JustPearlyThings - Works Cited Coach Greg Adams And The Marriage Wheel Pearl Daily

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00:07:30.960 up, it'll come up, so today I am starting a work cited series on my channel where I highlight

00:07:33.620 content creators that were crucial in my development in this red pill space.

00:07:37.960 Previously, this episode is going to be about Coach Greg Adams, so CGA was a voice I discovered

00:07:46.800 early on, and I wasn't able to quite grasp what he would understand why a man would want

00:07:52.100 to live that way.

00:07:52.820 Remember, I came from a traditional Catholic household that stressed traditional masculine 0.69

00:07:58.960 duties for men, protecting, providing, getting married, and having children.

00:08:02.920 The free agent lifestyle tells men to free themselves from the shackles of the plantation

00:08:07.280 of expectation, from the shackles of the plantation and expectation of commitment and pursuing women.

00:08:16.800 2025 Pearl Radical Acceptance Pearl would recommend the free agent lifestyle to men in the current 0.70

00:08:22.000 day, especially with the type of women the average man has to choose from.

00:08:26.520 Coach Greg Adams was one of the main voices that I heard speak about the family court system.

00:08:31.320 His channel covers at length the disadvantage men face when going through divorce or fighting

00:08:37.560 for their children.

00:08:38.420 If you're an average guy or a little above, you get married at your own peril.

00:08:42.840 Women reserve the right to destroy your household, take your kids, and use that court as a weapon 1.00

00:08:47.620 against you at any time.

00:08:48.880 They will use the dirty tactics in court to get what they want, false allegation included.

00:08:55.180 So CGA has this thing called the marriage wheel.

00:09:01.620 And what I like about CGA is he has a ton of just original concepts.

00:09:05.840 Now, it's tough in the space because you don't always know where everything came from and like

00:09:10.020 things get repeated.

00:09:11.400 But I found a lot of stuff actually originated from CGA.

00:09:15.260 He is, when I did my interview with him a couple of years ago, it was like one of the

00:09:23.140 most eye-opening interviews I would say that I did over the years.

00:09:27.380 Economist writes, Greg Adams' marriage wheel is legendary.

00:09:31.100 Well, let's talk about it.

00:09:32.000 What is the marriage wheel? 0.88

00:09:33.260 The marriage wheel is basically the predictor of most, if not all marriages.

00:09:37.440 It's what I call the spoiler alert of marriages.

00:09:40.280 So what you're basically going to find out is there's a formula to marriage in order to

00:09:44.420 keep it working, which you have to connect.

00:09:46.660 Connection phase is number one.

00:09:48.240 Obviously, that's simple.

00:09:49.380 Most people can do that.

00:09:50.520 You do it at a 99% failure rate, but most people can do that.

00:09:54.460 Once they get to that particular phase, you got to go through the investment stage in

00:09:58.240 which the man has to start investing to keep the ball rolling.

00:10:02.540 Investing in what sense?

00:10:03.320 Investing in all senses, or at least considering that financial investment, cars, vacations.

00:10:10.400 You got to keep this ball up.

00:10:11.620 And particularly- 1.00

00:10:12.780 I'm getting stressed out listening to this shit. 1.00

00:10:14.500 Yeah, yeah, exactly. 1.00

00:10:16.080 I've got a bathroom break right now.

00:10:18.160 Okay, go ahead.

00:10:18.660 And so if you don't get that investment, the marriage is over.

00:10:23.620 Oh, wow.

00:10:24.340 It's pretty much going to be over.

00:10:25.220 So now if you do create that investment, which most men do, especially if there's children,

00:10:29.740 you're going to go through the next phase, which is the bait and switch, which essentially-

00:10:34.520 Nobody can tell me this man is not pure comedic gold.

00:10:41.920 Oh, yeah.

00:10:43.080 They didn't set you up.

00:10:44.200 So essentially-

00:10:45.480 He says they don't set you up.

00:10:48.620 In the court systems where 50% plus divorce rate, you have 70% of people who have been in

00:10:53.620 marriages have at least talked to a divorce attorney. 0.74

00:10:56.080 At that particular point, now you have, hey, if she changes the rule of the game and you

00:11:01.960 don't change with her, you lose the investment.

00:11:05.140 This is typically what's happening in our marital system. 1.00

00:11:07.180 So I tell people that that's going to come.

00:11:09.280 She's either become a feminist or the real feminist that was in her that she hid in order 1.00

00:11:13.660 to get the investment will show up.

00:11:15.940 If you don't go along with her plan, you go to stage number four, which is the disengagement

00:11:21.340 stage, and thus you pay for play, you're going to pay a hefty check in the end.

00:11:29.580 He is so funny, God.

00:11:32.000 To her.

00:11:32.800 To her, to the system, to the state, everybody benefits.

00:11:35.920 Except you.

00:11:36.440 Except you.

00:11:36.920 Yeah, you're the one paying.

00:11:37.760 Okay, fair enough.

00:11:37.780 And then you lose your kids and so forth and so on.

00:11:39.460 Oh, you said then your children are gone.

00:11:41.080 Yeah, your children are gone.

00:11:42.120 Some men are like, huh, holly you, that was the only good part of the deal.

00:11:45.300 Yeah, but you're going to pay for them, though, if you lose them.

00:11:48.100 Oh, no, say it ain't so.

00:11:50.200 The Baker writes, Peace of the Saints.

00:11:51.780 Coach Greg, do you believe?

00:11:54.260 Believe. 1.00

00:11:54.820 Do you believe paying for blocks is a stupid move? 1.00

00:11:59.680 Well, I mean, listen. 1.00

00:12:01.160 What'd you spend on that box, Coach?

00:12:02.340 What am I spending on it?

00:12:03.120 Let me see.

00:12:03.580 Let me look at my last.

00:12:04.740 Let me look at that cash app.

00:12:06.620 Listen, I've spent.

00:12:07.280 Wait, these 304s take you cash apps now?

00:12:09.420 They doing cash apps.

00:12:10.100 Oh, they dangerous out here.

00:12:11.300 They leaving paper trails.

00:12:12.380 I got to operate in cash only.

00:12:13.580 No, yeah, yeah, don't yet have no paper done.

00:12:15.320 C-O-D, cash on delivery.

00:12:16.360 Cash on delivery, yes, exactly.

00:12:17.840 Woo-wee.

00:12:18.560 The most I've ever spent on box was probably $60,000, maybe about $100,000.

00:12:24.840 Okay, all right, tell me more.

00:12:26.540 It's called marriage.

00:12:31.720 So the most I've ever spent is $60,000 on marriage.

00:12:35.880 Okay.

00:12:36.380 And it's definitely a pay-for-play move. 1.00

00:12:38.480 So, yes, in that instance, it's a stupid move. 0.99

00:12:40.320 But if you want me to go further, let me know. 0.99

00:12:42.080 Okay.

00:12:42.300 James writes, Coach is just, uh-oh, Coach is just bitter because his wife forced him

00:12:48.920 into debt.

00:12:50.060 Dang.

00:12:50.640 Yeah. 0.94

00:12:51.060 Even though someone told him before their engagement that she had mental issues.

00:12:57.280 Hashtag vetting.

00:12:59.040 I know a lot of men that weren't told their wives had mental issues.

00:13:03.740 It's no guarantee either.

00:13:05.540 Peace to the saints.

00:13:07.040 They speak in their mind.

00:13:08.300 Now, he deserves to speak in his mind.

00:13:09.820 That man didn't sense him.

00:13:11.080 Go ahead, Coach.

00:13:11.580 He deserves to speak in his mind.

00:13:13.080 I often find it ironic that many people who talk like that to me don't have no picture 0.99

00:13:18.120 on their damn thumbnail. 0.99

00:13:19.660 All right? 1.00

00:13:20.000 So, obviously, that fat boy sitting over there, you know, he's sitting over there wishing 0.96

00:13:25.500 he was me. 0.97

00:13:26.260 Okay.

00:13:26.680 You clicked on my face today.

00:13:28.040 Well, congratulations.

00:13:29.300 All right?

00:13:29.620 That's enough said about that.

00:13:33.000 You wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me showing up on this show.

00:13:36.280 All right?

00:13:36.580 What would you be doing with your day?

00:13:38.260 That's what I have to say about that.

00:13:39.520 But, anyway, let's just handle what he said to you.

00:13:41.940 Okay.

00:13:42.700 Essentially, what he went into is the common bitter in all of these things.

00:13:46.780 Well, listen.

00:13:49.040 I'd be pretty bitter, too, if I spent $60,000.

00:13:53.660 I mean, can you?

00:13:54.720 This argument, the men are bitter.

00:13:58.120 Yeah.

00:14:00.560 Number one, if we were in their shoes, we would be pretty.

00:14:05.020 See, women get, do you know what happens? 1.00

00:14:08.020 Women will give a guy their youth, but come out scotch-free. 1.00

00:14:11.840 We don't pay anything.

00:14:13.740 And we get bitter, right?

00:14:16.120 But the men, the men give a woman their youth, which I get it. 1.00

00:14:20.280 It's not the same, but.

00:14:22.400 And then the next 20 years of child support.

00:14:25.000 So, they give them, like, half their life.

00:14:27.580 And somehow, they come out with a good attitude.

00:14:30.080 I don't really know how.

00:14:31.440 I don't really get it.

00:14:33.580 But I'll interview guys that are going through a ton, and they somehow have a great attitude.

00:14:40.520 We try to warm in about these situations.

00:14:42.780 This is why I'm here.

00:14:43.400 When you're saying we, you're talking about, like, the manosphere, the free agent.

00:14:46.160 Well, we, and, like, me, myself.

00:14:46.940 So, what I'm doing is you would hope that there's a person like me speaking out on these issues

00:14:51.500 so you don't walk into issues like that.

00:14:53.380 All right.

00:14:53.700 So, we, you know, I tell people where my flaws were.

00:14:57.060 I tell people where my mistakes from.

00:14:58.340 But what he tried to do was put the mistake back on me when I've already admitted the flaw.

00:15:02.560 It's already in the book, sir.

00:15:04.200 So, what were you trying to accomplish?

00:15:06.180 All right.

00:15:06.420 You were trying to accomplish to try to one-upping or potentially embarrass me.

00:15:09.600 But I've already spoken on the issues.

00:15:10.940 I've actually had it published and all that stuff.

00:15:12.820 So, there's no bitterness other than the male jealousy that you might be trying to do to show me up.

00:15:18.840 But the mistakes have already been admitted.

00:15:21.100 And since I made the mistakes, I made them before you to give you this advice.

00:15:24.820 So, that's okay.

00:15:25.500 You know, some men need to learn.

00:15:27.460 And obviously, his father went out for milk, did not come back.

00:15:31.540 All right.

00:15:31.720 But it's okay.

00:15:33.520 Checks and balances is back.

00:15:35.160 He writes, why not just have trust, offshore accounts, and prenup for asset protection if you want marriage?

00:15:40.780 This is what the top 1% do.

00:15:42.740 It's all legal.

00:15:43.520 Protects you.

00:15:44.240 1,000%.

00:15:44.940 Courts can't touch trust, offshore accounts.

00:15:47.080 It's not entirely true.

00:15:48.460 Correct.

00:15:48.560 But I think that it's not entirely true.

00:15:52.960 But the fact is, if you refrain from getting legally married, that would be your first major step in protection.

00:16:00.340 And one thing I tell the saints is that I prefer to have a woman who's wealthy and beautiful.

00:16:06.020 You heard me?

00:16:06.440 That would be nice.

00:16:07.100 And if I had to pick one, I'm always going for wealthy.

00:16:10.760 Let us mess around in divorce. 0.93

00:16:12.520 She needs to be worried about her assets. 0.96

00:16:14.540 You know what I'm saying?

