Works Cited Coach Greg Adams And The Marriage Wheel Pearl Daily
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Summary
Coach Greg Adams is one of the most influential voices in the Red Pill space. He is a father, a husband, a coach, a mentor, and a mentor to so many. In this episode, Coach CGA talks about the importance of being a free agent and why it s better than being married.
Transcript
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up, it'll come up, so today I am starting a work cited series on my channel where I highlight
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content creators that were crucial in my development in this red pill space.
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Previously, this episode is going to be about Coach Greg Adams, so CGA was a voice I discovered
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early on, and I wasn't able to quite grasp what he would understand why a man would want
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Remember, I came from a traditional Catholic household that stressed traditional masculine
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duties for men, protecting, providing, getting married, and having children.
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The free agent lifestyle tells men to free themselves from the shackles of the plantation
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of expectation, from the shackles of the plantation and expectation of commitment and pursuing women.
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2025 Pearl Radical Acceptance Pearl would recommend the free agent lifestyle to men in the current
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day, especially with the type of women the average man has to choose from.
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Coach Greg Adams was one of the main voices that I heard speak about the family court system.
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His channel covers at length the disadvantage men face when going through divorce or fighting
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If you're an average guy or a little above, you get married at your own peril.
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Women reserve the right to destroy your household, take your kids, and use that court as a weapon
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They will use the dirty tactics in court to get what they want, false allegation included.
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So CGA has this thing called the marriage wheel.
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And what I like about CGA is he has a ton of just original concepts.
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Now, it's tough in the space because you don't always know where everything came from and like
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But I found a lot of stuff actually originated from CGA.
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He is, when I did my interview with him a couple of years ago, it was like one of the
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most eye-opening interviews I would say that I did over the years.
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Economist writes, Greg Adams' marriage wheel is legendary.
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The marriage wheel is basically the predictor of most, if not all marriages.
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It's what I call the spoiler alert of marriages.
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So what you're basically going to find out is there's a formula to marriage in order to
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You do it at a 99% failure rate, but most people can do that.
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Once they get to that particular phase, you got to go through the investment stage in
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which the man has to start investing to keep the ball rolling.
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Investing in all senses, or at least considering that financial investment, cars, vacations.
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I'm getting stressed out listening to this shit.
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And so if you don't get that investment, the marriage is over.
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So now if you do create that investment, which most men do, especially if there's children,
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you're going to go through the next phase, which is the bait and switch, which essentially-
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Nobody can tell me this man is not pure comedic gold.
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In the court systems where 50% plus divorce rate, you have 70% of people who have been in
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marriages have at least talked to a divorce attorney.
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At that particular point, now you have, hey, if she changes the rule of the game and you
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don't change with her, you lose the investment.
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This is typically what's happening in our marital system.
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She's either become a feminist or the real feminist that was in her that she hid in order
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If you don't go along with her plan, you go to stage number four, which is the disengagement
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stage, and thus you pay for play, you're going to pay a hefty check in the end.
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To her, to the system, to the state, everybody benefits.
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And then you lose your kids and so forth and so on.
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Some men are like, huh, holly you, that was the only good part of the deal.
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Yeah, but you're going to pay for them, though, if you lose them.
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Do you believe paying for blocks is a stupid move?
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The most I've ever spent on box was probably $60,000, maybe about $100,000.
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So the most I've ever spent is $60,000 on marriage.
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James writes, Coach is just, uh-oh, Coach is just bitter because his wife forced him
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Even though someone told him before their engagement that she had mental issues.
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I know a lot of men that weren't told their wives had mental issues.
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I often find it ironic that many people who talk like that to me don't have no picture
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So, obviously, that fat boy sitting over there, you know, he's sitting over there wishing
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You wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me showing up on this show.
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But, anyway, let's just handle what he said to you.
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Essentially, what he went into is the common bitter in all of these things.
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Number one, if we were in their shoes, we would be pretty.
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Women will give a guy their youth, but come out scotch-free.
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But the men, the men give a woman their youth, which I get it.
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And somehow, they come out with a good attitude.
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But I'll interview guys that are going through a ton, and they somehow have a great attitude.
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When you're saying we, you're talking about, like, the manosphere, the free agent.
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So, what I'm doing is you would hope that there's a person like me speaking out on these issues
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So, we, you know, I tell people where my flaws were.
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But what he tried to do was put the mistake back on me when I've already admitted the flaw.
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You were trying to accomplish to try to one-upping or potentially embarrass me.
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I've actually had it published and all that stuff.
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So, there's no bitterness other than the male jealousy that you might be trying to do to show me up.
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And since I made the mistakes, I made them before you to give you this advice.
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And obviously, his father went out for milk, did not come back.
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He writes, why not just have trust, offshore accounts, and prenup for asset protection if you want marriage?
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But the fact is, if you refrain from getting legally married, that would be your first major step in protection.
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And one thing I tell the saints is that I prefer to have a woman who's wealthy and beautiful.
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And if I had to pick one, I'm always going for wealthy.
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I knew a guy in London, and his strategy was to get really jacked and go after the women that worked in law and finance.
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And that way, he was like, I can get a kid out of them.
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And then when she cheats at work, I can put her on alimony and child support.
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I was like, I don't know if that'll work, but, hey, you might as well go for it.
