JustPearlyThings - April 21, 2023


You Won't Believe What This Dumb Bimbo Said...

Topics
tattoos hookup culture high-quality men are rare
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Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Drake Pearl Sarah
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9 minutes

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2,017

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202

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Misogyny

22

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5

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In this episode, we talk about how to deal with the pressures of dating in your 20s and 30s, and how to make the most of your 20's and 30's. We also talk about what it means to be a woman in the 21st century, and what to look out for when it comes to dating.

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00:00:00.000 No, men across the board judge women with tattoos, men across the board judge, you know,
00:00:06.540 if we're going to say a balance of probability, like there's exceptions, but if we're going
00:00:10.020 to talk about across the board, the men you want, like I'm, I'm from a pretty well-off
00:00:13.640 community and like most of my brothers make six figures.
00:00:17.640 Most people in our circles make six figures.
00:00:19.900 And I can tell you that they, they absolutely judge you.
00:00:22.300 If you have tattoos, they absolutely judge you.
00:00:24.240 If you have piercings.
00:00:24.880 And I didn't always like this when I was younger, I was like, mom, you're so judgmental.
00:00:29.400 Why?
00:00:30.140 Like I was so mad that she wouldn't let me like do this stuff.
00:00:32.820 And then the older I get, the more I see that she's right.
00:00:35.300 And I just, you know, I really, you know, if, if I can encourage you in a different direction,
00:00:40.140 that's probably what I'm going to do.
00:00:42.240 It's not the be all and end all though.
00:00:43.900 Not at all.
00:00:44.500 I think, I think you could actually end up making it something that works for you.
00:00:47.160 You can, a classy woman with tattoo does stir some intrigue that could be interesting. 1.00
00:00:51.400 So I'm not, we're not giving you like some kind of final judgment.
00:00:54.440 Yeah.
00:00:54.560 It's not a death sentence at all.
00:00:55.860 No.
00:00:56.540 Just get a couple of sundresses and you'll be fine.
00:00:59.400 No one's going to watch you.
00:01:00.540 Everyone in this room hated my tattoos.
00:01:02.440 I love them.
00:01:03.180 They're great tattoos.
00:01:04.020 They're lovely.
00:01:04.480 They're beautiful.
00:01:05.180 Yeah.
00:01:06.480 I personally don't have a thing against tattoo, but I'm not going to lie if I saw someone
00:01:09.800 with tattoos, it doesn't scream, take me out to dinner, talk to me every night, treat
00:01:13.960 me like wifey. 1.00
00:01:14.700 It kind of screams like you've probably had two or three toxic relationships.
00:01:19.240 Like, you know.
00:01:20.340 Yeah, I get where you're from.
00:01:21.040 That's my first impression.
00:01:22.080 It's not right.
00:01:22.440 You're on the journey, you know.
00:01:25.400 But for real girls, I would say, look at, I do agree with feminists on one thing in 1.00
00:01:30.500 that you, you go, you women have a lot against you now more than ever and that you have the 0.72
00:01:33.720 worst role models ever.
00:01:34.800 Like when I look at modern women, there's very few role models. 1.00
00:01:39.340 And I always get the impression when I speak to, when I see the women others look up to,
00:01:43.600 other women look up to, I just like, you're looking up to people who don't have what you 1.00
00:01:46.880 want.
00:01:47.100 You're looking up to women who are coping with their bad decisions.
00:01:50.540 34 year olds, 32 year olds who are still in the club, who are trying to sell you on
00:01:54.260 this whole culture and accept yourself and spirituality.
00:01:57.420 And they're not, they're missing out the little bit where it says, I messed up.
00:02:00.660 I missed the boat.
00:02:01.340 I had all these opportunities at uni, I had all these opportunities, I messed up and I'm
00:02:04.920 still in this club with 21 year olds trying to pretend that I've got it all.
00:02:08.280 I guarantee you, these women, if they found a decent guy, they would fight you tooth and 1.00
00:02:12.140 nail for that guy.
00:02:13.100 So just, just remember that.
00:02:14.200 Not everyone wants the best for you.
00:02:15.460 And those are all, all, all women. 0.76
00:02:17.460 Not every woman wants the best for you either. 0.70
00:02:19.300 Misery loves company.
00:02:19.960 No, agreed.
00:02:20.560 Yeah.
00:02:20.800 They will lie to your face straight, straight up.
00:02:22.820 Like.
00:02:22.860 The devil doesn't break into empty houses, does it?
