00:06:59.200I've been teaching for over a year, and one of the things I look through the Sunday school books is their teachings on sexuality, even within the Orthodox Church.
00:07:08.360I've looked at the Protestant and the Catholic's position, and basically, they're all written for a time that was completely different than ours, with totally different circumstances, different technologies.
00:07:22.020and I think in a way it's like Satan is destroying the church
00:07:27.040by pitting modern sexuality against classical teachings from the church
00:07:32.520so people are like well gee I can either have love or I can have God
00:11:49.800People just fucked willy-nilly back in the Roman days whenever they felt like it, whenever they could.
00:11:56.200And I do believe the vast majority of sex outside of marriage was with whores, though.
00:12:02.840I don't think people just had recreational sex unless they were in the upper classes and they could afford it.
00:12:07.380For the average peasant slave woman, she would have to trade her sex away for something because she was always desperate and in a desperate situation.
00:12:17.120Whoring was just the way of the world.
00:12:19.760And it still is in many poor countries.
00:12:22.540There's a cultural foundational difference that came about. There were a number of natural
00:12:31.740impediments on the sexual act. So you could aggressively pursue a woman and a woman could
00:12:38.780aggressively be flirtatious. However, you're doing this in a small town. You don't have a car where
00:12:45.900you can go up to make out point and disappear. You don't have all these natural, these easy to
00:12:50.660achieve prophylactics, you could go out and be an alpha male, to use the game terminology,
00:12:59.600back in the 1500s or 1800s or whenever.
00:13:03.280You could go out and be an alpha male and pursue women vigorously and still remain chaste
00:13:09.040up until the point of marriage, where areas these days are so easy to fall in.
00:13:17.380To put a man and woman by themselves in a room, there's a very good chance that things
00:15:58.040well and the way that it's orchestrated
00:16:02.320The way that it's vocalized, well, it becomes feminism 2.0, where the woman gets destroyed by the alpha males that she's been throwing herself at, but rather –
00:18:42.480who have no virgin women what they supposed to do they're supposed to wait
00:18:47.180until marriage with these these skanks you know you know we all know
00:18:51.500We know right away why that's a disaster, and we don't need the Bible to tell us that either.
00:18:55.920There's nothing in the Bible about this kind of situation.
00:18:58.860See, Satan fundamentally knows what the Bible says.
00:19:02.720So he creates loopholes and puts people in situations that has no clear answer in the Bible.
00:19:09.040So then you're forced to use your judgment.
00:19:11.180You're forced to use your own spiritual nature to help guide you through it,
00:19:15.640Which, of course, without any kind of, I think, really guidance from the church on these difficult matters, because fundamentally it should be the priests who help guide the flock through these difficult matters.
00:19:28.120People aren't going to be able to figure it out.
00:19:29.800They're just going to give up on the faith, and then they go to hell.
00:19:33.280The church is to blame because they did not properly – they were outsmarted by Satan.
00:24:59.060He doesn't get nearly the recognition he deserves,
00:25:01.480and that's pretty much like the mark of piety, by the way.
00:25:05.220So, St. Mary of Egypt was a woman who lived in Egypt sometime around, I think around the 300s, after Constantine, when Christianity was really becoming popular.
00:25:19.360Now, I see someone say, a slut works for free.
00:35:40.940going into like my dating strategy how do you date in a fallen world well because you can't
00:35:46.480have virgins because they're just ridiculously short supply and the competition is super intense
00:35:50.900and the odds of getting a virgin is like hitting the fucking lottery so when you're dating regular
00:35:57.320women you know you can't say no sex before marriage because first of all let's start with
00:36:03.560it first of all if you don't bang a girl before marriage she's not even going to consider marrying
00:36:08.680you let alone you know respecting you okay like this idea that if i wait she'll love me more that's
00:36:15.080just not even true that's a physical animal thing is right women are animals if you're not dominating
00:36:23.080aggressive yeah if you're not dominating her the way a man is supposed to the way it's quite clearly
00:36:28.400laid out in the bible then she's not marrying you she is going to be doing she is doing something
00:36:35.920else she's either marrying your money or she is purchasing virtue by getting your wedding ring
00:36:42.940she she's there to do it for somebody else whether it's her father or for mammon or for the priest
00:36:51.140she's not marrying you right so i my my my okay i'm going to start with the conclusion and then
00:36:59.160we're going to work backwards my conclusion as far as i can tell for everything i've learned
00:37:02.780in red is that do not pursue a woman sexually unless you're seriously considering that she
00:37:08.680could be your wife someday. It's as simple as that. Because now let's work backwards. Why?
