Leo D.M.J. Aurini - PUAs, Con Artists, and the Dark Triad

00:00:00.000 Thank you.

00:00:30.840 PUA's Con Artists and the Dark Triad.

00:00:35.440 Now this is a very complex and controversial subject.

00:00:40.920 It requires a very subtle touch to tease apart the different threads of it.

00:00:47.540 So to even get into this in the first place requires some background on what all these terms mean.

00:00:55.780 And we're going to start with the Dark Triad.

00:00:58.340 Now if you've never heard of it before, the Dark Triad is something that's often brought up in pickup artist and game circles. 0.97

00:01:07.140 Basically as an explanation for the conventional wisdom that nice guys finish last and chicks dig jerks. 1.00

00:01:15.620 But to talk about the term itself, we should consider where it came from. 0.87

00:01:20.200 It was a psychologist, J.M. MacDonald, who first coined it in a 1963 psychology paper, A Threat to Kill.

00:01:29.540 And in it, he was analyzing the behaviors and the paths of spree killers, of serial killers.

00:01:39.380 And the Dark Triad was also connected with such things as animal cruelty, fire starting, bedwetting.

00:01:45.420 And it specifically referred to three behavioral tropes that could predict future criminality in his eyes.

00:01:55.480 And those were Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy.

00:02:01.340 Now in modern times, with this completely deregulated sexual market that we have, 1.00

00:02:10.940 one of the observations that more and more guys have been making is that chicks dig jerks. 0.99

00:02:17.100 They dig the guys with the Dark Triad. 0.99

00:02:19.900 Those three evil traits.

00:02:22.960 Those are the ones getting all the women. 1.00

00:02:24.780 Now, if you went a hundred years ago and told somebody about this theory, 1.00

00:02:29.760 they'd agree with you, but everybody in society would say that these guys are scum. 0.99

00:02:34.940 You know, a real man takes care of his woman. 1.00

00:02:37.160 A real man is honest, has honor and integrity.

00:02:40.660 These days, nobody's enforcing any sorts of social norms.

00:02:45.020 And to interact with girls at all, you need to understand at least the basis of these traits.

00:02:52.760 Which is a very sad indictment of where our society is going.

00:02:59.500 But now as to why these traits work.

00:03:02.920 You know, many, I think, make the mistaken view that these traits work because women are just feral, 0.99

00:03:11.640 or they're just venal, and so they automatically go for evil people.

00:03:16.900 Because their evil babies will have more babies than the non-evil babies. 0.86

00:03:21.320 You know, it's a little bit of a reductio ad absurdum of evolutionary psychology, in my opinion.

00:03:28.700 But before we get to that part, before we really talk about why it is that girls go for guys that display the Dark Triad,

00:03:38.200 it's worth considering what con artistry is.

00:03:42.840 Now, con artistry, the important thing that you need to understand about con artistry is what the con stands for.

00:03:55.060 What a con man is.

00:03:57.000 He's a confidence man.

00:03:59.440 He's somebody that gets your confidence and uses that to steal your money.

00:04:04.760 You know, there's an old saying that you can't con an honest man.

00:04:10.960 You can defraud an honest man.

00:04:13.320 But conning him?

00:04:14.720 Much, much more difficult.

00:04:17.700 And to understand how all of this works, let's talk about your typical, kind of the basic, most basic con of all.

00:04:28.180 The Pigeon Drop.

00:04:30.040 Now, down below is a link to Michael Shermer of Skeptic Magazine, kind of doing a little video segment about how exactly this works,

00:04:38.420 showing you an example of it on the street.

00:04:40.340 But I'll describe it for you briefly.

00:04:42.900 Essentially, you have two con men and the mark.

00:04:47.400 The inside man, the outside man, and the mark.

00:04:50.620 Now, what happens to the inside man?

00:04:53.440 He goes up to the mark, which is just anybody walking down the street.

00:04:58.360 And he engages them in conversation.

