Leo D.M.J. Aurini - August 22, 2015


Advice for a Switched-on Southerner


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A 17 year old homeschooled boy from flyover country wants to join the U.S. Navy. Is it a good career choice for a homeschooler? Or should he go to college to get a high school diploma?

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00:00:30.000 This requested video comes from
00:00:32.000 a switched on young man living
00:00:34.000 in flyover country.
00:00:36.000 We'll keep things vague.
00:00:38.000 If you have a requested video
00:00:40.000 whether it's
00:00:42.000 personal advice on life, on
00:00:44.000 the military or
00:00:46.000 philosophical questions, anything else that you
00:00:48.000 would like me to answer
00:00:50.000 you can go to the Irini's Insight page
00:00:52.000 on stairsoftheworld.com
00:00:54.000 Link down below, yes I will
00:00:56.000 discard you, but no complaints
00:00:58.000 thus far. Everybody's been
00:01:00.000 very satisfied.
00:01:02.000 So, the question
00:01:04.000 goes as follows.
00:01:06.000 Hello Irini, I discovered
00:01:08.000 you through Aaron Clary's YouTube channel
00:01:10.000 Cheers Aaron, and have been
00:01:12.000 a subscriber for quite some time.
00:01:14.000 You and Aaron have both inspired me 0.99
00:01:16.000 to get off my lazy ass, study hard, 0.99
00:01:18.000 and work out. Glad to hear it folks. 1.00
00:01:20.000 When
00:01:22.000 every single day that passes,
00:01:24.000 if you are not improving yourself,
00:01:26.000 you are falling behind.
00:01:28.000 Now, we all need to take a break
00:01:30.000 once in a while. We all need to
00:01:32.000 relax and get a bit of time off.
00:01:34.000 But, seek out self-improvement.
00:01:36.000 Seek out to challenge yourself.
00:01:38.000 Always be getting bigger, stronger, faster, better.
00:01:40.000 So, glad to hear that.
00:01:42.000 Now, as for my predicament.
00:01:44.000 I'm a 17-year-old
00:01:46.000 homeschooled farm boy from
00:01:48.000 flyover country.
00:01:50.000 I'm raised a Protestant, and I'm currently studying
00:01:52.000 calculus and grammar,
00:01:54.000 the latter of which, I admit, is poor.
00:01:56.000 First of all, absolutely brilliant that you're studying
00:01:58.000 calculus, and that you're homeschooled.
00:02:00.000 You're probably much better educated than
00:02:02.000 the typical people out there.
00:02:04.000 And, folks, if you haven't studied
00:02:06.000 calculus, calculus is real math.
00:02:08.000 Okay? It's all this
00:02:10.000 arithmetic and all this garbage 0.99
00:02:12.000 that you start with, 0.99
00:02:14.000 that's boring. Calculus is where
00:02:16.000 you really get into the core
00:02:18.000 of what math is all
00:02:20.000 about. The
00:02:22.000 soul of mathematics.
00:02:24.000 And, grammar, glad to hear it.
00:02:26.000 If you ever get a chance, study
00:02:28.000 Latin.
00:02:30.000 You know, understanding the basic
00:02:32.000 structure of language
00:02:34.000 forces you to understand how your
00:02:36.000 thoughts are formed.
00:02:38.000 So, alright,
00:02:40.000 this guy is very switched on.
00:02:42.000 I will be joining
00:02:44.000 the U.S. Navy once I
00:02:46.000 receive my homeschool diploma,
00:02:48.000 and I've also received training for firearms
00:02:50.000 and maneuvering from sheriffs and
00:02:52.000 former U.S. Marines since I was 13.
00:02:54.000 I know the military is for me.
00:02:56.000 Very glad to hear that.
00:02:58.000 One comment, though.
00:03:00.000 Now, I was at Aaron
00:03:02.000 Clary's birthday party. I was privileged
00:03:04.000 to meet one of his friends, who is
00:03:06.000 an officer in the Navy.
00:03:08.000 And, Aaron and I were talking
00:03:10.000 to him about our advice
00:03:12.000 for young people in joining
00:03:14.000 the military. I absolutely
00:03:16.000 loved my time in the military.
