JustPearlyThings - Women Have Problem with Submission

00:00:00.000 Livin, we just get away with it

00:00:02.700 because we don't face consequences for anything.

00:00:05.100 It's like there's so many simps

00:00:06.340 that'll put up with disrespectful behavior 0.86

00:00:08.500 and still date them and still marry them

00:00:10.340 and still give them children

00:00:11.300 when they don't respect them.

00:00:13.000 I mean, how many times do we hear

00:00:14.000 happy wife, happy life? 0.69

00:00:15.180 How many times do we hear

00:00:15.920 she wears the pants in the relationship? 1.00

00:00:17.760 Is that a relationship any woman 1.00

00:00:18.960 really wants to be in where she's leaving it?

00:00:20.540 Exactly, they end up divorcing them

00:00:22.180 and then we're in the same cycle over again.

00:00:24.340 When a guy wants to make a decision,

00:00:25.940 she'll call him toxic and controlling.

00:00:28.120 I mean, I hear it all the time on the show.

00:00:29.440 If he asks you to take down your social media,

00:00:31.340 he's toxic and controlling

00:00:32.460 when that's actually quite reasonable

00:00:33.880 to not want random men

00:00:35.340 looking at your girl on the internet.

00:00:37.320 Especially what you're posting as well.

00:00:38.860 If you're out here with a man

00:00:40.040 and you're posting all these,

00:00:41.600 it depends what type of things

00:00:42.660 that you're posting, I would feel.

00:00:44.280 If you're just posting a picture

00:00:45.220 every once a year

00:00:46.380 and that picture's with your man

00:00:47.980 or with your family or with your friends

00:00:49.560 and you're not being excessive enough,

00:00:51.260 oh, fine, fair enough.

00:00:52.520 But if you're out there posting 1.00

00:00:53.620 your tits, your booty, your body, everything 1.00

00:00:56.300 and you're in a relationship, 1.00

00:00:57.440 you need to see that you're actually the problem

00:00:59.480 in that relationship

00:01:00.320 because you're getting the views from the men.

00:01:02.440 You know what I mean?

00:01:02.960 And you're putting yourself in that light

00:01:04.460 and men are going to like them pictures,

00:01:06.620 especially if they're in a relationship.

00:01:07.600 But the whole point of submission

00:01:08.660 is you don't ask him why.

00:01:10.060 Yeah, you just agree.

00:01:10.780 It's like we had a girl, Maggie, on the show

00:01:12.740 and they said he asked you

00:01:13.900 to take down your social media

00:01:15.120 and she has the most mild cooking stuff. 0.98

00:01:16.840 She just said it wouldn't even be a conversation.

00:01:19.180 And so it's like,

00:01:20.060 but it's so unheard of from women

00:01:21.800 to just listen to men.

00:01:23.120 You know, it's not every man.

00:01:25.400 Like, don't listen to the homeless man

00:01:26.740 on the street.

00:01:29.440 But you know what I'm saying.

00:01:32.240 MTR, what do you think?

00:01:33.980 Yeah, I mean,

00:01:35.320 to just sum it up,

00:01:37.160 no, like respect for men

00:01:39.400 is at an all-time low.

00:01:45.640 I think that respect for men

00:01:47.400 within our society today

00:01:49.180 is more so tied to

00:01:50.640 what that man can provide

00:01:52.100 and the utility within that.

00:01:54.300 Like, short story.

00:01:55.560 So before I started on YouTube,

00:01:57.840 I considered myself a hobbyist.

00:01:59.880 And so one of the things that I did

00:02:01.480 prior to turning the video camera on myself

00:02:03.460 was to become a photographer.

00:02:05.540 Now, at the same time,

00:02:06.560 you know, I was, you know,

00:02:08.640 post-MBA,

00:02:09.820 working a six-figure job

00:02:11.360 at a Fortune whatever company.

00:02:13.720 But I wanted to do photography.

00:02:15.560 So I eventually started to, like,

00:02:17.440 book gigs within that.

00:02:19.940 One of the gigs that I booked,

00:02:23.160 I, it was at, like,

00:02:24.240 a wedding party or something like that.

00:02:27.220 And ended up having a conversation

00:02:29.480 with a young woman at the wedding party.

00:02:31.760 I saw it kind of look

00:02:32.580 and I saw it kind of choose

00:02:33.440 and decided to walk up

00:02:34.300 and have a conversation with her.

00:02:35.460 And, like, the low-level barometer

00:02:36.820 of disrespect,

00:02:38.680 just based off of,

00:02:40.020 oh, so you, like,

00:02:40.700 is this what you do?

00:02:41.480 Like, this little photography thing?