00:02:25.060 And you're young.
00:02:25.720 You're young.
00:02:26.160 They're going to lie to you.
00:02:27.200 Take your time.
00:02:28.100 It's chill.
00:02:28.540 It doesn't matter.
00:02:29.080 You know, accept yourself.
00:02:29.840 You know, you've got, you've got time.
00:02:31.280 Trust me.
00:02:31.860 After uni, the amount of high quality guys you meet on the dating scene would use you significantly.
00:02:36.300 In uni, you're in a pool of just young people who are quite focused and going towards somewhere.
00:02:40.680 When you come out, you're on Tinder, right?
00:02:43.060 On Tinder, anyone could be on Tinder.
00:02:44.620 Anyone could be on Hinge.
00:02:45.800 People are trying to mess around.
00:02:46.960 People broke.
00:02:47.760 It's long.
00:02:48.500 And, and the more time kind of passes, the less high quality men there are.
00:02:52.320 Because men figure it out and just pick one and bounce. 0.97
00:02:54.640 The guys you see every day are the guys that are running through girls, innit?
00:02:57.760 That does, and let's go back to the market thing that Troy said.
00:03:02.340 The longer a house sits on the market, the more likely that house is to drop in price.
00:03:06.560 Yeah, it decreases in value.
00:03:07.700 Right.
00:03:08.620 But I hate the whole, you just mentioned like Tinder and all this stuff.
00:03:12.800 Like when you go, you need, like, and you dropped the word market as well.
00:03:16.680 I don't like the whole idea that women are on a market. 1.00
00:03:21.540 Well, no, but, but, but, but, but men are as well.
00:03:23.520 Men are as well.
00:03:24.180 Everyone is.
00:03:24.860 Men are as well.
00:03:26.040 Everyone's for sale.
00:03:27.000 Like I get that, but I just don't.
00:03:28.000 The whole thing is a market.
00:03:29.160 It's not just women. 1.00
00:03:29.900 It's just everybody.
00:03:30.820 A hundred percent, a hundred percent.
00:03:31.780 But just for me personally, like maybe call me delusional, call me naive, but I just hate
00:03:37.200 the whole, the whole hookup culture idea that is so normalized today.
00:03:41.100 That doesn't sit right on my conscience whatsoever.
00:03:43.600 Whose fault is hookup culture?
00:03:46.620 It's the women's fault. 1.00
00:03:48.420 I think it's, I think it's a problem on both sides.
00:03:50.940 I don't think it's.
00:03:51.620 What percent, what percent of men can partake in hookup culture?
00:03:54.500 What percent of men get laid? 0.59
00:03:56.280 I don't know the statistics or the facts, but I don't think it's a certain sex to blame.
00:04:00.940 I think it's a problem on shared on both sides.
00:04:03.620 We don't help each other as women. 1.00
00:04:04.920 And I don't think men help themselves either.
00:04:07.000 So women want to sleep with roughly 20% of men. 0.77
00:04:10.040 20% of men.
00:04:11.240 And some people would argue it's fewer, but we're going to say 20% of men are sleeping
00:04:15.600 with all the women where 80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men.
00:04:19.380 So whose fault is hookup culture?
00:04:22.600 Is it more women doing it or more men doing it? 1.00
00:04:24.900 I think you have the advantage in this like situation because obviously you know the statistics,
00:04:30.520 like I'm not sat behind a company.
00:04:32.180 I don't know the statistics, like, but I just, from my personal opinion and what I see
00:04:38.500 is that I wouldn't blame it on a certain sex.
00:04:41.780 And I'll hold my hands up and say that.
00:04:43.920 Yeah, but it's not the five foot two nerdy guys who are causing hookup culture, is it?
00:04:48.600 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:49.120 I think the point Pearl's making is that you've got women who, you know, by and large
00:04:53.540 can get access to sex pretty easily for the most part, not exclusively for the most part.
00:04:57.760 And then you've got a certain, a much smaller sector of guys who are getting access to that
00:05:02.660 same sexual activity.
00:05:04.260 Do you agree with the saying women can, women sleep with who they want and men sleep with 0.93
00:05:11.120 who they can?
00:05:12.180 Yeah.
00:05:12.780 But see, is that something you agree with personally?
00:05:16.560 Yeah.
00:05:17.140 99% of people.
00:05:18.660 Yeah.
00:05:19.180 Yeah.
00:05:19.860 I agree with that as well.
00:05:21.300 But so that supports what I'm saying.
00:05:23.260 So women are the gatekeepers. 1.00
00:05:24.200 Yeah, because women are in control of who, who gets sex. 1.00
00:05:26.860 So if there's a hookup culture, it's women who are in control of hookup culture. 1.00
00:05:30.700 If all women said tomorrow, we all said, all right, guys, we're closing up shop until 1.00
00:05:35.700 we get a ring on our finger.
00:05:37.940 Everyone would be married.
00:05:39.320 I would buy Zale stock immediately.
00:05:41.920 No, but that's everyone.
