JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023


You Won't Believe What This Evil Woman Did


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Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

193.78242

Word count

1,469

Sentence count

129

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Hate speech

6

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My boyfriend s cancer battle was ruining my mental health so I left him. Now I m running a marathon in his honour. A woman running the London Marathon for her ex-boyfriend has admitted she left him because she couldn t cope with his cancer battle.

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00:00:00.000 My boyfriend's cancer battle was ruining my mental health, so I left him.
00:00:04.220 Now I'm running a marathon in his honor.
00:00:07.980 A woman running the London Marathon for her ex-boyfriend has admitted she left him because
00:00:12.520 she couldn't cope with his cancer battle.
00:00:14.840 Danielle, 32, was buying a house with Jell Frensen in London last year when he was diagnosed
00:00:21.540 with a rare form of brain tumor at just 37.
00:00:24.820 He needed a complex operation, radiotherapy, and chemotherapy and had to learn how to walk
00:00:29.300 again.
00:00:30.080 While all this was going on, the physics teacher, Danielle, began having panic attacks
00:00:34.040 and her mental health plummeted, so she ended the relationship.
00:00:37.660 She moved to Thailand but remained friends with him and is now running a marathon for
00:00:41.660 a brain tumor charity.
00:00:43.340 She said she was still figuring out her friendship with him, adding, I felt like an awful person
00:00:47.980 leaving somebody because they have cancer, but it was damaging my mental health.
00:00:54.000 I'm going to read the rest.
00:00:55.400 The couple was buying a house together in Palmers Green, North London, where Jell, who worked
00:01:00.060 as a Google software engineer, began vomiting and having dizzy spells.
00:01:03.980 After numerous consultations with GPs and ineffective treatments for an ear infection, he began vomiting
00:01:09.180 and getting much worse.
00:01:10.640 He went to a private MRI using his health insurance with Google.
00:01:14.100 Doctors found a grade four, I'm going to say this wrong, grade four melidoblastoma tumor,
00:01:20.440 normally a cancer that affects children, and he was booked for surgery in September.
00:01:24.980 Danielle said, we are on a certain path to a certain future.
00:01:28.560 Within one day, we knew it wasn't going to work out like that anymore.
00:01:31.400 I was so worried and devastated I couldn't sleep or eat.
00:01:34.060 I was having panic attacks and was on so much medication to sort out myself, I just couldn't function.
00:01:39.640 Realizing they had to split up, she moved to Thailand with her father, but she stayed friends with Jell
00:01:44.360 and kept up to date with his recovery.
00:01:47.220 Following his operation, he had nerve damage and paralyzed the right side of his face,
00:01:50.940 leaving to a squint that causes double vision.
00:01:52.980 He also can't fully close his eyes and must use drop ointments, eye drops and ointments.
00:01:58.400 Explaining her decision to run the marathon, in his name for brain tumor research, she said,
00:02:03.940 I felt so helpless watching all this unfold, so I knew I had to do something.
00:02:11.520 Like leave him?
00:02:12.460 Question mark.
00:02:13.180 That's a little bit deeper.
00:02:14.520 Yeah, so that's the article.
00:02:15.940 That's a lot.
00:02:16.560 That's a lot.
00:02:17.420 That's a lot.
00:02:18.440 Yeah, so I think from the headline, that's disgusting.
00:02:24.640 They must have written it like that to get a reaction.
00:02:28.680 I think it's still quite terrible.
00:02:30.600 Was it untrue?
00:02:32.900 What was it?
00:02:34.140 What was it true?
00:02:36.300 I don't know.
00:02:37.080 I guess you don't know the details of her panic attacks and not eating.
00:02:41.340 Those details, just from reading that.
00:02:43.460 I don't understand how this made news.
00:02:46.260 Like that's somebody's personal situation.
00:02:49.980 She talked to the news.
00:02:52.240 If that's what I'm saying, that's weird.
00:02:53.580 Why would you speak to the news about how you're having panic attacks because your ex-boyfriend had cancer?
00:03:01.020 Maybe she's trying to build awareness to the marathon.
00:03:04.840 But what awareness though?
00:03:06.220 But putting that aside is not something that I personally would do.
00:03:10.200 If I was with someone that was terminally ill, I would stay by them.
00:03:14.780 I think I would.
00:03:15.380 It's a no-brainer.
00:03:16.100 My thing is if she was in his position, what would she like him to do?
00:03:22.460 Maybe she didn't really love him from the beginning as well.
00:03:25.360 But then you got to understand it must have been a lot for her to take on.
00:03:28.920 Yeah, for sure.
00:03:29.500 You know, she might have had to be catering to him or looking after him 24-7. 0.98
00:03:37.300 It does take a toll on somebody.
00:03:39.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:39.820 As much as it's easier to say, I mean, it's, you know, it's easy to say, I can't do it.
00:03:46.220 But at the same time, it shows true love in my eyes that you're able to support that, you know,