00:02:43.000 And I was like, 1.00

00:02:43.520 oh, you dirty, dirty wench. 1.00

00:02:45.260 That's what I was thinking. 1.00

00:02:46.460 I didn't want to say it like that

00:02:47.400 just because, like, you know,

00:02:48.180 I was going to get paid for the day.

00:02:49.680 You know, I don't want to

00:02:50.400 cause a brouhaha

00:02:52.120 within the establishment, right?

00:02:53.860 So, you know,

00:02:55.120 just based off of being

00:02:56.320 what they consider

00:02:57.140 to be an average earner

00:02:58.460 or an average worker,

00:03:00.080 a lot of that respect

00:03:01.640 is derived from there.

00:03:02.820 But, you know,

00:03:03.180 that's why, like,

00:03:03.740 on my channel,

00:03:04.280 I tell so many of the men

00:03:05.820 to continue to work on,

00:03:07.080 you know, yourselves

00:03:07.700 and utility within your life

00:03:09.260 because no one owes you favors.

00:03:12.100 No one will care, right?

00:03:13.700 Like, men and women are judged

00:03:15.120 within our society

00:03:16.040 off of different metrics, right?

00:03:18.280 But as a man,

00:03:19.340 you should know

00:03:19.820 what the metrics

00:03:20.380 are judged off of.

00:03:21.420 And if you choose to play,

00:03:23.620 well, this is the cost

00:03:24.920 of that it is, right?

00:03:26.800 As opposed to men 1.00

00:03:27.900 that go their own way.

00:03:29.480 So, no,

00:03:30.700 there's not a whole level

00:03:33.740 of respect.

00:03:35.040 You know where I also see it as well?

00:03:36.640 I see it outside of the club

00:03:38.120 when I see young women

00:03:39.700 putting fingers

00:03:40.500 in men's faces 0.65

00:03:41.460 where they're instigating fights

00:03:44.760 because of something

00:03:45.380 that might have happened

00:03:46.100 inside of the club.

00:03:47.660 If you had a respect

00:03:48.420 for a man,

00:03:49.280 then you'd understand

00:03:49.900 that a man is more than likely

00:03:51.320 stronger than you.

00:03:53.080 And he can do damage to you.

00:03:54.800 Equal rights,

00:03:55.660 equal lives.

00:03:56.640 He can do damage to you,

00:03:58.160 clearly,

00:03:59.260 if he decided

00:04:01.040 that he don't want to play 1.00

00:04:02.280 with your bullshit no more. 1.00

00:04:04.200 But, no, 1.00

00:04:04.800 there's not a level of respect

00:04:05.880 because if you respected

00:04:06.860 a man,

00:04:07.300 then you would respect

00:04:09.160 his hand strength,

00:04:10.080 his arm strength.

00:04:11.260 That he's much bigger than you.

00:04:12.340 That's just being smart.

00:04:13.400 Why would you want to deal

00:04:14.700 with that?

00:04:15.220 Be smart.

00:04:15.880 Don't want to get hit.

00:04:16.420 Disrespectful people 1.00

00:04:16.780 do dumb shit. 1.00

00:04:17.900 Why do you think 1.00

00:04:18.420 people automatically think

00:04:19.780 that the woman's the victim 0.99

00:04:20.740 when she gets hit?

00:04:22.060 Yeah.

00:04:22.340 When oftentimes

00:04:22.920 she hit first. 1.00

00:04:24.140 Because women are looked at 1.00

00:04:25.520 as fragile little beings

00:04:28.060 and, oh,

00:04:28.480 you can't hit a woman.

00:04:30.360 It's that woman out there 1.00

00:04:31.620 saying she wants to meet

00:04:32.380 girl work. 0.83

00:04:32.520 And they're playing

00:04:33.060 into that victimhood.

00:04:33.540 And she's got to get

00:04:34.100 an equal hit.

00:04:34.820 And it's not even

00:04:36.160 necessarily that you

00:04:37.040 put your hand on a guy.

00:04:38.720 Women don't understand 1.00

00:04:39.640 the power of our influence

00:04:40.940 and our voice.

00:04:41.960 It's how you talk

00:04:42.940 to a man.

00:04:43.860 If you can stir up

00:04:45.280 some things in him

00:04:46.100 and entice him in a way

00:04:47.320 that make him want

00:04:48.080 to put his hand on you

00:04:49.040 and people will say,

00:04:50.100 oh, it wasn't justifiable

00:04:51.120 because she didn't hit you,

00:04:52.260 even though that's not

00:04:52.920 appropriate either.

