JustPearlyThings - March 18, 2023


Women Shouldn't COMPETE With Men


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

174.16594

Word count

1,587

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

sentences flagged

Hate speech

1

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about what it means to be submissive to your man and why it s important to have a strong relationship with your man. We also talk about the importance of being submissive in relationships with men and how to be a good submissive woman.

Transcript

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00:00:00.240 um do we have what mannish have you heard that one no but i'll add it mannish it's basically
00:00:08.320 describing masculine behavior like there's something wrong with it and it's not better
00:00:13.520 or worse we are different we're equally valued but we are not equal and i think that's a beautiful
00:00:20.000 thing i thought of another uh-huh i need like i need there's some phrase that girls use when they 1.00
00:00:27.840 won't be led by a guy and they're like oh well i need the right man to like i'll be submissive for
00:00:33.280 the right man i will be submissive for the right man because i in a way i understand where they're
00:00:40.720 coming i was gonna say yeah this one i could unpack a little bit too but at the same time that equals
00:00:47.840 i choose right like they put the accountability on them like oh he didn't lead me when it's like
00:00:54.080 you picked him that's true we have to be responsible for our choices i think yes i am
00:01:02.320 submissive by nature if there are men around me like there are some even if you're not my man
00:01:09.760 there are some ways that i do submit i don't talk over men i don't um try to compete with men i don't
00:01:18.000 um uh brag or lead with my accomplishments uh because those things are very masculine traits now
00:01:27.120 if you ask me i'm going to respond you ask me a direct question i'll give you a direct answer
00:01:32.720 but there are ways that i submit to my man that i don't to other men but that's the only thing that
00:01:40.000 i wanted to to clarify on that but if you're a submissive person then if you're a submissive woman then 1.00
00:01:45.520 you're just a submissive woman you know i think about my mom you know even her son my brother if 1.00
00:01:51.440 he said mom no we're going to get you this you know the doctor said you need to do this so you need
00:01:56.080 to do that that's her son she says okay phil and so like i i see that so it's just realizing like this
00:02:02.560 is a man who loves you and and you know is looking out for you so yeah i don't yeah i would be submissive
00:02:09.680 for that right yeah yeah i think you should be submissive in relationship to your man but um
00:02:17.680 i think almost you know i just believe in respecting men so what phrases to add to our vocabulary
00:02:25.760 i trust you i support you whatever you say baby thank you i have your back i'm making blank for dinner
00:02:34.240 tonight honey i believe or i think what can i do to help you how can i help what else should we add
00:02:41.840 i'm proud of you um do we have i believe in you um what are all the things that i say to my man i'm
00:02:50.720 gonna get a little bit uh vulnerable here um i couldn't do this without you i need you um i trust you
00:02:58.720 i love you um i desire you i miss you i care about you um i want you those are great thank you
00:03:17.040 these yeah so we're gonna get rid of these
00:03:20.000 mm-hmm and we're gonna go to this okay what do you think guys oh i'm so glad i'm glad it worked
00:03:30.400 out this way is that a good one oh who hurt you they want to add to this yes lord who hasn't been
00:03:36.800 hurt good grief everybody's got a story that can make you cry that's true yeah that's true they always
00:03:43.360 say that to me who hurt you yeah that's what they you know what they say oh my gosh oh no they say that
00:03:50.880 i i um i body shame because my ex left me for a fat girl that's what they say the story they say
00:03:58.880 it's not true but that's what they like that's what they say they're like oh she just hates us 0.88
00:04:02.960 but then yeah oh my goodness oh my goodness yeah so you know it yeah so they'll be like oh did he hurt
00:04:15.040 you i'm just like leave me alone yeah i mean if you've lived life for any moment of time you've got
00:04:20.720 a heartbreaking story so like miss me with that one i admire you i love that mm-hmm i admire you
00:04:33.360 it's just so important i just feel better hearing them and saying them and one thing while you're
00:04:38.960 looking i would just offer if you can't say this to your man you have the wrong man and that's okay
00:04:46.960 move towards somebody that you can say this to submission is not an eating submission is not an
00:04:52.640 issue when you have a man that you admire and trust and respect and love and believe in it's like
00:04:59.040 whatever you say yeah but but it's like we we don't a lot of times like we can't even admit
00:05:05.040 there's a problem yeah you got to start with that yeah you have to start with that um what is the
00:05:09.680 biggest problem that you would say that we're blinded to
00:05:17.280 i would say there's a lot of women that think that they're traditional and they're not 1.00
00:05:22.160 so i would say there's a lot of women that say they're traditional and genuinely go through life
00:05:27.200 thinking they're traditional because maybe their parents were they watched it but they have no
00:05:31.040 traditional skills agreed and it goes back to that other list that we had the wife resume
00:05:37.760 you know just like a job right it gets really personal when we talk about relationships but
00:05:41.840 even when you're going for a job you have your resume of your strengths the thing that the things
00:05:45.920 that you're good at and when you go apply for a job they're going to look at that and they're going
00:05:50.480 to compare it to the job description and if i'm looking for someone who cooks five nights a week
00:05:56.800 and you don't then it's not a good match you know if i'm looking for someone who's ready to you know be
00:06:02.400 a stay-at-home mom or whatever it is and you want to work 60 hours a week then it's not a good match so 1.00
00:06:07.920 you know the traditional values and i'm a very traditional person but i accept and i understand that
00:06:14.640 that doesn't apply to everyone circle back to the types of marriages if you're marrying somebody let's
00:06:20.800 say i knew a family member of mine got married and they lived apart they lived in different states
00:06:28.320 because someone was wrapping up like a doctoral program so twice a month one of the other couple
00:06:34.240 would fly you know back and that that worked for them so i'm not saying there's only one way that'll work
00:06:40.800 but the man that you're interested in what are his expectations and does it match with what you bring
00:06:45.840 to the table yeah that's the other thing i would say that women are delusional about is like we often 1.00
00:06:51.520 think we bring more than we do oh absolutely and we don't realize like a lot of people say that i'm like
00:06:57.200 hating on women when i say we bring less to the table than ever before but i just think it's honest
00:07:01.920 yeah i think what we have now as accomplishments are more than what like my mom and women of other
00:07:12.320 generations have however it's not a value to a man yes so the fact that i pay my mortgage have a car
00:07:21.840 take vacations come to see pearl all of that is great for me but if i'm looking for a man or caught
00:07:29.840 myself if i want to belong to a man and he's looking for someone who is useful to him i would
00:07:37.120 just advise that we don't lead with those things because basically it says me me me i i i so he's
00:07:44.000 like well what do i need you for so i feel like you're like putting us on game this is so helpful oh well
00:07:53.600 honestly you know i mean kevin is here and you know shout out to the godfather um you know we talked
00:07:58.960 about this yesterday i actually booked a session you know with him and you know we can talk about
00:08:04.480 you know other things but i always got convicted whenever i would hear kevin samuel say where are the
00:08:13.360 older women to teach the young because i i love the fact that you're soaking it up and it's really a
00:08:18.880 blessing to me but i remember trying to talk to women in my peer group whether it was corporate or
00:08:24.000 whatever and i would try to have these conversations and oh the way i was shouted down so the same kind
00:08:29.520 of backlash that you have publicly i had privately and so you know i'm just the type i'm not gonna go
00:08:35.280 12 rounds with you so i just kind of okay mind my business be in my cul-de-sac live my little life
00:08:40.480 cook my meals and just be left alone but i didn't have that community so i created that community so
00:08:47.200 it's important as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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