JustPearlyThings - June 02, 2023


You Won't BELIEVE What Her BODY COUNT

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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Kirsten Pearl Elle
Pearl EXPOSES This Fact About Modern Women You Would NOT BELIEVE What She Said

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In this episode, we talk about sex, body count, and the porn industry. We also talk about our experiences with sex and how we feel about sex in general. We hope you enjoy, sit down, and have a nice drink.

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00:00:00.000 First off, to show of hands, um, should body count matter?
00:00:05.840 Oh my god.
00:00:08.300 No.
00:00:08.700 Are we raising it if we think it should?
00:00:10.060 Not at all.
00:00:11.540 Raise if you think body count, no, raise your hand if you think body count shouldn't matter,
00:00:17.140 should not matter.
00:00:19.600 Raise them high, raise them high.
00:00:21.700 I'm like, there's an in-between raise.
00:00:24.300 I mean, it's like to a certain degree.
00:00:27.300 There's a line where it's a concern.
00:00:30.000 Should matter, shouldn't matter? 1.00
00:00:32.180 Obviously, my dumb ass is going to say it shouldn't matter. 0.99
00:00:35.080 Okay, well, so, with that said, for those of you, well, we're going to ask everyone, 0.99
00:00:41.240 but if body count shouldn't matter, what's your body count?
00:00:44.840 We've already been over this.
00:00:46.000 Yeah, but it's New Stream, New Stream, New Stream.
00:00:49.360 Okay, I'm not a weird high school boy that keeps it in my notes.
00:00:53.200 But you know it's over what?
00:00:54.840 I know it's definitely over, like, 50, probably over 90.
00:01:00.340 Probably over 150.
00:01:01.820 Definitely not over 150.
00:01:02.700 You said, last time you said.
00:01:03.960 I don't think it's, I don't think it's, like, I don't know. 0.95
00:01:06.060 Like, I wouldn't say it's fucking, like, 200. 0.95
00:01:08.340 Like, I feel like that's crazy. 1.00
00:01:09.680 Throw her under the bus. 0.99
00:01:10.640 Come on, guys. 0.99
00:01:11.260 Dude, I've been.
00:01:12.580 We have brought this at the house.
00:01:14.680 Her answer was, I think it's about 200, including men and women.
00:01:20.660 Yes.
00:01:22.280 That was last time.
00:01:23.460 Wait, how old are you again?
00:01:26.180 I'm 21. 0.91
00:01:27.840 When did you start having sex? 0.95
00:01:30.900 Pearl's going in. 0.95
00:01:32.420 I consensually started having sex when I was 15. 0.77
00:01:37.740 15.
00:01:38.240 So this is all in six years?
00:01:40.460 It's not that.
00:01:42.520 I don't think it's 200.
00:01:44.340 I honestly don't think it's anywhere close to 200.
00:01:47.480 I think it's more close to 100.
00:01:48.640 Wait, you're funny.
00:01:49.140 But that doesn't make it better.
00:01:49.840 Even if it's, like, 100, do you feel like sex has changed for you since you, like, had a lower body count to a higher?
00:01:55.660 Or do you feel like it's the same?
00:01:56.680 Yeah.
00:01:57.340 I think sex has definitely changed for me from probably, like, when I was in a polyamorous relationship.
00:02:07.340 I think that changed my perspective of sex a lot because I was deeply in love with somebody.
00:02:14.120 And I kind of changed my way of, like, what I thought I wanted in a relationship to appeal to them because I wanted them to be with me so badly.
00:02:26.160 That I was willing to watch them, you know, enjoy other people with me, which isn't something that I was originally, like, super okay with in hindsight in the beginning.
00:02:39.660 And, like, now that I've kind of, like, clearly experienced things, I think for me eventually, I'm not saying, like, right now or in the near future, I don't know what the future holds for me.
00:02:54.220 But I just wouldn't say, like, I'm going to not want to, like, chill and then settle down eventually and find the right person.
00:03:03.380 But I'm also, like, aware that, like, me coming on the internet and broadcasting something that most people are not comfortable sharing.
00:03:11.520 Like, a lot of women will sit there and lie and just completely manipulate their narrative into being, oh, my body counts super fucking well. 1.00
00:03:19.720 I've never been that type of person that's not going to, I'm bold as fuck. 0.98
00:03:22.900 I will say, I'll hold my truth. 0.98
00:03:24.580 Like, I do not care.
