JustPearlyThings - Women on the Panel Rate Themselves

00:00:00.000 do you guys think you are above average and why do you think you deserve an above average man

00:00:06.340 if so above average in like what sense like um the things that men want um

00:00:16.280 oh my gosh i don't know honestly like i couldn't really say i don't think i'm like average i don't

00:00:25.780 think i'm above i think i'm like in between but like i don't really so you think you're average or

00:00:31.620 you don't think you're average no i don't think i'm average but i feel like seeing above average

00:00:36.380 i don't really know if i am above average though because it just depends on different stuff okay

00:00:41.440 but like i don't try to go for a guy that's like above average realistically um for me like i'm not

00:00:47.900 too picky when it comes to um materialistic things and stuff like that and your job title and this

00:00:53.620 this is but what i've like learned from like going for guys who have like average jobs and stuff

00:00:59.360 like that which is like the only thing i've been used to is that like i would rather just now like

00:01:05.680 i'd rather have fun with it and go for musician if he's gonna cheat he's gonna cheat because imagine

00:01:09.640 getting cheated on by a guy who drives the 332 like you drive a red bus that's the issue that i have

00:01:15.180 with men is that it doesn't actually matter their title like if they want to play you they'll play 0.98

00:01:20.660 you so like i said i don't usually go for above average guys but i might try i don't know but

00:01:26.280 it's still this personally for me i feel like it's still the same end game okay but my question is do

00:01:30.560 you think you're above average so you said yes i think i think i'm like in between but i'm just

00:01:36.100 gonna say yeah i'm just gonna rate myself okay okay that's fine there's nothing wrong with saying

00:01:39.980 that um so you think you're above average so and why do you think um like what do you bring to the

00:01:44.460 table to an above average guy what do i bring to an above average guy yeah like i'm asking like what

00:01:50.220 because um i'm a sweetheart like i just feel like i'm quite nice i can drive i'm fun you know like

00:01:58.760 that's why i said i don't really know in what sense you mean above average because it could be like

00:02:02.000 above average like financially or like ambitiously or like physically and stuff like that i don't care

00:02:06.020 about ambit like that's the thing they care mostly i feel like men mostly care about looks wise and

00:02:10.820 looks wise i'm never going to sit here and say that i'm not above average because i rate it myself

00:02:14.420 but in terms of what i can give there's other things that men look for that's the thing but

00:02:19.140 in terms of what i what makes me above average for an above average guy i couldn't really answer that

00:02:24.980 yet just because i haven't actually experienced an above average guy if that makes sense i feel like

00:02:30.360 how tall was your ex-boyfriend um six foot one i think okay so that's top 15 probably 10 percent of

00:02:38.420 yeah so that's above average how much did he make roughly i don't know i never asked you don't

00:02:44.860 have any guess i actually don't know were you the one that said banker he was a banker no that was

00:02:50.340 what did you say he did football and um some oh the gym the gym yeah okay so i i genuinely couldn't

00:02:58.140 tell you how much he was making plus i don't know but at least in looks he was probably above average

00:03:02.160 if he works at a gym and he's 6'1 yeah so okay if we're talking about looks yeah yeah so i don't

00:03:08.920 think you're going for average man but i thought you meant above average like you know wears a suit

00:03:15.100 drives a maserati to work like that's what i think when i think above my average i feel like the guy

00:03:20.240 that i was talking to is my norm i feel like he's very much on my level because your height and stuff

00:03:26.240 like that you just happen to be taller than me but like if you own a business or if you have like

00:03:30.820 all of these things for me personally that's like above my average yeah i mean there's a couple

00:03:35.600 things that girls look for so it's like you know there's looks which height goes into and then there's 1.00

00:03:39.620 money um status so um i would say most girls the guys they go for are above average in some way

00:03:46.180 but i feel like because you know only like 20 percent of men are sexually active

00:03:50.900 like 80 percent of women because the number one way the number one way people are meeting nowadays 1.00

00:04:08.920 is dating apps and that's five and women only swipe right five percent of the time that's crazy yeah and 0.99

00:04:14.680 like women find 80 percent of men is unattractive like not not okay not they think they're ugly

00:04:19.600 so i mean i guess it's not to say that like the other ones don't ever get in the door but for the