00:16:15.720 I knew a guy in London, and his strategy was to get really jacked and go after the women that worked in law and finance. 0.94

00:16:26.480 And that way, he was like, I can get a kid out of them.

00:16:29.620 And then when she cheats at work, I can put her on alimony and child support. 1.00

00:16:36.340 I was like, I don't know if that'll work, but, hey, you might as well go for it.

00:16:40.680 That would be the smartest way to do it.

00:16:41.920 Yeah, keep these broke 304s away from your boy. 1.00

00:16:44.360 You dig?

00:16:45.720 Mr. Highway writes, I mainly look at Coach as an old-school anti-marriage paralegal.

00:16:53.880 These boys are wild.

00:16:56.000 These are the paralegal.

00:16:57.340 They get creative.

00:16:58.940 I like it.

00:16:59.480 That's good.

00:17:00.100 Paralegal.

00:17:01.240 Monetize your creativity.

00:17:02.780 The rest of his stances are up to your personal tastes slash preferences as a man.

00:17:08.420 As a paralegal.

00:17:09.500 Paralegal.

00:17:10.160 All right.

00:17:10.920 I like that.

00:17:12.740 Rain Man writes, peace to the saints.

00:17:14.480 If a man wants marriage, what is best for asset protection? 0.90

00:17:18.860 I like CGA to answer first.

00:17:20.640 Then Mark, I don't think CGA.

00:17:22.760 Oh, wow.

00:17:24.080 I don't think he has a real solution.

00:17:25.680 Wowzer.

00:17:26.280 Go ahead.

00:17:26.760 He's never been in a family court.

00:17:27.720 He's never understood this.

00:17:28.800 You never met with a lawyer.

00:17:29.860 Have you ever met with a lawyer?

00:17:30.740 Have you ever met with a lawyer, divorce attorney, or what you're proposing here?

00:17:35.500 You're more likely to hear what I have to say.

00:17:38.720 I'm sorry.

00:17:39.280 You were more likely to hear my response when they tell you the reality of that situation

00:17:43.240 than anything else.

00:17:44.120 So, I mean, it just speaks to the non-experience that you have.

00:17:47.060 I would tell you, if you do go the side of asset protection, it could get kicked out of

00:17:54.620 court.

00:17:55.040 Or, better yet, which most people don't understand, anything could be challenged in court if someone

00:18:01.860 does sue you for it.

00:18:03.180 So, I could have an ironclad prenup. 0.96

00:18:06.580 But if the woman is foolish enough to contest the prenup, you got to pay the cost for the 1.00

00:18:12.320 contested prenup. 0.98

00:18:13.760 So, is the prenup-

00:18:14.540 Yeah, so you basically pay for your wife to sue you.

00:18:17.660 Isn't that rich?

00:18:18.440 Do you know what's crazy?

00:18:19.780 So, I was on Twitter saying she was looking for work.

00:18:22.980 And it was very obvious what she was doing.

00:18:24.700 She was trying to elicit sympathy.

00:18:26.220 Because people knew they were getting divorced. 0.73

00:18:28.880 And she's like, is anyone hiring? 0.99

00:18:30.420 Remembering this bitch was getting $25,000 a month. 1.00

00:18:35.980 $25,000 a month. 1.00

00:18:40.680 The-

00:18:41.920 And saying she needs money. 0.99

00:18:45.840 Could you guys-

00:18:46.920 What would you guys do with $25,000 a month?

00:18:51.080 Valid?

00:18:52.120 It could be, because if they contested and throw the case out, your prenup will stand. 0.99

00:18:57.280 However, you spent the court costs and the time to fight the battle because she was foolish 0.92

00:19:02.460 enough to think that she could defend you or beat you. 0.98

00:19:05.820 So, was it worth it to have the ironclad prenup?

00:19:08.420 Or was it worth the asset protection?

00:19:10.340 Everything could be contested.

00:19:11.540 And this is what people don't understand about law.

00:19:14.840 A person sues you doesn't mean they have a legit reason to sue you.

00:19:18.780 The court will hear-

00:19:19.620 And businessmen understand that better than anybody.

00:19:21.720 See, this is what people-

00:19:22.300 Yeah, businessmen know that.

00:19:23.040 People, they don't understand that.

00:19:24.920 And most people settle.

00:19:26.980 Like, say, for instance, I had an asset protection plan.

00:19:29.900 And I put it in front of the woman. 0.94

00:19:31.340 We married.

00:19:32.280 We divorced.

00:19:33.620 She contested.

00:19:35.880 Most men will fight it and say, F that beat.

00:19:39.580 But the most men- 0.89

00:19:41.680 I'm sorry.

00:19:41.960 Some men will say, F that beat.

00:19:43.320 But some men will say, all right, all right.

00:19:45.480 Right.

00:19:45.800 They'll settle.

00:19:46.440 For sure.

00:19:47.120 And they-

00:19:47.640 So, was the asset protection worth it?

00:19:49.760 You see what I mean?

00:19:50.340 So, it's not a clear and cut and dry answer.

00:19:53.600 You want a solution on a YouTube video.

00:19:56.400 Why don't you invest some money to meet with a divorce attorney instead of using the opinions of us as the end-all, be-all? 0.87

00:20:02.400 That's what I would tell you.

00:20:03.240 And I tell everybody that in my books.

00:20:05.100 And I would tell everybody that on my video.

00:20:06.880 I actually have a free book that tells everybody, go meet with a lawyer.

00:20:10.680 I'm not the end-all, be-all.

00:20:12.560 But I'm telling you the experience, Pierre, because I'm handsome enough for you to click on my face.

00:20:16.520 But anyway.

00:20:16.860 In short, there are a number of tactics you can utilize.

00:20:22.760 And one thing we know for sure is there's asset protection and then there's asset invisibility.

00:20:29.080 It's one thing to protect a known target.

00:20:31.460 That's difficult.

00:20:32.340 It's quite easy to protect a target people don't know about.

00:20:35.740 And they have a conversation, you know, one-on-one in private.

00:20:38.580 And as far as attorneys, attorneys have, for the most part, limited knowledge.

00:20:42.700 If you get to a very high-level attorney, they can make recommendations and introductions to you.

00:20:47.700 When you have an accountant, an attorney, they're a part of your team.

00:20:50.520 And the best one is able to say, hey, man, look, I can tell you how to litigate this if it goes to divorce court.

00:20:56.020 But I can also recommend you to this banker in this particular locality who can set you up with X, Y, and Z.

00:21:01.940 Like, they're a part of a team.

00:21:03.600 And they know how to get things done.

00:21:04.940 That's really what you want.

00:21:05.900 One more thing to that, a lot of times what men find out is when they go this route that some attorneys are a part of the bar association.

00:21:14.500 And they kind of work in collaboration to keep men in a financial position to pay, right?

00:21:20.580 Most litigation.

00:21:21.520 I sat by a guy on a plane, right?

00:21:24.300 And this guy was telling me about his divorce because I'm a plane talker.

00:21:29.540 I know.

00:21:29.860 I'm like the girl you don't want to sit next to on a plane because I'm going to, we're going to chit-chat.

00:21:34.700 Do you know what I mean?

00:21:35.600 Like, this is 2025.

00:21:39.360 I think I should have been alive in the 90s.

00:21:41.180 I think I should have.

00:21:41.900 It's really unfortunate.

00:21:42.620 I mean, I was like four.

00:21:43.700 But it's unfortunate because now people just stare at their phones and whatever.

00:21:48.560 I'm a chit-chatter. 0.90

00:21:49.400 Now, so when I was on the plane, he was telling me how he hired an attorney.

00:21:55.660 And the attorney was doing such a good job that he started arguing for the attorney.

00:22:00.120 Or a bad job, sorry.

00:22:01.640 A bad job that he started arguing for the attorney.

00:22:04.780 Fired him on the spot and then represented himself.

00:22:08.500 And I think it's, and then one, custody of his kid.

00:22:12.020 And I think it's because, like, I think a lot of men, I've heard that a lot of men can argue their cases better than the attorneys.

00:22:20.880 I've heard that.

00:22:21.640 Because, like, the bar association, that would make sense.

00:22:25.420 Because if you're a rich guy, they want to keep you in court forever.

00:22:29.680 Why would they not, you know?

00:22:31.900 And these divorces that you're trying to say are brought forth by women. 1.00

00:22:36.260 Oh, absolutely.

00:22:36.900 Right?

00:22:37.200 So overwhelming majority.

00:22:38.140 Overwhelming majority.

00:22:38.960 We're talking about 80, 90%.

00:22:40.000 If women were unable to bring these cases forward, there would be no court. 1.00

00:22:44.520 There would be no attorneys.

00:22:45.580 These people wouldn't have jobs. 0.55

00:22:46.740 In essence, their solution sometimes, and you'll find this, I've had attorneys tell me, well, just pay the money, don't fight.

00:22:54.800 I've been told that more than to fight.

00:22:58.020 Correct.

00:22:58.560 Yeah.

00:22:58.840 And I've been told that in terms of.

00:23:00.580 And I'm not talking about in terms of women, just in general.

00:23:02.580 In general.

00:23:03.020 In general, yeah.

00:23:03.640 And sometimes, yeah, it's better to just pay the money.

00:23:05.800 So in essence, you might think these attorneys are going to give you advice to asset protect.

00:23:09.840 But their real key is to keep these things going.

00:23:14.240 Their money is in bringing women to the court. 0.99

00:23:16.740 Their money is not in to keep them.

00:23:19.440 So let's see what we got.

00:23:22.780 So then we got, there is no God in marriage in the United States.

00:23:27.360 People on the way. 0.99

00:23:28.060 Oh, is this when he kicked Hafiz's butt? 0.99

00:23:30.300 Oh, this was so funny. 0.99

00:23:33.680 Oh, this was one of the funniest things.

00:23:39.760 So if you guys didn't know, Hafiz debated CGA on this show.

00:23:45.460 And by the way, this is pretty early when I got into the Manosphere.

00:23:49.540 This is like two or three years ago.

00:23:51.500 Let me see the date on this.

00:23:53.180 Two years ago.

00:23:54.980 Okay.

00:23:55.920 And I debated Hafiz the next day.

00:24:00.020 And he just like spurred out on me.

00:24:02.500 It was like the weirdest.

00:24:03.600 It was just, it was just strange.

00:24:08.400 But I didn't know he got like dunked on by CGA.

00:24:11.900 Yeah.

00:24:12.020 So no question.

00:24:12.800 So Hafiz, what's your issue with this?

00:24:14.200 Go ahead.

00:24:14.220 So it's always an interesting conversation because to me, like one of the things I'm

00:24:19.740 obsessed with, and Dr. Peterson talks about this so well, is that the more your words

00:24:24.140 are in line with the truth, the more powerful those words are.

00:24:28.440 And I don't know where you are, if you believe in God or not.

00:24:31.000 I don't know who kind of person you are.

00:24:32.440 But like, like when you line your words up with God, like that's when to me, your words

00:24:37.940 have the most weight.

00:24:38.820 Dr. Peterson, that's why I feel like he's so powerful.

00:24:41.640 His words transcend humanity and it speaks on this divine level.

00:24:45.400 And so to me, when you're giving advice, your advice has to be as in line with what God believes

00:24:51.140 the world should run as possible. 0.99

00:24:54.920 That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. 0.98

00:24:56.680 The equivalent of that would me be saying, me saying, just assume your wife, your girlfriend, 0.99

00:25:05.020 before she met you, she was a virgin because that's how God wanted the world to run. 0.80

00:25:13.240 Don't, don't assume she hooked up with guys before you don't know.

00:25:18.360 God wanted her to be a virgin. 0.59

00:25:20.380 So she's a virgin.

00:25:21.640 And so to me, the best advice benefits men and benefits women. 0.99

00:25:27.180 That's the best advice.