00:05:43.640 That's everyone.
00:05:44.760 And we're not talking about everyone.
00:05:46.020 We're talking the majority.
00:05:47.540 Yeah.
00:05:47.740 But that is that small percentage of people that aren't like that.
00:05:51.660 We cannot speak for everyone.
00:05:52.880 But we're talking in generalities, though.
00:05:56.320 OK, but I'll stand tough in my personal opinion.
00:05:58.660 But that's all I'm going to say on that topic.
00:06:01.140 Like, I don't think that will waver for me personally.
00:06:05.200 Well, say that again.
00:06:06.560 What won't waver for you?
00:06:07.460 Like, I don't, I'm not happy with putting that on one specific sex.
00:06:14.660 Like, I think we're both part to blame for hookup culture.
00:06:17.960 But you don't think if eight out of ten women are participating it and one out of every 1.00
00:06:22.580 ten or maybe two out of every ten men are participating it, you don't think it's more
00:06:26.400 on the women because more women are doing it? 1.00
00:06:28.720 I mean, I don't like, I don't live by, like, statistics and facts.
00:06:32.920 Like, I just, I like to say that.
00:06:34.660 You just, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, not like that.
00:06:38.920 Not like that, but, not like that.
00:06:40.780 That's going to be a great clip.
00:06:42.520 No, not like that, but the way is Drake, is Drake, is Drake, is Drake.
00:06:47.440 You want a Scottish show?
00:06:48.300 I've been trying to say this the whole show.
00:06:49.620 Who's more responsible for hookup culture, the thousand women that have slept with Drake 0.99
00:06:55.920 or Drake?
00:06:58.360 That's the thing.
00:06:59.400 The thousand women that are begging Drake, please fly me out every day. 1.00
00:07:03.680 Please, please pick me.
00:07:05.620 Pick me.
00:07:06.240 Nah, I'm not meeting you in the middle of that.
00:07:07.840 And then Drake's like, fine.
00:07:09.820 Nah.
00:07:10.500 See?
00:07:11.160 I'm not going to lie to that.
00:07:12.060 He shouldn't say fine because he's part of the problem if he's saying fine.
00:07:15.600 He worked his whole life to get to that point.
00:07:17.920 I'm done with, nah, I'm not dealing with that.
00:07:20.520 Except the cognitive dissonances.
00:07:22.480 Nah.
00:07:23.280 I mean, men have the same thing, right?
00:07:25.480 We all want someone who doesn't have, who hasn't slept around, but at the same time, 0.84
00:07:29.080 we've also slept around a fair bit.
00:07:31.400 So I guess there's room on both sides.
00:07:33.760 You could argue either point.
00:07:36.040 But that's what I'm saying.
00:07:37.520 Yeah, yeah, but, you know.
00:07:38.860 Do you think Drake is waiting for a virgin?
00:07:41.080 No.
00:07:41.720 Nobody knows what Drake is waiting for.
00:07:43.300 I think most men expect that the girl has, I mean,
00:07:47.760 I don't know any guy that's genuinely, no, no, there's one that came on my show
00:07:51.620 that was genuinely waiting for a virgin, but that's like one out of, what,
00:07:55.660 the hundreds of men I've met all year.
00:07:57.620 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:57.920 But I've had multiple girls come on the show and ask for, like, 1.00
00:08:00.440 we do the delusion calculator, 20, 30% of men.
00:08:04.980 I mean, even just physical characteristics,
00:08:07.540 if you think of a guy you're attracted to,
00:08:09.200 I think, Justin, you're like 6'3".
00:08:12.200 Like 2% of men are 6'3".
00:08:15.200 And then on top of that, being good-looking.
00:08:17.700 And then on top of that, having a good job.
00:08:19.940 And then on top of that, being intelligent.
00:08:22.140 So I go and dance with a lot of girls in salsa
00:08:24.080 and all these kind of scenes, and they're good-looking,
00:08:25.860 they get all this attention, and they think I should be chasing them.
00:08:29.080 You work in a bar, Sarah.
00:08:31.060 Yeah.
00:08:31.260 Like, we're not the same, but a lot of them don't understand that.
00:08:35.440 So just understand the rarity.
00:08:36.540 Like, high-quality, good things are not frequent.
00:08:39.960 I know on Instagram it looks like you have access to the hottest guys,
00:08:43.120 and you get all these DMs.
00:08:44.260 And you think, yeah, you know, I can replace them.
00:08:46.500 To the left, to the left, that kind of idea.
00:08:48.800 Real solid, guys.
00:08:49.780 I have, like, four friends that I actually rate as people.
00:08:52.780 Like, this is a decent guy.
00:08:54.020 I have a lot of friends who will sleep with anyone and lie 0.99
00:08:55.900 and do anything that the woman asks just to get some ass. 1.00
00:08:59.020 And I know the difference. 0.99
00:09:00.620 High-quality men are rare.
00:09:01.880 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok,
00:09:05.640 and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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