Women NEED To HEAR This
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Maggie to talk about what it means to be a woman in her 50s and how to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner. We talk about how to balance work and family life, how to stay financially stable in your late 40s and early 50s, and what to do if you don t have kids.
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what a lot of girls their lifestyle is so like a lot of my friends it's it's like i make more
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money than them but they live like such an expensive lifestyle like they all have fake
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long nails like which which are get they they add up it's like 200 like they'll go to nice places
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it's 200 bucks every time they go roughly or 150 to 200 because they have their nails in there
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and then on top of that like if they get lash extensions if they get botox if they get friends
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your age are getting botox um these are more girls i can just tell on the show that they've had it
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the girl the girls my age don't botox not yet but i there's yeah it's a shame botox lip fillers like
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yeah it fake hair oh don't even think yeah and it's just like how would you in a a family like
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maintain that because it's like unless you do really well which what percent of girls are going
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to get the opportunity to be with a guy that does really really well some will but it's not the
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the majority so the majority are going to have to date and i don't want to say have to like it's a
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bad thing like the majority will date average men and marry average men if they get married at all so
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how are you going to afford that with kids you can't first of all it's fake and second of all
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the men don't like that you know men want you they want to know what they're going to they want to
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see you in every environment you know can you swim can you you know get in the the carpool can you
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you know be active all of that is an expense and a lot of times you know women we do that for each
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other i shouldn't say we but you know you want to present yourself well but you want to do it in a
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way that's sustainable what men value i've heard you all can chime in is consistency and the problem
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with a lot of that elaborate put on first of all they don't like it but it requires so much
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maintenance and then you go from looking like you're going on the runway to who shot john so
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you know find a routine that works for you and um make sure that you know number one your man likes
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it because ultimately i don't care how many compliments i get from women if my man says i don't
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like your hair like that i don't do my hair like that because ultimately his opinion trumps you know
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what everybody else would say and that's like the one thing when i was asking you questions yesterday
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all your answers were like well it depends what he likes yeah and it's very much like i can tell
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your mindset is very much like him before me which is you know how it should be but it's not common
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nowadays yeah and i understand you know and i kind of got caught up in that you know thinking it was a
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partnership but the problem is and i told you this yesterday and especially at my age at 47 it happened
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after two kids at 35 40 you really feel yourself as a woman like okay you know what i kind of want
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to slow it down i want to set it down and i was one of those in my 20s i thought i could do everything
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a man can do compare that to the men that i know at my age they are putting it in second gear they're
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starting businesses they're investing they kind of have this like i'm running out of time i want to go
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hard so i you know how you say women shouldn't vote because they don't have to go to war so for
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me it's kind of the same thing if i am not going to carry the same load until 65 i should submit
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because he's willing to do what i'm not that's so true because i never that is such a good point
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because a lot of times girls will say well i make more than him now yeah or or i out earn him
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how could i submit but at the end of the day they're going to work longer than us absolutely i
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mean if you look at it i know we like to idolize some women that have it but how many older women
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do you know are still going just as hard in their 50s think about that right i really that is such
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a good point so even the ones that we admire you know i don't want to drop any names but you all know
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the ones that are really really um well to do they start stepping back in their own way but if you
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look at the men that are really wealthy you know they are opening new businesses and you know acquiring
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more things and so that is i feel like the value that having the older women speak to the younger
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women it's like i see myself in you but i also see you know maggie at 60 and i'm making decisions
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now that it's going to make that period of time a joyous one oh my gosh that reminds me of my dad
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because he retired and he sold his business and he's just starting a new one exactly it's like they
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exactly how many men do you know that retire from their job i told you about my dad yesterday and they
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stay at home for a few months and they just like they got cabin fever they can't do it my dad's a
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retired teacher a phd he's a you know retired teacher and he stayed at home for a little bit
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and now he's a real substitute teacher every time they call him he's back in the classroom whereas my
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mom on the other hand she is ready to just you know slow it down enjoy the grandkids and grow old
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gracefully so that's what's coming that's such a that's such a good point i never thought of that
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what what else should be on here oh dear so we talked about money so we talked about did we talk
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about intimacy since you were talking about body count i think um no but let me put it on here
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intimacy right i mean that's an important part of um the marriage it's how you connect with each other
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and i know you talked about body count i think isn't it sex and money the two big reasons why marriage
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fails marriages fail so i think that's something that you should address head on and the couple should
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agree on what's important to them so what does that mean well intimacy specifically means you know
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your drive does it match oh do they have equal like right sex drives right and even if you don't are you
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willing to be you know available to your husband if we're talking about women if he is interested more
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than you are you really just have to kind of have those conversations we get the ring we get so excited we
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want the big day and then the honeymoon is over and you're looking at him and he's looking at you
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and you're like oh man what did i get myself into but you really need to talk about all of it
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what else oh dear all right so we talked about food we talked about money we talked about family we talked
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about work um i know communication is um one of those words that's kind of like what does that mean
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but i think communication styles are important for example i don't know if it was you or i was
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telling somebody else i know my um triggers or difficult conversations and i will still have them
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but as a woman because i'm emotional i can tell my guy okay this is a little hard for me i need a moment
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it could be an hour it could be 24 hours i will come back and have this conversation but i want to do it
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from a place of being level-headed and not have an emotional response i do that too if i'm really
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mad about something i my mom always told me to wait two days yep and she said if you're still mad
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after two days you can talk to them but like if you just wait because like especially if we're close
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to our time of the mind or like where we are in our cycling there's very many times where i've been so
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mad and i woke up and i was like wow i was overreacting exactly and i was so glad i didn't like say
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anything or or talk to them because it's like if i if i did then i would have maybe said something i
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regret and like just sometimes like waiting is like the best thing you can do as a woman because
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we're like you know there's a part of every girl that's a bit crazy and sometimes you gotta you gotta
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take care of that yes and it's okay just admitting that and knowing that but it's not okay to just act
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it out well i feel this way so i'm gonna do this no i feel this way i want to do this but i have a
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brain so i'm going to wait and i will you know come back but just give me a moment and we need to
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understand how men communicate because they are very direct and they give direction and sometimes it's
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a little harsh but when you know you have a good one and he loves you you just need to be able to
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take that listen to what he's saying and not get so concerned about the tone because they communicate
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differently from us so i think that's important to talk about as many of you know i was just banned
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