A groundbreaking study now claims that tanning salons could be targeting gay men and putting them at risk of cancer. Ben Shapiro talks about how to deal with a girlfriend with racist parents, and why he doesn t want to get married to someone who s racist.
00:01:40.000The contentious relationship between YouTube and Crowder has been heating up.
00:01:53.000In this country, all people are equal before the law.
00:01:56.000But in a few short years, all peoples around the globe were electrified to learn that what Vox dreamed of, but could not accomplish, came to a thundering realization with YouTube's lightning-like targeting of conservative voices.
00:02:11.000This show, Mug Club, and its viewers are linked together in their cause against big technology and their greed will defend to the death your right to free speech fighting for the cause like good comrades to the utmost of our strength.
00:05:56.000But based on the recent controversies, when, if ever, do you think that any sort of an armed resistance to government tyranny is appropriate?
00:06:04.000And I need you guys out there to have my back so this isn't taken out of context.
00:06:47.000Yeah, the president made his debut on the gaming platform during a Minnesota rally, signaling the campaign push to appeal to younger voters.
00:06:55.000So supporters, they can actually use the app now to donate to the campaign, register to volunteer, and even join the president for Minecraft Mondays.
00:07:43.000Also in 2020 news, Bernie Sanders has returned to the campaign trail, and now he has endorsements from Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Rashida Tlaib, and Ilhan Omar.
00:07:54.000AOC will appear with Bernie Sanders on Saturday at a Bernie's Back rally, like the Backstreet's Back.
00:08:07.000Sanders was so thrilled by the endorsements he had a heart attack.
00:08:11.000And this lends credence to the recent polling data, we've talked about this, that shows Bernie making inroads with two key demographics, crazy people and terrorists who have sex with their brothers.
00:08:22.000That's a Reuters, Ipsos poll with a plus minus margin of error of about 100%.
00:08:30.000I thought it was backed up by the Quinnipiac poll.
00:11:13.000The spokesperson for the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists say that putting toothpaste down there would not only be uncomfortable, but it could lead to serious damage.
00:11:20.000And the organization felt a warning was needed after this became, it became a really big online trend.
00:11:37.000I like to use all natural toothpaste because it's fluoride free and has activated charcoal, which acts as a really nice detoxifier as well as a natural whitening agent.
00:13:02.000Singer Ed Sheeran, because we haven't talked about him for a week and a half.
00:13:07.000Taking a break from touring, and he spent the entire time painting.
00:13:12.000You know, for a singer, Ed Sheeran is a great painter, but he's only an average gay.
00:13:16.000Now his preferences, they're oil paintings, landscapes, though he says that his real passion actually lies in self-portraits, which if you see, yeah, he's uncanny.
00:13:54.000I thought you were putting that up to make the case that he's straight and she's a a field hockey player? Yeah. They're married. Yeah, I know.
00:14:02.000It's covered. Cheryl's favorite. That's using they, their, and zee without a doubt. Rap
00:14:08.000artist Ja Rule. Oh my gosh. Remember him?
00:14:12.000He said that he still remains haunted by the poor quality of prison toilet paper.
00:14:17.000This comes from page six where he said, it was the next step to wiping your ass with a Brillo pad.
00:14:22.000Going on to add that it was almost as painful as the time he was raped in the prison shower with a Brillo pad.
00:14:28.000Late 90s, early odd hip hop artist Brillo pad rape is no laughing matter.
00:14:32.000And it's unfortunately more common than most realize.
00:14:35.000As a matter of fact, early-odd rapper Brillo Pad Rape is likely to affect each and every one of us in our lifetime.
00:14:41.000Startling statistics show that at least one in four late-90s through early-odd hip-hop artists have, at some point in their life, experienced Brillo Pad Rape.
00:14:49.000Even more disturbing, more than 90% of these instances of Brillo Pad Rape go completely unreported.
00:14:55.000That would mean that at 2017's Fyre Festival, hip-hop artist Ja Rule was raped with a Brillo Pad upwards of 72 times.
00:15:45.000Everybody said that experience with too thin paper and rips.
00:15:48.000In an effort to relate to, we're going to be talking about government and armed insurrection and all this.
00:15:52.000So then, you know, in case this isn't necessarily your speed, there's still quite a bit more of this speed before we change those gears.
00:15:59.000So in an effort to relate to the struggles of its young audience, actually, Sesame Street, you know Sesame Street, they debut a new puppet character whose mom is addicted to opioids.
