27:23.360 Is it, like, does that make sense?

00:27:25.880 So, that's what I'm seeing.

00:27:27.420 It's, like, how you're starting to see nail salons.

00:27:30.580 And places that are catered to women.

00:27:33.340 They're starting to have, like, valets and all sorts of stuff that women.

00:27:37.420 They want to create an experience for women.

00:27:40.000 Because they know women expect a certain kind of experience for their money.

00:27:44.200 Whereas a lot of males, you're never going to see, you know, places that men congregate with valet that isn't a country club or something like that, you know?

00:27:52.520 The other place that I noticed, I think that gyms that are either cheap are more male-dominated or more powerlifting heavy.

00:28:05.760 I think that's a place men go.

00:28:08.040 And then also, there's a third place I just had in my head and I forgot.

00:28:14.240 Yeah, I can say that because I went through a short period where I went to one of those lifetime fitnesses.

00:28:21.400 You know, the places that the big, huge gyms.

00:28:23.600 Oh, I have a membership there.

00:28:25.200 Yeah.

00:28:26.260 It's, like, $130, $140.

00:28:28.760 Yeah, those are the few times where I've seen, like, 50-50 men and women.

00:28:33.020 Because women love those places, man.

00:28:35.020 And they go there and do everything but work out.

00:28:37.620 You know what?

00:28:41.440 I got it.

00:28:42.740 I kept getting day passes because there's a machine I like to use there.

00:28:46.640 And then they sold me on a membership one time I went.

00:28:49.840 Oh, man.

00:28:51.180 Because I would go to get so many day passes.

00:28:55.400 I see a bunch of people I've never seen in here before.

00:28:59.220 So they're going to get priority.

00:29:00.580 Wait, wait.

00:29:00.640 I want to go over the rules before they come up.

00:29:03.600 Go ahead.

00:29:03.920 So, okay, guys.

00:29:05.760 I want to go through a couple rules.

00:29:07.040 If you're going to be on the show, make sure the YouTube is not playing in the background.

00:29:12.060 So if you're in the waiting room, make sure that your YouTube is not playing in the background.

00:29:16.720 Maybe put it in some headphones so we don't do whatever.

00:29:19.660 But we don't want that on when you get up.

00:29:22.960 We are going to allow you guys to have your camera off.

00:29:26.440 But I do think as these shows get bigger, we're going to have to do cameras on.

00:29:30.100 If this gets abused and we get people in here trolling or doing whatever, this will change.

00:29:37.860 But because you guys have been good, we're going to keep it like that.

00:29:43.400 On or off is fine.

00:29:45.480 The next thing is, please don't over talk me.

00:29:47.880 I understand it's frustrating.

00:29:49.400 You might have a lot to say.

00:29:50.600 But it's my show.

00:29:55.560 So you just can't over talk the host.

00:29:57.480 Sometimes I'm going to interrupt you if you're going on a tangent.

00:30:00.400 And you just got to not over talk me back.

00:30:02.460 It just is what it is.

00:30:04.480 Four is...

00:30:06.600 I'm missing one.

00:30:11.820 Is that it, Doug MPA?

00:30:12.840 There's one more I'm missing.

00:30:13.880 I'm going to say, you know, for now, ladies are going to get priority.

00:30:18.540 So if I see a lady in the chat, make sure that you're ready.

00:30:21.800 And, you know, it's a constructive conversation.

00:30:24.200 Even if you have an opposing view, it would just be good to hear more ladies come on the show.

00:30:30.040 So if I see a woman, you get first priority.

00:30:33.480 So call in.

00:30:34.180 We'd love to hear from you.

00:30:35.140 Yeah, and I love when talking about society on this show, I am going to ask you specific questions.

00:30:43.480 It's not to be rude or to be prying.

00:30:45.620 But what I like from this show is to get what you guys have seen out in the real world.

00:30:51.940 I think that's how you get better information.

00:30:54.520 So, yeah, I think that's really all I got.

00:30:59.860 So let's do it.

00:31:01.580 First up, we have Kage, the Certified Sexologist.

00:31:07.880 This should be interesting.

00:31:09.900 Hey, guys, make sure you hit that like button.

00:31:11.740 There are 885 people in here.

00:31:14.580 Let's keep 100% engagement.

00:31:16.600 885 likes.

00:31:18.320 Kage, you are on mute.

00:31:21.400 Kage, the Certified Sexologist.

00:31:24.400 You are on mute.

00:31:25.100 Yes, sir.

00:31:25.600 Yes, sir.

00:31:26.080 Yes, sir.

00:31:27.900 Kage, is that how I say it?

00:31:30.100 Yes, ma'am.

00:31:31.380 What is a sexologist?

00:31:34.260 You just.

00:31:36.000 Do you like coach people through it or what?

00:31:39.140 No, no, no.

00:31:40.080 You don't coach people through it.

00:31:41.260 People who have intimacy issues, you explore different palliative methods on how to curate

00:31:50.260 a better experience sexually, even with themselves.

00:31:55.300 Like there are people who have issues masturbating.

00:31:57.680 There are people who have issues, you know, with partners.

00:32:01.620 That's an interesting.

00:32:04.980 It's actually, it's actually a side job.

00:32:07.280 My main job, I work for the government.

00:32:09.100 I was just curious.

00:32:10.340 I was like, I've never heard of a sexologist.

00:32:13.200 So what's your answer to the question?

00:32:15.020 Where have the men gone?

00:32:17.940 You know, I actually wanted to use an anecdote today.

00:32:21.060 I was, I was watching, while I was at work, I kind of watched a new episode of the pop,

00:32:27.520 the balloon.

00:32:27.960 I don't know if you're familiar with it, right?

00:32:29.840 Yeah.

00:32:30.540 It's a funny show.

00:32:32.140 Today, there was a anesthesiologist.

00:32:35.780 He just finished his residency.

00:32:38.880 And one girl popped on him because she's like, yeah, you just finished your residency.

00:32:45.560 You're about to start working, but so you're not financially stable.

00:32:48.640 And I was like, you do understand that day one, he's making $250.

00:32:57.020 Day one.

00:32:58.120 Day one, he's making $250.

00:32:59.740 Easy.

00:33:00.220 And yeah, she was like, yeah, you're not financially stable.

00:33:06.100 So I just, and you just getting into your career, I want someone more established in

00:33:11.240 his career.

00:33:12.360 It's like, you know, he just did fucking 10 years.

00:33:14.720 That's cool.

00:33:16.780 That's cool.

00:33:16.820 Like, what?

00:33:20.560 Insanity.

00:33:23.100 Men are, if I'm going to be honest, men are tired.

00:33:26.920 Men are tired of hearing that rhetoric.

00:33:28.560 Men are tired of the constant berating when we state our preferences, when we open our mouths

00:33:37.780 and we're asked, you know, to express ourselves or to tell women what we want, and then we're

00:33:43.840 told what we want by women.

00:33:45.660 So like, that's a frustrating thing for men.

00:33:49.220 So like, in that regards, when it just comes to something as simple as communication, just even

00:33:55.600 communicating with women is difficult.

00:33:57.360 So a lot of men are just like, yeah, you know, if a good woman comes, you know, we're open.

00:34:03.700 But right now, it's crazy.

00:34:07.300 We're dodging everything coming at us.

00:34:09.840 And what was your social, how old are you first?

00:34:14.180 I'm 31.

00:34:15.080 I'll be 32 in September.

00:34:16.200 Okay, is your social life now different than it was 10 years ago?

00:34:21.320 Like, in terms of going out, going on dates?

00:34:26.560 I'll say 10 years ago, I was in my early 20s.

00:34:30.700 So it's 2021, right?

00:34:34.560 So things were kind of different, I guess.

00:34:39.820 I was cougar diving then.

00:34:42.100 So all of it.

00:34:46.200 All the chicks, all the chicks at the finish, or at the wall, I should say, at the wall or

00:34:51.680 past the wall, I was, I was clapping major cheeks.

00:34:55.380 So I'm not like, were you more willing to take women on dates then?

00:35:00.220 Did you go out more?

00:35:01.560 Yes.

00:35:01.980 Like, yes.

00:35:02.760 Yeah.

00:35:03.020 Yes.

00:35:03.340 Definitely.

00:35:03.980 So could you contrast a week?

00:35:06.680 You could do five years ago, 10, like, just what, maybe when did it switch for you?

00:35:12.380 And how did it switch?

00:35:13.480 Um, 20, I would say about 2018.

00:35:22.580 2018 was when it switched.

00:35:24.340 Um, like the, the economy downshift kind of changed everything, uh, the prices of goods

00:35:33.560 and services kind of switched.

00:35:36.100 2018 was kind of like upwards of 2018 to like pre-pandemic.

00:35:41.600 That's, that's kind of like the changing point.

00:35:44.280 Um, but like before then it was, it was easy to take a chick out.

00:35:48.340 One, it was more equitable.

00:35:50.200 Um, and then it was, it was just easier to, it wasn't as much pushback.

00:35:56.160 I would say in 2015, it wasn't as much pushback as it is now, like from women.

00:36:03.180 What do you mean by pushback?

00:36:04.720 Like it was easier to get sex or it was easier to get a date?

00:36:09.620 Communication.

00:36:10.380 Like my, my, my basis is communication.

00:36:12.720 The reason why men are, I guess, hard on like not, not dating women or not taking women on dates

00:36:22.420 is because the communication factor, like a lot of women don't even get to the date.

00:36:27.460 Like if I'm, if I'm communicating with them or if I get their number and you know, I'm,

00:36:33.140 I'm working six or seven days a week, I'm, I'm conversing with her.

00:36:37.500 And maybe on the weekend, I'm planning on taking her on a date, but like if conversing with her

00:36:43.300 during the week that I have her number is very difficult, we, we're not making it to the date.

00:36:50.200 Difficult how?

00:36:50.840 Difficult as in like, just, uh, just scenario, either scenarios or like, you know, just talking

00:37:00.200 about life where their, their viewpoints and their opinions.

00:37:03.620 I told you, I told you, cause Pearl and I go back and forth.

00:37:06.720 She's like, Doug NPA, why don't you just like keep your mouth shut and don't like challenge

00:37:11.800 them on anything and just like keep your mouth shut and get laid.

00:37:14.580 But I'm like, pro you have no idea how, how, how rough conversation is with these women that

00:37:20.620 they want you to agree with everything.

00:37:22.240 They have these outlandish leftist liberal views.

00:37:25.420 And it's just like, it's too much.

00:37:28.360 It's too much.

00:37:29.240 Um, is that what's you're talking about?

00:37:32.240 They have liberal views.

00:37:33.560 Like they text you about it.

00:37:34.960 Yeah.

00:37:35.960 Yeah.

00:37:36.960 That or like, cause I'm, I'm not really a bit texture.

00:37:39.360 I'm more like a, uh, conversationalist.

00:37:41.580 Uh, uh, I like talking to people.

00:37:44.600 I like hearing the inflection in their voice to kind of like that kind of pinpoint their

00:37:49.460 character, like a litmus test on their character, um, based on how they converse.

00:37:54.120 Yeah.

00:37:55.120 Um, so could I have an example of maybe a date that happened recently, um, that went

00:38:00.780 south that you had to cancel or like, or it didn't happen and why?

00:38:05.260 Oh my God.

00:38:07.560 The most recent one actually.

00:38:09.380 Um, so I, I took this chick out to a nice restaurant.

00:38:14.620 Uh, as guys, we're, we're very, I'll say we're very frugal on like how our spending is

00:38:22.940 like, we'll, we'll calculate things and say, okay, I'll take her out.

00:38:26.520 Um, I know that this restaurant is a nice restaurant, but I know the spending is going

00:38:31.360 to be this amount.

00:38:32.500 So in case we go somewhere else, I know I'm going to spend this amount because I like to

00:38:37.860 budget my funds.

00:38:38.780 I don't like to overspend and I like to waste money.

00:38:40.820 So, um, so that night I kind of, I budgeted and come to find out she had been to this restaurant

00:38:50.500 before and she personally knew, uh, no, the, the chef and the owner.

00:38:58.000 So she ordered off of a secret menu that I didn't know about.

00:39:02.000 Right.

00:39:03.220 And, uh, she, I'll tell you specifically, it was, uh, oh my gosh, she ordered like literally

00:39:12.260 like, oh, was it three quarters of a, a swordfish?

00:39:16.000 Oh my goodness.

00:39:17.620 What was the bill on that?

00:39:19.000 Just the swordfish by itself, 465, 465 for the swordfish.

00:39:27.760 Did you pay it or?

00:39:29.620 Yeah.

00:39:30.100 Yeah.

00:39:31.020 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,

00:39:33.000 $465 or 65.

00:39:36.260 Did you at least hit?

00:39:39.500 No.

00:39:39.780 Oh,

00:39:40.560 and the crazy part was, she looks really good, right?

00:39:49.000 But she's 40.

00:39:50.720 Oh no.

00:39:52.700 She's 40.

00:39:53.360 At the time she was 39, but like she's 40 now.

00:39:56.700 Mike.

00:39:57.240 Oh my gosh.

00:39:58.420 The inevitable is upon $500 super chat.

00:40:02.700 We need to have like a, Jesus Christ.

00:40:05.040 Oh my goodness.

00:40:06.380 Mike.

00:40:06.860 Thank you.

00:40:07.600 The inevitable is upon us.

00:40:09.280 The awakened man can no longer ignore the options being open.

00:40:13.300 No matter what color or creed, AI passports, mountains of the worldwide experience from

00:40:19.180 men from all over the earth, the outcome of long-term couples with the opposite sex.