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Yeah, keep these broke 304s away from your boy.
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Mr. Highway writes, I mainly look at Coach as an old-school anti-marriage paralegal.
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The rest of his stances are up to your personal tastes slash preferences as a man.
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If a man wants marriage, what is best for asset protection?
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Have you ever met with a lawyer, divorce attorney, or what you're proposing here?
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You were more likely to hear my response when they tell you the reality of that situation
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So, I mean, it just speaks to the non-experience that you have.
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I would tell you, if you do go the side of asset protection, it could get kicked out of
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Or, better yet, which most people don't understand, anything could be challenged in court if someone
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But if the woman is foolish enough to contest the prenup, you got to pay the cost for the
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Yeah, so you basically pay for your wife to sue you.
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So, I was on Twitter saying she was looking for work.
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Because people knew they were getting divorced.
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Remembering this bitch was getting $25,000 a month.
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It could be, because if they contested and throw the case out, your prenup will stand.
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However, you spent the court costs and the time to fight the battle because she was foolish
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enough to think that she could defend you or beat you.
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So, was it worth it to have the ironclad prenup?
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And this is what people don't understand about law.
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A person sues you doesn't mean they have a legit reason to sue you.
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And businessmen understand that better than anybody.
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Like, say, for instance, I had an asset protection plan.
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Why don't you invest some money to meet with a divorce attorney instead of using the opinions of us as the end-all, be-all?
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I actually have a free book that tells everybody, go meet with a lawyer.
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But I'm telling you the experience, Pierre, because I'm handsome enough for you to click on my face.
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In short, there are a number of tactics you can utilize.
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And one thing we know for sure is there's asset protection and then there's asset invisibility.
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It's quite easy to protect a target people don't know about.
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And they have a conversation, you know, one-on-one in private.
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And as far as attorneys, attorneys have, for the most part, limited knowledge.
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If you get to a very high-level attorney, they can make recommendations and introductions to you.
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When you have an accountant, an attorney, they're a part of your team.
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And the best one is able to say, hey, man, look, I can tell you how to litigate this if it goes to divorce court.
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But I can also recommend you to this banker in this particular locality who can set you up with X, Y, and Z.
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One more thing to that, a lot of times what men find out is when they go this route that some attorneys are a part of the bar association.
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And they kind of work in collaboration to keep men in a financial position to pay, right?
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And this guy was telling me about his divorce because I'm a plane talker.
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I'm like the girl you don't want to sit next to on a plane because I'm going to, we're going to chit-chat.
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But it's unfortunate because now people just stare at their phones and whatever.
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Now, so when I was on the plane, he was telling me how he hired an attorney.
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And the attorney was doing such a good job that he started arguing for the attorney.
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A bad job that he started arguing for the attorney.
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Fired him on the spot and then represented himself.
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And I think it's, and then one, custody of his kid.
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And I think it's because, like, I think a lot of men, I've heard that a lot of men can argue their cases better than the attorneys.
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Because, like, the bar association, that would make sense.
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Because if you're a rich guy, they want to keep you in court forever.
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And these divorces that you're trying to say are brought forth by women.
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If women were unable to bring these cases forward, there would be no court.
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In essence, their solution sometimes, and you'll find this, I've had attorneys tell me, well, just pay the money, don't fight.
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And I'm not talking about in terms of women, just in general.
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And sometimes, yeah, it's better to just pay the money.
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So in essence, you might think these attorneys are going to give you advice to asset protect.
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But their real key is to keep these things going.
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So then we got, there is no God in marriage in the United States.
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So if you guys didn't know, Hafiz debated CGA on this show.
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And by the way, this is pretty early when I got into the Manosphere.
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But I didn't know he got like dunked on by CGA.
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So it's always an interesting conversation because to me, like one of the things I'm
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obsessed with, and Dr. Peterson talks about this so well, is that the more your words
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are in line with the truth, the more powerful those words are.
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And I don't know where you are, if you believe in God or not.
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But like, like when you line your words up with God, like that's when to me, your words
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Dr. Peterson, that's why I feel like he's so powerful.
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His words transcend humanity and it speaks on this divine level.
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And so to me, when you're giving advice, your advice has to be as in line with what God believes
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The equivalent of that would me be saying, me saying, just assume your wife, your girlfriend,
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before she met you, she was a virgin because that's how God wanted the world to run.
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Don't, don't assume she hooked up with guys before you don't know.
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And so to me, the best advice benefits men and benefits women.
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To your opinion, we had 70 years of advice only benefiting women and men suffering as
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A world where it all benefits men and the women don't benefit, it's wrong.
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And so to me, I'm very curious about, I love her questions because it was like, it's not
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He did a video about, you know, advice I would give to my daughter where he actually answers
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And so to me, I, I'm very interested in those questions because like when I would watch Kevin
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Samuels and God rest the dead, and it was so powerful because he would always push women
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YouTubers start to think, they start to think they're literally God.
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And they think that if you like, this is what I get a lot.
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They're like, Pearl, why don't you tell women to be better?
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Do you think, let me, okay, let me, let me, let me get this straight.
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Pearl saying, don't divorce, rape your husband.
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Like imagine you guys who have been married before your ex-wives.
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Imagine if they saw my video and I was saying, guys, do not put your husbands through hell
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Do you think I am going to stop a scorned woman?