00:16:09.000Which, I'm actually a supporter of this, but we've known about the opioid crisis with Muppets for a long time, as we've discussed with our office opioid expert, PJ, who's actually here right now.
00:21:03.000So Beto, he repeated his demands for a mandatory gun buyback program at the debates this Tuesday.
00:21:09.000Listening to my fellow Americans, to those moms who demand action, to those students who march for our lives, who in fact came up with this extraordinary bold peace plan that calls for mandatory buybacks, let's follow their inspiration and lead.
00:21:33.000Just to be clear, we want to make sure that we are not taking him out of context.
00:21:35.000I encourage you to go watch the full debates.
00:21:37.000The next day, when asked about it, he doubled down on his comments.
00:21:41.000In that case, I think there would be a visit by law enforcement to recover that firearm and to make sure that it is purchased, bought back, so that it cannot be potentially used against somebody else.
00:21:54.000Yeah, because you would never want a firearm to potentially be used against someone else.
00:23:12.000And Democrats are going, ooh, we can just pick this guy off more effectively than Tulsi Gabbard picked off Kamala Harris a couple of debates ago.
00:23:18.000Which, by the way, Tulsi Gabbard, I actually think the only two reasonable people on that stage, Andrew Yang and Tulsi Gabbard, Tulsi Gabbard has no chance.
00:23:37.000So the Democrats went after, I want to make sure that we show a clip, they went after Beto O'Rourke saying, well okay Beto, how are you going to enforce that?
00:24:10.000And by the way, last night I was having dinner with some friends and one of the people at the table said it was refreshing to hear him say something other than thoughts and prayers.
00:24:17.000Like, did you listen to anything he said?
00:24:37.000It is interesting to think that if thoughts and prayers are a problem and no action, dreaming about a land in which people are just criminals are going to voluntarily hand over their firearms and then only the good citizens will be the ones without guns, that's not fantasy.
00:24:50.000Which, by the way, here's the thing, too.
00:24:52.000You cease to be a good citizen just for holding on to your rights.
00:25:16.000He negotiated my first business contract.
00:25:18.000We just met through Andrew Breitbart, and I said, you know, you've got a lot of vowels in your last name, and you seem like you can negotiate this for me.
00:26:04.000I mean, I think the one thing I would say that is at least intellectually honest about what Beto's saying is that he's admitting that the plan that he has been talking about and that other Democrats have talked about will lead to using guns to seize other guns from people who aren't using their guns wrong.
00:26:18.000And so finally admitting it and now even the left is admitting it's not really a plan that will make sense in any kind of efficacy type of way.
00:27:31.000This idea that we're well past that so we don't need guns anymore Exactly.
00:27:36.000It's so factually off-beam that it's the actual—we need firearms, because the only way to protect oneself in the modern world is with firearms, and that's why it's a God-given right.
00:27:45.000So let's look at the history as to what in the past, throughout history, humans thought warranted some kind of resistance, right?
00:27:52.000And differentiating that—let's differentiate that from senseless violence.
00:27:56.000Let's take an example here and say a death threat versus setting a line in the sand and a boundary.
00:28:00.000So one, like saying if someone breaks into my house in the middle of the night while I and my family are there, I'm going to protect it with my firearm.
00:29:42.000I think when you when you look at the short term the left continues to focus on the idea that well we'll just take away guns and we get over the fact that criminals are still gonna have guns but what what is the point of having the right to defend and if you can't defend yourself in a means that would actually help you let's say I mean that the tales of And not tales, the real life stories of individuals who would otherwise not be able to fight off an intruder, much less two or three or four or five, but have had a simple firearm, even just a .22, to be able to defend themselves and to be able to scare off folks as a deterrent.
00:30:16.000You're saying that if you were in that situation, you do not have a right to take any action.
00:30:20.000At that point, you might as well just say, lay down, take your clothes off, give them the stuff.
00:30:24.000In 2019, when people say, well, they couldn't have foreseen the kind of—actually, it's more necessary than ever in 2019, because it's your right to self-preservation, right?
00:30:32.000You're not just using a club at this point.
00:30:33.000If you don't have a firearm, you're not going to be able to protect yourself.
00:30:35.000And as far as the guesswork, I like to take it out of this equation here.
00:31:41.000It would be inappropriate for any kind of violent resistance due to a personal affront, due to policy differences, due to ad hominem attacks, or even due to a proposal of a policy that you think could lead to tyranny.
