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00:01:26.000Johnny Boy, the guy who works with us, he used to go in high school and put all of the weight on the peck deck to show how strong he was until he tore his peck because he was very ill-advised to use an isolation machine for maximal strength.
00:03:58.000Specifically, which host do you think stacks up the best without a massive staff and audience, laughter accused?
00:04:04.000Colbert, Camel, Noah, B, who do you think Silver lining here, silver lining, obviously we're not happy about the coronavirus, no one here is, we're not saying that, but the silver lining is that it has exposed late night hosts and wannabe late night hosts on CNN, on the most trusted name in news.
00:04:28.000Just for the, I wouldn't say talentless, but the lazy hacks that they are.
00:04:34.000And that's why we're trying to do things a little bit differently here.
00:04:37.000We see that all of these folks who have all this staff, all this budget, they're just broadcasting from their bathtub now.
00:04:50.000And try to make sure that you aren't just left out in the cold because Colbert can't find it within him as he shuffles past the 15 million annual salary to find a microphone that he could use to broadcast.
00:06:25.000People who haven't performed, we've had this struggle quite a bit when people are taking part in sketches here, because a lot of people here aren't actors, and we're kind of fitting them in.
00:06:31.000If they've performed in rooms, for example, or in a green screen room that's supposed to take place outside, where people sort of talk like this, and I go, no, no, listen, people don't see you in a studio in a green screen room.
00:06:39.000They're going to see you outside in a forest, or they're going to see you in a crowded mall.
00:06:43.000That's what we're doing with the green screen.
00:07:08.000For a reference point, by the way, while we're talking about this, a single episode of Trevor Noah's show has 21 writers, 14 producers, cast members, technical crew, all that.
00:07:17.000When you look at the entire staff of a show like Colbert's, you're talking about over 100 people.
00:07:22.000And the budget these shows have, tens of millions of dollars.
00:07:48.000It's not like this should have caught them off guard, right?
00:07:50.000I mean, they knew that something like this was coming with the coronavirus out there, and they didn't have a technical team that said, hey, give us half a day.
00:08:40.000But it is remarkable to me, and I understand this idea of social distancing, but why can they not set up a home studio or at least just get a mic?
00:08:52.000The closest thing we have in Late Night is Hurricane Sandy that pushed through and they recorded to basically empty audiences for a couple of nights.
00:08:59.000I think Jimmy Fallon did, Dave Letterman did.
00:09:02.000Dave Letterman did a show that was basically much more just sort of interactive between him and Paul, basically making fun of the fact that there was no audience there.
00:09:10.000It was funny that the jokes fell flat and he was like, basically, it's like, you know, shame there aren't 500 people here to listen to this quality television.
00:11:35.000It's the best show she's done in a while.
00:11:36.000Well, because no one's watching, is what I'm saying.
00:11:38.000It's an improvement because if a horribly unfunny diversity hire screams alone in a forest... So, as their production value has gone down, and they don't respect their audience, We adore you.
00:12:06.000Now this is a strange night for us, not only because this is my first time hosting a talk show, because we're doing it without a regular studio audience.
00:12:14.000Due to public health concerns over the coronavirus, we've cancelled the studio audience tonight.
00:14:48.000Whether you agree with President Trump or not, by every available metric, it's going to be a funnier show with Donald Trump than it's going to be with Joe Biden.
00:14:57.000If you agree with him or if you don't, he's way funnier than him.
00:15:35.000It's what the people want if it's conversational with someone interesting.
00:15:39.000This is another problem with every time Dick and Harry has a podcast.
00:15:41.000Like, man, we just let the mics, and we just talk.
00:15:44.000OK, but there should be a selection process before that.
00:15:48.000I don't think that there should be gatekeepers in media, because we've talked about this.
00:15:52.000Of course, I'd never be able to host on any main network, and of course, conservatives just told me for a long time that conservatives don't like comedy.
00:15:58.000So we started doing this show, and thank God we found you, and we are supported not by a foreign caliphate, but you with the mugs.
00:16:33.000But I don't think they have the motivation because they've been surrounded by sycophants their whole lives, or at least for the last decade.
00:16:40.000Yeah, well, and they all act as if it's this clever, interesting take on things, but everybody's doing the same thing.
00:18:18.000If Stephen King wants to talk about some sinister plot, some world order, some global conspiracy, how about the people who lied about the virus in the first place and killed the guy who tried to blow the whistle?
