JustPearlyThings - May 21, 2023


You Won't Believe What She Said About Men


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11 minutes

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214.74944

Word count

2,514

Sentence count

241

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Misogyny

24

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Hate speech

11

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In this episode, the guys talk about cheating and how to deal with it. They talk about how men cheat on their wives and how it s a normal part of being a man. They also talk about why men cheat and why women cheat.

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00:00:00.000 I have a question for the men, I feel like a lot of men say that you can love women and
00:00:04.020 still like you know have SEX with another woman like I actually want you guys to break 0.99
00:00:08.700 it down to be like how does that work where you can you know love one woman but do something 0.88
00:00:14.860 to hurt her at the same time but still say you love her like would you be able to answer
00:00:18.080 that question how does that work?
00:00:19.520 Yes because men like to bust nuts. 1.00
00:00:23.520 I can see how that could work though.
00:00:25.760 So that's it it's just bust in the nut, what if bust in the nut is going to break up?
00:00:28.760 It's literally exclusive like it doesn't take away from the other.
00:00:32.260 My love for you, it's not gone because I'm talking to somebody else.
00:00:36.640 Think about it biologically, if a woman gets pregnant she's out for almost nine months and 0.99
00:00:44.000 a man still has to bust nuts so biologically one woman really can't satisfy a man. 1.00
00:00:50.880 He can do that with her, if a man cheats on his pregnant wife that's disgusting, that's 1.00
00:00:56.040 mad.
00:00:57.040 I'm not talking about the morality, I'm talking about the facts.
00:01:00.540 Yeah but that's what you're basing it on that time period.
00:01:02.540 But you see that, it's like you demonize him so quick.
00:01:05.920 Exactly.
00:01:06.920 Oh that's disgusting.
00:01:07.920 Yeah it is.
00:01:08.920 But that's what I'm saying, we lack understanding for men.
00:01:11.540 I don't lack understanding.
00:01:12.540 Wait, wait, you do based on that response.
00:01:14.540 I do.
00:01:15.540 Like because your immediate response is oh that's disgusting.
00:01:18.540 I'm basing it on what I know.
00:01:19.920 Right, I know it's fine but I'm saying as a society we lack understanding for men.
00:01:25.420 Instead of understanding where they're coming from.
00:01:27.420 If she's not sleeping with you and she's pregnant it's hard for a guy. 0.94
00:01:30.800 That's hard.
00:01:31.800 So what I've based it on is the woman is still wanting to sleep with her man but he views
00:01:37.900 her, a lot of men, they get turned off during the woman's pregnancy, right?
00:01:42.740 She doesn't look the same so therefore they look elsewhere.
00:01:45.680 That is a type of, in my eyes, that is disgusting.
00:01:48.300 And that's the type of man that you want to avoid.
00:01:52.260 That's crazy.
00:01:53.260 That's what I'm talking about.
00:01:54.260 I don't mean like, I don't mean a good man who's, you know, the woman's turning him down
00:01:58.920 and he's looking elsewhere.
00:01:59.920 That's different.
00:02:00.920 If your woman's willing to give it to you and you're just looking at her thinking oh she 0.96
00:02:02.920 looks ugly.
00:02:03.920 Yeah.
00:02:04.920 Yeah.
00:02:05.920 Is that a thing?
00:02:06.920 Like men don't want to sleep when they're pregnant. 0.99
00:02:08.920 Yeah.
00:02:09.920 Have you not heard of that?
00:02:10.920 The percentages are high.
00:02:11.920 That's another minority of men.
00:02:12.920 They cheat.
00:02:13.920 No, I think that like women kind of like have these horror stories that were just like 1.00
00:02:18.600 propagating.
00:02:19.600 Because women are more susceptible to like propaganda to be honest. 1.00
00:02:22.600 So I think there's like a bunch of like programming where they just give us these crazy stories
00:02:27.480 that don't really.
00:02:28.480 Like if you have sex you're poking the baby's head and stuff. 0.82
00:02:30.480 No, no.
00:02:31.480 I mean like.
00:02:32.480 But the story that I just gave.
00:02:33.480 Is that what you mean?
00:02:34.480 No.
00:02:35.480 I mean not just you but like one of them.
