JustPearlyThings - October 27, 2023


Women RUINED Everything For Choosing Bad Guys


Episode Stats

Length

42 minutes

Words per Minute

217.16727

Word Count

9,216

Sentence Count

4

Misogynist Sentences

40

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 happily done this but you aired them you literally did not see them and the reason why you didn't
00:00:03.920 i was loyal to crap yeah no but so but the thing is that's very generalized though isn't it it's
00:00:09.680 what women do no but it's like you're telling me stuff that i already know so i'm like i'm
00:00:12.640 trying i'm letting you land no but she's agreeing so basically the reason i'm saying this is because
00:00:16.960 i've we've done we've done this show we speak to women like if you use your 20s and you end up in
00:00:21.280 your 30s and you do not have a man you've had from at least 17 18 you've had about 12 years for you
00:00:27.120 to lock it down if you didn't it's not because you didn't meet any good men it's because you
00:00:31.280 literally outweighed your options and now you end up at 30 years old and now you're competing for women
00:00:36.240 in their 20s with the men that you would want so then so then and this is what happens with men
00:00:41.440 in their 30s and 40s right that is when they become more established and that is when they become a
00:00:49.040 little bit more attractive um you know most millionaires don't become millionaires until
00:00:53.280 they're like the late 30s early 40s sometimes 45 and so the men that are that have watched the women
00:01:03.360 right they've watched women curb them i don't want him ah he's a geek guys are this these are that i
00:01:10.720 don't like him they've watched that throughout their 20s and then they've established themselves
00:01:14.880 and they're watching now the same women who didn't give them any time now like oh my god i i want those
00:01:20.960 type of guys and they're like not me love that's what they did they're like not me because when it
00:01:27.040 was time when i was kind of showing you exactly who i was and being a good guy and i could be a good
00:01:33.440 guy you wanted the fogs on the street that would get your door kicked in at four o'clock in the morning
00:01:38.320 yeah i've never i've never wanted that personally that's never been my tail thing and i don't think
00:01:44.160 that i think there are a lot of women that do go through that process and they waste time you go
00:01:48.000 what's cool what everybody says is the in thing or the good looking guy or whatever
00:01:52.000 but i think it's about choices that i think you decide what kind of life you want to have some
00:01:56.160 people go for the whole looks and they have to be attracted to their partner some people i think
00:02:00.480 it's down to your love language and what you like about a person you don't think that younger
00:02:05.120 women in general tend to date more bad boys than older women in general we have to be honest
00:02:12.480 there's a stereotype for a reason the crazy high school boyfriend yeah i know it's a thing
00:02:20.000 but i don't think it's across the board i think there's a certain type of person that goes no
00:02:24.080 and i understand that but the thing is like the average age of first marriage in the uk is 31
00:02:28.320 and this is just general feedback we're getting from men where they're saying
00:02:32.160 we're tired of these girls have been run through by the bad boys in their 20s and then 30s say take me
00:02:36.720 yeah right and it's i'm not saying every single woman not every girl does that or they become
00:02:41.440 born again virgins and they go to church you know they find god and it's like oh my god i'm
00:02:48.400 i've got two baby babies for these crazy baby fathers now and i'm just going to be a christian
00:02:53.840 so i really hate that so like seriously this whole born again virgin thing even the thing even when
00:02:58.880 you're saying you can get surgery you cannot erase the amount of things that will put inside of you
00:03:02.560 it's like for for us men it's quite it's not the amount of things i don't think anyone's going to
00:03:07.280 argue with this does anyone here believe in born again virgins no girls believe in it because they
00:03:13.040 keep saying see what the point is i'm a born again virgin thank you i'm telling you i've been doing
00:03:18.400 this show for months i don't think anyone actually believes it they might believe a guy will wait
00:03:22.720 which that's kind of i just think like we always said like what use is it yeah of running up like
00:03:27.680 and what tends to happen is you girls and running up your body count between your teens to your 20s and your
00:03:31.840 late 30 in your 30s then you actually decide that i should want to get with a man what got you what
00:03:36.160 good use is 10 20 30 bodies that are going to come to your husband they don't actually there's no use
00:03:40.800 at all and actually in fact you come here with more damage and more and um more distrust for men that's
00:03:45.840 why when you meet new women so they tend to be like i've got trust issues but none of these trust
00:03:49.840 issues came from me i just met you but that's what we're talking about people do that as well because
00:03:55.280 there's lots of generalization going on here and i think people do that if you've had something in the
00:04:00.880 past some people carry from their past relationship this person did this to me to see that sign in
00:04:05.200 you they assume but i think we need to be a bit more open with trauma everyone's got things that
00:04:11.280 they no we don't every every we don't know you're just giving excuses you're giving excuses for what
00:04:15.040 you did there's no reason why if you meet me i need to start being open to your trauma no one asked
00:04:19.120 you to do no wait hold on hold on no one asked you to deal with guys that are going to give you
00:04:22.880 trauma now you expect me to be a to be some type of therapist i'm the man that's not my job as a to be a
00:04:28.160 therapist to fix guys that you shouldn't have got with in the first place i think it's quite you're
00:04:31.920 putting things on to men that men don't actually need to deal with i'm just supposed to be a good
00:04:35.200 man that i don't need to be your therapist and to fix why you why this guy did this to you and did
00:04:39.520 that to you i mean you're sounding like somebody that's experienced some really toxic women because
00:04:44.240 that's no because seriously because it's coming it's coming across that way because no i'm almost
