JustPearlyThings - April 14, 2023


Women Have Problem with Submission


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

209.43437

Word Count

1,955

Sentence Count

108

Misogynist Sentences

22

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary

In this episode we discuss the lack of respect for men in our society and how we as women need to work on ourselves to be better in this area of our lives. We all know that we need to be more respectful to our male counterparts, but it's a matter of when, not if, we do it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Livin, we just get away with it
00:00:02.700 because we don't face consequences for anything.
00:00:05.100 It's like there's so many simps
00:00:06.340 that'll put up with disrespectful behavior
00:00:08.500 and still date them and still marry them
00:00:10.340 and still give them children
00:00:11.300 when they don't respect them.
00:00:13.000 I mean, how many times do we hear
00:00:14.000 happy wife, happy life?
00:00:15.180 How many times do we hear
00:00:15.920 she wears the pants in the relationship?
00:00:17.760 Is that a relationship any woman
00:00:18.960 really wants to be in where she's leaving it?
00:00:20.540 Exactly, they end up divorcing them
00:00:22.180 and then we're in the same cycle over again.
00:00:24.340 When a guy wants to make a decision,
00:00:25.940 she'll call him toxic and controlling.
00:00:28.120 I mean, I hear it all the time on the show.
00:00:29.440 If he asks you to take down your social media,
00:00:31.340 he's toxic and controlling
00:00:32.460 when that's actually quite reasonable
00:00:33.880 to not want random men
00:00:35.340 looking at your girl on the internet.
00:00:37.320 Especially what you're posting as well.
00:00:38.860 If you're out here with a man
00:00:40.040 and you're posting all these,
00:00:41.600 it depends what type of things
00:00:42.660 that you're posting, I would feel.
00:00:44.280 If you're just posting a picture
00:00:45.220 every once a year
00:00:46.380 and that picture's with your man
00:00:47.980 or with your family or with your friends
00:00:49.560 and you're not being excessive enough,
00:00:51.260 oh, fine, fair enough.
00:00:52.520 But if you're out there posting
00:00:53.620 your tits, your booty, your body, everything
00:00:56.300 and you're in a relationship,
00:00:57.440 you need to see that you're actually the problem
00:00:59.480 in that relationship
00:01:00.320 because you're getting the views from the men.
00:01:02.440 You know what I mean?
00:01:02.960 And you're putting yourself in that light
00:01:04.460 and men are going to like them pictures,
00:01:06.620 especially if they're in a relationship.
00:01:07.600 But the whole point of submission
00:01:08.660 is you don't ask him why.
00:01:10.060 Yeah, you just agree.
00:01:10.780 It's like we had a girl, Maggie, on the show
00:01:12.740 and they said he asked you
00:01:13.900 to take down your social media
00:01:15.120 and she has the most mild cooking stuff.
00:01:16.840 She just said it wouldn't even be a conversation.
00:01:19.180 And so it's like,
00:01:20.060 but it's so unheard of from women
00:01:21.800 to just listen to men.
00:01:23.120 You know, it's not every man.
00:01:25.400 Like, don't listen to the homeless man
00:01:26.740 on the street.
00:01:29.440 But you know what I'm saying.
00:01:32.240 MTR, what do you think?
00:01:33.980 Yeah, I mean,
00:01:35.320 to just sum it up,
00:01:37.160 no, like respect for men
00:01:39.400 is at an all-time low.
00:01:45.640 I think that respect for men
00:01:47.400 within our society today
00:01:49.180 is more so tied to
00:01:50.640 what that man can provide
00:01:52.100 and the utility within that.
00:01:54.300 Like, short story.
00:01:55.560 So before I started on YouTube,
00:01:57.840 I considered myself a hobbyist.
00:01:59.880 And so one of the things that I did
00:02:01.480 prior to turning the video camera on myself
00:02:03.460 was to become a photographer.
00:02:05.540 Now, at the same time,
00:02:06.560 you know, I was, you know,
00:02:08.640 post-MBA,
00:02:09.820 working a six-figure job
00:02:11.360 at a Fortune whatever company.