00:40:23.620 Gen A will be the first generation of men to couple with robots.

00:40:27.620 The West world will happen.

00:40:29.680 I mean, we need to get like a, we need to get like a button to do a round of applause.

00:40:34.240 Everyone, everyone in the chat, give Mike Trimmer a round of applause.

00:40:37.340 Yeah, let me put a one in the chat.

00:40:39.240 Thank you, Mike.

00:40:39.840 Thank you so much.

00:40:40.500 Holy crap.

00:40:41.000 Um, let's see.

00:40:43.900 We got any chance of covering the ghost adventures murder for hire pilot divorce.

00:40:48.180 I don't know that one, but if you DM it to me on Twitter, I do check my Twitter guys.

00:40:52.600 So as long as your account isn't spammy, it'll come through pearly things with a Z.

00:40:56.520 I'm making a note of it right now.

00:40:58.080 Okay.

00:40:58.880 Um, damn.

00:41:01.180 So you didn't even, did you want to hit after like, were you still, or were you so turned

00:41:06.740 off that you're just like, I mean, I was, I was, she was very attractive.

00:41:11.000 But like, I was irritated.

00:41:13.660 I was so irritated.

00:41:14.860 Cause it was just like, I'll, I'll give it to you like this.

00:41:17.800 I'll, I'll give you my whole budget that night.

00:41:19.640 So like, um, the drinks were like, I think like $40 a piece.

00:41:27.640 Uh, the, the meal that I got, uh, had got, uh, salmon and asparagus, uh, with some bok

00:41:37.980 choy and some basmati rice, right?

00:41:40.720 All of that together, my drink and my whole thing, I think was like $75.

00:41:48.900 Right.

00:41:49.840 Um, I was thinking, okay, even if she up orders up and gets three or four drinks, that's probably

00:41:58.440 $200.

00:41:58.980 So I'm probably leaving $300.

00:42:02.020 Dude, man.

00:42:03.680 So that fucking bill was like $600.

00:42:07.660 Oh, for some 40 year old coos.

00:42:11.540 Oh no.

00:42:12.920 If you saw her, you'd be like, damn.

00:42:15.580 But yeah, it's crazy.

00:42:17.760 So.

00:42:18.180 Hey, you know, go ahead.

00:42:19.220 I'm sorry.

00:42:20.420 So what, um, did, was she a single mom too?

00:42:24.440 Oh, God, why, why, why are you spelling everything out?

00:42:28.620 What's up?

00:42:29.180 Oh, come on, man.

00:42:31.180 Oh, stop.

00:42:32.000 Oh, what, what, what, what race was she?

00:42:36.260 You already know.

00:42:37.540 She's a B-dub, man.

00:42:38.660 Come on, bro.

00:42:39.300 You already know.

00:42:40.400 She was a B-dub.

00:42:41.640 And, and the crazy part was her son was little as fuck at 39.

00:42:45.440 At 39, her son was probably like one or two, two.

00:42:49.740 Oh, man.

00:42:51.020 Wait, what city is this in?

00:42:54.440 You really, you really want me to say it?

00:42:56.560 Yeah, this is Atlanta, right?

00:42:57.940 Atlanta?

00:42:58.660 Fuck no.

00:42:59.880 Okay.

00:43:00.800 Detroit.

00:43:02.780 Damn, you got a $600 bill in Detroit.

00:43:06.180 Yeah, man.

00:43:07.120 The food spots here in Detroit, if you ever come here, Pearl, you know, from, from Illinois,

00:43:11.320 you know.

00:43:12.100 I mean, they have swordfish in Detroit.

00:43:15.300 Hell yeah.

00:43:16.460 We got shark.

00:43:17.520 We got all kind of crazy stuff, man.

00:43:19.860 At least I know, at least I know there's a good swordfish spot.

00:43:23.200 Oh, my God.

00:43:24.740 Here we go.

00:43:26.820 So, you know, this is a safe place to tell these stories, Tage, because, you know, never

00:43:33.600 trust a man that says he, he's never simped.

00:43:36.140 Maybe there's, you know, a small 1%, but in the West, dude, come on, man.

00:43:41.620 So, you know.

00:43:42.900 Hell yeah.

00:43:43.360 So, yeah, you know, it's not about if you simped, it's for, it's for how bad and how

00:43:48.840 long you've done it.

00:43:49.700 And it sounds to me like you got it all out of your system, bro.

00:43:52.840 Wait, did you try to hit at the, like, when you, did you drive her home?

00:43:56.260 I did.

00:43:56.820 I did.

00:43:57.520 I did.

00:43:58.020 And that, I'm telling more than I need to, but after that date, I think, like, a week

00:44:07.000 later, I was pissed.

00:44:08.340 I wasn't really talking to her.

00:44:09.540 She hit me up.

00:44:10.720 And I also do, like, massages on the side.

00:44:13.500 And she wanted me to do a massage.

00:44:16.280 And after the massage, she wanted to stay over.

00:44:20.940 And I was like, why do you want to, she's like, it's late.

00:44:22.860 I don't want to, so I'm like, okay, this must be a sign to, like, do something.

00:44:28.620 And I'm not a guy, I think most guys are not a guy to, like, pressure a woman into, to

00:44:35.040 it, right?

00:44:35.500 We've been conditioned, right?

00:44:38.640 So, yeah, it never happened.

00:44:40.980 Like, it, like, kind of hinted, I hinted at it.

00:44:44.080 And she's like, nah.

00:44:45.140 And I was like, oh, okay.

00:44:47.160 But my cousin was like, you should have kicked her out.

00:44:50.180 I was like, I'm not that guy.

00:44:53.180 Did you think about splitting the bill at the end?

00:44:56.020 Did you, like?

00:44:57.880 I did.

00:44:58.400 It came up.

00:44:59.180 It came up in my brain, yeah.

00:45:00.580 You didn't say it, though.

00:45:02.380 I didn't.

00:45:03.220 So, can you walk me through, so, like, so let's, I'm going to pretend I'm her, right?

00:45:09.680 And I say, oh, can I get the swordfish?

00:45:12.360 Did you, what was your reaction?

00:45:14.440 Was it silence?

00:45:15.460 Was it a look of disgust?

00:45:18.000 Like, what was your...

00:45:19.000 It was, it was silence and bewilderment.

00:45:21.720 Like, it was like, I didn't know, this is not on the menu.

00:45:25.540 What the fuck, how did you, what are you asking for?

00:45:28.860 Wait, wait, wait.

00:45:29.660 I've got, did the chef or the owner come out and say hi to her?

00:45:36.000 Did he, he might, uh...

00:45:39.340 Oh, bro.

00:45:40.140 I'm so glad I asked that question.

00:45:42.460 This is a funny story.

00:45:43.600 He didn't, no, he didn't.

00:45:45.240 She might have, she might have spoke to him when I was in the bathroom or something.

00:45:48.400 I don't know.

00:45:49.140 I have no idea.

00:45:49.960 Wait, do you have any other, like, dates, like L's that you've taken?

00:45:53.980 This is funny.

00:45:54.600 Oh, man, uh, three, about three years ago, um, it was a chick, I, uh, a friend had suggested.

00:46:04.700 Um, beautiful woman.

00:46:06.440 She looked like Sanaa Lathan, but like younger.

00:46:10.900 And she had like a, she had beautiful curly hair, very fit body.

00:46:15.200 She taught salsa, and, uh, she was a salsa dance teacher, and pretty much we went out

00:46:22.280 salsa dancing, because I love to salsa and bachata, and, um, so we went out, and later

00:46:32.320 on that night, a friend of hers came in.

00:46:36.320 We, we leave that place, we go to like two other places to dance, because we were dancing

00:46:40.980 pretty much all night.

00:46:41.880 That's what they do in the salsa, you know, salsa community, they dance all night.

00:46:45.720 Anyway, so, um, at the last spot, um, I find out that the guy she introduced me to that had

00:46:56.520 a road with all of us, the whole group of dancers and stuff, um, she was another dude that was

00:47:04.540 interested in her, and she invited us both out that night.

00:47:08.720 What?

00:47:09.860 Yeah, yeah, crazy.

00:47:11.880 Wait, so, how did you find out?

00:47:14.320 Did he tell you?

00:47:16.500 Um, no, she, she kind of told me.

00:47:21.680 She was like, yeah, he's a guy that kind of like, liked me, but like, uh, you know, I

00:47:26.000 just, you know, didn't want to do it.

00:47:27.520 Before or after the interaction?

00:47:30.100 She said it after?

00:47:30.780 Well, we, well, we were dancing and then like, after we danced, like the third place that

00:47:37.020 we were at, we were, she told me, and then the craziest part was, so it was, it was a

00:47:43.200 bunch of women there.

00:47:44.040 It was a bunch of guys.

00:47:45.040 Um, we ended up at this, this dude's mansion, um, at the end of the night and, um, she brought

00:47:54.160 me in the bathroom.

00:47:55.160 Um, I was like, she brought, she took me by the hand and took me to the bathroom.

00:47:59.400 I'm like, oh, I'm about to get topped off.

00:48:01.540 Um, but, uh, she brought me in the bathroom to be like, you know, his name was Jose.

00:48:16.540 He was Hispanic.

00:48:17.300 He was like, yeah, you know, Jose's in there talking to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

00:48:21.100 And he's just supposed to be interested in me and blah, blah.

00:48:24.980 I, you know, I was so taken.

00:48:27.720 I was so out of, it was such an out of body experience.

00:48:30.920 For somebody who I told I was interested in, was aware of it, to bring me in the bathroom

00:48:38.100 to talk about another guy that she had bought, that was into another, that was found another

00:48:44.920 girl that night and they doing their own thing.

00:48:47.980 And why are you telling me about it?

00:48:50.740 Like, what?

00:48:53.720 You can't win them all.

00:48:55.940 My brother told me, my older brother told me, he said, you should have whipped it out and

00:48:59.440 told her, it was like, Hey, it's party time, ain't it?

00:49:08.620 So, you know, I, I'm just gonna, was this another B-dub or was she Latina?

00:49:15.220 No, she was a B-dub.

00:49:16.660 So she could have passed for, she could pass for like Dominican, but no, she was a B-dub.

00:49:21.700 Okay.

00:49:22.840 These views did not reflect Pearl or her platform.

00:49:26.160 This is really Doug MPA.

00:49:27.720 I've been black for over 40 years, man.

00:49:29.720 You gotta avoid the B-dubs, man.

00:49:31.540 I know you're in Detroit, but move.

00:49:34.720 You said move.

00:49:36.020 That's crazy.

00:49:36.920 I tell you, get, get away from these B-dubs, man.

00:49:39.500 There is no reason why any successful, ambitious, young black male should even met, especially

00:49:47.800 B-dubs in Detroit.

00:49:49.420 I've heard the legends of the Detroit B-dub, dude.

00:49:53.380 You got it.

00:49:53.980 Come on, man.

00:49:56.500 Come on.

00:49:57.460 And the crazy part is my, my mother was like, I guess what you would call mixed race.

00:50:03.160 And then my grandmother was white.

00:50:05.120 My grandmother was a German woman.

00:50:06.840 So I just wanted to, I guess, stay true to the, the original sperm DNA, you know?

00:50:17.260 Well, we appreciate all the stories.

00:50:22.120 Once again, this is a safe place.

00:50:23.820 I think you got all the simp out of your system and just, you know, just, just, we really appreciate

00:50:30.120 the stories over here, man.

00:50:31.300 Thanks a lot.

00:50:32.040 No problem, man.

00:50:33.900 You guys have a good day.

00:50:35.400 Yeah, thanks.

00:50:36.120 Love your, love your, love your platform.

00:50:38.340 And if you're ever in Detroit, man, we gotta, we gotta, I know you know Anton, Anton Daniel,

00:50:44.480 so.

00:50:45.080 Oh, yeah?

00:50:45.580 You know Anton?

00:50:47.060 Yeah, yeah, definitely.

00:50:47.880 We'll all get, we'll all get swordfish on you.

00:50:51.500 Oh, my God.

00:50:55.920 All right, buddy.

00:50:56.740 It was good talking to you.

00:50:58.020 Thanks for calling in.

00:50:59.280 Call in anytime.

00:51:02.040 Man, that was a great call.

00:51:03.420 Wasn't it?

00:51:03.720 Guys, I'm telling you, we've all sent all of us have sent.

00:51:06.860 So, so, you know, try not to judge this guy too harshly, man.

00:51:11.080 He's 31.

00:51:12.060 I mean, come on now.

00:51:13.020 I wasn't judging.

00:51:16.400 I mean, it's just, you can't date without taking some L's.

00:51:19.660 You don't think the women he took out on dates simped for some guy?

00:51:23.460 Yeah.

00:51:23.920 Like, come on.

00:51:24.640 But you know that, you know, the girl he took on a date was letting Chad, Tyrone, Glock,

00:51:30.340 Tavey, you know, it just happens.

00:51:32.600 You know what I mean?

00:51:33.400 Like, she was doing the same shit.

00:51:35.360 Not, maybe not with money, but, you know.

00:51:37.600 Okay, up next, we have Enolia, Eniola, Eniola, Adeje, your audio is connecting.

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00:52:21.180 your audio, going once, Eniola, going twice, Eniola, going three times.

00:52:28.460 I'm going to put you in the waiting room, and we'll move on to someone else.

00:52:32.980 How about all these new people?

00:52:39.780 Letting in Alex, the banking counselor.

00:52:43.840 What's a banking counselor?