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You guys have got to be out of your freaking mind if you think I have that kind of pull.
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I just tried to say, hey, this is where the world's going.
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Dude, the beauty and the value and the protection and the safety, like, like, you know, being
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a woman and being married, nobody wants their daughter to be 41 years old, single mom,
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Nobody wants that for their daughter, especially if they want kids.
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So to me, I think the, the, the, the part of the conversation needs to be, is this information
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Gen Z is the most, the biggest group of women ever to be on OnlyFans.
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That's not a fun thing to admit, but is it true?
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When you're on team men, it only needs to benefit team men.
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If you're on team Republican, it only needs to benefit team Republican.
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If you're on team America, it has to benefit all Americans.
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If you're on team human, it has to benefit both males and females.
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So that's why I loved her questions, because I think the best, like, I can give my hardcore
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And I know without a shadow of a doubt, the most hardcore advice that benefits men simultaneously
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There's no God in marriage in the United States.
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They need to, I wish I could see CGA on like Pierce Morgan or something.
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Like I would love, it's so unfortunate because I get invited on these shows and I, you know,
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I'm going to do, you know, the best I like, I'm going to do the best I can.
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But some of these guys are just, they are such good debaters and they would kill on some
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of these big shows, but they'll never have them on because, um, I mean, it's just how
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Like they would just kill and they would make the hosts look so bad.
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If your marriage is destroyed, you go back to your pastor and you say, Hey, my marriage
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He has no power over that because it is a state agreement.
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So I will bring you back to make sure you understand.
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It's absolutely gone unless you live in an American South.
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So you, most people on the West coast, many people in the East Midwest, there's no God in
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So we don't know what you mean there's no God in marriage.
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One of the things that they will do is they will seek counsel of the church.
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And then as such, the guys will give them guidance and it will be biblical principle.
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However, they will say, we can't do anything until you sign this state sponsored agreement
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They're not going to have a Bible in that divorce court.
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The judge is not going to ask you, do you like God?
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How many of you guys got divorced by a Christian woman?
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If our nature as women is just whores, like, let's just be honest here.
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When women are given freedom, we just pick whore.
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And so the Christian women from a young age have had to hide the whore, right?
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They've had to, you know, from as young as we want to be whores, we have to hide the whore.
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So the Christian women are almost the most deceptive.
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And such as such, what is the overriding principle here?
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Imagine if he said that on like Pierce Morgan or something.
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There's no God in the marriage in the United States.
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Are you going to say, there's no God in marriage in the United States?
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You're saying there's no, there's no God in marriage in the United States.
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So I made a point and I said, if your truth aligns with God, that truth is most powerful.
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If your truth aligns with God, meaning the word that you speak aligns with God, those words
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That he made a point saying there is no God in marriage.
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So, so first as a semantic thing, because God is everywhere, whether God chooses to supervene
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in things or not, I am, I will never be the person that says God is not here.
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I will never be the person that says God is not present here.
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Could we argue that, that is God blessing every American Western marriage?
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Of course, God is not blessing every American, but God is.
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So this right here, this is when men cope, right?
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At this point, he's met a hot young thing that he's trying to, that's convincing him
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And he's got to cope now because he's got to cope because he doesn't want to get screwed.
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So he has to rationalize that this girl is different and marriage is not dead, right?
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Some girl gives you the gluck gluck and you're like, ah, she's so different.
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She had to give a lot of gluck glucks to, to get that good, right?
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So when you say there is absolute statements, there is no God in marriage.
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Whenever he gets divorced, I'm sure it'll happen.
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You can just tell when men have developed frame.
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Sometimes it takes like half their lives to get it.
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Most marriages in regards to Biden being there.
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No, God means that God's not blessing it, right?
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So if you're saying that God is not blessing what's happening in most marriages, that is
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But to say there is no God in marriages, period, that is a false statement.
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See, they're always arguing like a woman, right?
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So if CGA is making a generalization about marriage in the United States, which is, you
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You know, that's why they say get, oh no, my girl got westernized.
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Because in the West, we have the worst reputation of marriage.
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Because God is in my marriage and God is also in my parents' marriage.
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And I will continue to say, when it comes to even understanding the ideas of God, God
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And God, like a good father, if you want to touch the stove, you can touch the stove.
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And so to me, I just think when you're making, when people make statements like this, how...
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And then if you interrupt him, he's like, I'm still talking.
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I'm like, bet you've been talking for like 20 minutes.
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And so my biggest thing is that what I'm only communicating in regards to the marriages is that if you are a man, do your due diligence.
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You can't protect yourself 100% from business failure, from friendship failure, from anything in life.
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There is godly principles that you can adhere to that can benefit you.
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But there's no absolute guarantees that everything in life will be successful.
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And no matter what you tell me, you're not going to convince me otherwise.
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I'm sure that there's tons of marriages out there that they believe.
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They go to church every Sunday, and then next thing you know, they get divorced.
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So I'm just trying to establish what a godless marriage is or a God-filled marriage is.
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Like, how that genuinely curiosity, like, how that works.
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I think what Coach is basically saying is like, look, I don't care if you're going to church every Sunday or not.
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At the end of the day, your marriage is between you, your significant other, and the state.
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What we tell people is that hope is not a strategy.
