Leo D.M.J. Aurini - How to Keep a Wife

00:00:00.000 Over the past several videos, I've been discussing how we are going to restart civilization,

00:00:08.860 what we're going to do.

00:00:10.920 Now, I think it's absolutely self-evident that the current system is not sustainable,

00:00:15.800 so I'm not going to argue about that.

00:00:18.500 If you accept this premise that we need to do something if we're going to survive into

00:00:22.300 the future, well, we need to address what and how we're going to do it.

00:00:27.940 Collecting tins of beans and lots of ammo is just not enough.

00:00:34.480 So I've been discussing this over a few videos, and the topic of this one is to address some

00:00:40.360 of the comments and criticisms and challenges that have come up in the comment sections over

00:00:45.820 those videos.

00:00:46.900 And what it boils down to is, given that we are living in the present system, and that

00:00:53.980 while it's not sustainable, it's not going to evaporate overnight, given all of that,

00:01:00.620 how does one keep a wife? 1.00

00:01:04.860 It's one thing to get married.

00:01:06.640 It's a whole other thing to make sure she doesn't divorce you and ruin your children and ruin 0.85

00:01:11.440 your investment in the family.

00:01:13.600 Now, perhaps I should amend this.

00:01:18.160 Not how do you keep a wife, but how do you keep a wife without losing all of your masculine 0.90

00:01:25.480 virtue and becoming effeminate?

00:01:30.260 Because certainly, if you want to keep a wife, the divorce rate, it's 50%, maybe lower than 0.84

00:01:36.200 that, depending on how you look at it.

00:01:37.720 A lot of the people getting divorced have already been divorced, and should we include them in

00:01:42.800 the original statistics?

00:01:45.800 But we come right down to it.

00:01:47.260 If you want to keep your wife around, earn a lot of money, do whatever she says, and buy 0.99

00:01:53.920 that overpriced McMansion out in the suburbs. 1.00

00:01:57.280 Become one of those idiots that says, happy wife, happy life. 1.00

00:02:01.380 You keep your wife around, but your kids are going to grow up to be progressives, and your 1.00

00:02:08.740 line dies with them instead of you.

00:02:16.460 Now, the question is maintaining your masculine virtue, is holding on to your mission while

00:02:21.600 you have a wife.

00:02:23.920 How do you do that without her using the threat of divorce to tear everything apart? 0.95

00:02:30.420 And for the record, your masculine virtue does not mean playing video games and getting

00:02:38.560 drunk with your buddies or whatever.

00:02:41.620 It doesn't mean acting like a teenager, it means having a mission and a direction and

00:02:46.180 standards that you set for the family.

00:02:50.040 And we've got a two-pronged problem with all of this.

00:02:53.220 The first is the whole divorce industry, massive amounts of money being made off of tearing

00:02:58.780 couples apart, massive amounts of propaganda being funded to convince women that the grass

00:03:03.600 is greener on the other hill.

00:03:05.520 And of course, there's always going to be an excuse.

00:03:08.180 There's always going to be some other guy that's taller than you, that has a fatter wallet,

00:03:12.140 whatever.

00:03:13.760 It doesn't matter how alpha you are, there's somebody that's more alpha than you in some

00:03:18.760 other way.

00:03:19.180 And so yes, this current system is very hostile to marriage.

00:03:25.520 And the other problem we have is that men's instincts are misfiring.

00:03:31.380 I mean, good Lord, try and talk to any baby boomer about what's happening with divorce law, 1.00

00:03:35.360 what's happening with domestic violence law, what's happening with the affirmative action

00:03:39.360 in the economy, and every single one of them starts white knighting for women. 1.00

00:03:42.820 The thing is, we as men are programmed to protect women and to take care of women, and these

00:03:50.980 instincts are being manipulated so that they support feminism even from men who would not

00:03:58.680 describe themselves as feminists.

00:04:03.940 Now, this is a problem, to use Myers-Briggs terms, this is a problem that exists separately.

00:04:12.820 from the NT subcategory.

00:04:16.620 Now, the NTs only make up about 15% of the population.

00:04:19.920 They can see what's going on, but the rest of people, the rest of the population, is not

00:04:25.300 going to be quite so analytical.

00:04:28.200 And the perfect example of this, look at the protector archetype, the cop archetype.

00:04:34.880 Most cops are not bad guys.

00:04:37.320 Okay, yeah, you get a few bullies into the mix, you get a few guys with chips on their shoulders,

00:04:40.860 but even those guys, they're not a bully working at a used car dealership, they're a bully that

00:04:46.820 wants to go crack heads of criminals, right?