00:52:46.660 Alex, are you there?

00:52:49.080 Hey, can you hear me?

00:52:50.580 Yep.

00:52:51.020 Hey, Alex, how are you?

00:52:53.540 Hey, Pearl, how are you?

00:52:54.980 I've been following you and your content now for about, man, I want to say probably,

00:53:01.220 I think I found your content right before the pandemic hit.

00:53:06.020 So, it's been a little while.

00:53:07.340 Well, I'm glad we can finally talk over the phone.

00:53:11.380 It's been pretty awesome to get a call in here.

00:53:13.660 Yeah.

00:53:14.160 How's it going?

00:53:14.960 What's your answer to the question?

00:53:16.620 Where have all the men gone?

00:53:17.940 Oh, man, that's a pretty, that's a pretty complex question because I feel like there's two aspects.

00:53:28.400 You have pre-pandemic, right?

00:53:31.840 Talking about the last decade, you know, the introduction to the online dating app scene,

00:53:39.440 and it's evolved, you know, evolving revolution type of deal.

00:53:44.220 And then you have the post-pandemic dating market where I feel like a lot of people's

00:53:49.340 social skills and expectations really have just been skewed.

00:53:55.020 And I feel like there's going to be a long-term reverberation effect of that going towards

00:54:00.720 long-term relationships for the next 20, 30 years.

00:54:03.380 Um, not just in long-term commitments, but also in just, you know, engagements and of

00:54:09.420 course the rise, the rise of divorces.

00:54:11.420 Well, could I, could I talk more about you?

00:54:14.140 So like, how is your dating life different now versus post like pre-pandemic?

00:54:21.260 So, uh, I put the banking counselor as a, as a hashtag there, I guess, uh, because I work

00:54:28.940 in finance, but I also, uh, uh, before I got in finance, uh, was going originally going

00:54:36.720 to go to medical school to be in psychiatry.

00:54:38.860 So I do have a couple of degrees in, um, psychology and neuroscience.

00:54:43.080 And as far as dating goes, I'm 32 years old.

00:54:45.880 I've been single now, or I want to say, uh, five years.

00:54:51.580 I was in a long-term relationship with someone prior to that, right before, um, everything

00:54:56.460 happened with the pandemic.

00:54:57.320 And I think that especially guys in my age category, guys that are in between the ages

00:55:02.080 of 30 to 40, I luckily haven't been divorced or knocked up the wrong woman.

00:55:07.240 So knock on wood, been okay there.

00:55:10.200 Um, I met like, how is your social, like, okay.

00:55:12.960 And a given week pre-pandemic, were you taking women on dates?

00:55:17.360 Um, were you going out?

00:55:18.800 I would say, I would say it's probably going the same or different now.

00:55:22.400 Go ahead.

00:55:22.660 Um, I would say pre-pandemic, um, it was more feasible, I would say to get like the

00:55:33.840 initial, um, meetup date introductory date, I guess, or like wanting to see, do the few

00:55:41.960 dates experimentally.

00:55:44.300 Um, and now it feels like post pandemic, it feels like.

00:55:49.580 Um, it's like trying to pull teeth when, when communicating with like a lot of the women

00:55:57.800 in my area.

00:55:58.400 Cause I'm in, I'm in Florida and, um, I'm in North Florida to be more exact.

00:56:04.440 And it feels like, um, I've learned at this age of my life.

00:56:12.400 I can't, I can't, I don't go by what women say.

00:56:15.420 I go by what they do.

00:56:17.920 And in this dating market, um, I've, I feel like because of what I do and like the, the

00:56:26.320 crowds and associates that I have, there's a certain level of expectation that comes with,

00:56:33.580 um, being in the upper echelon of things that if you're not already rolling out, I feel

00:56:40.600 like with guys, my age, like if I'm not rolling out with my wallet first, it feels like there's

00:56:47.820 no initial, like they won't get on the date with you.

00:56:52.440 Yeah.

00:56:53.140 And, um, I mean, I've, I've been in training, I've lost, you know, 60 pounds.

00:56:59.080 I've been in jujitsu.

00:57:00.080 I've been like, you know, quote unquote, getting my shit together, uh, in my thirties physically.

00:57:05.020 And like, you know, I have a good career and, you know, I have great friends in a great

00:57:09.680 community, but trying to find a decent partner stateside has been, um, so, okay.

00:57:17.380 Can we go into like, so five years ago, pre pandemic, um, I think it's five years ago.

00:57:24.380 You got to stop saying that, um, that P word, you got to say cough, cough or anything.

00:57:30.740 Cause if you say that the P word too many times, it'll flag the stream.

00:57:36.260 Um, in a given week, were you taking more women on dates, less women on dates?

00:57:43.360 Would you have a similar close rate to, from today to then?

00:57:48.560 How was it different?

00:57:49.360 I would say, uh, pre pandemic and, um, I'm, I'm, I'm just being straight up here.

00:57:56.060 I was more tolerant of being stupid as far as like managing my time and my money to convenience,

00:58:02.940 uh, women for the hope of like closing the deal.

00:58:05.920 So like, you know, it was easier.

00:58:08.480 Like I would probably go on, like, I would say one to three dates.

00:58:12.900 Uh, if it wasn't a week, it would be like maybe every couple of weeks, um, just to, you

00:58:21.360 know, explore, try to not because I was trying to bag every single one, but try to, you know,

00:58:27.760 siphon through trying to find a more compatible partner since I had moved on from my ex at

00:58:33.600 that point.

00:58:34.860 And the more I attempted to do that, the more I found myself becoming, um, nauseated with

00:58:48.520 just how, uh, transactional it seemed things had become like it was more convenient, but

00:58:55.380 it felt like super transactional.

00:58:57.700 And now from that point to here, it feels like I have to like pre plan and fit things

00:59:09.140 into a schedule in such a way that even if like something doesn't work out or it blows

00:59:13.660 up in my face, like I'll still go out on my own and still have a good time.

00:59:17.460 And sometimes like that, just, I'd rather not even have to like worry about that and not

00:59:22.060 have to like, you know, uh, waste my time and waste my money to not, um, be able to build

00:59:31.200 something organically.

00:59:32.480 And I feel like that's, that's what's missing nowadays in a lot of the market today is I

00:59:38.220 feel like having organic conversations, like real conversations with people, even in a dating

00:59:43.020 scene, cause I'm no longer on dating apps.

00:59:44.560 I haven't used a dating app since 2017, maybe.

00:59:52.060 Um, and I'm amazed at how, like, if you're not partaking in that machine, how much more,

01:00:00.200 uh, difficult it can be to actually go out to like a cafe or, you know, one of those,

01:00:06.500 like, you know, more neutral spots, restaurants or something like that, to be able to cohesively

01:00:14.200 interact and have a conversation with someone to, to meet someone organically and build something

01:00:19.340 there.

01:00:20.340 Got it.

01:00:21.340 Got it.

01:00:22.340 Well, thanks for calling in Doug MPA.

01:00:23.340 You got any other questions for him?

01:00:25.340 Nope.

01:00:26.340 I just want to say, you do it.

01:00:28.480 You got to put yourself, well, you're doing it right now.

01:00:30.480 Put yourself in a position where you can't be disappointed by dating.

01:00:33.480 So a lot, you seem to be like you have a lot of honesty and integrity up front, but a lot

01:00:38.320 of women don't.

01:00:39.620 So ghost these hoes.

01:00:41.620 Yeah.

01:00:42.620 Invite women to do something that you're going to do, whether they show up or not.

01:00:46.180 Good plan.

01:00:47.180 Thanks for calling in.

01:00:49.180 All right, buddy.

01:00:50.180 Appreciate it guys.

01:00:52.180 Okay.

01:00:53.180 Who else is a new person?

01:00:56.180 Oh, let's let in.

01:01:01.180 Okay.

01:01:02.180 Hey, Galvis.

01:01:05.180 Hey, Galvis, you're on mute.

01:01:08.180 Hey, Galvis.

01:01:11.180 Hey, Galvis going once.

01:01:15.180 Hey, Galvis going twice.

01:01:18.180 Hey, Galvis going three times.

01:01:20.180 I'm going to put you back.

01:01:21.180 Hello.

01:01:22.180 Oh, there she is.

01:01:25.180 Hold on.

01:01:26.180 Oh, we can hear you now.

01:01:27.180 Go ahead.

01:01:28.180 Yeah.

01:01:29.180 Hi, guys.

01:01:30.180 Hi.

01:01:31.180 How's it going?

01:01:32.180 It's going great.

01:01:34.180 You're one of the two women watching, huh?

01:01:37.180 There, I bet that there's more.

01:01:39.180 They're just shy.

01:01:41.180 Sorry.

01:01:42.180 No, it's all right.

01:01:43.180 Thanks for calling in.

01:01:44.180 So what's your answer to the question?

01:01:46.180 Where do you think the men have gone?

01:01:49.180 I really don't know.

01:01:54.180 My guess is the lack of fathers in the household.

01:02:00.180 And I'm just calling in worried about where are they, where the real men are.

01:02:08.180 Where the real men are.

01:02:10.180 Yeah.

01:02:11.180 Like providers, you know, not just financially, but, you know, protectors, you know, men, men.

01:02:21.180 Well, women ran them off.

01:02:23.180 How did women treat those men?

01:02:26.180 Badly, I guess.

01:02:27.180 Yeah.

01:02:28.180 So that's the best bet.

01:02:29.180 The question is more to do with where do you think the men have gone that used to go out and take women on dates and stuff?

01:02:36.180 Do you think they're just not dating?

01:02:37.180 Do you think they're just not dating?

01:02:38.180 What have you seen?

01:02:39.180 It's not worth it for them to go out.

01:02:41.180 Yeah.

01:02:42.180 What have you seen with men?

01:02:43.180 You know, have you seen them stop dating or stop going out?

01:02:47.180 Yes.

01:02:48.180 I encourage them, but they don't want to because I'm a mom.

01:02:53.180 Okay.

01:02:54.180 I have two girls.

01:02:55.180 I have a 15 and a 13.

01:02:57.180 So I could be your mom, Pearl.

01:02:59.180 Oh, where are you at?

01:03:01.180 In Houston.

01:03:02.180 Okay.

01:03:03.180 You're in Texas.

01:03:04.180 Mm hmm.

01:03:05.180 Mm hmm.

01:03:06.180 What's it?

01:03:07.180 Are they dating?

01:03:08.180 Like the because your youngest daughter is 15.

01:03:11.180 Do they even date in high school anymore?

01:03:13.180 Like it doesn't even have to be your daughter.

01:03:16.180 I'm just kind of curious about Gen Z.

01:03:18.180 Like if the girls are like dating guys in high school or if they're just kind of antisocial.

01:03:24.180 They're just friends.

01:03:27.180 Mm hmm.

01:03:28.180 Some.

01:03:29.180 You know, they have boyfriends in school.

01:03:31.180 Mm hmm.

01:03:32.180 What I hear from my daughter, they do have their dating happening at school.

01:03:39.180 As far as we know, she's not dating.

01:03:42.180 Mm hmm.

01:03:44.180 So, I mean, we think she should date when she's older, God willing.

01:03:51.180 But I encourage a young man that I am around.

01:03:55.180 I encourage them to go out and ask women out and make eye contact and talk to people.

01:04:04.180 But that's very hard for them now.

01:04:06.180 Yeah.

01:04:07.180 Yeah.

01:04:08.180 They're the generation that's grown up on phones.

01:04:11.180 Yep.

01:04:12.180 Have you seen them?

01:04:13.180 Do you mind me asking your age?

01:04:15.180 50.

01:04:16.180 Have you seen like the women, you know, that are like divorced and stuff?

01:04:22.180 Hmm.

01:04:23.180 Do you know any?

01:04:25.180 Do you have any friends that got divorced and they're in their 50s?

01:04:28.180 No.

01:04:29.180 Oh, you don't know any.

01:04:31.180 There's no divorces in Houston.

01:04:33.180 No, they are.

01:04:34.180 But I don't know.

01:04:35.180 I don't have friends like that for some reason.

01:04:38.180 Okay.

01:04:39.180 I was kind of curious if their experience was that men are walking away as well as like the

01:04:44.180 woman in the article.

01:04:45.180 I was just kind of curious because they would have seen the change over time.

01:04:49.180 The people that I know, Bernardo, my husband, he's also 50 and he's been his friends are divorced

01:04:59.180 because the women have left them.

01:05:03.180 And are they actively dating or no?

01:05:06.180 The men?

01:05:07.180 Yeah.

01:05:08.180 Yes.

01:05:09.180 Okay.

01:05:10.180 Of course.

01:05:11.180 Quickly.

01:05:12.180 Sure.

01:05:13.180 And okay.

01:05:14.180 So they're still dating at least.

01:05:15.180 They haven't necessarily, are they doing like hookups?

01:05:18.180 Are they like courting women?

01:05:20.180 Like what are, what's, what's the 50 year old dating scene like for the divorced men?

01:05:25.180 I think they're doing both.

01:05:27.180 Okay.

01:05:28.180 The social media platforms of connecting and going to bars.

01:05:32.180 I think both.

01:05:33.180 Okay.

01:05:34.180 Mm-hmm.

01:05:35.180 Okay.

01:05:36.180 So it sounds like the guys, you know, haven't completely walked away from it.

01:05:39.180 The guys that I know, the people that have been divorced, have been because the wife's

01:05:45.180 left them.

01:05:46.180 Yeah.

01:05:47.180 Doug MPA, you got any other questions for her?

01:05:49.180 Oh.

