JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


You Won't Believe What Happened As Pearl Said THIS


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

221.2727

Word count

1,778

Sentence count

18

Harmful content

Misogyny

9

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Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the sit down and discuss the differences between men and women and how to deal with them in a healthy relationship. We also talk about our views on women and men being best friends and how they should or shouldn t be friends with each other.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I think we shouldn't be best friends with the men
00:00:04.060 Yeah, I want my husband not to be my best friend. I hope we have nothing in common
00:00:10.840 Yeah, yeah, I know I hope we have nothing and why do you say that for all?
00:00:14.760 Why do you say because I think when women and men are the same like I think we
00:00:21.160 We start to we start to compete with the men and we like the you know
00:00:24.260 I I just think that it's better if we're super different and have nothing in common
00:00:28.940 And we're not best friends because you can go off and do your own things like and then my best friends
00:00:34.720 I want to talk about the car dad. I mean, I'm not a big Kardashian, but it's just an example, right?
00:00:38.760 I want to talk about stupid girl shit with yeah, I don't want to talk about stupid girl shit 1.00
00:00:44.140 I don't want to do that to y'all. I'll get that and him
00:00:47.480 I wouldn't want to hear it and I don't want my husband to talk to me the same way. He talks to a man 1.00
00:00:52.320 I need it softer than that. You know, I know I know
00:00:55.780 I know I it's the community. It's the directness in this podcast. You know I can you know be but I might be a bit disagreeable
00:01:02.880 But in real life. I'm actually quite agreeable. I don't need the you ever hear
00:01:06.560 I used to work at a plumbing tech company, right? I used to sell like shit to plumbers
00:01:11.520 And I want to do like a presentation at one of them
00:01:14.680 And it's like a super male-dominated environment. I could not believe the way that got the guys were talking to each other
00:01:20.160 They were so mean they're like roasting the shit out of each other
00:01:23.060 Like like you know that they say locker room talk. You don't want to hear it men like change the way they talk a little bit when we're they're around us
00:01:30.100 Like usually I was like if this is how guys talk to each other. I don't want nothing
00:01:34.620 No, keep keep talking to me like you talk to a girl guys 1.00
00:01:38.260 What God when you're I think I was talking about this Romeo like guys will especially if you're a good-looking guy and you're in a group of boys
00:01:43.820 One thing they'll do is if you have any sort of flow whether it's physical, they're gonna point out that flow
00:01:49.420 Because they have to have someone what up on you if you're a good-looking dude and you get girls to have to buy you're overweight or 0.99
00:01:55.260 This or that you like what your friends your friends with women you would never be like, oh, yeah 0.94
00:02:01.120 Courtney about saying you're overweight
00:02:02.700 I'm just saying like you would never be like Courtney you're overweight like come on get your shit
00:02:06.100 You never say that but if if he was overweight in my dude, I'm like, man, you fat ass
00:02:10.560 I'm saying like that's the way women. I don't like that with each other. You don't have that brutal honesty 1.00
00:02:15.040 And it's just play this is my dude like I'm secretly
00:02:23.200 Go to the gym come to the gym with me, you know, I'm saying I'll say shut the fuck up is old to my friend 0.57
00:02:27.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah, you just talk different
00:02:30.160 Yeah, it's direct it's direct but I think it's like this whole programming of like the way
00:02:35.280 Relationships should be like we program us to say it's a partnership. It's not a partnership. He's better than