00:31:57.000None of those would be appropriate instances to stand your ground.
00:32:07.000The moment there is an enforcement of policy that infringes upon your basic fundamental human rights, resistance is at least an appropriate discussion.
00:32:16.000So we've said where it's not appropriate.
00:32:17.000Let me give you some clear examples where I think it could be appropriate.
00:33:43.000If some person has seized control, to which they have no right, decides that they want to rewrite laws so that they can simply infringe upon your God-given rights, it's illegitimate.
00:33:53.000Just in the same way, if someone walks into my house, who's an intruder, he has not been granted permission, and like a vampire, I didn't invite him in.
00:34:27.000I mean there's obviously a structure in which we say that if you're participating in society, if you give up your rights by committing crimes that are at a certain level, you're giving that up.
00:34:35.000I get that there are libertarian friends out there who would say that if you're in the society you never give up the rights, so there shouldn't be such things.
00:34:40.000I get that argument, but you know the general premise of where the Constitution came from was that, and where we've interpreted it, is that you would be able to give up those certain rights whether it's freedom, going to jail, having guns taken away, or the vote to write their franchise, etc.
00:34:53.000And so then ultimately the question becomes, let's take the reality of saying, okay, let's say it's not the United States, where things are, despite what the left would say, pretty great.
00:35:02.000And then you go over to another country where they're fighting for freedom.
00:35:06.000Is that rule still supposed to apply there?
00:35:08.000Oh, you're saying they have the right to defend themselves because they need to do it right
00:35:12.000then, but not in America because we don't need to do it right now, and we will never,
00:35:16.000ever, ever have to do it in the future.
00:35:19.000And even if God willing we never would have to, but the point of the God-given right is
00:35:24.000not only on an individual basis to be able to defend yourself, but to be able to defend
00:35:27.000yourself from a government that is supposed to stem from the people.
00:35:30.000And when it's not anymore, that's when you have to have the discussion.
00:35:33.000And I want to get away from the idea of, you know, like, assault weapons bans, but this is the same reason that freedom of speech, people are shocked when I say, well, it really only exists in the United States because it's enshrined in our Constitution.
00:36:02.000It only exists here because it is enshrined in the Constitution.
00:36:05.000A law like this, completely destroying the Second Amendment, going house to house, removing people's guns, would that be a legally unprecedented bill?
00:36:14.000It would be against the set rules that we have right now that have come from the Supreme Court about what the Second Amendment protects and what it doesn't.
00:36:20.000And the line that the Second Amendment comes from on the same premise of the inalienable rights that came from the original Constitution.
00:36:27.000So, you know, we've got the Bill of Rights, they further interpret what those rights are and have been set down.
00:36:31.000And of course, you know, the states could all get together and take those rights away to a certain extent, except at that point we'd obviously believe it's out of the Constitution and against what the country was founded on.
00:36:41.000I was going to say, this isn't something that's a bridge too far for us to really contemplate.
00:36:46.000A president getting elected and then using an executive order to try to do something like this to circumvent the Constitution.
00:36:52.000I think that's the kind of scenario that we can envision where all of a sudden we've broken the process that we have in place to make sure that the laws of the land are enforced and that we adhere to those laws.
00:37:01.000That's the kind of thing that would happen.
00:37:51.000At least they would have been theoretical examples except for the fact that Beto O'Rourke brought it to the world as a very concrete example.
00:37:58.000He would send people house to house to take your guns with their own guns.
00:38:22.000Well, the idea that the rights themselves are outside of or above and not given by government.
00:38:28.000Because at some point when you say that the government is the one that can create the rights, and those rights don't pre-exist the government, so not only have you unhinged the idea of rights except for someone who's giving it to you, but you have no way to say if a group of people get together and say, Yeah, you actually don't have any rights anymore, so clean my house, right?
00:38:46.000I mean, that's the kind of natural thought that led back to a Democratic-led fight for slavery, you know, a century ago.
00:38:58.000He's really popular right now, so we let him do it.
00:39:00.000One important thing I would definitely say is that, you know, because Beto has already taken this to the very end, that's why we're talking at the end about would you ever need guns, would you ever get to that point.
00:39:08.000In between here and there is the court system.
00:39:12.000There is the fact that we have the party system, that we have voting.
00:39:28.000The natural way of society is that things can't be efficient, but the natural system that we have in America, as opposed to other places, means that if we were to get that far, we would have had to cross so many thresholds that that is the only option.
