JustPearlyThings - June 03, 2023


You Would NOT BELIEVE What She Said


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Length

12 minutes

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182.35088

Word count

2,251

Sentence count

275

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Misogyny

9

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Hate speech

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In this episode, we have our first guest on the show who is a Bisexual. We talk about how she found out she was bi and how she dealt with the aftermath of finding out. We also talk about what it's like to be in a relationship with someone who is bi.

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00:00:00.000 A vegetarian.
00:00:02.460 We don't get together with a vegetarian.
00:00:05.500 I was thinking, would you go, if you met a guy and he was like,
00:00:09.740 you're a perfect guy, and he said, I'm a vegetarian.
00:00:13.340 It's not perfect.
00:00:14.460 Okay.
00:00:15.320 Just checking.
00:00:16.580 Just checking.
00:00:17.340 I had to throw that in there.
00:00:18.060 It's not perfect.
00:00:18.720 I'll put a smile in your face.
00:00:21.400 You don't know why I asked, right?
00:00:22.800 Yeah, the carnivore diet.
00:00:24.260 Yeah.
00:00:27.720 Don't ask a young lady about dumping men. 0.97
00:00:30.440 How many relationships have you ended and why?
00:00:35.740 Maybe like three or four.
00:00:43.040 I think most of it is like, just not what I want, I guess.
00:00:50.840 Like, it's just not working.
00:00:52.660 Or they're just, I like when someone knows the difference.
00:00:56.740 Obviously, I like someone that isn't too serious all the time.
00:00:59.020 But I feel like knowing when to be serious is so important.
00:01:02.140 So that's like, one of the big things for me.
00:01:06.760 And what about the other ones?
00:01:10.260 Yeah, just don't get along.
00:01:12.500 Or one, I actually ended up falling in love with someone else.
00:01:16.080 So, cut that off.
00:01:19.960 How did that start?
00:01:21.720 Was it someone you knew?
00:01:22.720 Like a guy friend?
00:01:24.000 Oh, no.
00:01:24.320 Actually, it was a girlfriend.
00:01:26.900 Yeah.
00:01:27.380 We just became friends.
00:01:31.160 Friendship.
00:01:32.260 Like, we got closer as friends.
00:01:33.900 And then, yeah.
00:01:37.940 I didn't expect that.
00:01:39.720 I was just speaking to say.
00:01:42.180 Everybody's saying that, right?
00:01:43.940 And then if you're saying that, I can see everybody like, I'm thinking, what the hell?
00:01:48.500 So I had to say it.
00:01:49.900 I was shocked.
00:01:51.440 Shocked?
00:01:52.040 Everyone always is.
00:01:52.880 I don't know why.
00:01:53.640 Like, what is it?
00:01:54.220 No, because it's the way, you know, we're all talking.
00:01:56.340 You just naturally expect.
00:01:57.800 Yeah, we just think about it.
00:01:58.920 You just naturally expect.
00:02:00.320 And then, when you said it, I noticed that you could hear a pin drop and I thought.
00:02:06.000 Did he know you were bi?
00:02:07.820 I didn't know I was bi.
00:02:08.560 I was about to say, she didn't know.
00:02:10.360 I was just thinking, like, he really didn't see that.
00:02:12.560 He's like, I lost my girl to another girl.
00:02:15.440 I'd be pissed.
00:02:17.160 I'd be fuming.
00:02:17.980 I didn't see that coming.
00:02:19.620 Have you guys ever dated a guy and he swung for the other team?
00:02:23.440 No.
00:02:24.700 Who said yes?
00:02:27.200 Yes.
00:02:28.440 How did you find out?
00:02:30.340 A couple people.
00:02:31.900 And, let's just say, the streets talk.
00:02:35.720 The streets talk.
00:02:37.020 You know everything.
00:02:38.980 Everything.
00:02:39.660 So you heard through the grapevine he was, like, hooking up with dudes?
00:02:42.980 That and I've seen, obviously, things myself.
00:02:46.860 Obviously, at first I was a bit suspicious and then, you know.
00:02:50.080 Did he have particular sexual positions?
00:02:52.080 I just want to put it out there nicely.
00:02:53.160 No, no, actually.
00:02:54.700 Anything.
00:02:55.520 I have to ask.
