Leo D.M.J. Aurini - Infidelity： The Curse of Chad

00:00:00.000 One of the things I've found in life is that with great power, with great blessings, comes a related cost.

00:00:14.300 If you're intelligent, if you're good at school, you never have to learn study habits or discipline.

00:00:22.560 So you get good marks, but you're not going to be good at educating yourself.

00:00:26.660 If you're born physically fit or if you achieve physical fitness, you're going to be expected to do all the heavy lifting.

00:00:37.380 And if you're Chad, you can get away with anything, except nobody can get away with anything whatsoever.

00:00:48.540 Even if you get away with it, you're still going to pay for it.

00:00:52.200 There ain't no such thing as a free lunch.

00:00:56.660 And one of the ways that Chad runs into this is with infidelity.

00:01:01.880 Now, women, they want the best man that they can find. 1.00

00:01:13.740 Good looking, charismatic, smart, rich, handsome, muscular, etc.

00:01:18.620 They want the best.

00:01:21.580 And one of the ways that they can tell that a man is the best is if other women also want that man.

00:01:28.420 So this leads to an interesting situation where if you are sleeping around on a woman, it actually winds up making her want you even more.

00:01:43.980 Now, listen, I'm not talking about the beta bucks guy that cheats on his wife with a stripper while he's down in Vegas.

00:01:51.160 No, that's an insult to her because she's already, in her mind, she's already lowering her standards to sleep with this guy. 0.78

00:01:59.920 And the fact that beta bucks would dare cheat on her, it's like, no, you need to be crushed.

00:02:04.420 But if you're Chad, if you've really captured a woman, if you've captured her heart, sleeping around on her will make her want you more.

00:02:17.200 Now, if you're single, if you're just playing the field, if you're sleeping with the tots, you know, this works to your advantage.

00:02:26.160 It's called spinning plates.

00:02:28.320 And I think most guys have had this experience where they have, everything's going great for them, there's plenty of women, and then they break up with their girlfriend, the other woman doesn't respond, and boom, you go through three months of absolutely nothing.

00:02:42.440 Women want men that other women want as well. 1.00

00:02:45.220 And listen, don't get all moralistic about the tots, okay?

00:02:53.680 The tots are using a selection process that is getting them Chad.

00:02:59.140 It's getting them the casual encounters.

00:03:03.180 And changing that selection process, that's on them.

00:03:07.580 If you don't sleep with her, it's going to be some other Chad that sleeps with her. 0.98

00:03:12.080 What I'm talking about here is when you've found a woman that you want to date, that you want to marry, that you can see a future with.

00:03:23.120 A good woman.

00:03:24.980 You know, not a woman that's still wrapped up in the feminist ideology that she was taught in university. 1.00

00:03:32.960 I mean, that's a whole thing right there. 0.96

00:03:34.420 You know, you've got these girls, they go to first-year university, they shave half their head, dye the other half blue, go on and on about how much they hate men, and they're all rapists and all this.

00:03:45.700 Guys, that, 90% of the time, that's no different than when a little 10-year-old girl has a crush on a boy in the schoolyard, and she just runs up to him and says, 0.85

00:03:55.560 I hate you.

00:03:57.420 It's actually kind of tragic. 0.98

00:03:58.880 That's what a lot of these feminist girls are doing. 1.00

00:04:01.020 You know, they're running, I hate you, please give me attention.

00:04:04.960 But even if you understand that, it's they need to grow up and stop acting like they're in elementary school.

00:04:11.820 So, I'm not talking about feminist women. 0.95

00:04:14.200 You don't want that negative energy in your life.

00:04:16.700 And I'm not talking about tots that are just out for a good time because, hey, girls, they like to have fun.

00:04:22.340 I'm talking about when you find a woman that you've really captured her heart.

00:04:29.240 You see a future with her, and she is just head over heels with you.

00:04:34.160 The thing is that if you're Chad, those same skills that you use to spin plates, well, you can use those with her.

00:04:46.380 You can cheat on her, and she will forgive you every single time. 0.99

00:04:50.020 In fact, she will want you even more, and she will work even harder to get you back. 0.97

00:04:55.120 Whether this means she loses weight, or she gets a nose job, whatever it might be. 1.00

00:05:01.940 She will engage in self-improvement to win you back when you cheat on her. 1.00

00:05:06.680 And so this seems like a win-win for Chad, doesn't it?

00:05:09.520 He gets the stable woman, and he gets to have a few plates spinning on the side.

00:05:15.780 It seems win-win.

00:05:20.840 But it's not.

00:05:21.820 When you cheat on a woman, you wound her.

00:05:31.440 You harden her heart.