00:04:26.540 most part women go for 20 percent of men oh that's interesting i didn't know that yeah and they did the 1.00

00:04:32.320 studies in person because i know a lot of people will say oh well we don't find 80 percent of men is

00:04:36.100 ugly but yeah they did the studies like in person and on dating apps and like literally 80 percent of men

00:04:40.540 ugly i wonder what why that is though is it purely based on looks those stats because it's swiping

00:04:46.540 so it's purely based on looks right i feel like women looks when it comes to men women don't really

00:04:53.160 care that much about looks as long as you're well put together we're more concerned with height height

00:04:58.420 is like i'm not concerned about but usually men don't look as good as long as you're taller than me

00:05:01.600 usually men don't look as good in pictures as well so if it's just dating apps then you can't really go

00:05:06.460 just off of no but it's not just going off of that it's in person too like they rated the men

00:05:10.520 in person and they also thought they were ugly well that's so interesting maybe because women 1.00

00:05:16.020 have way more beautiful features there's way more like different attributes well women wear makeup 1.00

00:05:20.720 so we got boobs and like we got we got things that like sexually no but like for like towards a man

00:05:26.300 like yeah but he could do he could do a top of this photo i think women just have higher standards 1.00

00:05:30.300 like they actually say that women um judge like men heart more harsh on appearance than men judge women

00:05:35.660 i think it's the other i wouldn't have thought that yeah men swipe right around 50 percent of 0.84

00:05:41.880 the time women swipe right five so even if let's just say we tripled it like in person she finds 0.99

00:05:45.840 three times as many people attractive it's still only 15 percent i think that's contributing to why

00:05:50.240 women are just single and uh yeah you know rates are going up for why women are not really married 1.00

00:05:54.880 and single by 25 and 30 because yeah the standards are definitely going high

00:05:59.780 um so uh the same question though like what would you say you bring outside of looks

00:06:05.860 um outside of looks um okay obviously like personality um and just morals as well and like

00:06:16.160 ambition worth ethic i feel like i'm not really the type to just kind of sit down and just be bummy

00:06:21.580 like i'm always trying to like better myself and work harder and stuff like that which i personally

00:06:26.080 feel like is a good thing because i want that in a guy too i feel like that's a very attractive

00:06:30.020 thing to like be ambitious and then other than that um i can keep i can cook a few bits and bobs

00:06:36.180 nothing too crazy um like i said like i can actually drive so i'm not gonna be like oh my guy needs to

00:06:42.260 have a car and i can't drive i actually can't actually have a car um and then i'm very like family

00:06:47.380 oriented i have good morals like like i said i feel like personality no i feel like looks is it can only

00:06:53.040 get you so far i feel like like your soul like internally you have like you have to check those

00:06:57.900 boxes too so i feel like i check those boxes as well okay uh what about you um do you think you're

00:07:03.760 above average and what do you bring to an above average man yes i do think i'm above average uh what

00:07:12.340 do i bring to the table um i just feel like yeah looks is like one thing it's the surface right

00:07:19.940 but i take pride in my appearance so it's not just like makeup and all of like oh getting botox or

00:07:25.680 lip fillers and stuff it's not that i'm talking about facials manicures pedicures like health

00:07:30.920 and well-being going to the gym like going to the doctors like these type of things like beyond the

00:07:36.760 surface like i actually really take care of myself like moisturizing like i know it sounds like oh i just

00:07:42.820 cream my skin but like i take really good pride in that like my skin is really soft so i'm happy about

00:07:47.660 that um that's just on the surface but then like in terms of other things like as a woman i just feel

00:07:52.520 like i'm very nurturing maybe it's my stuff to do my style sign if you guys believe in that stuff or

00:07:57.660 it's just me my just biological makeup but i'm very nurturing um in terms of like my duties in the

00:08:03.220 household like cleaning and cooking i will always do for for whatever man that i'm with because it just

00:08:09.160 comes naturally to me um in terms of like you do like 100 of the household chores yeah yeah yeah yeah

00:08:15.880 well as in usually like well the person with now he does parts as well because he likes to be clean

00:08:21.200 as well so that's a good thing but i'm happy to do like 90 of it i've got this theory like i want