00:02:56.540 People out there, a lot of people are going to know.
00:02:58.740 I just want to ask.
00:02:59.620 Because you'd put it hanging in a minute.
00:03:01.240 You know.
00:03:02.160 They're more freakier.
00:03:03.980 They're much more freakier.
00:03:05.380 Oh, don't say that.
00:03:05.920 Much more dirty.
00:03:07.200 I just said, don't say dirty.
00:03:08.960 Don't say dirty.
00:03:09.840 But I like that.
00:03:14.400 Okay.
00:03:15.740 Weirdly.
00:03:17.740 Would you go with somebody that, a bisexual person again? 1.00
00:03:21.200 Yeah, I would.
00:03:22.060 Okay, then.
00:03:22.700 I would.
00:03:23.420 Does it have to be male or female?
00:03:24.880 Both.
00:03:26.060 Okay.
00:03:26.200 I would sleep with girls as well. 0.99
00:03:27.380 Okay.
00:03:27.660 I'm not setting up no dates.
00:03:28.680 I'm just asking questions.
00:03:29.380 Out of the breakups, are there any breakups that you considered a win and why?
00:03:39.660 All of them.
00:03:41.160 All of them?
00:03:42.260 Yeah.
00:03:42.920 You always did better after.
00:03:46.420 Better.
00:03:47.280 Okay.
00:03:47.880 Yeah.
00:03:48.280 Yeah.
00:03:48.620 Yeah.
00:03:48.820 Were there any that you considered a loss?
00:03:54.620 One.
00:03:55.680 One?
00:03:56.340 Yeah, my baby dad probably.
00:03:58.500 Not him.
00:04:00.240 No.
00:04:01.520 Did he go on to date someone else?
00:04:03.940 No.
00:04:04.780 He's not.
00:04:05.600 I think it's just in terms of like, him as a man, probably like, one of the best I'm going
00:04:12.940 to get.
00:04:13.900 So, now that that's not there, I think that's where I've kind of got a loss.
00:04:19.740 Do you think him being your baby dad influences that a lot more?
00:04:24.140 Influences what?
00:04:24.980 Just the fact that you feel like he was the best you can get.
00:04:31.640 So, if you didn't have the kid, would you still feel the exact same way as you're feeling
00:04:34.280 right now?
00:04:34.620 Yeah, because I just feel like in terms of the qualities that he has as a man, is it
00:04:40.640 too late for yous to?
00:04:43.380 I don't know if he's watching it.
00:04:46.000 Be brave.
00:04:46.720 Go out there and say, I want you back.
00:04:48.420 We can make it work.
00:04:50.880 They say, Auntie Jenny will counsel.
00:04:52.320 Auntie, I'm giving too much idea.
00:04:53.820 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:54.480 Auntie Jenny is actually, Auntie Jenny is actually doing counseling now as a YouTube show.
00:04:59.400 So, if you want to bring him, we can.
00:05:00.720 Oh, I think it can work.
00:05:03.420 I think that, you see, the difference is when you have somebody like that and you've got
00:05:07.940 that same kind of feeling, what you need to go is go back and sit down and talk about
00:05:11.540 what went wrong, what you could have said.
00:05:14.500 And nine times out of ten, you find that as a woman, you need to apologize because you
00:05:18.000 didn't let him be a man.
00:05:19.460 And I can tell by your face that he was right and you was wrong.
00:05:21.880 That's why you're after him because you realize that you effed up.
00:05:24.780 Don't.
00:05:25.100 You can see by your face.
00:05:29.060 Am I right or am I right?
00:05:31.360 I'd say like 80%, yeah.
00:05:32.700 Okay, then I can take that.
00:05:34.860 Pearl's impressive, but it's all the meditation, you see.
00:05:41.440 So, if he wanted to get back with you tomorrow, would you do it?
00:05:44.740 I'm rooting for it.
00:05:46.220 I mean, it's not that I don't like him, but I just feel like there's certain things
00:05:50.660 that, because he's only, I'm 25, he's going to be 27 or 28.
00:05:57.680 So, he's not that much older than me, but I feel like in a lot of, in like 70% of ways,
00:06:04.160 he's so mature.
00:06:04.940 And then there's that 30% where he's just so immature.
00:06:07.280 I love him that.
00:06:08.000 That's the fun bit.
00:06:09.300 But are you immature at times?
00:06:12.620 You don't think you're ever immature?
00:06:14.580 He's not God.
00:06:16.000 He's not flawed.
00:06:17.260 You know what she needs to do? 1.00