00:03:26.460 Like, at least, at least I don't lie.
00:03:29.940 That's all I have to say.
00:03:30.840 Oh, my God.
00:03:31.600 Sweet two, thank you for the 20 gift to continue, continue.
00:03:34.720 Out of the, like, roughly 100, 150, 200, yeah, whatever it is, how many, I'm just curious, how many would you say you loved?
00:03:48.280 Probably only, like, probably only, like, five.
00:03:54.200 Wow.
00:03:54.680 And I probably didn't hook up with, um, I probably didn't hook up with, like, a good, like, 80 of them again.
00:04:03.420 Like, most of it was just, like, one night stands.
00:04:05.640 How many would you say you enjoyed?
00:04:07.560 Like, percentage-wise.
00:04:08.400 Probably barely, anyway.
00:04:09.640 Probably, like, probably, like, 20 to 30 percent.
00:04:13.960 Or number.
00:04:15.320 Like, number.
00:04:16.460 Okay.
00:04:16.880 Wait, so before we continue on talking about that.
00:04:18.720 And probably most of that 30 people were women. 0.95
00:04:21.620 Oh.
00:04:22.380 Before we continue talking about that, I want everyone else to give their answer.
00:04:27.200 So, let's go start here and then move our way around.
00:04:32.160 For body count?
00:04:32.800 Yeah.
00:04:33.180 35.
00:04:33.980 35, including?
00:04:35.280 Including porn. 0.51
00:04:36.140 Including porn.
00:04:36.820 I haven't been in the porn industry for that long.
00:04:38.200 What about excluding porn?
00:04:40.040 Excluding porn, I think it's 25.
00:04:43.780 Wait, so only, you've only worked with 10 guys?
00:04:46.080 I've only worked with 10 guys.
00:04:47.200 Okay.
00:04:47.580 Um, I've reshot with a lot of them.
00:04:50.080 Sure.
00:04:52.580 I mean, God, I don't want to, like, lie.
00:04:55.100 I don't know that I honestly know the number.
00:04:58.760 I would say, if I was going to guess, like, around, like, 20.
00:05:02.680 Remember, I'm the old lady here. 0.99
00:05:04.620 But I definitely went through periods of being more sexually, like, fucking promiscuous or empowered or whatever. 0.99
00:05:10.220 Explorative. 0.99
00:05:12.960 But, yeah, I would say around there.
00:05:14.320 But, honestly, I don't know.
00:05:15.120 Like, I don't know.
00:05:17.440 Around 20?
00:05:19.540 I mean, it could be less.
00:05:22.340 15, 20.
00:05:23.880 Could be more.
00:05:24.680 Could be more.
00:05:25.260 We don't know.
00:05:26.180 Kind of like your original 25, five-year-old thing.
00:05:29.680 I think in the range of that, but, like, um...
00:05:32.000 Wait, can you just scoot into the table?
00:05:33.080 I mean, yeah, and counting women, more than that.
00:05:37.240 So, I'd say men.
00:05:38.140 Sure.
00:05:38.660 Wait, can you just scoot into the table and have the mic on the table?
00:05:41.120 What about you?
00:05:42.140 Um, same.
00:05:42.840 I'm not 100% sure on how many, but either 30 or 40s.
00:05:48.660 Not what you said in the car.
00:05:50.060 What did she say in the car? 0.98
00:05:51.140 Elle, throw her under the bus. 1.00
00:05:53.120 Everyone's to throw me under the bus.
00:05:54.800 Yeah, what did I say in the car?
00:05:55.780 What's that at the house?
00:05:56.740 What did you say in the car?
00:05:57.940 We're going to have a house fight when we get home.
00:06:01.260 It's going to be a long drive home.
00:06:03.080 You want me to start naming names?
00:06:05.160 No.
00:06:05.740 No?
00:06:06.940 What did you say in the car?
00:06:08.480 What did you say in the car?
00:06:09.300 Wait, here.
00:06:09.920 You don't say anything?
00:06:10.640 Just go like this for how many.