00:04:54.520 But it's like women, 1.00

00:04:55.800 why are you running

00:04:56.680 your mouth like this

00:04:57.480 to a man who could literally? 0.86

00:04:58.460 I mean, what's worse,

00:04:59.900 verbal abuse

00:05:00.540 or physical abuse?

00:05:02.000 I'm going to say verbal

00:05:03.280 for a man.

00:05:03.980 Absolutely.

00:05:04.380 And who do you think

00:05:05.620 verbally abuses

00:05:06.500 the other gender 0.99

00:05:07.260 more men or women?

00:05:08.300 Women, 100%. 0.95

00:05:09.460 100%.

00:05:11.400 We also got to thank

00:05:13.220 our media as well.

00:05:14.520 Shout out to Oprah, 1.00

00:05:15.600 the color purple.

00:05:17.680 What she's done

00:05:18.440 to the image

00:05:18.920 of the black man

00:05:19.760 in society today,

00:05:22.020 she's completely,

00:05:23.540 right?

00:05:23.760 Like everyone

00:05:24.080 is just walking around

00:05:24.980 thinking that men

00:05:26.260 are just,

00:05:27.100 especially black men too, 1.00

00:05:28.160 are destroyers 1.00

00:05:28.980 of women. 0.96

00:05:29.760 I didn't actually watch

00:05:30.900 a lot of Oprah

00:05:31.580 growing up.

00:05:32.640 So what did she do?

00:05:34.060 So specific to the movie.

00:05:34.960 I genuinely have no idea.

00:05:35.960 So specific to image,

00:05:38.720 image being formed

00:05:40.560 within our media today.

00:05:41.940 I know we did

00:05:42.620 the King Riches podcast

00:05:43.820 not too long ago

00:05:44.720 and we talked about

00:05:45.520 black male image

00:05:46.680 and how it's kind of

00:05:48.460 formed today

00:05:49.200 and what it is

00:05:50.120 and what they said,

00:05:51.000 like what is the,

00:05:51.840 what is the image of man,

00:05:53.420 black man,

00:05:54.500 you know,

00:05:54.840 within America today?

00:05:55.780 And the first word

00:05:56.360 that came out

00:05:56.860 was thug. 0.90

00:05:58.340 I think some of the words 0.85

00:05:59.600 was like a beater

00:06:00.520 or things like that,

00:06:01.620 right?

00:06:01.860 So, you know,

00:06:02.660 there's been images

00:06:03.360 within media

00:06:03.920 that has promoted

00:06:04.720 that we are big bag,

00:06:06.360 tough, strong,

00:06:06.980 and that, you know,

00:06:08.020 women can do no wrong. 1.00

00:06:10.100 Women must be protected 0.97

00:06:11.180 outside of their behavior.

00:06:13.180 You know,

00:06:13.420 I think, you know,

00:06:14.360 back to that respect question

00:06:15.460 that there's a certain

00:06:16.220 behavior of women 0.93

00:06:17.180 that deserves more respect,

00:06:18.900 right?

00:06:19.360 Like of the women, 0.97

00:06:20.600 right?

00:06:20.760 Like one of the women 1.00

00:06:21.780 that comes out

00:06:22.220 is Maggie,

00:06:22.940 the substitute teacher

00:06:23.740 who's gracious

00:06:24.220 with her presence

00:06:24.880 this past week.

00:06:25.780 You sit and you talk

00:06:27.260 to Maggie

00:06:27.720 for like a little bit.

00:06:29.160 Maggie was up

00:06:29.700 in the kitchen 0.99

00:06:30.040 for 12 damn hours. 0.99

00:06:31.660 And I'm not saying 0.99

00:06:32.180 that you gotta be

00:06:32.620 up in the kitchen,

00:06:33.200 but she came in

00:06:34.660 to a place

00:06:35.140 that she was unfamiliar with

00:06:36.440 and graced it

00:06:37.160 with feminine ease

00:06:37.940 and presence.

00:06:38.740 Her influence, right?

00:06:39.720 So within feminine ease

00:06:40.980 and presence,

00:06:41.620 guess what?

00:06:42.060 As a man,

00:06:42.760 I am biologically driven

00:06:44.460 to protect that.

00:06:46.840 Biologically.

00:06:48.040 And she drips it.

00:06:49.220 She just,

00:06:49.760 it gratefully just,

00:06:51.240 it comes off of her.

00:06:52.520 Just afterwards,

00:06:53.620 I went up to her

00:06:54.240 and I was just like,

00:06:54.780 oh my goodness,

00:06:55.280 I love this.

00:06:56.160 I want to be a part

00:06:57.360 of this one program

00:06:58.260 so you have,

00:06:58.880 like I can sign up for it

00:07:00.000 because it's just,

00:07:00.940 it's amazing.