00:39:40.000This is a situation I found with Jordan Peterson.
00:39:44.000That's the whole trouble that he got in, the compulsive language that they're dealing with in Canada.
00:40:16.000It's like the baptism for the dead, only it's Tom Cruise and he just goes on a date with you.
00:40:21.000I don't know what I'm talking about now.
00:40:22.000So it's my right to lead my family spiritually as I see fit, period.
00:40:27.000If some random guy comes into my church, or your mosque, with a gun, telling you that the Flying Spaghetti Monster has led to more wars than blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, okay, we get it.
00:40:37.000Everyone who says it's like, we understand that you took Humanities 101, edgy atheists.
00:40:50.000They cannot tell us how we can worship.
00:40:52.000Now if the government does that same thing in saying, listen, I'm sorry, and this is what Ben Shapiro was speaking to, you can't take your child to that Christian school.
00:42:08.000He might have to sell his umpteenth house, or his wife might have to, I don't know, figure out wherever she funneled that money to from Champlain College.
00:42:21.000We have to go to micro here in a second.
00:42:22.000This is about establishing boundaries.
00:42:25.000More importantly, it's about engaging everyone here, not only in this room, but if you're watching, in a discussion about boundaries so that we can set them before they are crossed in order to avoid any violent conflict.
00:42:36.000All right, when you set boundaries and people know that those boundaries exist, for example, if someone says, listen, if I'm a law-abiding citizen and you send someone in my house with a gun, when my family's there to try and take my stuff, whether it's my flat screen, I was going to say plasma.
00:43:02.000But if someone, for me to say, listen, if someone with a gun comes into my house to take my property, whether it's a TV or a gun, no, I'm not going to allow it.
00:43:11.000I will meet you at the door with a gun.
00:43:41.000We had slavery, so it's not, and there's slavery across the globe.
00:43:44.000Let's say the government, because Beto had an opinion, he did a hard flip to nose grind, said, I don't know if that's a term anymore, I don't know.
00:48:31.000I'd love to see some photographs of the woman in question, and I think... She's 96, so... Listen, I'm no ageist, doggone it, and if she's getting the vapors as a result of yours truly, then there's no option but to be deeply humbled.
00:48:46.000Well, I'll try and find a picture of her from her youth, because she was quite the dish, but I imagine that picture is just a pterodactyl with sandstone going... This jab sucks!
00:49:00.000Your book is The Way I Heard It, correct?
00:49:01.000Correct. Okay, and the book is explain it for people who don't who haven't seen it yet read it
00:49:06.000The the book began as a collection of stories on my podcast Which is also called the way I heard it which began as an
00:49:13.000homage to a guy named Paul Harvey Which some of your listeners might recall as a great broadcaster
00:49:18.000who made history and biography interesting by telling short mysteries around subjects with
00:49:24.000which he was fascinated in his own life
00:49:27.000I stole that idea, or at least borrowed it with some semblance of permission, changed the title, and started writing these stories on airplanes, and then recording them, and then to my wondering eyes, discovering that we had a couple hundred million downloads or something.
00:49:44.000A publisher said, hey, it'd be great if you put this in a book.
00:49:48.000And then my mother said, you know what would be great between these stories, Michael, is if you would share some stories of your own youth in a juxtaposition of sorts.
00:49:58.000And I said, Mom, what are you talking about and why can't you mind your own business?
00:50:02.000Because now she's a best-selling author, so of course she has answers to everything.
00:50:34.000It's a little flowery and I guess now that I think about it we could describe it equally accurately as a hot Massive schizophrenic desperation.
00:50:44.000Well, I guess, let's just say, uh, good and you should purchase it.
00:50:52.000I'm literally sitting here because I'm doing the book door and I'm looking at my stupid device and seeing that I'm number four on Amazon right now.
00:50:59.000And before the interview started, I was number six.
00:51:50.000What do you attribute your success to?
00:51:53.000I have a theory and then I have a personal story about when we first met, but I would like to hear, you know, you toot your own horn first because you're so likable.
00:52:01.000I want to tee this up so that you can brag and immediately make yourself unlikable.
00:52:05.000Alright, so let me try and approach this in the most humble, braggy way I can.
00:52:11.000I was a really good show host for about 15 years, from like 1990 to 2002.
00:52:18.000And during that time, I became facile at impersonating other hosts.
00:52:25.000And so I was hired a lot to work on projects that were so Poorly conceived and otherwise doomed that no amount of luck or talent could save them.