01:05:50.180 Did these guys ever tell you why their wives left?

01:05:53.180 Were they legitimate reasons?

01:05:55.180 Or, or was it just a thing like they, because most women leave for irreconcilable differences?

01:06:02.180 And that's so gray.

01:06:03.180 Right.

01:06:04.180 Because they think that the grass is green on the other side or life is too boring.

01:06:08.180 Was that the experience that these guys are telling you that maybe just one day she just decided

01:06:13.180 to leave?

01:06:14.180 Hmm.

01:06:16.180 They've never shared why they left.

01:06:18.180 I didn't see reasons for them to leave personally, because I know these guys.

01:06:25.180 I don't think it's right.

01:06:27.180 Um, I know, I mean, knowing someone and marrying them is living with them as something different.

01:06:33.180 I know, but you know, marriage isn't, marriage is work.

01:06:38.180 You, you guys have to be in it to, especially when you have children, you got to work things

01:06:44.180 out.

01:06:45.180 But some people just don't want to, I guess.

01:06:48.180 Okay.

01:06:49.180 Yeah.

01:06:50.180 And then, so you, you encourage all the, all the men, you know, the young men, you know,

01:06:55.180 approach women.

01:06:56.180 Correct.

01:06:57.180 How do you, how, if they ask you how to do it, what do you tell them?

01:07:02.180 Just go up to them.

01:07:04.180 Just, you know, they're going to say no next.

01:07:08.180 That's what I tell them.

01:07:10.180 Okay.

01:07:11.180 Cool.

01:07:12.180 Well, thanks for calling in.

01:07:14.180 Um, feel free to call in any time.

01:07:16.180 Okay.

01:07:17.180 Absolutely.

01:07:18.180 Thank you so much, guys.

01:07:19.180 Great job.

01:07:20.180 Thank you.

01:07:21.180 Bye.

01:07:22.180 Bye.

01:07:23.180 Okay.

01:07:24.180 I think that's one of the few non-combative women we've had to call in.

01:07:28.180 I know.

01:07:29.180 You know, she's in Houston, Texas.

01:07:31.180 She sounds maybe like Hispanic or something like that.

01:07:36.180 Yeah.

01:07:37.180 I was thinking like American.

01:07:38.180 Texas is great, man.

01:07:39.180 Houston, Dallas, San Antonio, Austin.

01:07:41.180 Great places, man.

01:07:42.180 Great people down there.

01:07:44.180 Okay.

01:07:45.180 I'm going to try Ineola one more time.

01:07:54.180 Ineola.

01:07:55.180 Hey, thank you so much, guys.

01:07:56.180 Great job.

01:07:57.180 Thank you.

01:07:58.180 Keep it up.

01:07:59.180 Bye-bye.

01:08:00.180 Ineola, we can hear you, but your YouTube's on.

01:08:03.180 One of the few non-combats.

01:08:06.180 Ineola, we can hear you.

01:08:11.180 Can you hear me?

01:08:12.180 Yeah.

01:08:13.180 Hey, how's it going?

01:08:18.180 Oh, it's going good.

01:08:20.180 Where are you calling out of?

01:08:21.180 What part of the country?

01:08:23.180 Um.

01:08:24.180 You can say the state.

01:08:29.180 Oh, the state.

01:08:30.180 Okay.

01:08:31.180 Texas.

01:08:32.180 Oh, I got a lot of Texans here.

01:08:34.180 Um, so what's your answer to the question?

01:08:37.180 Where do you think the men are going?

01:08:39.180 Um, the more specific you can be, the better.

01:08:41.180 Um, if it's men that you've seen either dating yourself, maybe brothers, friends of yours,

01:08:47.180 whatever.

01:08:52.180 Um, well, to answer the questions, I don't know.

01:08:58.180 It's kind of, I have like a couple of answers.

01:09:01.180 Like sometimes I'll see.

01:09:06.180 Go ahead.

01:09:07.180 I just said, okay.

01:09:08.180 Yeah.

01:09:09.180 I'm just thinking about it.

01:09:10.180 Um.

01:09:11.180 Oh, so while you're thinking, what has been your experience out and about?

01:09:16.180 Like when you and your girlfriends go out, do you get approached by men?

01:09:20.180 Do you usually go out by yourselves and sit at tables by yourselves?

01:09:23.180 Like how, how is it out there for you while you're thinking about where all the, like,

01:09:27.180 do you see a lack of men out there right now?

01:09:30.180 Um, no, not really.

01:09:35.180 Um, I mean, when I go out with my friends, uh, yeah.

01:09:41.180 Sometimes like me and my friends would get looks, but no, I don't know.

01:09:47.180 It's, it's not really too often that I get approached.

01:09:51.180 Are you single, married or dating?

01:09:54.180 I'm single.

01:09:55.180 Okay.

01:09:56.180 Okay.

01:09:57.180 And are you actively dating now?

01:09:59.180 Um, no, not really, but I'm just putting myself out there.

01:10:04.180 Okay.

01:10:05.180 Like when's the last date you went on?

01:10:10.180 I can't even think of it.

01:10:11.180 Like a year, six months.

01:10:20.180 Three months.

01:10:25.180 Uh, if it's been that long, we can move on.

01:10:36.180 Uh, cause it's kind of a lot of dead air here.

01:10:40.180 Um, are you still there?

01:10:42.180 Yeah, I'm still here.

01:10:43.180 Yeah, I'm still here.

01:10:44.180 Um, so, so you see men out and about.

01:10:49.180 So, but when you see stories like the one that's in the New York Times where these women are asking where all the men have gone, why do you think that these women are asking that question?

01:11:00.180 Like, well, do you think that their points are valid?

01:11:04.180 Um, yeah, I think their points are valid.

01:11:10.180 I mean, from their experience, but I mean, I'm sure they probably like passed up, you know, someone that could have been, um, you know, someone like they, they probably, I guess what I'm thinking is that they probably passed up a really good relationship or someone that could have been that for them.

01:11:29.180 Okay.

01:11:30.180 Um, so do you, do you want a relationship or, or do you see marriage in your future at all?

01:11:40.180 Yeah.

01:11:41.180 I want a relationship and I see marriage in my future.

01:11:43.180 Do you want to have kids one day?

01:11:45.180 Yeah, one day.

01:11:46.180 How many?

01:11:47.180 Um, I would say three or four.

01:11:50.180 Okay.

01:11:51.180 And do you want a relationship?

01:11:57.180 Do you want to primarily focus on the children?

01:12:01.180 So do you, do you want a man to like, would be a provider, a protector type or are you the 50, 50 type?

01:12:08.180 Um, I would like a man to be a provider of protector.

01:12:13.180 Okay.

01:12:15.180 So you said that you don't have a problem being approached.

01:12:18.180 So where do you think, where would you go to be approached by the type of man that you want?

01:12:26.180 Um, probably at a coffee shop or the library, um, or I could be at like a lounge.

01:12:39.180 I don't really go out as often.

01:12:41.180 So I, I kind of just go to the same places.

01:12:43.180 Are you on like the dating apps?

01:12:45.180 No.

01:12:46.180 Well, I'd download them because men aren't really approaching these days.

01:12:53.180 Yeah.

01:12:54.180 I know.

01:12:55.180 I'm just kind of shy.

01:12:56.180 Well, you gotta get over it.

01:12:58.180 Yeah.

01:12:59.180 Your age group.

01:13:01.180 Are you like, are you like mid twenties, late twenties, early twenties, thirties?

01:13:05.180 Early twenties.

01:13:06.180 Yeah.

01:13:07.180 Yeah.

01:13:08.180 If that's what you want, you need to get on this.

01:13:11.180 Are you in, are you in school?

01:13:13.180 Yeah.

01:13:14.180 I'm in community college.

01:13:16.180 I've seen that.

01:13:17.180 Is that common?

01:13:18.180 Um, with your, you like your friends where they don't really go on dates.

01:13:22.180 I, you're not the only one in Gen Z I've heard that from.

01:13:26.180 Um, yeah, I think it's becoming actually a common thing.

01:13:31.180 I mean, well, actually now I'm thinking about it.

01:13:37.180 Cause even when I would see girls, my age getting approached, it's either that they're

01:13:43.180 just not socially awkward, but a little shy or.

01:13:49.180 Yeah.

01:13:50.180 What are you going to school for?

01:13:53.180 Um, so I was going to school for free pharmacy, but I am going to change that up.

01:14:00.180 I'm not sure what to yet.

01:14:02.180 Okay.

01:14:03.180 So, um, I'm curious with your friends, do they, um, I didn't think it would ask this.

01:14:11.180 How many close friends do you have?

01:14:14.180 Close friends.

01:14:15.180 I would say around like four.

01:14:17.180 And of the four, how many are in relationships and how many are actively dating?

01:14:22.180 Um, so I have out of the four, I would say I have two.

01:14:31.180 That are in relationships.

01:14:33.180 Um, or just.

01:14:35.180 Well, I have, I have one friend that, um, she's dating right now.

01:14:45.180 Um, I don't know.

01:14:46.180 I think she's not dating the person anymore.

01:14:51.180 I'm not even completely sure.

01:14:53.180 I was just curious where they're, I was just curious where they're meeting them.

01:14:57.180 Like if your generation, I haven't heard about a lot of people meeting the men you're talking

01:15:02.180 about in the places you're listing.

01:15:05.180 Um, they, they might be, but I don't, you're a little younger than me.

01:15:09.180 So I don't know.

01:15:10.180 But from what I've seen, Gen Z meets all online.

01:15:13.180 And I was just curious if that was your friends and your experience too.

01:15:17.180 Well, so that was one of my friends experience.

01:15:21.180 And then the other one that was, um, dating the other person before she just met him on

01:15:27.180 campus.

01:15:28.180 Oh, okay.

01:15:29.180 You're in school.

01:15:30.180 Okay.

01:15:31.180 Um, you really need to take advantage of your time on, on college campus.

01:15:35.180 And if you want to, your, your best bet would be, especially when you transfer to university.

01:15:41.180 Cause a lot of people, they don't know this.

01:15:42.180 If you start in community college and you transfer to a university, you, your GPA resets.

01:15:48.180 I went to community college anyway.

01:15:50.180 Yeah.

01:15:51.180 So when you transfer to university, you might want to find you one on campus because you

01:15:55.180 will never have.

01:15:56.180 You should go.

01:15:57.180 You should go pre bed, go pre bed or something really hard.

01:16:00.180 You should just drop and change it after the first semester, sit next to the hottest

01:16:05.180 guy in class.

01:16:06.180 And then with more potential than in college and so many women, especially, um, uh, I'm

01:16:15.180 guessing you're, I'm guessing your ethnicity, but if you're, if you're the race, I think you

01:16:21.180 are a lot of, uh, a lot of, uh, a lot of women, they fumble good men in college.

01:16:28.180 And then they go back out here and you, you meet, you're around 50% less men, at least

01:16:34.180 the day you graduate college.

01:16:35.180 No, that it's not true anymore.

01:16:37.180 It's like mostly women in schools.

01:16:39.180 Now that's the one challenge they're going to have on university is you're probably going

01:16:43.180 to be sharing a guy.

01:16:45.180 It's not really like it used to be like when you, when you were in school, it was more

01:16:49.180 like they met people, but now it's mostly, I think it's like when I was in school, it

01:16:56.180 was like 60% women.

01:16:57.180 And I think it's more now.

01:16:58.180 Yeah.

01:16:59.180 I would imagine.

01:17:00.180 Well, um, and then you're, and then you're asking those guys to not bang the hot poo nanny

01:17:06.180 on campus and settle down with you.

01:17:08.180 Good luck.

01:17:09.180 I'd go, I'd get a dating app and go 10 years older.

01:17:12.180 That's what I would do, but take that or leave it.

01:17:17.180 But there's still the engineering department, Pearl.

01:17:19.180 Come on now.

01:17:20.180 Engineers are still going to be engineers.

01:17:24.180 You know?

01:17:25.180 Yeah.

01:17:26.180 But you can't, women are still going to be women.

01:17:28.180 You're not going to logic them into banging the engineers.

01:17:30.180 It's just not going to happen.

01:17:31.180 No.

01:17:32.180 But what I'm saying is, is she can avoid all the Chad and Tyrone's on campus and hang by

01:17:40.180 the engineering department.

01:17:41.180 That's what I'm saying.

01:17:42.180 She can, she won't.

01:17:44.180 Come on.

01:17:45.180 Like you're trying to logic women.

01:17:49.180 You're right.

01:17:50.180 You're right.

01:17:51.180 It's like the state takes care of the money.

01:17:54.180 They don't care about money anymore.

01:17:56.180 They don't.

01:17:57.180 They don't even, women don't even understand money.

01:17:59.180 Like, like, anyways, what do you think about what we're saying?

01:18:05.180 Yeah.

01:18:06.180 Um, I mean, I think.

01:18:09.180 Yeah.

01:18:10.180 Hang out by the engineering department.

01:18:12.180 It doesn't matter what she says.

01:18:14.180 The, the, the school, the guitar player is going to sweep her off her feet.

01:18:18.180 Gavin, the starting museum.

01:18:21.180 Sorry.

01:18:22.180 Go ahead.

01:18:23.180 Yeah.

01:18:24.180 So, I mean, where do you think, like, I guess, where do you think I can meet a lot of

01:18:28.180 good, bad, or are they just everywhere?

01:18:31.180 Or if I were you, this is what I would do.

01:18:34.180 I would get in the best shape.

01:18:36.180 I would, I would treat getting in shape like a job.