00:04:49.280 feeling an attack i'm gonna lie i've just come and sat here if you know i tried to catch him what the
00:04:53.520 subject was but there's a bear aggression in where you in the way he's not aggressive he's just being
00:04:57.920 honest and what he's saying what he's saying is that like why should the men of the future have to
00:05:01.200 pay for your past so if you if you had and i'm not saying you did i know not all girls did but this
00:05:06.000 is just a common thing that men tell me and then like if you had toxic boyfriend toxic ex bad boy
00:05:11.040 bad boy bad boy and then you get in this new relationship and you dump all that onto the new
00:05:14.800 guy why does he have to deal with that yeah no one should have to deal with that however you come with
00:05:20.080 your own things as well everyone comes with their own things i feel like it's about how people unpack
00:05:25.120 it i think once you you know what those things are it's not to go to the new person that you're seeing
00:05:28.880 oh this has happened to me and you better not do this to me that's you got me it's about everybody
00:05:34.240 has their thing so my thing is this right it gets to me when women automatically when a man speaks you
00:05:39.360 start trying to put all this aggression all these types of things it's no it's not that please we need
00:05:43.120 to stop this because it's it's a it's a tactic that women use all the time especially on here it's a
00:05:47.360 shaming shaming tactic that as soon as a man speaks about something you start talking about
00:05:50.800 aggression and all these types of things we need to really to stop it because that's not what's
00:05:54.720 going on here but i have to i have to pull it up because i always say listen to people's words yeah
00:05:58.880 listen to my words don't listen to the tone because what what tends to happen is you use the tone and
00:06:03.200 you used to use the tone to to take away from the actual message the actual point so um yeah like
00:06:07.920 there's no aggression here there's no animosity there's nothing but literally what i'm saying is
00:06:12.000 women tend to go and do this and we have experienced this and as men we're trying to speak
00:06:15.920 and tell you about experiences and we speak in a way that men speak whenever we do we're ashamed for
00:06:20.800 it okay that's a natural response for you right i think it's important you know when you're talking
00:06:28.160 about women that get run through by bad boys and whatnot whatnot i think it's important to remember
00:06:33.600 that there are women that choose those people like i have a a ex friend and that was her thing
00:06:40.480 like she wants the hood boy she wants the gangster she wants the trapper
00:06:43.920 and then there's women that never see that part of them and falling like get become attracted to
00:06:52.160 like the sensitivity that they may see in a man but then he turns out to be a bad woman
00:06:56.880 cap cap cap cap
00:06:57.920 emily emily let me ask you
00:06:59.120 a bad
00:06:59.520 women no women no we know we know deep down like i just don't buy it when girls say oh i was bamboozled
00:07:06.080 one day no you weren't come on
00:07:07.200 let me ask you when you said the sense it does does do sensitive guys attract um women
00:07:16.880 because you said that you attracted to the sensitivity of a guy yeah do sensitive men
00:07:21.760 attract women generally yeah one one day me and you might actually sit down with my ex that i ended
00:07:26.720 in court with oh yeah wow yeah super super super abusive it was horrible and he turned out to be a
00:07:32.560 but he's a lovely guy now we're friends but your friends with your friends yes i am because yeah
00:07:39.520 i'm a quality woman who overstands like the trauma that people have been through and understand why
00:07:44.400 certain things happen and help them to progress and stop perpetuating negative cycles but anyway
00:07:50.880 he i i fell for him based on a fight that happened on a bus
00:07:54.960 and his care to the little boy and the old man that were like caught up in it is what made me look
00:08:01.840 back and then start a conversation with him i had no idea he was a bad boy he was a super like
00:08:07.440 chubby asian boy like like nerdy looking whatever whatever and it was after months of
00:08:15.440 really like sweet conversations and whatnot whatnot there was no inkling there was no red flag that
00:08:22.160 this could be a bad guy in fact there was plenty green flags yeah that would show me that he's a
00:08:28.160 lovely which is very common in abusive men so don't you think someone who's too emotional yeah is more
00:08:34.480 likely to be an abuser yeah and that's something that i now identify after the years because they don't
00:08:39.120 know how to control their emotions exactly so i think it's really important that we don't kind of
00:08:43.840 oh you knew because it's not it's not how long so so it was about six months you said before
00:08:51.280 he started to show signs uh the first like proper proper abuse was after like nine months after nine
00:08:57.200 months and then how long did it go on for that for three years for three years and then you took him
00:09:02.560 to court no uh police officer drove past as he punched me into a bush and the undercover police
00:09:08.960 officer drove past they jumped out and took him they didn't need me because they witnessed it um so
00:09:14.720 so but this is where i don't understand you say you didn't know but you were he wasn't abusive for nine
00:09:20.080 months and then you knew for three and you stayed i was a child and that's why i've been through so
00:09:23.760 much therapy to make sure that i don't how old were you do i was let's not because it's like how old
00:09:28.960 i can't no no no like let's not yeah because if because the reason what you said you was a child so
00:09:35.360 we need to know how old to because i'm saying it was then so when someone says you stayed yeah i didn't
00:09:40.640 know what's the age how old i didn't we're not doing that but the the point is that doesn't sound honest
00:09:45.840 because you did know if you stayed longer you stayed for three years you're there i i knew but
00:09:50.160 i'm saying how i became his girlfriend before me becoming his girlfriend the courting the initial
00:09:57.200 period there were no signs it was after i was his girlfriend i was his then every he was relaxed
00:10:04.560 do you understand i was with i'm just i was with you yeah until you until you said oh i was young and