00:03:18.000 Especially if you're a young man,
00:03:20.000 it will really make a man out of you.
00:03:22.000 You will learn a whole bunch of valuable skills.
00:03:24.000 You'll be challenged.
00:03:26.000 You'll have opportunities for leadership,
00:03:28.000 for advancement. And, you know,
00:03:30.000 the pay's not bad either.
00:03:32.000 That said, however,
00:03:34.000 America's involved 0.97
00:03:36.000 in a lot of very foolish wars 0.70
00:03:38.000 right now that aren't really serving 0.63
00:03:40.000 the national interests.
00:03:42.000 Okay? Like, if you sacrifice your life
00:03:44.000 fighting the Nazis,
00:03:46.000 that's worth it.
00:03:48.000 Okay? That's a noble death.
00:03:50.000 But, like, it's
00:03:52.000 an absolute mess right now.
00:03:54.000 You know, we're overthrowing governments.
00:03:56.000 Like, relatively, eh, you know. 1.00
00:03:58.000 Saddam was an asshole. 1.00
00:04:00.000 America had every right to go to war 1.00
00:04:02.000 against him.
00:04:04.000 There were no victory conditions.
00:04:06.000 We just handed that country to ISIS. 0.99
00:04:08.000 You know, and now they're murdering Christians. 0.99
00:04:10.000 And, you know, I don't want to be responsible
00:04:12.000 for any of you young men getting injured
00:04:14.000 or getting, you know, your legs blown off
00:04:16.000 or even worse.
00:04:18.000 And so the
00:04:20.000 naval officer was saying,
00:04:22.000 you know what, there's another choice.
00:04:24.000 There's another type of military
00:04:26.000 in America that you can join
00:04:28.000 and it's called the Coast Guard
00:04:30.000 where you're not going to go 1.00
00:04:32.000 and get involved in some stupid 1.00
00:04:34.000 foreign war where you get 1.00
00:04:36.000 the same sort of benefits
00:04:38.000 and you will be protecting
00:04:40.000 America's interests by doing that.
00:04:42.000 So, possibly consider the Coast Guard.
00:04:44.000 However, if you're, if you're called
00:04:46.000 to do this, believe me, brother,
00:04:48.000 I know the feeling. 1.00
00:04:50.000 It doesn't matter how stupid the wars are. 0.99
00:04:52.000 I needed to join the military because 1.00
00:04:54.000 that's what you do as a patriot.
00:04:56.000 Just something worth considering.
00:04:58.000 Possibly joining the Coast Guard.
00:05:00.000 And one more thing.
00:05:02.000 The fact that you're studying calculus.
00:05:04.000 Now, my background is Army.
00:05:08.000 But the artillery guys,
00:05:10.000 they use a lot of math doing what they're doing.
00:05:12.000 And so, with the Navy,
00:05:14.000 I would presume
00:05:16.000 that many of the naval weapons systems
00:05:18.000 are very,
00:05:20.000 very similar to artillery
00:05:22.000 in that there's going to be a lot of math involved.
00:05:24.000 You're going to need to be a smart cookie
00:05:26.000 to do that sort of stuff.
00:05:28.000 There's also, you can become
00:05:30.000 an engineer with the Navy.
00:05:32.000 There's a lot of skills there.
00:05:34.000 But if you're really called
00:05:36.000 to do combat arms,
00:05:38.000 if you want to, you know,
00:05:40.000 be carrying an AR-15, M-16,
00:05:42.000 or whatever, whatever the branch is using,
00:05:44.000 make sure
00:05:46.000 that you also
00:05:48.000 get other qualifications.
00:05:50.000 You know?
00:05:52.000 Get a radio course under your belt.
00:05:54.000 Get...
00:05:56.000 Make sure you have useful skills
00:05:58.000 that transfer into the civilian marketplace.
00:06:01.000 There's a great joke on...
00:06:04.000 Oh, I forgot the name of the webcomic,
00:06:07.000 but I'll link it down below.
00:06:08.000 It's about being in the Marines.
00:06:10.000 About how
00:06:12.000 infantry soldiers have no employable skills
00:06:14.000 aside from mall security guard.
00:06:16.000 So, make sure you get other skills under your belt.