00:05:00.580 You know, pretends to be a tourist.

00:05:01.700 Can you give me directions?

00:05:03.120 He wins their confidence over.

00:05:06.400 Then the outside man comes in.

00:05:08.540 Once they've established a rapport, the first two people,

00:05:11.900 he comes up and puts a wallet down behind the mark and says,

00:05:17.240 Hey, did one of you guys drop your wallet?

00:05:19.000 At which point, everybody is now confused.

00:05:23.000 They check, no, that's not my wallet.

00:05:24.940 You know, not mine either.

00:05:26.100 They pick it up, and there's a whole bunch of money in it.

00:05:31.200 Now they get into a conversation.

00:05:33.820 The inside man points out, you know, wow, that's $300, or that's $3,000.

00:05:40.100 That's $1,000 each.

00:05:43.560 He just lets it off hand like that.

00:05:46.720 You know, that's $1,000 each.

00:05:48.100 But we really should try and return it.

00:05:51.440 And he takes the money, puts it into an envelope, which he puts in his pocket.

00:05:56.860 Then he pulls another envelope out of his pocket, which is full of paper, cut to the same dimensions as the $100 bills in the wallet.

00:06:09.920 So it feels like the same thing, and of course it's sealed.

00:06:14.460 But now, this is where the trick comes in.

00:06:19.300 So the outside man says, you know what, I'll go into that building and try and return it.

00:06:24.800 I'll see if anybody in there lost the wallet.

00:06:27.260 But how do I know you guys aren't going to run off with the money?

00:06:31.220 And so the inside man hands the envelope with the fake money to the mark.

00:06:36.020 The mark thinks he has $3,000 in an envelope, and that everybody here is being honest, and we're all going to split the money if we can't find who the wallet belongs to.

00:06:44.260 And so the inside man volunteers to say, all right, well listen, I've got a couple hundred bucks in my wallet.

00:06:51.720 I'll give you a couple hundred bucks, he says to his cohort.

00:06:54.980 And then they convince the mark to also give the cohort a couple hundred bucks.

00:07:00.900 At which point the cohort, the outside man, disappears.

00:07:04.700 He's now gone.

00:07:06.100 After about five minutes of waiting, the inside man says to the mark, well listen, you'll wait here with the money, right?

00:07:14.300 Okay, because I'm just going to go check on that guy, he's been a while.

00:07:16.920 And that point, boom.

00:07:19.140 They got the money out of the mark, they've still got the $3,000 in the wallet they dropped,

00:07:23.980 they're out $10 for a leather wallet, and the mark eventually realizes that he got conned.

00:07:34.360 Now, there's one critical key to all of this that Shermer doesn't specify,

00:07:41.140 because they actually were using a real mark, and they probably didn't want to be insulting to the guy.

00:07:46.020 And the key is this.

00:07:47.380 A real con man?

00:07:51.120 They get their mark complicit in the crime.

00:07:58.060 See, look at that pigeon drop.

00:07:59.920 What happened there?

00:08:01.600 Is, these three people found a wallet with $3,000 in it.

00:08:05.400 And you don't know who this money belongs to.

00:08:07.640 That could be their first and last month's rent.

00:08:09.700 Maybe they're on their way to a new apartment.

00:08:11.300 It could be money they desperately need.

00:08:14.300 And here the three of them are talking about splitting it amongst themselves,

00:08:17.700 because this poor imaginary fellow dropped their wallet.

00:08:21.860 They get the mark complicit.

00:08:24.780 If you're going to be a con man, what you do is you get the mark complicit.

00:08:29.480 And then, best case scenario, once you scam them,

00:08:33.360 you know, if any of you watch Better Call Saul,

00:08:35.700 there was a bit with a fake Rolex where they were conning people.