00:02:37.480 Yeah.
00:02:38.480 Like the, you know you guys, how many times have people mentioned abuse in the show?
00:02:41.980 Mm-mm.
00:02:42.980 Like why is that even mentioned all the time?
00:02:44.980 Like, like this is left and right.
00:02:46.600 Men are abusing women.
00:02:47.600 It's just not.
00:02:48.600 It's not true.
00:02:49.600 Women are abusing men as well. 1.00
00:02:50.600 It works both ways.
00:02:51.600 Yeah.
00:02:52.600 Right.
00:02:53.600 But I'm saying like that's always the women's immediate response.
00:02:55.600 It's like what's the worst that can happen?
00:02:57.600 Yeah.
00:02:58.600 It's like a gut.
00:02:59.600 Like whenever we talk about things that women are doing wrong, it's always like gut reaction. 1.00
00:03:03.220 What's the worst that can happen?
00:03:04.220 Mm-mm.
00:03:05.220 I've just noticed it because I've been doing this for so long.
00:03:08.220 Okay, Pearl.
00:03:09.220 If her sense for better or for worse point blank.
00:03:11.220 And if the wife cheats repeatedly, should the husband stay and work it out?
00:03:15.840 Yes.
00:03:16.840 Absolutely not.
00:03:17.840 I gotta be honest.
00:03:18.840 Cheating's different.
00:03:19.840 Um, you know, maybe I'm a little bit, no, they're gonna clip me if I say that, but, but
00:03:25.420 no, you know, um, I think the ideal should always be to work it out if you can.
00:03:29.840 But, um, I do think cheating's different for men and for women.
00:03:33.460 So, um, but bus drivers in New York City are top 5% earners.
00:03:38.460 My neighbor raised three kids and retired his wife as a bus driver.
00:03:41.720 This is nuts.
00:03:42.460 Um, okay.
00:03:44.460 Um, I think I'm gonna close out the show because we're almost hitting three hours now.
00:03:50.460 Um, thank you guys for coming.
00:03:52.460 Um, we're gonna do final thoughts.
00:03:54.080 So you can give any final thoughts you got on bus drivers or life or whatever.
00:03:59.080 Um, starting here and then go around.
00:04:01.080 Um, so my final thoughts is that whatever that woman's name was, the presenter, um, like
00:04:08.080 I said, I personally think she's lit.
00:04:10.080 Um, I think she's very like proud of where she's at in life.
00:04:13.080 And she doesn't want a bus driver. 1.00
00:04:14.840 She doesn't want a bus driver. 1.00
00:04:16.080 That's just her life.
00:04:17.420 Um, in terms of the marriage and stuff, the cheating and stuff, like nobody should cheat
00:04:22.420 boy or girl, man or woman.
00:04:23.920 I feel like if you've made vows in front of your family, in front of God, like think
00:04:27.320 about the money you spent on a dress, on the wing, on the rings, on everything is like,
00:04:31.960 why would you want to cheat?
00:04:32.960 Let's just not do that.
00:04:34.320 Um, and then other than that, um, yeah, I think in terms of dating as well, going average
00:04:39.580 and above average, I feel like as long as you're bettering yourself when you're
00:04:43.080 ambitious and you're trying to not be average, then I feel like you have, you're valid in
00:04:47.840 like trying to date somebody who like coordinates that they might be average, going above average
00:04:53.400 or like above average.
00:04:54.500 But yeah, that's just my final points.
00:04:57.400 Um, so in regards to the lady, the news anchor, I would say, yeah, I think she's totally entitled 0.86
00:05:03.640 to have her standard and to stick to it as well, not be swayed as well by what anyone
00:05:08.580 has to say about what she wants to accept in her life or from a man.
00:05:11.880 Um, as long as it's coming from a place where she knows she deserves it or she might be
00:05:16.640 delusional, but she has to also accept that with that comes the repercussions of like limited,
00:05:22.640 uh, prospects.
00:05:23.640 Like she may not get that man.
00:05:24.640 A really quick question.
00:05:25.640 Yeah.
00:05:26.640 If she's delusional, do you think then she should change her standards?
00:05:28.640 Yes.
00:05:29.640 Okay.
00:05:30.640 Yeah.
00:05:31.640 I do.
00:05:32.640 Yeah.
00:05:33.640 I'm basing it on the fact that she is entitled to this standard of man.
00:05:36.400 Yeah.
00:05:37.400 If she's not getting the men she wants, then isn't she delusional? 0.80
00:05:40.400 Um, but she didn't say what she wants.
00:05:42.400 She just said what she doesn't want.
00:05:43.400 There's hope.
00:05:44.400 There's hope.
