Leo D.M.J. Aurini - April 11, 2015


PUAs, Con Artists, and the Dark Triad


Episode Stats

Length

27 minutes

Words per Minute

145.35898

Word Count

4,056

Sentence Count

325

Misogynist Sentences

33

Hate Speech Sentences

15


Summary

Con Artists and the Dark Triad: An explanation for why nice guys finish last, and chicks dig jerks. Why do women like guys with the dark triad? How do they do it? And why do they get all the money?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Thank you.
00:00:30.840 PUA's Con Artists and the Dark Triad.
00:00:35.440 Now this is a very complex and controversial subject.
00:00:40.920 It requires a very subtle touch to tease apart the different threads of it.
00:00:47.540 So to even get into this in the first place requires some background on what all these terms mean.
00:00:55.780 And we're going to start with the Dark Triad.
00:00:58.340 Now if you've never heard of it before, the Dark Triad is something that's often brought up in pickup artist and game circles.
00:01:07.140 Basically as an explanation for the conventional wisdom that nice guys finish last and chicks dig jerks.
00:01:15.620 But to talk about the term itself, we should consider where it came from.
00:01:20.200 It was a psychologist, J.M. MacDonald, who first coined it in a 1963 psychology paper, A Threat to Kill.
00:01:29.540 And in it, he was analyzing the behaviors and the paths of spree killers, of serial killers.
00:01:39.380 And the Dark Triad was also connected with such things as animal cruelty, fire starting, bedwetting.
00:01:45.420 And it specifically referred to three behavioral tropes that could predict future criminality in his eyes.
00:01:55.480 And those were Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy.
00:02:01.340 Now in modern times, with this completely deregulated sexual market that we have,
00:02:10.940 one of the observations that more and more guys have been making is that chicks dig jerks.
00:02:17.100 They dig the guys with the Dark Triad.
00:02:19.900 Those three evil traits.
00:02:22.960 Those are the ones getting all the women.
00:02:24.780 Now, if you went a hundred years ago and told somebody about this theory,
00:02:29.760 they'd agree with you, but everybody in society would say that these guys are scum.
00:02:34.940 You know, a real man takes care of his woman.
00:02:37.160 A real man is honest, has honor and integrity.
00:02:40.660 These days, nobody's enforcing any sorts of social norms.
00:02:45.020 And to interact with girls at all, you need to understand at least the basis of these traits.
00:02:52.760 Which is a very sad indictment of where our society is going.
00:02:59.500 But now as to why these traits work.
00:03:02.920 You know, many, I think, make the mistaken view that these traits work because women are just feral,
00:03:11.640 or they're just venal, and so they automatically go for evil people.
00:03:16.900 Because their evil babies will have more babies than the non-evil babies.
00:03:21.320 You know, it's a little bit of a reductio ad absurdum of evolutionary psychology, in my opinion.
00:03:28.700 But before we get to that part, before we really talk about why it is that girls go for guys that display the Dark Triad,
00:03:38.200 it's worth considering what con artistry is.
00:03:42.840 Now, con artistry, the important thing that you need to understand about con artistry is what the con stands for.
00:03:55.060 What a con man is.
00:03:57.000 He's a confidence man.
00:03:59.440 He's somebody that gets your confidence and uses that to steal your money.
00:04:04.760 You know, there's an old saying that you can't con an honest man.
00:04:10.960 You can defraud an honest man.
00:04:13.320 But conning him?
00:04:14.720 Much, much more difficult.
00:04:17.700 And to understand how all of this works, let's talk about your typical, kind of the basic, most basic con of all.
00:04:28.180 The Pigeon Drop.
00:04:30.040 Now, down below is a link to Michael Shermer of Skeptic Magazine, kind of doing a little video segment about how exactly this works,
00:04:38.420 showing you an example of it on the street.
00:04:40.340 But I'll describe it for you briefly.
00:04:42.900 Essentially, you have two con men and the mark.
