Leo D.M.J. Aurini - June 10, 2012


Psychology VI - Susceptibility to Schedule 2 Personality Disorders

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Leo D.M.J. Aurini
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Raphael Kim Kardashian Schedule II Michelangelo Leonardo Badger
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13 minutes

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In this episode, I describe which personality type is most susceptible to each temperament, and why. I also explain why the borderline personality disorder is the most dangerous to each type of personality type, and how to deal with it.

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00:00:00.000 Some time back, after I finished the psychology series, Asymmetrical Warfare pointed out that I've made a mistake in it.
00:00:09.000 In the series, I said that the borderline was the most dangerous sort of personality, Schedule II personality disorder that you'll run into.
00:00:16.000 But more accurate would be to say it's the most dangerous for me, because I'm a choleric.
00:00:23.000 And so he pondered, and I've had other people ask this in the other videos, if there might be certain types of, certain humours are most predisposed to being exploited by particular personality disorders.
00:00:39.000 And you know what? I think that is the case.
00:00:42.000 And the interesting thing, as I said, I've been thinking about it, and what you find is actually the shape of the Manan rune,
00:00:49.000 of the directions where people are most susceptible.
00:00:53.000 So, my goal with this video is to describe which personality disorder is most dangerous to each temperament, and also explain why.
00:01:05.000 So, we might as well move in a clockwise motion, starting with the melancholic.
00:01:12.000 So, the melancholic, as I'm sure you recall, is the introvert that likes new situations.
00:01:18.000 They're the person that loves showing up at the party, it's Michelangelo.
00:01:22.000 And so, the guiding goal in the melancholic's life is to find somebody that will start a party, start a movement that they can join.
00:01:34.000 And so, for the most dangerous personality disorder, in this case, the narcissist.
00:01:44.000 This is what it boils down to. The narcissist likes to form cults of personality.
00:01:50.000 The melancholic likes to be part of a team. They want a personality that they can be loyal to.
00:01:57.000 And so, when you get a narcissist, creating this fake movement, this fake belief system, other people will eventually realize that the narcissist is being a fake.
00:02:10.000 That they have no real plan, they have no real movement.
00:02:13.000 The melancholic will never realize that. They will follow the narcissist off the cliff.
00:02:20.000 Then, you have the sanguine. Sanguine, of course, being Raphael, is they're an extrovert that likes new situations.
00:02:33.000 They don't tend to deeply analyze the things around them. They're not a mechanical type of thinker.
00:02:42.000 And because they don't analyze things so deeply, for the sanguine, it is the histrionic that is the most dangerous.
00:02:52.000 What the histrionic does, remember, is the histrionic needs a constant source of drama.
00:02:59.000 They need their environment to surround them with a maelstrom of passion.
00:03:06.000 And so, they start arguments between other people. They instigate problems.
00:03:12.000 And so, for a sanguine, they don't tend to really analyze people that deeply.
00:03:18.000 Raphael's interested in doing what he's going to do.
00:03:22.000 He's not going to analyze what the other Ninja Turtles' motivations are.
00:03:27.000 He's not that interested in why they're doing things.
00:03:31.000 And so, if he sees arguments around him, he'll try and settle them, but he's not really going to dig deep into it.
00:03:39.000 And so, the histrionic, starting these constant, unending, ceaseless arguments around him, he never notices.
00:03:48.000 Never notices what she's doing.
00:03:50.000 The other personality types, eventually, they'll get sick of it. They might not quite realize what she's doing. 0.93
00:03:55.000 But they'll say, it's like, you start an argument wherever you go.
00:03:59.000 No, I don't. It's other people arguing. No, you're starting the argument.
00:04:03.000 Sanguine won't realize that. Sanguine, you need to point out to the sanguine that they're hanging out with a histrionic person.
00:04:10.000 Because, left to their own devices, they'll just see an isolated argument.
00:04:15.000 They're not prone to mechanical, analytical thinking in that manner.
00:04:24.000 Now, the choleric, as I said, what really drives the choleric is, essentially, we're driven to shove our noses into other people's business. 0.94
00:04:35.000 When we see a problem, we want to fix it.
00:04:39.000 Leonardo, the leader personality type.
00:04:42.000 What's going on here? What's the malfunction? How can I help?
00:04:46.000 You know, if one of our friends is feeling down, we want to go take them out and say, hey, what's wrong?
