Leo D.M.J. Aurini - The Female Sociosexual Hierarchy [Requested Video]

00:00:00.000 The female socio-sexual hierarchy.

00:00:06.000 Do women have a hierarchy corresponding to men's? 1.00

00:00:10.240 Now this is a requested video, which comes from a young lady who I can only presume is 0.97

00:00:15.620 very good looking, who will remain anonymous.

00:00:18.440 And the short answer to her question is, no, men are the hierarchical sex, whereas women

00:00:25.240 are the egalitarian sex, hunters and gatherers, et cetera, et cetera.

00:00:29.240 But we're not going to stop there.

00:00:30.700 We're actually going to dive into this, because this really is one of those yin-yang questions.

00:00:37.420 You know, we're going to be discussing the yin, ultimately, the hidden shadow world of 0.98

00:00:43.700 female socio-sexual politics. 1.00

00:00:46.820 And it's all dark, it's all hidden, it's all behind the scenes, as opposed to the more obvious

00:00:52.500 yang of masculine hierarchical nature. 0.98

00:00:56.840 So we're going to start with the yang, but we will be getting to the yin before the video's

00:01:01.680 over.

00:01:02.520 So again, the short answer is that the female hierarchy is a reflection of the male hierarchy, 0.77

00:01:09.020 that the woman at the top of the pecking order is merely the woman that's dating the man at

00:01:16.160 the top of the pecking order.

00:01:17.360 And as for the male hierarchy, the common metaphor that we use is the high school, where you've

00:01:24.580 got the football team, the jocks are the alpha males, you know, with the top jock being the

00:01:30.540 top alpha, and then you get the beta males, and then you get the kind of the geeks and

00:01:35.340 so on and so forth, all the way down to the gammas and the omegas.

00:01:38.400 Now, I'd just like to observe quickly that this is a very degenerate socio-sexual hierarchy,

00:01:46.140 isn't it?

00:01:46.820 I don't mean degenerate as in that's bad, I mean degenerate as in the high school environment

00:01:54.180 is very much degenerated from the more complex organic relationships that a healthy human

00:02:02.200 civilization has.

00:02:03.540 It's almost antiseptic, all of these teenagers being expected to form their own society without

00:02:11.220 any adults or any other influence beyond the basic rules that they're all supposed to follow.

00:02:17.940 So yes, it's very degenerate, it's too extreme, it's mostly been used as an attempt by men to

00:02:25.560 boot that, bootstrap themselves into becoming better men, but I just need to point that out.

00:02:30.700 But again, the high school environment is very weird, it's very antiseptic, and it's very

00:02:36.560 degenerate.

00:02:38.340 High school should not be the aspirations of our lives.

00:02:42.660 But nonetheless, if we're going to consider the women in high school, well, the alpha and 0.88

00:02:47.640 beta women, they're competing amongst one another for the jocks, okay? 1.00

00:02:52.720 The alpha and beta jocks have alpha and beta women competing for them. 1.00

00:02:56.780 The omega women, they reflect the omega males. 0.99

00:03:01.760 That's the sex criminal degenerate. 1.00

00:03:05.080 So the omega women become prostitutes and porn stars. 1.00

00:03:09.660 The gamma women, meanwhile, they become SJWs and feminists, and they surround themselves with 1.00

00:03:15.560 other gamma males.

00:03:17.500 Now, a brief aside, I will note that with both the omega and the gamma women, you'll see a 1.00

00:03:22.840 little bit of a role reversal, won't you?

00:03:25.320 You know, whereas the porn starlet just has these sycophantic crowds of men that worship

00:03:31.120 her, and so does the gamma SJW woman, who has all these David Fruittrells that are just 1.00

00:03:38.180 desperately sucking up to her.

00:03:41.060 It's a little bit of RK theory there. 0.98

00:03:43.120 Where the K women compete for the alpha and beta males, but they're very feminine, whereas 1.00

00:03:48.080 the women that compete for the omega and gammas take on somewhat masculine traits. 1.00

00:03:55.800 So that's it.

00:03:56.840 The women in high school, in this whole sociosexual hierarchy, largely compete to be recognized 1.00

00:04:02.180 by the men.

00:04:04.340 And the men, meanwhile, the women are proof of their accomplishment on the male hierarchy. 0.99

00:04:11.380 And you know, there's some evidence in this, for this, in the narratives that we have as

00:04:17.900 a society.

00:04:19.000 I'm thinking specifically of Rescue the Princess and Betty vs. Veronica.

00:04:25.020 Now, Rescue the Princess.