00:10:09.120 i'll ask you how old you was and you won't tell me see that's that's how disingenuous to me because
00:10:12.400 the rest of the because like i said to sarah i would love if we could have a conversation we don't
00:10:16.000 have to we just know this came about from me suggesting uh uh talk with him present do you
00:10:23.360 understand so all the disingenuous so do you think that as an abuser as you're saying that he is
00:10:28.320 he would actually say yes i want to i was an abuser and this is why oh i don't think about that yeah
00:10:36.160 obviously i'd have to ask him but i'm just saying because you're saying you want to sit down and like
00:10:40.000 i think it would be interesting and important because when i hear people speak in a certain way
00:10:44.560 i think it can be quite dangerous because think of all the women or think of all the women or men
00:10:51.360 that might be in a situation or whatever and when you feel like you're chastised oh you knew deal with
00:10:57.600 it like no that's not the case there are people i didn't say i didn't say deal with i know you didn't
00:11:02.400 sorry i shouldn't have added that in there but for someone that has you know been in a situation
00:11:07.360 where they have just dealt with it when someone says oh you knew you knew you should you know i
00:11:12.240 mean oh but you stayed for three years i think it's important do you see how that looks to to the
00:11:17.280 outside like if we look at you and say like for instance if i'm coming home for three years and
00:11:22.880 someone's as soon as i walk in the door someone's punching me in my face there's lots of things you
00:11:26.880 need to think about yeah but i'm just saying i was i was i was um living by myself i had got a stayed uh
00:11:34.160 like squatting i'd done like living in a foster home like i was i was not in touch with my
00:11:40.960 immediate family at that point so you were kind of isolated there's a lot yeah there's a lot to
00:11:45.760 consider for you to be able to understand that i don't really think it's appropriate to unpack here
00:11:50.400 and now but if we use our um if we think a little bit you know so sorry so i don't think it's fair to
00:11:57.440 start something and then and then not give us the full story and then when we try to speak about it
00:12:01.680 you said it's not fair to unpack it so what i would say is this end of the day is you still pick
00:12:05.760 that guy you chose to be with that guy for three years no matter what wherever wherever it was you
00:12:10.000 still chose to make a decision do you have any brothers yes did you tell your brothers no so okay
00:12:14.640 once again so you had men in your family that could have dealt with this scenario but you chose
00:12:18.560 not to go and do it hold on wait hold on a second hold on a second hold on a second because
00:12:21.680 i got three sisters yeah yeah and my sisters would know any type of man that disrespects them that i
00:12:26.720 would get the call you chose not to call your brothers you chose to put yourself in something
00:12:30.000 for three years and then now when you come on here you also said you was young i asked you
00:12:34.000 how old you was you don't want to listen okay but that lets me know you wasn't that's not the
00:12:37.680 point you know what no because that lets me know you wasn't young and using it as a cop-out
00:12:41.840 bro i just said i would invite him to talk with sarah so so we don't so i don't don't don't don't
00:12:47.840 sorry sorry i think you need to remember there was a um i was prompted to mention something that was
00:12:54.080 helping me to make clarity on another point you're now like going in this spiral rabbit hole i'm not
00:13:00.000 i'm just i'm just trying to sorry babe sorry it's not don't don't think i'm you know i'm high i'm
00:13:06.000 willing to talk to you like you're not because i just asked you how old you was i've signed a contract
00:13:10.480 where sir it's not edited so i'm saying respectfully i don't mind sitting off camera with you and
00:13:16.720 like i began the story with i would sit down with sarah and speak openly i really don't appreciate like
00:13:22.720 the point you're trying to make out it's not that but the point he's making is like i wouldn't say i
00:13:26.800 was young and then get mad when someone said how young i didn't get mad i just i just i just but
00:13:31.440 i'm saying i'm saying like that that's the point because i don't know the i can't i've got really
00:13:35.680 really bad ptsd um years and stuff if i go to the doctor and they ask me what what year was this
00:13:41.200 operation whatnot i can't give the exact year if i'm on camera now and i say it was 2000 and whatever
00:13:47.680 and then it's not i don't you understand it's not that there's any disingenuous if you want me to
00:13:51.600 emily i hear you but it's like but even when you say this is like you don't remember what
00:13:55.360 what like it's it's just like it's just you brought up the story i didn't i didn't make you bring it up
00:14:00.240 and then so and so i'm saying it's just it gets confusing when you you bring up a story and then we
00:14:05.040 ask questions and you're like oh no i can't you know no i'm just telling you how it comes across i don't
00:14:09.840 know you because i know my reasons for not wanting to say the year i will instagram him now and ask what year
00:14:15.680 did i get with you okay okay like i don't understand what so you don't need to do that
00:14:24.160 did you so you were together for three years did you say so did you celebrate any birthdays together
00:14:28.560 you must remember one birthday you celebrated so just whatever whatever birthday you celebrate
00:14:32.080 that's how old you was count back and that's it so i'm not asking you how the only reason why i'm
00:14:37.040 saying it is because a lot of times women come up here and say i'm young this happens the whole
00:14:40.800 point's been missed no no no no no i don't even remember why this case like okay emily emily emily
00:14:47.280 what i'm trying to say is yeah a lot of times people come up on here and they say i was young
00:14:50.800 and they tried to use an excuse okay cool but then we asked you how old you was you you negate to tell
00:14:55.520 us fine but at what point when is when are you responsible as an adult if you're talking 16 okay wait
00:15:02.560 if you're talking 16 we'll talk young if you're talking 18 but it's before it's like one of my first
00:15:07.360 boyfriends so i so you're talking 13 i've yeah i unfortunately been in 13 you're talking 13.
