You Won't Believe What She Said Before Saying THIS
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how to answer the question, "Do you have a girlfriend?" and how to deal with a guy who wants to know if you're in a relationship or not. We also talk about the difference between a traditional guy and a non traditional guy when it comes to dating.
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My relationship status, it depends on who's asking.
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Okay, wait. I need to break that down. Why do we like that?
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So are you with someone? Like someone you like?
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Well, I'm just wondering if you have a boyfriend or not.
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Okay, so if an ugly guy asks, you have a boyfriend.
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Exactly. And either one is kind of just like whatever it is, it is.
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Okay. Do you think that'd be a little confusing for a guy?
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Yeah, but that doesn't matter. That's up to me.
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Okay. Well, I know it's up to you, but I'm just wondering like.
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You know, because if a guy said, if I said, do you have a girlfriend?
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And he's like, depends who's asking. I'm like, do you have a girlfriend?
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No, of course. You're going to get like irritated with it.
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Listen, if you're not doing anything to court me to get in that situation, then I don't owe you any explanation of anything.
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Well, I just wonder why as women we have these confusing answers instead of just like answering questions directly.
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Because I've done hundreds of these shows, and I've never had a guy give me an answer like that.
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It's either single, taken. Sometimes they might say, I'm seeing someone, but like it's very, a lot more clear than the women in general.
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I haven't done hundreds of these shows, but I've done thousands of people approaching me.
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And the men. So what are the answers the men usually give?
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Like a man, when they're like, like coming for me, I'm just like, do you have anybody at home?
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Well, baby, we ain't even talking about that right now.
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Yeah. But it's like, I can't do it too. So like, I'm one of those people, if you can do it, I could do it too.
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Well, yeah, but then you're trying to be a guy.
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No, I'm not trying to be a guy. I'm just trying to have an even platform.
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That's the problem is a lot of people try to think that like, I'm trying to be a guy. I'm not.
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It's just like, if you could do it, why do you think that you can do it just because you're a man and I can't do it because I'm a female?
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So my question is, you said that the men need to court you, but they can't court you if you don't give them an answer, if you're in a relationship or not.
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Do you feel like you deal with traditional men?
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Yeah, but I'm saying like, because traditional men will ask.
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Like men that are trying to court you, they'll ask.
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No, and I agree with that, but like, the traditional people are starting to, oh, sorry, the traditional men are starting to like extinct if like anybody knows.
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They're like, okay, you know, like I'm just trying to date you.
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I meant the non-traditional guys that like approach you or like, uh, like who are you?
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Why do all these guys nowadays want to be taken care of?
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But it's like, why do you deal with the guys that want to be taken care of?
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You wouldn't know this information if you didn't deal with them.
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Well, but then why are broke guys approaching you?
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But I'm saying like traditional guys are going to be turned off by that answer.
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Because like traditional guys don't want to deal with the bullshit.
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So it's like, you're almost like adapting for the non-traditional guys.
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Like, and it's going to turn off someone that's traditional.
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I know the kind of people that I can proposition of buying bottle service at the club because
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I can tell by your shoes, by your watch, by your shoes, who I can approach about buying bottle
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service at a club, the same way that I can like show who I'm going to do that answer
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Somebody who is like not worth my time is what, who gets that answer.
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But somebody who's traditional, probably worth my time, but would never get that kind of
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Well, you know, well, but you realize like traditional, like I have 1.7 million subscribers and a lot
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of the guys that watch are, are in a more traditional mindset.
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So it's like by giving this answer, you're basically telling them you're not a traditional
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woman because traditional women don't answer like that, which is fine.
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And it doesn't mean like bad person, but I'm saying like, if you want to attract traditional
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men, the, I just think they're going to be confused.
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That's also kind of your opinion of the traditional guys.
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Like the guys that like are like you, you don't really know.
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No, actually the objective truth is most of the guys that are traditional and high value
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men, we look for a certain thing or a status in a woman.
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So if we're talking to a gal and it's like, they give us this vague answer, it's like, okay,
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And then I think they just think you're fucking.
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But if a girl says that, it's like, wait, it depends on who's asking.
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It's like, okay, are you, are you a man or a woman?
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It's like, okay, I'm just trying to talk to you.
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But I hear what you're saying, but I think that when you have that many subscribers,
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you deal with guys like that that deal with women.
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Some don't, you know, and I know you're bottle service.
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I'm independent now, but I used to be at One Oak exclusively.
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But then I decided that it's like a lot easier to ask my clients, where would you like to
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As opposed to being like, can you please come here?
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I know you don't want to come here, but can you come here for just me?
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And like, honestly, if you know anybody who's like a VIP host, we're trained to like really
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So like, when I'm saying those kind of responses, I'm saying that to the people I know are jokes.