00:02:13.720 But I wanted to do photography.
00:02:15.560 So I eventually started to, like,
00:02:17.440 book gigs within that.
00:02:19.940 One of the gigs that I booked,
00:02:23.160 I, it was at, like,
00:02:24.240 a wedding party or something like that.
00:02:27.220 And ended up having a conversation
00:02:29.480 with a young woman at the wedding party.
00:02:31.760 I saw it kind of look
00:02:32.580 and I saw it kind of choose
00:02:33.440 and decided to walk up
00:02:34.300 and have a conversation with her.
00:02:35.460 And, like, the low-level barometer
00:02:36.820 of disrespect,
00:02:38.680 just based off of,
00:02:40.020 oh, so you, like,
00:02:40.700 is this what you do?
00:02:41.480 Like, this little photography thing?
00:02:43.000 And I was like,
00:02:43.520 oh, you dirty, dirty wench.
00:02:45.260 That's what I was thinking.
00:02:46.460 I didn't want to say it like that
00:02:47.400 just because, like, you know,
00:02:48.180 I was going to get paid for the day.
00:02:49.680 You know, I don't want to
00:02:50.400 cause a brouhaha
00:02:52.120 within the establishment, right?
00:02:53.860 So, you know,
00:02:55.120 just based off of being
00:02:56.320 what they consider
00:02:57.140 to be an average earner
00:02:58.460 or an average worker,
00:03:00.080 a lot of that respect
00:03:01.640 is derived from there.
00:03:02.820 But, you know,
00:03:03.180 that's why, like,
00:03:03.740 on my channel,
00:03:04.280 I tell so many of the men
00:03:05.820 to continue to work on,
00:03:07.080 you know, yourselves
00:03:07.700 and utility within your life
00:03:09.260 because no one owes you favors.
00:03:12.100 No one will care, right?
00:03:13.700 Like, men and women are judged
00:03:15.120 within our society
00:03:16.040 off of different metrics, right?
00:03:18.280 But as a man,
00:03:19.340 you should know
00:03:19.820 what the metrics
00:03:20.380 are judged off of.
00:03:21.420 And if you choose to play,
00:03:23.620 well, this is the cost
00:03:24.920 of that it is, right?
00:03:26.800 As opposed to men
00:03:27.900 that go their own way.
00:03:29.480 So, no,
00:03:30.700 there's not a whole level
00:03:33.740 of respect.
00:03:35.040 You know where I also see it as well?
00:03:36.640 I see it outside of the club
00:03:38.120 when I see young women
00:03:39.700 putting fingers
00:03:40.500 in men's faces
00:03:41.460 where they're instigating fights
00:03:44.760 because of something
00:03:45.380 that might have happened
00:03:46.100 inside of the club.
00:03:47.660 If you had a respect
00:03:48.420 for a man,
00:03:49.280 then you'd understand
00:03:49.900 that a man is more than likely
00:03:51.320 stronger than you.
00:03:53.080 And he can do damage to you.
00:03:54.800 Equal rights,
00:03:55.660 equal lives.
00:03:56.640 He can do damage to you,
00:03:58.160 clearly,
00:03:59.260 if he decided
00:04:01.040 that he don't want to play
00:04:02.280 with your bullshit no more.
00:04:04.200 But, no,
00:04:04.800 there's not a level of respect
00:04:05.880 because if you respected
00:04:06.860 a man,
00:04:07.300 then you would respect
00:04:09.160 his hand strength,
00:04:10.080 his arm strength.
00:04:11.260 That he's much bigger than you.
00:04:12.340 That's just being smart.
00:04:13.400 Why would you want to deal
00:04:14.700 with that?
00:04:15.220 Be smart.
00:04:15.880 Don't want to get hit.
00:04:16.420 Disrespectful people
00:04:16.780 do dumb shit.
00:04:17.900 Why do you think
00:04:18.420 people automatically think
00:04:19.780 that the woman's the victim
00:04:20.740 when she gets hit?
00:04:22.060 Yeah.
00:04:22.340 When oftentimes
00:04:22.920 she hit first.
00:04:24.140 Because women are looked at
00:04:25.520 as fragile little beings
00:04:28.060 and, oh,
00:04:28.480 you can't hit a woman.
00:04:30.360 It's that woman out there
00:04:31.620 saying she wants to meet
00:04:32.380 girl work.
00:04:32.520 And they're playing
00:04:33.060 into that victimhood.
00:04:33.540 And she's got to get
00:04:34.100 an equal hit.
00:04:34.820 And it's not even
00:04:36.160 necessarily that you
00:04:37.040 put your hand on a guy.
00:04:38.720 Women don't understand