00:04:51.000 Okay, you need to get laid. We're going to take you to the bar. We're going to get you laid. 1.00
00:04:54.000 We're constantly driven to analyze people and talk to people and fix problems.
00:05:01.000 Which can be really irritating, by the way, if you don't want your problem fixed.
00:05:07.000 So the choleric, the reason they're so susceptible to the borderline is because the borderline is essentially an unending problem. 0.97
00:05:16.000 It's a riddle that can never be fixed. There's always another layer to the riddle.
00:05:21.000 The borderline is never going to be well.
00:05:24.000 And so the choleric can just fall into a pit trying to help this person. 1.00
00:05:29.000 Which is why, as a choleric, a borderline almost destroyed me.
00:05:35.000 And finally, you've got the phlegmatic.
00:05:40.000 The Donatello.
00:05:42.000 The person that wants to be, they want to be part of the team.
00:05:45.000 They want to be a useful contributing member to the team.
00:05:49.000 But they don't want to be in charge.
00:05:51.000 They're mechanical thinkers and they're introverts.
00:05:55.000 Being around too many people, talking to a lot of people, tends to drain their energy.
00:06:00.000 And so what they want is a very good leader that can take care of anything.
00:06:06.000 That can direct them, can give them a mission.
00:06:09.000 You know, somebody, you know, they need the sanguine will initiate the party and the choleric makes sure the party, you know, goes well. 0.92
00:06:17.000 That everybody's being satisfied.
00:06:19.000 And so for the phlegmatic, it's the sociopath that's the most dangerous. 0.91
00:06:26.000 Because the sociopath, essentially they're extremely controlling and they'll tell you that they have a plan.
00:06:33.000 But their plans, they don't have that coherent humanity in their soul.
00:06:38.000 They don't actually value anybody.
00:06:41.000 A true leader values everybody.
00:06:44.000 Make sure that everybody else is having fun.
00:06:47.000 That they all have a role to play. They all belong.
00:06:50.000 The sociopath pretends to do that, but doesn't actually care about anybody.
00:06:56.000 And so we have here the phlegmatic.
00:07:00.000 And because they don't, they like analyzing mechanical things, but they're not as prone to analyzing people.
00:07:08.000 They don't want to think about the, what direction the organization is going.
00:07:14.000 The, the choleric person comes up with a mission statement. 0.98
00:07:17.000 They think, yeah, that's a good mission statement.
00:07:19.000 What do I need to do? I do this.
00:07:21.000 All right. Good.
00:07:23.000 Just, you know, you take care of that mission statement.
00:07:25.000 Just make sure we're headed somewhere.
00:07:27.000 And so when the sociopath lies about having a mission statement, the, the phlegmatic is very prone to not realizing that. 0.94
00:07:35.000 They never, they never look at it deeper.
00:07:38.000 And so what can happen with the phlegmatic is they become completely aligned with the sociopath, 0.97
00:07:45.000 who bit by bit, you know, uses them and manipulates them and cuts off the other parts of their lives.
00:07:51.000 And when they finally realize the, the damage the, the sociopath has done, they have no friends left.
00:07:59.000 And they're, they're left extremely isolated.
00:08:05.000 So that would, that is what you need to look out for, depending on what sort of personality type.
00:08:13.000 If you're not a choleric, borderlines aren't going to be that dangerous to you. 0.80
00:08:17.000 Of course, they'll still cause problems in your life.
00:08:19.000 They'll still be disruptive.
00:08:21.000 They'll, they'll still be annoying and they'll upset your friends.
00:08:25.000 But there's going to be a particular type of disorder that is, that you are most vulnerable to.
00:08:33.000 That you are blind to.
00:08:35.000 So as a choleric, if I find out that somebody has a history of borderline disorder.
00:08:43.000 And you know what, they're not necessarily a clinical borderline as I've described.
00:08:47.000 They could have been through a traumatic event.
00:08:49.000 There's a, and so they, they act out.
00:08:53.000 Because they, they're really, they're really messed up inside.
00:08:56.000 But they're not fundamentally a borderline.
00:08:58.000 They're just somebody that suffered trauma.
00:09:00.000 Nonetheless, I do not trust myself around borderlines.
00:09:05.000 And so if you are a phlegmatic, make sure that somebody that you're letting into your life. 0.54
00:09:12.000 Girlfriend, an important friend, make sure they're not a sociopath.
00:09:16.000 Get other people to look out for you in this.
00:09:18.000 Because it goes against your nature to be aware of the problems in these people.
00:09:26.000 Now, this is a different topic.