00:06:20.000 Take advantage of the educational opportunities
00:06:22.000 that are provided to you.
00:06:24.000 So on and so forth.
00:06:25.000 Like, look...
00:06:26.000 Do it because you...
00:06:28.000 Because this is where you belong.
00:06:29.000 But also, look down the road.
00:06:31.000 Look 20 years down the road and ask,
00:06:33.000 what can I do to benefit me then?
00:06:36.000 Always keep yourself covered.
00:06:39.000 Always have a plan.
00:06:40.000 Don't sacrifice your entire life
00:06:44.000 out of blind patriotism.
00:06:46.000 Be a patriot, but also have a plan.
00:06:50.000 Anyway, now this is the actual advice.
00:06:55.000 One.
00:06:56.000 You mentioned philosophers such as Aristotle
00:06:58.000 and several others.
00:06:59.000 Where do I start with this?
00:07:01.000 I'm a southern boy,
00:07:02.000 and all I've read in terms of that is the Bible.
00:07:05.000 What books do you recommend
00:07:06.000 because I'm lacking in that area of my studying?
00:07:11.000 Alright, first off.
00:07:14.000 One of the problems that you're going to run into
00:07:17.000 when you're trying to read philosophy
00:07:21.000 is that you already know the plot.
00:07:24.000 Let me try and explain this a bit.
00:07:28.000 You see, there's a movie called Aragorn
00:07:30.000 that, like I haven't seen it,
00:07:32.000 but it was very popular amongst kids
00:07:34.000 when it came out, I think five years ago or so.
00:07:36.000 And I saw a review of it
00:07:38.000 that said the reason it's so popular
00:07:41.000 is because it's Star Wars.
00:07:43.000 It's the exact same story as Star Wars
00:07:46.000 told, but this time it's in a fantasy realm
00:07:48.000 with dragons or something like that.
00:07:51.000 Now, let's say that you grew up watching Aragorn.
00:07:53.000 You absolutely loved it.
00:07:55.000 And then you watch Star Wars.
00:07:57.000 Star Wars?
00:07:58.000 Star Wars is not going to have the same impact on you
00:08:01.000 that Aragorn did.
00:08:03.000 You know, not the same impact that it had on me
00:08:04.000 when I was young
00:08:05.000 because you've already seen the story.
00:08:08.000 And the mind-blowing special effects
00:08:11.000 of, you know, 25 years ago
00:08:14.000 are no longer quite so mind-blowing.
00:08:16.000 So, with most of the ancient philosophy
00:08:19.000 that you're going to run into,
00:08:21.000 it's, you're already going to know this stuff.
00:08:23.000 You know, it's kind of like,
00:08:25.000 this stuff has been filtered into everything
00:08:28.000 that you've been reading from day one.
00:08:30.000 Even like the basic Christian theology
00:08:33.000 is heavily inspired by both Plato and Aristotle.
00:08:37.000 So, if you've been doing a decent study
00:08:41.000 of the traditions and theologies of the church,
00:08:44.000 then you will already know a lot of this stuff.
00:08:47.000 And this is what makes it difficult to read
00:08:50.000 because you feel like you're reading a very long,
00:08:52.000 detailed text explaining something you know already.
00:08:55.000 That said, I'm going to try and point you to a few books
00:09:00.000 that are really worth reading.
00:09:02.000 But, before you do that,
00:09:04.000 it's important to understand the historical context
00:09:08.000 all of this is coming out of.
00:09:09.000 You see, like, this is the Western tradition.
00:09:12.000 Like, there's been a philosophical,
00:09:15.000 theological creation
00:09:18.000 that the West has been engaged in for millennia.
00:09:22.000 And it all builds upon the past.
00:09:25.000 Philosophies aren't just,
00:09:27.000 it's not like fashion.
00:09:29.000 You know, it's not something that changes,
00:09:32.000 whatever, it doesn't matter.
00:09:33.000 Now orange is in style, now green is in style.
00:09:35.000 It builds upon itself.
00:09:37.000 Whereas fashion is quite arbitrary.
00:09:42.000 So I would highly recommend,
00:09:44.000 to get a basic grasp of history,
00:09:46.000 you go to Khan Academy.