00:07:01.680 It literally changes

00:07:03.220 the whole atmosphere.

00:07:05.160 When she talks,

00:07:06.100 it's a respect.

00:07:07.000 Everyone gets quiet.

00:07:07.880 You want to listen to her.

00:07:08.760 You want to honor that.

00:07:09.820 And that's what we need

00:07:11.140 to push for women 0.99

00:07:12.260 in society

00:07:13.160 because we need,

00:07:14.120 if we return to that,

00:07:15.400 the power that is in that,

00:07:17.320 men would naturally protect us.

00:07:18.700 And here's the thing.

00:07:19.360 It's one thing to say it,

00:07:20.860 but his,

00:07:22.820 because I was like

00:07:23.180 to think about this earlier.

00:07:24.680 Like how do I,

00:07:25.660 because I can say to you,

00:07:27.380 like listen,

00:07:27.740 this based off of her presence,

00:07:29.200 it's just like,

00:07:29.860 if something was to happen,

00:07:30.940 I'd be like,

00:07:31.500 Megan, you good?

00:07:33.160 Based off the aura

00:07:34.040 in the room

00:07:34.460 or whatever that changed,

00:07:35.600 right?

00:07:36.020 So it's just like,

00:07:36.840 how do we get more women 1.00

00:07:38.100 in the understanding

00:07:39.060 of like,

00:07:40.040 that's what femininity is? 1.00

00:07:42.140 That ease is.

00:07:43.560 I think it's so rare

00:07:44.460 because it's a failure

00:07:45.340 on the mother's part.

00:07:47.220 I mean,

00:07:47.460 even from two parent households,

00:07:48.780 you absolutely see

00:07:49.800 a lack of femininity 0.68

00:07:50.780 in the mothers.

00:07:51.940 Like how many,

00:07:52.400 how many moms genuinely 1.00

00:07:53.820 that you know,

00:07:55.100 if the husband made a decision,

00:07:56.780 a big decision for the household

00:07:58.080 that she did not agree with,

00:07:59.280 she would just say,

00:07:59.840 okay, yes, sir.

00:08:01.380 No, absolutely not.

00:08:03.160 Not sir.

00:08:03.840 Or not sir.

00:08:04.740 But not sir.

00:08:05.680 That's pushing it, sir.

00:08:08.360 I don't,

00:08:09.100 I don't,

00:08:09.620 for me personally,

00:08:10.520 I'll speak to that, right?

00:08:11.420 My mom is amazing,

00:08:12.520 super sweet,

00:08:13.100 loving,

00:08:13.740 but there is a level

00:08:14.780 of passive aggressiveness

00:08:15.860 that I inherit from it

00:08:17.360 because even though

00:08:18.040 she might not go

00:08:18.680 tick for tack for him,

00:08:19.520 she might not go,

00:08:20.520 but there she'll have

00:08:21.140 an attitude for a few days

00:08:22.840 and it's justifiable

00:08:23.780 for her attitude

00:08:24.500 and the silent treatment

00:08:25.860 and things like that.

00:08:26.680 And I was like,

00:08:27.900 I'd never want to treat

00:08:28.620 my husband that way, right?

00:08:29.560 And so over,

00:08:30.400 that was in my younger days,

00:08:31.740 but as we've evolved

00:08:32.920 and she's matured,

00:08:34.420 she's come out of that

00:08:35.240 a little bit more

00:08:35.780 and it's not a thing,

00:08:37.180 but inadvertently

00:08:38.440 when I was growing up,

00:08:39.760 I was exposed to that, right?

00:08:41.480 And even my mom

00:08:42.800 was she worked

00:08:43.640 and so a lot of

00:08:44.840 the things that I had to learn,

00:08:47.160 I was in an environment

00:08:47.940 with men, right?

00:08:49.000 I had a stepfather,

00:08:50.580 two older stepbrothers

00:08:51.760 and a younger brother

00:08:52.540 and that's the environment

00:08:53.440 that I was in

00:08:54.040 with a mom who worked.

00:08:55.280 Do you feel like your mom

00:08:56.340 failed to teach you femininity? 1.00

00:08:58.380 Absolutely.

00:08:59.440 And I've had that conversation

00:09:00.940 with her.

00:09:02.020 Absolutely.

00:09:02.660 Do you feel like

00:09:03.380 it would have been?

00:09:04.000 As many of you know,

00:09:04.940 I was just banned

00:09:06.120 on TikTok

00:09:06.980 and we are demonetized

00:09:08.720 on a daily basis

00:09:09.980 on this platform.

00:09:11.780 If you want to help,

00:09:13.260 please consider sending

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JustPearlyThings - April 14, 2023

Women Have Problem with Submission

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