00:52:35.000But I always did a good job and so I had a business model that allowed me to do well in Hollywood by identifying losers and attaching myself to them and then getting hired again, etc, etc.
00:53:16.000And I was in sewers, and I was hanging upside down from bridges, and in coal mines, and all these places, but I never had to pretend to know any more than I did, and I never had to try and sound like an expert.
00:53:28.000Consequently, I wound up becoming a pretty good guest, although my appearance on your program might lead some to conclude otherwise, but I'm... No, you're like a vampire.
00:53:47.000And so what happened on Dirty Jobs was I realized that I could function as a guest instead of a host.
00:53:54.000And once the show blew up, I suddenly became a guy who was really all about managing expectations.
00:54:01.000So all I had to do on that show, we never shot a second take, there was no real pre-production, there was certainly no writing and acting and scripting and any of that stuff.
00:54:09.000It was truly, my crew were flies on the wall, documenting the day that I had in all 50 states many times over.
00:54:18.000And so people began to know me as a dude who simply tried.
00:54:49.000But I do think there's an authenticity about you, that you seem earnestly interested in learning.
00:54:54.000When I was watching Dirty Jobs, for example, it was something where I felt as though I was learning along with you.
00:54:59.000And when I first met you in person, and I was just talking with Anthony Comea about this the other day, I didn't grow up in the conservative movement.
00:55:06.000I was a comedian, and we didn't get Fox News, we didn't get AM radio.
00:55:09.000So when I was at Fox, I didn't really know many people.
00:55:13.000I hadn't really seen most of these folks, but I did know Anthony Comea.
00:56:09.000And you said, You did that documentary on Detroit, and you said, Steven Crowder, yeah!
00:56:16.000And then you started speaking with me about what you liked from that piece of content that I'd created, and you took some time there, and that's not very common.
00:56:24.000The only other celebrity I can say who did that was when I was young, John Candy.
00:56:29.000He took some time to do Home Alone lines with me when I was about six years old.
00:56:33.000So it seems like you take a genuine interest in people, but do you also have an abnormally efficient memory?
00:57:13.000Short-term, I can create the illusion of genuine interest and curiosity.
00:57:20.000I mean, I'm just completely honest, when I'm kind of out there working, that it's all about random access.
00:57:28.000It's not about long-term hard drive stuff.
00:57:30.000But, your piece on Detroit was really interesting to me because I grew up in Baltimore.
00:57:36.000And Detroit and Baltimore are A lot like the people that I featured on Dirty Jobs.
00:57:42.000They're unsung, they take it in the neck more often than not, and they're waiting for somebody either to make a persuasive case for their existence, or at least give them a chance to put their best foot forward.
00:57:55.000So I thought you did that in a pretty refreshing way, and in some way, shape, or form, the people that I'm interested in, in our industry, in broadcast, find a way to make themselves subordinate to their guests.
00:58:35.000And you struck me as a guy early on who realized, you know, he was occupying a place in the food chain of content and trying to some degree to take the reverse commute, which is also something that's important to me, too.
00:58:49.000It's not just about doing something great.
00:58:51.000I get the sense that you look around and see where everybody's going and then say, well, okay, but wherever they're going, who cares?
00:59:15.000I want to, of course, let everyone know your book, The Way I Heard It, and the podcast.
00:59:20.000And we'll go to off air and kind of talk a little bit more, some inside baseball and broadcasting.
00:59:23.000But let me ask you this, because so many people have seen so much of your content out there, Mr. Mike Rowe.
00:59:28.000What would you want your lasting, if you had to pick one, your lasting impact, if you wanted to leave people with one concept or message from what you've done, is there something that you really think you'd like to be known for?
00:59:39.000Because sometimes it's tough when you've done many different, like Clint Eastwood is a good example.
00:59:42.000Director, he's won Grammys I think, was it Honky Tonk Man?
00:59:46.000Actor, same with you, what would you want to be remembered for?
00:59:50.000Yeah, people confuse me with Clint Eastwood all the time.
00:59:54.000I would Well, from an entertainment standpoint, a couple of years ago, I read a letter that my mother wrote to me on Facebook.
01:00:04.000She's been writing me letters all her life.
01:00:06.000It's a story about how she lost her big blue purse at the Walmart.
01:00:10.000I read this thing on my kitchen table, and I posted it on Facebook, and then I went off to the wars, and I came back a few days later, and it had been viewed 128 million times.