00:08:38.640 You know, at that point, that mark thinks that,

00:08:43.320 well, he thinks he profited. 0.99

00:08:44.380 Then he gets away and he finds out he has a useless piece of junk. 0.99

00:08:47.700 He doesn't even know that he got conned. 0.97

00:08:50.080 He thinks it's just unfortunate that the watch that he stole is not worth very much.

00:08:56.300 He just, bad luck, lucked out.

00:08:58.240 Doesn't even know he got conned.

00:09:00.260 You know, in the pigeon drop, the mark might know that he got conned,

00:09:03.460 but now he's so embarrassed that he was planning to steal money from this stranger's wallet

00:09:09.440 that he doesn't want to go forward.

00:09:12.840 He's less likely to go forward,

00:09:14.800 or at the very least, he's going to think about it for a long bit.

00:09:18.420 He's now embarrassed because he knows he did something wrong.

00:09:22.560 So the true con man brings you into his con.

00:09:27.080 And the best way to avoid being conned is be an honest person.

00:09:32.900 Don't do anything immoral.

00:09:34.280 Don't steal. 1.00

00:09:35.760 Don't rationalize it and say it's okay to steal a watch from that guy because he's a jerk. 0.99

00:09:40.640 Or it's okay because we found the wallet and, you know, who wouldn't steal the money? 0.99

00:09:45.640 No, it's still theft.

00:09:46.640 So if you don't steal, you can't be conned.

00:09:52.960 Which begs the question, what does any of this have to do with sex?

00:09:58.400 What does any of this have to do with picking up women?

00:10:01.000 What does it have to do with game or pickup artists?

00:10:03.620 Well, here's the thing.

00:10:08.440 Deep down, we all know that sex is far too powerful.

00:10:15.220 Love, romance, baby making.

00:10:17.700 We all know deep down that these are our powerful forces that we're dealing with.

00:10:23.200 And they shouldn't be played with lightly.

00:10:25.800 We see this in all of our entertainment.

00:10:28.480 You know, horror movies are a great example where the, you know, the stereotype goes.

00:10:33.460 It's as soon as somebody has sex, that's when the killer gets to them.

00:10:36.640 That's because the horror movies, the killer is always some sort of metaphor for societal dangers at the time.

00:10:42.400 You have music.

00:10:48.940 Take the freshman by the verb pipe, which is all about the regrets over a casual relationship resulting in an abortion.

00:10:57.680 Or, um, water baby by the sneaker pimps.

00:11:02.060 You know, that line, uh, 40 days of one night stands.

00:11:04.840 Just this profound regret that we're treating sex like candy, like something so casual and flippant.

00:11:12.400 Now, you can certainly go the Anita Sarkeesian route and say that this is all just a social construct being forced upon people.

00:11:20.260 This is how we learn to be ashamed of sex.

00:11:22.080 Or you could look at the fact that this is universal to all cultures, pretty much.

00:11:30.040 Big exceptions being primitive Stone Age tribes.

00:11:33.820 The thing is, sex is powerful.

00:11:38.180 Sex is really important. 0.95

00:11:40.860 And yet, on a certain level, everybody, you know, saints and sinners alike, everybody wants to have casual sex. 0.85

00:11:50.680 We want to have threesomes. 0.98

00:11:52.200 We want to, you know, we want to rob, steal. 0.99

00:11:55.300 We want to murder people that make us angry. 0.96

00:11:58.060 You know, we're all tempted there. 0.98

00:12:00.080 And so, think of the con man again.

00:12:07.260 The way you manipulate the mark is you get him to, you get him to do something he knows is wrong.

00:12:15.800 You make him complicit in the crime.

00:12:19.060 And the exact same thing goes for pickup. 0.91

00:12:21.920 Women, no, deep down in their souls, they know that sex is about a little bit more than just an orgasm. 1.00

00:12:31.800 There's a little bit more going on there. 0.99

00:12:34.040 But at the same time, they are lustful.

00:12:36.640 You know, women aren't as direct and obvious as men. 1.00

00:12:38.980 But believe me, they are extremely lustful creatures.