00:05:45.400 Is there hope when there's only a 12% chance she'll be married? 0.92
00:05:49.400 There's hope.
00:05:50.400 There's hope.
00:05:51.400 No, there's hope.
00:05:52.400 There's hope.
00:05:53.400 There's hope.
00:05:54.400 How, how is there hope?
00:05:55.400 No, I want to explain it.
00:05:56.400 There's a 12% of hope.
00:05:58.400 Okay.
00:05:59.400 So because it's not zero, there's hope.
00:06:00.400 Absolutely.
00:06:01.400 Okay.
00:06:02.400 God loves to try her.
00:06:03.400 Um, yeah.
00:06:04.400 Yeah.
00:06:05.400 Would there be more hope if she accepted bus drivers?
00:06:07.400 Listen, I, in all honesty, if she met a good bus driver, a good character, a good man that
00:06:12.400 would take care of her.
00:06:13.400 And if he was obviously not the 15 pound an hour, but if he was one of the top three earners,
00:06:17.400 whatever, she should go for it.
00:06:19.400 Okay.
00:06:20.400 100%.
00:06:21.400 Go ahead.
00:06:22.400 Um, yeah, go on.
00:06:23.400 Um, I think a lot of good points have been made here today.
00:06:25.400 I think also, if you are a woman that does aspire to be married, um, it's important to
00:06:31.400 know what your man wants and adjust to that.
00:06:34.400 I've had to do it myself.
00:06:36.400 I was, I was very, um, in a sense, yeah, dominant and kind of knew what I wanted and I've had to
00:06:42.400 change myself, et cetera.
00:06:43.400 So I think also a lot of points that have been made here today have also opened my eyes
00:06:48.400 in a sense.
00:06:49.400 And I'm always open to learning.
00:06:50.400 So yeah.
00:06:51.400 Um, thank you for having me.
00:06:52.400 Thanks for coming.
00:06:53.400 Go ahead.
00:06:54.400 Um, I think I'm going to ask the bus driver for me to view him as like more than like
00:06:58.400 he, he's still a human.
00:06:59.400 I agree.
00:07:00.400 He's still a human and he can bring a lot more to the table than just being a bus driver.
00:07:05.400 He might, he might've had a mad life before and got the creative stories and, and education.
00:07:09.400 He can teach you a lot and everything like that.
00:07:10.400 So I think maybe we shouldn't just judge him as a bus driver in regards to marriage and
00:07:14.400 things like that.
00:07:15.400 I believe that, um, I believe that marriage isn't a necessity in this day and age, because
00:07:21.400 if I'm asking my partner to give up her whole career in life, to be my wife and to raise
00:07:26.400 my kids and to nurture me and love me, then she's given up a whole, um, career potentially. 1.00
00:07:31.400 So yeah, she needs some security.
00:07:33.400 She needs like half of my shit.
00:07:34.400 So I believe that some, a good thing.
00:07:38.400 And yeah, thanks for having me.
00:07:39.400 Thanks for coming.
00:07:40.400 Go ahead.
00:07:41.400 Um, regarding the bus driver, I'm not going to lie.
00:07:44.400 Do you think the woman is delusional? 0.95
00:07:46.400 I'm sorry.
00:07:47.400 It just regarding the age, like we have to, we have to be realistic.
00:07:50.400 She's not even that old.
00:07:51.400 38.
00:07:52.400 She's 39.
00:07:53.400 You can't, I don't think, I do not think, I don't think you can birth.
00:07:57.400 It's going to be very difficult.
00:07:58.400 So when you have-
00:07:59.400 Like 20 years on the market, that's a long time.
00:08:01.400 That's like, you didn't sell a product for 20 years.
00:08:04.400 You might lower the price a little bit, a little bit.
00:08:08.400 I mean, at least 15% off.
00:08:11.400 You know what I mean?
00:08:13.400 Because literally like man want a family.
00:08:15.400 They want a tribe.
00:08:16.400 So if you can't-
00:08:17.400 Yeah, but you're assuming that the man has to want a family.
00:08:19.400 Like what if he's, like I said, 60, he's had his kids.
00:08:21.400 But if you want marriage, why are you marrying for?
00:08:23.400 For a tribe, for marriage. 0.98
00:08:24.400 So if you, if you're looking for that, then I don't think at your age, you should be that
00:08:29.400 picky.
00:08:30.400 Respectfully.
00:08:32.400 And also thank you for having me.
00:08:35.400 It was great.
00:08:36.400 I've learned a lot.
00:08:37.400 I've had lots of knowledge and thank you again.
00:08:39.400 Thanks for coming.
00:08:40.400 Glad.
00:08:41.400 I think that God is the greatest and his word does not lie.
00:08:45.400 And it says in the Bible that you should, a woman should look for someone that's going 1.00