00:15:13.280 i'm not talking 13 bro seriously one at a time guys one at a time one at a time i'm not i'm not um
00:15:19.120 i don't have anything to hide in terms of my relation i'm pretty open like i've been doing
00:15:23.440 podcasts about sex and relationships and whatnot i'm open i'm an open book you don't know me from adam but
00:15:29.600 i'm i'm i i live in my truth the the ugly there's a lot of ugly and i can't even remember the point of
00:15:36.320 why i even brought up that moment of my life because it's just been like i feel like we've
00:15:41.840 just gone down a rabbit hole yeah like it's weird well with that being said um i was actually have a
00:15:50.640 video that i wanted to show oh yeah go for it but um i'm gonna do super chats yes you're cool with the
00:15:55.600 video though right okay so um okay guys thank you guys so much for the super chats blessing is gonna get
00:16:01.680 an 8k camera semi soon yeah yeah i told them i told them you could order it this week so all the
00:16:07.600 super chats are going towards a camera um also guys don't forget to like the video and subscribe
00:16:12.960 to the channel we want to get to 600k in the next week and um we'd like to get to a million before
00:16:18.480 january i know that's a crazy goal so we'll see if we get there but you never know um okay also guys
00:16:25.120 uh make sure you sign up for our memberships if you want to be a part of the chat today um okay so
00:16:31.520 our first and on the top super chatter is going to get if you have a message um we're gonna put like
00:16:36.640 either a whiteboard or a sign behind me next show and then if you have something like funny you want
00:16:40.800 to write or whatever we'll we'll put it up in your username okay um john teal and this is why men um
00:16:47.760 this is why men that can go for what younger women do um numero cookie monster ate the accountability
00:16:53.200 cookie cookie and forgot her age now she sounds like charlie brown's teacher to me um give us an
00:16:57.760 age range at least um john lake unaccountable women can't tell the full story um john teal only trauma
00:17:03.920 um men and 80 have come for the lotion um the uk economist don't men don't worry your soul mate is
00:17:09.760 out there but at the moment she's living her best life with chad and tyrone um dustin denton
00:17:14.560 keep just oh 500 super chat let's go stream sponsor dustin denton just keep going girl
00:17:22.240 nicholas cornelius i'd like to hear a discussion on the outlook of modern women on the parallel
00:17:26.480 to the dark triad triad traits on a social level roots in narcissism um and self-important and psychop
00:17:33.120 psychop oh um psychopath um may that's actually a good idea for a show maybe nsx um welcome back
00:17:40.000 pearl you left blue pills checking themselves into therapy all across the u.s um migtail by logic no
00:17:45.760 it's women that won't trust not men men trust women all the time and they stab us in the back women
00:17:50.240 file for divorce 70 to 90 percent of the time and women quit on us all the time due to fomo and
00:17:55.680 trying to monkey branch doug mpa cookie cookie monster is a combative for combative for no reason
00:18:02.160 women women don't build men up if they average marriage age is 31 they are there are two good
00:18:08.560 men in the room listen maggie the substitute teacher i can't wait to see you on tlla's mastermind
00:18:14.560 he did milk me for a date the other day i am doing that um silly sausage don't gain weight it's selfish
00:18:22.080 you brought a ferrari brand new and you gave itself four flat tires and turned itself into a minivan and
00:18:26.400 then you wouldn't let you drive you'd be furious mike gardner i am 43 years old my wife's 24 we have
00:18:31.760 very different backgrounds to one another from different cultures and races we would love to be
00:18:35.280 on your show and feel like we have views to add to this conversation um i don't even know who to
00:18:42.080 tell you to dm right now keep bothering me till i find someone um john telly okay no plane how about
00:18:48.320 a train i'm ldu lifestyle welcome back pearl thank you um marriage causes divorce i lost 70 in my uk
00:18:55.600 divorce in lead attorney state of georgia you can lose 80 men routinely get destroyed in divorce court
00:19:01.520 it's not worth it gus if you're a single woman by your late 20s and so on feminism has lied to you
00:19:06.880 and turned you into the grown independent man you always wanted to date and marry um doug mpa china
00:19:11.680 and sarah are on the same stream let's go and let me refresh it real quick i think that's all of them
00:19:16.000 though let me refresh um also guys like the video don't forget jonathan lake um now she's got pt now she's
00:19:24.160 got pts t ptsd be responsible um when it's getting touchy um blue bomber um is shuffling hard it's
00:19:32.960 it's it's it's not me it's super chats um mark had to go a need to be right is almost always the need to
00:19:37.520 re could need to control the narrative women don't understand i'm allowed to disagree um mgtow by logic
00:19:44.080 this is a common tactic women use um which they never when it comes to grape when it which they never
00:19:50.720 reported to the police in order to derail the entire topic of the show our trad relationships
00:19:55.520 dead who knows um and then this is the okay so i have a video that i'm going to show you because
00:20:03.280 the original topic is we're talking about traditional relationships so that's that's the actual topic of
00:20:07.680 the show so um we have a video um shout out to coach craig adams um you know you just like name
00:20:16.640 drop in here now yeah yeah um this is from he was on sauce cast with hafiz and um hafiz that name
00:20:24.080 rings a bell for some reason yeah i don't look at like do you know hafiz you know i do i've heard of
00:20:30.000 him um you know we've worked together you worked together once you know i don't know what's going
00:20:35.120 on with his channel and what's been going on with these videos it was a very interesting conversation yeah
00:20:40.080 yeah but this actually isn't from me this is from his um he did a collab with coach greg so if you
00:20:45.600 want to put that on the screen blessing nice i want everybody to understand i'm going to look into