00:18:30.000Couldn't that deserve a few pages in there?
00:18:33.000Couldn't you include it in the foreword?
00:18:39.000That's right, he writes them as he goes, and he doesn't know how they end, which is why he's done nothing good outside of the Shawshank Redemption and potentially the Green Mile.
00:18:45.000Prison, really, that's where he belongs.
00:18:55.000Well, listen, we've thrown out rule of law.
00:18:57.000We've thrown out individual rights and freedoms right now because everyone wants to give it up because of a cough at this point with a mortality rate of under 1%.
00:19:45.000How long have you been holding on to that?
00:19:47.000I haven't been holding on to a whole lot, but when I see him looking like an angry lesbian salon artist, it makes me... It just brings it out of you.
00:19:54.000And this is... He did look partly dead in that scene.
00:20:02.000He looked like every... I knew... When I would know angry middle-aged French-Canadian lesbians, they all had that gray hair with kind of the bangs that came over, like, here, like the little colic.
00:20:10.000And it should be noted, too, that he's very feminine.
00:20:30.000Flip through CNN, Fox News, ABC, NBC, CBS, all the late night shows, and tell me who you think is doing the best job adapting right now.
00:20:38.000This is important because it's not the strongest animal that survives.
00:20:41.000It's the animal who can most effectively adapt.
00:20:44.000And we've consistently tried to do that and be ahead of the curve, not because we're afraid of going away, but because we really do live to serve you guys.
00:20:51.000We always think, hey, listen, we have been supported from the ground up from viewers.
00:22:48.000That being said, if you need a doctor for whatever reason, if you are thinking of anything, any kind of help that would require the help of a medical professional, of course I am not qualified to dispense that sort of advice or prescriptions.
00:24:40.000She told everyone that she fell while leaning to pick up my child, knocking my child over in the process.
00:24:50.000However, another relative from my side of the family witnessed her fall and said she was holding my child, who was 11 months old.
00:24:55.000My mother-in-law is 300 pounds and is not allowed to watch my children.
00:24:59.000After two years of safety issues, poor discipline, and a general disrespect for my husband and me as parents, my relative does not know any of this and has no reason to lie.
00:25:07.000She brought me my crying child and did say that my mother-in-law fell on my child immediately after the incident.
00:25:14.000I am unsure if there was another witness to the incident and do not want to bring this to everyone's attention because I have not told my husband.
00:25:21.000Do I bring this to his attention or just let it go?
00:25:24.000Her holding my child explains how she injured herself so badly.
00:25:28.000But do I gain anything by bringing this to light or will it just upset my husband?
00:25:32.000Keep in mind she guilt trips him all the time about not being allowed to watch her kids.
00:26:40.000I would just explain if she's a danger to your children, she can't be around your children.
00:26:45.000Or, you know what, maybe split the difference, and she can hold your kids if you're supervising.
00:26:50.000Cause that is something important to her.
00:26:51.000She does want to have, and maybe if she has a problem with you and your husband, um, she may not have a problem with your kids and she could be a great grandma.
00:28:50.000You still need to be looking out for the safety of the child and the parents still have the right to make those calls for the same reason if you're a heroin addict and you're a grandparent, you don't get to be in the children's life.
00:28:59.000Sometimes the parents have different standards than you do.
00:29:01.000Sometimes the parents want to raise your children differently than you do.
00:29:03.000That is their, whether it's right or wrong, and in this case I'm not saying that the parents are wrong, but sometimes they can be wrong, that still is their right and you have to make do as a grandparent.
00:29:26.000But it is the parent's job to set boundaries and let you know what is and what is not okay.
00:29:31.000And in this scenario, not knowing all of the history, I mean, this is a physical danger to your child.
00:29:37.000Yeah, 300 plus pounds and having issues with falling and this isn't the first time and all that, I wouldn't do it.
00:29:43.000Now that being said, you also have to be objective.
00:29:46.000If this is a 300 pound woman who wants to hold your baby while she's sitting and you're in the room, if you're not comfortable with it, that's no longer a safety issue because if she's sitting, she has good base, okay?
00:29:57.000She's not, she's, it's no longer a physical danger.
00:30:58.000Is there a chance you all can really expand on the spiritual aspect of things?
00:31:03.000My father was cremated, unfortunately.
00:31:04.000That's a totally different family issue, but his ashes stay on my nightstand.