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We tell people real-life principles, all right?
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We live here on Earth, whether you believe this is heaven or hell.
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So I want you guys to understand, you're dealing with Earth here, and this is a reality.
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My marriage will be different because I'm more moral.
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Yeah, I mean, the Christian guys get screwed the worst.
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What tends to happen is people are introduced to things based on someone else's biases, okay?
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And those biases are introduced to children and so forth and so on.
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So, yes, at some point, that was the only story I knew until I investigated on my own,
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decided as a man what principles to stand on, and then realized I don't live by hope.
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And let's talk about what's real instead of the mystique of this damn thing here.
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So first and foremost, like I said, it's very interesting.
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I've always told you, you got to hear someone's background, and then you know where they lean.
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That's where you know where their vice gears towards.
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Even when I talk about God, like the idea of God in his brain is not the idea I'm talking about.
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Somebody's like farming, and he's talking about the intricacies of farming.
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God is not the God of get married happily ever after.
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Yeah, so then your pastor can tell you how to run your household instead of you.
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Actually be able to decide, okay, if things don't work out, what are we going to do?
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God gives you the wisdom to be intelligent, to be able to navigate.
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But God's message is not just simply blind hope.
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Literally, Jesus said, be as wise as a serpent, but as innocent as a dove.
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True godly wisdom is what made Adam a millionaire.
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True godly wisdom is what made Patrick Bette David build this amazing company.
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It's actual practical step-by-step guidance that benefits people's lives.
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Hope being a strategy, simply pray to God in your mouth.
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Whenever you guys have your two kids, and yeah, we'll be back.
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So when I'm talking about godliness in marriage, those are certain principles and wisdoms.
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Is it going to make your, is it going to be that if you follow God, you'll never get a divorce?
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There's nothing in life where nothing bad is going to happen.
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But if I knew that if I started a business for 20 years, I would have to be paying that business back and also having that business trying to ruin my reputation and also having that business try to steal my children, I might think about just going and working for a company.
00:41:47.020
Or, you know, if, because I think I calculated it once, I'd have to go through the numbers, but let's say there's a 5% death rate if I start a business, which is probably similar out of 100 divorces, you know, men are nine times more likely to commit suicide.
00:42:08.400
If I knew suicide, if I knew suicide was on the table when I started a business, I don't know, I might, I might think twice before doing it, right?
00:42:26.040
Everything the right way and the wrong thing can still happen.
00:42:28.100
But does that mean you do things the wrong way?
00:42:35.460
If, okay, option A, don't live or have sex with a woman and then get married.
00:42:50.260
Option B is way smarter than just, oh, after a year, I haven't even hit.
00:42:57.340
Let me give you the rest of my life to F me and give you the greatest honor I could ever
00:43:07.220
And so my biggest thing is that we need to give men as much practical wisdom and women
00:43:13.920
Give them as much practical wisdom that can build a healthy, successful marriage.
00:43:18.680
When he talks about don't get married without leverage, I guarantee if he expounds upon leverage,
00:43:24.960
Those are all biblical principles that what he's going to describe and what he defines
00:43:29.240
as leverage, being masculine, you know what I mean?
00:43:31.420
Protecting your assets, all the things he would describe as leverage, that is godly wisdom.
00:43:38.960
Okay, the only, men have zero leverage in marriage.
00:43:41.800
The only leverage that you have as a man is cheating.
00:44:00.440
He may not view it as godly because his view of God is just some old white man in the clouds
00:44:04.520
telling you to simply just do whatever you want.
00:44:16.840
Now, so I did an interview with CGA and the audio is a little off, so you'll have to bear
00:44:25.880
But it's me like two years ago, and I don't want to hear anything about me looking younger.
00:44:42.560
Most marriages are going to end in a divorce, and the laws are going to be dictated based
00:44:52.580
And if you just happen to so get divorced in a place where the laws suck, then it's going
00:45:01.500
Some people get divorced in a place where they don't suck or they just halfway suck.
00:45:07.720
Like California, for instance, is considered one of the worst places to get divorced.
00:45:14.900
So my whole perspective of divorce is like, whoa, all right, these people, as a matter of
00:45:20.520
fact, some of the most wealthiest divorce attorneys are in California.
00:45:24.460
So they have an incentive to people get divorced.
00:45:27.360
They want people to get divorced, obviously, to stay in business.
00:45:30.220
And when you find that out, the divorce laws are then introduced to most men at that point.
00:45:37.940
Now, my content, we introduced the divorce laws to men before they get married.
00:45:43.180
So that gives them an idea of what they're getting into.
00:45:46.980
Most men aren't introduced to divorce laws until...
00:45:50.180
Doug MPA says marriage is like a man having a chain around his waist and he's pulling a
00:45:56.580
On the sled is a woman stabbing him in the back with a small knife a thousand times.
00:46:08.280
Because the women were basically paid to leave, aren't we?
00:46:16.380
I mean, incentives to be supported by what they would call maintenance, spousal support,
00:46:26.080
Just depending on where you are, what state you are, those three words are used interchangeably.
00:46:29.640
But oddly enough, feminists are opposed to that as well.
00:46:36.140
Most staunch feminists don't like maintenance or spousal support either.
00:46:43.220
They think feminists are just going to agree to have an advantage in the family court.