00:12:42.560 And so, the way you sleep with a woman is you allow her to sin and say that it's okay. 0.97

00:12:52.040 It's like, don't worry, babe.

00:12:54.940 I won't tell anybody.

00:12:56.420 We're just having fun.

00:12:57.520 Your boyfriend won't even know about it.

00:13:00.280 You get them involved in the crime and tell them it's not actually a crime.

00:13:04.500 Oh, don't worry.

00:13:04.980 It's not actually a crime to steal from that guy's wallet.

00:13:07.240 You know, it's not actually a crime to cheat on your boyfriend with me.

00:13:12.720 You know, you rationalize it for them.

00:13:15.160 And as long as you act like a criminal, as long as you manifest these dark triad traits,

00:13:21.040 she might just go for it.

00:13:25.480 You are helping her fight against her better nature.

00:13:29.780 You know, this is, the word seduction literally means to lead astray.

00:13:34.340 Now, I think it's really worth thinking about feminism in light of all of this. 1.00

00:13:42.620 Because feminism is just really this whole ideology built upon self-delusion. 1.00

00:13:48.340 Feminism, it embraces the parts of the 1950s. 1.00

00:13:52.860 The 1950s was very condescending to women.

00:13:57.360 It treated them like children.

00:13:58.680 But it had all these misperceptions of what women were.

00:14:02.540 That women were virginal. 0.83

00:14:04.800 That they were snowflakes.

00:14:06.360 That they could do no wrong.

00:14:07.960 They didn't have all that evil in them like men did.

00:14:11.160 And see, feminism continues to believe in all of this. 1.00

00:14:14.620 You know, they continue to promote that women can do no wrong. 0.99

00:14:19.160 Women don't abuse their boyfriends or their children. 1.00

00:14:22.960 Women don't ever commit rape. 1.00

00:14:24.620 But she was just overcome with emotion.

00:14:30.080 Feminism is really all about rationalizing women's behavior. 1.00

00:14:35.880 And so because we have this feminist indoctrinated culture, 1.00

00:14:39.920 we have these women that they already have all the rationalizations in place already. 1.00

00:14:46.360 What, me?

00:14:46.980 Oh, I'm not lustful.

00:14:48.180 I'm not tempted to do things I shouldn't do.

00:14:51.580 That I know go against my best interests.

00:14:54.380 That I know are just hurting other people.

00:14:56.800 Oh, of course not.

00:14:57.940 It's just men that do all that stuff.

00:15:01.420 And so you can really see,

00:15:03.160 when you look at it that way,

00:15:05.400 this whole anti-sex feminism attitude, 1.00

00:15:08.520 this attitude, all men are rapists, 0.99

00:15:10.560 all men are this, that, the other thing, 0.83

00:15:12.200 this starts to make a little bit of sense.

00:15:15.620 Because these women have been so programmed to rationalize everything, 1.00

00:15:21.160 and then they go with the pickup artist or with the bad boy,

00:15:26.100 the guy that is just using the woman as a mark, 0.97

00:15:28.660 is just using her as a sexual outlet.

00:15:31.540 The true dark triad.

00:15:34.180 And she feels used afterwards.

00:15:37.820 Except she can't admit it to herself.

00:15:40.080 The same way the mark,

00:15:41.820 the mark in the Connors game does not want to admit that he got played.

00:15:46.160 It's embarrassing,

00:15:47.540 because ultimately if he'd done the right thing,

00:15:49.260 he never would have been played.

00:15:51.020 And the same thing with the woman. 0.98

00:15:54.140 When the woman gets played by the pickup artist, 0.99

00:15:56.960 she doesn't want to admit that it was her fault.

00:16:00.040 That she gave in to her lust,

00:16:01.720 and went after a guy that she knew from the very beginning was no good,

00:16:05.560 but that she needed to get her tingles satisfied.

00:16:08.960 Doesn't want to admit that.