00:20:52.080 this camera right here so i hope you see me really well here i want everybody to understand and remember
00:20:56.960 that everything i say from this point she backed it up all right so it's basically zero all right
00:21:02.240 you have no hope no chance pass the 20 years and that comes from experience it also is the you have
00:21:07.680 no chance of passing 20 years you're saying no no you can pass 20 years you'll probably be roommates
00:21:12.720 and you'll probably be overweight in a bus that pillsbury biscuit can or you'll probably be with
00:21:17.520 the exception to the rule but the data shows us plus the experience that she expressed that it's a
00:21:23.280 very difficult thing and this is what i want men to know yeah it is very difficult many people will
00:21:28.720 simplify it for you they will say oh just do this and do that and they will lead you on a wild goose chase
00:21:34.320 and that's my perspective that's all that i offer i tell men to not get married especially when you
00:21:39.280 don't have leverage however i also tell you do not listen to people who simplify this this is a very
00:21:46.080 complicated thing that most people fail at miserably got it and this is what i want let me uh let me
00:21:52.240 tee up buffies because you used a few things there about not getting married yeah yeah you said sometimes
00:21:56.720 you don't have leverage okay if you don't have leverage we'll talk about that yeah and you you talk
00:22:00.400 about turning into roommates well this guy is the roommate the host of the roommate channel right
00:22:04.160 yeah um when you're hearing this you've been married one year and by the way this guy's a sharp
00:22:08.640 informed very intentional guy he's my assumption is he didn't just trip and fall into marriage he's
00:22:14.000 seen myself before okay gotcha so you've been you've been very you're a calculated dude okay so when
00:22:20.720 you're hearing greg say this yeah and even when you're hearing ali say this how are you processing this
00:22:25.360 information this is really good and i'm excited about how this conversation can develop because i think
00:22:28.800 you've maybe did you react to me ams's conversation a couple years ago about marriage i didn't react to
00:22:33.840 i don't do a reaction video okay yeah i made a comment about okay you made a comment about it
00:22:37.440 okay so um so to me i'm really excited about it but it's also key to talk about experience experience
00:22:43.360 shapes your view right yeah so a girl who's been abused by a lot of different men she's gonna have a
00:22:48.720 very cynical leaning view towards men a man who's been cheated by business partners will be a very
00:22:55.040 cynical view about having potential business partners so it's also unique to talk about where does my
00:23:00.080 you gotta be honest yeah nobody here is 100 objective that's one of my arguments always with
00:23:04.880 red pill stuff they said they're speaking the truth you're not a robot you know you're you have your
00:23:09.840 biases right call it for what it is we all have our biases i have biases you have biases coach has
00:23:15.760 biases as much as we think we are we have to be 100 honest to the people about our biases if i'm an
00:23:21.360 individual and i was divorced and i had a difficult experience via marriage i'm gonna have a biased
00:23:26.640 opinion via marriage um ali has a positive experience with marriage so she can have a bias
00:23:32.080 towards well great marriages can work right so similar to me the people i admire the most the
00:23:38.080 people i look up to are married people patrick david jordan peterson my father pastor mark driscoll
00:23:44.880 people who i look up to the most right long-term marriages the people that i celebrate a lot long-term
00:23:50.960 marriages my father and mother been married for over 30 years great healthy marriage so
00:23:56.800 that's my opinion my pastor pastor howdy lou has been married over 25 years so i that's my world
00:24:02.960 view and so to me hearing what he's sharing there is truth in that everything where everyone's gonna
00:24:09.600 share there's gonna be truth in it yes if you like my dad told me a very powerful boy i love my father
00:24:14.560 he's so such a wise older man he said the most important decision you'll ever make in your life
00:24:19.200 is the one you marry and it can and it can go one of two ways and this is the this is what i want the
00:24:24.240 guys to understand we're not teaching naivete which is oh marriage is a perfect thing and you just meet
00:24:31.200 the one and live happily ever after and there's no issues there's no divorces that's we're not teaching
00:24:36.000 naivete marriage can be the worst thing in your life it can be an absolute living hell and i guarantee you
00:24:42.560 you can go for days and for days and you know so many different stories about people which marriage is
00:24:47.440 an absolute living hell but we don't want to teach being naive about the realities but also we don't
00:24:53.520 want to teach nihilism right the other end of the extreme marriage is the worst thing possible and a
00:24:58.480 woman are out to get your money and everyone's miserable everybody's roommates and everybody's
00:25:02.000 this because there are some individuals such as what alex communicated who are in happy healthy
00:25:08.160 long-term marriage right so you don't want to be naive you want to be nihilistic you want to be as real
00:25:12.800 as possible give me the good the bad and ugly and my biggest thing is that i understand that marriage
00:25:18.960 is a very difficult thing to get right and and the same thing is like i love how what you do is marriage
00:25:25.200 and money right i think we're gonna be talking about those two things today adam you're a one percent man
00:25:29.520 financially right that means 99 of people are trying to get to where adam is most people live paycheck to
00:25:37.040 paycheck they're struggling their lives suck when it comes to money most people are struggling but
00:25:42.000 they're trying to get where to where you are that's how i view relationships most people are in
00:25:46.960 really sucky relationship most people it's a day-to-day war hell the way work is the way the gym is but
00:25:54.720 then there are some people who are having it at the highest of level the same way we don't nobody says
00:26:01.440 oh well most people are not going to be in the one percent so screw it you should even try it's oh my oh
