Women Shame Men For Having Standards
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In this episode, we discuss whether or not modern women are prepared for the cold months of winter, inflation, and the lack of a partner. Are you prepared for a recession? Are you ready for a cold winter? Is it possible to survive without a partner?
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People's entitled to having their own, like, no one's going on you for having.
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So I think, I think, I think, wait, I think that's easy from, like, a woman's point of
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view, because a lot of times, like, we don't notice it, but it's, like, every time a man
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has standards, there's always a woman shaming him for having them.
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So, like, for example, when a guy says, I don't like, I don't like fat chicks, like, then all
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If he says, if he says, I don't, I don't like sluts, then, like, they have, then they have
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If he says that, I don't like, yeah, but, like, every, every time that a man has standards,
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Okay, so today's topic is, are modern women prepared for winter?
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So, one year ago, Kevin Samuels proclaimed that a cold winter was coming for single women.
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Mr. Samuels spoke of a coming recession that would lead to job losses in sectors filled
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The financial instability would lead to more women getting evicted, applying for government
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assistance, and seeking other means of income, aka OnlyFans and other sex work.
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No sector is safe from the coming winter of over 73,000 tech job workers being laid off
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in the month of November 2022 in the U.S., according to news sources that time is almost here.
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Inflation in the U.K. is projected to rise to 18.6% in January of 2023, the highest since
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This inflation will apply to food and consumer goods the most.
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Only 14% of women say they are ready for a recession in the next year.
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The average woman in the U.K., about 52%, make 29,684 pounds a year.
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The average woman in the U.S. makes about $36,726 a year.
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Rent has increased by 12.3% nationwide in the U.K.
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Rent has increased 17.3% to around £2,550 in London and as high as 20% or £2,650 in Manchester.
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The current way that women are navigating their finances is unsustainable with inflation
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coming and the coming winter exacerbating the problem.
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Putting feelings and emotions aside, women in general will need a man because they simply
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First of all, have you noticed the cost of living increasing?
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It was like £4.50 and it went up to like £5.15 and I was like, still the same kitchen
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So how bad would the economy have to get before you view a second income and a relationship
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To the point where I can't afford no kitchen roll.
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I feel like I would have to be let go from my job and like dismissed from my family and
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like out on the street somewhere for me to be asking somebody like, hey, can I rely on
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It's not, you don't have to like get to the very end of the road before you sit there and
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say, hey, we could have a better life if we pool our finances.
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It's like if you make 40 and they make 40, that's 80.
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You just have to like, you know, agree sometimes even if you don't feel like agreeing, you know?
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I would rather just like get like a roommate than compromise.
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Like I would rather get a roommate or two roommates before I went to being dependent or having a
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part of my life being dependent on someone else's income in like a romantic setting.
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I'd rather have roommates than depend on a man in a room.
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Like I would rather, there's no, I would rather, yeah, have multiple roommates.
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Don't you have to depend on the roommates though?
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Like being in a relationship, like the only way that I would do that is if I was like married
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or like we were working towards marriage, I wouldn't just have my livelihood be intertwined
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with someone who wasn't my husband or going to be my husband.
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So I definitely think it's easier when you pair up with someone in terms of like staying
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with them and stuff, because it is really expensive nowadays in London, especially I'm from London.
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So I don't necessarily think that for me at my age, I'd want to pair up with like a man
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per se, but family, like roommates, friends, et cetera, I would definitely be down for it
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because the living costs are really bad at the moment and the income's not rising with
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So it's just, it's not really making much sense, but yeah, this is just not there.
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But I also think as well that just for people that are like aware of the condition, just really
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trying to figure out how you can bring in more income at this point, because I just don't
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Come now, it's just not going to sustain people.
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But what I will say is down to money management and being aware of your income, what you can
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spend, what you have to expend with the cost of living.
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Like for me, I have a spreadsheet so I can see how much things have gone up.
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So, you know, not everyone is fortunate enough to have family.
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To rely on a man who is not your long-term partner, that's risky.
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But I'm saying, like, if you're just moving in from living by yourself or living with friends
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to live with a guy to rely on him for rent or whatever, that's kind of...
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Families, men and women used to get together and rely on each other to build a family, build
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a household, potentially build a stable enough environment to have kids in.
