JustPearlyThings - Women Don't Know What they WANT

00:00:00.000 see what you said about um honesty of your intentions yeah yeah that do you know like

00:00:03.840 when i tell a girl that i don't want anything serious and it's just going to be one that thing

00:00:08.400 it's going to be private no one's going to know like you'll have a good time blah blah blah like

00:00:11.940 97 of the time they'll just get on it so i think that's oh they're happy to sleep yeah they're

00:00:17.640 happy to sleep with you because they like it's weird man like girls are just the standards aren't 1.00

00:00:22.300 as high anymore in regards to what they want so and these are not like these are some like what

00:00:26.700 we would class as high value women that have got low body counts so you have found that if you're 1.00

00:00:30.260 more honest honest and i feel like it goes back to what you said about earlier about girls that want

00:00:34.220 to um travel a lot and stuff when they're younger especially when they're bored you know like when

00:00:38.620 they're bored they can be like these super good girls that present themselves in certain ways but 0.98

00:00:43.040 they know no one's going to find out and they just want a good time with someone that looks like this

00:00:47.160 and so i think if if your intentions as a guy is just sleep with a girl yeah i think just be honest

00:00:52.180 what would you say paul i don't think you should get dating advice from women

00:00:57.040 that's the best advice yeah don't take dating advice from women yeah because i think it's a lot 1.00

00:01:03.480 harder to sleep with women um than we know um and so i think if you've never done it maybe maybe the

00:01:10.360 lesbian girl could have um so i was just curious if if they thought so you thought the honesty was good 1.00

00:01:17.700 anything else not my question because even what we said it was so general tell her your intention

00:01:24.920 to be honest and ask a lot of questions it was like nothing that specific i think um for a guy

00:01:31.440 if you want to find out about their history without asking too many questions and then you can just ask

00:01:35.840 him that simple questions like where have you been the last year like what holidays you've been on

00:01:39.500 if they've been selected by i'd be for these plays like this it's like you're it's it's obvious

00:01:43.740 what you've been on type thing oh i see what else what other questions i'm curious do you ask you

00:01:48.500 know what i'm i normally lead with just the honesty thing because i'm just looking that i'm there for

00:01:52.580 one reason and then it's cool from there so i don't really i'm kind of a bad person take advice

00:01:56.440 from because people they just want to they reciprocate what i want well i think most men i mean there's

00:02:03.000 men watching most men want to know how to get laid so you know i heavily rely on um appearance my

00:02:09.440 appearance and stuff so it's just it's my life coach says to me as well i'd be the worst person

00:02:14.080 to give advice because for me to pull i just i always stand there in the club i think it's

00:02:19.500 literally so you just you just stand there in the club and like what women come up to you 0.89

00:02:23.480 yeah that's when i was more of a younger thing i was a younger mindset i stopped obviously like

00:02:29.200 no i'm just i'm just curious what that's like so like women actually approach you 1.00

00:02:33.480 yeah wow that's so rare you know that's not common all my friends are they're gasped with

00:02:39.980 it they're like they like they use me as fishing bait they just tell me to stand there and then

00:02:43.440 wait till their friends come too yeah uh king what what are the advice did you think was good versus bad

00:02:50.400 i don't know i can't remember most of it i've got one more like what about what about like if you

00:03:01.160 want to find out more about her like having more like debates and stuff to get her perspective on

00:03:06.200 on things and that can tell you a bit about somebody as well like being more friend like

00:03:11.300 in the beginning just build a friendship and have debates like what we're doing now and get her

00:03:15.260 perspective on like world issues and current affairs and that could help see a debate that i

00:03:20.640 bring up often with if i was to meet someone for the first time is like would you um would would

00:03:25.400 you wife would you be a wife if you step with over 50 people and you ask girls and they're like 1.00

00:03:29.360 they're so do you mean like some of them try and um like the feminist girls will try and argue the 1.00

00:03:33.940 point of yeah yeah like this and that but i'm like as soon as you start arguing that point i'm like

00:03:38.160 yeah i don't yeah but that's fine and that's good though because that's a good way of you seeing

00:03:41.680 her mindset that you don't want that i have a question for king just out of curiosity why do you

00:03:47.220 feel like is a bad idea to get um dating advice from women because i always thought like if you're

00:03:51.520 trying to attract women then that's where you find out what they're looking for so i'm kind of

00:03:55.980 curious because because women women don't know what they want so that's the first thing the second 1.00

00:04:00.280 thing is second thing is most women say one thing and do the other so if you're taking advice from 1.00

00:04:06.040 women they're just going to tell you what sounds good they're not going to tell you what actually 1.00

00:04:09.620 is going to work because most of them don't even know so the truth is at the end of the day when you're

00:04:15.200 speaking to women i even think the talking part should just be to get her to talk but it's more about 0.99

00:04:20.760 watching what she does it's not about what she says okay that's a good way to put it she speaks

00:04:25.780 louder double words yeah i said pearl you nailed it happy wife happy life is a recipe for disaster a 1.00

00:04:31.180 man can contribute to his wife's happiness but making her happy is an impossible task um can you 0.74

00:04:37.560 play the video now thank you so this was her response after the comments

00:04:44.320 so after the 50 000 plus comments posted on social i only saw a handful that even considered

00:04:53.220 the possibility of a bus owner being a more aspirational position and recognizing that i am