00:25:28.480 To your opinion, we had 70 years of advice only benefiting women and men suffering as

00:25:34.200 because of it.

00:25:34.840 That is a lie.

00:25:36.020 That is wrong.

00:25:37.380 And an opposite extreme is wrong as well.

00:25:39.700 A world where it all benefits men and the women don't benefit, it's wrong.

00:25:43.380 That's why it's about the balance.

00:25:44.860 And so to me, I'm very curious about, I love her questions because it was like, it's not

00:25:50.740 a gotcha question.

00:25:51.880 It was a genuine, serious question.

00:25:53.940 Shout out my guy, AMS.

00:25:55.040 I love AMS.

00:25:55.940 He did a video about, you know, advice I would give to my daughter where he actually answers

00:26:01.100 the questions directly.

00:26:02.840 And so to me, I, I'm very interested in those questions because like when I would watch Kevin

00:26:08.640 Samuels and God rest the dead, and it was so powerful because he would always push women 1.00

00:26:14.860 to being married because he knew.

00:26:18.240 Do you think these hoes want to get married? 1.00

00:26:22.260 Like this is, this is the problem.

00:26:24.280 YouTubers start to think, they start to think they're literally God.

00:26:27.960 Right.

00:26:28.560 And they think that if you like, this is what I get a lot.

00:26:32.780 They're like, Pearl, why don't you tell women to be better? 1.00

00:26:35.420 Why don't like, why don't you have a solution?

00:26:37.000 Do you think, let me, okay, let me, let me, let me get this straight. 0.99

00:26:43.800 Pearl saying, don't divorce, rape your husband. 1.00

00:26:49.760 Like imagine you guys who have been married before your ex-wives. 0.86

00:26:53.600 Imagine if they saw my video and I was saying, guys, do not put your husbands through hell

00:26:59.380 in divorce court.

00:27:00.280 Don't get divorced.

00:27:01.800 You know what they would have said?

00:27:02.740 Next video.

00:27:07.380 Do you think I am going to stop a scorned woman? 1.00

00:27:11.140 You guys have got to be out of your freaking mind if you think I have that kind of pull. 0.99

00:27:16.600 Nope. 0.97

00:27:17.020 I just tried to say, hey, this is where the world's going.

00:27:19.900 Adapt.

00:27:20.480 Dude, the beauty and the value and the protection and the safety, like, like, you know, being

00:27:25.260 a woman and being married, nobody wants their daughter to be 41 years old, single mom,

00:27:30.200 baby mama of three.

00:27:31.220 Nobody wants that for their daughter, especially if they want kids.

00:27:33.720 So to me, I think the, the, the, the part of the conversation needs to be, is this information

00:27:39.580 benefiting both human beings?

00:27:43.540 That's, is it benefiting both human beings?

00:27:49.220 My question is, is it true, right?

00:27:53.680 Gen Z is the most, the biggest group of women ever to be on OnlyFans. 0.57

00:27:57.700 That's not a fun thing to admit, but is it true?

00:28:01.360 When you're on team men, it only needs to benefit team men.

00:28:04.140 If you're on team Republican, it only needs to benefit team Republican.

00:28:06.860 If you're on team America, it has to benefit all Americans.

00:28:09.240 If you're on team human, it has to benefit both males and females.

00:28:11.440 So that's why I loved her questions, because I think the best, like, I can give my hardcore

00:28:17.240 advice to benefit men.

00:28:19.060 And I know without a shadow of a doubt, the most hardcore advice that benefits men simultaneously

00:28:24.100 benefits women.

00:28:25.300 One more thing I'll add to that.

00:28:26.560 And I hope you, I don't mean to offend you.

00:28:28.540 There's no God in marriage in the United States.

00:28:30.220 Oh, he just dunked on his head.

00:28:38.060 CGA is so good.

00:28:39.060 They need to, I wish I could see CGA on like Pierce Morgan or something.

00:28:43.740 Like I would love, it's so unfortunate because I get invited on these shows and I, you know,

00:28:49.760 I'm happy to be invited.

00:28:50.840 I'm going to do, you know, the best I like, I'm going to do the best I can.

00:28:55.180 I'm going to, I, I do my best.

00:28:57.420 Right.

00:28:58.160 But some of these guys are just, they are such good debaters and they would kill on some

00:29:08.100 of these big shows, but they'll never have them on because, um, I mean, it's just how

00:29:14.900 these big shows operate.

00:29:16.420 They, I think they would be too detrimental.

00:29:18.780 Like they would just kill and they would make the hosts look so bad.

00:29:22.320 They just wouldn't do it.

00:29:23.420 That's kind of misleading.

00:29:24.540 And people will find that out.

00:29:25.880 If your marriage is destroyed, you go back to your pastor and you say, Hey, my marriage

00:29:29.640 is being destroyed.

00:29:30.400 He has no power over that because it is a state agreement.

00:29:33.540 So I will bring you back to make sure you understand.

00:29:36.500 And I counsel men, there's no God in marriage. 0.97

00:29:38.620 That's been gone.

00:29:39.400 Listen, it was an old idea.

00:29:40.780 It's absolutely gone unless you live in an American South. 0.99

00:29:43.800 So you, most people on the West coast, many people in the East Midwest, there's no God in

00:29:47.580 marriage.

00:29:47.940 So we don't know what you mean there's no God in marriage.

00:29:50.480 There's no God in marriage.

00:29:51.100 So people get married.

00:29:52.580 One of the things that they will do is they will seek counsel of the church.

00:29:55.860 And then as such, the guys will give them guidance and it will be biblical principle.

00:30:00.360 However, they will say, we can't do anything until you sign this state sponsored agreement

00:30:04.940 with family law context.

00:30:07.380 All right.

00:30:07.640 They're not going to have a Bible in there.

00:30:09.440 They're not going to have a Bible in that divorce court. 1.00

00:30:11.300 The judge is not going to ask you, do you like God?

00:30:13.540 And what about God in your marriage?

00:30:15.040 There will be no context to that.

00:30:16.940 How many of you guys got divorced by a Christian woman?

00:30:24.720 Happens to the best of us.

00:30:26.620 It really does.

00:30:27.680 They're very good at deception.

00:30:29.820 They learn it from a young age.

00:30:31.400 Cause think, think about, all right. 0.99

00:30:33.800 If our nature as women is just whores, like, let's just be honest here. 1.00

00:30:37.620 When women are given freedom, we just pick whore. 1.00

00:30:39.800 And so the Christian women from a young age have had to hide the whore, right? 1.00

00:30:47.920 They've had to, you know, from as young as we want to be whores, we have to hide the whore. 1.00

00:30:55.660 So the Christian women are almost the most deceptive. 1.00

00:30:59.700 It's like the biggest red flag. 0.97

00:31:01.860 And such as such, what is the overriding principle here?

00:31:05.680 Does he have a point there?

00:31:06.320 Your marriage is state funded, not God funded.

00:31:08.160 God, that was such a good line.

00:31:10.580 Sorry, I'm getting, I don't mean to scream.

00:31:12.380 Sorry, guys.

00:31:13.540 But God, you hear that?

00:31:15.200 Your marriage is state funded, not God funded.

00:31:18.500 Imagine if he said that on like Pierce Morgan or something.

00:31:20.980 I wish one day they do.

00:31:22.960 You made a random point.

00:31:24.300 I didn't make it random.

00:31:25.080 I told you that this will offend you.

00:31:27.180 So first, was I, what did I say?

00:31:27.780 And it's now offended you.

00:31:29.180 What did I say?

00:31:29.680 No, it didn't offend me.

00:31:30.280 You're just wrong.

00:31:30.940 Let me, let me say, but I'm wrong.

00:31:32.140 Wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:31:32.660 Let me, let me finish.

00:31:33.120 I'm absolutely right.

00:31:33.840 Let me finish.

00:31:34.440 There's no God in the marriage in the United States.

00:31:36.760 Let me finish, then you can talk.

00:31:37.320 Let me finish.

00:31:37.980 No, no, hold on for a second.

00:31:38.740 Let me, let me, let me finish.

00:31:39.920 Are you going to say, there's no God in marriage in the United States?

00:31:42.840 Coach, finish your point.

00:31:43.900 You're saying there's no, there's no God in marriage in the United States.

00:31:46.460 Correct.

00:31:46.980 Got it.

00:31:47.400 That was his point.

00:31:48.200 So now, now I'm going to talk.

00:31:49.900 So I made a point and I said, if your truth aligns with God, that truth is most powerful.

00:31:57.340 That's what I said.

00:31:58.660 If your truth aligns with God, meaning the word that you speak aligns with God, those words

00:32:04.260 are the most powerful.

00:32:05.060 That he made a point saying there is no God in marriage.

00:32:07.740 So, so first as a semantic thing, because God is everywhere, whether God chooses to supervene

00:32:18.880 in things or not, I am, I will never be the person that says God is not here.

00:32:24.100 I will never be the person that says God is not present here.

00:32:27.860 Could we argue that, that is God blessing every American Western marriage?

00:32:32.440 Of course not.

00:32:33.200 Of course, God is not blessing every American, but God is.

00:32:36.520 So this right here, this is when men cope, right?

00:32:39.860 This is the problem.

00:32:41.120 At this point, he's met a hot young thing that he's trying to, that's convincing him

00:32:46.260 that she's different. 0.89

00:32:47.220 And he's got to cope now because he's got to cope because he doesn't want to get screwed.

00:32:56.960 So he has to rationalize that this girl is different and marriage is not dead, right? 0.78

00:33:03.640 That's what he's trying to rationalize.

00:33:05.360 And you guys have all done it.

00:33:06.880 Some girl gives you the gluck gluck and you're like, ah, she's so different.

00:33:10.860 And I love her.

00:33:14.520 She had to give a lot of gluck glucks to, to get that good, right? 0.99

00:33:18.860 You guys, you guys forget about that at times.

00:33:21.440 So yeah, this is a cope right here.

00:33:24.780 Cope.

00:33:25.540 Definitely in my parents' marriage.

00:33:27.000 So when you say there is absolute statements, there is no God in marriage.

00:33:32.000 False.

00:33:32.800 They're correct.

00:33:33.740 There is no God in some marriages.

00:33:36.600 There is no God in most.

00:33:37.900 See, that's, he's rationalizing.

00:33:40.340 He's saying, my, my girl is different.

00:33:43.400 She is not different at all.

00:33:47.540 You could do like the SpongeBob.

00:33:50.400 Whenever he gets divorced, I'm sure it'll happen.

00:33:52.900 I just can't imagine a girl. 0.84

00:33:55.060 You can just tell when men have developed frame.

00:33:58.120 Sometimes it takes like half their lives to get it.

00:34:01.180 He's not there yet.

00:34:02.300 He's too emotional.

00:34:03.100 Most marriages in regards to Biden being there.

00:34:05.720 No, God means that God's not blessing it, right?

00:34:08.380 So if you're saying that God is not blessing what's happening in most marriages, that is

00:34:12.480 a true statement.

00:34:13.540 But to say there is no God in marriages, period, that is a false statement.

00:34:18.760 See, they're always arguing like a woman, right? 1.00

00:34:22.380 Because that's what women do. 1.00

00:34:23.640 We have a tendency.

00:34:24.560 See, they say you can't make generalization.

00:34:30.900 So if CGA is making a generalization about marriage in the United States, which is, you

00:34:36.560 know, it's unilaterally true, right?

00:34:38.940 We have exported our bad marriages overseas.

00:34:43.480 You know, that's why they say get, oh no, my girl got westernized.

00:34:47.200 Because in the West, we have the worst reputation of marriage.

00:34:52.420 Okay, the worst.

00:34:57.700 Anyways, so he is obviously going to cope.

00:35:05.360 He's going to cope.