00:09:48.000 And you take their broader historical courses
00:09:51.000 that just give you an overview of European history
00:09:54.000 so that you understand how all of this fits together.
00:09:58.000 You know, so if you put something in,
00:10:01.000 this was written then,
00:10:03.000 you understand what was going on.
00:10:04.000 And just to give you an example of this,
00:10:08.000 and to also recommend the first book,
00:10:10.000 let's talk about Plato.
00:10:12.000 Plato is really the guy that nailed down logic.
00:10:17.000 You know, logical thinking.
00:10:20.000 You know, if, then, those type of statements.
00:10:23.000 Girl, don't knock over the tripod.
00:10:25.000 Girl, get over here. 1.00
00:10:31.000 Get over here. 0.99
00:10:33.000 She's got a fat tail. 1.00
00:10:37.000 So, Plato was writing at a time when superstition was rampant.
00:10:42.000 You know, where people were begging the gods for favors,
00:10:45.000 where it was a very feminine sort of society. 1.00
00:10:49.000 And Plato was the guy to really nail down logic.
00:10:54.000 Now, in our present era,
00:10:57.000 one of the frustrations trying to explain things to modern people
00:11:03.000 is that we are far, far too left-brained.
00:11:06.000 We are far, far too logical without any holistic understanding of things.
00:11:11.000 You know, like we've trapped ourselves in a little box of logic
00:11:15.000 that actually doesn't make any sense and doesn't really take us anywhere positive.
00:11:19.000 But it affirms itself constantly.
00:11:22.000 So, Plato is not going to be that beneficial to you
00:11:27.000 because we're all of us too logical already.
00:11:29.000 So, what I would recommend is Aristotle,
00:11:34.000 who was writing kind of a right-brained response to Plato,
00:11:39.000 saying that, like, yes, we need to start with logic, with grammar, with mathematics,
00:11:45.000 but we also need to have a holistic understanding of how everything fits together.
00:11:50.000 And so, the book I would particularly recommend by Aristotle is Rhetoric.
00:11:55.000 You can find that for free online.
00:11:58.000 I provide a link below, but plenty of versions of it that you can get for free.
00:12:02.000 Very profound book about how, you know, art is not something that you can define using logic.
00:12:10.000 You know, beauty is not something you can really nail down
00:12:14.000 and come up with a scientific explanation for,
00:12:17.000 but that doesn't mean that it's not valuable in and of itself.
00:12:20.000 That's the reason I'm a huge fan of Aristotle.
00:12:25.000 Next book, Political Treaties from, you know, I believe it's the 19th century.
00:12:33.000 I could be wrong on that.
00:12:35.000 I'm working my way through it right now.
00:12:37.000 Actually, I believe it's 18th, regardless.
00:12:40.000 Leviathan by Thomas Hobbes.
00:12:43.000 Now, I'm going to warn you right now, this is an absolutely foul work.
00:12:49.000 It's depressing and negative, and this is exactly why, if you read this after Aristotle,
00:12:55.000 you will see how Hobbes is just, he's like this autist that does not, this spurt that doesn't,
00:13:01.000 doesn't get beauty, doesn't get principle. 0.87
00:13:03.000 And so his only solution to having a functional government is to have an absolutely tyrannical state,
00:13:12.000 where we all put faith in the state.
00:13:14.000 You can draw a very straight line between what he's advocating
00:13:18.000 and the modern democratic socialist tyrannies that we're building for ourselves.
00:13:24.000 Again, a very ugly book, but you'll start to see the patterns, especially contrasting that to Aristotle.
00:13:37.000 And two more books that you should read just generally.
00:13:41.000 These are kind of more, these are modern books, okay?
00:13:45.000 These are written in the 20th century.
00:13:47.000 Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.
00:13:48.000 In fact, that might not be a bad place to start, because it's a very enjoyable, easy read
00:13:53.000 that will kind of induct you into what philosophy is really all about.
00:13:58.000 It's got some great insights on valuation of things, the importance of beauty.
00:14:03.000 Again, it's very Aristotelian in nature.
00:14:06.000 And the other is Evola.
00:14:10.000 You know, I'm working on his Eros and the Mysteries of Love right now.