01:18:38.180 My biggest regret in my early twenties was being chubby.

01:18:43.180 There's no reason to be chubby.

01:18:44.180 There's no reason to be chubby.

01:18:45.180 Look up the BMI for your height.

01:18:48.180 It's accurate.

01:18:49.180 Don't believe anyone that says it's not accurate.

01:18:52.180 If you're overweight, don't know if you are, you're not.

01:18:55.180 I would literally, I would take it so seriously.

01:18:58.180 I would take a semester off to get it done and work at a gym.

01:19:02.180 That's how serious I personally would take it.

01:19:04.180 And what I would do is I would, once I'm in the right weight, I would put a dating app

01:19:10.180 10 years older in a place that has a high net worth.

01:19:14.180 And I would, I would filter it.

01:19:16.180 So it's really low distance.

01:19:19.180 The dating coaches I've talked to say it takes about 15 dates to find someone you like.

01:19:24.180 And that's, that's what I would do.

01:19:27.180 I would set a schedule where there's a certain amount of dates you're going on a week until

01:19:31.180 you find someone you like.

01:19:33.180 Doug MPO, you can do a different strategy.

01:19:36.180 I'm just saying that's what I would do.

01:19:38.180 You gotta think about this whole school thing.

01:19:40.180 With 70% of the student loan debt is women.

01:19:43.180 Don't put yourself in a whole bunch of debt.

01:19:45.180 Yeah.

01:19:46.180 That will disqualify you from consideration of a relationship or marriage.

01:19:50.180 And then, you know, I asked you if you wanted children, you want to be married.

01:19:53.180 Because if you have four kids, I mean, what good is your degree going to be anyway?

01:20:00.180 So you, you should be using school to literally get it, to get an MRS degree or find yourself

01:20:06.180 a guy in school.

01:20:07.180 Or I don't know if the, I think Doug, it's not really the same now in school as it was.

01:20:14.180 But if you, if you do go, if you do go the school route, when you transfer, I would do

01:20:20.180 a really smart major that, you know, you're going to change and just get in the classes

01:20:27.180 and sit next to the hottest guy.

01:20:29.180 There you go.

01:20:31.180 And then change it, make it like Gen Ed's or something and then just change it.

01:20:36.180 And then it'd be great.

01:20:37.180 You could ask him to tutor you or something.

01:20:39.180 And just men love it when you're smarter than them.

01:20:43.180 So even if you understand it, just pretend like you don't and have them explain it to

01:20:48.180 you.

01:20:49.180 There you go.

01:20:50.180 All right.

01:20:51.180 You can take that or leave it.

01:20:53.180 I'm not saying that'll work.

01:20:54.180 I'm saying that's what I would do.

01:20:57.180 All right.

01:20:58.180 Well, thanks for calling in.

01:21:00.180 Yeah.

01:21:01.180 Thanks for calling in.

01:21:02.180 Okay.

01:21:03.180 Yeah, of course.

01:21:04.180 Have a nice day.

01:21:05.180 Let us know how it goes out there.

01:21:07.180 I will.

01:21:08.180 Yeah.

01:21:09.180 Do you know what?

01:21:10.180 I want to, I actually want to go on a tangent before you do the next caller.

01:21:13.180 Go for it.

01:21:14.180 My biggest regret.

01:21:15.180 Do you know what it's like to look at pictures from your early twenties?

01:21:18.180 I recently got in shape, like in better shape than I was in.

01:21:21.180 I never was all out obese, but I would like, I just was chubby.

01:21:26.180 And I'll tell you what, guys, the biggest mistake, the biggest regret I ever had, like

01:21:31.180 what I would do if I was 18 again, I knew I had eating and like issues.

01:21:38.180 I would have taken a year off of school and lived at home and literally dedicated all

01:21:44.180 my time, energy and understanding to understanding nutrition.

01:21:47.180 And how to cook, how to meal prep.

01:21:50.180 I would have did that for a year.

01:21:52.180 I would have worked at a gym part-time so I could do it both.

01:21:55.180 It doesn't need to be a long-term thing, but it's like, once you get to a point where you

01:22:00.180 can count calories in your head and you know exactly what you're eating, it's so much.

01:22:05.180 Oh my God.

01:22:06.180 It's so much easier, but you have to go through this terrible process of counting calories.

01:22:10.180 And it's such a boring, tedious, annoying process.

01:22:14.180 And I'm the type of person where I have to, I have to focus all my energy on one thing to

01:22:19.180 get it done or two things.

01:22:21.180 But anyways, because let's say, look it, I'm not here to tell you what to do.

01:22:26.180 If you want to go be a mother, that's how you're going to get, going to get the hottest,

01:22:31.180 richest, whatever you're into guy to settle down with you.

01:22:34.180 There's nothing men don't like more than fat women.

01:22:37.180 Okay.

01:22:38.180 That's number one.

01:22:39.180 Number two, it, let's say you, you say, Pearl, you're full of shit.

01:22:44.180 I want to go be a party girl.

01:22:45.180 Well, if you're going to go be a party girl, get on the best yachts.

01:22:50.180 If you're going to do it, do it, get the best yacht you can get on.

01:22:55.180 Do you know what I mean?

01:22:56.180 Don't party in Columbus, Ohio.

01:22:59.180 Go, go get a very good, but get some abs and get on a yacht in Miami or something.

01:23:06.180 Now I'm not, I'm not saying you should do that.

01:23:08.180 Right.

01:23:09.180 But all I'm saying is as a woman, there's nothing that'll get you further than being hot.

01:23:14.180 There's really not.

01:23:16.180 And women, we keep seeing these BBLs and stuff, but it's because women just can't figure out the nutrition stuff.

01:23:22.180 That's the hard part.

01:23:24.180 Let's say you want to go, you know, work in, I don't know, sales or make a lot of money.

01:23:30.180 Well, if you're really hot, you can go be a pharmaceutical sales rep.

01:23:34.180 Or you could go be a bottle girl.

01:23:36.180 Do you know what I mean?

01:23:38.180 You know, it's there's nothing worse than wasting 18 to 25 chubby.

01:23:45.180 It's nothing worse.

01:23:47.180 It's like paying on hard mode.

01:23:49.180 Well, what's worse?

01:23:51.180 Spending 25, 18 to 25 chubby or spending 18 to 25 getting some lesbian dance theater degree and putting yourself $75,000 debt.

01:24:00.180 Oh, it's dead.

01:24:01.180 What's worse?

01:24:02.180 Okay.

01:24:03.180 Look, I know there's worse things.

01:24:04.180 Okay.

01:24:05.180 I know there's, I'm not saying it's like the end of the world, but all I'm saying, all I'm saying is what I would, I would just, I wish someone sat me down.

01:24:15.180 So when I was 18, I was like, no, I want to play.

01:24:17.180 I want to get this volleyball thing.

01:24:19.180 And I was, you know, you know, you're thinking of all these things.

01:24:21.180 Cause you're young, there's all this stuff you want to do.

01:24:23.180 You want to experience like all this.

01:24:26.180 You know how it is when you're young, you think you can do anything, but whatever you're going to do, like, I would take it so seriously that if I was 18 again, I would literally.

01:24:36.180 And when I got demonetized, I kind of did this, but I would literally spend all of my energy and my mental, like problem solving ability.

01:24:46.180 Usually if you fat, it's because you can't count calories or you can't cook.

01:24:51.180 If you can afford to eat out and just eat like Chipotle every day, but you probably can't.

01:24:57.180 So I would just learn to cook.

01:24:59.180 Um, yeah.

01:25:01.180 So that's what, that's what I would tell you.

01:25:06.180 Oh, okay.

01:25:07.180 Well, uh, Ronald has been waiting a long time.

01:25:10.180 So we'll let him in.

01:25:15.180 And make sure to like the video, subscribe, please.

01:25:17.180 We really appreciate that.

01:25:18.180 They said you need a man to train.

01:25:19.180 Sorry.

01:25:20.180 Sorry.

01:25:21.180 They said you need a man to train you.

01:25:22.180 Well, that's totally fine.

01:25:23.180 So go to the gym and find one.

01:25:25.180 I recommend a bodybuilding or jujitsu gym.

01:25:31.180 The only thing is bodybuilding.

01:25:34.180 I should probably juju.

01:25:35.180 I've never done jujitsu, but I've heard anyways.

01:25:37.180 Go ahead.

01:25:38.180 Ronald.

01:25:39.180 Are you there?

01:25:42.180 Ronald.

01:25:45.180 Ronald going once.

01:25:47.180 Ronald going twice.

01:25:49.180 Ronald going three times.

01:25:50.180 I'm taking you out.

01:25:53.180 Okay.

01:25:54.180 Wow.

01:25:55.180 We've so.

01:25:56.180 Yeah.

01:25:57.180 Okay.

01:25:58.180 And then.

01:26:00.180 I'm going to let.

01:26:01.180 Is this the Gabe?

01:26:04.180 I'm going to let him in for a couple of minutes.

01:26:08.180 Gabe is coming in.

01:26:10.180 It says joining.

01:26:12.180 And then.

01:26:14.180 Next person up is going to be Katie.

01:26:16.180 I think we have.

01:26:17.180 We're going to break the record for women calling in tonight.

01:26:20.180 I know.

01:26:21.180 Wow.

01:26:22.180 Can't believe it.

01:26:25.180 Gabe is still joining.

01:26:26.180 Gabe.

01:26:27.180 Are you there?

01:26:28.180 This is the nicest women have been to me in five years.

01:26:32.180 Gabe, you're on mute.

01:26:36.180 Hey.

01:26:37.180 Hi, Doug.

01:26:38.180 What up, Gabe?

01:26:40.180 What up?

01:26:42.180 So tell me where have the men.

01:26:43.180 Go fast.

01:26:44.180 Because we.

01:26:45.180 You got four minutes.

01:26:46.180 We got a full call line.

01:26:47.180 Go for it.

01:26:48.180 Yeah.

01:26:49.180 Pearl.

01:26:50.180 What did you ask?

01:26:51.180 Where have the men gone?

01:26:55.180 There's four different answers.

01:26:57.180 First off.

01:26:58.180 Either.

01:26:59.180 They're being.

01:27:00.180 Rejected.

01:27:01.180 Countless.

01:27:02.180 Constantly.

01:27:03.180 Friend zoned.

01:27:04.180 Or sacrificed.

01:27:05.180 By me too.

01:27:06.180 And cancel culture.

01:27:09.180 And that's the only explanation I can think of.

01:27:13.180 I'm sure.

01:27:14.180 There's more, but.

01:27:15.180 Okay.

01:27:16.180 I.

01:27:17.180 Yeah.

01:27:18.180 Cool.

01:27:19.180 Anything else?

01:27:25.180 No.

01:27:26.180 All right.

01:27:27.180 Thanks for calling, Gabe.

01:27:28.180 Pleasure as always.

01:27:29.180 Always good to hear.

01:27:30.180 Yeah.

01:27:32.180 Oh, that was short.

01:27:33.180 Okay.

01:27:34.180 We're going to let in.

01:27:38.180 Katie is coming up.

01:27:42.180 Katie is joining.

01:27:45.180 Katie, you're on mute.

01:27:49.180 Katie, are you there?

01:27:52.180 Katie.

01:27:53.180 K-A-T-Y.

01:27:54.180 You're on mute.

01:27:55.180 Katie going.

01:27:56.180 You think I should find God this year?

01:28:01.180 I'm 28.

01:28:02.180 That's the time to do it, isn't it?

01:28:04.180 Or maybe a 32 I should find.

01:28:05.180 Yeah.

01:28:06.180 It's coming.

01:28:08.180 Maybe I'll come on in a nun outfit one day.

01:28:11.180 No, no.

01:28:12.180 The first time is having a big cross hanging, hanging between your cleavage.

01:28:24.180 Oh my gosh.

01:28:25.180 I do have a cross on today.

01:28:27.180 Yeah.

01:28:28.180 You got to do that.

01:28:30.180 Katie going once.

01:28:31.180 Katie going twice.

01:28:32.180 I'm going to put you back in the waiting room.

01:28:35.180 Okay.

01:28:36.180 We have.

01:28:39.180 I'm going to tweet that.

01:28:40.180 Should I find God today?

01:28:43.180 We have.

01:28:44.180 I pet big women.

01:28:49.180 I pet big women.

01:28:51.180 Are you there?

01:28:52.180 It's my cod tag.

01:28:53.180 And I was like, you know what?

01:28:55.180 Let's do it.

01:28:56.180 Let's go.

01:28:58.180 They love it down on Xbox.

01:29:00.180 Wait.

01:29:01.180 So.

01:29:03.180 But do you answer the question?

01:29:04.180 Are you, are you chubby chaser or what?

01:29:06.180 What's up?

01:29:07.180 Oh no, no, no.

01:29:08.180 Um, sure.

01:29:10.180 The Gamer Tag is a fun little backstory.

01:29:13.180 Um, so basically I tell people it's a side hustle and I say it starts at 200 pounds and

01:29:20.180 for every pound she is.

01:29:21.180 That's a dollar a minute.

01:29:22.180 So, I don't know.

01:29:23.180 What?

01:29:24.180 What?

01:29:25.180 What?

01:29:26.180 What?

01:29:27.180 What?

01:29:28.180 What?

01:29:29.180 What?

01:29:30.180 What?

01:29:31.180 What?

01:29:32.180 What?

01:29:33.180 What?

01:29:34.180 What?