00:04:26.840 I'm sure you've all heard the feminists get very angry about this one before, where Princess 1.00

00:04:31.520 Peach, she's just an object for Mario to rescue when he defeats Bowser.

00:04:36.120 And it is a very juvenile narrative.

00:04:38.460 But what, unfortunately, none of these so-called feminist critics seem to realize is that it's 1.00

00:04:43.800 only the first quarter of the hero's journey.

00:04:47.080 See, Rescue the Princess. 0.93

00:04:48.680 It's not actually about Princess Tolstool that's being kept captive by some sort of lizard-dragon

00:04:55.140 dinosaur thing.

00:04:57.180 Rescue the Princess is a young man seeing a woman he wants dating a guy who's older than 0.96

00:05:03.560 him and more badass than him.

00:05:05.640 And it's Luke Skywalker being jealous of Han Solo when Leia is attracted to Han Solo.

00:05:13.280 Okay?

00:05:13.640 And so the young guy imagines that the boyfriend of this girl, and the boyfriend, he's just,

00:05:20.500 he's assertive.

00:05:21.200 He's seasoned.

00:05:21.940 He's a bit rugged.

00:05:23.460 But he's not abusive.

00:05:24.720 But the young man imagines that this guy is abusive.

00:05:27.740 And so he puts all this energy into defeating what he perceives to be evil.

00:05:31.880 That's the first quarter of the hero's journey, and it's where Mario comes to an end.

00:05:37.580 If you actually carry on with that hero's journey, what happens is that the young male

00:05:42.800 hero eventually realizes that the bad guy is not his enemy, and that the princess, he

00:05:50.320 had an unrealistic view of her, and she was never the reason he was doing this.

00:05:53.800 That he was pursuing an adventurous path of masculine self-improvement.

00:05:58.680 And at the end, he doesn't even need the princess anymore.

00:06:02.780 Betty vs. Veronica is the similarly juvenile female reflection of Rescue the Princess.

00:06:10.920 Betty vs. Veronica is all about how Betty is a nice, down-to-earth girl next door, and 0.77

00:06:18.080 the guy that she wants is attracted to Veronica, who is mean and bitchy, and has lots of wealth, 1.00

00:06:24.900 has unfair advantages, and she's one of the cool, mean girls, and Betty has to woo Archie 1.00

00:06:31.740 away from Veronica through her virtue and chastity.

00:06:37.080 Okay?

00:06:37.400 These two plots, Rescue the Princess and Betty vs. Veronica, these are hackneyed scripts that

00:06:41.600 go into every single cheesy action movie and lame rom-com.

00:06:47.480 Because, of course, people writing these things are some of the most juvenile and broken people

00:06:51.280 on the planet.

00:06:51.800 The actual story of Betty vs. Veronica, if you go past the first quarter, which most

00:06:57.880 stories don't, is Betty and Veronica either realizing that they're both the same type of 0.53

00:07:05.180 people at the end of the day, and that they're each going to be attracted to their own sorts

00:07:10.260 of men, or you go in a little bit of a Pride and Prejudice direction, where Betty realizes 1.00

00:07:16.240 that the fact that Archie is attracted to Veronica, and that Veronica's a nasty piece of work,

00:07:23.640 means that Betty never really was attracted to Archie in the first place, that she wants

00:07:27.560 a man that's better than that, you know, that's different than that.

00:07:31.840 She doesn't want, like, Veronica with her fast and loose ways can go have a fast and loose 1.00

00:07:36.720 man.

00:07:37.380 Betty wants something better. 0.95

00:07:38.860 Again, not covered by most rom-coms.

00:07:41.920 Most of them stop at Betty winning Archie over.

00:07:46.560 So yes, these are the patterns that we see.

00:07:49.720 That men prove themselves to be alpha to earn a hot woman, and women compete amongst themselves 0.95

00:07:56.960 to get the top guy.

00:07:58.580 These are the juvenile, degraded, antiseptic narratives from high school.

00:08:03.620 They are an oversimplification, but they are, it's reflected, isn't it, in some of the metaphors

00:08:10.440 that we use in the manosphere trying to reinvent the wheel, rediscover traditional relationship

00:08:17.840 wisdom.

00:08:18.800 There have been two metaphors that have really, that are very effective for describing a healthy

00:08:24.040 marriage between a man and a woman.

00:08:25.780 The first, I think it comes from C.S. Lewis, who said that in a marriage, the man, it's

00:08:32.320 like the foreign policy.

00:08:34.180 The man's the one that goes out into the world and handles business, handles politics, handles

00:08:39.540 all those sorts of things, whereas women are like a country's domestic policy, okay? 1.00

00:08:45.880 The woman keeps the house running, keeps it organized, makes sure the children are doing 1.00

00:08:50.340 okay, and et cetera.