00:06:12.420 I'm pretty sure this girl did not say that low of a number in the car. 1.00
00:06:17.640 I could have sworn your ass said 45 or 50. 0.99
00:06:20.480 Didn't I just say somewhere like 30s, 40s? 1.00
00:06:23.740 That's not 45 or 50.
00:06:25.500 Okay.
00:06:26.380 So, wait, it's 50?
00:06:27.520 I don't know.
00:06:29.020 I know.
00:06:29.420 I just really don't know.
00:06:30.800 Yeah, it could be.
00:06:32.200 Hold on.
00:06:32.760 Just a sec, guys.
00:06:33.760 It's okay, girl. 0.93
00:06:34.560 I just fucking put myself in the bus. 0.98
00:06:36.300 You need to stop the MF cap. 0.98
00:06:39.540 What did it say?
00:06:40.260 Wait.
00:06:40.720 Okay, 40-year-old.
00:06:41.980 You need to stop the MF cap.
00:06:44.380 I think he's saying he thinks you're 40.
00:06:47.580 I don't think you're 40.
00:06:48.700 I'm not 40.
00:06:48.920 Are you 40?
00:06:49.760 Are you 40?
00:06:50.080 I'm not 40.
00:06:50.560 I'm not 40?
00:06:51.180 By the way, into the mic, please, if you can.
00:06:53.820 Believe it or not.
00:06:55.300 Okay.
00:06:56.600 She doesn't look 40.
00:06:57.300 Yeah, you guys are going to have a very interesting car ride back.
00:06:59.620 Yeah, thank you for that.
00:07:00.300 Well, I'm actually staying here.
00:07:01.800 Oh, you're staying here?
00:07:02.420 Yeah, my boyfriend goes to school here.
00:07:03.940 He goes to UCSB?
00:07:04.900 Yeah.
00:07:05.800 Oh, convenient.
00:07:06.740 Oh, we should have you on the show more often, then.
00:07:09.060 Okay.
00:07:10.860 So, 50?
00:07:14.040 Could be.
00:07:14.680 Could be.
00:07:15.160 All right.
00:07:15.440 What about you, Kirsten?
00:07:16.180 Six.
00:07:17.240 Six.
00:07:18.280 Okay.
00:07:19.160 Byronique? 0.95
00:07:19.840 First off, it really ain't nobody motherfucking busy. 0.99
00:07:22.720 I like the fact that people is all about slut-shaming and body count. 0.99
00:07:27.020 Look, we get horny, too. 1.00
00:07:28.600 Us bitches like some dick. 1.00
00:07:29.940 You know, we shouldn't have to. 1.00
00:07:31.160 If you can't be in a relationship, you should be able to get that dick. 1.00
00:07:34.380 You feel me? 1.00
00:07:34.840 Like, it's healthy.
00:07:36.260 That's a part of being healthy.
00:07:37.880 It's not just your physical.
00:07:39.560 That, you know, is all a part of it.
00:07:41.960 You need to get that vitamin D.
00:07:43.700 Like, you understand what I'm saying?
00:07:45.180 So, it shouldn't be nobody shaming about how many bodies you got a lot.
00:07:48.340 You feel me?
00:07:48.760 Like, it is what it is. 0.98
00:07:50.180 Like, and, you know, to be honest, shit, I forgot I stopped counting after ten because 0.99
00:07:54.940 it ain't nobody motherfucking business. 1.00
00:07:56.800 You could literally catch AIDS after having sex fucking one time or, you know, you could 1.00
00:08:02.060 beat and fuck a million people and not have nothing. 1.00
00:08:04.800 You get what I'm saying? 1.00
00:08:05.420 So, it don't matter.
00:08:06.800 If you had a brother, would you tell him it doesn't matter and, like, the girls he's
00:08:11.000 picking?
00:08:12.200 Look, I tell him, strap up if you want to make sure you don't die out here.
00:08:16.420 You understand what I'm saying?
00:08:17.180 But if you want to be promiscuous, honey, it's 2023, baby.
00:08:22.420 It ain't our grandparents' time no more.
00:08:24.440 No, but I meant, like, for, I'm not talking about, like, short-term.
00:08:26.900 I'm talking about long-term.
00:08:28.760 So, what do you mean? 0.99
00:08:29.520 Like, if you want to get married, should you be fucking other people in your marriage? 0.99
00:08:32.600 No, no, I'm saying, like, if you, if your brother had two girls to pick from, all things 0.99
00:08:36.960 being equal, one slept with 50 dudes, one slept with two, who would you tell him to pick?