00:16:10.700 So instead she blames all men. 0.57

00:16:12.320 All men are predatory. 1.00

00:16:14.300 All men are rapists. 0.99

00:16:16.460 And so, you know, 1.00

00:16:17.440 this sex which I had consensually, 0.99

00:16:19.660 which makes me feel miserable the same way the mark feels miserable, 0.99

00:16:23.360 well that was date rape or something like that. 0.98

00:16:26.240 That was some form of sexual assault.

00:16:28.300 Because I can't admit that I did something wrong.

00:16:31.720 So the dark triad,

00:16:36.320 the reason the dark triad is so effective nowadays,

00:16:39.640 is because women have been progressively trained to rationalize everything. 1.00

00:16:46.480 Fifty years ago they would make different sorts of excuses.

00:16:49.380 And, you know,

00:16:50.000 if you go 100 or 200 back,

00:16:51.380 I think people were a little bit more sane in general.

00:16:54.000 But there's always people that want to rationalize things.

00:16:56.800 That don't want to accept responsibility.

00:16:59.120 That don't want to be good people.

00:17:02.360 Because being a good person is hard,

00:17:03.920 even though it pays off in the long run.

00:17:05.460 These women want to make excuses. 1.00

00:17:09.960 And so, yes,

00:17:11.040 manifesting the dark triad will work very well 0.82

00:17:14.180 with women who are just out for a quick lay 0.97

00:17:18.440 and who are going to regret it and hate themselves afterwards.

00:17:21.980 Although, if you're really good,

00:17:23.500 if you're a good con artist,

00:17:25.300 they'll never know it was you.

00:17:26.980 They'll think it was all the other guys that are to blame.

00:17:29.300 But not you.

00:17:30.060 You're the one warm memory from their childhood.

00:17:33.800 Same way,

00:17:34.460 a mark that's truly played

00:17:36.160 is going to think the con artists were some of his best friends.

00:17:39.140 And it's just bad luck

00:17:40.960 that he's the one that wound up in prison.

00:17:46.160 Now, all of that said,

00:17:48.360 there is a huge difference

00:17:52.040 between pickup artistry and game

00:17:55.020 that cannot be emphasized enough.

00:17:58.380 Because there's a lot of similarities.

00:18:00.660 There's a lot of the methodologies.

00:18:03.720 A lot of the terms are very, very similar.

00:18:06.420 But, see, one is the actual con artists

00:18:12.240 conning all of their students.

00:18:14.560 The other is an accurate assessment

00:18:17.080 of what it's like to live in a very low-trust society.

00:18:21.880 Let's consider the movie Wolf of Wall Street.

00:18:24.980 Move away from the sexual market for a bit

00:18:27.020 and look at the financial market.

00:18:29.160 Now, Wolf of Wall Street,

00:18:30.360 the story of Jordan Belfort,

00:18:33.000 is essentially how certain deregulation

00:18:36.400 and a number of factors in the 80s

00:18:41.300 led to a market

00:18:43.220 where it was easier to make money as a scam artist

00:18:46.760 than as a legitimate broker.

00:18:50.000 And we're still suffering these effects nowadays.

00:18:52.060 In fact, one of the few growth industries right now

00:18:54.720 is multi-level marketing schemes, sadly.

00:18:57.500 And what Belfort was doing

00:18:59.020 was essentially very similar

00:19:02.180 to a multi-level marketing scheme.

00:19:04.960 Destructive, selfish, not a true enterprise,

00:19:08.080 in an era where true enterprise gets punished.

00:19:13.600 Now, the movie ends off

00:19:15.160 with Belfort.

00:19:17.460 After he's, you know,

00:19:18.620 defrauded so many people out of money,

00:19:22.000 it winds up with him now giving lectures

00:19:25.120 on how to be an entrepreneur.

00:19:26.480 And early in the movie,

00:19:29.040 he asked somebody, you know,

00:19:30.380 sell me this pen.

