The Female Sociosexual Hierarchy [Requested Video]
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the Yin and Yang of female socio-sexual hierarchies, and how they are a reflection of male hierarchies. For example, is there a female hierarchy in the Star Wars universe? And if so, what role does it play in the male hierarchy?
Transcript
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Do women have a hierarchy corresponding to men's?
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Now this is a requested video, which comes from a young lady who I can only presume is
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And the short answer to her question is, no, men are the hierarchical sex, whereas women
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are the egalitarian sex, hunters and gatherers, et cetera, et cetera.
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We're actually going to dive into this, because this really is one of those yin-yang questions.
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You know, we're going to be discussing the yin, ultimately, the hidden shadow world of
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And it's all dark, it's all hidden, it's all behind the scenes, as opposed to the more obvious
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So we're going to start with the yang, but we will be getting to the yin before the video's
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So again, the short answer is that the female hierarchy is a reflection of the male hierarchy,
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that the woman at the top of the pecking order is merely the woman that's dating the man at
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And as for the male hierarchy, the common metaphor that we use is the high school, where you've
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got the football team, the jocks are the alpha males, you know, with the top jock being the
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top alpha, and then you get the beta males, and then you get the kind of the geeks and
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so on and so forth, all the way down to the gammas and the omegas.
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Now, I'd just like to observe quickly that this is a very degenerate socio-sexual hierarchy,
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I don't mean degenerate as in that's bad, I mean degenerate as in the high school environment
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is very much degenerated from the more complex organic relationships that a healthy human
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It's almost antiseptic, all of these teenagers being expected to form their own society without
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any adults or any other influence beyond the basic rules that they're all supposed to follow.
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So yes, it's very degenerate, it's too extreme, it's mostly been used as an attempt by men to
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boot that, bootstrap themselves into becoming better men, but I just need to point that out.
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But again, the high school environment is very weird, it's very antiseptic, and it's very
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High school should not be the aspirations of our lives.
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But nonetheless, if we're going to consider the women in high school, well, the alpha and
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beta women, they're competing amongst one another for the jocks, okay?
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The alpha and beta jocks have alpha and beta women competing for them.
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So the omega women become prostitutes and porn stars.
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The gamma women, meanwhile, they become SJWs and feminists, and they surround themselves with
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Now, a brief aside, I will note that with both the omega and the gamma women, you'll see a
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You know, whereas the porn starlet just has these sycophantic crowds of men that worship
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her, and so does the gamma SJW woman, who has all these David Fruittrells that are just
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Where the K women compete for the alpha and beta males, but they're very feminine, whereas
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the women that compete for the omega and gammas take on somewhat masculine traits.
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The women in high school, in this whole sociosexual hierarchy, largely compete to be recognized
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And the men, meanwhile, the women are proof of their accomplishment on the male hierarchy.
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And you know, there's some evidence in this, for this, in the narratives that we have as
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I'm thinking specifically of Rescue the Princess and Betty vs. Veronica.
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I'm sure you've all heard the feminists get very angry about this one before, where Princess
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Peach, she's just an object for Mario to rescue when he defeats Bowser.
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But what, unfortunately, none of these so-called feminist critics seem to realize is that it's
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It's not actually about Princess Tolstool that's being kept captive by some sort of lizard-dragon
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Rescue the Princess is a young man seeing a woman he wants dating a guy who's older than
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And it's Luke Skywalker being jealous of Han Solo when Leia is attracted to Han Solo.
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And so the young guy imagines that the boyfriend of this girl, and the boyfriend, he's just,
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But the young man imagines that this guy is abusive.
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And so he puts all this energy into defeating what he perceives to be evil.
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That's the first quarter of the hero's journey, and it's where Mario comes to an end.
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If you actually carry on with that hero's journey, what happens is that the young male
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hero eventually realizes that the bad guy is not his enemy, and that the princess, he
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had an unrealistic view of her, and she was never the reason he was doing this.
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That he was pursuing an adventurous path of masculine self-improvement.
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And at the end, he doesn't even need the princess anymore.
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Betty vs. Veronica is the similarly juvenile female reflection of Rescue the Princess.
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Betty vs. Veronica is all about how Betty is a nice, down-to-earth girl next door, and
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the guy that she wants is attracted to Veronica, who is mean and bitchy, and has lots of wealth,
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has unfair advantages, and she's one of the cool, mean girls, and Betty has to woo Archie
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away from Veronica through her virtue and chastity.