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Like, I don't understand how we've moved so far left from that, that you would rather
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be homeless on the streets, you would rather rely on people to live with you that you don't
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actually know they could move out with their boyfriend at any time.
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It's like, I think it sounds more like everybody's scared to toe the line.
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I mean, I don't, I'm going to push back on that because like, okay, how things used to
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People used to also be in extremely toxic situations.
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Like we're also, this generation, we're all, half of us are children of divorce or relationships
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So I think with having that awareness of like, what could go wrong living, what could go wrong.
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Do you know what, do you know what the shift came from?
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The shift came from after like the second world war, right?
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Before the second world war that everybody had like this sense of duty, a sense of community,
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As soon as the war was done, everybody was like, we're liberated, we're free.
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Two generations later, you got people chasing happiness that don't even know what makes them
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And now we have no sense of community, no sense of togetherness.
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And this is kind of why we're in this situation now where we're afraid to just realize that we all
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Because we can still have a sense of, having a sense of community isn't contingent upon
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No, but that's where your community starts because that's where your home starts.
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A romantic relationship is where your home starts.
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A husband, a roommate, or live with your parents?
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I'm like, I mean, obviously I'd rather have a partner like my husband.
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However, that doesn't mean that I'm willing to sacrifice.
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I mean, but I, yeah, maybe that is my privilege.
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Maybe I should check my privilege that I haven't.
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So like, I can't fathom a possibility of my life going that way.
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And so I think it is because of that privilege that that will shape my perspective.
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Out of everyone here, who has six months of expenses covered if you were to lose your job tomorrow?
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That's like more than I thought like we would have.
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Like, because I'm going to have to cut all the way back by month six.
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Um, so have you guys had to make any changes to your spending habits in the past six months?
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And has, and has your job industry or job prospects changed drastically since 2022 or in 2022?
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So my, my clientele fluctuates throughout the year, obviously summertime, preparing for summertime.
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Everybody wants to, you know, get their tattoos done.
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But then times like now coming into winter, you know, they have more, um, different obligations and different avenues for their finances to go down.
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So, yeah, this is, this, that wintertime is my time to chill out.
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Hence why I've spent so much time with my other projects.
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Um, so yeah, I think everybody's feeling like that right at the moment.
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Like, have you guys had layoffs at your companies?
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And then I have friends who are, I have friends who are at Amazon or friends who are at Twitter.
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Um, none of my friends have been laid off, but, uh, I have a lot of people like that are all, most of my immediate circle are in the tech industry as well.
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It's no effect in the entertainment industry for me anyway.
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So it's about whether you get a job as an actor or not.
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I feel like it's allowed people to like think smarter into their like investment choices.
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So obviously before I would work and spend money and just buy useless stuff, like, oh, I want the new iPhone that's coming out this year.
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And then obviously when you get hit by something such as like the cost of living crisis or a pandemic, it allows you to think, okay, how can I think smarter and make money that will generate wealth and do certain things?
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So for me, I've looked into stocks and trading ISAs and kind of trading and doing stuff like that, that will, I can put my wealth into something and then flip it and generate more and then keep on doing it.
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So some things it's not immediate, you know, sometimes people invest things into things that will get them immediate gratification.
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But in 10 years I can say, wow, I've managed to put a certain amount of money, no matter how much it is, and flip it.
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And in 10 years time, I can look into that and be like, wow, at least I invested.
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And now I can do something else, generate and like work in something like property or whatever it is, I can invest that into something else and flip that.
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And I think that's really important, like with my generation especially, is material objects, they're not going to last forever.
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You can have the newest Louis pouch, but if you don't know how to invest and kind of invest into your future, sometimes it won't last.
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Sometimes you might be really lucky and manage to do everything.
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But I feel like sometimes you have to look at things in a bigger picture when you're younger and it will help you manage to do it when you're older.
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And then if you look at past examples made by family members or something, like listen to your family members, because whatever they're telling you, you might think at the time, oh, they're talking like whatever.
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But then when you look at back in 10 years time, you'll be like, wow, my family really tried to set me up for generational wealth and tried to really help me get money opportunities.
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Because they can see things that you won't even see happening.