00:06:18.340 She needs to think to herself, whatever he was serious, 100% of the time.
00:06:23.640 That's what you need to think.
00:06:25.200 If he was only 100% of the time, you wouldn't feel the same way now.
00:06:30.160 And you might not like it, you might not think so now, but those fun bits were made him
00:06:34.220 the whole person.
00:06:35.560 No, I do like it.
00:06:36.520 I just feel like there's a time and, like I said earlier, there's a time and place
00:06:39.880 when you need to be serious.
00:06:41.180 Maybe you just need to chill and go with it and have fun.
00:06:43.060 Maybe you're just too serious.
00:06:45.500 You know, maybe since you had the child, you just got serious all of a sudden.
00:06:48.320 You just don't understand what's wrong with you.
00:06:49.520 You've got a child, you're just not old.
00:06:51.340 Do you want more kids?
00:06:52.800 Yeah, definitely.
00:06:53.700 With him.
00:06:54.680 I want to be mad if he was the dad, but obviously I want to find, like, my right man and then
00:07:01.400 That is your right man.
00:07:02.280 You can just show it all over your face.
00:07:03.340 It's all over your face.
00:07:04.660 I don't understand.
00:07:06.300 Like, when we say the right, you pick the right guy.
00:07:08.280 There's no, like, one person out there for you.
00:07:10.720 She just don't want to put in the hard work to make him perfect.
00:07:15.040 But isn't my responsibility to make you perfect, though?
00:07:17.560 Is it his responsibility to make you perfect?
00:07:20.260 No, I don't think it's either of my responsibilities to make me perfect.
00:07:23.640 Do you have a cookbook?
00:07:24.420 I mean, with your own recipes that you've made yourself?
00:07:29.360 What do you mean?
00:07:30.420 You know what I mean.
00:07:31.280 I just said it.
00:07:33.500 It's okay.
00:07:34.420 No is okay.
00:07:35.720 You don't have to.
00:07:36.700 But I'm saying, like, if, you know, if you're going to criticize and say it's my job to make
00:07:41.000 him perfect, it's like, am I perfect?
00:07:42.900 Yeah.
00:07:43.380 So, I feel like it depends on who it is.
00:07:46.340 I feel like there comes with, there's something, in a relationship when two people are immature
00:07:51.580 and you're aware of it, there comes an established, like, thing where, like, cool, we're going
00:07:55.620 to be immature, but we know when to, like you said, when to act right.
00:07:59.560 And it's also, like.
00:08:00.440 Who determines, like, what is the right time to act right?
00:08:04.160 Who determines that?
00:08:06.060 Both.
00:08:06.540 Both parties got to, you have to be in a consensus for anything.
00:08:09.300 Right, but what if you disagree?
00:08:11.960 I feel like you can, you can agree to disagree too.
00:08:15.540 Right, but the whole point is you may look at a situation and see it as he needs to be
00:08:20.220 serious now, but he might think that he doesn't have to.
00:08:23.080 Then you talk it out and you'll be like, listen, I don't appreciate it.
00:08:25.800 But what was I actually trying to say is I was trying to say that some people will be
00:08:30.960 immature to you, but if you're immature to them, they can't take it.
00:08:34.140 So it's kind of like now you're stuck in a position where you can't be immature.
00:08:37.360 And now every time they're immature, it's kind of like, this is not the right time.
00:08:41.520 See, that's why you don't play games in relationships.
00:08:44.260 See, that's what I was trying to get.
00:08:45.640 You can know.
00:08:46.560 Having fun and playing games is different.
00:08:49.280 He was having fun.
00:08:50.740 What you're describing as playing games.
00:08:52.920 There's a big difference.
00:08:54.340 Because he was just being himself.
00:08:57.440 And she knows he was just being himself.
00:08:59.520 So men are foolish sometimes.
00:09:00.860 Let him have fun.
00:09:01.660 I'm sure that women are stupid sometimes too. 1.00
00:09:03.400 And they lie at you.
00:09:04.560 Yeah, I agree.
00:09:05.000 I mean, I want to say I haven't been stupid at times, but...
00:09:09.760 Do you guys want to come back for therapy with Auntie on Wednesday?