00:35:06.400 Because God is in my marriage and God is also in my parents' marriage.

00:35:09.740 And I will continue to say, when it comes to even understanding the ideas of God, God

00:35:14.880 gives human beings free will.

00:35:17.600 It's a very simple concept.

00:35:19.460 You can freely sin or you can freely obey.

00:35:22.660 And God, like a good father, if you want to touch the stove, you can touch the stove.

00:35:27.180 And so to me, I just think when you're making, when people make statements like this, how...

00:35:32.140 This statement makes me feel icky.

00:35:34.860 That's what he's saying.

00:35:35.980 Like, how do you expect people to feel?

00:35:37.880 There is no...

00:35:39.280 What are you, a woman? 1.00

00:35:42.200 I want anybody to feel.

00:35:43.140 I want them to know.

00:35:44.460 I want them to know.

00:35:45.080 Yeah, but okay.

00:35:46.440 Do you know what?

00:35:47.000 He did this to me when I had him on.

00:35:49.560 Is he just monologues.

00:35:51.860 And then if you interrupt him, he's like, I'm still talking.

00:35:54.320 I'm like, bet you've been talking for like 20 minutes.

00:35:57.120 Hey, hey, hey.

00:35:57.700 We wanted them to know.

00:35:58.640 We can't feel anything.

00:35:59.800 I'm talking.

00:35:59.980 I'm talking.

00:36:00.720 And then you get the opportunity to talk.

00:36:02.480 So to me, how do you expect people to react?

00:36:04.700 And so my biggest thing is that what I'm only communicating in regards to the marriages is that if you are a man, do your due diligence.

00:36:12.780 Be able to see if she fits your life.

00:36:15.140 Be able to see what is her family background.

00:36:17.540 You can't protect yourself 100% from business failure, from friendship failure, from anything in life.

00:36:23.560 But there is wisdom.

00:36:24.920 There is godly principles that you can adhere to that can benefit you.

00:36:28.660 But there's no absolute guarantees that everything in life will be successful.

00:36:32.340 No one's teaching anybody that.

00:36:34.060 And I'm not the most religious person here.

00:36:35.700 So let me just give that disclaimer out there.

00:36:37.420 You either.

00:36:37.880 Yeah, yeah.

00:36:38.360 But I feel like God is all faith.

00:36:42.080 It's all, I believe in this.

00:36:44.220 And no matter what you tell me, you're not going to convince me otherwise.

00:36:47.560 Because this is what I believe.

00:36:49.060 I'm sure that there's tons of marriages out there that they believe. 0.78

00:36:51.780 They go to church every Sunday, and then next thing you know, they get divorced.

00:36:55.600 And God was in their marriage.

00:36:57.220 So I'm just trying to establish what a godless marriage is or a God-filled marriage is.

00:37:03.900 Like, how that genuinely curiosity, like, how that works.

00:37:08.100 Because he's saying no.

00:37:08.760 Is Nala in a God-filled marriage? 0.84

00:37:12.780 I think what Coach is basically saying is like, look, I don't care if you're going to church every Sunday or not.

00:37:17.620 At the end of the day, your marriage is between you, your significant other, and the state.

00:37:22.340 Right here on Earth.

00:37:22.940 Forget about it.

00:37:23.580 Not in the clouds.

00:37:24.240 That's essentially what you're saying.

00:37:25.660 Did you ask him a question?

00:37:26.160 No, I'm just bringing this out to the panel.

00:37:28.620 What we tell people is that hope is not a strategy.

00:37:31.480 All right?

00:37:31.820 Hope is not a strategy in anything.

00:37:33.240 I hope my business goes well.

00:37:34.720 I hope I don't get injured today.

00:37:36.360 I hope I succeed today.

00:37:37.920 We tell people real-life principles, all right?

00:37:39.700 We don't live in the clouds.

00:37:40.640 We live here on Earth, whether you believe this is heaven or hell.

00:37:43.380 So I want you guys to understand, you're dealing with Earth here, and this is a reality.

00:37:48.660 Are you a believer?

00:37:49.500 Absolutely not.

00:37:50.280 You're not a believer of God?

00:37:51.800 No, no.

00:37:52.200 Okay, but obviously, Hafiz, you are.

00:37:54.100 Were you ever a believer?

00:37:54.980 So how can you?

00:37:55.700 Now he's going to morality signal.

00:37:58.820 You're a non-believer. 0.84

00:38:00.260 I'm better than you.

00:38:01.640 My marriage will be different because I'm more moral. 0.99

00:38:07.020 Yeah, I mean, the Christian guys get screwed the worst. 1.00

00:38:10.740 Here's the deal. 0.98

00:38:11.900 What tends to happen is people are introduced to things based on someone else's biases, okay?

00:38:19.380 And those biases are introduced to children and so forth and so on.

00:38:22.200 So, yes, at some point, that was the only story I knew until I investigated on my own,

00:38:26.480 decided as a man what principles to stand on, and then realized I don't live by hope.

00:38:32.000 I don't live by cope.

00:38:33.280 I live with what's real here. 0.99

00:38:35.020 And let's talk about what's real instead of the mystique of this damn thing here. 0.97

00:38:38.600 What's real is hope is not a strategy. 0.96

00:38:40.560 So if you don't...

00:38:41.220 I love it.

00:38:41.680 Can I address it real quick?

00:38:42.520 Yeah, yeah, go ahead.

00:38:43.220 Yeah.

00:38:43.640 So first and foremost, like I said, it's very interesting.

00:38:46.200 I've always told you, you got to hear someone's background, and then you know where they lean.

00:38:49.960 That's where you know where their vice gears towards. 0.98

00:38:51.620 So it's such a...

00:38:53.460 Even when I talk about God, like the idea of God in his brain is not the idea I'm talking about.

00:39:00.260 It's this interesting verse in the Bible.

00:39:01.560 I won't get too lost in the sauce.

00:39:02.760 In the book of Isaiah, where God is...

00:39:05.500 Somebody's like farming, and he's talking about the intricacies of farming.

00:39:10.660 And he says, even that wisdom comes from God.

00:39:13.640 God is not the God of get married happily ever after. 0.99

00:39:16.600 That's foolishness.

00:39:18.280 It's God gives you wisdom.

00:39:19.660 What is the wisdom?

00:39:21.180 Actually do premarital counseling.

00:39:24.040 Yeah, so then your pastor can tell you how to run your household instead of you.

00:39:30.620 That's a great idea, Hafeez.

00:39:32.520 What is the wisdom?

00:39:33.360 Actually be able to decide, okay, if things don't work out, what are we going to do?

00:39:37.400 Where are the kids going to go?

00:39:38.400 What's the money going to go?

00:39:40.420 Yeah, because women never change their mind. 1.00

00:39:44.220 Things are going to work out.

00:39:45.120 If she says it, it totally will happen.

00:39:47.280 Who's going to be the primary brainwander?

00:39:48.720 Who's not?

00:39:49.260 God gives you the wisdom to be intelligent, to be able to navigate.

00:39:53.460 Hope is not a strategy.

00:39:54.680 100% right.

00:39:55.660 Hope is not a strategy.

00:39:56.720 But God's message is not just simply blind hope.

00:39:59.920 It's wisdom.

00:40:01.120 Literally, Jesus said, be as wise as a serpent, but as innocent as a dove.

00:40:04.760 You have to understand what does a serpent do?

00:40:07.280 He's able to navigate on this earth.

00:40:09.280 So 100% right.

00:40:11.080 No one's teaching hope as a strategy.

00:40:12.720 That's a straw man argument.

00:40:14.400 True godly wisdom is relevant.

00:40:16.700 True godly wisdom is what made Adam a millionaire.

00:40:19.460 True godly wisdom is what made Patrick Bette David build this amazing company.

00:40:23.560 It's actual practical step-by-step guidance that benefits people's lives.

00:40:28.040 So no one's talking about hope.

00:40:29.160 He just like, he doesn't say anything.

00:40:33.040 Hope being a strategy, simply pray to God in your mouth.

00:40:35.580 Look at his face.

00:40:39.380 That's a guy that's going to divorce court. 1.00

00:40:41.960 We'll see you back in seven years, Hafiz.

00:40:45.660 Whenever you guys have your two kids, and yeah, we'll be back.

00:40:50.240 Marriage is going to work out. 0.98

00:40:51.060 That's foolishness. 0.94

00:40:52.100 What did I say? 0.95

00:40:53.080 Naivete?

00:40:54.260 Nihilism.

00:40:55.040 Realism is in the middle.

00:40:56.080 No one's saying being naive.

00:40:57.140 So when I'm talking about godliness in marriage, those are certain principles and wisdoms.

00:41:04.100 Is it going to make your, is it going to be that if you follow God, you'll never get a divorce?

00:41:08.540 No.

00:41:09.500 There's nothing in life where nothing bad is going to happen.

00:41:13.040 You can do everything.

00:41:13.860 Okay, but this is, I hate this argument.

00:41:16.080 So I'll make the argument.

00:41:17.580 Well, like businesses fail.

00:41:19.800 Yeah, I mean, businesses do fail.

00:41:21.460 But if I knew that if I started a business for 20 years, I would have to be paying that business back and also having that business trying to ruin my reputation and also having that business try to steal my children, I might think about just going and working for a company.

00:41:46.340 Right?

00:41:47.020 Or, you know, if, because I think I calculated it once, I'd have to go through the numbers, but let's say there's a 5% death rate if I start a business, which is probably similar out of 100 divorces, you know, men are nine times more likely to commit suicide.

00:42:08.400 If I knew suicide, if I knew suicide was on the table when I started a business, I don't know, I might, I might think twice before doing it, right?

00:42:18.540 I might, hmm, right?

00:42:24.200 So I don't know if this is the same.

00:42:26.040 Everything the right way and the wrong thing can still happen.

00:42:28.100 But does that mean you do things the wrong way?

00:42:29.960 Absolutely.

00:42:30.660 Yep.

00:42:33.420 Yeah, I mean, yes. 0.98

00:42:35.460 If, okay, option A, don't live or have sex with a woman and then get married. 0.94

00:42:41.340 Option B, live with her first.

00:42:44.060 Make her date you for a long time.

00:42:46.640 Don't court her at all.

00:42:50.260 Option B is way smarter than just, oh, after a year, I haven't even hit.

00:42:57.340 Let me give you the rest of my life to F me and give you the greatest honor I could ever

00:43:04.240 give a woman for free. 1.00

00:43:06.140 You're not.

00:43:07.220 And so my biggest thing is that we need to give men as much practical wisdom and women

00:43:13.200 as well.

00:43:13.920 Give them as much practical wisdom that can build a healthy, successful marriage.

00:43:18.680 When he talks about don't get married without leverage, I guarantee if he expounds upon leverage,

00:43:23.520 those are all godly principles.

00:43:24.960 Those are all biblical principles that what he's going to describe and what he defines

00:43:29.240 as leverage, being masculine, you know what I mean?

00:43:31.420 Protecting your assets, all the things he would describe as leverage, that is godly wisdom.

00:43:36.140 What does that even mean?

00:43:38.960 Okay, the only, men have zero leverage in marriage. 0.93

00:43:41.800 The only leverage that you have as a man is cheating.

00:43:44.760 That's it. 1.00

00:43:47.720 Act up, bitch. 1.00

00:43:49.720 I'm going to cheat. 1.00

00:43:52.840 That's it.

00:43:53.680 I mean, or divorcing her.

00:43:55.740 But I mean, she doesn't like you anyway.

00:43:58.260 So like, obviously she doesn't.

00:44:00.440 He may not view it as godly because his view of God is just some old white man in the clouds 0.95

00:44:04.520 telling you to simply just do whatever you want.

00:44:07.000 Right.

00:44:07.200 But to me, true godly wisdom is relevant.