00:08:41.660 That ain't got nothing to do with it.
00:08:43.200 That ain't got nothing to do with nothing, like my grandpa used to say.
00:08:45.240 Like, it's about the, what the person is, their heart, their soul, their spirit. 0.99
00:08:49.980 We don't give a fuck about who they done fucked. 0.99
00:08:51.860 That don't mean, and what money, none of that doesn't matter. 0.99
00:08:54.620 But I think the idea is, like, if she's been with 50 people, like, how, what are the odds
00:08:59.180 your brother or the guy is going to be the best she's ever had?
00:09:02.100 Like, how is he supposed to compete with...
00:09:03.700 Is that what should matter?
00:09:05.780 Is that what should matter?
00:09:08.920 And also, if you ask me how many of my actual committed, if you ask me how many of my relationships
00:09:13.700 I've cheated on, zero, zero.
00:09:16.440 Zero? 1.00
00:09:17.380 I might be a motherfucking slut, but I am not a, like, liar, cheater, any of that bullshit. 1.00
00:09:23.940 I do not cheat on people. 1.00
00:09:24.560 But I didn't say you were a liar.
00:09:25.380 I know, I'm just saying that's another stigma.
00:09:27.380 It's like, just because my body count is high and my sex drive is high does not mean that
00:09:34.180 I can't be in a committed relationship one day when I'm ready.
00:09:37.620 I may have been with anywhere from, I don't even know how many people, but my current boyfriend
00:09:41.860 is the most sexually comfortable person I have ever been with.
00:09:45.860 And, like, it's amazing.
00:09:48.620 Right.
00:09:49.120 But, like, my thing is we can make inferences based on data.
00:09:53.020 And all of the data says that when women are virgins on their wedding night, that is the 0.99
00:09:57.020 highest chance they have at a happy, successful marriage.
00:09:59.480 That's because that's all they've ever had.
00:10:01.960 They don't know no better.
00:10:03.040 Because they don't know better.
00:10:03.820 Can I say something?
00:10:04.700 Because they don't know better.
00:10:05.520 So why do you need to know better? 1.00
00:10:07.380 Shit. 1.00
00:10:07.760 Because you deserve better. 1.00
00:10:09.140 Because most of the time, if you get better, like, if you slept with 50 dudes, there's no
00:10:13.300 way you're going to keep the best guy out of the 50.
00:10:15.600 Why not?
00:10:16.840 Why not? 1.00
00:10:17.620 Because as you get older, you realize it's not just about the size of his dick. 1.00
00:10:20.460 You learn so much through other people. 0.99
00:10:22.420 It's also not all about...
00:10:23.560 And you get it out of the way.
00:10:24.160 You can't ask you for what you want.
00:10:26.800 Hold on, wait.
00:10:27.240 So to me, if you marry the girl, let's say you're 35, you're both 35 years old, whatever.
00:10:31.120 Who cares about the whole, like, age thing?
00:10:32.500 You're 35, and she slept with 50 people, you slept with 50 people.
00:10:36.580 Let's just say you have somebody who's 35 who slept with one person. 0.55
00:10:39.520 Women reach the height of their horniness in their 30s. 1.00
00:10:42.720 Who's more likely to cheat on you because you're just not self-satisfying her? 0.99
00:10:46.380 Because she has no experience, she doesn't know any better.
00:10:48.060 I'm saying this isn't even a personal thing.
00:10:49.920 Like, I'm talking about numbers, data.
00:10:51.940 Why are we debasing the human complex experience to data and statistics and numbers?
00:10:56.680 And I can take it anecdotally, where, you know, the girl that's on OnlyFans is saying
00:11:01.320 she's on antidepressants.
00:11:02.520 Like, there's more problems when you sleep with more people.
00:11:05.020 And I think...
00:11:05.680 Why do you think that is?
00:11:06.940 Why do you think that is?
00:11:08.580 And I think ignoring this is just delusional.
00:11:10.920 Why do you think that is then?
00:11:12.320 Why do you think it's delusional?
00:11:13.020 Because I don't think women are meant to sleep around like that. 1.00
00:11:15.820 I think women are meant to be sleeping with a whole bunch of dudes. 1.00
00:11:31.080 But men are.
