JustPearlyThings - Women NEED To HEAR This

00:00:00.000 what a lot of girls their lifestyle is so like a lot of my friends it's it's like i make more

00:00:06.160 money than them but they live like such an expensive lifestyle like they all have fake

00:00:12.000 long nails like which which are get they they add up it's like 200 like they'll go to nice places

00:00:19.120 it's 200 bucks every time they go roughly or 150 to 200 because they have their nails in there 0.96

00:00:24.640 and then on top of that like if they get lash extensions if they get botox if they get friends

00:00:31.440 your age are getting botox um these are more girls i can just tell on the show that they've had it 0.99

00:00:36.720 the girl the girls my age don't botox not yet but i there's yeah it's a shame botox lip fillers like

00:00:45.520 yeah it fake hair oh don't even think yeah and it's just like how would you in a a family like

00:00:53.760 maintain that because it's like unless you do really well which what percent of girls are going 1.00

00:00:59.840 to get the opportunity to be with a guy that does really really well some will but it's not the

00:01:04.480 the majority so the majority are going to have to date and i don't want to say have to like it's a

00:01:09.040 bad thing like the majority will date average men and marry average men if they get married at all so 1.00

00:01:15.360 how are you going to afford that with kids you can't first of all it's fake and second of all

00:01:20.640 the men don't like that you know men want you they want to know what they're going to they want to

00:01:26.240 see you in every environment you know can you swim can you you know get in the the carpool can you

00:01:31.760 you know be active all of that is an expense and a lot of times you know women we do that for each

00:01:37.280 other i shouldn't say we but you know you want to present yourself well but you want to do it in a

00:01:42.080 way that's sustainable what men value i've heard you all can chime in is consistency and the problem

00:01:49.200 with a lot of that elaborate put on first of all they don't like it but it requires so much

00:01:54.000 maintenance and then you go from looking like you're going on the runway to who shot john so

00:02:00.480 you know find a routine that works for you and um make sure that you know number one your man likes

00:02:07.200 it because ultimately i don't care how many compliments i get from women if my man says i don't

00:02:12.640 like your hair like that i don't do my hair like that because ultimately his opinion trumps you know

00:02:18.320 what everybody else would say and that's like the one thing when i was asking you questions yesterday

00:02:22.400 all your answers were like well it depends what he likes yeah and it's very much like i can tell

00:02:26.720 your mindset is very much like him before me which is you know how it should be but it's not common

00:02:31.440 nowadays yeah and i understand you know and i kind of got caught up in that you know thinking it was a

00:02:36.880 partnership but the problem is and i told you this yesterday and especially at my age at 47 it happened

00:02:43.520 after two kids at 35 40 you really feel yourself as a woman like okay you know what i kind of want

00:02:49.120 to slow it down i want to set it down and i was one of those in my 20s i thought i could do everything

00:02:54.160 a man can do compare that to the men that i know at my age they are putting it in second gear they're

00:03:00.560 starting businesses they're investing they kind of have this like i'm running out of time i want to go

00:03:04.960 hard so i you know how you say women shouldn't vote because they don't have to go to war so for 1.00

00:03:14.800 me it's kind of the same thing if i am not going to carry the same load until 65 i should submit

00:03:23.280 because he's willing to do what i'm not that's so true because i never that is such a good point

00:03:29.920 because a lot of times girls will say well i make more than him now yeah or or i out earn him

00:03:37.520 how could i submit but at the end of the day they're going to work longer than us absolutely i

00:03:43.760 mean if you look at it i know we like to idolize some women that have it but how many older women 1.00

00:03:49.280 do you know are still going just as hard in their 50s think about that right i really that is such

00:03:55.760 a good point so even the ones that we admire you know i don't want to drop any names but you all know

00:04:01.200 the ones that are really really um well to do they start stepping back in their own way but if you

00:04:07.840 look at the men that are really wealthy you know they are opening new businesses and you know acquiring