00:04:39.640 the power of our influence
00:04:40.940 and our voice.
00:04:41.960 It's how you talk
00:04:42.940 to a man.
00:04:43.860 If you can stir up
00:04:45.280 some things in him
00:04:46.100 and entice him in a way
00:04:47.320 that make him want
00:04:48.080 to put his hand on you
00:04:49.040 and people will say,
00:04:50.100 oh, it wasn't justifiable
00:04:51.120 because she didn't hit you,
00:04:52.260 even though that's not
00:04:52.920 appropriate either.
00:04:54.520 But it's like women,
00:04:55.800 why are you running
00:04:56.680 your mouth like this
00:04:57.480 to a man who could literally?
00:04:58.460 I mean, what's worse,
00:04:59.900 verbal abuse
00:05:00.540 or physical abuse?
00:05:02.000 I'm going to say verbal
00:05:03.280 for a man.
00:05:03.980 Absolutely.
00:05:04.380 And who do you think
00:05:05.620 verbally abuses
00:05:06.500 the other gender
00:05:07.260 more men or women?
00:05:08.300 Women, 100%.
00:05:09.460 100%.
00:05:11.400 We also got to thank
00:05:13.220 our media as well.
00:05:14.520 Shout out to Oprah,
00:05:15.600 the color purple.
00:05:17.680 What she's done
00:05:18.440 to the image
00:05:18.920 of the black man
00:05:19.760 in society today,
00:05:22.020 she's completely,
00:05:23.540 right?
00:05:23.760 Like everyone
00:05:24.080 is just walking around
00:05:24.980 thinking that men
00:05:26.260 are just,
00:05:27.100 especially black men too,
00:05:28.160 are destroyers
00:05:28.980 of women.
00:05:29.760 I didn't actually watch
00:05:30.900 a lot of Oprah
00:05:31.580 growing up.
00:05:32.640 So what did she do?
00:05:34.060 So specific to the movie.
00:05:34.960 I genuinely have no idea.
00:05:35.960 So specific to image,
00:05:38.720 image being formed
00:05:40.560 within our media today.
00:05:41.940 I know we did
00:05:42.620 the King Riches podcast
00:05:43.820 not too long ago
00:05:44.720 and we talked about
00:05:45.520 black male image
00:05:46.680 and how it's kind of
00:05:48.460 formed today
00:05:49.200 and what it is
00:05:50.120 and what they said,
00:05:51.000 like what is the,
00:05:51.840 what is the image of man,
00:05:53.420 black man,
00:05:54.500 you know,
00:05:54.840 within America today?
00:05:55.780 And the first word
00:05:56.360 that came out
00:05:56.860 was thug.
00:05:58.340 I think some of the words
00:05:59.600 was like a beater
00:06:00.520 or things like that,
00:06:01.620 right?
00:06:01.860 So, you know,
00:06:02.660 there's been images
00:06:03.360 within media
00:06:03.920 that has promoted
00:06:04.720 that we are big bag,
00:06:06.360 tough, strong,
00:06:06.980 and that, you know,
00:06:08.020 women can do no wrong.
00:06:10.100 Women must be protected
00:06:11.180 outside of their behavior.
00:06:13.180 You know,
00:06:13.420 I think, you know,
00:06:14.360 back to that respect question
00:06:15.460 that there's a certain
00:06:16.220 behavior of women
00:06:17.180 that deserves more respect,
00:06:18.900 right?
00:06:19.360 Like of the women,
00:06:20.600 right?
00:06:20.760 Like one of the women
00:06:21.780 that comes out
00:06:22.220 is Maggie,
00:06:22.940 the substitute teacher
00:06:23.740 who's gracious
00:06:24.220 with her presence
00:06:24.880 this past week.
00:06:25.780 You sit and you talk
00:06:27.260 to Maggie
00:06:27.720 for like a little bit.
00:06:29.160 Maggie was up
00:06:29.700 in the kitchen
00:06:30.040 for 12 damn hours.
00:06:31.660 And I'm not saying
00:06:32.180 that you gotta be
00:06:32.620 up in the kitchen,
00:06:33.200 but she came in
00:06:34.660 to a place
00:06:35.140 that she was unfamiliar with
00:06:36.440 and graced it
00:06:37.160 with feminine ease
00:06:37.940 and presence.
00:06:38.740 Her influence, right?
00:06:39.720 So within feminine ease
00:06:40.980 and presence,
00:06:41.620 guess what?
00:06:42.060 As a man,
00:06:42.760 I am biologically driven
00:06:44.460 to protect that.
00:06:46.840 Biologically.
00:06:48.040 And she drips it.
00:06:49.220 She just,
00:06:49.760 it gratefully just,
00:06:51.240 it comes off of her.
00:06:52.520 Just afterwards,
00:06:53.620 I went up to her
00:06:54.240 and I was just like,