00:37:16.400First, everything you'd get judged on is based on your intentions, right? You can still
00:37:22.980unintentionally sin, but they are not nearly as severe as an intentional sin. Unintentional
00:37:29.580sins are much easier to be forgiven for. Intentionally sinning, like you rob your friend
00:37:36.360or you deceive someone else, you create false witnesses or you steal some dude's wife. If
00:37:46.460you do this on purpose, then God knows you're a dirty piece of shit. People always forget
00:37:53.240the line, it's not what goes into your mouth that defiles the man, it's what comes out
00:37:57.360of your mouth that a lot of people misunderstand the in the catholic church the mortal sin and
00:38:03.540the venial sin this is essentially the distinction anything can be a mortal sin if you do it from
00:38:11.040whole knowledge and whole willfulness if you're being yes disobedient because i don't care
00:38:17.560as opposed to if you are being weak or you're being tempted or what have you that's the difference
00:38:23.380Right. The hallmark of mortal sins, okay, of the Catholic Church. And I think that's just it. This is just obscuritism. I think it's a kind of a distinction without a difference. The hallmark of serious sins is you're not treating your neighbors as you would yourself.
00:38:45.100right so when you take a man's wife hello you're screwing over some other man you're obviously a
00:38:53.440shitty person if the wife cheats on her husband she's obviously a horrible human being if she
00:38:59.780can't even trust the father of her children and respect him what chance is she ever going to show
00:39:05.540just god why would god let that terrible person in heaven you see what i'm saying like if god
00:39:12.360looks at how neighbors treat each other
00:39:59.020The Catholic church, the Pope is like, oh, those migrants are, you know, the people we need to be welcoming and we need to love them and love others as we love ourselves.
00:40:09.680Notice they always change the word neighbor into others.
00:40:12.180Because the word neighbor has a very specific definition, according to Christ.
00:45:51.660Since you don't know, you could be sinning.
00:45:54.560You could be giving it to a horrible human being.
00:45:56.800You could be giving it to someone pretending to be that small child who uses that money without you knowing that it's not going to that child.
00:55:08.520It's not just being, you know, jacked, ripped, dude.
00:55:10.860It means standing up for what is righteous, even if it causes you to become a martyr.
00:55:18.960Well, we have this dichotomy today where you can be this powerful, aggressive alpha male that gets his way all the time, but he's not moral.
00:55:28.980Whereas the moral man is a simp who never makes any waves, who doesn't cause any trouble whatsoever, and just goes along to get along.
00:55:36.960when those are again these are the two extremes and virtue is the mean between them it is the
00:55:42.060golden mean where you are capable of great acts right i would say that um i would be i would
00:55:49.760disagree that the man who is silent is being moral i'm not sure that's true i completely this is my
00:55:57.000point that the often what we call morality is simply not making any waves well sometimes you
00:57:16.860Jesus gave language that was plain, simple, and clear, and timeless.
00:57:21.300And yet, deep, for the people who are intelligent, Jesus' teachings are extremely profound, extraordinarily complex.
00:57:35.300So, Jesus, as I've grown older, and as I've read a tremendous amount of literature, I realize when I read it, it's at once extremely simple, and at once extremely difficult and complex.
00:57:47.480but that's the beauty you don't need to understand the complex parts to get to
00:57:52.200have it you know it doesn't matter actually at all Jesus was preaching to
00:57:58.040the dumb the deaf the illiterate the sick the lame the blind you think these
00:58:03.740guys are well actually a break that's the beauty of Christianity is that even
00:58:11.700if you are unfortunately a part-time theologian like yourself and myself
00:58:15.920there's stuff for you there you can dig into this theology but you don't need
00:58:20.540to it really does have that that that universal applicability yeah the the
00:58:28.680point as far as I guess exactly the universalness of it is important but I
00:58:34.180think that the the complex parts are necessary for the church and it's
00:58:41.960necessary for a church to exist to give guidance. Otherwise Christ would have
00:58:46.580never created one. So the corruption of the church, which is the topic of this
00:58:51.620podcast or YouTube cast, whatever you call this, is very, very relevant. Today's
00:59:00.140church is not helpful. People stay with Christ. Let's just be honest. It's
00:59:08.460hemorrhaging members it's falling apart all churches some are faring a bit
00:59:15.720better than others but you know there it's not doing well at all and some
00:59:20.400people will say oh well it's just a culling process you know Jesus I think
00:59:24.660it's the opposite I worry it's the opposite it's hemorrhaging the best
00:59:28.560members and right worst sometimes yeah you're jumping you're jumping to my
00:59:35.880conclusion i'll tell you i have a lot i would the church in my neighborhood which i'm about to move
