You Won't BELIEVE What She Said About Being TRADITIONAL
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with my good friend, Pearl, to talk about how she became a Christian and how she went from being a "modern" woman to a "traditional" woman. We talk about what it took for her to become a believer in God and how her faith has changed her life.
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I still don't understand what you did to become more traditional.
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Like, did you take cooking classes, what specifically did you do?
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So I had examples and I didn't see successful marriages.
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So then I started to surround myself around Christian communities when I became a person of faith.
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So as a result, I started to see successful, healthy marriages.
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That's why I didn't even have the desire to be married.
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I thought you said your parents and your grandparents were married.
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That's a very limited example, but I didn't, I did.
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They're married, but do I want to have their love life?
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Their values are amazing when, when hard times hit.
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But when I, I, I started to surround myself in the right environments and I started to
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see that I can have healthy relationships and healthy marriages and yeah, with the right
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So that has changed surrounding myself with the right people who I can see an example.
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All I needed was just an example and role models.
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Like when I hear girls talk about how they were modern and then they became traditional.
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Like, I don't hear anything that you actually did.
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Like I hear that I surrounded, I got baptized, which is great, you know, you know, pro faith
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And, and, and like that you surrounded yourself with people that were married, but it's like,
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So I was just wondering like what specifically you did to become, because if, if women want
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to know you were modern before, then you became traditional, like what specifically did you
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Well, there's, for something new to come in, the old has to go.
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So because you said you, you, you know, of faith, right?
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So when the Holy Spirit convicts someone on something, when, you know, you have a conviction,
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The person, like, I remember the day, Pearl, this was crazy.
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I was dating an atheist guy and I, I was like, yeah, I can change him, whatever.
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And the day after I got baptized and I had this inner conviction.
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Of course, for obvious reasons, but did someone from outside come and tell me this?
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I knew that I had to let go of certain people, certain beliefs, because my faith is, is now
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I think, I think that's genuinely great for you, but faith, like getting baptized, being
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I mean, I would say traditional is like our grandmothers and our great grandmothers.
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That's, that's like what they traditionally did.
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Like, cause I don't see myself traditional, traditional, but I don't see myself modern.
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So is there like a middle definition or hybrid that's, I don't, I don't really think so.
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I think it's like a lot of, no offense to you, but modern women pretending to be traditional
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and some of them don't really know they're not, but I think, I think once you like are
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around like a truly traditional woman, you just know it when you see it.
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I think there's differences because you can be around, like you're saying traditional,
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you can, you can not be, and I think that per that individual person grows up to believe
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and do what they believe in their faith and whatever they choose.
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But, but you can like believe things and that's, that's great, but it's about what you, what
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I see a traditional woman like would dress a certain way.
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Modest, you know, wouldn't show off and wouldn't go out party and drinking.
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But, but the traditional women are usually married.
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They usually are the one that's cooking for everyone at the party.
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I think the greatest thing would be, how do you see traditional women?
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Because in different, even in the UK, the different parts, there's different parts of,
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if you look at Liverpool, if we look at travellers, everyone has a traditional type of how they
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bring, if you look at any culture, they all have a different traditional way and in their
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Traditions, but I would still say the archetype of a traditional woman is the same.
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No, because if you look at home, looking after the family, cooking.
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That is nothing to, what does that have to do with anything?
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They're saying when you look at, because they're part of traditions.
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We actually don't, actually, we don't call them that.
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They literally have to like, get married at a very young age and have children and raise
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I'm just saying that they're also, they, they're very strategic in their belief.
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They're very, in their faith and how they're brought up.
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And what they believe in as the same as a Muslim woman, a Muslim culture is, a Catholic
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culture is, a Hindu culture is, a Buddhism culture is.
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So we can't, we can't sit here and say, okay, so what would yours be?
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We're going to have to go back and forth all night if you're going to talk about there's
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Like that's the general argument you keep making.
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I mean, you do have to get over it if you want to stay.
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So, um, what did you say what you did to become traditional?
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The only thing that stuck to my head, you said something really interesting, which is submission.
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And I think this is the big difference in the Western culture with other traditional cultures,
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because traditional cultures are more receptive to this concept of submission.
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And I think a lot of times in the Western culture, we are, um, they don't really know what that means.
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But to add on that, what submission is, is, you know, we see like sometimes the love as
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it's one sided, you know, I want to, I'm going to give him this so I can get this.
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But actually true love is not, I'm going to give this to get this.
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I think that the most like selfless people get the most in general.
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And this is, I think this is the, and it's sacrificial love.
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So submission, if a man is submitted to his cause, to his purpose, to his mission, to God,
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you know, a woman can submit to him, can feel comfortable to submit to him.
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But the problem that we're facing right now in culture is that women don't feel safe to submit to men
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because men are not submitted to a cause or to a purpose.
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And this is the reason why the women don't feel, you know, safe to be submissive.
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So when we talk about submission, you know, we women, our natural desire is to submit.
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Our natural desire, no matter how much a woman wants to fight about it, we want to submit.
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But the reason why women don't submit, because I know I was like this as well.
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And man doesn't need to be submitted to a woman, but a man needs to be submitted to a cause, to a purpose and to faith or to God.
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And this is where a woman needs feel safe to be submitted.
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And I guess the question is like, why are you picking men?
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I mean, not you, but if you're in that situation, why are you picking men that don't have that?
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