00:46:47.080
They look at that as a negative as well, because they want to be able to be self-supportive
00:46:54.200
The feminists I've talked to, I'll tell them to get a job.
00:47:04.780
We attribute the word, we use that as a blanket term to describe people who, like the red
00:47:12.540
Those are, those people typically more agree with many red pill guys.
00:47:17.600
There's just a kind of different call to action.
00:47:31.840
Child support is the evil impetus or, or, or, or spousal support.
00:47:36.020
And then you have child support, which is a second payment.
00:47:39.440
It's calculated completely different from spousal support.
00:47:43.380
So, this was kind of before, this was before I started doing the interviews with the divorced
00:47:51.080
So, this interview was actually really impactful for me to my understanding of the family court
00:47:59.420
Because again, I came from, my parents have been married 30 years and most people around
00:48:06.400
And if they did get divorced, do you know what's weird?
00:48:09.420
I've probably seen more divorces when I was 16 and up than, like, people didn't really get
00:48:14.920
divorced in my, like, small community in middle school.
00:48:23.780
It's kind of, the way I say it is, once you see it, you can't unsee it.
00:48:27.440
So, at this point, I'm sort of waking up to just how bad it is for men.
00:48:34.360
And CGA, you know, I'm forever grateful to him because, you know, he took the, he took,
00:48:41.400
like, I think this interview was, like, two or three hours.
00:48:43.460
He took the time out of his day to sit down and explain all this stuff for me.
00:48:47.400
And this video did really well before YouTube made me pull it.
00:48:56.880
So, depending on how long you were married or who was the primary breadwinner, which
00:49:01.600
typically is mostly men because that's how women select.
00:49:04.520
But child support is based on how many kids you have.
00:49:06.860
If I have kids in a prior relationship, if my income's significantly greater than hers,
00:49:16.500
You leave out paying spousal support and child support.
00:49:20.100
And they're both, sometimes they're both collected by different agencies.
00:49:23.760
So, yeah, because that was the big, like, shock to me is, like, women are basically, because isn't child support dictated by how much, like, who has the kids?
00:49:34.520
So, it almost gives women incentive to take the kids.
00:49:41.320
Most typically, you're going to hear a woman say, I want primary custody, right?
00:49:46.040
Which is going to mean she wants an advantage on that time-wise.
00:49:49.460
But the excuse they'll use is that I raised the kids.
00:49:58.240
Whatever it is to get out of that, he can't take care of them because he works a certain schedule.
00:50:08.940
But we have to understand that there's a calculation going to give her more money the more time she has.
00:50:17.980
When we say that, most people say, no, that's not the case.
00:50:22.220
She just wants more time to give the kids more stability.
00:50:25.460
But men will say, I deserve my parental rights to have the kid equal time.
00:50:34.520
He just wants more time so he can pay less child support.
00:50:42.680
Yeah, because I just said she wants more time to get more child support.
00:50:46.020
So they then switched it back and say, he just wants more time so he can pay less child support.
00:50:51.120
Yeah, and that's what I really did not understand.
00:50:54.460
When I first started watching Red Pill content, I was like, why are these guys so against marriage?
00:51:01.760
I mean, if it was controlled by church, controlled by communities, this is how communities are built.
00:51:09.340
So people think that I'm anti-marriage, but I'm pretty traditional in the aspect of the best way to raise children in a two-parent household.
00:51:21.880
So what happens is the state has to get involved.
00:51:25.120
And the state has to do its best to find a way to support women who are now volunteering themselves out of marriage.
00:51:32.080
But the resources that they reach to eventually, and then there's also a penalty to the guy saying, well, you married her.
00:51:38.400
So thus, you have to support her to a certain extent.
00:51:41.720
And for a long time, it was like you have to support her until she can get on her feet.
00:51:48.320
But you're also saying the women who said, I quit my job, my career, to be a mother and a wife.
00:52:07.040
Well, and even that statistic is skewed, right?
00:52:10.420
So we say 70 percent of the divorces are filed by women and then 80 or 90 percent when it's college educated.
00:52:15.920
But that's but that's skewed because a lot of times women won't file the divorce to punish the man.
00:52:24.480
So what happens is that the guy says, I'm leaving you for another woman.
00:52:28.000
Well, legally, she's not going to file a divorce because he's going to marry another woman or he's going to be out there dating.
00:52:36.480
So in order to prevent him from finding another partner, she'll stop the divorce proceedings or at least halt it.
00:52:44.980
So then but by that point, the guy says, I'll file.
00:52:51.400
That's only one of the because otherwise he knows he's going to lose.
00:52:54.860
So so the divorces are that are filed by men are don't even count as the man filed.
00:53:00.480
It is the woman that wants the divorce, but she won't she'll drag the proceedings to prevent him to marry.
00:53:18.940
No, no, I did a clip that was going viral and all these whales started to show me their blubber.
00:53:34.920
Obviously, the guy didn't marry her in that state many times.
00:53:43.360
They get the ring and they're like and then they're like, I'll just let myself go.
00:53:53.180
But I'm going to give you a third calculation that nobody remembers that I have to teach people about.
00:53:58.100
And this is where men lose more than 50 percent.
00:54:03.920
Well, men typically lose 75 percent of their income over these horses because the third calculation is how property is divided, how pensions are divided, how retirements are divided.