00:59:43.280from uh was very very novus ordo and i have a it is very difficult for me to go to a novus ordo
00:59:50.900church there's just so much ugliness inherent in the in everything with it they're so judgmental
00:59:58.200a lot of uh hardcore church types like you're not good enough unless you follow all these little
01:00:03.140commands they're basically Pharisees and that's the irony I will say about the
01:00:09.740Novus Ordo is that on the one hand there's all these loopholes that are
01:00:13.160allowing all of these toxic tradition or they're over overwhelming the traditions
01:00:19.140and introducing these little bits of toxicity and they're very non
01:00:22.860judgmental while at the same time being extremely judgmental whereas with the
01:00:27.940traditionalist churches uh yes it is very traditionalist and so it's very anti-modern
01:00:34.240and yet it's far more welcoming at the exact same time instead of judgment you get empathy
01:00:40.820at the traditional yeah and honestly empathy is far more of a christian virtue than judgment
01:00:46.040but actually it's similar to how a weak man whether he be the ruler of a country or a father
01:00:53.860will be a tyrant whereas a strong man a strong leader is going to be very nurturing and and
01:01:01.320gentle with those because of his strength yeah the point right exactly a strong man will break
01:01:08.480people's will so he can point them in the right direction he doesn't just do it to be on top all
01:01:13.920the time it's a very fine line to be a good patriarch and you can't just write it down in
01:01:22.180words it's you know it when you see it you can write down all the words you want but and does
01:01:28.160that not require good judgment like again the idea that you should never judge doesn't make
01:01:33.460sense to me and i've read that whole i've seen a lot of monks say never criticize never judge
01:01:38.780never say anyone's a sinner because it's it risks hypocrisy but i think they're going too far
01:01:44.820it doesn't make sense to me it doesn't jive with what i read in the bible and it doesn't jive with
01:01:50.620how people live their lives, and I also just think, like, if God is this merciful guy,
01:01:56.720then why the hell would he be throwing all these people in hell for sins which are, like,
01:02:04.460incredibly small? Okay, so you think this guy drinks too much, and now you're going to hell
01:02:08.140because you think he's a drunkard? Are you serious? That doesn't even, that sounds so
01:02:11.840punishing. It completely, well, isn't this the same Jesus who forgave whores and tax collectors,
01:02:17.460right and you know there's something people don't know what tax collectors tax collectors
01:02:21.320were like some of the worst people on the planet yeah they weren't like modern day tax collectors
01:02:25.980you actually bid to be a tax collector you would bid on a position because you got to make a ton
01:02:32.100of money doing the tax collecting oh yeah in tech look as long look at tax collectors they were
01:02:38.040assigned a certain amount of money to collect if they got more or less well the romans didn't care
01:02:44.640or new they didn't ask and they were given some troops and legions of soldiers to enforce their
01:02:50.700tax collecting and uh you've had unlimited authority to get that money basically so you'd
01:02:58.740have guys would beat intimidate rob commit arson and if you couldn't pay your taxes in those days
01:03:06.240well then there was only one punishment you became a slave a debt slave if you couldn't pay your
01:03:13.380debts you had to sell your children or yourself into slavery so a loose analogy for the modern
01:03:21.020day might be a lobbyist who writes public policy but isn't responsible for it and makes a big
01:03:26.780profit while doing so yeah but i think tax collectors were way worse they had basically
01:03:32.540unlimited authority and yet even christ could forgive those people if they saw the error of
01:03:37.900their ways so the idea that you know some of these monks with these purity spirals i think they're
01:03:42.740admirable but they're not literally correct
01:03:45.860they're not literally correct city and in the fact that people today
01:14:00.440The sociopathic one is the one who sits inside of an organization backstabbing, betraying, and shit-talking so that they can stay on top of others and get rid of the competition.
01:14:12.360They're certainly in control, but they're not alpha by any useful definition.
01:14:52.640It's the great question of our time, but I think we're already working towards a solution because we have the Internet now.
01:15:00.660I think the Internet allows members of the flock to find each other, allows our neighbors to find each other, no matter where we are, no matter what's going on.
01:15:10.300And in a way, I think that God gave us the Internet to help us through these difficult times,
01:15:15.040to help overcome the sins of technology
01:15:17.460by letting the righteous find one another
01:15:20.160and develop a new strategy for this time.
01:15:24.300I think personally we need a new church sometimes.
01:15:27.540I really think that might be the answer.
01:20:12.700I'm not getting into that theological debate, but even by the Catholics, the very first pope was corrupt.
01:20:18.780They all have been, because they were all men.