00:08:52.500 And so when you think about nations, if you ask, you know, what's the most powerful nation

00:08:57.780 in the world, you look at their foreign policy elements, typically speaking, when you're

00:09:02.820 considering geopolitics.

00:09:04.500 It's not until very effeminate ages such as our own that men will obsess over which country

00:09:10.380 has the best healthcare system and try and rank countries by that.

00:09:14.340 It's a testament to how weak and effeminate men are now, but that's how we've been ranking

00:09:20.520 things.

00:09:20.880 Typically, you think the most powerful nation in the world, you think like a civilization,

00:09:25.980 Sid Meier's civilization score.

00:09:28.820 And yet those women, or those women, those nations with that good foreign policy also 0.93

00:09:34.440 tend to have very good domestic policy.

00:09:37.320 They have a very educated populace.

00:09:39.160 They have a populace that is stable, that is financially successful, so on and so forth.

00:09:44.520 So you don't measure a country by its domestic policy, but a good domestic policy tends to

00:09:50.440 create a good country.

00:09:52.780 The other metaphor, which was popularized, I believe, by Dallrock, I think he's the one

00:09:59.160 that came up with it, was the captain and first officer model.

00:10:03.240 And I really like this one, because the captain and first officer need one another.

00:10:07.220 The captain is always looking at how to deal with, you know, the foreign policy again.

00:10:12.360 Captain says, you know, this is where the ship's going to go, this is how we're going to negotiate

00:10:16.460 with these aliens, et cetera.

00:10:19.240 You know, Captain Picard.

00:10:20.120 But, whereas Riker is in charge of the crew, you know, making sure the ships are operating

00:10:24.820 correctly, making sure that the ship is up to snuff, that it can do what it needs to

00:10:29.460 do.

00:10:30.020 And he will advise the captain, saying, you know what, we need to give the crew some

00:10:33.980 downtime.

00:10:34.640 They've been going for, you know, eight weeks straight.

00:10:38.340 Captain and first officer.

00:10:39.820 So when you say, which is the best ship in the Galactic Federation, and you can have debate

00:10:45.960 whether it's the Defiant or the Enterprise, they're both very good ships.

00:10:49.440 But you have that explicit ranking.

00:10:53.400 The best ship in the Federation, it's not because Riker is the first officer that's the

00:10:57.760 best ship in the Federation.

00:11:00.120 And yet, and yet, you know what, this is the perfect, perfect time to flip it all in its

00:11:04.660 head, to enter the dangerous world of the yin, of the female world, the female cooperative 1.00

00:11:13.000 competition.

00:11:14.060 Because the Enterprise, it's not Riker that makes it the best ship in the fleet, okay?

00:11:20.340 It is Captain Picard that makes it the best ship in the fleet.

00:11:24.120 And yet, Riker wouldn't be on that ship as the first officer if he weren't the best first

00:11:29.780 officer in the fleet.

00:11:31.980 And so where does the first officer come from?

00:11:34.820 What sort of environment does he come out of?

00:11:37.120 And he comes out of an environment of cooperative competition.

00:11:42.500 See, the reason I hesitate to use the term alpha woman is because alpha woman, it makes 0.97

00:11:49.220 you think of those women trying to run corporations, mostly running them into the ground, who want 1.00

00:11:55.600 to ban words like bossy.

00:11:56.880 Imagine if you had a first officer like that, who is always trying to subvert the captain,

00:12:04.300 who is always mouthing off in front of visiting dignitaries, who is always showing that he's

00:12:10.700 a good captain too.

00:12:12.420 You wind up with an absolute joke.

00:12:14.000 You wind up with an absolutely terrible first officer.

00:12:16.900 And no captain worth his salt is going to have that sort of person as their first officer.

00:12:23.280 So I hesitate to use the word alpha woman, because it doesn't include all that cooperative

00:12:29.400 competition that women engage in. 1.00

00:12:32.580 Because yes, women do engage in the same sort of competition, but they do it largely through 1.00

00:12:38.240 helping one another, without the obvious hierarchy.

00:12:41.660 And so if you imagine Will Riker before he became the first officer of the Enterprise, if

00:12:47.500 you imagine him before that, he was working to get the best out of all of his cohort.

00:12:52.200 All of his cohort were all working to be the best that they could be, and helping one another.

00:12:58.800 And there are own ways men do this too, except it's more explicit, the hierarchy.

00:13:04.720 So this really gets to the core of the video.

00:13:08.400 The implicit question, I think, in this video, was how do you become a woman that will attract

00:13:18.540 an alpha type of a man?