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Like, it's your, yeah, my family were the ones that taught me about generational wealth and just being, invest well and invest in things that will make you profit and help you in the future.
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So maybe not right now, but in the future, that will definitely be an investment that I'll look back on and be like, I did that.
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I feel like you're really fortunate to have family members who were able to guide you in that sense, because I feel like a lot of parents not necessarily know how to guide their children in the modern world today, especially with everything rising and just this different environment nowadays.
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And I agree that now, for me personally, I'm much more cautious when it comes to what I'm spending my money on now.
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And obviously, I work a part time job, but I'm just the same opinion there.
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Whereas like, you might want to get that thing or spend it on that expensive shoe or whatever it is that interests you, materialistic things, really.
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I'm thinking, okay, I can spend my money on that, but maybe the budget and thing that you were saying, like dividing it to a sense where it's like, okay, I'm going to put that for that and put this down for investing in my future, investing in myself in whatever form that is.
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It could be investing in your business, whatever it is, like, even if you want to be like on social media, content creation, whatever, investing in that, just in yourself and whatever you want to do and set yourself up for where you see yourself in the future.
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Just so that when you're at a particular, obviously, I'm quite young, but when you're at a particular age, you don't really want to be struggling how people are struggling.
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Like, or if you've got parents as well that struggled to like raise you and stuff, like you don't want to repeat that in your family or in your, in your generation or whatever.
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So you're trying to like work 10 times harder to make sure that you don't repeat just family curses to a degree.
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I feel like it's much more prominent now for people to be cautious of not everyone, but there are like, probably in my circle, just a large amount of people who are very cautious of that and thinking ahead and thinking in the future, which I think is very important, extremely important to do.
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So if you're young, it's like, for me, I think it's the best years for you to even think about your future.
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Like, you shouldn't really be wasting it on that things that are just going to go.
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Like, sustain, sustain, make sustained decisions.
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Oh, would you argue that like, things such as COVID and everything played a factor in your mindset now and how you think?
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Obviously, because COVID, obviously, loads of people would have been made like redundant, would have been laid off.
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And obviously, it made you think sometimes about your mindset and it allowed people to like, be like, wow, okay, so I can't work at this current time or furlough and everything.
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So how will I cover the difference that I'm losing?
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I think for me, it's more of a personal reason as to why I'm like, ambitious, I'm motivated and just dedicated to making those changes for myself.
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Like, I was one of those people who was a victim of it.
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I had a certain amount of money that I was just having to live off.
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And it's like, it's just deducting, deducting, and there's no more gains because obviously, I lost my job and I was one of those people.
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So I guess it's like, to a degree, that could have impacted my mindset.
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And I started to believe that, okay, anyhow, you could just lose your job nowadays.
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I'm very cautious of what I spend nowadays, to be completely honest with you.
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Just to put it out there, it was literally my birthday.
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Even if it wasn't my birthday, really, in Chile.
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If I want to put money aside, that is an investment in you, girl.
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I have nothing against women getting their nails done.
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It just didn't sound like what you were saying.
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Yeah, yeah, I hear your point, but it's like, at the end of the day, you can put money down
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I'm not going to restrict myself and be living a certain way.
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Like, you put your money down for that, you also put your money down for that.
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Obviously, for my birthday, I do like to look nice, spend money on my appearance.
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Because I'm a woman, at the end of the day, like, appearance is a very important thing.
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I was just going to say, to add to what everybody said here, what I would say is one, as I said
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Sometimes you have to have setbacks, you have to lose money.
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If you're going to sit and say, I've never lost money, I've lost money, I've been broke.
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It allows you to have gratitude for your situation.
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But also, look at the present, appreciate it, absorb it, and allow it to just, you know,
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give you a bit of time to reflect, and then go forward from that.
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So, if you know your money is getting stripped back, you can say, okay, if I save five pound
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here, five pound there, in the future, I actually have more money to spend on things
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So, I know you guys said right now, you wouldn't, you'd rather live with roommates than a man.
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I was never going to be roommates, to be honest.
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Is the way that you phrased the question, you were asking us, like, how, like, where would
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we have to be in our lives to be reliant on a man and his income?
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But, like, when there's a recession, if you had to make a choice, right, if your income
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was getting slim, you would pick family over a man.