00:31:07.000I am nearing 30, have three children, and nobody seems to be able to accept, acknowledge, Or be able to help me move on during my darkest days.
00:31:14.000I often feel like I'm dying without him to be with him.
00:31:35.000I think it's been almost a decade since that, based on some of the stuff that I saw in the letter that I didn't read, I think it's almost about a decade since that happened.
00:31:42.000I don't know that you ever fully recover, but you obviously move closer and closer to getting some kind of normal, maybe a little bit of a new normal.
00:31:50.000As far as talking to your dad as though he's still present and in the room, there are a lot of times where I think they can be very helpful to to think like that.
00:32:00.000But then I also think that there are some times where that can be somewhat detrimental.
00:32:04.000It keeps you focused on maybe the past a little bit more and not really living in the present
00:32:12.000To be, you are that person to them only in the mother role.
00:32:15.000And so I think sometimes it can be a little bit detrimental to hang on to those things.
00:32:20.000There's a period of mourning that we have to go through and a period at which we kind of have to move on.
00:32:25.000And that's where you get a lot of that healing from when you move on into the normal things of life without forgetting the past and without rejecting it, but putting it in its proper place and saying, I'm honoring the memory of this person.
00:32:41.000I'm sowing into my children and the situations that I'm in and the friendships that I have.
00:32:44.000So if it ever gets in the way of that and keeps you from moving on, especially you said you have some really, really dark times, I think it would be helpful to continue through the rest of the process and not stay where you are in the process.
00:33:16.000I don't think he's busy listening to every word you're saying.
00:33:20.000Yeah, I don't know that there's any scripture that tells me that people that we are family members with can hear and see what's going on in our lives.
00:33:33.000You can't communicate with the dead or anything like that.
00:33:35.000As far as what kind of view you have from the mezzanine up there on what's going on down here, I have no idea, but I'm assuming it's not that your focus is on earth.
00:33:44.000That's a great focus to have up there.
00:33:45.000I don't, yeah, as far as from a spiritual basis, I see a lot to not only suggest but flat out tell you, as a Christian, that you cannot communicate with anyone who is dead.
00:34:34.000When people say a second father, I don't think there would have been more than two days that went by that I didn't see my grandfather for significant amounts of time every day.
00:35:00.000And when you remove the, and I say this respectfully, the selfish part of the equation, It's a good thing that your dad can't hear you, sweetheart.
00:35:10.000You don't want your dad looking down right now and seeing you in this much pain.
00:35:13.000What could possibly be more torturous for your dead father than looking down and seeing you miserable, unable to do anything because he can't communicate with you?
00:35:22.000It may make you feel better, but that would be horrible.
00:35:25.000That would be like ripping the heart out of your dad's chest.
00:35:29.000So thank Christ, and I mean thank Christ, in that he is very clear that you cannot communicate to the dead, and that when you get to heaven, you are not longing for anything of this world.
00:35:40.000And here's the thing, that's a good thing.
00:35:41.000That's a good thing that that's the case, because guess what?
00:35:44.000As soon as your dad crossed over through those pearly gates, whether figurative or literal, If he were to long for anything of this world, it would be you.
00:35:53.000Because I'm sure that he loved you just like you love him.
00:35:56.000Right now, he is completely fulfilled and at peace, which I know is much harder for you, but it's not hard for your dad.
00:36:03.000So spiritually, your dad can't hear you.
00:36:05.000Your dad is not, and thank God, your dad is not having all of this sort of offloaded onto him, all of your emotions, because you're still dealing with the fleshly pain and the earthly concerns and desires and turmoil that really, he's long since left behind something else, too.
00:36:19.000There's a strong case to be made, and I had a pastor talk about this.
00:36:22.000I don't have the verses in front of me.
00:36:23.000In heaven, there isn't the same concept of time that we have here.
00:36:26.000So as far as your dad is concerned, you're walking through those gates at the same time.
00:37:22.000So this is a lot more difficult for you than it is for him.
00:37:25.000And so I think the best thing that you can do is, like you said, take the proper steps to moving on and start focusing on other people first.
00:37:33.000It sounds to me like you're a great mom that you care about your kids.
00:37:37.000It sounds to me like you have a great family.
00:37:39.000I mean, I would imagine that if your dad were here, that would be really important for him, for you to continue with that, not reach out to him.
00:37:47.000Well, and I think, too, you know, your dad would probably want that for you, right?