00:08:26.780 tradition to play like 85 90 in the relationship but that that 15 10 is just modern day society we're

00:08:34.320 not in the 1950s anymore things have changed so that 15 10 means that the man can do the dishwasher

00:08:39.320 sometimes or the woman can like go and work sometimes as well like it's okay but i feel

00:08:44.700 like our roles should um overpower the other percentage of you get what i'm trying to say

00:08:49.880 um but yeah like i i definitely feel like i bring a lot to the table not that my man or anyone i date

00:08:56.380 should ask me what i bring to the table because i think he should just i don't like that question

00:09:01.140 from a man but i know what yeah yeah you're a woman yeah of course i'm gonna tell you how but

00:09:06.860 like as a man i wouldn't that would be a complete red flag for if he's like demanding what seeking

00:09:11.660 really yeah like because i just don't yeah no i think men should ask women what they bring i think

00:09:17.440 women should ask men too you might want to not a phrase it you might not phrase it like i've never

00:09:22.080 asked a man what you bring to the what you might not phrase it like that but you want to know what

00:09:25.980 his job is you want to know what his relationship with his family like they ask it to you they just

00:09:30.020 don't do it that directly typically like guys will ask you questions on dates to like figure

00:09:34.580 out stuff about you but do you think that's because men we can ask men because what we're

00:09:39.240 asking for is more to see like if they're providing stuff and that's more like factual like what i do

00:09:43.160 for a job what i earn whereas a woman it's more you need to experience her to see if she you can't 1.00

00:09:48.400 you can say i'm nurturing but you might not but you need to kind of be around her see how she is

00:09:52.800 how she talks but yeah adding to like you could ask like uh when's the last time you like babysat 0.52

00:09:58.160 or watch children like how often do you interact with kids that's the way you could tell

00:10:02.320 yeah is that a good indication yeah i think so if you want a mother like it would you don't think 0.94

00:10:09.500 like doing the thing that you would have to do if you're a mom because nurturing goes beyond kids

00:10:13.520 but yeah okay it's i'm just saying that's one way i didn't say it was the only way yeah yeah but

00:10:18.420 there's like ways you can ask the question yeah yeah fair enough that's fair that's fair but i think

00:10:23.240 men should ask more questions to be honest because i i think that like a lot of guys don't ask the

00:10:29.580 right questions and they get bamboozled later i know but i like the level of like mystery that

00:10:35.080 woman carries and i think that's her femininity like you shouldn't i don't think you should tell

00:10:39.780 a man a lot especially well if he's your partner of course but when you're first dating him i don't

00:10:44.640 think you should tell him a lot because you can tell him the facts of course but don't air out your

00:10:49.160 dirty laundry and stuff because you're a woman you're feminine you that mystery that mystique 1.00

00:10:54.180 is really important i think yeah but you don't okay there's a difference between airing it like

00:10:59.060 talking about your ex-boyfriend and answering questions he asks you're like yeah as long as

00:11:03.700 the question's appropriate no i think like when guys ask you questions and you don't answer it's

00:11:07.860 like not feminine yeah because i think it's like disagree on the question i guess i think it's like

00:11:12.180 disagreeable yeah if you're gonna okay let's let's say it like this if a guy said to me

00:11:16.080 what's your body count i'm not gonna answer him because i just think that's inappropriate

00:11:21.140 disrespectful you think it's disrespectful actually i don't even want to talk to you anymore so i'm

00:11:25.680 just gonna get up and leave you think it's disrespectful absolutely i think i think men

00:11:29.800 should i think men should know that to be honest um i don't think i think it's disrespectful if it's

00:11:34.620 someone like you don't know i mean not disrespect like it's it's private right but it's like if so if

00:11:40.000 he wants to if he's taking you seriously and wants to marry you i think it's a valid question 0.88

00:11:43.420 i just think it's only valid if you've been with someone that he is associated with like friends

00:11:48.740 or family i feel like a guy that has no kind of connection to your guy i don't think it actually

00:11:54.400 matters and furthermore you can ask a woman however many times what her body count is first of all she's 0.97

00:12:00.460 always gonna lie even if she doesn't lie how do you know she's telling the truth were you in her body