00:04:47.400 The inside man, the outside man, and the mark.
00:04:50.620 Now, what happens to the inside man?
00:04:53.440 He goes up to the mark, which is just anybody walking down the street.
00:04:58.360 And he engages them in conversation.
00:05:00.580 You know, pretends to be a tourist.
00:05:01.700 Can you give me directions?
00:05:03.120 He wins their confidence over.
00:05:06.400 Then the outside man comes in.
00:05:08.540 Once they've established a rapport, the first two people,
00:05:11.900 he comes up and puts a wallet down behind the mark and says,
00:05:17.240 Hey, did one of you guys drop your wallet?
00:05:19.000 At which point, everybody is now confused.
00:05:23.000 They check, no, that's not my wallet.
00:05:24.940 You know, not mine either.
00:05:26.100 They pick it up, and there's a whole bunch of money in it.
00:05:31.200 Now they get into a conversation.
00:05:33.820 The inside man points out, you know, wow, that's $300, or that's $3,000.
00:05:40.100 That's $1,000 each.
00:05:43.560 He just lets it off hand like that.
00:05:46.720 You know, that's $1,000 each.
00:05:48.100 But we really should try and return it.
00:05:51.440 And he takes the money, puts it into an envelope, which he puts in his pocket.
00:05:56.860 Then he pulls another envelope out of his pocket, which is full of paper, cut to the same dimensions as the $100 bills in the wallet.
00:06:09.920 So it feels like the same thing, and of course it's sealed.
00:06:14.460 But now, this is where the trick comes in.
00:06:19.300 So the outside man says, you know what, I'll go into that building and try and return it.
00:06:24.800 I'll see if anybody in there lost the wallet.
00:06:27.260 But how do I know you guys aren't going to run off with the money?
00:06:31.220 And so the inside man hands the envelope with the fake money to the mark.
00:06:36.020 The mark thinks he has $3,000 in an envelope, and that everybody here is being honest, and we're all going to split the money if we can't find who the wallet belongs to.
00:06:44.260 And so the inside man volunteers to say, all right, well listen, I've got a couple hundred bucks in my wallet.
00:06:51.720 I'll give you a couple hundred bucks, he says to his cohort.
00:06:54.980 And then they convince the mark to also give the cohort a couple hundred bucks.
00:07:00.900 At which point the cohort, the outside man, disappears.
00:07:04.700 He's now gone.
00:07:06.100 After about five minutes of waiting, the inside man says to the mark, well listen, you'll wait here with the money, right?
00:07:14.300 Okay, because I'm just going to go check on that guy, he's been a while.
00:07:16.920 And that point, boom.
00:07:19.140 They got the money out of the mark, they've still got the $3,000 in the wallet they dropped,
00:07:23.980 they're out $10 for a leather wallet, and the mark eventually realizes that he got conned.
00:07:34.360 Now, there's one critical key to all of this that Shermer doesn't specify,
00:07:41.140 because they actually were using a real mark, and they probably didn't want to be insulting to the guy.
00:07:46.020 And the key is this.
00:07:47.380 A real con man?
00:07:51.120 They get their mark complicit in the crime.
00:07:58.060 See, look at that pigeon drop.
00:07:59.920 What happened there?
00:08:01.600 Is, these three people found a wallet with $3,000 in it.
00:08:05.400 And you don't know who this money belongs to.
00:08:07.640 That could be their first and last month's rent.
00:08:09.700 Maybe they're on their way to a new apartment.
00:08:11.300 It could be money they desperately need.
00:08:14.300 And here the three of them are talking about splitting it amongst themselves,
00:08:17.700 because this poor imaginary fellow dropped their wallet.
00:08:21.860 They get the mark complicit.
00:08:24.780 If you're going to be a con man, what you do is you get the mark complicit.
00:08:29.480 And then, best case scenario, once you scam them,
00:08:33.360 you know, if any of you watch Better Call Saul,
00:08:35.700 there was a bit with a fake Rolex where they were conning people.
00:08:38.640 You know, at that point, that mark thinks that,
00:08:43.320 well, he thinks he profited.
00:08:44.380 Then he gets away and he finds out he has a useless piece of junk.