00:09:12.200 I actually do.
00:09:13.540 I beg, man.
00:09:17.020 We're creating a new therapy studio.
00:09:19.280 But they need to be able to handle the truth.
00:09:22.960 Tissues will be supplied.
00:09:27.100 What if they don't like your advice?
00:09:29.080 It's tough, isn't it?
00:09:31.600 It's tough.
00:09:32.260 You know, I'm always right and I'm proven wrong.
00:09:35.000 So you want to prove me wrong, fair enough.
00:09:38.380 But I know that I can get you and your man working.
00:09:41.700 Yeah.
00:09:42.500 I might need you right now.
00:09:43.600 And get the next baby coming. 0.74
00:09:44.720 I'm so worried.
00:09:46.140 Yeah, yeah.
00:09:46.660 We could do a couple episodes.
00:09:47.960 Yeah, I mean.
00:09:48.960 Yeah.
00:09:49.760 I want to see her and her bloke.
00:09:53.580 We always hear the women's side. 0.93
00:09:55.420 Let's hear the men's side.
00:09:56.560 Oh, I don't want him to talk about this.
00:09:58.820 I think there's hope for them.
00:10:00.660 I think that once the effigy just shut up and listen to him, he'll tell her a few home truths.
00:10:05.840 You can bring the musician, too.
00:10:07.520 We can get you guys going.
00:10:08.620 No, I'm going to say this loud and clear.
00:10:12.920 He's sorry.
00:10:13.500 No.
00:10:13.880 He's sorry.
00:10:14.340 No.
00:10:14.600 No.
00:10:16.440 Never.
00:10:16.840 He changed our progress.
00:10:18.280 He didn't need it.
00:10:19.380 No.
00:10:20.040 Still no.
00:10:20.720 He changed.
00:10:21.480 Never.
00:10:23.140 Do you know what?
00:10:23.680 Not happening.
00:10:24.420 He's like up there for everything.
00:10:26.060 No.
00:10:26.100 No.
00:10:26.220 No.
00:10:26.520 No.
00:10:26.640 Do you know the worst thing she could have done?
00:10:33.280 Why keep trying something?
00:10:34.980 Come on.
00:10:35.580 Time to move on.
00:10:36.300 The worst thing you could have done was go over his dream and encourage him to be a musician.
00:10:40.340 No.
00:10:40.540 I still think that that was the right thing to do.
00:10:43.100 No.
00:10:43.320 I mean, you thought it was the right thing to do.
00:10:45.700 I mean, but with hindsight, if he wasn't a musician, what else could he have been?
00:10:50.260 He was an architectural metal worker in the airports and he was miserable.
00:10:54.880 And I wanted him to be happy.
00:10:56.400 Okay.
00:10:56.800 So to be happy, he left his job and he took a risk and I encouraged that.
00:11:02.520 Did it work out good for him financially?
00:11:04.800 Majorly so, yeah.
00:11:05.740 Oh, that's all right then.
00:11:06.620 We used our store friends and that's all right.
00:11:08.660 You ain't got no kids with both of you? 0.99
00:11:10.100 Yeah.
00:11:10.680 Oh, you have?
00:11:11.160 Well, that's all right then.
00:11:11.820 He's making money.
00:11:12.620 You got kids and you're getting on.
00:11:14.480 That's great.
00:11:15.140 Yeah.
00:11:17.040 No arguments.
00:11:17.940 That's always good.
00:11:19.480 I really think we could do a double episode.
00:11:21.860 I really think we could just bring families together in the therapy room.
00:11:26.740 Think about it.
00:11:27.480 Just not this one.
00:11:28.400 Not this one.
00:11:29.220 Still.
00:11:29.800 No.
00:11:30.340 No, no, no.
00:11:31.220 He's sorry.
00:11:32.380 He's sorry.
00:11:33.040 Hell no.
00:11:33.920 No.
00:11:34.840 No.
00:11:35.180 Never.
00:11:36.120 It's not happening.
00:11:37.380 Do you know what I'd really like to do?
00:11:39.160 I'd like to follow her and I'd like to check out her style. 0.98
00:11:45.560 Because I reckon she's giving off the wrong.
00:11:49.020 I'd like to, you know that with Wife Scott, I'd like to make her over and see the difference.
00:11:53.160 This young lady here.
00:11:54.740 I think she's giving out all the wrong signals.
00:11:57.660 Yeah.
00:11:58.160 That's it.
00:11:58.660 She's giving out the wrong signals.
00:11:59.800 And attracting the wrong people.
00:12:00.360 Yeah.
00:12:00.640 I think she's attracting the wrong type of person because she's giving out the wrong signals. 0.98
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