00:08:48.400 to protect and provide for her.
00:08:50.400 Um, so therefore she is almost allowed to look up, will look for someone that's going
00:08:54.400 to do that for her.
00:08:55.400 Um, it's okay to, there's some circumstances where a girl has dated a guy that's doing
00:09:00.400 less than him and it's worked out.
00:09:02.400 That's possible.
00:09:03.400 And I encourage women, especially who are older to do that.
00:09:05.400 But I feel like don't drop your standards too low.
00:09:08.400 And I feel like the bus driver to TV presenter, that's way too low for her.
00:09:12.400 Maybe a lawyer, maybe a teacher, a business owner.
00:09:15.400 I understand the Bible says provide, but he didn't say provide a crazy lifestyle.
00:09:21.400 Yeah.
00:09:22.400 But it's like, I just feel like.
00:09:24.400 He just said.
00:09:25.400 Like if he's a bus driver, he's working.
00:09:27.400 If he could feed and clothe himself and like has an apartment for himself.
00:09:31.400 Like she could just go into his apartment.
00:09:33.400 You can still be protected by a bus driver.
00:09:35.400 I feel like with her, let's be realistic.
00:09:38.400 She's accustomed to her lifestyle and she's comfortable in that lifestyle.
00:09:42.400 So she's going to want someone to kind of meet that.
00:09:44.400 No, I understand.
00:09:45.400 I just don't understand.
00:09:46.400 Like that's not biblical.
00:09:48.400 You must date a guy.
00:09:50.400 Like if you choose, it's not biblical to wait until you're 40 to get married, sleep
00:09:54.400 with a bunch of dudes, make a bunch of money and then ask for a guy that makes more. 1.00
00:09:58.400 That's not biblical.
00:09:59.400 Yeah.
00:10:00.400 And I agree with that.
00:10:01.400 And that's her mistake.
00:10:02.400 And that's why she's 39 and single. 0.58
00:10:03.400 But I feel like at the end of the day, God is the greatest.
00:10:05.400 And I feel like women, we should follow what the prince, what the Bible says about what
00:10:10.400 you should look for in a man.
00:10:11.400 And it's the same thing with women as well. 1.00
00:10:13.400 But women should be pure. 1.00
00:10:14.400 And I'm telling, and I'm agreeing with the fact that she didn't follow the biblical sense.
00:10:18.400 That's why, that's why she's in that position. 0.97
00:10:20.400 And she's finding herself in a situation where she's arguing online over a bus drive or whatever.
00:10:24.400 But I just think everyone should follow the Bible.
00:10:26.400 If we did, she wouldn't be in that position and no one would be arguing about.
00:10:29.400 No, I just am confused like on the provide stuff.
00:10:32.400 He doesn't say provide how much.
00:10:35.400 Like he's working.
00:10:36.400 Yeah.
00:10:37.400 It's not like he's unemployed.
00:10:38.400 If he got food in a booth.
00:10:39.400 If he got food in a booth.
00:10:40.400 He's unemployed.
00:10:41.400 I'm not saying it's impossible for him to provide.
00:10:42.400 Obviously, if he's a bus driver, he can provide something.
00:10:44.400 Right.
00:10:45.400 But what I'm saying is that she's accustomed to a lifestyle. 0.85
00:10:47.400 So for example, the queen, rest in peace, she's accustomed to a certain lifestyle.
00:10:52.400 But just because the bus driver can provide a penny for her, that doesn't mean now like she can, you know, you know, she's accustomed to her lifestyle.
00:11:00.400 It's like living and maintaining.
00:11:01.400 Yeah.
00:11:02.400 Like you're living and you want to maintain it.
00:11:03.400 So she wants to maintain that lifestyle. 1.00
00:11:05.400 Yeah, that's just me being completely realistic with the fact that there's some women, they just want a certain lifestyle. 1.00
00:11:11.400 That's it.
00:11:12.400 And they want to remain in that.
00:11:13.400 So with that being said, they just want to stick with that.
00:11:15.400 The guy adding 50p more to that is not really, that's not really like the provision that she's looking for.
00:11:21.400 So I know in the Bible, it doesn't say that, but what I'm trying to say is that like, there's people who are comfortable in their lifestyle.
00:11:28.400 And if they want to remain in that, then we should just let them.
00:11:32.400 And if that ends up being her fault and she's 60 with like seven cuts, then that's on her.
00:11:38.400 Okay.
00:11:39.400 Thank you.
00:11:40.400 And thank you for having me on the show.
00:11:41.400 Thank you for coming.