00:02:40.500 You and you should probably listen to him, but it's even her she's looking at me like I'm crazy saying this
00:02:46.420 Okay, it's probably the first time you've heard that but it's like I don't think relationships work when it's a partnership
00:02:51.780 I don't think relationships work when they're your best friends. I don't think that's ideal
00:02:55.060 I think you want a man that's better than you and you can get guidance from and I I think it's easier when you defer to their authority
00:03:03.460 I do I do hear what you're saying and I don't disagree with what you're saying at all but
00:03:07.380 But you do a little bit
00:03:11.160 Yeah, I think it is good when you're in a relationship though, and you're like complete opposite to the other person
00:03:27.300 But then it's good if you are quite similar, but then you just have your time to yourself
00:03:32.660 When you need to you just need that break, but if you're opposite from what your person wants
00:03:38.100 How does that make me how's that gonna work this opposite to try?
00:03:42.120 Yeah, but does it last?
00:03:44.120 Yeah, opposite does it work? No, actually I think masculine and femininity is like opposite
00:03:49.120 So that's probably the only opposite that would work though
00:03:51.280 But she's talking about is in general interest in and morals and principles and things like I think they're like your morals and your values should be this
00:03:57.100 I agree with you, but I'm like do I need to have the same, do I want to go fishing with a guy?
00:04:02.120 No, go have fun with your boys
00:04:03.800 They don't want us there on their boys trips anyway
00:04:07.080 But that's hobbies probably, that's more like fun and hobbies
00:04:10.740 Yeah, look at it, career path, completely different
00:04:14.420 But if I'm talking about like what I want out of life and what I see in the future
00:04:17.700 If she wants to be in the club all the time 0.81
00:04:20.560 And I want something, it's not gonna work, you can't be complete opposite
00:04:25.240 We have to be on some form of mutual understanding, mutual ground
00:04:28.960 Yeah, otherwise it's not gonna work
00:04:30.700 And that's the problem with most relationships, you guys have nothing in common
00:04:33.000 I think it comes down to mindset
00:04:35.680 100%
00:04:37.060 Having a similar mindset to someone is probably what you want to be honest
00:04:42.300 Because if someone's got a higher vibrational mindset than you, you're gonna
00:04:47.680 You'll be drawn to
00:04:48.840 Yeah, you'll probably achieve different things
00:04:50.700 But if you're a lower vibrational, you'll just get bored of that person
00:04:55.020 Because you'll be like I actually can't get through to you
00:04:56.860 You're not making sense of what I'm saying because they're not there
00:04:59.220 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:00.100 They're not on that level with you
00:05:01.040 No, comprehension is nothing
00:05:02.280 I don't think anybody is above anyone
00:05:05.180 Which is why I disagree with the whole your man should be better than you
00:05:09.100 I agree with the sense that you should learn from your man
00:05:11.280 Vice versa with you
00:05:14.040 Why would a man want to be with a woman that he can't learn anything from? 0.98
00:05:18.060 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:18.720 I don't think men want to learn anything from us
00:05:20.720 I don't think that's valuable
00:05:23.320 It's cool
00:05:24.500 If I can learn something from my woman, that's cool 1.00
00:05:26.620 I'll tell them a fun fact from time to time
00:05:29.900 But you know, like
00:05:30.980 I don't
00:05:32.120 I want to not
00:05:33.080 You feel important and empowered as a man when you're leading
00:05:35.500 If you're teaching me, that means you're in some form leading me
00:05:39.260 Now I'm not saying that there ain't situations where I'm dedicated to a girl and she can teach me things
00:05:43.600 Guys don't like it though
00:05:45.540 But that's not like