00:11:31.740 And I think what can attest to this is the one who waited until she was married is the 0.80
00:11:37.700 one that's married here and seems to be in a happy, healthy relationship.
00:11:42.020 Could that be, though, because the majority of virgins on their wedding day are religious.
00:11:46.800 That is a religious thing.
00:11:48.100 And in the Bible, it says that you were supposed to be without one person for the rest of your
00:11:51.520 life.
00:11:51.780 So could that be because that is a religious thing?
00:11:54.060 I think religion is great.
00:11:55.540 I think religion helps.
00:11:56.520 So I think it's beautiful, but I don't...
00:11:58.240 And I think that that's...
00:11:59.300 If you want to make that decision for yourself, that's fine.
00:12:01.820 But don't sit here and judge other people who don't want to do that.
00:12:05.320 I'm trying to throw data and statistics in people's face.
00:12:07.200 And I'm saying let's look at results.
00:12:09.260 Like, I think just like in good faith.
00:12:11.200 Like, okay, you want to look at results?
00:12:12.880 Let's look at it really simply for a second.
00:12:15.320 And I'm telling you as a person sitting right in front of you that the person I am with right
00:12:19.660 now is my favorite.
00:12:21.780 Okay.
00:12:22.160 Well, I'm really happy for you.
00:12:23.700 Thank you.
00:12:23.860 I really am.
00:12:24.480 But I'm saying across the board, like, this is the thing with women. 1.00
00:12:27.320 Like, you always take it personal.
00:12:28.560 Like, I'm talking about you.
00:12:30.040 And I'm not talking about you guys personally, but we look at society as a whole.
00:12:34.740 The outcomes for women for sleeping around are not good. 1.00
00:12:37.520 We're more divorced.
00:12:38.480 We're more on antidepressants.
00:12:39.660 We're less happy than we've ever been.
00:12:41.220 But that's not just women. 1.00
00:12:42.380 That's men and women. 0.88
00:12:43.440 And that's also why I said to an extent.
00:12:45.380 You're doing it again.
00:12:45.960 I can't make a statement about women without saying but men. 0.99
00:12:48.800 Men have issues too.
00:12:49.940 But you put us all in the same box.
00:12:50.900 No, because in order to have a conversation, in order to have a conversation about anything,
00:12:56.360 we have to have generalizations.
00:12:57.440 But that's also why I said, yeah, to an extent, body count shouldn't matter.
00:13:00.860 I just don't know why we can't open up the conversation to also just discuss promiscuity
00:13:04.540 in general.
00:13:05.220 I think...
00:13:05.620 Because you're right, there's a lot of depression associated with promiscuity.
00:13:08.860 But on both genders, it happens.
00:13:10.340 There's a lot of guys who just...
00:13:11.500 It's not the same, though.
00:13:12.420 It affects women more. 1.00
00:13:13.640 And the data will tell you that.
00:13:15.440 You're right.
00:13:15.720 Like, the best outcome is when they're both virgins on their wedding night.
00:13:18.800 Like, that is the best outcome.
00:13:19.660 I've never taken this survey, by the way, so they don't hurt my dad.
00:13:22.340 I'm not really sure what the source is.
00:13:24.680 Okay, they've done multiple studies on this.
00:13:26.780 I don't know if they have the best outcome, I think you mean the people who stay together.
00:13:31.000 But the people who aren't together...
00:13:31.520 No, no, they ask them if they're happy in their marriage.
00:13:34.060 That's what they would do.
00:13:34.820 They would come back 10 years later and ask if they're happily married, yes or no. 0.99
00:13:38.300 To be honest, living in L.A., if I would have been waiting for marriage for a nigga 1.00
00:13:42.340 to put a ring on my finger, I would have been dead. 1.00
00:13:44.380 Like, you'll fuck around and die a virgin, like, waiting. 1.00
00:13:47.140 Are you kidding me? 1.00
00:13:47.920 Like, ain't no way.
00:13:49.000 And I just want to say...
00:13:50.000 From the men you want, but one in three men are set...
00:13:52.000 One in three men are sexless, so there are men that will wait.
00:13:54.920 But the problem is, like, women can sleep up. 1.00
00:13:56.240 In L.A.?