00:13:22.180 You know, men certainly talk, how do I become alpha so I can get a good-looking woman? 1.00

00:13:26.040 How do you become a woman that that good-looking, successful, interesting guy would want to have 1.00

00:13:32.640 around?

00:13:34.100 Well, four points on this.

00:13:36.580 Number one, become beautiful.

00:13:39.140 Now notice I said become there.

00:13:40.380 You know, to a certain extent, yes, you're born with the looks that you're born with.

00:13:46.380 You know, I might want a full head of hair, but that's not in the cards for me.

00:13:50.260 And yet, I will tell you, honestly, with most people, the vast majority of people, I think 0.92

00:13:57.500 they're a lot uglier than they need to be. 0.94

00:14:00.160 Just the way they carry themselves, the way they destroy their body through a toxic diet, 0.99

00:14:07.340 the way they have so little self-respect, they put no effort into themselves whatsoever.

00:14:13.660 A great deal of ugliness is a reflection of what's in the inside.

00:14:19.440 And when it comes to women, especially women in their teens and 20s, they're almost all beautiful.

00:14:26.660 Okay, if you're a young lady and you're looking in the mirror, you're seeing flaws.

00:14:30.040 Believe me, guys, don't see that.

00:14:31.700 I mean, nowadays, it's a little bit different with the self-mutilation going on.

00:14:36.560 But becoming beautiful, actually taking care of your appearance, you know, wearing clothes

00:14:42.580 that fit, nothing crazy, just the basics, and carrying yourself, carrying yourself in

00:14:49.340 a graceful manner, this is eminently possible for all women.

00:14:54.260 So that's step one, is become beautiful.

00:14:57.280 Number two, number two thing you need to do if you want to attract a good-looking, charismatic,

00:15:03.380 honest, interesting man, is get your life sorted away.

00:15:07.740 You know, nobody wants to be with somebody whose life is a constant mess, a constant train wreck,

00:15:14.620 somebody whose apartment is disgusting, somebody who can't keep track of their schedule, 0.85

00:15:19.560 somebody that always needs to be rescued because there's something breaking down.

00:15:24.240 Two is just get a grip on your life.

00:15:25.820 Get yourself sorted away.

00:15:28.240 Get yourself organized.

00:15:29.980 Step three, stop gossiping.

00:15:32.160 Now, I recently, over on a Return of Kings article, I defended Donald Trump saying some rather

00:15:39.000 crude things.

00:15:39.880 I defended it as locker room talk.

00:15:42.080 And the fact of the matter is that, you know what?

00:15:44.360 Men do engage in locker room talk.

00:15:46.360 And in this age of incredible effeminacy and weakness, having a guy that has a slight overabundance

00:15:53.580 or even a childlike abundance of masculine virility, that's a step in the right direction.

00:16:01.040 But that said, I don't engage in locker room talk.

00:16:04.420 My friends don't engage in locker room talk.

00:16:07.120 Usually.

00:16:10.580 Certainly not with women that they care about or respect. 1.00

00:16:16.460 Locker room talk, it is.

00:16:18.320 It is unattractive in a man.

00:16:20.080 And it is juvenile.

00:16:21.920 And a man who is properly developed, who is properly fermented into masculinity, should not 0.99

00:16:28.040 be doing that anymore.

00:16:29.460 The same goes for women with gossip. 1.00

00:16:31.880 You know, a woman's gossip is no different than locker room talk. 1.00

00:16:37.220 And so the same way that women like the strong, silent type, they like the man that's taciturn, 0.90

00:16:42.320 that doesn't say too much, men like that will appreciate a woman who doesn't gossip needlessly.

00:16:50.140 And the fourth and final point is make yourself useful.

00:16:54.160 Have some skills.

00:16:55.700 Whether it be cooking or first aid, no man wants a... 0.53

00:17:01.880 A fainting daisy.

00:17:03.780 A shy violet that is just constantly needing help to do everything.

00:17:08.860 Make yourself useful, not just in, you know, knowing first aid, knowing how to deal with

00:17:14.380 things, how to handle an emergency, but make yourself useful day to day, in your community,

00:17:20.520 in your family.

00:17:21.620 Be a useful person.

00:17:24.500 You do all of this.

00:17:26.140 You know, make yourself beautiful.

00:17:28.240 Just take care of yourself.

00:17:29.300 Have some self-respect that shows, that shines through in how you dress.

00:17:34.660 Because remember, you can dress, you can wear whatever you want.

00:17:38.220 So why are you wearing what you're currently wearing?

00:17:42.060 Make yourself beautiful.

00:17:43.720 Get your life sorted away.