00:26:07.040 you know you know 90 of businesses and in in 10 years you should even try we say if somebody's gonna
00:26:14.000 succeed why not you that's why i love what you're doing if someone's gonna be rich why not you if
00:26:18.800 someone's gonna make money why not you someone's gonna have a great podcast why not you so for me
00:26:23.600 i acknowledge that that the top of the mountain is rare i acknowledge that but what i also acknowledge
00:26:28.880 is that if somebody's gonna win why not it be you and how can we help as many men as possible get
00:26:34.720 there everybody won't be able to get there but how many people how many people can we help get
00:26:38.640 there and that's what to me matters the most gotcha i love that now when you hear something
00:26:44.960 geez first of all i was i said wait till the other guy responds oh okay there's just one more part
00:26:53.520 hold on like this obviously he's sort of saying all right i hear you coach your marriage didn't work
00:26:58.400 you got out you know thank god before the 10-year mark so you'd probably be a little bit more spiteful
00:27:03.200 than you are not saying that you're spiteful but you'd be even more spiteful if you're paying a
00:27:07.040 ridiculous amount of alimony and everything you'd be paying but is there anything wrong with that if
00:27:11.360 he's saying he's basically saying i hear you coach it ain't easy out there brother like life's tough
00:27:15.360 marriage is tough getting making money is tough things are tough but don't tell me that i shouldn't
00:27:20.080 get married or don't tell me that i can't have a successful marriage how do you process that i don't
00:27:23.920 think anyone said no wait till it's back i think they caution people to say do not get married if i say do not get
00:27:31.760 married without leverage that is a position right that you can change thus if you read my book it says
00:27:38.560 once you get to that position you can then make the decision you'll probably come out better than
00:27:43.760 going in it without it however this is what i will always say when men do find that that solution does
00:27:51.200 not work out they are left alone there's nobody to help them so people encourage people hey why not
00:27:58.400 give it a try but when you go bankrupt when you lose your kids when your kids are taken from you
00:28:04.400 when the courts kind of punish you for making this decision or punish you it punishes you for being a
00:28:10.560 slightly better higher earner then nobody's there with information nobody's there with context no one's
00:28:16.240 there to help them and i believe not feel i know understand believe and i have evidence to show
00:28:22.480 that men are left alone when they don't succeed in this endeavor and that is the void that i feel
00:28:28.480 because i can tell you hey men are alone in this situation men are homeless men are thinking about
00:28:33.840 eating guns men are thinking about they have no way out men are losing big time and we're losing a
00:28:40.240 fraction of men through due to manipulation due to people trying to you know they may be hurt a woman
00:28:45.680 might be hurt in a marriage or she might feel that she's not being appreciated and then she throws a
00:28:51.600 grenade in the room what happens then see that's where i come in i get to show you what happens
00:28:56.400 when the grenade is there and i also encourage you you're not alone in this a lot of people come
00:29:01.360 to my content and they find out oh you too see before as i said 70 years ago 40 years ago 30 years
00:29:08.640 ago there was nobody presenting this side of the artist i see what you're saying right here nobody they
00:29:13.520 just left men alone they said well you must not have been hitting it right or you must not have loved
00:29:17.360 her right or you must have abused the kids that's what she said she said that you were and nobody came
00:29:22.560 to this position so i listen there was a void open and i ran right yeah so if you okay
00:29:31.440 jeez yeah can i first say that hafiz knows how to speak without saying a lot first of all um but go on
00:29:41.920 what did you want to ask after that i wanted to see what you guys what do you guys think of that clip
00:29:45.280 were you paying attention china was on his phone what are you hotting me up for
00:29:55.200 what you what would you think yeah it was good it's good what'd you like about it
00:30:00.560 yeah you weren't paying a lot of information to take in but i think the guy the black guy in the
00:30:07.840 suit or he had a suit on in the middle i think he had a lot of valid points and it goes back to
00:30:12.640 the choice you choose to be i think it's a certain type of person that chooses to be
00:30:17.200 married or that traditional way of living when i think of like my parents and my aunties uncles
00:30:21.200 they got married when they're like 21 or 24. were they happy? the start yeah i can look at different
00:30:25.920 really so i know my auntie and uncle i'll give them as an example yeah they look and act like they are
00:30:30.800 still in love with each other all the time okay it's a it's a very nice unit and but then there's other
00:30:37.920 examples i have that it doesn't necessarily that's something that you aspire to what to have that
00:30:42.960 type of relationship i used to growing up i feel like as a girl you kind of get taught this um
00:30:47.840 fairy tale way of love or fairy tale way of being like you get married you have kids you do this you
00:30:53.200 do that and i did really aspire for marriage i would like to get married one day but it's not now like
00:30:57.920 if it doesn't happen it's the end of my life if that makes sense so if you you said you'd want to get
00:31:02.720 married and if you don't it's not the end of end of the world um why do you think that changed um
00:31:13.280 you kind of wake up when you get into real life in adulthood and you see how relationships work
00:31:19.040 like when i go think about the type of person i am how relationships work and you have to see through
00:31:24.160 the good the bad and the ugly people change things change money changes how you your parents might change
00:31:29.760 you might get into an accident certain things that you have to want to love on that person regardless