00:54:17.060
How, you know, if you had a business, how is that divided?
00:54:21.360
So there's a there's those are three separate calculations when you go through a divorce.
00:54:25.260
And typically, if you had a guy and you were a business owner or you had a military pension or a firefighter's pension and then you had kids and then you have spousal support, that's three income sources that are divided in the courts.
00:54:45.580
So so if you got married again, I'm sure you will never go happen.
00:54:58.840
Depending on what state, it would be considered either community property or it could be used to up to the judge's discretion to decide.
00:55:14.500
So there's equitable states like Texas is, I believe I'm not mistaken.
00:55:19.460
Don't don't quote me on the states, but some states are equitable, whatever, whatever's equitable.
00:55:24.780
But in the judge's mind, 70 percent would be equitable.
00:55:34.000
And so if the judges are simps or you have a female judge, what's going to happen?
00:55:38.920
What's typically going to happen in California?
00:55:41.880
It's community property 50 50, which creates a problem.
00:55:45.660
If I split this house 50 50, I can't cut it in half.
00:55:48.080
I can't put tape down the middle of the and say you live on that half and I live on that half.
00:55:53.480
The whales did kill my tick tock because I said I said something along the lines of.
00:56:04.780
And I said after that, I said nobody deserves love, but then they clipped it.
00:56:14.660
All the whales, they started calling my mother.
00:56:18.020
They spammed me like fat women will come after you.
00:56:23.900
What happens is the guy feels like he has to move out.
00:56:33.600
But then and then she can go to court and say he hasn't been in the kids lives.
00:56:37.260
Because isn't that one thing they'll do, the girls will do, like he'll move out to get out of the house or fighting and then she'll go to court and say he's.
00:56:44.780
Well, that's why you don't move out before the divorce is.
00:56:47.760
But typically a guy is going to move out before the divorce is over so he don't get killed and poisoned.
00:56:56.360
He's like, oh, it'd be safer for me to be out of the house because, you know, he got to go to sleep.
00:57:02.680
Well, I was so I was explaining this to my dad, right, because my dad, he doesn't know about any of it.
00:57:14.000
If most men are in charge, a few one to three percent will kill.
00:57:18.000
But when women are charged in charge, they kill society in massive amounts.
00:57:26.440
Laws are set up for divorce where the man still has an obligation to the woman while the woman has no obligation to the man.
00:57:38.020
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00:57:42.160
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00:57:47.940
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00:57:52.620
So I'll tell my father and and I was telling him, I'm like, if you had like if you got divorced tomorrow and you split it with mom.
00:58:02.420
And I was like, you would be fine because he's I'm like, you're a super productive guy.
00:58:08.700
And I'm like, I'm not going to say he's Jeff Bezos, but like he's like he's not not that much.
00:58:18.080
But I'm like, there's guys that like work their whole lives to build up something.
00:58:21.200
And they're not the type of guys that like are going to start a business tomorrow and just remake it.
00:58:27.060
Yeah, because I mean, you kind of learn, especially when you start hiring people, there's some people that are they're just going to be employees forever.
00:58:40.580
I feel like I've been forced to be a boss in my life.
00:58:43.760
But but so but you kind of start to realize the different like personality types.
00:58:49.660
And so a lot of times I've found that business owners or men that are just that make a lot of money and can make it again if they get divorced will still recommend marriage.
00:59:03.460
But they're in a completely different spot because they're very high performing and they're going to like a guy with one set of skills that like a police off.
00:59:17.060
Like I've heard police officers and firemen get it very bad because that's a specific set of skills.
00:59:25.340
And so they do that for 30 years and she takes the pension.
00:59:33.100
Where my father, this was kind of trying to get out.
00:59:39.040
And he like if he lost everything tomorrow, he just would remake it in like two years.
00:59:50.320
I wish, you know, I don't even deserve a channel.
00:59:57.020
I he's just a private guy, but he he would do so well.
01:00:04.820
But like I like empathy, I guess, because they don't they're like, oh, I would imagine marrying Pearl and you find out she's one point two million in credit card debt.
01:00:14.060
Why are you guys making stuff up about me in the chat?
01:00:23.760
Well, if you had a guy, typically we call a great divorce guy.
01:00:29.080
He's worked a certain amount of years in his company and he finally got to the top peak of his income.
01:00:37.280
So he finally worked hard enough to be able to pay off the mortgage, pay off the house.
01:00:44.920
So everything he worked for is flushed down the toilet if he moves out of the house.
01:00:58.060
So the guys that get rug pulled that old, I mean, they're starting over.
01:01:05.680
Those are some of the worst guys I've interviewed.
01:01:18.700
And he got put on lifetime alimony when he was 60.
01:01:25.500
Whatever he saved is going to get divided in court.
01:01:36.220
And then he's going to have a monthly obligation.
01:01:52.000
But we're telling men don't do that because it's a lifelong sentence that you're giving yourself.
01:01:57.300
Like you become a stepdaddy to bail out a woman.
01:02:02.080
Well, even outside of that, I'm talking about like government benefits.
01:02:04.720
You guys pay more into government benefits and we're the we're the ones that are on them.
01:02:09.200
I mean, that's all you've been that way, though.
01:02:19.060
But I was annoyed because I was like, I didn't have any kids.