01:29:35.180 minute so she wants to get pet you know it's she's a good 250 then you know she's paying 250 an hour

01:29:42.800 and if we get group we get a you know three 350 ladies three we got 350 right here times three

01:29:49.300 we give them a little group discount you know we bring it down to a thousand actually do you know

01:29:55.220 what how much would you how much would it cost for you to bang a 350 pound broad like oh not pat

01:30:03.500 like banger how much does psychotherapy cost these days all right man i pet big women where have all

01:30:16.540 the men gone what's that oh where have all the men gone all these women i'm wondering why answer that

01:30:23.180 question before i answer that question am i allowed to cuss at all if it's in good taste

01:30:28.780 yes okay cool so i'll tell you in a little bit of a fun little vivid storytelling way where all the men

01:30:38.760 went so when they look at it's more of in response to this is what happened where it started with the

01:30:47.320 women we have they walk in the door half cooked evidence lacking conclusions all that one like

01:30:55.420 the 50 year old perfectly comes to mind all she was missing was some baritone in her voice

01:31:00.780 um but uh as kevin samuels would have put it i know you're both fans of them put your dick up

01:31:07.960 like that that woman definitely was rearing for a fight and it's really weird because that's how

01:31:16.300 women are a lot of women not all not all emotionally stimulated these days they like to get into you know

01:31:23.860 little fights and you know it's fun for them um but i don't know about you but my favorite thing

01:31:33.500 about women is you know that they're not men so anyways um i kind of want to attack this from a

01:31:41.300 little bit of a like you know like health care pathological angle um it's very i'd like to think

01:31:48.460 it's interesting perspective but you guys can be the judge so in response to women like her there

01:31:53.640 was a complete divide and it was an extreme there were the men on one hand who became more socially

01:31:59.300 aware and then the rest became like absolute simps they just dug in and like each side took their side

01:32:08.200 and the ones who became self-aware you know developed themselves compassion nurturing empathy

01:32:15.260 you know typically stuff that you'd think women would be good at um myself included we piss a lot

01:32:22.020 of women off because we got mr 50 year old fight me energy like who don't know how to do these things

01:32:30.360 and i've seen it kind of not not just once but two big hand cases a lot of small fun little anecdotal

01:32:38.340 cases but the perfect imagery i could paint with this is anecdotally like i was engaged twice

01:32:45.340 and both had borderline personality disorder yikes um and i couldn't pin it with the first one even

01:32:53.580 with my psych background uh until the second one they didn't want me they wanted to be me

01:33:00.520 like they wanted what i had in fortitude and skills that they should have had that they were

01:33:08.080 failed in life for their gender like me being with them was validation for their hot dog water

01:33:15.600 personalities and simply because i was patient enough to try and help them and be there for them

01:33:21.900 and you know do the whole let's grow together and you know like until i find it got to the point

01:33:30.440 where i just want to peel my skin off and i think that's where the intelligent men went that's where

01:33:40.520 the self-aware men what do you mean where they wanted to be you can you give me an example

01:33:45.460 like a specific she did this sure yeah sure so um one that really really stuck in my memory real good

01:33:55.600 um was i was mad at her for something go figure um and instead of taking accountability or you know

01:34:06.240 acknowledging it i had to like fight her for like four hours for her to like get it so i basically

01:34:13.500 ended up having to console myself in the matter and it was a pretty serious subject but um

01:34:20.620 yeah so she later came to me and said i don't know how you do it like i've watched the world

01:34:30.520 knock you around and you still get back up and not only that you know how to like heal the wounds

01:34:38.060 and she's just like i wish i could be like that and it was it was i'm very big on energy

01:34:46.700 and i don't know it was it was like and i almost got this invoked feeling of pity like i saw probably

01:34:56.780 the most vulnerable form of her and either of them that i had seen in that way and like

01:35:05.920 she she went on to tell me that she was like jealous of the fact even envious that i could

01:35:13.700 handle these issues and like you know soothe myself and she couldn't do that for me she was

01:35:22.700 like i don't know how to do that for you like i don't blah blah blah blah like man i don't know how

01:35:28.140 many times i've said instead of arguing with me or you know telling me i'm wrong she asked more

01:35:33.280 questions and you know take a good take a good step in the radical acceptance direction and we'd

01:35:38.440 probably get a lot farther but it got to the point where you know even her own family was like yeah i

01:35:45.280 get it you got it like i understand like that you want like i just know that exact situation where

01:35:54.520 you're dating a relative and you're like poor guy girl the same aunt who said i see the way she and

01:36:07.100 her daughter like look at you just hearing your name it brings like like the whole stars are in

01:36:14.380 their eyes the same woman was like yeah i get it

01:36:18.220 i don't blame you she even disclosed to me that there's a whole bunch of mental illness on that side

01:36:25.940 of the family i'm like you know what if even she's telling me i should probably go like agreeing with

01:36:33.840 me here like she's had front row tickets for how long what am i going to not listen to her

01:36:41.940 like no that's that's bananas but i think i think that's where the the extremes kind of sat there's

01:36:51.760 the guys who are just like you know what for what like myself and then there's the other guys at the

01:36:58.420 bottom of the barrel who are figuratively and literally getting their sacks kicked you know by

01:37:06.840 these emotionally aggressive women and even physically domineering women yeah and you know

01:37:13.960 then you've got that go ahead two big deal breakers when a woman that i'm dating is when she outright

01:37:22.520 disagrees with me in public as in the women that want to get you told in front of everybody oh yeah

01:37:29.000 and the women shame you yeah and then the women that talk to you look like they can beat you in a

01:37:35.540 fight those are the two worst kind of women two worst oh my god yep too many women will talk to you

01:37:44.080 like they can physically beat you in a fight and it's like no you need to stop that quickly

01:37:49.040 yeah no i'm i'm six foot and i'm i'm so close to my goal weight of hitting 280 i was the little

01:37:58.700 tiniest kid in high school i worked for like over 15 years to be the size i wanted to be

01:38:04.080 finally got there almost there like near and there and i the tone like the amount of like

01:38:13.440 baritone they will put in their voice like i i know exactly what you're saying dude like you look like

01:38:19.260 you're about 160 and you want to square up like come on now don't forget i can identify as a woman

01:38:24.880 real quick like we we can have these hands these hands are ready to eat for everyone

01:38:32.560 man thanks for calling in okay yeah calling anytime i loved it loved it have a good night you too

01:38:41.760 all right let's go we're gonna try katie again because we're gonna try to break the record for

01:38:46.480 the amount of women on the show guys like the video subscribe if you haven't already thank you

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01:39:01.600 nine and cents a month we'd love to see you over there katie are you there

01:39:05.760 i'm here what's up katie hey i'm so happy to talk with you i'm happy to talk with you too

01:39:19.200 i am a gen x okay and my daughter has just turned 30 and she's like 5 10 has beautiful long auburn hair

01:39:29.840 i mean she's just this great girl and i mourn for her in the current dating age i mean she is just

01:39:39.280 at her wit's end and she's asking the same question where are all the good men where are men period

01:39:48.720 because she's tried all the apps she seemed to have done everything right i mean she went to college and

01:39:57.040 got like a vet tech degree like a two-year degree um wasn't making a ton of money but was doing what

01:40:03.280 she loved um she tries to go kayaking and go to the gym and do all these different things to meet people

01:40:11.200 but she has very midwestern values kind of old-fashioned and the guys just aren't asking her out

01:40:21.120 well does she have the does she have the dating apps yeah yeah she's done all that and she'll go

01:40:28.320 on a date here a date there is she is she in shape she is pretty much i mean i'd say she's a little

01:40:35.440 overweight but not terrible and she's one of those that wears it well because she's 5 10

01:40:42.480 but not bad looking at all she's very pretty and i'd say she's like a size 14 16. you know she's not

01:40:50.480 like a size two or anything but she's also real big and super obese either she's but she's chubby

01:40:56.960 okay a little chubby tell her to get on the treadmill i'm telling you yeah she's on it that's that's been

01:41:04.320 her her goal right now is like she's gonna get to this hot summer uh girl you know but it's it's so

01:41:12.000 has she ever had relationship in the past she did have a five-year relationship but it was with this

01:41:18.400 ultra liberal blue-haired guy who if you even started talking about you know we're very old

01:41:27.520 fashioned we're very much gen x we're about um you know gender is being proper i grew up in a whole

01:41:33.600 different time it seems like now yeah and i just i mourn for these kids nowadays that are trying to date

01:41:41.440 in their 20s there's no rules well she's gonna she's gonna have to start just giving it up start

01:41:48.720 sleeping with some guys i'm dead serious it's not gonna happen no other guys guys aren't gonna wait

01:41:54.000 for a 30 year old they're not gonna do it she's just gonna have to start she's gonna have to start

01:41:58.480 sleeping around that's it go ahead i'm dead serious question to you in the chat was if you could define

01:42:07.680 the perfect woman say in her late 20s if you could describe that for her what would you describe

01:42:19.920 that perfect woman to be what is the woman that men are going to choose a thin one she's gotta get on

01:42:27.040 the treadmill i'm dead serious i'm telling you i was chubby i mean the attractiveness part again but

01:42:33.600 like what should her goals be for like work i mean if a woman's single she's gotta work she's gotta

01:42:41.280 feed herself and keep an apartment and that kind of thing but other than just how she looks who is

01:42:48.400 she supposed to be oh okay okay i have a couple questions does she want does she want a husband or

01:42:56.640 a partner did she ever use the word partner at all when she talks about she wants a husband and kids i

01:43:02.240 mean her just now that she's just turned 30 her clock is ticking like she really wants a family

01:43:09.120 she wants a home she wants the white picket fence the whole nine yards and the guy doesn't have to be

01:43:13.760 rich i mean just decent blue collar guy would be why did she spend five years with some blue-haired

01:43:20.960 liberal guy has she figured that out yet because here's the thing yeah i think i think she's finally

01:43:26.640 figured that out that that's really not the way to go i mean she had this idealistic hippie um super

01:43:34.400 liberal um experience in college and she thought that was the way she wanted to go and honestly i

01:43:41.120 think she wanted a guy that she could kind of control and he was that kind of guy there it is i knew

01:43:47.040 because she probably still has that controlling aspect of of her personality and it comes out when

01:43:53.680 she starts talking to guys and getting to know him because look guys we can tell the type of women

01:43:58.960 who want to control us we can just tell by the way the terms they use the way they navigate

01:44:04.960 conversations and she probably comes off as controlling well and what i hear from the dating

01:44:11.040 coaches is it takes an average of 15 dates for women to find someone they like

01:44:16.480 like so like you know is she is she she doing 15 dates a month every two months you know it's kind

01:44:23.600 of a number one or two a month yeah and and the thing is with the apps there's no way she's not

01:44:29.440 getting asked out if like there's no way even like i've seen overweight women get like tons of matches

01:44:38.880 you know yeah like yeah a lot of young conservative women they get in this trap where the they their

01:44:47.200 father is conservative and they want a conservative man but they still want this 50 50 equality garbage

01:44:54.960 right so they they want to be with a man in uniform or like a man that'll protect them

01:45:01.280 provide but they still want this equal thing is that your daughter yeah she's a lot like that and i've

01:45:08.400 been she her in the other direction now because i've i myself went through this i am 52 years old

01:45:17.840 now my husband's 58 but when i was in my early 20s i grew up in eastern iowa very conservative

01:45:27.200 married very young actually probably too young um had two children and unfortunately my husband had

01:45:33.760 mental health issues um some pretty serious mental health issues that didn't crop up until his 20s

01:45:40.480 so that was a roller coaster ride we had to get off of i mean for our own safety but then here i was a

01:45:47.120 single woman in her mid-20s with two kids and i was also overweight so it was like i knew i was done

01:45:54.160 i knew i wasn't dating i knew i wasn't gonna find love and marriage in the white picket fence that i wanted

01:46:00.240 that just wasn't the reality of the situation so i raised my kids by myself and i was very extremely

01:46:09.760 lucky and counted my lucky stars that i found an older man who was a widower and i thank his late

01:46:20.880 wife every day because she broke him in so to speak to be a wonderful husband and we got married about

01:46:27.120 five years ago and i've never been happier in my entire life wow than to be a married woman i live

01:46:33.760 out on a small farm i have horses and dogs and i had cancer a few years back and he married me even

01:46:41.680 after his wife passed away from cancer he dated and married me and i i beat stage four squamous cell

01:46:47.920 cancer of my throat uh five six years ago and now you know he married the girl with cancer it's amazing

01:46:56.720 but i have this fairy tale story and i've been trying why would you say that she broke him in

01:47:01.680 to be a good husband why would you say that she really did i mean they go that's not funny

01:47:07.840 most men are good men and husbands before they meet a woman he did have conservative values from

01:47:15.360 the very beginning um but just the small things you know that people go through when they're first

01:47:21.920 married if your daughter hurt happens when you're first married he had already gone through all that

01:47:27.200 and i'd already gone through all that so it made you say stuff like that is probably what contributed

01:47:33.520 to your daughter having the viewpoint on men that she has you don't want to say that type of thing

01:47:38.160 about a good man don't say don't even joke about that kind of stuff you're very probably right you're

01:47:45.600 probably that's not funny that is a uh an old saying that probably should just die i suppose don't say

01:47:54.000 that please because he he sounds like a good guy and he did you very very well is a very good man and

01:48:00.640 i say that all the time and i acknowledge that constantly and in front of my daughter because i think

01:48:06.400 those are things that she needs to hear i mean and yeah go ahead i mean it's gonna

01:48:15.360 it's gonna partially be a numbers game for her like on average it's 15 dates off of hinge people