00:37:52.000Whenever your parents leave this earth, they want you to be able to function and to have a wonderful, joy-filled life with your family or whatever the situation may be with you.
00:38:03.000Like, what would my dad want me to do right now?
00:38:05.000Would he want me to be thinking about the past and living in pain from this situation?
00:38:09.000Or would he want me to remember the good things about the time that we had together and move forward and take some of the lessons that I learned and create a legacy that reflects on him as well as me?
00:38:22.000In those types of situations, especially at a young age that this person lost, I'm not super young, but young enough, pretty early, it's tough.
00:38:30.000But the best thing that you can do is to understand that's the goal.
00:38:34.000The goal of being a parent is to raise a child that can live on their own and have a good life, hopefully a life that is better than yours.
00:38:40.000That's what your dad would want you to do.
00:38:42.000This is one thing I will say, and this is just me going off on my own personal rant, so I appreciate you sending the email, it doesn't necessarily have to do with you, but it kind of is a narcissistic view of heaven.
00:38:50.000When people say, like, oh, I know my dad, or I know my aunt, or I know my son is smiling down on me, that's a pretty crappy heaven.
00:38:58.000Especially considering that this is supposed to be very temporary, by the way.
00:39:02.000This is, this is but a moment when you think about eternity.
00:39:05.000This is, this is very much second tier to what goes on there as far as your lifespan, as far as all of eternity, right?
00:39:12.000So, we're going to be designing from the ground up for heaven to be right.
00:39:16.000Here, right now, this is fall, and people have made all kinds of mistakes, and obviously we understand what the end of the world will, well, we don't understand fully what the end of the world will look like, but we understand there will be an end of the world and there will be a final day of judgment, but the point is, To think that heaven was created for this very temporary space known as Earth for people just to sit there and be like, what's going on down there?
00:39:34.000If anything, we can't, but we should be concerned with what's going on up there a whole lot more than they could care about what's going on down here.
00:39:41.000Yeah, it would be very bad to have a view from heaven to see all the pain on Earth.
00:39:46.000Yeah, that's like thinking the headliner should be watching every single warm-up act.
00:39:57.000And I'm sorry to hear of your loss, and I think that, listen, I think, you know, we only see a snapshot into people's lives here, so sometimes we can either see it as we're being blunt or we're being harsh or we're not.
00:40:08.000From what I read, it seems like you probably are a fantastic mother, and I think that focusing on that, and also, by the way, I would also test us on this.
00:41:30.000I understand the grieving process is different for every situation, but I also don't want it affecting our marriage or should I just continue to go take care of business myself?
00:42:06.000And that being said, if you go take care of it yourself, which one would presume there's probably some level of that, I don't think your wife would hold it against you rather than rubbing up against her leg.
00:42:55.000What she's looking for is her husband to be there and to say, look, I know that this goes beyond that.
00:42:59.000Now at a certain point, You guys do need to come together, right?
00:43:03.000Because it is good for a relationship not to be apart.
00:43:05.000Like the Bible says, okay, depart for a time, but not for too long, because that's a problem sometimes.
00:43:12.000Because eventually this guy could go to pornography, and we've talked about that in previous things.
00:43:16.000So anyway, I do think you need to, don't be selfish when it comes to sex.
00:43:20.000I know three weeks sounds like a long time, especially for somebody in y'all's age bracket that you listed, but understand that she's going through something difficult.
00:43:27.000Don't be selfish when it comes to sex, and I would also say this, women understand that you bear part of the responsibility as well.
00:43:33.000You cannot, if this is a pre-existing issue, obviously these are extreme circumstances where you had a death in a family, but I see a lot of women who think, well, especially, and I hate to say this, but especially in the church with conservative women, like, well, he should be able to control himself.
00:43:46.000You're playing with fire if you just, because you don't have a sex drive, you're not having sex with your husband, you know, going weeks without it.
00:43:52.000You are playing with fire, and you are deciding to try and use, whether knowingly or unknowingly, a biological function of a man.
00:44:01.000And by the way, this is also something how married couples become closer.
00:45:34.000In other words, if there's a mismatch here as far as your sexual expectations and you feel that maybe she's using this as an excuse, then that's an entirely different problem.
00:46:33.000No, we read a book that said something that we both thought was pretty interesting, where a couple, and it's a Christian-based book, and they said, look, if I go to my wife, and for some, for whatever reason, right, she's like, no, I'm not, I'm super tired, or just, I'm not gonna be able to because of, you know, whatever, I'm in my head, doesn't matter, whatever it is, they have a 24-hour rule, where they know that, okay, within 24 hours, Surprise sex at any time.