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These two plots, Rescue the Princess and Betty vs. Veronica, these are hackneyed scripts that
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go into every single cheesy action movie and lame rom-com.
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Because, of course, people writing these things are some of the most juvenile and broken people
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The actual story of Betty vs. Veronica, if you go past the first quarter, which most
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stories don't, is Betty and Veronica either realizing that they're both the same type of
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people at the end of the day, and that they're each going to be attracted to their own sorts
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of men, or you go in a little bit of a Pride and Prejudice direction, where Betty realizes
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that the fact that Archie is attracted to Veronica, and that Veronica's a nasty piece of work,
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means that Betty never really was attracted to Archie in the first place, that she wants
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a man that's better than that, you know, that's different than that.
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She doesn't want, like, Veronica with her fast and loose ways can go have a fast and loose
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Most of them stop at Betty winning Archie over.
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That men prove themselves to be alpha to earn a hot woman, and women compete amongst themselves
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These are the juvenile, degraded, antiseptic narratives from high school.
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They are an oversimplification, but they are, it's reflected, isn't it, in some of the metaphors
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that we use in the manosphere trying to reinvent the wheel, rediscover traditional relationship
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There have been two metaphors that have really, that are very effective for describing a healthy
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The first, I think it comes from C.S. Lewis, who said that in a marriage, the man, it's
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The man's the one that goes out into the world and handles business, handles politics, handles
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all those sorts of things, whereas women are like a country's domestic policy, okay?
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The woman keeps the house running, keeps it organized, makes sure the children are doing
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And so when you think about nations, if you ask, you know, what's the most powerful nation
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in the world, you look at their foreign policy elements, typically speaking, when you're
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It's not until very effeminate ages such as our own that men will obsess over which country
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has the best healthcare system and try and rank countries by that.
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It's a testament to how weak and effeminate men are now, but that's how we've been ranking
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Typically, you think the most powerful nation in the world, you think like a civilization,
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And yet those women, or those women, those nations with that good foreign policy also
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They have a populace that is stable, that is financially successful, so on and so forth.
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So you don't measure a country by its domestic policy, but a good domestic policy tends to
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The other metaphor, which was popularized, I believe, by Dallrock, I think he's the one
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that came up with it, was the captain and first officer model.
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And I really like this one, because the captain and first officer need one another.
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The captain is always looking at how to deal with, you know, the foreign policy again.
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Captain says, you know, this is where the ship's going to go, this is how we're going to negotiate
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But, whereas Riker is in charge of the crew, you know, making sure the ships are operating
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correctly, making sure that the ship is up to snuff, that it can do what it needs to
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And he will advise the captain, saying, you know what, we need to give the crew some
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They've been going for, you know, eight weeks straight.
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So when you say, which is the best ship in the Galactic Federation, and you can have debate
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whether it's the Defiant or the Enterprise, they're both very good ships.
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The best ship in the Federation, it's not because Riker is the first officer that's the
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And yet, and yet, you know what, this is the perfect, perfect time to flip it all in its
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head, to enter the dangerous world of the yin, of the female world, the female cooperative
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Because the Enterprise, it's not Riker that makes it the best ship in the fleet, okay?
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It is Captain Picard that makes it the best ship in the fleet.
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And yet, Riker wouldn't be on that ship as the first officer if he weren't the best first
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And he comes out of an environment of cooperative competition.
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See, the reason I hesitate to use the term alpha woman is because alpha woman, it makes
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you think of those women trying to run corporations, mostly running them into the ground, who want
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Imagine if you had a first officer like that, who is always trying to subvert the captain,
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who is always mouthing off in front of visiting dignitaries, who is always showing that he's
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You wind up with an absolutely terrible first officer.
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And no captain worth his salt is going to have that sort of person as their first officer.
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So I hesitate to use the word alpha woman, because it doesn't include all that cooperative
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Because yes, women do engage in the same sort of competition, but they do it largely through
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helping one another, without the obvious hierarchy.
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And so if you imagine Will Riker before he became the first officer of the Enterprise, if
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you imagine him before that, he was working to get the best out of all of his cohort.
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All of his cohort were all working to be the best that they could be, and helping one another.
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And there are own ways men do this too, except it's more explicit, the hierarchy.
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The implicit question, I think, in this video, was how do you become a woman that will attract
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You know, men certainly talk, how do I become alpha so I can get a good-looking woman?
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How do you become a woman that that good-looking, successful, interesting guy would want to have
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You know, to a certain extent, yes, you're born with the looks that you're born with.
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You know, I might want a full head of hair, but that's not in the cards for me.