00:04:59.660 actually speaking and pouring into the ascension of black men when i said what i said but see no some

00:05:06.400 of y'all were too busy naming and shaming me personally and black women in general as undesirable 1.00

00:05:13.200 gold diggers and much worse now i suspect that some of y'all are the same men that were bringing 0.71

00:05:19.200 home c's and d's on your report cards only to then be coddled by parents that said well that's okay

00:05:24.800 as long as you're doing your best well listen i love and believe in the excellence of black men

00:05:31.020 so no my dear c's and d's or any other form of mediocrity is not okay no i will not create a soft

00:05:39.120 place for you or anybody that i love to fall comfortably into the bigotry of low expectations

00:05:45.440 so i'm going to say one more time there's absolutely nothing wrong with driving a bus

00:05:50.400 my mother gloria drove one for years but could it be that black america has been sold a narrative

00:05:56.880 of average regular and typical being good enough for us well see that's called white supremacy and in

00:06:04.960 this case it takes the form of conditioning black americans to happily accept being a permanent american 0.53

00:06:12.560 underclass but see because i know the truth about black folk in america no average is not and will never 0.87

00:06:20.080 be good enough for me and the gag is i don't think it's good enough for you either what do you guys think

00:06:28.960 of a response i'm not sure what a race got to do with anything yeah i didn't i didn't agree with

00:06:34.400 the whole white i think that was a bit extreme to tying race to it actually i didn't even watch the

00:06:39.520 response before but i was like wait what yeah i don't think we needed anything that was necessary

00:06:45.520 because i don't like i feel like we need to be responsible for ourselves like not always bringing

00:06:49.840 the race card sometimes but i just think i get that's that's kind of what i was saying i just feel like

00:06:55.520 you are so entitled to your standard and what you want and accepting your life however you need to

00:07:00.320 be aware of the repercussions of that so if you're going for this top one percent just be aware that

00:07:06.240 you may not ever get it and accept that but you're still entitled to have that as long as you're not

00:07:11.680 disrespecting other people that is it i think it's as simple as that what do you guys think

00:07:19.440 i think her response was lit i feel like people are a bit too comfortable it's like i don't know if you

00:07:25.280 guys ever saw that interview obviously Kim Kardashian is probably the wrong person to say

00:07:28.960 because she definitely had advantages but that interview when she was like y'all need to work 1.00

00:07:32.880 fucking hard and then everybody got on to her as well it's like i feel like in general people have 0.89

00:07:37.040 like a certain comfortability and i think with her i don't think she was saying well the whole white 0.98

00:07:41.440 supremacy thing was definitely a stretch but i feel like in general i guess as like ethnic people we're

00:07:46.000 more comfortable with jobs like bus drivers because in general we're kind of like pushed down when it comes

00:07:51.600 to office jobs and stuff we might not get that application so i feel like i get that point

00:07:55.440 but in general like i said this i said it from the beginning i said her conversation she sparked that

00:08:01.120 to wake up her bus driver and get him to work further i don't think she was doing it to like knock

00:08:05.280 them down i think i personally think it's motivational if i was a bus driver i would quit my job

00:08:10.080 but she's actually like she's so much better than him but that's what i don't get that's not what i

00:08:14.480 i don't take that because she literally said she literally said try for harder but or better but

00:08:20.000 it's like well why don't you try for better when it's like all you're doing like i just think wait

00:08:24.560 wait i just think it's mad that all she's doing is talking and she thinks she's better than a bus 1.00

00:08:29.280 driver all you're doing is talking and and we have so much privilege being women where especially of 1.00

00:08:36.560 especially especially when we're in entertainment it's like we have a privilege that men don't have and 0.96

00:08:41.520 you're gonna shit on a guy who has a job that makes society run but i don't think she said that 0.89

00:08:46.960 um she thinks she's better she literally said she wants better for them but she said for herself okay 0.98

00:08:52.400 but if she said she wouldn't date one because she doesn't want that yeah like if if that's why i said

00:08:57.600 it's like maybe a cleaner or like an uber driver might be happy to drive a but to to date a bus driver

00:09:03.600 but if she's a news reporter and she just happens to not want to date a bus driver personally i don't

00:09:08.560 i don't see an issue with it i think there's okay i think there's nothing wrong with being

00:09:12.640 aspirational but i think when you look at things from a factual perspective the type of person that

00:09:18.880 she's looking for is probably a part of is part of the 10 and 20 percent so that's why i feel like

00:09:24.000 there's like a good 70 percent of women trying to grab this 20 or 10 percent of men that will most 1.00

00:09:30.400 likely not going to be able to obtain because there's such a small portion so i feel like that's

00:09:35.360 where she's being uh and that's why i'm understanding everyone when they're saying

00:09:39.440 sometimes it's good to set up for less but if she's in her ways where she just feels like okay

00:09:44.000 do you know what i can do better and probably she's been in rooms with people who have been doing better

00:09:47.920 then i just feel like you just let her be because at the same time she didn't say she wants a billionaire

00:09:52.800 like maybe she'd just prefer a train driver or a boat driver like you really can't tell that's what i'm

00:09:59.200 saying is like she's entitled to her preference she doesn't have to be you know like a billionaire

00:10:05.920 herself to not want to date a bus driver 0.75

JustPearlyThings - May 09, 2023

Women Don't Know What they WANT

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