00:13:56.940 I don't think so.
00:13:57.680 Women can sleep up, so typically women sleep above their level. 1.00
00:14:00.980 I don't disagree with you when you say that, like, full promiscuity is not good for you.
00:14:05.920 When I got most of those sexual partners that I have were when I was young and I was not
00:14:14.380 happy with myself.
00:14:15.640 And, yeah, I regret it.
00:14:17.440 And it did make me feel good.
00:14:18.820 And I spent a long time not being with anybody.
00:14:21.220 But I also...
00:14:22.420 So we agree.
00:14:23.360 We agree.
00:14:23.940 It's not good for women. 1.00
00:14:25.580 I think we're...
00:14:26.680 I wasn't done, okay?
00:14:28.960 So, yeah, I don't disagree that full promiscuity is not great for you.
00:14:34.320 But I do not, 100% do not agree that being with one person for your entire life is good
00:14:40.980 for you.
00:14:41.520 What value?
00:14:42.560 I don't agree with that.
00:14:43.660 And I will say that because sitting at this table here, I have had the longest relationship.
00:14:49.820 And I say that because a huge part of...
00:14:53.860 And I'm not going to say it's superior because I'm not going to tell people how to live their
00:14:56.660 lives.
00:14:57.000 Everybody live a life how you want to live.
00:14:58.800 But I will say the simplest way I can explain it is when you involve multiple people in
00:15:04.780 anything, it's very complicated.
00:15:08.020 And hearing all of these stories from all of you, what I hear is it's really complicated.
00:15:12.720 It's really stressful.
00:15:13.680 And I've actually talked to my husband about this before.
00:15:16.200 But I just told him, I was like, I'm really glad that I didn't sleep with anybody before
00:15:19.540 you.
00:15:20.000 Because it does seem like it's really stressful.
00:15:22.400 And it's really complicated.
00:15:23.480 And there is an outsized amount of risk for women. 1.00
00:15:26.120 There is.
00:15:26.760 We are the ones that end up on the receiving end of all of...
00:15:30.320 We are the ones that end up on the receiving end of a lot of STDs.
00:15:33.120 We have the complications from that down the road.
00:15:35.220 And it is risky.
00:15:36.200 And so the less risk you expose yourself to, the less risk you will actually have happen
00:15:40.640 to you.
00:15:41.400 And so that's all I can speak to.
00:15:43.160 Because I've only slept with one person.
00:15:45.460 I think that the problem comes in when it goes into being judgmental about it.
00:15:48.160 Yeah.
00:15:48.400 At the end of the day, it's your decision and your decision.
00:15:51.500 If you want to be with just your husband, that's fine.
00:15:53.720 That's great for you.
00:15:54.480 But I can't...
00:15:54.920 I can't agree with saying...
00:15:56.660 It doesn't solve any problems.
00:15:57.340 But the problem...
00:15:57.960 It's by sitting here saying that, oh, it's bad for you and you're making bad decisions.
00:16:01.180 I am going to say this, though.
00:16:02.180 But you did say you don't think it's healthy to be with one person.
00:16:05.640 And fundamentally, even though I understand that you don't like the stat she's talking about.
00:16:10.800 And I'm not going to say that people don't have successful relationships any which way.
00:16:14.940 Right?
00:16:15.080 It doesn't matter.
00:16:16.040 There are people that have successful relationships.
00:16:18.540 And they come from all different backgrounds and they have all different body counts.
00:16:21.620 But what I will say is the idea that one man and one woman only sleeping with each other 0.78
00:16:26.040 is not a healthy relationship.
00:16:27.500 That's not true.
00:16:28.040 You know what?
00:16:28.260 You're right.
00:16:28.940 I...
00:16:29.460 That's not true.
00:16:30.880 That's probably not the words that I wanted to use.
00:16:33.640 And you're right about that.
00:16:35.160 It's not that I don't think it's healthy.
00:16:37.220 I don't think that it can be healthy.
00:16:40.240 Like, I don't think...
00:16:41.120 You mean you think it sometimes can't be?
00:16:42.860 I don't know your relationship personally and your relationship could be perfect.
00:16:48.540 I don't know that.
00:16:49.360 No one's relationship is perfect.
00:16:51.340 But you know what I mean?
00:16:52.160 I don't know you personally and I don't know your relationship.