00:14:14.000 He talks about metaphysics, about patterns, about...
00:14:20.000 In fact, he flips the modern understanding on its head.
00:14:23.000 For instance, evolution is typically understood as the lesser building into the higher.
00:14:30.000 And so the higher, we try and take the human mind and break it down into individual components.
00:14:37.000 You know, evolutionary psychology, you know, instincts, hormones, chemical imbalances, etc.
00:14:48.000 Whereas in his metaphysical view, what's actually happening is that there are higher ideals
00:14:55.000 that the lower is trying to achieve.
00:14:58.000 The lower is being kind of pulled up on a metaphysical level to these higher valuations.
00:15:05.000 And so the nature of humanity, the nature of the two sexes, is not just arbitrary.
00:15:13.000 As he argues, the higher something is on the evolutionary chain, the more it becomes two sexes. 0.56
00:15:20.000 That the two sexes are actually foundational nodes of reality. 0.86
00:15:24.000 Heck, you can even compare them to chiral molecules, like left hand, right hand.
00:15:30.000 These are very foundational aspects of the metaphysics of our universe.
00:15:36.000 It's very refreshing from the simple materialism that you get everywhere nowadays.
00:15:43.000 So I've linked those books down below.
00:15:49.000 Two of them you can get for free, the other ones you'll actually have to pay for.
00:15:53.000 That would be a really good induction into philosophy.
00:15:58.000 That will set you up with the basics, so now you know what you're doing.
00:16:02.000 And after that, you really just gotta pursue your own interests.
00:16:04.000 Like I said, one of the challenges with all of this is that with a lot of it you're gonna feel like you've read it already.
00:16:12.000 Because you have. These books are so influential and so widely cited that you have read most of them.
00:16:18.000 So, you know what, if it's really boring you, don't kick yourself if you decide to skim or move forward a little bit faster.
00:16:29.000 Because you do know a lot of these ideas.
00:16:31.000 Which is why you also want to put them into the historical context.
00:16:35.000 Understand why it is that this book was being written in this era.
00:16:40.000 Or that, you know, that book was being written in that era.
00:16:43.000 You want to understand the history and the development of the whole thing.
00:16:48.000 Now, next question.
00:16:54.000 Most of the social interaction I get is through church or going to ballgames with some friends.
00:17:00.000 I find it very mind-numbing talking to people in my age range.
00:17:04.000 They can't hold conversations on anything except sports and video games.
00:17:07.000 The moment you mention anything to do with economics, they are immediately disinterested and bored.
00:17:14.000 My question is, should I bother forming bonds with this community if I'm leaving in a year and a half?
00:17:19.000 Well, that's a bit of a difficult question to answer.
00:17:24.000 Just from reading your email, your diction, I would say you're definitely in the top 5% of the population IQ-wise, if not a lot higher than that.
00:17:39.000 So, growing up in a small town, it's going to be very hard to find people that are operating on your level.
00:17:45.000 In theory, I love small towns. In practice, I need to be in cities.
00:17:52.000 Because finding peers to hang out with, finding people that are working on my level, is just bloody near impossible in a small town.
00:18:01.000 So, you belong in a city, quite frankly.
00:18:05.000 To find people that are operating on your level, you're going to need to move to a city.
00:18:09.000 Even though there's, obviously, there's the downsides of living in a city, which I don't even need to go into.
00:18:16.000 So, yeah, you are going to be very lonely.
00:18:20.000 And unfortunately, on top of that, like, it's absolutely clear, you're homeschooled, you're studying math, you're studying grammar, you know.
00:18:28.000 You are intellectually curious. 0.98
00:18:30.000 We are living, like, we have garbage people these days. 0.91
00:18:37.000 People aren't challenged growing up. 0.97
00:18:39.000 You know, everybody gets a trophy.
00:18:41.000 Everybody feels self-important.
00:18:44.000 It's a narcissistic world out there. 0.87
00:18:47.000 And narcissists, they're not interesting. 0.82
00:18:49.000 They're not fun to be around.
00:18:51.000 They're all style, no substance.
00:18:53.000 And you're going to find a lot of people like that.
00:18:56.000 On the one hand, you know, it is good to get out there and meet people.