00:44:10.440 It's practical. 0.99

00:44:11.980 Okay, shut up. 0.99

00:44:14.400 Do you know what I mean? 1.00

00:44:15.420 I don't care.

00:44:16.840 Now, so I did an interview with CGA and the audio is a little off, so you'll have to bear

00:44:25.360 with me.

00:44:25.880 But it's me like two years ago, and I don't want to hear anything about me looking younger.

00:44:32.220 I look the exact same.

00:44:33.740 I don't want to hear a single thing.

00:44:35.620 I don't want to hear.

00:44:37.400 All right.

00:44:38.000 So this is me two years ago.

00:44:40.380 Okay, here we go.

00:44:42.560 Most marriages are going to end in a divorce, and the laws are going to be dictated based 0.96

00:44:48.640 on your country or your city or your state.

00:44:51.240 So they're all different.

00:44:52.580 And if you just happen to so get divorced in a place where the laws suck, then it's going 1.00

00:45:00.280 to be a worse experience. 0.99

00:45:01.500 Some people get divorced in a place where they don't suck or they just halfway suck. 1.00

00:45:05.580 So it just depends on your state. 0.97

00:45:07.720 Like California, for instance, is considered one of the worst places to get divorced. 1.00

00:45:12.420 I was getting divorced in California.

00:45:14.900 So my whole perspective of divorce is like, whoa, all right, these people, as a matter of

00:45:20.520 fact, some of the most wealthiest divorce attorneys are in California.

00:45:24.460 So they have an incentive to people get divorced.

00:45:27.360 They want people to get divorced, obviously, to stay in business. 0.94

00:45:30.220 And when you find that out, the divorce laws are then introduced to most men at that point.

00:45:37.940 Now, my content, we introduced the divorce laws to men before they get married.

00:45:43.180 So that gives them an idea of what they're getting into.

00:45:46.980 Most men aren't introduced to divorce laws until... 0.99

00:45:50.180 Doug MPA says marriage is like a man having a chain around his waist and he's pulling a

00:45:55.400 sled up the hill.

00:45:56.580 On the sled is a woman stabbing him in the back with a small knife a thousand times. 0.63

00:46:01.640 The woman says, I'm divorcing you.

00:46:07.200 And then it's done.

00:46:08.280 Because the women were basically paid to leave, aren't we? 1.00

00:46:11.960 You have great incentives.

00:46:13.660 Yeah.

00:46:14.100 What incentives are those?

00:46:15.620 Great incentives.

00:46:16.380 I mean, incentives to be supported by what they would call maintenance, spousal support,

00:46:21.180 or alimony.

00:46:21.840 Those are all...

00:46:22.740 Maintenance, spousal support, and alimony.

00:46:25.020 They're considered the same thing.

00:46:26.080 Just depending on where you are, what state you are, those three words are used interchangeably.

00:46:29.640 But oddly enough, feminists are opposed to that as well. 1.00

00:46:34.320 Oh, they're opposed to that.

00:46:36.140 Most staunch feminists don't like maintenance or spousal support either. 1.00

00:46:41.640 This is what people don't understand.

00:46:43.220 They think feminists are just going to agree to have an advantage in the family court. 1.00

00:46:47.080 They look at that as a negative as well, because they want to be able to be self-supportive

00:46:51.380 and all of that stuff.

00:46:53.220 So, yeah.

00:46:53.780 Really?

00:46:54.200 The feminists I've talked to, I'll tell them to get a job. 1.00

00:46:58.360 Instead of, like, trying to cash out.

00:47:02.560 Some feminists are not really feminists. 1.00

00:47:04.440 Yeah.

00:47:04.780 We attribute the word, we use that as a blanket term to describe people who, like the red 1.00

00:47:10.200 hair, crazy feminists. 1.00

00:47:12.540 Those are, those people typically more agree with many red pill guys. 0.98

00:47:17.600 There's just a kind of different call to action.

00:47:20.040 I think some people ride the wave of feminism. 1.00

00:47:22.820 They're not really feminists. 1.00

00:47:24.040 Mm-hmm.

00:47:24.760 Mm-hmm.

00:47:25.720 So, and then what about child support?

00:47:27.880 So, there's, you got those, yeah.

00:47:29.960 Child support?

00:47:30.500 Yeah, yeah.

00:47:30.860 Tell me about child support.

00:47:31.840 Child support is the evil impetus or, or, or, or spousal support.

00:47:36.020 And then you have child support, which is a second payment.

00:47:39.440 It's calculated completely different from spousal support.

00:47:42.960 Spousal support.

00:47:43.380 So, this was kind of before, this was before I started doing the interviews with the divorced

00:47:49.780 men.

00:47:51.080 So, this interview was actually really impactful for me to my understanding of the family court

00:47:58.480 system.

00:47:59.420 Because again, I came from, my parents have been married 30 years and most people around

00:48:05.620 me were married.

00:48:06.400 And if they did get divorced, do you know what's weird?

00:48:09.420 I've probably seen more divorces when I was 16 and up than, like, people didn't really get

00:48:14.920 divorced in my, like, small community in middle school.

00:48:17.820 There was, like, one or two.

00:48:19.460 So, I didn't really know.

00:48:23.020 I don't know.

00:48:23.780 It's kind of, the way I say it is, once you see it, you can't unsee it.

00:48:27.440 So, at this point, I'm sort of waking up to just how bad it is for men.

00:48:34.360 And CGA, you know, I'm forever grateful to him because, you know, he took the, he took,

00:48:41.400 like, I think this interview was, like, two or three hours.

00:48:43.460 He took the time out of his day to sit down and explain all this stuff for me.

00:48:47.400 And this video did really well before YouTube made me pull it.

00:48:51.220 Yeah.

00:48:51.780 Court dictated on how long you were married.

00:48:54.700 And that's like alimony.

00:48:56.440 Okay.

00:48:56.880 So, depending on how long you were married or who was the primary breadwinner, which

00:49:01.600 typically is mostly men because that's how women select. 0.99

00:49:04.520 But child support is based on how many kids you have.

00:49:06.860 If I have kids in a prior relationship, if my income's significantly greater than hers,

00:49:12.320 it depends on what state.

00:49:14.180 So, then you can get a double penalty.

00:49:16.500 You leave out paying spousal support and child support.

00:49:20.100 And they're both, sometimes they're both collected by different agencies.

00:49:23.760 So, yeah, because that was the big, like, shock to me is, like, women are basically, because isn't child support dictated by how much, like, who has the kids? 0.68

00:49:34.520 So, it almost gives women incentive to take the kids. 1.00

00:49:38.680 To fight for the custody, yes.

00:49:39.680 Yeah, because then they get more money.

00:49:41.320 Most typically, you're going to hear a woman say, I want primary custody, right? 1.00

00:49:46.040 Which is going to mean she wants an advantage on that time-wise.

00:49:49.460 But the excuse they'll use is that I raised the kids.

00:49:52.660 I was a primary parent.

00:49:55.680 He worked.

00:49:56.300 He traveled.

00:49:56.800 He was never there.

00:49:57.620 He cheated.

00:49:58.240 Whatever it is to get out of that, he can't take care of them because he works a certain schedule.

00:50:02.780 He travels.

00:50:03.800 He's an alcoholic. 1.00

00:50:04.680 He's an abuser. 1.00

00:50:05.780 That's why he shouldn't have the kids. 0.99

00:50:07.380 That's how it's framed.

00:50:08.940 But we have to understand that there's a calculation going to give her more money the more time she has. 1.00

00:50:15.460 But here's the trip.

00:50:16.800 You want to hear something funny?

00:50:17.980 When we say that, most people say, no, that's not the case.

00:50:22.220 She just wants more time to give the kids more stability. 0.97

00:50:25.340 Right.

00:50:25.460 But men will say, I deserve my parental rights to have the kid equal time.

00:50:34.100 You know what?

00:50:34.520 He just wants more time so he can pay less child support.

00:50:39.020 Oh.

00:50:40.540 So it's like a lose-lose.

00:50:42.680 Yeah, because I just said she wants more time to get more child support. 1.00

00:50:46.020 So they then switched it back and say, he just wants more time so he can pay less child support.

00:50:51.120 Yeah, and that's what I really did not understand.

00:50:54.460 When I first started watching Red Pill content, I was like, why are these guys so against marriage?

00:50:59.200 Like, this seems like a great thing.

00:51:01.760 I mean, if it was controlled by church, controlled by communities, this is how communities are built.

00:51:09.340 So people think that I'm anti-marriage, but I'm pretty traditional in the aspect of the best way to raise children in a two-parent household.

00:51:16.740 I know that.

00:51:17.420 I understand that.

00:51:18.480 But we can't even do that.

00:51:19.920 We can't do that as a community.

00:51:21.880 So what happens is the state has to get involved.

00:51:25.120 And the state has to do its best to find a way to support women who are now volunteering themselves out of marriage. 0.76

00:51:32.080 But the resources that they reach to eventually, and then there's also a penalty to the guy saying, well, you married her.

00:51:38.400 So thus, you have to support her to a certain extent.

00:51:41.720 And for a long time, it was like you have to support her until she can get on her feet.

00:51:46.560 Get a job.

00:51:47.880 That's right.

00:51:48.320 But you're also saying the women who said, I quit my job, my career, to be a mother and a wife.

00:51:57.320 You got lucky.

00:51:58.260 Right.

00:51:58.600 That's what I said.

00:51:59.540 I'm like, why are you entitled to money?

00:52:01.880 Half the time, they're the ones leaving.

00:52:03.920 Half the time.

00:52:04.980 It's almost damn near all the time.

00:52:07.040 Well, and even that statistic is skewed, right?

00:52:10.420 So we say 70 percent of the divorces are filed by women and then 80 or 90 percent when it's college educated. 0.74

00:52:15.920 But that's but that's skewed because a lot of times women won't file the divorce to punish the man. 1.00

00:52:22.400 Oh, shut up. 0.99

00:52:23.520 I've never thought about. 1.00

00:52:24.480 So what happens is that the guy says, I'm leaving you for another woman.

00:52:28.000 Well, legally, she's not going to file a divorce because he's going to marry another woman or he's going to be out there dating.

00:52:36.480 So in order to prevent him from finding another partner, she'll stop the divorce proceedings or at least halt it.

00:52:43.060 Yeah.

00:52:43.600 So there's a lot more.

00:52:44.980 So then but by that point, the guy says, I'll file.

00:52:48.260 So then he files and gets the process started.

00:52:51.400 That's only one of the because otherwise he knows he's going to lose.

00:52:54.860 So so the divorces are that are filed by men are don't even count as the man filed.

00:53:00.480 It is the woman that wants the divorce, but she won't she'll drag the proceedings to prevent him to marry. 0.86

00:53:06.740 Wow.

00:53:07.440 You just red pilled me a little more. 0.98

00:53:09.400 You hear lazy slob. 0.97

00:53:11.800 That's that's what I said.

00:53:13.320 That's what I got all these whales on my page.

00:53:16.660 The whales.

00:53:17.240 Yeah.

00:53:17.640 You call them Busted Pillsbury.

00:53:18.940 No, no, I did a clip that was going viral and all these whales started to show me their blubber.

00:53:25.960 I'm like, you should be your blubber.

00:53:27.540 Right.

00:53:28.240 And most of the time, these people.

00:53:29.660 I was whale attacked a couple of years ago.

00:53:32.940 I was as a rough time.

00:53:34.920 Obviously, the guy didn't marry her in that state many times.

00:53:38.460 So now she's not who he married.

00:53:40.800 And we call that a baiting switch.

00:53:42.560 Yeah, that's what they do.

00:53:43.360 They get the ring and they're like and then they're like, I'll just let myself go.

00:53:47.360 And there's no penalty for her.