00:04:49.200 They enter it with good motivations, but because they're not intuitive thinkers, they wind up

00:04:55.320 following the policies and procedures, and maybe 15 years later, they realize that everything

00:05:00.000 they've been doing has only been increasing the anarcho-tyranny.

00:05:03.880 But for the time being, they go along to get along.

00:05:06.320 That's what most people do.

00:05:11.160 So yes, we've got this systemic problem, because the majority of people are being led around

00:05:16.880 like a bull with a ring in its nose.

00:05:19.200 Their instincts are being used against them.

00:05:26.380 Well, let me tell you, let me tell you how I know I'm not going to get divorced.

00:05:34.460 And this is related to the look of the samurai I've talked about before.

00:05:41.020 That's what my old martial arts instructor called it.

00:05:43.260 It's when you are willing to go to the mats, when you are not going to back down, when you

00:05:49.520 are not just talking smack, but you're actually going to go all the way, nobody's going to

00:05:54.220 mess with you.

00:05:55.260 They can see it in your eyes.

00:05:57.020 They can see the look of the samurai.

00:06:00.660 And so what you need to realize about marriage is, in the legal sense, in the technical sense,

00:06:07.760 women have a unilateral nuclear bomb. 1.00

00:06:12.240 And they can constantly threaten that. 0.94

00:06:15.400 Right?

00:06:15.720 Even without saying it, if we don't go visit my mother for Thanksgiving, then I could always

00:06:21.960 hit the divorce button. 0.95

00:06:23.880 You'll never see your kids again.

00:06:26.040 I'll take all your money.

00:06:30.200 It doesn't even have to be brought up for it to be a threat.

00:06:33.500 But, and so, here's the thing, how do you respond to that threat?

00:06:40.700 This is where the look of the samurai comes in.

00:06:42.800 This is where, knowing what you are, and what you're willing to do, that's where this comes

00:06:49.400 in.

00:06:51.880 And listen, I'm not talking, I am 100% not talking about those guys that say, if she ever divorces 1.00

00:07:00.860 me, I'll kill the bitch. 1.00

00:07:03.500 Listen, 99% of threats are never followed through upon. 1.00

00:07:09.020 The guys that say, I would kill her if she ever divorced me, those will be the first guys

00:07:13.940 to crumble. 0.97

00:07:16.060 Because, guess what? 1.00

00:07:17.220 Chimping out and murdering your wife, even if she did something horrible to you, chimping 1.00

00:07:23.920 out is not the mark of a samurai. 0.98

00:07:27.460 It's not the mark of a berserker.

00:07:30.260 A berserker doesn't chimp out. 1.00

00:07:33.680 He holds on to that rage until it's the right time to let it loose.

00:07:38.180 And by the way, I need to give credit to the late A4 over at womens.wordpress.com, because 0.99

00:07:48.400 he went through this.

00:07:49.700 He went through this with a woman that absolutely threatened him with everything, and he took

00:07:55.420 the nuclear option that only men have available.

00:07:58.540 And that is to say, I will not negotiate.

00:08:07.360 I will not negotiate my sacred honor.

00:08:10.280 I will not negotiate my rights as a father and my rights as a husband.

00:08:14.360 I'm not going to initiate force against you.

00:08:18.100 I can't in this civilization.

00:08:20.100 I mean, yeah, you could sneak into her apartment at night like some sort of thief and...

00:08:25.020 Sure.

00:08:26.400 But you've got no legal recourse.

00:08:29.000 You can refuse to play the system.

00:08:32.240 This A4 said, you know, I might not have supervised visits with my kids under the watchful gaze of

00:08:42.320 some overweight, double-digit IQ, immigrant government bureaucrat, but my kids, when they 1.00

00:08:51.360 finally tire of the lies from their mother, will know that they had a father who was a man.

00:08:58.060 Now, listen, being willing to go to the mats, whether that means quitting your job, burning 0.55

00:09:12.080 down the house, and spending the rest of your life in prison because you won't pay child 0.78

00:09:17.020 support, or if it means refusing supervised visits.

00:09:22.080 When you refuse to negotiate, when you refuse to go to the mats, when you refuse to sell out

00:09:29.300 your sacred honor, nobody can touch you.

00:09:37.280 Doesn't mean that you're not going to get into a fight. 0.89

00:09:40.500 You might die.