00:19:31.760 He asked one of his buddies,

00:19:32.680 sell me this pen.

00:19:33.820 And the guy said,

00:19:35.120 listen, I'll give you a check for $1,000.

00:19:36.900 You just need to sign it.

00:19:37.720 Do you have a pen?

00:19:38.320 No?

00:19:38.740 Well, here's a pen.

00:19:39.480 Buy it from me.

00:19:41.000 You know, you need it.

00:19:42.480 Look, you see this pen?

00:19:43.580 You need it.

00:19:44.300 Then he goes to the conference,

00:19:47.300 his big speaking engagement.

00:19:49.760 He goes to the guys in the audience

00:19:51.200 and says,

00:19:51.640 can you sell me this pen?

00:19:52.680 And they're like,

00:19:53.020 well, it's a really nice pen.

00:19:56.300 None of them get it.

00:19:57.780 None of them are going to get it.

00:19:58.780 And he knows that perfectly well.

00:20:00.800 He's charging these people

00:20:01.820 $50, $100 to come see him speak

00:20:04.740 about being an entrepreneur

00:20:05.800 and a scam artist.

00:20:07.420 None of these people

00:20:08.540 are actually going to learn.

00:20:11.520 And see, that's the PUA methodology.

00:20:14.300 You know, they have a few

00:20:15.300 good tricks in their belt.

00:20:17.680 They have a few one-liners.

00:20:19.080 They have a few routines

00:20:20.380 and stories that they can teach you.

00:20:22.280 And if you go out

00:20:22.940 and try one of these routines,

00:20:24.000 yeah, sure, it's going to work.

00:20:25.680 But unless you really embrace

00:20:27.780 the dark triad of pickup artistry,

00:20:30.400 you're not going to succeed.

00:20:33.020 You know, you might scam

00:20:34.040 one person out of money,

00:20:35.460 but then the second person

00:20:36.680 he's going to report,

00:20:37.500 yeah, you'll be out of business.

00:20:38.880 You're not really going to get anywhere. 0.71

00:20:40.940 To be a scam artist like Belfort,

00:20:42.560 you need to embrace

00:20:44.040 the dark triad.

00:20:45.220 You need to understand

00:20:45.900 the psychology behind all of it.

00:20:48.200 And see, the pickup artist

00:20:49.020 is not teaching that psychology.

00:20:54.420 Now, in contrast to Belfort,

00:20:57.720 imagine a network of people.

00:21:01.660 And they're not trying to sell you

00:21:03.120 $1,000 boot camps.

00:21:05.260 At most, they're trying to sell you

00:21:06.620 a book for $10.

00:21:08.020 And in fact, most of what they do

00:21:09.300 is for free.

00:21:09.880 And they give you all of these explanations

00:21:12.320 about, listen,

00:21:13.840 the economy's broken right now.

00:21:15.820 There's no production happening

00:21:17.440 in this country.

00:21:18.520 If you invest on all the standard paths,

00:21:22.640 if you try and put your money

00:21:24.040 into these companies

00:21:24.780 where the profits,

00:21:27.400 the price to dividends ratio

00:21:29.180 is completely skewed beyond belief,

00:21:31.980 you are going to lose money eventually.

00:21:34.260 You know, there is no money

00:21:35.940 to be made there.

00:21:36.780 You've got to zig one other zag. 0.84

00:21:39.020 And the only things

00:21:40.460 that make any money whatsoever

00:21:42.240 are all of questionable morality.

00:21:45.320 And I wish we had a system

00:21:46.820 where that wasn't the case.

00:21:48.740 But I'm not going to go down

00:21:50.200 with the sinking ship

00:21:51.180 throwing my money

00:21:52.420 after a dead cause.

00:21:53.840 So if you want to make a bit of money,

00:21:55.960 here's how you do it.

00:21:59.120 That would be game.

00:22:00.100 You read one of Roush's books,

00:22:05.620 for example.