00:09:34.000 But I think it's something that needs to be included.
00:09:38.000 Because it was, again, asymmetrical pointed this out.
00:09:42.000 That he is an introverted person.
00:09:45.000 He's not an extrovert.
00:09:47.000 He's not a leader type.
00:09:48.000 And he has no interest in being a leader type.
00:09:51.000 And this present society of everybody's special.
00:09:56.000 You know, everybody needs to be their own bright shining star.
00:09:59.000 We're all magical.
00:10:01.000 Basically, we celebrate the leaders, the cholerics, and the emotional divas. 1.00
00:10:09.000 The sanguins.
00:10:10.000 We celebrate extroverted people.
00:10:12.000 And we denigrate introverted people.
00:10:16.000 And I was reading a great blog by The Badger.
00:10:23.000 And I'm going to link below to that.
00:10:25.000 Where The Badger, he has a lot of game.
00:10:28.000 He picks up a lot of girls.
00:10:30.000 He knows how to get along in social situations.
00:10:33.000 But he's an introvert.
00:10:35.000 He doesn't like being around strangers.
00:10:37.000 Me?
00:10:38.000 I'm an extrovert.
00:10:39.000 I'm an extrovert.
00:10:40.000 I'm driven to just... 0.99
00:10:42.000 If somebody's doing something stupid, and I don't even know them, I'm driven to go call 1.00
00:10:46.000 them an asshole for that. 1.00
00:10:48.000 I shove my nose into other people's business, even when it doesn't belong. 1.00
00:10:52.000 Okay?
00:10:53.000 Being an extrovert isn't innately good.
00:10:55.000 It just means that I am driven to go deal with people all the time.
00:11:01.000 And so him, he loves great conversation with people that he knows or people that are interesting.
00:11:07.000 But a really crowded party with lots of people, he doesn't want to be the social butterfly.
00:11:13.000 He wants to be the person that hangs back and watches it.
00:11:16.000 Introverted is not the same thing as shy.
00:11:20.000 Shy means that you have an irrational fear of public situations.
00:11:32.000 That you get irrationally fearful.
00:11:35.000 You feel like you're being put on the spot.
00:11:38.000 If any of you have ever done public speaking, you know, a certain amount of shyness is natural.
00:11:43.000 The first time you drive, it's a little bit scary.
00:11:46.000 You know, the first time you do public speaking, your knees will probably shake a little bit.
00:11:51.000 You'll be really nervous, even if you're an extrovert.
00:11:57.000 But shyness as a pathology, as a problem that you need to work through,
00:12:03.000 is when you feel irrationally so, where it becomes a phobia.
00:12:08.000 The same way I've seen arachnophobes that would start crying if there was a spider in the room.
00:12:13.000 And if you're that arachnophobic, then you should probably get over that too.
00:12:18.000 But it's not the same thing as introversion.
00:12:25.000 Introverts can be extremely charismatic.
00:12:28.000 Introverts can pick up women easily.
00:12:31.000 They can learn game.
00:12:33.000 Different types of personalities are probably going to use slightly different game.
00:12:38.000 For instance, the club scene is probably best for the sanguine. 0.97
00:12:43.000 It's sanguine or even the melancholic.
00:12:46.000 Because the club scene, it's chaotic, it's loud, you don't have long conversations.
00:12:50.000 Whereas the phlegmatic and the choleric, I'm definitely more driven to the bar scene. 0.97
00:12:56.000 I like to have conversations, I like to study people.
00:12:59.000 I like an environment that I can analyze and predict, not something that's completely chaotic.
00:13:05.000 But again, it doesn't mean I can't enjoy riding a motorcycle.
00:13:10.000 Okay?
00:13:11.000 Being terrified of new experiences versus liking to be in control.
00:13:16.000 They're two different things.
00:13:18.000 So, if you are phlegmatic, if you're melancholic, or if you're sanguine,
00:13:24.000 it's not a knock on your personality.
00:13:27.000 There is no best sort of personality.
00:13:31.000 And we can all get better at everything.
00:13:34.000 We can all be less shy.
00:13:35.000 We can all be more confident.
00:13:37.000 We can all be a bit more daring.
00:13:39.000 Don't hate yourself for what you are.
00:13:43.000 It's basically what I'm getting at. 1.00
00:13:45.000 And don't listen to the bullshit from people that say that you need to be a bloody idiot. 1.00
00:13:50.000 Like, Kim Kardashian. 1.00
00:13:54.000 Irini out, folks.