00:06:54.780 oh my goodness,
00:06:55.280 I love this.
00:06:56.160 I want to be a part
00:06:57.360 of this one program
00:06:58.260 so you have,
00:06:58.880 like I can sign up for it
00:07:00.000 because it's just,
00:07:00.940 it's amazing.
00:07:01.680 It literally changes
00:07:03.220 the whole atmosphere.
00:07:05.160 When she talks,
00:07:06.100 it's a respect.
00:07:07.000 Everyone gets quiet.
00:07:07.880 You want to listen to her.
00:07:08.760 You want to honor that.
00:07:09.820 And that's what we need
00:07:11.140 to push for women
00:07:12.260 in society
00:07:13.160 because we need,
00:07:14.120 if we return to that,
00:07:15.400 the power that is in that,
00:07:17.320 men would naturally protect us.
00:07:18.700 And here's the thing.
00:07:19.360 It's one thing to say it,
00:07:20.860 but his,
00:07:22.820 because I was like
00:07:23.180 to think about this earlier.
00:07:24.680 Like how do I,
00:07:25.660 because I can say to you,
00:07:27.380 like listen,
00:07:27.740 this based off of her presence,
00:07:29.200 it's just like,
00:07:29.860 if something was to happen,
00:07:30.940 I'd be like,
00:07:31.500 Megan, you good?
00:07:33.160 Based off the aura
00:07:34.040 in the room
00:07:34.460 or whatever that changed,
00:07:35.600 right?
00:07:36.020 So it's just like,
00:07:36.840 how do we get more women
00:07:38.100 in the understanding
00:07:39.060 of like,
00:07:40.040 that's what femininity is?
00:07:42.140 That ease is.
00:07:43.560 I think it's so rare
00:07:44.460 because it's a failure
00:07:45.340 on the mother's part.
00:07:47.220 I mean,
00:07:47.460 even from two parent households,
00:07:48.780 you absolutely see
00:07:49.800 a lack of femininity
00:07:50.780 in the mothers.
00:07:51.940 Like how many,
00:07:52.400 how many moms genuinely
00:07:53.820 that you know,
00:07:55.100 if the husband made a decision,
00:07:56.780 a big decision for the household
00:07:58.080 that she did not agree with,
00:07:59.280 she would just say,
00:07:59.840 okay, yes, sir.
00:08:01.380 No, absolutely not.
00:08:03.160 Not sir.
00:08:03.840 Or not sir.
00:08:04.740 But not sir.
00:08:05.680 That's pushing it, sir.
00:08:08.360 I don't,
00:08:09.100 I don't,
00:08:09.620 for me personally,
00:08:10.520 I'll speak to that, right?
00:08:11.420 My mom is amazing,
00:08:12.520 super sweet,
00:08:13.100 loving,
00:08:13.740 but there is a level
00:08:14.780 of passive aggressiveness
00:08:15.860 that I inherit from it
00:08:17.360 because even though
00:08:18.040 she might not go
00:08:18.680 tick for tack for him,
00:08:19.520 she might not go,
00:08:20.520 but there she'll have
00:08:21.140 an attitude for a few days
00:08:22.840 and it's justifiable
00:08:23.780 for her attitude
00:08:24.500 and the silent treatment
00:08:25.860 and things like that.
00:08:26.680 And I was like,
00:08:27.900 I'd never want to treat
00:08:28.620 my husband that way, right?
00:08:29.560 And so over,
00:08:30.400 that was in my younger days,
00:08:31.740 but as we've evolved
00:08:32.920 and she's matured,
00:08:34.420 she's come out of that
00:08:35.240 a little bit more
00:08:35.780 and it's not a thing,
00:08:37.180 but inadvertently
00:08:38.440 when I was growing up,
00:08:39.760 I was exposed to that, right?
00:08:41.480 And even my mom
00:08:42.800 was she worked
00:08:43.640 and so a lot of
00:08:44.840 the things that I had to learn,
00:08:47.160 I was in an environment
00:08:47.940 with men, right?
00:08:49.000 I had a stepfather,
00:08:50.580 two older stepbrothers
00:08:51.760 and a younger brother
00:08:52.540 and that's the environment
00:08:53.440 that I was in
00:08:54.040 with a mom who worked.
00:08:55.280 Do you feel like your mom
00:08:56.340 failed to teach you femininity?
00:08:58.380 Absolutely.
00:08:59.440 And I've had that conversation
00:09:00.940 with her.
00:09:02.020 Absolutely.
00:09:02.660 Do you feel like
00:09:03.380 it would have been?
00:09:04.000 As many of you know,
00:09:04.940 I was just banned
00:09:06.120 on TikTok
00:09:06.980 and we are demonetized
00:09:08.720 on a daily basis
00:09:09.980 on this platform.
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