00:08:47.700 He doesn't even know that he got conned.
00:08:50.080 He thinks it's just unfortunate that the watch that he stole is not worth very much.
00:08:56.300 He just, bad luck, lucked out.
00:08:58.240 Doesn't even know he got conned.
00:09:00.260 You know, in the pigeon drop, the mark might know that he got conned,
00:09:03.460 but now he's so embarrassed that he was planning to steal money from this stranger's wallet
00:09:09.440 that he doesn't want to go forward.
00:09:12.840 He's less likely to go forward,
00:09:14.800 or at the very least, he's going to think about it for a long bit.
00:09:18.420 He's now embarrassed because he knows he did something wrong.
00:09:22.560 So the true con man brings you into his con.
00:09:27.080 And the best way to avoid being conned is be an honest person.
00:09:32.900 Don't do anything immoral.
00:09:34.280 Don't steal.
00:09:35.760 Don't rationalize it and say it's okay to steal a watch from that guy because he's a jerk.
00:09:40.640 Or it's okay because we found the wallet and, you know, who wouldn't steal the money?
00:09:45.640 No, it's still theft.
00:09:46.640 So if you don't steal, you can't be conned.
00:09:52.960 Which begs the question, what does any of this have to do with sex?
00:09:58.400 What does any of this have to do with picking up women?
00:10:01.000 What does it have to do with game or pickup artists?
00:10:03.620 Well, here's the thing.
00:10:08.440 Deep down, we all know that sex is far too powerful.
00:10:15.220 Love, romance, baby making.
00:10:17.700 We all know deep down that these are our powerful forces that we're dealing with.
00:10:23.200 And they shouldn't be played with lightly.
00:10:25.800 We see this in all of our entertainment.
00:10:28.480 You know, horror movies are a great example where the, you know, the stereotype goes.
00:10:33.460 It's as soon as somebody has sex, that's when the killer gets to them.
00:10:36.640 That's because the horror movies, the killer is always some sort of metaphor for societal dangers at the time.
00:10:42.400 You have music.
00:10:48.940 Take the freshman by the verb pipe, which is all about the regrets over a casual relationship resulting in an abortion.
00:10:57.680 Or, um, water baby by the sneaker pimps.
00:11:02.060 You know, that line, uh, 40 days of one night stands.
00:11:04.840 Just this profound regret that we're treating sex like candy, like something so casual and flippant.
00:11:12.400 Now, you can certainly go the Anita Sarkeesian route and say that this is all just a social construct being forced upon people.
00:11:20.260 This is how we learn to be ashamed of sex.
00:11:22.080 Or you could look at the fact that this is universal to all cultures, pretty much.
00:11:30.040 Big exceptions being primitive Stone Age tribes.
00:11:33.820 The thing is, sex is powerful.
00:11:38.180 Sex is really important.
00:11:40.860 And yet, on a certain level, everybody, you know, saints and sinners alike, everybody wants to have casual sex.
00:11:50.680 We want to have threesomes.
00:11:52.200 We want to, you know, we want to rob, steal.
00:11:55.300 We want to murder people that make us angry.
00:11:58.060 You know, we're all tempted there.
00:12:00.080 And so, think of the con man again.
00:12:07.260 The way you manipulate the mark is you get him to, you get him to do something he knows is wrong.
00:12:15.800 You make him complicit in the crime.
00:12:19.060 And the exact same thing goes for pickup.
00:12:21.920 Women, no, deep down in their souls, they know that sex is about a little bit more than just an orgasm.
00:12:31.800 There's a little bit more going on there.
00:12:34.040 But at the same time, they are lustful.
00:12:36.640 You know, women aren't as direct and obvious as men.
00:12:38.980 But believe me, they are extremely lustful creatures.
00:12:42.560 And so, the way you sleep with a woman is you allow her to sin and say that it's okay.
00:12:52.040 It's like, don't worry, babe.
00:12:54.940 I won't tell anybody.
00:12:56.420 We're just having fun.
00:12:57.520 Your boyfriend won't even know about it.
00:13:00.280 You get them involved in the crime and tell them it's not actually a crime.
00:13:04.500 Oh, don't worry.
00:13:04.980 It's not actually a crime to steal from that guy's wallet.