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But what I'm saying, it's just, I think it's confusing to guys.
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I don't know what else I can do because I keep adjusting it, but it keeps.
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Name, age, relationship, status, and what you do for a living.
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And I run a tech consulting company, a supplement company.
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I've been in a four-year relationship with my girlfriend.
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Well, actually, Ashley was responsible for getting these ladies here.
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He's got a nice little podcast where he interviews women and, like, helps them out.
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I didn't, I didn't, I didn't, I didn't mean it like that.
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He's such a good interviewer that I literally, I messaged you.
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I thought you were, I was like, I love the way he talks to the women.
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I was like, he does such a good job of, like, saying it in a way that's like, doesn't make us want to, like, punch you in the dark.
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See, I'm already, I'm already, that's why I had her sit over there.
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I came in here with just like, so is he going, I was like, is he going to kick me out or not?
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Because she goes, are you going to be like Myron on Fresh and Fit?
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So, so, so I, I interviewed ladies on relationships, single women and why they're single or not and
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And so I do what kind of Kevin did, but I do it in person.
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I mean, I, I literally, I saw a clip and I was just like, yeah, for now.
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That's what, that's what all the women say.
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And we don't have to agree on like every single thing, but it was about him being like, all
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right, get the fuck out, bitch, bitch, bitch, bitch, bitch, bitch.
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Well, and I'm just like, well, was she being a bitch or not?
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She was being more of a boss bitch and you like, can't like handle a bitch like that.
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But, but I hear what you're saying, but there's a level of disrespect when you're standing up
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I don't know who you're talking about, but I'm just saying, I'm just saying.
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Well, usually, look, I used to actually think Myron was a dick.
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And I feel bad because then I actually got into his shoes and I interviewed women and
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And it's so crazy because you don't see usually the level of disrespect they'll do first and
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over-talking someone on their own show and feeling like they own the room.
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And then it's like, by the time you kick them out, it's like, they've over-talked you
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But it's like, usually, like a lot of times they'll play the victim and be like, oh,
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I saw the one that you did with Andrew Tate and Auntie and, you know what I'm talking
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That was, that was a hard one to watch with the African girl, like the younger one,
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And the other day after that, she was like, Pearl's so racist.
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I'm like, bitch, you've been on my show three times.
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But it was like, but it's like, a lot of times when women get kicked off, they just like
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play the victim when it's like, they usually have like 10 different warnings and then they
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To be fair with Myron's shit, he was talking over like the whole goddamn time.
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And then he just wanted like to be able to pick on other people and he didn't like that
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So like, honestly, like with you guys, y'all completely disagree with my opinion, but I
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I felt like you're entitled to your opinions and I respected the hell out of it.
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Well, and I'll tell you, I'll tell you what's happened though.
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I think women, we've never really had people talk to us in a more masculine way because
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And like when we say it's how you say it, that's saying, say it in a more feminine way.
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Have you ever been in a locker room with guys or like in an all male space?
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I mean, there's a reason we have phrases like locker room talk, right?
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Well, I feel like if you're black, you understand that.
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Cause it's, it's every day that that's how we show up.
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Is that women correcting your tone or men?
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When a man does that, how does that make you feel?
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Because it's a more feminine way of talking.
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So I think with Myron and I had this gut reaction to him at first too, but the thing is with
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him, it's like, he's just speaking in a very masculine, direct way.
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I don't think he's ever had the shit smacked out of him.
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No, I'm saying like, you're like, you never really got like somebody who's really fucking
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It doesn't matter if you're, you could be a fucking president or you can be like a government
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And when you get somebody that you really respect that fucking tells you some shit, then
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I saw him have someone like come to his door and like threaten.
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I don't think it's like the directness of like how he is.
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Cause I think being direct is how he has to be.
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Cause unfortunately, especially with a room of women, they start to over talk everybody.
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You have to command the room and like calm it down.
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I think sometimes what it is, is the, the, what words you choose to use.
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So like I've heard him called girls bitches and it came out of nowhere and it's like, whoa,
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like, well, usually they're being a bitch.
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So it's just like, like, let's say you're talking to somebody because we're not used to
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turn the mic up because we're not used to like the, like you said, like people telling
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us what to do and holding ourselves accountable.
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We always want you to be like, well, what you did wasn't okay.
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And so when we hear somebody go say this, they're like, what do we want to, we want to
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Like, you're not going to talk to me like that.
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But, and like, that's kind of what I've conditioned myself to like, when I hear guys speak in
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a very direct way, I have to ask myself first, is it true?
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Like all the girls I've seen him kick off over talk to him at least like four or five.