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So, let's say, like, you lose your job tomorrow and you have to think, I either have to move
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Right now, you would pick moving home or moving in with a roommate.
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If you had no income coming in, moving in with a guy, you don't really know what his real
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financial circumstances, and you might become a bit of a burden.
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And that might actually crash the relationship.
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My question is, would that change if you were older?
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Like, if this happened at 32, 33, 34, 35, would you ever start prioritizing relationships
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over, um, like moving home or moving in with roommates?
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I, like, I don't view really, or I don't even get into relationships where, um, money
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Like, I, I, it's nice if we can go out on like dates and we go out to eat and we're going,
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we're having a great time and things like that.
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But I'm also fine with like picnics in the car and it's just cheese and crackers.
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Like, you know, like, like it doesn't always have to be.
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Well, I'm not even talking about dates, I was talking about rent.
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I'm going to say, like, you're in a situation, your rent needs to cut in half.
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Like, there's just no situation where, like, even when I'm making money where I'm going
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to be financially reliant on a man, I'm definitely not going to do it when I'm, when I'm not,
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I mean, I feel like, because even you asked earlier, like, how, how do I feel about being
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I mean, being 60 and having a roommate, we're just out here, you know, pushing little kids,
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Like, you can say that now, but that's not child abuse.
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Um, you know, different relationships have shown me different things.
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So I have been in relationships with men where I was like, okay, I could have children with
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I can see us reproducing and like creating a legacy that way.
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And even now that I'm single, like I'm, I'm definitely not pursuing that.
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But for, it sounds like for the right guy, you still would.
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Would you say like your intentions changed before you met someone?
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So like, did you think, oh, I'd never want to have kids before I met someone.
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And then you got in a relationship and you're like, actually, maybe I would change my mindset.
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Or was it always, I'll never have kids in a relationship.
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And it got to like a certain point and you're like, actually.
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I don't know how to get into this without saying, like I have, both of our families are
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And seeing sort of like the effect that our parents had on us and like on our other cousins
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and things like that, it was just kind of like, I don't want to have that effect on people.
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And so when I got into a relationship and I was like, oh, if we got together and we were
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taking care of kids, we wouldn't have that effect on people.
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We could actually build like a very like beautiful, prosperous, like family.
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But otherwise it's just kind of like, I can see us recreating, like you were saying before,
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a generational trauma, like I can see us recreating a generational trauma and that's not something
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That's a negative way to look at life, don't we?
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No, no, no, because you're looking at the worst case scenario.
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But did you say, did you say your life is not full of rainbows and sunshines, like it's
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not going to be like all good all the time and all bad all the time.
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You're going to have to have a balance of both.
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So to just look at the wrong that's happened to you, it's like.
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But did you say you were from a family that, like, I'm not sure if you said your parents
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Obviously, because it was the whole, what you said, I would have expected it to be the opposite.
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Obviously, when you said that you come from, your parents are still together, I would have
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expected the opposite where you would have said you would have, you would have want children
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because obviously from what your parents, you've got two large families.
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And when it comes to, like, comes to festive events, you're all together.
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That's why I was surprised when you said, that's why I asked the question.
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And it's funny to see, like, obviously generational, like, trauma.
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I hear this question, I've heard it on your podcast before, but nobody's ever, like, mentioned
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the fact that the process of having kids is, like, having kids, raising children, the best
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of your ability, you know, without obviously going too far afield and fucking it all up.
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And then you get old and your children look after you.
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Like, what happens when you get old with no kids?
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And I think this brings up a good point that we were making before.
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You mentioned community and you were talking about how you would like your partner to help
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And I assume, like, you and your partner have kids and that creates your community.
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Me personally, like, I build my community with, like, my church.
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When I'm going out to friends, I go to, like, a chess club, like, even, like, my work friends
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And I'm not necessarily expecting them to, like, be by my bedside feeding me porridge when
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You said, so your church community, that's where you'd find, like, that sense of community
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Currently, right now, I'm still, like, looking for churches that align with how I personally
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experienced Christianity, but, yes, like, I'm looking for a church that would allow me
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That would allow me to, like, rely on people, work with people.
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If I needed food and I'm 60 and I, I mean, 60 is kind of young.