00:13:07.240 You know, it's not actually a crime to cheat on your boyfriend with me.
00:13:12.720 You know, you rationalize it for them.
00:13:15.160 And as long as you act like a criminal, as long as you manifest these dark triad traits,
00:13:21.040 she might just go for it.
00:13:25.480 You are helping her fight against her better nature.
00:13:29.780 You know, this is, the word seduction literally means to lead astray.
00:13:34.340 Now, I think it's really worth thinking about feminism in light of all of this.
00:13:42.620 Because feminism is just really this whole ideology built upon self-delusion.
00:13:48.340 Feminism, it embraces the parts of the 1950s.
00:13:52.860 The 1950s was very condescending to women.
00:13:57.360 It treated them like children.
00:13:58.680 But it had all these misperceptions of what women were.
00:14:02.540 That women were virginal.
00:14:04.800 That they were snowflakes.
00:14:06.360 That they could do no wrong.
00:14:07.960 They didn't have all that evil in them like men did.
00:14:11.160 And see, feminism continues to believe in all of this.
00:14:14.620 You know, they continue to promote that women can do no wrong.
00:14:19.160 Women don't abuse their boyfriends or their children.
00:14:22.960 Women don't ever commit rape.
00:14:24.620 But she was just overcome with emotion.
00:14:30.080 Feminism is really all about rationalizing women's behavior.
00:14:35.880 And so because we have this feminist indoctrinated culture,
00:14:39.920 we have these women that they already have all the rationalizations in place already.
00:14:46.360 What, me?
00:14:46.980 Oh, I'm not lustful.
00:14:48.180 I'm not tempted to do things I shouldn't do.
00:14:51.580 That I know go against my best interests.
00:14:54.380 That I know are just hurting other people.
00:14:56.800 Oh, of course not.
00:14:57.940 It's just men that do all that stuff.
00:15:01.420 And so you can really see,
00:15:03.160 when you look at it that way,
00:15:05.400 this whole anti-sex feminism attitude,
00:15:08.520 this attitude, all men are rapists,
00:15:10.560 all men are this, that, the other thing,
00:15:12.200 this starts to make a little bit of sense.
00:15:15.620 Because these women have been so programmed to rationalize everything,
00:15:21.160 and then they go with the pickup artist or with the bad boy,
00:15:26.100 the guy that is just using the woman as a mark,
00:15:28.660 is just using her as a sexual outlet.
00:15:31.540 The true dark triad.
00:15:34.180 And she feels used afterwards.
00:15:37.820 Except she can't admit it to herself.
00:15:40.080 The same way the mark,
00:15:41.820 the mark in the Connors game does not want to admit that he got played.
00:15:46.160 It's embarrassing,
00:15:47.540 because ultimately if he'd done the right thing,
00:15:49.260 he never would have been played.
00:15:51.020 And the same thing with the woman.
00:15:54.140 When the woman gets played by the pickup artist,
00:15:56.960 she doesn't want to admit that it was her fault.
00:16:00.040 That she gave in to her lust,
00:16:01.720 and went after a guy that she knew from the very beginning was no good,
00:16:05.560 but that she needed to get her tingles satisfied.
00:16:08.960 Doesn't want to admit that.
00:16:10.700 So instead she blames all men.
00:16:12.320 All men are predatory.
00:16:14.300 All men are rapists.
00:16:16.460 And so, you know,
00:16:17.440 this sex which I had consensually,
00:16:19.660 which makes me feel miserable the same way the mark feels miserable,
00:16:23.360 well that was date rape or something like that.
00:16:26.240 That was some form of sexual assault.
00:16:28.300 Because I can't admit that I did something wrong.
00:16:31.720 So the dark triad,
00:16:36.320 the reason the dark triad is so effective nowadays,
00:16:39.640 is because women have been progressively trained to rationalize everything.
00:16:46.480 Fifty years ago they would make different sorts of excuses.
00:16:49.380 And, you know,
00:16:50.000 if you go 100 or 200 back,
00:16:51.380 I think people were a little bit more sane in general.
00:16:54.000 But there's always people that want to rationalize things.
00:16:56.800 That don't want to accept responsibility.
00:16:59.120 That don't want to be good people.