00:12:04.460 for all the years she's been alive never tell on themselves like guys start to count like because

00:12:09.600 you'll be like oh that's what guys tell me that the women will tell on themselves later yeah i think

00:12:13.780 most guys like don't ask to be fair but i mean when you look at the numbers as a guy i don't know how

00:12:19.480 you wouldn't care especially men have so much to lose in divorce um court today it's like if the

00:12:25.240 girl's a virgin on her wedding wedding night she has an 80 chance of a happy marriage you know it 1.00

00:12:29.240 drops down to if she slept with more than five people 20 so if you slept with more than five people 0.51

00:12:34.780 your chance of a happy marriage in 10 years goes down to 20 percent and if you slept with more than

00:12:39.860 10 it's like you're you're probably going to be divorced like more likely than not within five

00:12:44.820 years have they said what the reason is for that i mean i think it's good i think it's going against

00:12:49.940 nature like throughout all of history like when have women been as promiscuous as they are today 1.00

00:12:54.220 you don't undo biology just because we have birth control now so do you think that's down to because

00:12:59.200 she's experienced so many partners that she then doesn't feel fulfilled or do you think it's down to the

00:13:03.940 man finding out and not respecting her what do you think it's down to well it's the women leaving 1.00

00:13:07.380 so it's not the men like women usually leave not men um so i think it's the psychology of choice if

00:13:14.120 you have 10 meals in front of you and you pick one you're not as happy but if there's one in front of

00:13:18.280 you you're you're just happy to be eaten you know what i mean and so i think girls start to compare 1.00

00:13:23.240 so they'll say like the first guy uh he had this second yeah you're not no it's true no i agree with

00:13:28.380 that i actually agree with that yeah and then i think like the the more you've been with it's like

00:13:32.720 the odds are the guy you married isn't your favorite and so now you're getting married to

00:13:37.300 your second choice is that good and i think we can all like think of a girl that maybe had an ex that

00:13:42.420 she kept going back to or didn't get over maybe an ex that you that happened to you you know um i think

00:13:47.920 that's common because women start running out of time so they run to their like second or third choice 1.00

00:13:52.620 true that's what i think anyway you know there's no that never happens to any of us but yeah

00:13:57.740 no i mean i mean the data honestly shows that half of us aren't going to have kids

00:14:01.320 50 in here single and childless if you hit 30 and you're still single you're sure if you're if you

00:14:07.700 hit 30 you're still single your chance of having a kid drops below 50 so you're actually more likely

00:14:12.060 to not have a kid than have one is that just females yeah yeah women i rebuke these stats and i um 1.00

00:14:17.740 no no it's not like rebuking i think i think it's good for women to know because that's what's going to

00:14:23.040 happen if like you know and it's a fact as well like your eggs just yeah yeah yeah we know that

00:14:29.760 yeah but 90 90 of your eggs are gone by 30 and then they they sell you ivf as an option but the

00:14:35.520 majority of ivf treatments don't work so the majority of women that go get like ivf they don't actually

00:14:40.560 get get a kid at all i'm just a firm believer i feel like the way my life is supposed to pan out it

00:14:46.880 will pan out just perfectly and yeah the stats are important but i just feel like if i'm not ready

00:14:53.280 now and i'm ready later and it doesn't happen maybe it just wasn't meant to be i'll just leave it to to

00:14:59.200 life yeah i think a lot of women feel like that but you know then they hit 45 and they're on 1.00

00:15:04.160 antidepressants and more depressed than any other group like women over the age of 45 are more depressed

00:15:09.920 than any other group like more anxious and the same thing like body count is associated to all those

00:15:14.160 things like anxiety depression like i can't remember the list off the top of my head but

00:15:19.120 there's a bunch of like negative like things that are associated like negative mental health with

00:15:24.400 high body count and sometimes you don't really know when you're ready until it happens so a lot of

00:15:28.640 like my brother has a baby and he was he thought he wasn't ready to be a dad until baby happened and

00:15:34.160 he's a great father yeah you become ready right yeah sometimes you need the moment to

00:15:38.880 to understand what you can and can't do that makes sense

JustPearlyThings - May 09, 2023

Women on the Panel Rate Themselves

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