00:19:02.000 And, you know, you need to learn to accept people for what they are.
00:19:06.000 And one thing I do think you'll find in the Navy is that you'll be working with people that aren't necessarily as intelligent as you.
00:19:13.000 You know, they're not as well-read.
00:19:15.000 They're not as intellectually curious.
00:19:17.000 And yet, you'll get along very well with them, because they're hard-working, because they've earned their stripes.
00:19:22.000 You know, that's literally a saying, a military saying, that double chevron on your shoulder, that you earned those stripes.
00:19:30.000 And so those sorts of people, those accomplished, hard-working, maybe not, you know, scholarly, not super intelligent, but hard-working, decent.
00:19:42.000 They have a lot of common sense.
00:19:43.000 They have a lot of responsibility.
00:19:45.000 And they are very good people, very positive people.
00:19:48.000 I mean, you might need to dumb down your interests a little bit with these people.
00:19:53.000 But you'll find that they actually make very good companions, because they're not narcissists.
00:19:59.000 So I would question, is the problem with the people in your town that they're unintelligent?
00:20:06.000 Or is it that they're narcissists, that they're phonies, man? 0.98
00:20:12.000 To go all holding Caulfield on you, they're all a bunch of phonies.
00:20:17.000 I kind of suspect, I kind of suspect that the latter is more of the issue. 0.99
00:20:24.000 So, you know, take the people as they are, but don't waste your time hanging out with a bunch of losers and smoking pot. 0.96
00:20:34.000 There is a better world out there. 0.97
00:20:36.000 There are better people out there.
00:20:38.000 There are, you know, it's, and this is something Aaron has said.
00:20:43.000 It is so hard.
00:20:45.000 Like, the hard part about actually living a good life is that so few people want to live a good life.
00:20:50.000 You know, it's hiking up the mountain and being the only one up there.
00:20:54.000 You know, but the interesting thing is, when you are hiking up a mountain, when you're doing something like that,
00:20:59.000 everybody you meet on the hiking trail is just a really cool person.
00:21:03.000 You know, it's like, you can just see instantly, like, I could be really good friends with this person.
00:21:08.000 They're switched on.
00:21:10.000 And it sounds like you don't have people like that in your life.
00:21:14.000 So, if that's the case, don't worry about it.
00:21:18.000 I mean, like, be social.
00:21:20.000 Hang out with people.
00:21:21.000 You know, you don't want to, like, you don't want to hate the world.
00:21:25.000 You don't want, you got to take it for what it is.
00:21:27.000 You want to go out and have as much fun as you can.
00:21:29.000 But ultimately, it's going to be, you know, you're going to meet great people in the military.
00:21:37.000 If you move to a major city, you're going to meet really cool people in that city.
00:21:43.000 You know, you're going to find your niche.
00:21:45.000 I really wouldn't worry about it too much.
00:21:49.000 There's a couple of people I still talk to from high school, but it's, you know,
00:21:54.000 high school is just wherever your parents decide to live.
00:21:58.000 You know, you're going to find your real friends in your 20s.
00:22:03.000 So, don't worry too much about it.
00:22:07.000 If you meet somebody good, don't be antisocial.
00:22:09.000 You know, but at the same time, don't worry about it too much.
00:22:12.000 You will meet interesting people down the line.
00:22:15.000 So, although you will have to get out and find these people.
00:22:19.000 So, and that's...
00:22:21.000 Good Lord.
00:22:22.000 You'll meet good people in the military.
00:22:23.000 It's easier when you're younger, especially if you do some college,
00:22:26.000 if you do some university, you'll meet some really good people there as well. 0.99
00:22:29.000 You'll meet a lot of idiots, but you'll meet some good people. 0.97
00:22:32.000 Just generally try and get out and do stuff. 1.00
00:22:35.000 And a lot of it's online right now.
00:22:37.000 There's meet-up groups.
00:22:39.000 You know, the meet-up hiking, meet-up whatever.
00:22:43.000 You know, dancing.
00:22:45.000 Is dancing something I've been wanting to get into?
00:22:48.000 Lots of different things there.
00:22:50.000 Just make sure you do work on your social skills.
00:22:53.000 Get out and learn how to get along with people.