00:17:45.540 Have control over yourself.

00:17:47.360 Don't gossip.

00:17:47.960 Don't engage in nasty, female, that horrid, horrid laughter that you get from these bachelorette 1.00

00:17:55.420 parties. 1.00

00:17:56.180 Just absolutely disgusting and repulsive. 0.99

00:17:59.040 And make yourself useful day to day. 0.98

00:18:02.660 Now, I'd like to finish off with some thoughts about the antiseptic nature of our society and

00:18:10.560 what an organic society might look like.

00:18:13.460 One of the difficulties we have with this cheesy, oversimplistic high school model.

00:18:19.640 And now, this isn't a problem with the model per se.

00:18:22.180 This is a problem with our society.

00:18:24.060 Even the people that scream loudest about it.

00:18:26.820 You know, the feminists that complain about dude bros and so forth. 1.00

00:18:30.000 They're as much a part of this as well.

00:18:31.660 They just don't like the conclusions.

00:18:34.300 The problem with this antiseptic model, the problem with the high school model, is that

00:18:39.220 the coolest guy in high school is going to be the guy whose dad buys him a sports car.

00:18:46.800 You see, he's not the coolest guy because he's earned his position or because he's shown

00:18:50.760 responsibility.

00:18:51.900 It is a completely surface phenomenon.

00:18:55.740 And our society as a whole is very much the surface phenomenon.

00:19:00.420 And so, when it comes to, you know, quote-unquote alpha guys, a lot of the alpha guys are actually

00:19:07.540 omega guys, the traveling salesmen, the scam artists. 0.96

00:19:12.900 You know, a lot of the rich people in today's world are nothing but flim-flam men.

00:19:19.040 You know, they're here today, gone tomorrow.

00:19:21.060 Just like the traveling salesmen, I love you today and then I'm gone tomorrow.

00:19:24.180 Same thing with a lot of the rich that we have, a lot of the wealthy.

00:19:27.440 Here today, gone tomorrow.

00:19:28.680 Nothing but a scam artist. 0.54

00:19:30.420 And it's just as true for the women. 1.00

00:19:32.540 Look at the women that were rising up. 1.00

00:19:33.820 These are the omega women.

00:19:35.840 You know, the Britney Spears, the, you know, Kim Kardashians.

00:19:40.300 These are the omega women that are being raised up. 0.98

00:19:43.800 And they are the sexiest. 0.99

00:19:45.960 You know, their butt breaks the internet. 0.98

00:19:48.480 But they've got no depth. 0.98

00:19:49.760 They've got no material.

00:19:51.620 Because, again, this is antiseptic.

00:19:53.040 This is unnatural.

00:19:53.780 The organic way of things is not going to be quite as flashy, quite as much fun as all of this.

00:20:02.520 An actual alpha man is not going to be dropping mics on the stage. 0.97

00:20:08.060 That's not what an alpha man does.

00:20:09.380 That's what an omega does.

00:20:11.100 And the equivalent female, who I still don't want to call alpha female, because then she might start banning bossy. 1.00

00:20:17.940 The alpha female, the equivalent female, she is not going to be shooting champagne up into an arc onto her half-clothed butt. 1.00

00:20:28.080 So I think one of the big challenges for men and women is to move away from these plastic, cheap, antiseptic, omega versions that are constantly being sold to us. 0.93

00:20:41.040 And at the same time, not go to the other extreme and the whole gamma, self-righteous, gender war, whatever.

00:20:47.960 The challenge is to become the best sort of individuals that we can become, the best versions of ourselves, and then to understand what sort of person we would want to share ourselves with.

00:21:01.780 That the guy that tends to be the one driving the brand new, coolest car, the guy that looks the best, probably isn't the best.

00:21:10.360 And the woman that garners the most attention, when you get right down to it, isn't really even all that sexy. 0.99

00:21:15.240 But to find the organic nature of ourselves, of what we're attracted to, and to relate to one another honestly.

00:21:24.360 So, the female socio-sexual hierarchy. 0.99

00:21:27.660 Yes, it's there. Sort of.

00:21:29.420 But you're never going to see it directly.

00:21:31.840 It's not obvious the way the masculine one is.

00:21:34.800 It's hidden in cooperative competition.

00:21:38.020 And the alpha woman, and you can recognize her because she's the one that the alpha male marries,

00:21:42.140 the alpha woman, tends to be the one who, yes, she takes care of herself, 1.00

00:21:46.760 but she's also the one who is most useful, who is the most soft-spoken, and who has her life squared away.

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Leo D.M.J. Aurini - October 26, 2016

The Female Sociosexual Hierarchy [Requested Video]

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