00:53:48.760 He gets penalized for letting her go.

00:53:50.940 And that's the that's the other penalty.

00:53:53.180 But I'm going to give you a third calculation that nobody remembers that I have to teach people about.

00:53:58.100 And this is where men lose more than 50 percent.

00:54:01.360 So you hear that phrase men lose half.

00:54:03.920 Well, men typically lose 75 percent of their income over these horses because the third calculation is how property is divided, how pensions are divided, how retirements are divided.

00:54:17.060 How, you know, if you had a business, how is that divided?

00:54:21.360 So there's a there's those are three separate calculations when you go through a divorce.

00:54:25.260 And typically, if you had a guy and you were a business owner or you had a military pension or a firefighter's pension and then you had kids and then you have spousal support, that's three income sources that are divided in the courts.

00:54:39.700 And it gets ugly.

00:54:40.860 So, OK, so if you so this is your house.

00:54:45.000 Yeah.

00:54:45.580 So so if you got married again, I'm sure you will never go happen.

00:54:49.980 I'm sure you never go happen.

00:54:51.280 I'm sure you will.

00:54:52.780 But let's say you did, you know, tomorrow.

00:54:54.800 Right now.

00:54:55.380 Then you get divorced.

00:54:56.400 How what would happen to the house?

00:54:58.840 Depending on what state, it would be considered either community property or it could be used to up to the judge's discretion to decide.

00:55:08.100 So.

00:55:08.720 Oh, so he can just give her the house.

00:55:10.960 Good.

00:55:11.940 Because that's called equitable, equitable.

00:55:13.940 What's equitable?

00:55:14.500 So there's equitable states like Texas is, I believe I'm not mistaken.

00:55:19.460 Don't don't quote me on the states, but some states are equitable, whatever, whatever's equitable.

00:55:24.780 But in the judge's mind, 70 percent would be equitable.

00:55:28.080 And that could that could fly.

00:55:29.620 But a community property.

00:55:31.420 It's probably a simp.

00:55:32.440 Blue film.

00:55:33.020 Well, that's the problem.

00:55:34.000 And so if the judges are simps or you have a female judge, what's going to happen? 1.00

00:55:38.320 Right.

00:55:38.920 What's typically going to happen in California?

00:55:41.880 It's community property 50 50, which creates a problem.

00:55:45.660 If I split this house 50 50, I can't cut it in half. 0.53

00:55:48.080 I can't put tape down the middle of the and say you live on that half and I live on that half.

00:55:52.240 So typically.

00:55:53.480 The whales did kill my tick tock because I said I said something along the lines of. 1.00

00:56:00.840 You don't deserve love as a fat woman. 1.00

00:56:04.780 And I said after that, I said nobody deserves love, but then they clipped it. 1.00

00:56:09.940 So just the fat woman part. 1.00

00:56:13.300 And then, do you know what happened? 0.76

00:56:14.660 All the whales, they started calling my mother.

00:56:16.780 They got her phone number. 0.99

00:56:18.020 They spammed me like fat women will come after you. 1.00

00:56:22.240 Let me tell you. 0.97

00:56:23.900 What happens is the guy feels like he has to move out.

00:56:27.780 I'll just move out.

00:56:28.800 You have it.

00:56:29.720 But he could he'd be moving out.

00:56:31.440 But he also was paying the mortgage.

00:56:33.600 But then and then she can go to court and say he hasn't been in the kids lives.

00:56:36.860 Right.

00:56:37.260 Because isn't that one thing they'll do, the girls will do, like he'll move out to get out of the house or fighting and then she'll go to court and say he's. 0.82

00:56:44.780 Well, that's why you don't move out before the divorce is.

00:56:47.320 Right.

00:56:47.760 But typically a guy is going to move out before the divorce is over so he don't get killed and poisoned.

00:56:55.200 On accident.

00:56:56.360 He's like, oh, it'd be safer for me to be out of the house because, you know, he got to go to sleep.

00:57:00.720 Where is he going to go to sleep?

00:57:01.700 They don't sleep in the same bed.

00:57:02.680 Well, I was so I was explaining this to my dad, right, because my dad, he doesn't know about any of it.

00:57:08.460 OK, he's he's he's getting enlightened now.

00:57:11.580 Ken Kill says men are benevolent.

00:57:14.000 If most men are in charge, a few one to three percent will kill. 0.96

00:57:18.000 But when women are charged in charge, they kill society in massive amounts. 1.00

00:57:22.480 Yep. 0.99

00:57:23.640 We're terrible people.

00:57:24.720 Terrible.

00:57:26.440 Laws are set up for divorce where the man still has an obligation to the woman while the woman has no obligation to the man. 0.69

00:57:35.400 She better come do the laundry. 1.00

00:57:37.300 Thank you.

00:57:38.020 If you guys have a comment, question or concern, either sign up to my memberships.

00:57:42.160 Ten bucks a month, a hundred a year and you get unlimited super chats on the website.

00:57:46.700 You don't have to super chat.

00:57:47.940 You just type Pearl Reed and I'll read it or you can just super chat now on the show.

00:57:52.620 So I'll tell my father and and I was telling him, I'm like, if you had like if you got divorced tomorrow and you split it with mom.

00:58:01.960 Right.

00:58:02.420 And I was like, you would be fine because he's I'm like, you're a super productive guy.

00:58:08.320 Right.

00:58:08.700 And I'm like, I'm not going to say he's Jeff Bezos, but like he's like he's not not that much.

00:58:14.800 But do you know what I'm saying?

00:58:15.840 Like he's so productive that he would be fine.

00:58:18.080 But I'm like, there's guys that like work their whole lives to build up something.

00:58:21.200 And they're not the type of guys that like are going to start a business tomorrow and just remake it.

00:58:26.000 I mean, it's bad either.

00:58:27.060 Yeah, because I mean, you kind of learn, especially when you start hiring people, there's some people that are they're just going to be employees forever.

00:58:37.240 They can't like manage other people.

00:58:39.160 OK.

00:58:40.580 I feel like I've been forced to be a boss in my life.

00:58:43.160 I don't like it.

00:58:43.760 But but so but you kind of start to realize the different like personality types.

00:58:49.660 And so a lot of times I've found that business owners or men that are just that make a lot of money and can make it again if they get divorced will still recommend marriage.

00:59:03.460 But they're in a completely different spot because they're very high performing and they're going to like a guy with one set of skills that like a police off.

00:59:17.060 Like I've heard police officers and firemen get it very bad because that's a specific set of skills.

00:59:23.020 They're not going to be rich quick.

00:59:25.340 And so they do that for 30 years and she takes the pension. 0.97

00:59:30.120 He's screwed. 1.00

00:59:31.660 Screwed. 1.00

00:59:33.100 Where my father, this was kind of trying to get out.

00:59:35.940 He's he's a guy.

00:59:37.080 He started businesses or whatever.

00:59:39.040 And he like if he lost everything tomorrow, he just would remake it in like two years. 1.00

00:59:45.700 Like he's just stupid. 1.00

00:59:47.160 Like. 1.00

00:59:50.320 I wish, you know, I don't even deserve a channel.

00:59:52.640 My father deserves a channel.

00:59:54.700 I wish I wish he would come on.

00:59:57.020 I he's just a private guy, but he he would do so well.

01:00:02.700 He's more entertaining than me.

01:00:04.300 Way.

01:00:04.820 But like I like empathy, I guess, because they don't they're like, oh, I would imagine marrying Pearl and you find out she's one point two million in credit card debt.

01:00:13.360 I do not.

01:00:14.060 Why are you guys making stuff up about me in the chat?

01:00:18.260 I.

01:00:19.600 All right.

01:00:20.600 Oh, he would be fine.

01:00:21.920 And so he's not worried about that situation.

01:00:23.760 Well, if you had a guy, typically we call a great divorce guy. 0.60

01:00:27.720 So he's a little bit older.

01:00:29.080 He's worked a certain amount of years in his company and he finally got to the top peak of his income.

01:00:33.820 And then we call it.

01:00:35.040 She pulls a rug from under his foot.

01:00:36.920 Right.

01:00:37.280 So he finally worked hard enough to be able to pay off the mortgage, pay off the house.

01:00:41.840 And then at 50, she pulls a plug.

01:00:44.920 So everything he worked for is flushed down the toilet if he moves out of the house.

01:00:49.040 Yeah.

01:00:49.060 And he's 50 at that point.

01:00:50.400 He's 50.

01:00:50.940 So he got to start over from 25. 1.00

01:00:53.820 Oh, shit. 1.00

01:00:54.600 And because that. 1.00

01:00:57.300 Yeah.

01:00:58.060 So the guys that get rug pulled that old, I mean, they're starting over.

01:01:02.680 In their 50s and 60s.

01:01:05.680 Those are some of the worst guys I've interviewed.

01:01:12.160 Oh, gosh.

01:01:12.520 One guy got put on lifetime alimony.

01:01:15.180 You got to Google your state.

01:01:17.900 Yeah.

01:01:18.700 And he got put on lifetime alimony when he was 60.

01:01:22.540 Couldn't retire.

01:01:23.420 He's never going to retire.

01:01:24.300 He'll work till he's dead.

01:01:25.500 Whatever he saved is going to get divided in court.

01:01:28.400 So he can't just be like, OK, keep the house.

01:01:30.340 I'm going to go.

01:01:31.640 Right.

01:01:32.140 He's going to divide the savings, too.

01:01:33.600 They're going to divide the retirement, too.

01:01:36.220 And then he's going to have a monthly obligation.

01:01:38.300 Let me see the other time stamps.

01:01:42.740 22 to 25.

01:01:44.400 No fault.

01:01:44.980 Divorce.

01:01:45.540 OK.

01:01:49.240 Legally forced to.

01:01:50.700 It's not even a choice.

01:01:51.800 Right.

01:01:52.000 But we're telling men don't do that because it's a lifelong sentence that you're giving yourself.

01:01:57.300 Like you become a stepdaddy to bail out a woman.

01:02:00.720 You're penalizing yourself.

01:02:02.080 Well, even outside of that, I'm talking about like government benefits.

01:02:04.720 You guys pay more into government benefits and we're the we're the ones that are on them.

01:02:09.200 I mean, that's all you've been that way, though.

01:02:10.960 Yeah.

01:02:13.380 It's worse now.

01:02:14.620 They pay you to be a single mom. 1.00

01:02:16.120 Yeah.

01:02:16.260 You pay you get free housing.

01:02:17.940 You're a single mother.

01:02:18.760 Right.

01:02:19.060 But I was annoyed because I was like, I didn't have any kids.

01:02:21.440 So can I get rewarded?

01:02:22.620 No.

01:02:23.420 There's no equity.

01:02:24.360 There's no fairness in this thing here.

01:02:25.840 But you can go out there and get knocked up if you want. 0.92

01:02:28.000 I think I think the crazy thing is the problem men have today is we've been educated that

01:02:33.360 men, women are equal.

01:02:34.680 Yeah.

01:02:35.100 At a time where women were taken care of and bailed out, there was a sense that men are

01:02:39.140 the providers.

01:02:39.840 This is the role you provide over here.

01:02:41.080 Right.

01:02:41.360 And then if you didn't provide, you get kicked the hell out.

01:02:44.240 All right.

01:02:44.620 I know there's echo, guys.

01:02:46.320 I didn't I didn't have a producer then.

01:02:50.160 It was like early in my channel.

01:02:51.800 So I just did the best I could and say, all right, you ain't cooperating.

01:02:55.380 That's it.

01:02:55.940 Or if he was an alcoholic and abusive, he loses.

01:02:58.900 That's what divorce used to be. 1.00

01:03:01.020 But when no fault divorce came in, then it changed the game and it swung the pendulum

01:03:06.680 swiftly to the point where now our generation and younger, we're dealing with the realities

01:03:11.940 of these women are equal and I owe them child support.