00:17:02.360 Because being a good person is hard,
00:17:03.920 even though it pays off in the long run.
00:17:05.460 These women want to make excuses.
00:17:09.960 And so, yes,
00:17:11.040 manifesting the dark triad will work very well
00:17:14.180 with women who are just out for a quick lay
00:17:18.440 and who are going to regret it and hate themselves afterwards.
00:17:21.980 Although, if you're really good,
00:17:23.500 if you're a good con artist,
00:17:25.300 they'll never know it was you.
00:17:26.980 They'll think it was all the other guys that are to blame.
00:17:29.300 But not you.
00:17:30.060 You're the one warm memory from their childhood.
00:17:33.800 Same way,
00:17:34.460 a mark that's truly played
00:17:36.160 is going to think the con artists were some of his best friends.
00:17:39.140 And it's just bad luck
00:17:40.960 that he's the one that wound up in prison.
00:17:46.160 Now, all of that said,
00:17:48.360 there is a huge difference
00:17:52.040 between pickup artistry and game
00:17:55.020 that cannot be emphasized enough.
00:17:58.380 Because there's a lot of similarities.
00:18:00.660 There's a lot of the methodologies.
00:18:03.720 A lot of the terms are very, very similar.
00:18:06.420 But, see, one is the actual con artists
00:18:12.240 conning all of their students.
00:18:14.560 The other is an accurate assessment
00:18:17.080 of what it's like to live in a very low-trust society.
00:18:21.880 Let's consider the movie Wolf of Wall Street.
00:18:24.980 Move away from the sexual market for a bit
00:18:27.020 and look at the financial market.
00:18:29.160 Now, Wolf of Wall Street,
00:18:30.360 the story of Jordan Belfort,
00:18:33.000 is essentially how certain deregulation
00:18:36.400 and a number of factors in the 80s
00:18:41.300 led to a market
00:18:43.220 where it was easier to make money as a scam artist
00:18:46.760 than as a legitimate broker.
00:18:50.000 And we're still suffering these effects nowadays.
00:18:52.060 In fact, one of the few growth industries right now
00:18:54.720 is multi-level marketing schemes, sadly.
00:18:57.500 And what Belfort was doing
00:18:59.020 was essentially very similar
00:19:02.180 to a multi-level marketing scheme.
00:19:04.960 Destructive, selfish, not a true enterprise,
00:19:08.080 in an era where true enterprise gets punished.
00:19:13.600 Now, the movie ends off
00:19:15.160 with Belfort.
00:19:17.460 After he's, you know,
00:19:18.620 defrauded so many people out of money,
00:19:22.000 it winds up with him now giving lectures
00:19:25.120 on how to be an entrepreneur.
00:19:26.480 And early in the movie,
00:19:29.040 he asked somebody, you know,
00:19:30.380 sell me this pen.
00:19:31.760 He asked one of his buddies,
00:19:32.680 sell me this pen.
00:19:33.820 And the guy said,
00:19:35.120 listen, I'll give you a check for $1,000.
00:19:36.900 You just need to sign it.
00:19:37.720 Do you have a pen?
00:19:38.320 No?
00:19:38.740 Well, here's a pen.
00:19:39.480 Buy it from me.
00:19:41.000 You know, you need it.
00:19:42.480 Look, you see this pen?
00:19:43.580 You need it.
00:19:44.300 Then he goes to the conference,
00:19:47.300 his big speaking engagement.
00:19:49.760 He goes to the guys in the audience
00:19:51.200 and says,
00:19:51.640 can you sell me this pen?
00:19:52.680 And they're like,
00:19:53.020 well, it's a really nice pen.
00:19:56.300 None of them get it.
00:19:57.780 None of them are going to get it.
00:19:58.780 And he knows that perfectly well.
00:20:00.800 He's charging these people
00:20:01.820 $50, $100 to come see him speak
00:20:04.740 about being an entrepreneur
00:20:05.800 and a scam artist.
00:20:07.420 None of these people
00:20:08.540 are actually going to learn.
00:20:11.520 And see, that's the PUA methodology.
00:20:14.300 You know, they have a few
00:20:15.300 good tricks in their belt.
00:20:17.680 They have a few one-liners.
00:20:19.080 They have a few routines
00:20:20.380 and stories that they can teach you.
00:20:22.280 And if you go out
00:20:22.940 and try one of these routines,
00:20:24.000 yeah, sure, it's going to work.
00:20:25.680 But unless you really embrace
00:20:27.780 the dark triad of pickup artistry,
00:20:30.400 you're not going to succeed.