00:22:07.860 About 50% of what Roush writes about

00:22:11.060 is self-improvement.

00:22:13.920 And this is the very basics.

00:22:15.920 You know, if you want to be

00:22:17.040 interesting to women, 0.99

00:22:18.600 yeah, sure,

00:22:19.280 you could put on a feather boa

00:22:20.320 like a mystery.

00:22:21.420 And you could pretend

00:22:22.060 to be somebody you're not.

00:22:23.440 But, you know,

00:22:23.940 how much better to actually go

00:22:25.380 do interesting things

00:22:26.900 with your life?

00:22:27.400 Go rock climbing,

00:22:28.420 learn ballroom dancing,

00:22:29.600 drive a race car,

00:22:31.860 whatever.

00:22:33.000 Read books.

00:22:34.260 It doesn't matter.

00:22:34.740 Be an interesting,

00:22:36.120 accomplished man.

00:22:37.940 Don't just pretend to be one,

00:22:39.080 but actually be one.

00:22:40.340 You know, it's kind of like the

00:22:41.120 it's worth doing

00:22:42.880 for its own sake

00:22:43.860 and it will help you with women.

00:22:46.020 You know, another 30% of his book

00:22:47.560 is just basic charisma.

00:22:50.220 How to speak to people.

00:22:52.060 You know, in Daybang,

00:22:54.540 he actually based upon

00:22:55.540 how lonely senior citizens

00:22:58.040 would approach him

00:22:59.260 in coffee shops

00:23:00.160 because he realized

00:23:01.460 these are people that

00:23:02.420 they're just,

00:23:03.340 they don't have anything else to do.

00:23:04.600 They feel like talking to a stranger,

00:23:06.060 just having a pleasant conversation.

00:23:08.440 And he started watching

00:23:09.300 the techniques that worked for them.

00:23:11.320 You know, what were they doing?

00:23:12.340 Because these guys were experts

00:23:13.580 at talking to strangers

00:23:14.840 that don't want to talk to them.

00:23:16.960 Yeah, and again,

00:23:17.980 a hundred years ago,

00:23:19.360 you still needed these skills.

00:23:22.580 All right, these are skills that,

00:23:23.860 again, with this feminist education 1.00

00:23:25.760 and all the teachers slapping boys 1.00

00:23:27.740 on the penis with the ruler, 1.00

00:23:29.380 men are very lacking 1.00

00:23:31.160 in the assertiveness,

00:23:32.480 the natural, healthy sort of aggression

00:23:35.720 of virtue that comes with masculinity.

00:23:39.420 And so sometimes you need

00:23:40.480 a kick in the rear 0.98

00:23:41.140 just to learn these skills, 0.84

00:23:42.360 not to be terrified

00:23:43.240 of getting shot down.

00:23:45.700 And the final 20%?

00:23:46.900 dealing with women 0.99

00:23:51.840 who on the one hand

00:23:53.500 want to be scammed,

00:23:55.160 but on the other hand

00:23:56.380 think everybody's trying to scam them.

00:23:58.980 And so the only people

00:24:00.160 that can make it through the barrier

00:24:01.700 and actually talk to them

00:24:02.880 are the best scam artists.

00:24:05.280 It's absolutely ironic.

00:24:07.140 Again, low-trust society.

00:24:09.080 Nobody trusts the legitimate business,

00:24:11.580 but the really evil

00:24:13.280 multi-level marketing business,

00:24:15.160 they fall for that

00:24:16.600 at the drop of a hat.

00:24:19.920 And anybody writing

00:24:21.320 in the game genre

00:24:22.200 is completely straightforward

00:24:24.060 about this.

00:24:26.220 Is that,

00:24:27.220 is this good for society?

00:24:28.960 No.

00:24:30.080 No, this is terrible.

00:24:31.300 Are you going to get sick

00:24:32.160 of doing it?