00:31:34.960 of what happens is deeper than just the day and i think growing up you just see the wedding dress
00:31:39.360 you think i'm going to invite on my girls we're going to do this we do that but after that point
00:31:43.120 it's you and that person do you do you get what i'm saying yeah that because for me i personally
00:31:48.480 believe that one of the reasons why the divorce rate is so high at war what oh the reason why women are
00:31:55.600 the ones initiated divorces because like you said they were sold a hollywood version yeah of what
00:32:00.320 relationship was and so what happens is when they actually get into it they realize that it's actually
00:32:05.520 not what they've been sold because women are kind of grown on disney movies and rom-com rom-coms right
00:32:11.840 and they believe that relationship should be a certain way and then what happens is when they get
00:32:16.160 into them they realize that it's actually work do you know what i mean like relationships are actually
00:32:21.040 and so i feel like just to to quote i feel like i feel like women don't understand what relationships
00:32:29.920 actually are yeah but so who's who sold in this because hollywood did yeah but uh so when i look so
00:32:37.360 when my demand so when we're talking about it i'm thinking about um our demographic i'm thinking about
00:32:42.480 obviously our community that's what i'm thinking about yeah when did we ever prescribe
00:32:46.000 to hollywood selling us this this white wedding and this and this um this prince charming fairy tale
00:32:52.720 like i don't i don't understand where it's come from because it's not something because we're consumers
00:32:56.880 okay so and we are probably one of the biggest consumers so we consume a lot of things we consume
00:33:03.840 and women are one of the biggest consumers and debt consumers yeah so many we we spend more even
00:33:10.000 though we make less we make 70 to 80 percent of consumer buying decisions so roughly 10k less
00:33:14.960 so i've always said never underestimate the ability to sell a woman a dream
00:33:19.680 i would like women get sold dreams on a daily basis like they watch um the kardashians they watch
00:33:27.200 jay-z and beyonce they watch sierra they watch rihanna and they continuously dream because he was
00:33:33.680 saying in in that clip right about hafiz was saying about oh one percent and there's a 99 and it's like for
00:33:40.400 me he was having very um female talking points if i'm totally honest yeah i like when you mentioned
00:33:47.120 patrick but david that's someone that obviously that i follow on social media and obviously i like the way
00:33:51.520 he's set up and he talks about how he came from obviously iran and coming american doing all the
00:33:55.680 different things in his family unit so i understand what you guys are saying about how danger is for
00:34:00.640 men but i i'm just still talking from a point of where i have okay so in my friendship group minimum
00:34:06.240 amount of people that are married but the ones that are the ones that are their relationships are
00:34:10.320 strong and you can see why they they married and obviously they've got their kids together and the
00:34:14.160 family and then but the ones that haven't the amount of dysfunction already that is there it's like
00:34:19.120 it is that was there even before before anything else so when i'm looking at what i see personally
00:34:24.880 um so would you would on looking at that clip would you be on do you think you'd be on the side of
00:34:30.320 hafiz or coach greg adam no so um hafiz he was he was the one talking about patrick david and that
00:34:36.800 talking about still he was the one in the suit yeah he was the one advocating yeah yeah yeah so him
00:34:42.640 you'd be yeah because i i just i know it's a risk everything that you guys say it makes sense like i'm
00:34:49.920 not stupid like it all makes sense but at some point i'm still willing to put that risk up like i could
00:34:55.920 be one of those people that could be saying later on i'm like oh man don't do what i did i was foolish
00:35:00.160 but at the same time i would still say i put that risk out and i went out there because what i've
00:35:04.720 seen in my life what happens for having a strong family unit and a good woman in your life in actual
00:35:09.280 fact you do way more coming from my sisters being those types of women coming from my mom being that
00:35:14.000 type of woman how old are your sisters uh this my younger sister is 33 and then they go up go from that
00:35:21.520 age yeah okay yeah so um like growing up from what i've seen of my sisters and obviously not just my
00:35:27.920 sisters my family like the ones around him like yeah i've seen more dysfunction in people that
00:35:33.760 haven't been been married and and i also think it's the type of girl that you marry as well right
00:35:38.960 there's some girls that that's what they were saying yeah so i think there's some girls that
00:35:42.640 marrying is a come up for them like it's a it's a dream you know like it was so far away from them
00:35:49.440 out of their league and then you've picked them and you're chosen to get married and you're chosen to
00:35:52.640 yeah but you can't you can't find a girl that's not going to be influenced by the culture no and so
00:35:56.640 you can't you can't take away social media you can't take away tv you can't take away
00:36:01.760 no any of that i'm not saying to take it away but i'm just saying end of the day is like a lot of the
00:36:06.800 so like i'm saying women are a roll of the dice like women women women are master manipulator in general
00:36:12.800 no i'm not i'm not disputing that and so the men i i think the men in this society are less
00:36:17.680 manipulated by the social media they're less manipulated by hollywood women are addicted to
00:36:22.080 social media men are addicted to video games right exactly like we'll complain always on video
00:36:26.560 games okay what's your screen time yeah it's very true and so if if men are being influenced generally
00:36:35.840 by computer games and women are being influenced generally by social media and they both come
00:36:40.640 together right my thing is online gaming no but my thing is when the tradition when we we speak
00:36:48.320 about traditional relationships you know i mean we have these shows we but if the generations are not