01:20:22.460And so that's one thing, but it's going to whole new levels.
01:20:26.440Although I will say there was a positive development where a number of priests and some lay theologians published a document calling out Francis on a great deal of the openings towards heresy that were present in his Amoris Laetitiae.
01:20:46.900right which is nice but fundamentally calling out the corruption of the pope doesn't fix the
01:20:53.580problem the problem is you have a pope the pope caused the protestant reformation in the first
01:20:58.580place because the pope was corrupt 500 years ago the pope is corrupt today at least in the
01:21:05.900orthodox church we've got hierarchy which is important but no one's infallible no one's
01:21:12.760teachings takes precedence over another uh we treat people as authorities but not as kings
01:21:19.640it's a huge difference it's why we don't have the same levels of scandals and corruption
01:21:24.240most of the orthodox loss of membership doesn't come from aposty it comes from persecution
01:21:30.160the communists murdered millions of orthodox the turks did the muslims did you know the orthodox
01:21:40.240loss of membership has come from the sword not from people thinking they know better
01:21:45.940well the the issue with the catholic church is that the hierarchy has been
01:21:51.140captured by that's why you shouldn't have one
01:21:55.300at the end of the day though as individuals all we can all we can do is to continue to state the
01:22:05.040truth even when it's not popular and to be that virile force for good to be to live in such a way
01:22:12.540that we become authorities in ourselves yeah it's very important speaking see words
01:22:18.860have the power of god in them in the beginning was the word all words
01:22:25.900can change the world because words control people's thoughts and a platform like the
01:22:34.280internet, where words can be multiplied by unbelievable multitudes our ancestors could
01:22:42.220only have dreamed of. I think the solution is staring us right in the face. This technology
01:22:47.660is insane. The problem, of course, is getting people's attention in a sea of endless distractions.
01:22:54.940But I think eventually, right, we've got to remember there's always something working for Christians.
01:23:05.660And that is as the worst shit gets, the more people will be ready to hear the message of Christ when the time comes.
01:23:14.840The more the middle gets eaten up by either side, the more you realize that you can't be neutral.
01:23:23.980when it's a choice between truth and falsehood.
01:23:26.180There is no middle position between truth and lies.
01:24:19.420the Elijah post one by one yeah of course at some point it's up to every individual
01:24:27.940to decide am I going to keep following this lie or is it about time that I admitted it is a lie
01:24:34.480and this path I'm on is the wrong path and to turn around and start marching right and I think like
01:24:40.440what if there's a modern church today needs to recognize our sexual climate is completely broken
01:24:47.120And it also needs to recognize that there should be different rules, not rules, but different guidelines for men versus women.
01:24:54.540A woman, she should save her virginity, but if she doesn't, she should realize she has no obligation to ask anything from any man if she gives her virginity away, less than she's become a whore.
01:25:05.780And for men, they should be told to pursue virgins, but if they can't find one, then they are forced to grind through the dating game, and that they should never ever wife up a woman who refuses to not submit to them before marriage.
01:25:18.940And of course, a woman can't submit unless she gives her body up.
01:25:23.480We have to tell the men, don't just pursue women for conquest's sake.
01:25:28.520They're not just sexual objects. They are your neighbors, and you must pursue them as a neighbor and as a woman. It's a complicated process, and it's totally messy. It's not an easy process, but we don't have a choice because women have been deceived into throwing away their virginity, which is why, like I said, I compared this time to like a World War I, World War II, where you have all these innocent men murdering each other for no freaking reason.
01:25:56.620Likewise, you have all these women who have debauched themselves for literally no reason, like 98% of the women out there.
01:26:03.420So now you have to figure out a way through this.
01:26:06.120No different than how could a good Christian man figure out a way through World War I or World War II, knowing that he's shooting on innocent men.
01:26:16.760Well, and the solution isn't the inverse to be a coward and remain behind.
01:26:33.160But I'm just saying, you know, in today's climate, it would be like becoming a monk and dropping out of the sexual marketplace all together.
01:27:44.540He didn't say slavery was this great thing,
01:27:47.080But he's like, look, this is what we have, and we've got to give unto God what is God, and Caesar what is Caesar's.
01:27:54.100Well, and to close this out, to boil it down to what you were saying, the practical advice to some of the women, is it fair to say, guys, go out there and pursue women that you could potentially see as wives?
01:29:58.500The caution is that because sex is this naturally bonding experience,
01:30:03.500If you jump into it too quickly, you will wind up overlooking all sorts of flaws and all sorts of warning bells and all of this because you had sex with the person.
01:30:15.540So, again, this is a fine road to travel.