00:46:57.000No, but they've agreed for each other to say, look, this is an important enough part of our relationship where it's sacrificing one for the other.
00:47:03.000And so I understand that right now is a no, and that's totally fine.
00:47:07.000You have to have the ability to say that.
00:47:08.000But within 24 hours, unless the party that has approached says, you know what, look, I know we need a little bit more time.
00:48:48.000I think, by the way, this is something, full disclosure, women who are here, does anyone else have difficulty with Wake up sex, like, right in the morning.
00:48:56.000Difficult, you mean, like, it's difficult to do?
00:48:58.000It's far more difficult to get into it, to make it happen, immediately upon waking.
00:52:26.000Where it's a white South African and the other one is half black and you're trying to virtue signal like you're not racist, but really only a white South African.
00:52:32.000If she's tribal, though, I mean, this is a different story.
00:53:18.000What matters is the child in that case, right?
00:53:20.000Because you're saying, baby mama, so you have a child with this woman.
00:53:22.000So what matters is what's best for that child.
00:53:26.000And what's best is for you and the mother to be civil to the best of your abilities.
00:53:30.000Now that being said, If you can't be civil without completely abandoning all of your principles or everything that you stand for, that's not best for the child, either, because they're just going to see a weak-willed father who doesn't stand up for what's right.
00:53:41.000So it's not really that hard of a balancing act.
00:53:44.000You need to be respectful and honoring of the BM, as you call it.
00:53:47.000Let's probably stop with that abbreviation there.
00:53:50.000He said silent in his head, which I'm cool with.
00:53:55.000Unless your kid has ESP, in which case none of this applies to you.
00:54:01.000Honor the mother, respect the mother, make sure that you don't talk badly about the mother to your child, and make sure that your child sees an example of a good, strong father.
00:54:10.000Your child is going to be smart enough to see if you are a racist or not.
00:54:47.000If I just threw caution to the wind, I couldn't care less about the right thing.
00:54:52.000The most effective thing to do would be to simply Comment on Bernie Sanders in a very reasonable, but clearly loaded way.
00:55:01.000That might go over a child's head, but be caught perfectly in the catcher's mitt by your baby mama, and watch her flip out, and then to your daughter's... Wow.
00:55:27.000Make sure the kid sees you ensuring that the mother is respected by the child.
00:55:32.000Make sure that there's never any doubt in the child's mind that if there's a difference of opinion between the child or mom, that you will take the side of mom regardless of the new wife.
00:55:49.000So, what do you think will be most effective and what do you think is the right thing to do to make sure that your baby, your child, wants to spend more time with you and your current wife?
00:56:42.000A child doesn't necessarily know, they don't know anything about politics, and they don't necessarily know what's right, but they know how they feel.
00:56:50.000And so, do what's right and make sure that you find a way to frame doing what's right that feels as attractive, as magnetic to your child as possible.
00:57:03.000You want to be someone your child wants to be around, especially as they go into their teenage years.
00:57:08.000And they just happen to drop in, you know, socialism doesn't work every once in a while.
00:57:14.000And anybody who thinks it does is usually a pretty stupid person.
00:57:16.000This also may be a good spot, you know, if your wife, for example, if your current wife, who's from Africa, I don't know her political leanings.
00:57:24.000And I also don't know, does this person specify if their child is a boy or a girl?
00:57:28.000I said boy a minute ago, I don't know.
00:57:29.000But if the child is a girl, this would be a good thing for your wife to really become friends with.
00:57:33.000And your wife, by the way, is not burdened with all the same responsibilities of being the mother, because your child has a biological mother.
00:57:40.000So this is a scenario where your wife can kind of be a friend, right?
00:57:44.000Parents don't get to be buddies, but your wife kind of does.
00:57:46.000So your wife can be friends, of course, while obviously still having a respectful relationship and respect for authority, but your wife can be friends with this child and can also express what she was raised with in Africa and the corruption with those systems of government, speak to it firsthand.
00:57:59.000So these are conversations that can be had that don't need to feel like loaded sort of political indoctrination.
00:58:15.000They would ask me those questions and your wife may be a really valuable, sounds like she's a gem, may be a really valuable asset here because she doesn't have the same burdens associated with her as you do as a biological father.