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And yet, I will tell you, honestly, with most people, the vast majority of people, I think
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Just the way they carry themselves, the way they destroy their body through a toxic diet,
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the way they have so little self-respect, they put no effort into themselves whatsoever.
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A great deal of ugliness is a reflection of what's in the inside.
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And when it comes to women, especially women in their teens and 20s, they're almost all beautiful.
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Okay, if you're a young lady and you're looking in the mirror, you're seeing flaws.
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I mean, nowadays, it's a little bit different with the self-mutilation going on.
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But becoming beautiful, actually taking care of your appearance, you know, wearing clothes
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that fit, nothing crazy, just the basics, and carrying yourself, carrying yourself in
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a graceful manner, this is eminently possible for all women.
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Number two, number two thing you need to do if you want to attract a good-looking, charismatic,
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honest, interesting man, is get your life sorted away.
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You know, nobody wants to be with somebody whose life is a constant mess, a constant train wreck,
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somebody whose apartment is disgusting, somebody who can't keep track of their schedule,
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somebody that always needs to be rescued because there's something breaking down.
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Now, I recently, over on a Return of Kings article, I defended Donald Trump saying some rather
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And the fact of the matter is that, you know what?
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And in this age of incredible effeminacy and weakness, having a guy that has a slight overabundance
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or even a childlike abundance of masculine virility, that's a step in the right direction.
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But that said, I don't engage in locker room talk.
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Certainly not with women that they care about or respect.
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And a man who is properly developed, who is properly fermented into masculinity, should not
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You know, a woman's gossip is no different than locker room talk.
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And so the same way that women like the strong, silent type, they like the man that's taciturn,
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that doesn't say too much, men like that will appreciate a woman who doesn't gossip needlessly.
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And the fourth and final point is make yourself useful.
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Whether it be cooking or first aid, no man wants a...
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A shy violet that is just constantly needing help to do everything.
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Make yourself useful, not just in, you know, knowing first aid, knowing how to deal with
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things, how to handle an emergency, but make yourself useful day to day, in your community,
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Have some self-respect that shows, that shines through in how you dress.
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Because remember, you can dress, you can wear whatever you want.
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So why are you wearing what you're currently wearing?
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Don't engage in nasty, female, that horrid, horrid laughter that you get from these bachelorette
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Now, I'd like to finish off with some thoughts about the antiseptic nature of our society and
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One of the difficulties we have with this cheesy, oversimplistic high school model.
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And now, this isn't a problem with the model per se.
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You know, the feminists that complain about dude bros and so forth.
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The problem with this antiseptic model, the problem with the high school model, is that
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the coolest guy in high school is going to be the guy whose dad buys him a sports car.
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You see, he's not the coolest guy because he's earned his position or because he's shown
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And our society as a whole is very much the surface phenomenon.
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And so, when it comes to, you know, quote-unquote alpha guys, a lot of the alpha guys are actually
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omega guys, the traveling salesmen, the scam artists.
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You know, a lot of the rich people in today's world are nothing but flim-flam men.
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Just like the traveling salesmen, I love you today and then I'm gone tomorrow.
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Same thing with a lot of the rich that we have, a lot of the wealthy.
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You know, the Britney Spears, the, you know, Kim Kardashians.
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These are the omega women that are being raised up.
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The organic way of things is not going to be quite as flashy, quite as much fun as all of this.
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An actual alpha man is not going to be dropping mics on the stage.
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And the equivalent female, who I still don't want to call alpha female, because then she might start banning bossy.
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The alpha female, the equivalent female, she is not going to be shooting champagne up into an arc onto her half-clothed butt.
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So I think one of the big challenges for men and women is to move away from these plastic, cheap, antiseptic, omega versions that are constantly being sold to us.
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And at the same time, not go to the other extreme and the whole gamma, self-righteous, gender war, whatever.
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The challenge is to become the best sort of individuals that we can become, the best versions of ourselves, and then to understand what sort of person we would want to share ourselves with.
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That the guy that tends to be the one driving the brand new, coolest car, the guy that looks the best, probably isn't the best.
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And the woman that garners the most attention, when you get right down to it, isn't really even all that sexy.
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But to find the organic nature of ourselves, of what we're attracted to, and to relate to one another honestly.
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And the alpha woman, and you can recognize her because she's the one that the alpha male marries,
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the alpha woman, tends to be the one who, yes, she takes care of herself,
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but she's also the one who is most useful, who is the most soft-spoken, and who has her life squared away.
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