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Like, yeah, like, I'm 80 and I can't afford it myself.
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Do you think that's realistic to expect a church to take care of you when you're old?
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I'm looking for the right church and I'm looking for the right community.
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Like, I'm still, I don't necessarily have my decrepit 80-year-old community yet, but that's
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But are you honestly going to be, like, sorry, but are you honestly going to be as happy as
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Do you honestly believe you're going to be as happy, like, let's say, for example, you
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have children and those children, like, let's say you're 75 years old, you know, let's
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say, for example, your husband ain't there, but you have your children who are going to
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They're going to come and if you need some shopping, they're going to come and shop for
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Do you honestly think you don't want that at 75?
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They might even, at 75, mandem out there, you know the mandem you're looking at right
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now, they're not going to look at you when you're 75.
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I'm sorry, they're going to stop looking at you when you're 50, maybe even 40.
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I'm sorry, but, like, do you honestly believe, like, keep in mind, from, like, 30, is that
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So, I'm going on a bit of a rant, but, like, do you honestly.
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Whoever's phone, that is, step off camera and turn it off.
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We said to turn the phones off before the show.
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But, do you honestly believe, like, after the age of 35, like, keep in mind, women in
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Like, if a man who's five foot two, looks like a bowling ball, you know, is, like, is smelly
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If he walks up to you, you're not going to give him the time of day.
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And, whatever your standards are, understand, that certain type of man, he's going to look
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And, I'm so sorry to tell you this, and I hope I don't get cancelled for this, but usually
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women over 35, they ain't the type of man they're looking for.
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Sorry, they're not the type of woman they're looking for.
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So, do you honestly believe when you get part, sorry, how old are you?
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Do you honestly, and do you know how long 26 years are?
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But, you know, because you've lived 26 years, you feel me, when you get to that 50, you're
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Do you honestly believe that time by yourself is going to be an enjoyable time?
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Um, so, yeah, so, I want to bring up a couple of points that you mentioned.
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So, first things first, like, I don't want to bring kids into this world with the intention
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The second point that I want to make is that I happen to live in one of the greatest
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generations that ever exists, where if, for whatever reason, I didn't have children
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and I wasn't able to leave my bed, I can just take out my phone and Amazon, whatever
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Like, and I'm not saying like you specifically, I'm saying like, I, I'm able to find so much
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satisfaction and joy and peace and goodness and, and fulfillment in, in my friends and,
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I think the point he's making is the world treats you different after like 45 or 50.
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So as, so as a young woman, like you're treated better by the world.
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And so, because you're young, you're attractive, you're pretty.
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And so, and so it's like, you're going to hit 45, 50.
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The moment mandem stop buying you drinks, you're going to see the world differently.
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And mandem was like, ah, can I buy you a drink?
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Listen, the moment you hit 35, that's going to stop.
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What's your, what's your issue with what he's saying?
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He's, first of all, he's being so heteronormative.
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Like, like, these are a lot of assumptions that he's making right now.
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Heteronormative is just making, making an assumption that someone is heterosexual, first
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So as this entire line, this whole monologue he's doing is assuming that she's only interested
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in men and that she's only interested in what a man wants or what a man could see in
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I mean, I think that's not, that's like, that's, that's just not what life is.
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Like, I, I mean, I'm not going to, like, not just, you're just making a lot of assumptions
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And I understand the logic behind where he's coming from.
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Like, I'm not saying that he's being like, he's being illogical, but because he's basing
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all of his, from my perspective, a lot of where your sounding board of information is,
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is your foundation is heteronormativity, misogyny, and the fact that like, and it's just not,
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it's just not in alignment with where I, where I find my foundation.
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So I'm like pushing back on the opinions that he has.
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So heteronormative, I, I still think it would be sad if you were a single lesbian woman.
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So like, I like, I think it's like, personally.
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Well, like, we're also like making assumptions that she's single.
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She just said that she doesn't want to have children or, or yeah, fair enough.
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But like, this like whole conversation was under the perspective of whether or not she would
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Your answer could be, I would be perfectly happy, but I just.
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Which is what she said over and over and over again.
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And he's trying to like, break down why she's wrong and all these possible scenarios.