01:03:14.620 I got to fight for my kids.

01:03:17.020 They get alimony, but we're equal in society.

01:03:19.900 It doesn't make sense.

01:03:21.200 How did no fault divorce swing the pendulum?

01:03:23.580 The no fault divorce allowed women to get incentivized to bust up marriages with no excuse. 1.00

01:03:30.180 See, before you needed a reason, you needed to hire a private investigator and follow your

01:03:34.360 husband to the hotel with a secretary.

01:03:36.640 Right. 0.92

01:03:37.500 Or you need to have been abused.

01:03:39.720 You needed you needed a reason.

01:03:41.080 They would have to go to the court and say, well, why are you divorcing this man?

01:03:43.620 At that point, women didn't file 80% divorces. 0.98

01:03:47.260 They probably filed probably less than half.

01:03:49.740 Men probably filed the divorce. 0.97

01:03:51.720 But once they said, you don't need a reason, divorce rate skyrocketed. 0.99

01:03:56.440 And then women can go in and say, he's cheap.

01:03:58.920 He's worth more divorce than married.

01:04:04.560 Well, and then you see a lot of the government programs come in, too.

01:04:08.800 The government programs like the welfare and that type of thing, yeah, and child tax credits

01:04:13.340 and all these things like that.

01:04:14.520 Yeah, because I'm like, why are we paying people to be single mothers?

01:04:17.380 That's what I don't understand.

01:04:18.380 Well, you incentivize people to have be single mothers. 0.97

01:04:22.180 And of course, they're paid to do it.

01:04:24.040 And I remember when I lived in the Midwest when I was younger, women would stay getting 1.00

01:04:28.560 knocked up by multiple women.

01:04:30.580 They would be like, and there would be mothers telling their daughters to get pregnant. 1.00

01:04:33.840 And that's why teenage pregnancy was super high, because the mothers would, if they were, 0.98

01:04:39.060 if the women were shiftless and lazy as mothers, they would have daughters and the daughters 1.00

01:04:43.280 would be 15 and 16.

01:04:44.620 They'd be like, girl, you can get $300 a kid a month.

01:04:48.240 And so those girls would have three, four kids. 1.00

01:04:51.180 There's no incentive to be a good person as a woman. 1.00

01:04:54.920 Truly, really and truly.

01:04:56.980 So let me get this straight.

01:04:58.400 Like, this is what, you got to look at the chessboard as a woman. 1.00

01:05:01.160 Your option is be a good person.

01:05:03.000 Don't put your husband on child support, alimony.

01:05:08.020 Don't marry rich. 0.65

01:05:09.880 Don't go on OnlyFans or work.

01:05:17.860 Which one are you going to pick?

01:05:19.880 And then it's a vicious cycle, because I cringe to think that $300 a kid is free money.

01:05:28.380 I couldn't do it.

01:05:29.400 But if you think, some people are like, that's good money.

01:05:33.720 Yeah.

01:05:35.020 I mean, it's late.

01:05:36.280 Okay.

01:05:36.920 Okay.

01:05:37.660 So then next we got, okay.

01:05:49.660 You can get, like, it's...

01:05:51.620 If you said, I can't afford to have this kid, I need child support, you could have terminated.

01:05:57.240 You could have sent it up for adoption.

01:05:59.300 You could have not got pregnant because you were unable to afford the child.

01:06:03.720 But you keep getting pregnant. 0.98

01:06:05.800 That's a crazy thing.

01:06:07.840 Every person I know that's, like, had an, like, irresponsible pregnancy, they would just be involved.

01:06:14.760 The boyfriends wanted the kid. 1.00

01:06:17.080 They knew it was her choice, right?

01:06:18.400 But they would have, it would have stuck around.

01:06:20.120 Audience, the worst thing a woman can ever be in life is a single mother. 1.00

01:06:23.480 You heard it here first.

01:06:24.660 Yeah, I agree with you.

01:06:25.600 Single mother.

01:06:26.360 You basically shoot yourself in the foot.

01:06:27.940 Yeah, you agree.

01:06:28.420 So I have no sympathy for single mothers out here, although I was raised by a single mother.

01:06:33.100 But I always tell my daughter, never be that.

01:06:35.620 I mean, you're basically just complicating life.

01:06:37.560 And you're penalizing the child.

01:06:39.840 And you're going to just basically ruin the child.

01:06:42.460 That's what you're going to do.

01:06:43.640 What do you...

01:06:44.560 So, okay.

01:06:45.340 So you got divorced.

01:06:47.860 Yeah.

01:06:48.580 And you said you're married for 10 years and you got divorced.

01:06:51.060 Almost 10 years.

01:06:51.360 Almost 10 years, got divorced.

01:06:53.320 And then you entered the dating scene.

01:06:56.240 Yeah.

01:06:57.120 Dating.

01:06:57.400 What was that like? 0.98

01:06:59.100 These hoes crazy out here. 1.00

01:07:00.680 No.

01:07:01.080 What was it like?

01:07:02.180 I got an education in the...

01:07:04.080 Generation X and millennials, quite different.

01:07:06.960 So younger millennials tend to...

01:07:09.720 They want to push off marriage as long as they possibly could.

01:07:13.680 My generation was not quite like that.

01:07:15.680 It was getting to that point.

01:07:17.460 But millennials typically go like 29, 30, 32, 34.

01:07:21.940 But before all of that, they was going to be in these streets, right?

01:07:25.480 They were going to be out here getting ranger.

01:07:27.120 They ran through more times than the Holland Tunnel, all right?

01:07:29.740 So they were going to be partying.

01:07:31.780 We call it the Holland Tunnel in New York.

01:07:33.460 So they got ran through more times than the Holland Tunnel.

01:07:35.640 And the Holland Tunnel was the busiest tunnel in New York.

01:07:38.100 It goes from New York to New Jersey, okay?

01:07:40.080 Busiest tunnel almost in America.

01:07:41.660 And a lot of women started to show that. 1.00

01:07:46.120 That's the lifestyle that they live. 0.96

01:07:47.860 Sex in the city. 0.51

01:07:48.680 Yeah, I'm going to live over here and go over here, backpack through Europe, and blah, blah, blah. 0.55

01:07:52.320 And then they were going to say, oh, I'm marriage material now.

01:07:56.060 Well, the marriage rates have plummeted since this generation.

01:08:00.320 That generation, millennials.

01:08:01.560 Millennials, but they will say millennials are staying married more and all of that stuff. 0.87

01:08:07.940 But they're not being honest because they're still young.

01:08:11.240 Many of them are barely hitting 40.

01:08:14.200 So, yeah, that's now.

01:08:15.900 But, you know, there's a generation.

01:08:17.720 There's baby boomers getting divorced right now in the 70s, right? 0.98

01:08:21.480 So just wait.

01:08:23.020 Give it time.

01:08:23.540 But dating-wise, I thought, you know, let me give your audience some context.

01:08:30.580 When I got married and was engaged, there was no dating apps.

01:08:36.560 There was no smartphones.

01:08:39.120 There was not even text messages back and forth.

01:08:42.400 They started making phones work.

01:08:44.740 I'm 47.

01:08:46.120 I'm 47.

01:08:46.820 By the time you guys see this, I'm 47.

01:08:48.500 I'm 46 right now.

01:08:49.500 So there was no, we had pagers and stuff like that and little link pagers.

01:08:55.460 But we had no smartphone where you could just get an app, swipe, swipe, swipe.

01:08:59.240 That was 2002.

01:09:00.920 I think 2002 when I got engaged.

01:09:04.080 2004 by the time I got married.

01:09:05.960 So that's what that was.

01:09:07.800 And even dating, they had dating websites like Match.com was around, I believe.

01:09:12.140 And there was other things. 0.99

01:09:13.640 But you were a loser if you were on Match. 1.00

01:09:17.160 You were a complete loser. 1.00

01:09:19.500 That was loser shit. 1.00

01:09:21.420 So with that being said, I got divorced and separated 2012. 1.00

01:09:27.060 There's smartphones now.

01:09:28.560 There's Tinder.

01:09:29.600 There's plenty of fish.

01:09:30.940 There's Instagram is just starting up.

01:09:34.480 So that's what I got reintroduced in the dating market.

01:09:37.360 So it was like a highway.

01:09:39.440 It was like a fast-moving highway when before it was a crawl.

01:09:42.260 Did you try to court some hoes at all at first when you entered the dating scene? 1.00

01:09:50.460 I didn't court them.

01:09:51.280 I ran through them, too.

01:09:52.580 You know what I mean?

01:09:54.320 I had my fun.

01:09:55.800 You know what I mean?

01:09:56.180 I think what happened was sex was much easier given.

01:10:02.800 See, this is what the crazy thing is.

01:10:04.880 To get sex when I was about getting engaged was tough.

01:10:08.100 You had to work. 0.93

01:10:09.260 You had to talk to the woman.

01:10:10.540 Yeah, so he comes out, and all the hoes are hoeing, right? 1.00

01:10:15.280 Hold on.

01:10:15.680 I just want to see the next one.

01:10:16.820 28 to 35, and then 37 to 42.

01:10:19.460 Okay, we'll keep going.

01:10:21.260 Oh, go.

01:10:24.000 You couldn't, you know, unless you just met a fabulous 304, and you were just lucky that night.

01:10:29.040 Remember, it was getting lucky.

01:10:30.420 There's no such thing as getting lucky.

01:10:31.680 It was just almost a guarantee.

01:10:32.720 So by the time I'm getting back out, Instagram had just started becoming a thing.

01:10:38.700 This was the baby infancy of Instagram.

01:10:40.980 And so I'm getting divorced during Instagram's peak.

01:10:45.000 Girls were flying in, themselves in. 0.99

01:10:49.060 They were flying themselves in.

01:10:50.680 Girls were driving hours. 1.00

01:10:52.360 I mean, it was just like what I call the digital sexual revolution.

01:10:55.660 And it was nothing like that when I was married or a situation like that.

01:11:01.780 Yeah, it was nothing like that.

01:11:03.200 So what did you find out about female nature, like, through this? 0.83

01:11:09.840 What did I find out about female nature? 1.00

01:11:13.540 I just think that by that time, what did I find out?

01:11:17.220 By the way, I'm checking my phone in this to make sure it's still recording the audio.

01:11:21.760 I'm not like, I don't want it to seem like I'm being rude.

01:11:25.460 I was just making sure the audio is still going.

01:11:27.820 Yeah, that's good.

01:11:28.480 When was this?

01:11:29.100 This was like two, three years ago.

01:11:30.580 I keep checking this.

01:11:31.480 Yes, we're good.

01:11:31.900 We're good.

01:11:33.200 Female nature at that time.

01:11:36.100 I think I was learning that what they say and what they do are two separate things.

01:11:40.520 Right.

01:11:41.240 Okay.

01:11:41.720 So that was basically the epiphany.

01:11:44.040 I was like, they're saying this, but they're doing this.

01:11:45.980 They're doing this under the cover at night, but they're out there.

01:11:48.640 I'm an angel.

01:11:49.380 You know what I mean?

01:11:49.880 Like that type of stuff.

01:11:50.980 And I'm like, this is crazy.

01:11:52.580 So that probably was the epiphany and to not trust what they do, because I think what people

01:12:01.220 will tell you, and I will tell you young men, whatever your belief system in women, it's

01:12:06.340 going to be validated by social media and dating apps.

01:12:11.260 So if you think girls are out here being pure, well, based on your experience, is that true? 1.00

01:12:19.380 Most of the time, if you're using social media and dating apps, you're going to find out that there's a lot of fast and loose women. 1.00

01:12:25.400 So then that's going to, do you know what?

01:12:27.740 In college, I had a male roommate.