00:16:55.560 But I do think that pushing the purity narrative is a really easy way to put a lot of girls 0.94
00:17:02.340 in a really unsafe position.
00:17:03.960 Did you hear?
00:17:04.580 I didn't say anything about religion.
00:17:06.180 I didn't say anything about purity.
00:17:07.360 I said I only slept with one person.
00:17:09.380 That's all I said.
00:17:10.060 Just, oh, like you...
00:17:11.260 Like, pushing the narrative that being with only one person, it can fast-track women and 1.00
00:17:17.080 do a lot of unsafe positions.
00:17:18.480 No.
00:17:18.820 You know what I mean?
00:17:19.260 I think sleeping with multiple partners can fast-track you because it's, like I said,
00:17:22.040 more factors, more risk.
00:17:22.720 Yeah, but that's why I'm saying I think it matters to an extent.
00:17:25.100 But I think...
00:17:25.580 You know?
00:17:26.000 No, no, no.
00:17:26.380 Just fundamentally, more factors, more risk.
00:17:29.040 Less factors, less risk.
00:17:30.160 It's literally that simple.
00:17:31.580 My life has been easier.
00:17:33.180 My life has been happier because I haven't had less risk.
00:17:35.140 Because you got lucky and you picked the right guy.
00:17:37.160 It wasn't luck.
00:17:38.040 It was very intentional.
00:17:39.260 And that's actually something that I think a lot of people...
00:17:41.360 This is what happens with the dating apps, too.
00:17:42.920 And sorry, now I'm going off track.
00:17:44.360 She said she dated her husband.
00:17:46.600 Correct me if I'm wrong.
00:17:47.460 She said she was in an eight-year, right?
00:17:49.980 All together.
00:17:50.460 Yeah, five years.
00:17:51.240 Five years. 0.98
00:17:51.760 Yeah, so she dated him for, like, three fucking years before she... 1.00
00:17:55.760 But I'm saying that there are a lot of women who don't see that kind of man. 0.98
00:18:01.460 When women are getting abused, that man is not always abusive from day one.
00:18:05.440 I wouldn't say that most men are abusive and most women are abused.
00:18:09.220 No, no, no, no, no.
00:18:09.540 So, and what I'm talking about is the fact that, like...
00:18:11.980 Because what you're talking about is you're saying that women are being put at risk by
00:18:15.180 sleeping with one person only, and that's fundamentally not true.
00:18:17.360 I don't think that that...
00:18:17.880 I think that maybe you're misunderstanding what I'm saying.
00:18:19.640 Okay, that's fair.
00:18:20.160 That's fair.
00:18:20.520 I'm just saying that by pushing that narrative...
00:18:23.740 But the narrative I'm saying is that it's simpler to only sleep with one person.
00:18:26.680 That's not really a narrative.
00:18:27.320 It's just true.
00:18:27.800 The narrative of experience is what puts you in unsafe situations.
00:18:32.140 I guarantee you.
00:18:32.540 You know what I mean?
00:18:33.000 And I'm not saying sexually.
00:18:34.180 I'm just saying with people in general.
00:18:36.840 When you just go...
00:18:38.320 When you decide, like, one person, that's it, you...
00:18:41.860 Yeah, you get to know someone for a long time, but you don't know who that person is until
00:18:47.140 they show you who they are.
00:18:48.480 Well, then...
00:18:48.800 You know?
00:18:49.020 You know the people...
00:18:50.380 By that logic, though, then you know the people you sleep with even less because of the
00:18:53.920 amount of time I've spent with my husband.
00:18:55.280 So you're, again, exposed to more risk.
00:18:57.520 Not you specifically, but you, the theoretical you.
00:18:59.360 But that's why when I say, like, I think body count matters to a certain extent.
00:19:04.880 You know what I mean?
00:19:05.460 I'm not going to say it matters because, like I said, people come...
00:19:08.040 Like, I'm not going to say that.
00:19:09.880 Do I think that it has an effect in the data?
00:19:12.140 Yeah, but am I going to say that it's going to affect someone's personal relationship?
00:19:15.500 I don't know.
00:19:16.340 I don't know because there is data, but there are also people.
00:19:18.700 I agree with what you said earlier.
00:19:19.840 Yeah, and that kind of reminds me of...
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