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I mean, I think he's just putting out points that maybe she didn't think about and maybe
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she has, and maybe like, but I think that's what we're supposed to do on a podcast is explore
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And I'm, and I'm exploring the idea that I think he's wrong.
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Uh, what, what is it that he said misogynistic?
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I think that like making the, the assumption that like her, the prospects of her life, her
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future happiness is based upon whether or not a man, an objectively, a man would find her
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35 that he said for me is like, is like, is misogynist.
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I think most women aren't happy that are, that are single childless over the age of like
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Like, because like, I feel like, and I, the only reason I'm asking this is because I feel
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like, we like black women, from my perspective, again, I'm only speaking from my perspective.
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We are very, we have such a strong, like sense of community that like, I, I just, we don't
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have, I just feel like our, our culture is different.
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So those types of statistics, I think, aren't going to be applicable across.
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I think it's applicable genetically and biologically.
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I understand people that I'm five foot six, give or take half an inch in it.
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So at the end of the day, my entire life, I have felt the effects of not being the societal
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So at the end of the day, like for example, I'm a man.
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Like I can either cry about it and be like, ah, no, women don't like me because I'm sure
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For example, for me personally, I started boxing.
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So like I started boxing and I tried to show that, you know what?
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I'm on the shorter side of things, but I can still protect you.
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And like, at the end of the day, life throws certain things at you and you just kind of
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Now, as a woman, there are certain things and I'm so sorry to tell you this, but there
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are certain things you can do that can completely ruin it for you.
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For example, if you're a woman and you have OnlyFans, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to
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But I can tell you right now, a millionaire, if he's looking at you and he knows you've got
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OnlyFans, he's not going to take you seriously.
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Because there's certain things us mandem look for.
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Do any guys, any of you take an OnlyFans model seriously?
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So, personally, I think you can always argue like, like,
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people would never take them seriously and your value goes down.
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But it depends what kind of value you're looking at.
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So, I feel like, once people see you've got OnlyFans,
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there's always going to be people in public, they'll say, nah,
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Obviously, that's someone that we've looked at from a different one.
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I'm not sure if any of you have heard of Ruby Rose, someone else.
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But there's people, and people will look at her and still be like, wow.
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I didn't say you'd want to be in a relationship with her.
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Like what guy's going to take you serious after that?
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People are going to be like, ah, do you know what?
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Can I just say real quick, and this is the majority of women that need to understand
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Mandam, we have two separate categories, right?
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We have one category, which is for fun, and then there's the one category that is for
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Now, understand, when you see all these Insta hoes, sorry, can I say hoes?
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That Insta hoes and all that, like, who are, you know, dressing up in their bikini
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and all of that, that's us mandam, like, just enjoying a woman who's being, you know,
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Us mandam, when we want to take someone seriously, we're looking at different things,
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and that's not usually the hoes things that the majority of women are showing off these
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There's the fun category and the relationship category.
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Okay, what were you going to suit her hand up first?
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I was just going to ask, like, so would you guys, okay, so we were talking about, like,
00:40:10.220
the millionaire wouldn't take the OnlyFans seriously, and most people say, like, in order
00:40:15.220
to become a millionaire, you have to have at least six streams of income.
00:40:17.220
So would you guys genuinely, in a relationship or even, like, as a married couple, would you
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guys pass off an opportunity for a stream of income if your wife was inviting you to create
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Would anyone screw their wife on camera for OnlyFans?
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I would take three jobs, night-day shifts, day shifts, night shifts.
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I would do seven days a week, six months straight.
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To add to the women staying single and lonely after 35, there's a study that says that
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women in this generation, after they reach 35 plus, they're going to, I think it's going
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to be like, what, half of the women, they're going to be single and lonely?
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You've got one more chance to hear where you have to go out.
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So it's 50% of women, or 45% of women between the ages of 25 and 45 are predicted to be single
00:41:53.220
So much so that big investors are, so that means out of all of us, half of us will be
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And basically so much so that places like Morgan Stanley are investing in things like
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wine, cat food, and anything that like all the marketing campaigns are like convincing
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Any marketing campaign that's basically convincing women that like, what is it, ageism?
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But like, I really don't understand women these days.