00:04:14.320 more things and so that is i feel like the value that having the older women speak to the younger

00:04:21.040 women it's like i see myself in you but i also see you know maggie at 60 and i'm making decisions

00:04:28.000 now that it's going to make that period of time a joyous one oh my gosh that reminds me of my dad

00:04:33.760 because he retired and he sold his business and he's just starting a new one exactly it's like they

00:04:39.760 exactly how many men do you know that retire from their job i told you about my dad yesterday and they

00:04:45.440 stay at home for a few months and they just like they got cabin fever they can't do it my dad's a

00:04:50.560 retired teacher a phd he's a you know retired teacher and he stayed at home for a little bit

00:04:55.920 and now he's a real substitute teacher every time they call him he's back in the classroom whereas my

00:05:00.800 mom on the other hand she is ready to just you know slow it down enjoy the grandkids and grow old 1.00

00:05:06.080 gracefully so that's what's coming that's such a that's such a good point i never thought of that

00:05:12.080 what what else should be on here oh dear so we talked about money so we talked about did we talk

00:05:16.960 about intimacy since you were talking about body count i think um no but let me put it on here

00:05:22.800 intimacy right i mean that's an important part of um the marriage it's how you connect with each other

00:05:29.280 and i know you talked about body count i think isn't it sex and money the two big reasons why marriage 0.97

00:05:34.480 fails marriages fail so i think that's something that you should address head on and the couple should

00:05:40.160 agree on what's important to them so what does that mean well intimacy specifically means you know

00:05:47.280 your drive does it match oh do they have equal like right sex drives right and even if you don't are you 0.77

00:05:54.000 willing to be you know available to your husband if we're talking about women if he is interested more

00:06:03.360 than you are you really just have to kind of have those conversations we get the ring we get so excited we

00:06:08.000 want the big day and then the honeymoon is over and you're looking at him and he's looking at you

00:06:12.400 and you're like oh man what did i get myself into but you really need to talk about all of it

00:06:18.000 what else oh dear all right so we talked about food we talked about money we talked about family we talked

00:06:24.720 about work um i know communication is um one of those words that's kind of like what does that mean

00:06:34.960 but i think communication styles are important for example i don't know if it was you or i was

00:06:39.920 telling somebody else i know my um triggers or difficult conversations and i will still have them

00:06:48.400 but as a woman because i'm emotional i can tell my guy okay this is a little hard for me i need a moment

00:06:55.200 it could be an hour it could be 24 hours i will come back and have this conversation but i want to do it

00:07:00.400 from a place of being level-headed and not have an emotional response i do that too if i'm really

00:07:05.920 mad about something i my mom always told me to wait two days yep and she said if you're still mad

00:07:10.640 after two days you can talk to them but like if you just wait because like especially if we're close

00:07:16.160 to our time of the mind or like where we are in our cycling there's very many times where i've been so

00:07:21.360 mad and i woke up and i was like wow i was overreacting exactly and i was so glad i didn't like say

00:07:28.000 anything or or talk to them because it's like if i if i did then i would have maybe said something i

00:07:35.040 regret and like just sometimes like waiting is like the best thing you can do as a woman because

00:07:42.080 we're like you know there's a part of every girl that's a bit crazy and sometimes you gotta you gotta

00:07:46.640 take care of that yes and it's okay just admitting that and knowing that but it's not okay to just act

00:07:52.560 it out well i feel this way so i'm gonna do this no i feel this way i want to do this but i have a

00:07:58.720 brain so i'm going to wait and i will you know come back but just give me a moment and we need to

00:08:04.720 understand how men communicate because they are very direct and they give direction and sometimes it's

00:08:10.240 a little harsh but when you know you have a good one and he loves you you just need to be able to

00:08:15.280 take that listen to what he's saying and not get so concerned about the tone because they communicate

00:08:21.360 differently from us so i think that's important to talk about as many of you know i was just banned

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JustPearlyThings - March 17, 2023

Women NEED To HEAR This

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