01:02:25.840
But you can go out there and get knocked up if you want.
01:02:28.000
I think I think the crazy thing is the problem men have today is we've been educated that
01:02:35.100
At a time where women were taken care of and bailed out, there was a sense that men are
01:02:41.360
And then if you didn't provide, you get kicked the hell out.
01:02:51.800
So I just did the best I could and say, all right, you ain't cooperating.
01:02:55.940
Or if he was an alcoholic and abusive, he loses.
01:03:01.020
But when no fault divorce came in, then it changed the game and it swung the pendulum
01:03:06.680
swiftly to the point where now our generation and younger, we're dealing with the realities
01:03:11.940
of these women are equal and I owe them child support.
01:03:23.580
The no fault divorce allowed women to get incentivized to bust up marriages with no excuse.
01:03:30.180
See, before you needed a reason, you needed to hire a private investigator and follow your
01:03:41.080
They would have to go to the court and say, well, why are you divorcing this man?
01:03:51.720
But once they said, you don't need a reason, divorce rate skyrocketed.
01:04:04.560
Well, and then you see a lot of the government programs come in, too.
01:04:08.800
The government programs like the welfare and that type of thing, yeah, and child tax credits
01:04:14.520
Yeah, because I'm like, why are we paying people to be single mothers?
01:04:18.380
Well, you incentivize people to have be single mothers.
01:04:24.040
And I remember when I lived in the Midwest when I was younger, women would stay getting
01:04:30.580
They would be like, and there would be mothers telling their daughters to get pregnant.
01:04:33.840
And that's why teenage pregnancy was super high, because the mothers would, if they were,
01:04:39.060
if the women were shiftless and lazy as mothers, they would have daughters and the daughters
01:04:44.620
They'd be like, girl, you can get $300 a kid a month.
01:04:48.240
And so those girls would have three, four kids.
01:04:51.180
There's no incentive to be a good person as a woman.
01:04:58.400
Like, this is what, you got to look at the chessboard as a woman.
01:05:03.000
Don't put your husband on child support, alimony.
01:05:19.880
And then it's a vicious cycle, because I cringe to think that $300 a kid is free money.
01:05:29.400
But if you think, some people are like, that's good money.
01:05:51.620
If you said, I can't afford to have this kid, I need child support, you could have terminated.
01:05:59.300
You could have not got pregnant because you were unable to afford the child.
01:06:07.840
Every person I know that's, like, had an, like, irresponsible pregnancy, they would just be involved.
01:06:18.400
But they would have, it would have stuck around.
01:06:20.120
Audience, the worst thing a woman can ever be in life is a single mother.
01:06:28.420
So I have no sympathy for single mothers out here, although I was raised by a single mother.
01:06:35.620
I mean, you're basically just complicating life.
01:06:39.840
And you're going to just basically ruin the child.
01:06:48.580
And you said you're married for 10 years and you got divorced.
01:07:09.720
They want to push off marriage as long as they possibly could.
01:07:17.460
But millennials typically go like 29, 30, 32, 34.
01:07:21.940
But before all of that, they was going to be in these streets, right?
01:07:27.120
They ran through more times than the Holland Tunnel, all right?
01:07:33.460
So they got ran through more times than the Holland Tunnel.
01:07:35.640
And the Holland Tunnel was the busiest tunnel in New York.
01:07:48.680
Yeah, I'm going to live over here and go over here, backpack through Europe, and blah, blah, blah.
01:07:52.320
And then they were going to say, oh, I'm marriage material now.
01:07:56.060
Well, the marriage rates have plummeted since this generation.
01:08:01.560
Millennials, but they will say millennials are staying married more and all of that stuff.
01:08:07.940
But they're not being honest because they're still young.
01:08:17.720
There's baby boomers getting divorced right now in the 70s, right?
01:08:23.540
But dating-wise, I thought, you know, let me give your audience some context.
01:08:30.580
When I got married and was engaged, there was no dating apps.
01:08:39.120
There was not even text messages back and forth.
01:08:49.500
So there was no, we had pagers and stuff like that and little link pagers.
01:08:55.460
But we had no smartphone where you could just get an app, swipe, swipe, swipe.
01:09:07.800
And even dating, they had dating websites like Match.com was around, I believe.
01:09:21.420
So with that being said, I got divorced and separated 2012.
01:09:34.480
So that's what I got reintroduced in the dating market.
01:09:39.440
It was like a fast-moving highway when before it was a crawl.
01:09:42.260
Did you try to court some hoes at all at first when you entered the dating scene?
01:09:56.180
I think what happened was sex was much easier given.
01:10:04.880
To get sex when I was about getting engaged was tough.
01:10:10.540
Yeah, so he comes out, and all the hoes are hoeing, right?
01:10:24.000
You couldn't, you know, unless you just met a fabulous 304, and you were just lucky that night.
01:10:32.720
So by the time I'm getting back out, Instagram had just started becoming a thing.
01:10:40.980
And so I'm getting divorced during Instagram's peak.
01:10:52.360
I mean, it was just like what I call the digital sexual revolution.
01:10:55.660
And it was nothing like that when I was married or a situation like that.
01:11:03.200
So what did you find out about female nature, like, through this?
01:11:13.540
I just think that by that time, what did I find out?