00:05:35.740 You take one of those velvet folds where you used to dwell inside of her, and you calcify it.

00:05:45.100 She'll engage in self-improvement,

00:05:47.420 but she's not improving herself for good reasons.

00:05:53.900 She's not doing it for her own sake.

00:05:56.220 She's not doing it out of love for you.

00:06:00.100 She's now doing it to ensnare you. 1.00

00:06:05.760 Your infidelity makes her want you more? 0.98

00:06:08.540 Well, that's a very manipulative tactic.

00:06:11.680 And what she's doing in reverse, improving herself so that she's irresistible,

00:06:17.600 and she can capture all your attention. 0.66

00:06:20.720 Well, look at the word I just used there.

00:06:22.220 Capture.

00:06:24.000 She's ensnaring you. 1.00

00:06:28.220 When you cheat on a woman, she loses the ability to love.

00:06:35.240 Bit by bit.

00:06:35.780 She hardens her heart.

00:06:37.640 You harden her heart by doing that.

00:06:42.480 And yeah, she wants you more,

00:06:44.520 but she is less and less of a loving human being,

00:06:48.700 because you've wounded her so deeply.

00:06:51.020 You've calcified this part of her.

00:06:53.160 And she will work to get you,

00:06:55.820 but she's going to be trying to get you in the wrong way. 0.99

00:07:00.160 Us men,

00:07:09.720 we have a lot of power over women. 1.00

00:07:17.180 In fact, if you look at the whole feminist movement,

00:07:20.000 doesn't it strike you as women that have been wounded in this way,

00:07:25.360 that have had those velvet folds just torn out of them, 0.66

00:07:28.260 and they're angry at men for having this power over them,

00:07:31.760 and they try and go about re-seizing this power

00:07:34.560 in the most autistic way possible, 0.66

00:07:36.040 as if having a career is going to change the fact

00:07:38.820 that she's going to fall madly in love with Chad,

00:07:41.820 and if he's a bad man, Chad will cheat on her.

00:07:47.720 But we have a lot of power over women. 1.00

00:07:49.820 We're stronger than them.

00:07:52.060 We're emotionally, we're more stable.

00:07:54.720 We're the rock that they need to cling on to.

00:07:58.260 And when a woman truly falls for you,

00:08:01.760 then you dwell within her.

00:08:06.480 Like, you do literally, genetically,

00:08:09.100 there's microchimeralism.

00:08:10.800 But emotionally,

00:08:12.140 you just dominate her so completely. 0.73

00:08:15.740 And as men,

00:08:18.660 if we are going to be good, righteous,

00:08:22.340 Chadly men,

00:08:24.740 it's up to us not to abuse that power.

00:08:29.920 It's up to us to cherish a woman who loves us.

00:08:35.700 You know, it's not dissimilar from children.

00:08:37.820 Listen, when you're a parent,

00:08:41.320 your children have no choice about loving you.

00:08:49.380 If you're a really bad parent,

00:08:51.160 they might hate you,

00:08:52.460 but they'll never be indifferent.

00:08:54.560 Children cannot choose to be indifferent.

00:08:57.520 They will either love you or hate you.

00:08:59.880 They'll never move on from you.

00:09:05.180 And if you forget their birthdays,

00:09:07.840 if you don't show up to their soccer practice,

00:09:10.520 if you,

00:09:11.260 oh, I'm sorry,

00:09:12.480 it just happened again,

00:09:13.820 they will always,

00:09:15.140 always, always come back.

00:09:17.980 But it hurts them.

00:09:19.340 It deeply,

00:09:21.840 deeply hurts them.

00:09:23.800 And so as men,

00:09:25.380 as powerful men,

00:09:27.980 because it is incumbent upon you

00:09:31.200 as a male

00:09:32.400 to become virtuous,

00:09:35.260 to become virile,

00:09:36.800 to become a vir,

00:09:38.700 a powerful man,

00:09:40.320 as a powerful man,

00:09:42.020 it's incumbent upon us

00:09:43.420 to be good custodians

00:09:47.200 of those

00:09:48.840 who are under our leadership.

00:09:55.060 So that's the curse of Chad.

00:09:57.260 He can get away

00:09:58.360 with absolutely anything.

00:10:01.220 And yet you never get away

00:10:02.940 with anything at all.

00:10:04.680 There ain't no such thing

00:10:05.760 as a free lunch.

00:10:06.640 You'll always pay the piper.

00:10:10.320 So,

00:10:11.680 watch how you behave, folks.

00:10:14.880 Deus volt.

00:10:20.640 Marini out.

Leo D.M.J. Aurini - June 05, 2018

Infidelity： The Curse of Chad

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