00:03:53.780 the somebody that you know, that you love at the lowest point of their life.
00:03:58.360 You know what I mean?
00:03:58.980 So for me, it kind of shows character, in my opinion.
00:04:02.800 If he was to stay.
00:04:04.100 If she was to stay.
00:04:05.240 If I was the guy and I was going through it, I'd be thinking, I'd want my loved ones.
00:04:10.140 I want the people that say that they love me or it was there at my best times to be there, you know,
00:04:15.620 the last day of my life.
00:04:17.640 I don't know, like, you know, life is short.
00:04:19.520 So you got to look at every moment and embrace life as a whole.
00:04:23.340 You can't look at the best moments and think, oh, I love you because, you know,
00:04:26.620 we did this and you was like this for me.
00:04:28.580 But what happened when I'm ill?
00:04:30.080 You know, when you get married, it's sickness.
00:04:32.460 We've been sickness and health.
00:04:33.980 Death to us part.
00:04:35.320 You know, I feel like that should play a big part in a lot of relationships
00:04:40.920 and even in, like, friendships.
00:04:42.540 If you love somebody, you love them to death.
00:04:45.120 Otherwise, how can you love them?
00:04:46.840 You know what I mean?
00:04:47.060 But that isn't taking away the stress that the other person would have to go through
00:04:52.260 to look after that person.
00:04:54.920 Don't you think it says a lack of loyalty in society today?
00:04:57.500 A hundred percent.
00:04:58.580 Because it's like, what percent of women really would stick around? 1.00
00:05:02.100 Not many.
00:05:02.940 In this generation, I don't know.
00:05:04.520 Do you not think?
00:05:05.320 Nah, not many.
00:05:06.040 I don't know.
00:05:06.460 Women divorce their husbands over, like, damn near nothing. 1.00
00:05:09.280 Literally.
00:05:10.420 Because they lost their job.
00:05:11.780 Empty pockets.
00:05:13.020 I didn't feel like myself anymore.
00:05:16.220 You've changed.
00:05:18.660 I need to define myself as my favorite one.
00:05:21.240 I'm like, Diane, you have two children.
00:05:23.480 What about the kids?
00:05:24.460 Well, I need to define my...
00:05:25.520 Your children.
00:05:27.120 This is the thing, though, yeah.
00:05:28.540 Go out with your boys.
00:05:29.920 But this is the thing, yeah, with love, yeah.
00:05:31.660 You have to work with love.
00:05:33.580 You've got to work with your partner.
00:05:35.000 It's not something that you just think, oh, okay, like...
00:05:38.140 You know, like, my parents, they were married for years.
00:05:40.620 And I'm thinking, how did you stay married?
00:05:43.020 They work together.
00:05:44.040 You go through every single storm.
00:05:46.220 You grow through what you go through.
00:05:48.700 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:49.300 That's love.
00:05:49.880 If you can do it together, that's the partnership.
00:05:52.380 But I feel like, you know, in this generation, a lot of people don't see...
00:05:56.980 They just seize the moment.
00:05:59.380 They want the fairy tale.
00:06:00.480 They don't actually want the real nitty-gritty.
00:06:03.360 They don't understand what it takes to actually maintain a relationship.
00:06:07.240 That's what this generation's about.
00:06:08.320 I think men understand it.
00:06:09.420 I think women don't. 1.00
00:06:10.980 Some men understand it.
00:06:12.480 Some men, some men, some men.
00:06:14.000 I wouldn't say all men.
00:06:14.940 Yeah, because if we look at the numbers, the women are the ones that are leaving. 1.00
00:06:19.640 If the men didn't understand it, it would be leaving.
00:06:23.080 The women are leaving. 0.99
00:06:24.480 But is it because...
00:06:26.580 Of what did he do?
00:06:28.300 Like, a woman wouldn't necessarily stay around if there's no love there. 1.00
00:06:31.720 Like, say, for instance, the guy stays and he's just cheating.
00:06:34.180 He doesn't love his wife, but he's just there because he's there.
00:06:36.780 So he's going out doing his thing.
00:06:38.600 Is it because women are like, no, I'm actually not putting up with the disrespect. 1.00
00:06:42.600 I'm worth more than that.
00:06:43.340 Women cheat more than men nowadays. 1.00
00:06:44.820 Do you think?
00:06:45.200 I've heard that.
00:06:45.680 I've heard the statistics are pretty high when it comes to women. 1.00
00:06:48.480 Really?
00:06:48.920 Yeah, I've heard that.
00:06:49.300 What percent of men can get laid? 0.98
00:06:51.320 Like, what percent of men can...
00:06:52.340 It's harder for guys.
00:06:53.960 Yeah.
00:06:54.620 Women have to control when it comes to sex. 1.00
00:06:57.080 I mean, for us, we really have to be out.
00:06:59.180 We're like...
00:06:59.680 You know, I look at it as like the safari, yeah?
00:07:02.940 We're the predators.
00:07:04.520 Yeah?
00:07:05.340 We've got to get our prey, but we've got to be strategic with it.
00:07:07.840 You've got to be like, okay, you know, you know what I mean?
00:07:11.980 So you have to be very, like, smart with it.
00:07:14.500 And at the same time, it's not easy.
00:07:16.540 Whereas, you know, no disrespect and, you know, tomorrow you could sleep with the next guy and whoever you want.
00:07:24.120 You know what I mean?
00:07:24.520 It's a lot easier.
00:07:26.720 That's what I mean where women have control over, like, sexual relations. 1.00
00:07:30.840 Like, you could go out and pick a guy and nine times out of ten, you probably...