00:36:54.400 even both of them both men and women are not even looking to be traditional like the men are i've always
00:36:59.760 said men have lost their purpose young boys are engrossed in computer games young women are engrossed in
00:37:06.640 social media and corn yeah computer games and corn that's what young men are engrossed in women are
00:37:12.080 engrossed in um social media and corn also as a matter of fact right so what happens when you come
00:37:18.000 together this is why i'm talking about nutritional um our traditional relationships dead because i don't
00:37:23.120 think either side understand what it is to be in a traditional relationship i'm curious from youtube
00:37:28.160 what did you guys think of the clip i don't really have much to say about the clip because i was listening
00:37:33.280 to it but not fully like it wasn't i wasn't really focused okay okay what about you same here to be
00:37:39.680 honest yeah so uh so are you guys on your phones yeah social media yeah see there you go social media
00:37:49.840 like are you pro-marriage like are you pro-marriage or you're pro-marriage you'd want to get married one
00:37:54.400 day yes but it's just not something that's in my thought right now like i've got many years to go
00:37:58.480 until i think about marriage why how are you 22 why would you say many years because i just feel
00:38:04.160 like i'm not where i want to be in life like i'm not where i want to be in life so i need to work on
00:38:09.200 myself get to that position and then i can more focus on men but right now men it's not my main focus
00:38:16.160 okay i've got things that i need to do i'm not where i need to be in life yet so if you if you were to get
00:38:20.400 a man do do you think that you'd know what a man wants in a woman yeah which is because obviously
00:38:28.400 i'd be dating doesn't mean that i want to get into a relationship no but just at this moment do you
00:38:32.240 think you know what men want from a woman right now yeah not everything but most things what name
00:38:39.920 some stuff name name three things that you think men want from women someone that's family orientated
00:38:46.080 someone that's ambitious and there's someone who knows to show love and affection is that a good
00:38:52.080 enough answer for you no i'm just saying like um a lot of the time when women speak the reason i'm
00:38:57.200 asking these questions that was quite probing is because a lot of the time women think they know
00:39:00.400 what men want and they actually don't i don't care if you're they don't care if you're i promise to god
00:39:04.960 they don't care i'm telling you i i'm very ambitious i i work very hard like i put this whole podcast
00:39:10.960 they don't give a shit yeah but listen there's no way you can struggle to get a man like what's
00:39:14.720 wrong with you nothing so so so so what you're what you're doing is yeah you're you're you're judging
00:39:21.120 women you're judging men how you look at but we don't actually so we don't care about if you're
00:39:25.440 ambitious you care for man's ambitious yeah for us you have an ambition doesn't doesn't make it
00:39:30.560 what we care it's like a shoe collection so we care if a guy has a shoe collection you don't care
00:39:34.240 right yeah so that's that's what it is to man like our work we care about how you look we care
00:39:39.600 about loyalty um femininity and low low body count that's these are things that most men okay can i
00:39:45.760 just say something about the low body count why do you care so much about a woman's body count because
00:39:50.000 you men you can be like 20 and your body counts at 50 and you might get a good girl that's only that
00:39:55.600 only has a body count of two and what like what are you because because historically men had to
00:40:00.320 ensure paternity it's like we can't we have biological reasons for the for the reasons we feel
00:40:04.720 the way we feel like women like muscles and we like tall men because we want a guy to protect us
00:40:08.640 right but men like a girl that hasn't slept around because um and they could ensure paternity historically
00:40:14.560 because we didn't have paternity tests in the old days but so they can't undo that gut feeling they
00:40:19.360 get when they like they know you said you say why does low body count matter have you watched the maury show
00:40:25.040 yeah right so you can't ask a man like when you've seen that in real time why do we prefer a low body
00:40:36.800 count a woman who probably has more of a high body count is more likely like you said to have a child
00:40:43.120 that is not ours right so that is our that is that is men's worst fear one of men's worst fears is a
00:40:50.800 child coming into the world and we us believing that child is ours and it's not or or or it also
00:40:56.720 signifies loyalty right like okay would you say what do you think women fall in love through
00:41:02.960 like how do women fall in love would you say personality well me i do do you do you think women
00:41:10.160 fall in love through sex come on like do you think like the best the best sex you've ever had
00:41:15.680 did you ever go back um no never no never so i'll say why body can't see thinking about it
00:41:28.160 but but the point is like like the more guys you've been with like the more like like i don't know
00:41:33.040 there's just more problems you know what i mean like there's more you're more likely to cheat
00:41:36.800 so so the reason the reason you're 22 right and you want to know why body count so i'll give you a bit
00:41:41.040 of information and no i'm going to give you a bit information about body count i'm not asking for
00:41:48.240 your body i'm going to tell you why body counts important but you sorry to cut your channel but
00:41:52.240 you said you don't understand why men do you think body count matters yes i think it does oh you do okay
00:41:58.560 okay i think it might but i think a man shouldn't really care too much about a woman's body because
00:42:03.360 no because nine times out of ten your body count is higher than hers anyway so like why do you care okay
00:42:07.520 so let me no that's not true as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
00:42:14.240 on a daily basis on this platform if you want to help please consider sending a super thanks below
00:42:21.680 every donation helps and it helps make what we do possible