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Like, it is so clear that there's someone, I'm not saying it's the government or Illuminati
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or whatever in it, but there's something going on where people are just trying to push women
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into this industry where you're going to have to work, you're going to have to be this boss
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And like, understand this, the only people that have changed since 1950 are the women.
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Like, mandom, I'm going to keep it real with you right now.
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I'm sorry to bring it to myself, but my girl is very traditional.
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And the reason I am so faithful to her is because she is traditional.
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And it all comes with submissiveness and all of that.
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Like, sorry to trick anyone, but my girl asks me for permission to wear what she wears.
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I'm going to let you go, and then I'm excited to hear what you have to say.
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One, know your category and where you sit as a woman.
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When I say that, I mean, you know, physicality, preference.
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What I'm saying is we all know the reality is we all don't like exactly the same things.
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Second of all, I just wanted to say on the back of what you said and what Pearl said, can
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everybody acknowledge there's less women than men in the world anyway?
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So there's more women than men in the world anyway.
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It's going to be that way because there is less men in-
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If you want to have certain requirements as a woman, you either have to be of a certain
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And I mean, when I mean standard, I mean the way you carry yourself.
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You know, if your body is what you lead with, then that's- men just look at you as a physical
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And they will exploit that because that's what men do.
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And not all men, but if you're going to advertise your body, that's what men are going
00:45:12.220
You know, a lot of women, they will do OnlyFans and that kind of thing.
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And then when they get to an age where they're no longer relevant, younger girls are coming
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Then they want to turn around and say, oh, please, you know, take me now.
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And the problem is, the problem is with that, when you want them to take you, you've already
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That's the only thing that's changed that for us is plastic surgery, makeup.
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And so societal standards overall, and it's not everybody, but realistically, you have
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to look at back in the day, there was no Photoshop.
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Everyone couldn't change their hair every week.
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And if you're not willing to play your role, no matter how big or small you think it is,
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But it seems like, I mean, I'll yield like someone-
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I don't, I don't really understand what's the, what's the push for women to shame men
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Like if men don't want women above 35, so what?
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It's like, if I don't want a woman to be fat, am I fat shaming?
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It's like women can say they want men who are six foot and they want a washboard abs and
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And you don't see men on the streets crying that they, they, they're being, you know.
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People is entitled to having their own, like no one's, no one's going on you for having
00:47:26.220
Wait, I think that's, I think that's easy from like a woman's point of view.
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Um, because a lot of times like we don't notice it, but it's like every time a man has standards,
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there's always a woman shaming him for having them.
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So like, for example, when a guy says, I don't like, I don't like fat chicks that like, then
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If he says, if he says, I don't, I don't like sluts, then like they have, then they have
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If he says that I don't like, um, yeah, but like every, every time that a man has standards,
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I don't, but I don't think that's a quote unquote a standard.
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I think that's like that, like the way, the way I'm interpreting what you just said is,
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and maybe it may not be in the way that you, that you mean, but when someone's saying,
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I don't like fat chicks, like that to me is fat shaming.
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That's how, wait, I said, I don't like to date fat chicks, but I can say on air, I don't
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If a guy's significantly shorter than me, I'm just not going to go for it.
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But as I said, we're allowed to have preferences.
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No, no, men are, but the thing, the different, no, no, this is the problem.
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Social media has given people a voice at echo chamber.
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Remember, if there was no socials, you wouldn't really be hearing about it.
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You would have to accept your fate as a man and live and walk through it without this echo chamber like the podcast.
00:48:47.220
Right now, because there's been a nature that's, I don't know, being bestowed upon us with technology.
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We're constantly hearing men have to have this, men have to have that.
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And the reality is they'd actually, they don't, they don't actually have to have it.
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Because the reason why they don't have to have it is because if they're the provider in the relationship, they have the power to execute the woman out of the relationship.
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If they want to, if they're willing to lose half of their property.
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Do you think it's really that easy to be a man and be able to provide?
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Once again, I'm a five foot six man, give or take half an inch, right?
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Majority of my life, women have told me to my face.
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Do you know what I've actually been learning recently is that you can survive off of one
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I talked to someone that raised 10 foster kids off of $10,000 per year and she still maintains
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But the problem is women spend frivolously and they don't want that to go down in lifestyle
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Did you say 10K per year, one person in the house?