00:24:32.940 Yes, because you're acting 0.99

00:24:33.860 like a bloody clown 1.00

00:24:34.780 to entertain these women. 1.00

00:24:36.380 And quite frankly,

00:24:37.440 the sorts of women 1.00

00:24:38.960 that you're getting into bed

00:24:40.620 on the first date

00:24:41.440 are not very good women.

00:24:44.040 You know,

00:24:45.220 but even,

00:24:46.060 even the decent women. 0.89

00:24:47.660 Low-trust society.

00:24:49.200 You need to be watching

00:24:50.520 your own six.

00:24:51.520 You can't be blind

00:24:52.440 about all of this.

00:24:53.940 And so here are the skills.

00:24:55.700 You decide what to do with it.

00:24:58.140 Pickup artist, meanwhile.

00:24:59.260 When he goes out picking up,

00:25:03.900 his mark is the woman.

00:25:05.640 He enables her

00:25:07.100 to do something wrong.

00:25:10.840 The mark when he's giving a lecture 0.99

00:25:14.580 are all the chumps 0.97

00:25:16.400 in the audience. 0.98

00:25:18.780 On a certain level,

00:25:20.620 the sort of guys

00:25:21.280 that go to one of these conferences,

00:25:22.600 on a certain level,

00:25:23.520 a lot of these guys

00:25:24.880 realize they could

00:25:25.700 improve their situation

00:25:27.700 with women

00:25:28.180 just by bettering themselves.

00:25:30.240 Working out,

00:25:30.980 reading more,

00:25:31.640 et cetera.

00:25:33.120 But they don't want to do that.

00:25:34.380 They want a magic trick.

00:25:36.120 They want something easy.

00:25:37.880 They want a shortcut.

00:25:40.300 And he knows perfectly well

00:25:41.880 that the lecture he's giving

00:25:42.760 is not going to turn

00:25:43.420 any of them into Casanovas. 0.92

00:25:45.560 But they'll feel

00:25:46.780 like they're a Casanova. 0.99

00:25:48.640 In all likelihood,

00:25:49.520 none of these guys

00:25:50.080 have ever approached a woman.

00:25:51.120 So if he gives them

00:25:51.740 a little magic pendant,

00:25:53.360 a little pickup line,

00:25:54.880 a little routine

00:25:55.640 to go talk to women, 1.00

00:25:57.060 they'll feel like Casanova

00:25:58.560 even though they really

00:25:59.860 haven't improved whatsoever.

00:26:07.020 The end of the day,

00:26:10.100 game,

00:26:11.920 sales skills,

00:26:14.080 interpersonal skills,

00:26:14.900 these are just tools.

00:26:17.680 And it all boils down

00:26:19.000 to what you're going

00:26:19.860 to do with it.

00:26:20.600 You know,

00:26:21.240 even NLP.

00:26:23.200 NLP is completely overstated.

00:26:24.540 It does work.

00:26:25.680 But only for about 20 minutes

00:26:27.080 if you have nothing

00:26:27.740 to back it up.

00:26:28.900 You can have somebody

00:26:29.700 going for 20 minutes,

00:26:30.680 maybe even a couple of hours

00:26:31.880 if you're really good.

00:26:33.600 And then they're going 1.00

00:26:34.260 to see through the bullshit. 1.00

00:26:37.320 Unless they don't want to. 1.00

00:26:39.920 Or unless it isn't bullshit. 0.99

00:26:42.200 do what you will 0.99

00:26:48.180 with these skills,

00:26:50.760 with this knowledge.

00:26:52.260 And just remember,

00:26:53.600 you can't con an honest man.

00:26:58.100 Anyway,

00:26:59.180 Irini out,

00:27:00.100 and

00:27:00.160 like, comment,

00:27:02.240 and subscribe.

00:27:02.700 .

00:27:19.860 .

00:27:24.220 Thank you.

Leo D.M.J. Aurini - April 11, 2015

PUAs, Con Artists, and the Dark Triad

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