00:20:33.020 You know, you might scam
00:20:34.040 one person out of money,
00:20:35.460 but then the second person
00:20:36.680 he's going to report,
00:20:37.500 yeah, you'll be out of business.
00:20:38.880 You're not really going to get anywhere.
00:20:40.940 To be a scam artist like Belfort,
00:20:42.560 you need to embrace
00:20:44.040 the dark triad.
00:20:45.220 You need to understand
00:20:45.900 the psychology behind all of it.
00:20:48.200 And see, the pickup artist
00:20:49.020 is not teaching that psychology.
00:20:54.420 Now, in contrast to Belfort,
00:20:57.720 imagine a network of people.
00:21:01.660 And they're not trying to sell you
00:21:03.120 $1,000 boot camps.
00:21:05.260 At most, they're trying to sell you
00:21:06.620 a book for $10.
00:21:08.020 And in fact, most of what they do
00:21:09.300 is for free.
00:21:09.880 And they give you all of these explanations
00:21:12.320 about, listen,
00:21:13.840 the economy's broken right now.
00:21:15.820 There's no production happening
00:21:17.440 in this country.
00:21:18.520 If you invest on all the standard paths,
00:21:22.640 if you try and put your money
00:21:24.040 into these companies
00:21:24.780 where the profits,
00:21:27.400 the price to dividends ratio
00:21:29.180 is completely skewed beyond belief,
00:21:31.980 you are going to lose money eventually.
00:21:34.260 You know, there is no money
00:21:35.940 to be made there.
00:21:36.780 You've got to zig one other zag.
00:21:39.020 And the only things
00:21:40.460 that make any money whatsoever
00:21:42.240 are all of questionable morality.
00:21:45.320 And I wish we had a system
00:21:46.820 where that wasn't the case.
00:21:48.740 But I'm not going to go down
00:21:50.200 with the sinking ship
00:21:51.180 throwing my money
00:21:52.420 after a dead cause.
00:21:53.840 So if you want to make a bit of money,
00:21:55.960 here's how you do it.
00:21:59.120 That would be game.
00:22:00.100 You read one of Roush's books,
00:22:05.620 for example.
00:22:07.860 About 50% of what Roush writes about
00:22:11.060 is self-improvement.
00:22:13.920 And this is the very basics.
00:22:15.920 You know, if you want to be
00:22:17.040 interesting to women,
00:22:18.600 yeah, sure,
00:22:19.280 you could put on a feather boa
00:22:20.320 like a mystery.
00:22:21.420 And you could pretend
00:22:22.060 to be somebody you're not.
00:22:23.440 But, you know,
00:22:23.940 how much better to actually go
00:22:25.380 do interesting things
00:22:26.900 with your life?
00:22:27.400 Go rock climbing,
00:22:28.420 learn ballroom dancing,
00:22:29.600 drive a race car,
00:22:31.860 whatever.
00:22:33.000 Read books.
00:22:34.260 It doesn't matter.
00:22:34.740 Be an interesting,
00:22:36.120 accomplished man.
00:22:37.940 Don't just pretend to be one,
00:22:39.080 but actually be one.
00:22:40.340 You know, it's kind of like the
00:22:41.120 it's worth doing
00:22:42.880 for its own sake
00:22:43.860 and it will help you with women.
00:22:46.020 You know, another 30% of his book
00:22:47.560 is just basic charisma.
00:22:50.220 How to speak to people.
00:22:52.060 You know, in Daybang,
00:22:54.540 he actually based upon
00:22:55.540 how lonely senior citizens
00:22:58.040 would approach him
00:22:59.260 in coffee shops
00:23:00.160 because he realized
00:23:01.460 these are people that
00:23:02.420 they're just,
00:23:03.340 they don't have anything else to do.
00:23:04.600 They feel like talking to a stranger,
00:23:06.060 just having a pleasant conversation.
00:23:08.440 And he started watching
00:23:09.300 the techniques that worked for them.
00:23:11.320 You know, what were they doing?
00:23:12.340 Because these guys were experts
00:23:13.580 at talking to strangers
00:23:14.840 that don't want to talk to them.
00:23:16.960 Yeah, and again,
00:23:17.980 a hundred years ago,
00:23:19.360 you still needed these skills.
00:23:22.580 All right, these are skills that,
00:23:23.860 again, with this feminist education
00:23:25.760 and all the teachers slapping boys
00:23:27.740 on the penis with the ruler,
00:23:29.380 men are very lacking
00:23:31.160 in the assertiveness,
00:23:32.480 the natural, healthy sort of aggression
00:23:35.720 of virtue that comes with masculinity.