00:09:42.320 You might be locked up in debtor's prison for the rest of your life.

00:09:47.520 You might have your kids taken away from you so you don't ever get to see them because

00:09:51.080 you wouldn't agree to supervise visits.

00:09:55.280 It might go that far.

00:09:58.060 But when it goes that far, you win.

00:10:03.120 And when you are deep down, when you are willing to go that far, 99% of the time, nobody will

00:10:12.480 test you because they can see what you're made of.

00:10:16.520 So that's why I'm confident that I won't get divorced, or if I do get divorced, I'll deal

00:10:27.800 with it.

00:10:28.500 I'll deal with the consequences.

00:10:35.020 But we get back to this problem with the NTs, about 10-15% of the population, and everybody

00:10:44.080 else.

00:10:50.780 With our current system, we have to do what's in the best interest of the child.

00:10:57.480 Right?

00:10:58.020 This is the maxim which led to this toxic divorce law that winds up destroying children by having 1.00

00:11:03.920 them raised by single moms.

00:11:06.040 Best interest of the child is what destroyed the family.

00:11:09.020 But when you say this to your average person out there, when you say this to them, best

00:11:17.980 interest of the child, it sounds reasonable, doesn't it?

00:11:20.580 And so it's in the best interest of the child that you negotiate with the divorce lawyers

00:11:24.600 and accept some sort of salary.

00:11:26.000 At least then we get to visit your children.

00:11:27.620 Not realizing that you're selling out your sacred honor.

00:11:36.220 Society needs moral leadership.

00:11:40.980 Right now we have immoral leadership.

00:11:43.000 We have amoral leadership.

00:11:45.380 We have leaders that are exploiting our instincts to make us useful little ants in their ant colony.

00:11:50.340 This is why part of the preparation, not just for the future, decades or even centuries down

00:11:59.940 the road, but part of the preparation for what we are doing with our own lives is forming

00:12:08.740 these male hierarchies.

00:12:10.620 Because when you have this tribe, this organization, this order, and the leader is laying down these

00:12:23.280 standards, that leader can inculcate this attitude, this look of the samurai.

00:12:34.080 Again, your average person out there, when they confront the divorce court, well that's supposed

00:12:39.280 to be the patriarchy, that's supposed to be the trusted leaders of society.

00:12:42.440 If your trusted leader is yelling at you, you must have done something wrong.

00:12:45.780 So they capitulate. 0.94

00:12:47.320 These same men that are so weak and effeminate in the face of this feminist ginocracy, if you 1.00

00:12:57.820 put them onto a battlefield against a Islamic soldier that was raping a 12-year-old girl, they'd 0.99

00:13:05.440 have to look at the samurai there.

00:13:09.280 The problem is that the rules and regulations, the attitudes, the values of our society have

00:13:14.980 been poisoned.

00:13:16.940 And this is why we need to start forming these larger collectives that hold the members to

00:13:24.620 account, hold their wives to account. 0.64

00:13:29.020 I mean, hey, you want to divorce one of our members? 0.90

00:13:31.440 Guess we can't stop you because we're not the state.

00:13:34.420 But you're never talking to anybody here ever again.

00:13:37.080 We're not doing business with you.

00:13:38.940 We are not introducing you. 0.99

00:13:40.680 You are excommunicated and dead to us.

00:13:45.640 Or you could make up with your husband. 0.80

00:13:48.780 Up to you, sweetheart.

00:13:50.120 We're not using force.

00:13:51.920 We're just going to shun you.

00:13:54.840 And because we have this organization, this nightly order, whatever you want to call it,

00:13:59.760 we enforce those standards on our members.

00:14:06.360 So good men that maybe they're not cut out for leadership, they are still good men.

00:14:12.740 They are still very practical men.

00:14:14.300 They are virtuous.

00:14:16.180 We are going to inculcate those values in them.

00:14:19.100 We are going to hold them up to the standards of heroes, and we are going to make them into

00:14:23.740 heroes, and folks, that's how, if we build it, they will come, and if we build something

00:14:34.560 good, they won't want to leave, even though, door's right over there, sweetie.

00:14:41.740 So that's how we do it, folks.

00:14:46.880 We internalize the look of the samurai.

00:14:51.020 We create civilized standards that can't be co-opted by these cheap little catchphrases,

00:14:58.180 and we start lifting up other men to turn them into the best possible version of themselves.

00:15:06.100 Deus Volt Urimi, out.

Leo D.M.J. Aurini - August 13, 2018

How to Keep a Wife

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