00:22:55.000 So, do it once in a while.
00:22:56.000 Just don't worry about it too much.
00:23:02.000 Now, three.
00:23:04.000 Should I bother with girls? 1.00
00:23:06.000 I don't see the point of trying. 1.00
00:23:08.000 If I screw one of the girls for my church and she squeals later if she's unhappy, you know, I'm fucked. 1.00
00:23:14.000 I'll be ostracized by my church and my family. 1.00
00:23:17.000 I don't like putting that sort of power into a 15 to 16-year-old girl's hands. 0.99
00:23:21.000 I'm not one of those MGTOWs that doesn't even try, but chastity, I'm not sure I can uphold that with my faith. 0.70
00:23:31.000 All right.
00:23:32.000 So, several things in this question.
00:23:37.000 First of all, let me start with the chastity thing.
00:23:40.000 If you've managed to be chaste this long, it might be worth holding on to that. 1.00
00:23:48.000 Now, the problem, like the reason it's so tempting to be unchaste is because most women are garbage. 1.00
00:23:55.000 Like I said, most people are garbage. 1.00
00:23:57.000 But most women, they're narcissists, you know, they want something one, they want something another. 1.00
00:24:02.000 They've got no personality.
00:24:03.000 They've got no inner valuation.
00:24:05.000 And they might be fun to flirt with, fun to take on a date, but they're really not good for anything but short-term flings.
00:24:14.000 There's no relationship potential in them.
00:24:16.000 And the Manosphere, it's written reams about this.
00:24:20.000 You've read it already. 1.00
00:24:21.000 Generally, yeah, most women are trash. 1.00
00:24:25.000 Not all of them, however. 1.00
00:24:30.000 And I've said this in the past.
00:24:32.000 I find Anne Barnhart, I find her absolutely inspirational.
00:24:39.000 She is such an amazing individual, such a righteous lady.
00:24:44.000 And to me, somebody like her, a woman like that, of such moral conviction, of such integrity, I am trying to be the sort of man that deserves a woman like that.
00:25:02.000 And, you know, if you're traipsing around with tramps all the time, do you deserve a woman like that? 1.00
00:25:15.000 Something worth considering.
00:25:16.000 Something worth considering.
00:25:17.000 You know, like, do you want to have all this baggage that you need to make up for?
00:25:22.000 But, you know, I'm not your daddy.
00:25:24.000 Just something worth thinking about.
00:25:30.000 It might be worth holding on to, particularly if you can find a decent woman at some point. 1.00
00:25:37.000 Next.
00:25:38.000 Now, what is this about your family ostracizing you if she squeals?
00:25:44.000 Like, that really worries me.
00:25:46.000 So, let's say you go on a date and you have a little roll in the hay.
00:25:53.000 First of all, if you're playing your cards right, like, don't be pushy.
00:25:58.000 You know?
00:25:59.000 If you're playing your cards right, there really isn't too much to worry about.
00:26:04.000 Okay?
00:26:05.000 Not with these country girls, really. 1.00
00:26:07.000 At least I wouldn't think so.
00:26:09.000 The women you worry about are the feminists, are the social justice warriors. 1.00
00:26:14.000 And so, I guess, you know what, if she's really...
00:26:19.000 I want to say political.
00:26:21.000 I don't mean like she reads a lot of politics, because obviously nobody does that in your town.
00:26:25.000 But if she's the sort of woman that is constantly manipulating people, if she's a mean girl. 1.00
00:26:31.000 You know, if she's gossiping and lying about people and she's really catty. 1.00
00:26:35.000 Stay away from that one. 0.66
00:26:38.000 Alright?
00:26:39.000 But if she's just typical, shallow, but honest, and you have a roll in the hay with her, you really don't have that much to worry about. 0.99
00:26:49.000 I mean, use a bloody condom. 0.98
00:26:50.000 You don't want to knock her up and get stuck with that. 0.99
00:26:53.000 But, you know, it's...
00:26:58.000 It strikes me that...
00:26:59.000 It seems to me like you're worrying too much about her squealing.
00:27:03.000 But also, if she squeals, if she says like, you know, we had premarital sex, and I take it there's an expectation in your community that you shouldn't.