00:05:46.240 They don't
00:05:46.860 That's why they tell girls to play dumb 1.00
00:05:49.280 Yeah
00:05:49.620 Because it makes them feel like a man if he's teaching you 0.93
00:05:51.540 Why should I play dumb when actually I'm an intelligent woman?
00:05:54.440 I think women should play dumb a little bit 1.00
00:05:56.900 And let them feel like a guy
00:05:58.360 You know what I mean?
00:05:59.180 You know the best way to talk to women is? 1.00
00:06:02.000 I'll tell you what the best way is
00:06:03.000 Go on then
00:06:03.640 Oh my baby, don't worry about it
00:06:06.300 Squeeze the cheeks
00:06:07.220 Get along with it
00:06:08.280 See, but then you feel belittled when men do that
00:06:16.680 It is
00:06:17.800 You don't find that cute?
00:06:19.320 Not all the time
00:06:20.040 Yeah, but not all the time
00:06:20.860 Would you prefer a guy?
00:06:21.900 She finds it cute if she likes him
00:06:24.220 Of course
00:06:24.820 That's what I'm talking about
00:06:25.880 If he was one of the sex that's cute
00:06:27.880 Creepy and attractive, right?
00:06:29.720 Yeah
00:06:29.920 There's a limit to it though
00:06:32.400 If it was all the time
00:06:33.680 Then it'd be like
00:06:34.680 Nah, I'm not playing with that
00:06:36.540 Taking the piss now, mate
00:06:37.600 Yeah
00:06:37.920 It's not even, no
00:06:38.700 It's just like
00:06:39.200 Half the time they're only doing it
00:06:40.260 To get what they wanted
00:06:41.180 Yeah
00:06:41.540 Because they want to be more empowering than you
00:06:43.680 When it should just be equal
00:06:44.820 Let's say you love him, yeah?
00:06:45.980 And then he loves you
00:06:46.960 He's like, oh my baby
00:06:48.320 Come here
00:06:48.880 Let me give you a hug
00:06:49.920 Let me squeeze your cheeks
00:06:50.820 You're a little kid
00:06:51.420 Yeah, that is lovely to have
00:06:52.960 You know what I'm saying?
00:06:53.700 But not all the time
00:06:54.460 We'd rather that
00:06:55.560 I'm not all the time
00:06:56.420 We'd rather that
00:06:57.000 Than speak about serious subjects 0.54
00:06:58.320 Like, oh, what happened there?
00:06:59.740 Men don't like that though
00:07:01.180 Say if I did that to my man
00:07:02.860 Like, oh, it's alright, darling
00:07:03.980 Don't worry
00:07:04.760 Some men don't like that
00:07:06.520 We'll say don't, love
00:07:06.780 And they can't lay on your chest
00:07:08.440 I've had that before
00:07:09.260 Of a guy where he just can't even lay on my chest
00:07:11.140 Because it belittles him
00:07:12.300 Which I think is quite a sad thing
00:07:14.140 Yeah
00:07:14.860 Like, you should feel comfortable around a woman
00:07:17.260 And make them feel comfortable
00:07:19.000 No, I think it's the situation
00:07:20.460 That made him feel belittled
00:07:21.900 Like, if you guys are just
00:07:22.960 Hopping into bed and cuddling
00:07:24.680 And he's laying on your chest
00:07:25.580 Then that's just empowering
00:07:27.740 And it's beautiful
00:07:28.700 It's love between a man and a woman 0.97
00:07:29.940 But if it's you doing it
00:07:32.080 No, but if it's you doing it
00:07:33.480 Because he's struggling
00:07:34.420 Or he's having an issue
00:07:35.720 What if it's just normal, like?
00:07:37.300 Like I said
00:07:37.860 If it's normal
00:07:38.760 Like, if you guys just come home
00:07:39.760 Oh, bae, how you doing? 0.95
00:07:40.580 Kissed
00:07:40.840 And you're laying in bed
00:07:41.420 And he's laying in chest
00:07:42.140 That's empowering
00:07:43.140 But if he comes home
00:07:44.320 And he's expressing his emotions
00:07:45.580 And shit like that
00:07:46.080 And you're like, babe, come here
00:07:47.060 Nah, that's something he should do to you
00:07:48.540 When you come home and say
00:07:49.660 I'd had a stressful day
00:07:50.460 This girl was talking shit about me 1.00
00:07:51.660 Blah, blah, blah, blah
00:07:52.300 And you're laying in bed
00:07:53.300 And you're like, bae, I got you 1.00
00:07:54.240 It's completely different
00:07:56.340 I think it was the situation for it
00:07:58.740 To be honest
00:08:00.380 Maybe
00:08:00.900 I don't know