01:12:32.500 I didn't really understand. 0.84

01:12:33.640 He was like a fat Italian guy, but he would just get these women off of Tinder to come 1.00

01:12:39.100 like straight to our apartment. 0.80

01:12:41.420 Do you know how many times I've been used to be a wingman for somebody?

01:12:46.160 Like, oh, these are my roommates. 0.99

01:12:48.260 And you have like the loudest sex. 0.99

01:12:50.020 Oh my God. 0.98

01:12:51.020 And like four or five days a week, I would meet all these different women. 1.00

01:12:54.020 I'm like, what the hell?

01:12:55.400 What your belief system is going forward and backwards, right?

01:13:01.600 You're going to look back on the relationship.

01:13:03.240 My girl disappeared all the time Friday at eight o'clock.

01:13:06.840 What was she doing?

01:13:08.060 You know, she was learning how to use her easy bake oven or she was getting piped down, right? 0.92

01:13:12.800 She getting piped down because it's easy.

01:13:15.840 So you will know that because you'll be the guy piping women down that Friday. 0.95

01:13:20.020 And, you know, and when she goes radio silent on her guys that she's dating, she got multiple

01:13:24.120 options.

01:13:25.400 And also, when you get that text message, this is the text message.

01:13:30.100 I don't know if it's popular now, but the, oh, I fell asleep.

01:13:34.200 You know, you text them at eight o'clock.

01:13:37.020 Oh, I fell asleep.

01:13:37.920 She texts you in the morning.

01:13:38.960 Oh, I fell asleep.

01:13:40.000 You know, I'm getting back to you.

01:13:41.660 Well, based on your experience, you know that that's not true.

01:13:45.320 She was getting ran through.

01:13:46.520 As we called it over here.

01:13:48.780 She was getting her insides pushed to her esophagus.

01:13:50.720 That's what she was doing.

01:13:52.020 She wasn't just falling asleep, you know.

01:13:53.860 So what about, what about the guys that say not all women are like that?

01:13:58.680 That could be true.

01:13:59.780 Yeah.

01:14:00.440 That could be true.

01:14:01.320 I mean, people will say there's no unicorn.

01:14:03.720 There's no any of that type of stuff.

01:14:05.860 If you believe that not all women are like that, I tell you, roll the dice.

01:14:10.240 Roll the dice, bet on them.

01:14:11.020 This was a really big turning point.

01:14:12.960 I think we talk in generalities here.

01:14:14.960 I can't talk specifically about who does what.

01:14:18.420 But I have some women that I would thought never was 304s. 1.00

01:14:22.840 And when they got to the crib, they was full on 304s. 0.98

01:14:26.440 And then vice versa.

01:14:27.600 Some women, I was like, she is scab peeling skeezer. 1.00

01:14:29.940 And then all of a sudden, she get to the house, and she's all nervous about things.

01:14:33.620 What the hell's going on?

01:14:34.860 So it's all different.

01:14:36.960 Yeah.

01:14:37.940 So I think what was the next part?

01:14:41.940 37 to 42.

01:14:43.160 Okay.

01:14:45.080 37.

01:14:47.500 Yeah, I interviewed him the next day.

01:14:49.680 Okay.

01:14:50.160 Okay.

01:14:50.760 Oh, we were talking about Hafiz.

01:14:52.260 So look, people, he should know how content works.

01:14:55.440 Right.

01:14:56.100 I'm saying my channel is about Ferraris.

01:14:59.060 And then you want me to tell me driving forward tomorrow?

01:15:02.060 We wouldn't put that anywhere in you.

01:15:04.220 You know what I mean?

01:15:04.960 He did that to me, too.

01:15:06.500 He did that to me.

01:15:07.440 He did that to you?

01:15:08.380 Yeah.

01:15:08.820 I interviewed him the next day.

01:15:10.440 Okay.

01:15:10.880 Okay.

01:15:12.680 So look, people, he should know how content works.

01:15:16.160 Right.

01:15:16.700 He does.

01:15:17.820 That's where he's authentic.

01:15:18.940 He's not authentic because he knows how this works.

01:15:22.340 And now you're telling me to be balanced based on your interpretation of how it works.

01:15:26.920 But that's not the conversation that we have on social media.

01:15:30.260 I think people tend to subscribe to channels that have a certain message.

01:15:36.720 Period.

01:15:37.280 Now, if you go off that, if I invite you into my channel and say, this is what we're talking about,

01:15:41.300 and the next day I flip to try to have a balanced conversation, that's not authentic.

01:15:45.940 But then his argument is, well, you're only doing it for the money.

01:15:48.400 Look, this is how social media works.

01:15:50.460 You know, what are we doing here?

01:15:51.560 Are we going to have an authentic conversation about how social media works?

01:15:54.720 Or you want a balanced conversation, but it can't be both.

01:15:59.580 What do you think?

01:16:01.560 Do you think men should get married today? 0.93

01:16:05.040 Should men get married? 1.00

01:16:06.320 It depends on your position.

01:16:07.860 So I tell men, and a lot of people get this wrong.

01:16:10.720 They think I'm against marriage as a principle.

01:16:14.680 That's wrong.

01:16:15.720 I'm against state-sponsored marriage.

01:16:17.940 And I'm against men getting married without information.

01:16:21.920 Most men get married both, right?

01:16:23.800 They get married, stay sponsored, and they think they're getting married under God.

01:16:27.280 Or they're getting married in their church or from their community.

01:16:30.160 And they're not anymore.

01:16:31.580 They stay sponsored.

01:16:32.820 Then most men get married when they're in a position where they can't provide whatever they need to provide to the wife or the marriage.

01:16:41.580 And then that's how they get divorced.

01:16:43.480 So they get married and they have nothing.

01:16:46.120 They have nothing but love.

01:16:47.920 We have love.

01:16:48.860 Our love is like no other love.

01:16:50.800 Are you saying that doesn't last?

01:16:52.720 Love?

01:16:53.320 Yeah.

01:16:53.560 Love is, love does not last.

01:16:56.360 It's not intended to last.

01:16:57.720 What?

01:17:00.480 Love is not intended to last.

01:17:02.080 Actually, most people.

01:17:03.220 That's such a bad joke.

01:17:04.640 I don't even know why he laughed.

01:17:06.500 Guys are so nice, right?

01:17:07.780 Even people who are pushers of love will tell you love lasts 18 months, maybe three years.

01:17:14.540 But this is why it's important that you actually have something else to build on other than love.

01:17:21.460 But if you want to make your decision purely on love, what happens when the love ends?

01:17:26.380 And then you're going to have to deal with that.

01:17:28.860 So this is why children are important, right?

01:17:30.820 So if you have love, love is basically lust confusing you to procreate.

01:17:37.340 That's nature.

01:17:38.540 It gets this attachment.

01:17:40.080 It feels good.

01:17:41.420 I hope everybody experiences this.

01:17:43.620 It's great.

01:17:44.480 As you get older, it's less and less.

01:17:46.220 For men, you'll experience it less and less.

01:17:48.420 This is just how it works.

01:17:49.420 I think that's true for everyone.

01:17:52.500 That's true for everyone.

01:17:53.640 But women use love. 1.00

01:17:56.080 They use love to manipulate men into marrying them when they've already been ran through. 0.98

01:18:01.200 So this is the parabounding argument.

01:18:03.260 So they'll say, but I love you, but she needs rent to be paid. 0.95

01:18:06.800 Yeah.

01:18:07.380 That's what it is.

01:18:08.680 Or it's like, that was...

01:18:12.700 Yeah.

01:18:13.700 That's what people...

01:18:14.740 Girls get so mad on my show when I say that. 1.00

01:18:17.320 What?

01:18:17.620 Love doesn't exist?

01:18:18.440 No, no, no.

01:18:20.480 Not the, like, the parabonding.

01:18:22.180 Oh, the parabonding.

01:18:22.860 Yeah, yeah.

01:18:23.720 But I'm like, I don't...

01:18:25.260 It's like they tell on themselves, though, because they're so angry.

01:18:29.120 Like, why are you this mad?

01:18:32.060 You shouldn't be...

01:18:32.740 Rebecca, you shouldn't be this mad.

01:18:35.340 Well, the proof is in the pudding.

01:18:36.560 All I say is just look at the results that we have out here.

01:18:39.560 If you have...

01:18:40.840 For women, unfortunately, if your sexual partners pass a certain number,

01:18:45.140 what you're doing is manipulating.

01:18:47.020 It's not love.

01:18:48.020 There's no way it can be love.

01:18:49.660 Now, you can be attached.

01:18:51.680 People have to understand, love and attachment are two different things.

01:18:54.500 And you can tell by when the relationship ends if you had an attachment or love.

01:18:58.740 See, a person that had love, they'll be...

01:19:01.560 Have their feelings hurt, and then they'll be indifferent to the person.

01:19:04.320 They may be like, well, I just... 0.99

01:19:05.460 But a person that had an attachment is like a parasite. 1.00

01:19:09.060 They'll try to kill the person. 0.95

01:19:10.560 They'll hate the person after they broke the attachment because the ego's involved.

01:19:15.480 There was never any love.

01:19:16.560 What they'll do is they'll go attack the person.

01:19:18.800 Yeah. 0.62

01:19:21.080 It's like a parasitic relationship.

01:19:25.140 So once the host shakes the parasite off, the parasite hates the host.

01:19:29.960 Right? 0.88

01:19:30.140 And so they'll be opposed to a parasitic relationship to kill the host by all means.

01:19:34.520 That's attachment.

01:19:35.360 And so if they loved them...

01:19:37.540 Because I almost think like...

01:19:39.160 Okay, because when I think of girls, like, I feel like the girl, if she hates her ex, she still loves him.

01:19:45.060 If she hates her ex, she still loves him.

01:19:47.020 Yeah, yeah, because you don't...

01:19:48.180 Like, I feel like hate is closer to love than...

01:19:51.700 I feel like if a girl doesn't talk about him, like, then she didn't care. 0.68

01:19:56.280 Okay, so but my rebuttal to that is you don't destroy something you love.

01:20:01.860 Typically, if there's hate involved, she's trying to destroy, embarrass them. 0.89

01:20:05.760 That's...

01:20:06.000 I don't know.

01:20:06.480 My experience.

01:20:08.820 What I have seen is that when women hate the ex, he could still hit.

01:20:15.420 Do you know what I mean?

01:20:16.020 Like, that's what I've seen.

01:20:17.100 When women hate the ex, yeah, he could still get it. 0.88

01:20:20.880 Watch out for your girlfriend's least favorite ex or wife.

01:20:25.160 Ego.

01:20:26.020 So what she'll do is drag him through divorce court, take him to child support, 1.00

01:20:29.520 trying to penalize him and hurt him, take the kids away, don't let them see the kids.

01:20:34.360 That's...

01:20:34.880 Okay.

01:20:36.440 What else do we have?

01:20:38.600 Oh, that's it.

01:20:42.080 But yeah, so that's my...

01:20:44.440 That's my work-sided show.

01:20:47.500 I want to do shows where I just, you know, zoom in on the people that really inspired me in the space

01:20:53.560 and really gave me, like, lightbulb moments.

01:20:56.540 I like to credit where credit is due.

01:20:58.420 And he has an awesome channel, so you guys should go check it out.

01:21:02.720 And let me know what you guys think in the comments.

01:21:04.940 Make sure you like the video on your way out.

01:21:06.440 And go to theaudacitynetwork.com.

01:21:08.380 That's theaudacitynetwork.com to sign up.

01:21:11.740 And thank you guys so much, and I will see you next time.

01:21:14.460 Bye-bye.

01:21:23.560 Bye.

01:21:53.560 Bye.

JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2025

Works Cited Coach Greg Adams And The Marriage Wheel Pearl Daily

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