01:11:17.220
By the way, I'm checking my phone in this to make sure it's still recording the audio.
01:11:21.760
I'm not like, I don't want it to seem like I'm being rude.
01:11:25.460
I was just making sure the audio is still going.
01:11:36.100
I think I was learning that what they say and what they do are two separate things.
01:11:44.040
I was like, they're saying this, but they're doing this.
01:11:45.980
They're doing this under the cover at night, but they're out there.
01:11:52.580
So that probably was the epiphany and to not trust what they do, because I think what people
01:12:01.220
will tell you, and I will tell you young men, whatever your belief system in women, it's
01:12:06.340
going to be validated by social media and dating apps.
01:12:11.260
So if you think girls are out here being pure, well, based on your experience, is that true?
01:12:19.380
Most of the time, if you're using social media and dating apps, you're going to find out that there's a lot of fast and loose women.
01:12:33.640
He was like a fat Italian guy, but he would just get these women off of Tinder to come
01:12:41.420
Do you know how many times I've been used to be a wingman for somebody?
01:12:51.020
And like four or five days a week, I would meet all these different women.
01:12:55.400
What your belief system is going forward and backwards, right?
01:13:03.240
My girl disappeared all the time Friday at eight o'clock.
01:13:08.060
You know, she was learning how to use her easy bake oven or she was getting piped down, right?
01:13:15.840
So you will know that because you'll be the guy piping women down that Friday.
01:13:20.020
And, you know, and when she goes radio silent on her guys that she's dating, she got multiple
01:13:25.400
And also, when you get that text message, this is the text message.
01:13:30.100
I don't know if it's popular now, but the, oh, I fell asleep.
01:13:41.660
Well, based on your experience, you know that that's not true.
01:13:48.780
She was getting her insides pushed to her esophagus.
01:13:53.860
So what about, what about the guys that say not all women are like that?
01:14:05.860
If you believe that not all women are like that, I tell you, roll the dice.
01:14:18.420
But I have some women that I would thought never was 304s.
01:14:22.840
And when they got to the crib, they was full on 304s.
01:14:27.600
Some women, I was like, she is scab peeling skeezer.
01:14:29.940
And then all of a sudden, she get to the house, and she's all nervous about things.
01:14:52.260
So look, people, he should know how content works.
01:14:59.060
And then you want me to tell me driving forward tomorrow?
01:15:12.680
So look, people, he should know how content works.
01:15:18.940
He's not authentic because he knows how this works.
01:15:22.340
And now you're telling me to be balanced based on your interpretation of how it works.
01:15:26.920
But that's not the conversation that we have on social media.
01:15:30.260
I think people tend to subscribe to channels that have a certain message.
01:15:37.280
Now, if you go off that, if I invite you into my channel and say, this is what we're talking about,
01:15:41.300
and the next day I flip to try to have a balanced conversation, that's not authentic.
01:15:45.940
But then his argument is, well, you're only doing it for the money.
01:15:51.560
Are we going to have an authentic conversation about how social media works?
01:15:54.720
Or you want a balanced conversation, but it can't be both.
01:16:07.860
So I tell men, and a lot of people get this wrong.
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They think I'm against marriage as a principle.
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And I'm against men getting married without information.
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They get married, stay sponsored, and they think they're getting married under God.
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Or they're getting married in their church or from their community.
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Then most men get married when they're in a position where they can't provide whatever they need to provide to the wife or the marriage.
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Even people who are pushers of love will tell you love lasts 18 months, maybe three years.
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But this is why it's important that you actually have something else to build on other than love.
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But if you want to make your decision purely on love, what happens when the love ends?
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And then you're going to have to deal with that.
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So if you have love, love is basically lust confusing you to procreate.
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They use love to manipulate men into marrying them when they've already been ran through.
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So they'll say, but I love you, but she needs rent to be paid.
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It's like they tell on themselves, though, because they're so angry.
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All I say is just look at the results that we have out here.
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For women, unfortunately, if your sexual partners pass a certain number,
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People have to understand, love and attachment are two different things.
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And you can tell by when the relationship ends if you had an attachment or love.
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Have their feelings hurt, and then they'll be indifferent to the person.
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But a person that had an attachment is like a parasite.
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They'll hate the person after they broke the attachment because the ego's involved.
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What they'll do is they'll go attack the person.
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So once the host shakes the parasite off, the parasite hates the host.
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And so they'll be opposed to a parasitic relationship to kill the host by all means.
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Okay, because when I think of girls, like, I feel like the girl, if she hates her ex, she still loves him.
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Like, I feel like hate is closer to love than...
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I feel like if a girl doesn't talk about him, like, then she didn't care.
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Okay, so but my rebuttal to that is you don't destroy something you love.
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Typically, if there's hate involved, she's trying to destroy, embarrass them.
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What I have seen is that when women hate the ex, he could still hit.
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When women hate the ex, yeah, he could still get it.
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Watch out for your girlfriend's least favorite ex or wife.
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So what she'll do is drag him through divorce court, take him to child support,
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trying to penalize him and hurt him, take the kids away, don't let them see the kids.
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I want to do shows where I just, you know, zoom in on the people that really inspired me in the space
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And he has an awesome channel, so you guys should go check it out.
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And let me know what you guys think in the comments.
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And thank you guys so much, and I will see you next time.