01:48:22.080 are doing the dating apps i wouldn't really like doing all these activities and stuff is nice but

01:48:27.200 it's if it's not working like every dating coach i've talked to has said all roads lead to the dating apps

01:48:34.560 like all of them also if she's gonna have to figure out this whole wanting a conservative man but like

01:48:40.240 wanting 50 50 things she has to put that away she has to put herself in a position where she can find

01:48:46.160 a conservative guy and keep her mouth shut and become the type of man that he wants that's the

01:48:51.200 only way she she gonna win because odds are she has a mouth on her a little bit she has to say her

01:48:56.800 freaking opinion on stuff she needs to put that away if she wants to get a conservative yeah but she's gonna

01:49:02.640 have to she's gonna have to get experience to learn it like she's not gonna yeah in dating too these

01:49:09.680 days how long do you wait to have sex she's got three dates tops and she's got to start just giving

01:49:17.040 it out i swear to god i'll tell you why kate they're not waiting they're not yeah many get to

01:49:23.840 know women in two ways one to have sex with them and then two to audit them to see if the relationship

01:49:29.040 material you can't move from you can't a man will not audit a woman for relationship until sex has

01:49:36.960 happened and you have to tell your daughter this if a man is just going to sleep with you and leave

01:49:43.120 he's going to do it in one date yeah eight dates ten dates so so you know three dates tops and she

01:49:50.880 shouldn't be going out with men that she wouldn't sleep with but she she if she wants if she wants to

01:49:56.080 get the show on the road she needs to sleep sooner rather than later and when you're older you can't

01:50:00.800 really sell purity like a guy might wait 10 dates for a 20 year old but at 30 he got like one and a half

01:50:08.240 okay you got like yeah because he's gonna think what am i getting out of this and if

01:50:12.960 he's not getting sex he's gonna he's gonna go somewhere else and assume she's going somewhere

01:50:17.920 else does she have any exes she's hung up on like you know she might not tell you but is there any

01:50:24.880 like situation go ahead um she had a bad experience recently where she went out with a guy that was

01:50:31.200 really creepy and then she went on one of these sites where these women all connect with each other

01:50:36.880 to find out whether or not the guy's dating a whole bunch of different people well she ended up finding

01:50:42.000 out that this guy's now in jail for sexually assaulting women and so that really scared her

01:50:48.800 and i think she just is like taking a break but i'm trying to encourage her to get back out there

01:50:55.200 and think of the long-term goal i'd say get on the apps and i would actually expect her like because if

01:51:01.040 she's masculine she's gonna get dumped a few times and she's just got to figure out why and then sleep on

01:51:06.640 the first date with the next guy until one sticks around that's all you got and also the past 40 50

01:51:14.560 years women have this should be tell your daughter to this too the past 40 50 years women have been

01:51:20.640 saying to men they don't owe men their time their bodies any of that well it's the same for men out on

01:51:28.080 the dating market men don't owe your daughter anything they don't you know if they don't owe

01:51:33.760 you they don't owe her closure she's probably going to get ghosted all that stuff it's all fair and love

01:51:38.880 and war understand i'm saying so she she needs to and so that should toughen her up because she's going

01:51:45.200 to get ghosted she's going to take l's but the worst thing she can do is have one little heartbreak and

01:51:50.240 then and then run away for two years she doesn't have that time if she gets ghosted or takes an lc

01:51:57.600 like they've been telling us men you know get it dust yourself off and get back out there get a if

01:52:02.000 she gets ghosted just next friday it's a new date and women have it easier than ever you can filter

01:52:08.400 for like you can download hinge and filter for just conservative men if that's what you want

01:52:14.160 yep like you can that's a good idea i didn't realize that you could do that you could filter by height

01:52:19.040 i mean just buy the premium subscriptions any guy that she would hypothetically sleep you know if

01:52:25.520 she doesn't want to don't do it but you're you're not going to get to the relationship stage if you

01:52:31.040 don't kind of speed that up what would you say i'd say you give him three months ish to commit

01:52:37.680 yeah yeah like to a relationship yeah here's the thing she has to take ownership of dating because

01:52:42.880 here's the thing um situationships are where a man and a woman are in a situation where there's no

01:52:50.880 labels a situation ship is a woman's fault because like it's a man's responsibility to know if he's

01:52:58.320 putting effort into a woman and he's not going to get sex from her but it's a woman's responsibility

01:53:03.920 to end any situation where she's with a man and they're in a relationship where she doesn't get

01:53:09.760 the label she wants she has to cut that off it's her responsibility in her last relationship

01:53:17.600 it was a very long drawn out situation show and she just stayed in it she's very giving person like

01:53:24.960 going on dates and stuff like that she has no problem splitting the check

01:53:28.480 she will give gifts to people just for fun she's a very very very giving person so i don't think

01:53:36.960 that's ever been a problem um she's not a money grubber she's not looking for a guy who's rich yeah

01:53:44.160 you have to understand a lot of time when girls are in a situation ship it's either because they're

01:53:48.640 annoying to the guy or they're not hot enough so if she really wanted the guy she'd lose the weight

01:53:54.960 maybe he would have been into her but like guys work their whole life to get to a certain level

01:53:59.840 and they're you know they don't want to chubby because i'm around the same height 14 16 is pretty

01:54:04.720 big like i just have to get on it yeah like i i would treat that like a i don't know if she makes

01:54:13.440 a lot of money i would get a job at a gym or something so you can kind of be around this is a lab

01:54:18.560 tech at a hospital okay wait so some exercises they're running around the hospital but probably

01:54:25.680 not enough i mean if she loses weight she she's around doctors and male nurses and stuff like that

01:54:33.280 she could you know if she just ups the attraction level she could probably back i don't think i don't

01:54:38.000 know if they're gonna touch girls at work now you think and hospitals oh yeah i guess you're right you're

01:54:45.120 right you're right you're right they do you're right start giving start giving gluck luck in the

01:54:54.880 rooms and maybe she'll find us i don't want her to get fired though it's only 15 minutes from the

01:55:02.720 house so i get another job and this is small town indiana so like everybody would know

01:55:09.440 you know maybe it's moving to a city you know it's like the women that want to get married care

01:55:17.760 more about getting the guy than their reputation yeah yeah we're only half an hour from fort wayne

01:55:26.080 indiana which is a bigger city so she's been traveling back and forth a lot for the the dating stuff

01:55:33.600 so we pretty much have to because we're in a tiny tiny town here so yeah yeah she could try being a

01:55:41.600 travel lab tech for a while there's a what you could she could try being a travel lab tech oh yeah

01:55:51.200 yeah that's an option too if you plus tell her to study her blowjob skills oh my goodness oh gosh you

01:55:59.920 think her mother let her give her a class on that i don't know hey if you ever you ever see a guy

01:56:05.920 that's dating a girl that's like three points less attractive and you're like how did she pull that

01:56:11.520 off that's always what it is yeah honestly if you know if if she takes interest in the guy's interests

01:56:19.600 she doesn't try to challenge the guy you know and she's half decent in bed she's she's there but just

01:56:28.000 once again the biggest problem i've seen i'm i said this is the third time i'm gonna say it she

01:56:32.320 seemed to me like she was a conservative guy but then she wants equal say and wants to be 50 50 and

01:56:37.760 he has to know my opinions on stuff which is why she she would date that that guy that she's with

01:56:42.960 for five years she needs to be the type of woman that conservative guy wants especially if she's

01:56:48.400 attracted to conservative men and and to answer the question of you know where are all the good men

01:56:56.400 they're still there i honestly think they're all still there it's the women that have screwed it up

01:57:04.160 and that is why i am such a big fan of this show um i think more women need to participate i need to

01:57:13.600 number one listen not try to interject or say you're wrong or anything like that but actually sit down

01:57:22.320 and listen to what men have to say and what they want because what they want i think is valid and

01:57:31.520 this whole me too crap has ruined it and they ruined it for themselves so uh that's basically why i love

01:57:42.160 the show and i pay attention yeah thanks so much for calling in you're a good sport so i appreciate it

01:57:49.040 it give us an update and i will be showing my daughter yeah show her show her some lana roads you

01:57:57.520 know what i mean yeah thanks curly y'all been great right

01:58:07.520 yeah at 21 you could sell uh purity at 31 it's time to sell the gluck gluck

01:58:12.480 yeah a 14 16 yeah that's a no-go yeah it's a no-go i know the thing is i at my heaviest i think i was

01:58:23.840 a 14 so i know what that looks like and you're not getting called back i'll tell you that yeah unless

01:58:30.960 you're gonna date a fat guy they might call you back yeah afron five and that's the thing thank you

01:58:37.200 afron i appreciate it that's what i mean like maybe your situationship was just waiting to see

01:58:42.960 if she lost the weight yeah some guys do that they they have like a trait they kind of wait to see if

01:58:50.080 you'll like improve and they're not going to tell you what to do so it's like you don't do it yeah all

01:58:57.280 men do is just walk away or they break up with you a lot they always talk about oh yeah women will

01:59:03.280 break up with a guy long before she actually leaves well guys kind of do the same thing but

01:59:08.160 at the beginning phase it's like he'll he'll disqualify you from relationship consideration

01:59:14.640 but still keep you around and you wouldn't even know you still think that you and him are building

01:59:19.040 towards something and in his head he's like no yeah okay let's bring in nathan has been waiting for a

01:59:28.480 while yes make sure to like the video there's over a thousand people in here we should have a thousand

01:59:34.880 likes so we want a hundred percent engagement um so hit that like button subscribe if you haven't

01:59:41.440 already we are on our way to three million yeah she was uh she was a single mama too and she found a

01:59:47.280 husband i know she can gluck gluck his first wife trained trained him broke him into what's that about

01:59:56.720 man i'm so tired you see that disrespectful rhetoric yeah come on now all right it says nathan is joining

02:00:08.560 uh it says nathan's joining still but she was a good sport though i hope that she does show this to

02:00:14.960 her daughter though because her daughter's 30 i mean if she loses weight and it you know i wouldn't even go

02:00:23.120 on and i would spend three months i wouldn't go on a single date why you're fat get unfat you have

02:00:28.640 three months and then i would i would literally if i found dates it would be in the gym that's yeah

02:00:37.760 that's that's your only job okay some reason it says nathan is still joining so i'm gonna bring

02:00:45.120 sean up i don't think it's the sean that normally joins because i don't see his thing but

02:00:49.760 but sean are you there uh yeah can you hear me hey sean how are you doing well um so where do you

02:01:01.440 think the men have gone yeah so i mean i think the men are there i just think the women kind of choose

02:01:08.640 to not see us highly attracted to them or so we're highly attractive to them and i'll give you an example

02:01:16.880 at my workplace we just had like the new interns come in okay and there's like five guys and one of

02:01:23.920 them looks like super chad and the other four look like just regular guys and you got five girls

02:01:30.880 and all the girls want to do is basically gather around the super chat guy and the other guys are just

02:01:36.880 off to themselves eating lunch together and it's just very obvious that the girls are like we'll double

02:01:43.920 back for those other guys if we're like 30 later on but for now we're gonna go for what we want so

02:01:50.560 i think that's just how things kind of play out girls kind of want to go for their first choice

02:01:55.120 and then only when they kind of have to give that up or they become more realistic you know getting

02:02:00.720 kind of a nudge from their parents or people around them that they need to settle down sooner

02:02:05.120 than later then they'll kind of double back for a quote-unquote reliable guy a nice guy

02:02:10.880 instead of the hawk guy right yeah yeah i agree doug mpa you got anything uh what's your age group sean

02:02:22.640 i'm 34 actually oh yeah so

02:02:28.480 uh yeah all those young guys all they have to do is hit 35 with no children and not being married and

02:02:36.000 it all changes for them so if you see those young guys they're like oh i wish that was me

02:02:41.360 to tell them to keep their head down till they hit 35. yeah i mean i would add on to that like when

02:02:47.280 you're 35 but you also have your stuff together and you're in shape then i would say you'll do a lot

02:02:53.440 better but like if you haven't done anything for yourself and you're 35 like they're not going to look

02:02:58.400 your way yeah yeah um you're cooked how has dating changed for you in the past five years

02:03:05.280 and like going out and stuff go ahead yeah i would say dating has gotten better as kind of like my

02:03:11.840 net worth has kind of gone up my social status has gone up i would say it has gotten better but i

02:03:17.920 would say kind of post uh cough cough to you know uh doug mpa's point i would say there's a lot more

02:03:25.760 of a anti-social vibe i see amongst a lot of the girls uh so it's it's easier for the ones that are

02:03:32.000 more motivated to date them but for a lot of the girls you know especially in their 20s they're they

02:03:37.760 just don't seem to be as motivated to date that i would see you know before kind of the the great scare

02:03:45.520 kind of happened like uh prior to that happening like approaching girls was a lot easier people

02:03:50.640 were a lot more open to conversations now it's just like everyone's either has their earbuds inside or

02:03:56.800 they're scrolling through their phone they can't really be bothered so it's somewhat easier but it's

02:04:02.400 also somewhat harder i would say okay yeah um how many dates do you go on a week or like in a month

02:04:10.160 and like how often do you go out now versus before yeah i would say i probably go on about four dates

02:04:17.680 a month now uh so i outside of kind of like work and going to the gym and things like that i try to

02:04:24.080 go out at least on weekends to try to meet folks at bars and things like that but i would say most of

02:04:28.880 the dates i meet are either pretty much through dating apps or it's through instagram from people i

02:04:35.920 met in person but then you know followed them on instagram kind of make my my sort of instagram