00:23:39.420 And so sometimes you need
00:23:40.480 a kick in the rear
00:23:41.140 just to learn these skills,
00:23:42.360 not to be terrified
00:23:43.240 of getting shot down.
00:23:45.700 And the final 20%?
00:23:46.900 dealing with women
00:23:51.840 who on the one hand
00:23:53.500 want to be scammed,
00:23:55.160 but on the other hand
00:23:56.380 think everybody's trying to scam them.
00:23:58.980 And so the only people
00:24:00.160 that can make it through the barrier
00:24:01.700 and actually talk to them
00:24:02.880 are the best scam artists.
00:24:05.280 It's absolutely ironic.
00:24:07.140 Again, low-trust society.
00:24:09.080 Nobody trusts the legitimate business,
00:24:11.580 but the really evil
00:24:13.280 multi-level marketing business,
00:24:15.160 they fall for that
00:24:16.600 at the drop of a hat.
00:24:19.920 And anybody writing
00:24:21.320 in the game genre
00:24:22.200 is completely straightforward
00:24:24.060 about this.
00:24:26.220 Is that,
00:24:27.220 is this good for society?
00:24:28.960 No.
00:24:30.080 No, this is terrible.
00:24:31.300 Are you going to get sick
00:24:32.160 of doing it?
00:24:32.940 Yes, because you're acting
00:24:33.860 like a bloody clown
00:24:34.780 to entertain these women.
00:24:36.380 And quite frankly,
00:24:37.440 the sorts of women
00:24:38.960 that you're getting into bed
00:24:40.620 on the first date
00:24:41.440 are not very good women.
00:24:44.040 You know,
00:24:45.220 but even,
00:24:46.060 even the decent women.
00:24:47.660 Low-trust society.
00:24:49.200 You need to be watching
00:24:50.520 your own six.
00:24:51.520 You can't be blind
00:24:52.440 about all of this.
00:24:53.940 And so here are the skills.
00:24:55.700 You decide what to do with it.
00:24:58.140 Pickup artist, meanwhile.
00:24:59.260 When he goes out picking up,
00:25:03.900 his mark is the woman.
00:25:05.640 He enables her
00:25:07.100 to do something wrong.
00:25:10.840 The mark when he's giving a lecture
00:25:14.580 are all the chumps
00:25:16.400 in the audience.
00:25:18.780 On a certain level,
00:25:20.620 the sort of guys
00:25:21.280 that go to one of these conferences,
00:25:22.600 on a certain level,
00:25:23.520 a lot of these guys
00:25:24.880 realize they could
00:25:25.700 improve their situation
00:25:27.700 with women
00:25:28.180 just by bettering themselves.
00:25:30.240 Working out,
00:25:30.980 reading more,
00:25:31.640 et cetera.
00:25:33.120 But they don't want to do that.
00:25:34.380 They want a magic trick.
00:25:36.120 They want something easy.
00:25:37.880 They want a shortcut.
00:25:40.300 And he knows perfectly well
00:25:41.880 that the lecture he's giving
00:25:42.760 is not going to turn
00:25:43.420 any of them into Casanovas.
00:25:45.560 But they'll feel
00:25:46.780 like they're a Casanova.
00:25:48.640 In all likelihood,
00:25:49.520 none of these guys
00:25:50.080 have ever approached a woman.
00:25:51.120 So if he gives them
00:25:51.740 a little magic pendant,
00:25:53.360 a little pickup line,
00:25:54.880 a little routine
00:25:55.640 to go talk to women,
00:25:57.060 they'll feel like Casanova
00:25:58.560 even though they really
00:25:59.860 haven't improved whatsoever.
00:26:07.020 The end of the day,
00:26:10.100 game,
00:26:11.920 sales skills,
00:26:14.080 interpersonal skills,
00:26:14.900 these are just tools.
00:26:17.680 And it all boils down
00:26:19.000 to what you're going
00:26:19.860 to do with it.
00:26:20.600 You know,
00:26:21.240 even NLP.
00:26:23.200 NLP is completely overstated.
00:26:24.540 It does work.
00:26:25.680 But only for about 20 minutes
00:26:27.080 if you have nothing
00:26:27.740 to back it up.
00:26:28.900 You can have somebody
00:26:29.700 going for 20 minutes,
00:26:30.680 maybe even a couple of hours
00:26:31.880 if you're really good.
00:26:33.600 And then they're going
00:26:34.260 to see through the bullshit.
00:26:37.320 Unless they don't want to.
00:26:39.920 Or unless it isn't bullshit.
00:26:42.200 do what you will
00:26:48.180 with these skills,
00:26:50.760 with this knowledge.
00:26:52.260 And just remember,
00:26:53.600 you can't con an honest man.
00:26:58.100 Anyway,
00:26:59.180 Irini out,
00:27:00.100 and
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