00:27:11.000 Why would they be blaming you exclusively?
00:27:15.000 Why would you be the one alienated?
00:27:18.000 If your church is that infected with feminism, why do you care if you're alienated from that church? 1.00
00:27:26.000 And the idea that your family would just be just furious with you for this?
00:27:33.000 Like, I mean, this is...
00:27:35.000 Good lord.
00:27:36.000 Sexual infidelity is one of the...
00:27:38.000 You know, chastity is one of the hardest things in our species, okay?
00:27:42.000 You know, it's nothing new.
00:27:44.000 It's been happening for centuries.
00:27:46.000 It's a venal sin, not a cardinal sin.
00:27:50.000 Not saying you should do it.
00:27:51.000 You know, you really might want to hold out for a decent woman. 1.00
00:27:55.000 They are out there.
00:27:57.000 And they're a lot easier to find if you are chaste.
00:28:02.000 But if all these people are going to alienate you, exclude you, and hate you for this...
00:28:10.000 Well, first of all, are you sure that they would?
00:28:12.000 Or is this just your impression?
00:28:14.000 And second, if they would do something like that...
00:28:19.000 We're not talking about how you, like, tortured a house cat or murdered somebody. 0.96
00:28:24.000 We're talking about premarital sex for crying out loud. 0.97
00:28:26.000 It's been happening for frickin' centuries. 0.55
00:28:29.000 You know, good lord.
00:28:30.000 Half the popes were married when they weren't supposed to be.
00:28:36.000 You know, like that...
00:28:38.000 It really bothers me that you're worried about this.
00:28:40.000 And if you are...
00:28:44.000 I think you need to...
00:28:45.000 You need to find people in your life that won't be so harsh...
00:28:51.000 Won't judge you so harshly.
00:28:53.000 That won't despise you.
00:28:56.000 Based upon behavior, not morals.
00:29:00.000 Okay?
00:29:01.000 Like, I mean, it's one thing to get a girl drunk and take advantage of her. 0.93
00:29:04.000 It's another thing to have a friendly role in the hay.
00:29:07.000 And I presume you're talking about the latter.
00:29:10.000 So that kind of suggests to me that you're worried about it.
00:29:15.000 That sounds like a lot of controlling behavior.
00:29:22.000 A lot of judgmental behavior.
00:29:26.000 A lot of people acting like Pharisees.
00:29:30.000 So...
00:29:31.000 That might be something worth considering.
00:29:33.000 You know?
00:29:34.000 Are you codependently involved with people who are very controlling and very manipulative?
00:29:45.000 You know, definitely be paranoid around the feminists. 1.00
00:29:47.000 Be paranoid around the mean girls. 0.52
00:29:49.000 But if you're more worried about the church and your family excluding you over this.
00:29:55.000 That says a lot more about them.
00:30:01.000 You know, on the one hand, who cares what they think if that's how they're going to behave.
00:30:05.000 At the same time, you probably don't need that BS.
00:30:08.000 You know, it'd be better to have your family liking you so you can get them to, you know, loan you money and whatever.
00:30:15.000 So, really, go out on dates.
00:30:19.000 Okay?
00:30:20.000 Go have fun with girls.
00:30:21.000 You know, learn how to flirt with them, dance with them, whatnot.
00:30:26.000 But keep it cool.
00:30:28.000 That would be my advice.
00:30:30.000 And, you know, it's probably a good idea to stay chaste until you find a woman that's actually worth your time. 1.00
00:30:35.000 But go on a lot of dates so that you know a lot of women so that you understand what women are like.
00:30:41.000 If you see what I'm saying.
00:30:42.000 That way you won't get sucked in by some manipulative psycho that just wants your benefits.
00:30:51.000 Anyway, I hope that was all useful information for you.
00:30:56.000 It sounds like you got your head on straight and that you're moving in the right direction.
00:31:00.000 Thank you for your support.
00:31:02.000 And, again, folks, if you have your own request, go to Arini's Insight.
00:31:07.000 Yeah, I'm going to charge you.
00:31:09.000 But I try to make sure the answers are good and useful.
00:31:13.000 Anyway, Arini out.
00:31:14.000 Arini out.
00:31:15.000 Arini out.