02:04:42.720 profile kind of like a dating app showcasing my life and then messaging them that way i found that's a lot

02:04:47.680 easier way to get them on a date than asking them out directly for whatever reason you know nowadays

02:04:54.160 it's easier to ask them out that way than to just ask them for their number directly uh for whatever

02:04:59.920 reason uh so yeah i mean that's kind of how things are playing out at the moment cool doug mpa you got

02:05:06.400 anything are you not sean it looks like you have all figured out just you know the young guys will

02:05:12.560 learn they gotta start they've learned early that part of the meal experience is taking those l's so just

02:05:18.080 let them take the l's at work okay absolutely all right good talking to you thanks okay

02:05:25.440 hey i'm gonna bring up uh polismo polissimo

02:05:40.720 hang on real good

02:05:46.000 are you there i'm here i'm here hey where are you calling out of

02:05:49.600 where am i calling out uh columbus ohio oh cool midwest too i did not miss that you chatted out

02:06:00.960 columbus uh a little bit ago that i what you were talking you were you debased columbus ohio a minute

02:06:12.720 ago uh well not a minute but like uh i don't know maybe 45 minutes ago you were on a tirade and you

02:06:21.680 were like hey you know we'll you know columbus ohio oh did i i might have sorry about that earl

02:06:31.120 either way um i love you girl uh you're you're wonderful and i'm a big fan well thank you um so

02:06:39.840 where what's your answer to the question where have all the men gone this is a two-tiered question

02:06:47.120 uh there's old older men and then there's younger men okay uh the younger men are completely uh the

02:06:54.800 older men have completely the older men have completely given up i'm 49 i've been divorced twice

02:07:03.280 i'm done with women i but i but i have kids and you know i i kind of got all the benefits the younger

02:07:11.360 men are they are well and truly because they want kids they want families they want all these things

02:07:20.480 um but modern women like they i mean i don't know it they're they're basically

02:07:30.320 diffusing bombs trying to get that for their for their lives they they don't know what the hell's

02:07:38.080 going to go off in their face you know that's my observance i feel horrible i have a son i mean he's

02:07:49.120 seven years old i have a son and i am horrified by what he the world that he's walking into i don't

02:08:00.400 know what uh well i don't and i don't even know what to tell him i don't even know how to start

02:08:04.880 training him the worst part about it is wait till he gets into school and you see how much more that

02:08:12.320 they emphasize the girls over the boys because i have friends who have sons and they keep having to go to

02:08:17.920 the school like where are the resources for the boys it's a bunch of women that are literally

02:08:23.040 trying to push the girls over the boys and are treating him like the like the boys are inherently

02:08:30.000 bad inherently evil it's crazy so just watch out and make sure to be an advocate for your son in public

02:08:37.040 school man because you're going to be the only one that cares no yeah and uh and i appreciate that

02:08:43.200 doug and and i've actually seen it already i get out the i i go to all the parent teacher meetings

02:08:50.480 and everything and i get up there and i yell at those people and stuff but they do uh it's it's

02:08:56.560 everything is geared towards the women uh or girls and like they have girls night after school thing

02:09:07.040 women's appreciation and all this stuff and they don't have they don't have dog dick for the boys

02:09:15.680 there's literally nothing they don't do this stuff for boys uh the boys are the evil ones so you know i i

02:09:23.840 don't know i take you know i take my boy out we go on boy dates and we do our thing you know i mean

02:09:30.400 on a personal basis you know i i you know i talk to him about how valuable he is and how awesome he is

02:09:38.080 and stuff but yeah society is is not going to to give him that ever but as far as yeah as far as like

02:09:48.160 the the the the men going their own way um yeah it's it's older versus younger the younger are

02:09:59.360 these younger boys are so screwed unless something really major changes you know they're in a real

02:10:07.840 bad spot um the older ones like myself i'm 49 years old i like i have i mean i have i have kids

02:10:17.280 already i have no use for a goddamn woman you know um i'm so sick of these i'm i'm like no offense

02:10:26.160 you pearl or any other woman out there but like i hate these hoes yeah i just have no i have no use

02:10:35.120 for it anymore like what the hell is like some like hysterectomy like whatever woman gonna like offer my

02:10:43.040 life um i have a quiet house i have a quiet peaceful place for my babies to come to when i get my days

02:10:54.400 uh like like why the hell would i introduce like i'm not an 18 year old anymore i'm not like hyper

02:11:04.320 hormonal hormonal trying to hump everything you know like i don't know what like some woman would

02:11:11.360 benefit me at this point well you can at least you can at least smash

02:11:18.240 like i don't even really care about smashing anymore at this point like i mean like i said

02:11:26.080 i'm like i'm pushing 50 you know yeah i'm pushing 50 here like i i like my my

02:11:34.880 like my imagination is the hottest like i can conjure up the hottest woman in my in the world in my

02:11:41.760 imagination like spank it oh spank it in the shower if i needed to losing to imaginary women

02:11:51.600 a lot well no but but why why wouldn't i do that and then just only have to deal with that imaginary

02:11:57.920 woman for you know 30 seconds as opposed to dealing with an actual woman for however long if they ask

02:12:06.880 you what's where's the craziest place you've ever had sex i say my mind that's it yeah because i can do

02:12:15.840 anything in my mind but if like i i i you know i pull in some woman uh then you know i'm stuck with

02:12:24.880 her and and like what the does she even bring me like honestly i like kind of like i said i'm almost

02:12:31.200 50. uh if it was some woman that like i don't know she could bear another child or something she

02:12:38.320 was of childbearing age still then you know maybe you know i might i might entertain that idea

02:12:44.320 but outside of that it's like why the hell do i need a woman in my house i was talking about

02:12:50.160 how men have woken up to because men if you're uh if men will make money but now we get to consider

02:13:00.720 our time and that's what you're doing you just you're you're taking your time back and you're just

02:13:07.440 making sure because time is the one thing that you can't get back and you're just making sure that it's

02:13:11.120 going towards stuff that's benefiting you and your children instead of a woman yeah no i i absolutely

02:13:18.720 agree with that um i i think that time is a thing you know but time i don't i don't really care a whole

02:13:25.600 lot about time what i care about is peace quiet uh just harmony in my home and i don't you know

02:13:37.360 in my experience i just haven't had a lot of uh really good uh i haven't had a i haven't had a lot

02:13:44.720 of good like you know experiences with like a woman bringing peace to my home uh generally it's chaos and

02:13:52.320 in just garbage and you know i don't i don't really need it i'd rather just have uh i'd rather just

02:13:58.800 have peace and quiet my baby's running around doing their own thing and everything and uh yeah yeah i

02:14:05.680 i don't i don't need a woman yeah okay totally okay thanks so much for calling in okay call in any time

02:14:12.640 all right no big fan pearl thanks so much um there was a super chat i think i missed it let me pull it up

02:14:30.080 what's up yeah what's up man you know just another day in the life

02:14:35.920 where have all the good men gone these women are asking where have they gone ship

02:14:43.360 um you know uh they've gone uh to the strip clubs and to to uh only fans and they've gone to

02:14:51.360 prostitutes they've gone to liz crawler um they've gone to uh spinning plates you know they've gone

02:14:59.760 they've gone everywhere shiv have you noticed a difference and it's interesting because you date

02:15:06.880 more than you did five years ago but um maybe maybe for your friends would you say they're dating more

02:15:13.520 now than five years ago um have you noticed any that like exited the dating market um yeah so it's

02:15:21.200 interesting it just i think it really depends on i feel like everyone who was a late bloomer

02:15:27.280 like for me i was just like such a workaholic you know all i cared about was work and um and so for

02:15:34.560 me back then like i didn't get a lot of dates or girls uh but now i do because i now have like stuff

02:15:42.160 and like a personality and i've like done the work i found like all the guys back then who all they

02:15:46.240 cared about in college was just getting laid they got way more girls back then and now they're all

02:15:53.920 struggling they haven't they haven't been late in years really so guys that is it because they're

02:15:59.360 losers or well it's because the same things that work when you're like 18 to 21 don't work when you're

02:16:06.240 30. like uh when you're 21 you can get away with not having a job and not having stuff and living at

02:16:13.040 parents house it's really hard to get away with that at 35. you know at 21 you can get away with like

02:16:18.800 paying zero dollars i'm not saying you have to spend a lot of money but like if you it's really

02:16:23.680 if you don't have your own car if you don't have anything that stuff just gets harder as you get

02:16:28.880 older in my opinion i mean look i don't know doug you tell me i don't know if you uh you have the

02:16:34.400 same experience but i i find that as you get older girls will put up with less uh less

02:16:39.440 bullshit uh on on the career front what so i'm just trying to understand the question so as you

02:16:48.160 get older women put up with less no like like my friends who got like all they cared about was like

02:16:54.800 sports and like getting laid in college like now that they like are 35 and live at their parents

02:17:01.120 house and don't have a car and like are unemployed oh yeah yeah they're not getting laid at 35 but at 18

02:17:09.120 in college they were because they were an athlete you know and all they cared about was getting laid

02:17:13.520 and then for me all i cared about was like building a business and like work and money so i got didn't

02:17:19.040 get laid that much and you know in my early 20s and now i i'm spinning like multiple plates in fact

02:17:24.960 it's like now the problem is i can't fit them all in my week so i'm like now having to like split

02:17:30.400 them up over three weeks now it's totally yeah total nightmare i mean i have to like create like

02:17:35.920 a advent calendar for them or something you're always better because we all have those guys that

02:17:42.640 flamed out in high school or college yep and they don't understand that life is uh is a marathon not

02:17:50.240 a sprint and yeah you know i've i've gone back to my hometown multiple times and i saw the guys that were

02:17:58.640 you know popular in high school and stuff you know working at the tire place you know uh yeah

02:18:05.680 so it's it's true and you guys you're better off keeping your head down in high school keep your

02:18:10.560 head down in college play the long game getting a highly valued skill highly valued trade highly value

02:18:16.240 education because um the qualities it takes for you to get those three things are what will make

02:18:23.280 you attractive to women uh for the long term in the long run and even better is that when you get to 30

02:18:31.680 35 40 45 and you've done the work and you've done the hard work i'm dating those college girls

02:18:40.160 oh yeah yeah they might they might hook up with the athlete but they're also hooking up with me

02:18:44.800 so so like so just remember that remember that so that's that's really the despair right is that like

02:18:53.520 i can go girls are screwing like three dudes at a time you might as well be one of them

02:18:58.640 that's what i'm saying but it's like it's better in my shoes where like i can still go get that 21

02:19:03.360 year old hot girl yeah you know but like if you're 35 and you have no no job unemployed you're out of

02:19:09.200 shape like everything's just going bad and you have no card no no whatever it's like you're screwed

02:19:14.560 you're not you're not gonna you're not even gonna get a 30 year old woman or a 35 or 40 year old woman

02:19:20.400 like you're maybe you can get a 50 year old woman if she's down bad or something but like

02:19:24.480 you're you know it doesn't work the other way around so yeah my advice guys who are in their 20s

02:19:29.040 uh do the work trust me it's it's a headache anyway don't waste your time women are the biggest

02:19:33.600 distraction they'll ruin uh they'll ruin your life so you might as well get your life uh ruined once

02:19:38.640 you have have some things you know in place okay thanks um all right i think i think we're gonna

02:19:49.280 wrap it up we're almost at 10 o'clock yeah it's so we still have one two three four five six seven

02:19:58.000 eight nine ten eleven twelve thirteen fourteen fifteen people on the call lines oh my goodness i'm

02:20:05.200 gonna have to come up with a prioritization system here but but this is a really good topic this is

02:20:12.400 great yeah totally is um well i do you have any final thoughts you want to do on the topic doug mpa

02:20:23.280 um you know i'm just gonna say it again women have told men for 50 years to leave them alone

02:20:30.640 um but they knew not what they did and what they were asking for because now it's a staring contest

02:20:36.800 though i think the only way out is for women to start approaching men but they're not going to do

02:20:41.520 it the most powerful women i've ever dated surgeons you know c-suite women lawyers they'll do everything

02:20:49.200 except approach a man and then they also buy into this don't approach me rhetoric so they're unapproachable

02:20:55.440 but they won't approach once again feminism has freed women up from being barefoot in the kitchen

02:21:02.160 but feminism has also freed men up from their traditional massive responsibilities if you're

02:21:07.360 in a major city and you make about sixty thousand dollars a year you can live a good single life as

02:21:12.640 a man you can have your apartment you can have your video games you know you can you know have enough

02:21:18.880 money to take a girl out every once in a while and get laid you can live a good life

02:21:22.240 yeah so um men are just taking their time back and asking what is in it for me and it turns out a

02:21:30.160 lot of times that there isn't a lot for a man in dating got it

02:21:37.760 yeah i agree um i yeah i think you know men do a natural cost benefit analysis and now

02:21:45.040 i mean they're just realizing that the juice isn't really worth the squeeze and i can't blame them

02:21:51.200 i really can't um thanks so much for watching everybody thank you so much for all the callers

02:21:56.960 it's really you guys that make the show having good callers so i really appreciate you calling in

02:22:02.080 sorry if i didn't if we didn't get to you this time i was trying to get i think we had i think

02:22:07.360 we've had four women on tonight yeah um the record yeah and uh so yeah so i'm keeping track of the

02:22:15.920 names i'll try to get you in next time but thank you everyone for calling but it just got to two

02:22:21.680 hours really really quick yeah two and a half i think yeah yeah yeah thanks for calling everybody

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JustPearlyThings - June 25, 2025

Women Are Wondering Where All The Men Went (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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