01:00:22.000And for the first time in my career, I just had to laugh.
01:00:25.000That video was me like this, holding my cell phone and reading my mom's letter.
01:00:30.000And I reached a third of the country in a production that cost $0.0.
01:01:06.000And it was full of lessons and it reminded me a lot of stuff, of a lot of things that I had already learned but forgotten.
01:01:12.000So on the entertainment side, I'll go with a piece of random, accidental video inspired by my mom.
01:01:19.000On the earnest side, a foundation came out of Dirty Jobs called MicroWorks.
01:01:24.000We've given away over five million dollars in work ethic scholarships, and now we've got about eight or nine hundred people who have been trained in the business of learning a skill that's actually in demand.
01:01:34.000And if there's going to be a legacy from any TV project I've ever done, I can't imagine patting myself on the back any harder.
01:02:04.000We're a little loosey-goosey with the rule books.
01:02:06.000No, that's the same thing that happens with me.
01:02:07.000We have the studio, we have all these subscribers, and then I'll tape something on my phone, and it'll blow everything else out of the water.
01:04:21.000Thank you so much to Mike Rowe, by the way.
01:04:23.000Long, web-extended interview for those who haven't joined Mug Club, where we just sort of talk some inside baseball about what it means to be a man, some horror stories, and hosting crappy shows.
01:05:48.000Let me tell you though, I cannot express to you, as I grow older, the importance that I've learned when it comes to boundaries, and how important it is to set them.
01:05:58.000With finances, with work, with relationships, establishing them with others, and more importantly with yourself, it's about as important a practice as you can take on.
01:06:09.000You've got to do it before the imaginary boundaries get crossed.
01:06:14.000Which brings me to something that ties into that, and it's been bothering me for a while.
01:06:18.000This expression we hear a lot, and I heard two people kind of arguing about it in a debate, and it was just, it was awful.
01:06:24.000The expression, an eye for an eye, right?
01:06:25.000Now, I think some people just use that expression wrongfully so to justify acts of barbarism, and they want to disguise those acts as justice.
01:07:34.000It consists of, word of the day, word of the day, we need to get PJ back in here, boundaries, boundaries is what we're looking for, as firmly rooted in natural, thus human rights.
01:07:43.000But this whole expression we hear it all the time, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.
01:07:47.000I mean, it just doesn't even make sense on its surface.
01:07:50.000It's not both eyes being ripped out of the face, for both other eyes being ripped out of the face.
01:07:55.000That would be blind, an eye for an eye would, I mean, it would leave the world with some depth perception issues, at worst.
01:08:15.000It goes back to all of this due diligence and setting boundaries.
01:08:18.000The first group of people who use this example, an eye for an eye, they mistakenly use it to justify excessive use of force.
01:08:24.000A lot of people don't understand, and AudioWave, we were talking about this, that the context of an eye for an eye, biblically, was about actually putting limitations on the appropriate reactive measures to be taken.
01:08:35.000So contextually, again, context over content, an eye for an eye
01:08:40.000can be compared to a moral version of equal and opposite reaction.
01:08:45.000It's meant to convey that the response should measure an approximation, the action that required,
01:08:50.000that necessitated the response in the first place.
01:08:53.000So contextually, it's actually about setting boundaries.
01:08:56.000The second group of people who say an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind, well,
01:08:59.000they suffer from a lack of establishing boundaries.
01:09:58.000And more importantly, just as individuals in our personal lives, firmly establishing what it is that you will and will not do Firmly setting which lines people can and cannot cross, or you will or will not cross, about what is permissible, we can expand that to treatment of others in the United States.
01:11:53.000Maybe you're having a tough time in your marriage and you need to set a boundary on the language you're allowed to use.
01:11:59.000Write that down there on that boundary.
01:12:01.000Once you set it, do not under any circumstances allow that boundary to be violated by yourself or by other people against you.
01:12:09.000It may sound trivial, but doing this is so important because everyone, all human beings have a limit.
01:12:16.000We all have a line in the sand that can't be crossed, and we need to be honest with ourselves and everyone else that that line, what it may be, regardless of how uncomfortable it is.
01:12:26.000Because if you don't have that conversation with yourself, and if you don't set these boundaries, if you don't draw that line in the sand ahead of time, you will be, I guarantee you, the last to know that it's been crossed.
01:12:36.000And at that point, it's often too late.
01:12:39.000The good news is it's easily preventable.