Making Sense - Sam Harris - July 09, 2018


#132 — Freeing the Hostages


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Summary

Chris Voss was a hostage negotiator for the FBI for many years, and we spend most of our time talking about his experience in the field there, negotiating with terrorists and ordinary hostage takers and bank robbers. And then he has distilled some of the lessons he s learned from those extreme conversations for more ordinary ones. And he s written a book on negotiation titled, Never Split the Difference, Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on it. And he has lectured at many leading institutions, Harvard, MIT, and Northwestern, and perhaps most relevant to our conversation today, he was a Hostage Negotiator for the Federal Bureau of Investigations (B.I.I.) for twenty-five years. And now he s an expert in negotiation, and he s the founder and principal of the Black Swan Group, which consults with Fortune 500 companies about negotiation. He also teaches at the University of Southern California's Marshall School of Business and Georgetown University s School of business, and at Georgetown University's School of Law and Diplomacy, and has a Ph.D in negotiation from the Harvard Business School. He s a regular lecturer at the Harvard Graduate School of Diplomacy and the Harvard School of Economics and Political Science, and a regular contributor to the New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and the New England Journal of Negotiation. and the National Association of Negotiators. He s also the author of a book called, Negotiation as if your life depended on it . and a keynote speaker at Harvard University, Harvard Law School, and Harvard University. and Harvard Law, where he has been invited to speak at a number of events, including the Harvard, Yale, and MIT. to talk about his experiences, including a dinner party he attended with President John McCain. in 2015. with President Obama, and his new book, Never Split The Difference, which he recently wrote about negotiation as if you really do have to do it as if it s your job, not your life depends on it, not if it does. or if you do it because it's your calling. In this episode, he talks about how he got into the business and how he s found his calling to be a negotiator, and why it s not your job because it s his calling, not yours. after all, it s just a job you should do it and why he s a good one, not what you should be doing it in order to get good at it.


Transcript

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00:00:46.720 Today I'm speaking with Chris Voss.
00:00:49.360 Chris is an expert in negotiation.
00:00:52.220 He's the founder and principal of the Black Swan Group, which consults with Fortune 500
00:00:57.300 companies about negotiation.
00:01:00.220 He also teaches at the University of Southern California's Marshall School of Business and
00:01:04.900 at Georgetown University's School of Business.
00:01:07.400 He's lectured at many leading institutions, Harvard, MIT, and Northwestern.
00:01:13.180 And perhaps most relevant to our conversation today, he was a hostage negotiator for the FBI
00:01:18.000 for many years.
00:01:19.080 And we spend most of our time talking about his experience in the field there, negotiating
00:01:25.500 with terrorists and ordinary hostage takers and bank robbers.
00:01:30.800 And then he has distilled some of the lessons he's learned from those extreme conversations
00:01:36.920 for more ordinary ones.
00:01:40.140 And he's written a book on negotiation titled, Never Split the Difference, Negotiating as if
00:01:46.120 your life depended on it.
00:01:47.860 And now, without further delay, I bring you Chris Voss.
00:01:57.180 I am here with Chris Voss.
00:01:58.900 Chris, thanks for coming on the podcast.
00:02:00.840 Sam, my pleasure.
00:02:01.960 Sorry I made it so hard getting all my tech set up.
00:02:05.400 Not at all.
00:02:06.120 It's amazing we can do this remotely.
00:02:08.340 So let's just jump into your background because you have more than the usually fascinating background
00:02:15.260 for a podcast guest.
00:02:16.920 Thank you.
00:02:17.820 How is it that you became a hostage negotiator?
00:02:24.340 Okay.
00:02:25.820 All right.
00:02:26.380 So the pivot point in the FBI, because I was an FBI hostage negotiator, and you have to be
00:02:32.300 an FBI agent first to be an FBI hostage negotiator.
00:02:36.840 I was actually a member of the SWAT team.
00:02:38.880 I was on SWAT, FBI Pittsburgh, and I had a recurring knee injury, and I realized that
00:02:46.120 there was only so many times they could put Humpty Dumpty back together again.
00:02:50.320 I'd had my knee reconstructed for the second time.
00:02:53.740 And so then, before I blew it out entirely, I thought, you know, I talk to people every
00:02:57.460 day.
00:02:58.040 How hard could it be to talk to terrorists?
00:02:59.980 I could do that.
00:03:01.160 Is this the usual path to becoming a hostage negotiator?
00:03:05.420 Do they just draw from the ranks of existing law enforcement or, I guess, for the FBI, you
00:03:11.320 know, anyone who's in the rank and file?
00:03:14.060 Or do most people seek it out through a, in a very deliberate way, through a separate track?
00:03:19.220 It's a little bit more that people seek it out after becoming whatever law enforcement
00:03:25.380 agency they're in.
00:03:26.480 I mean, every law enforcement agency has additional specialties that if you get into it, there
00:03:32.140 might be something that attracts you.
00:03:33.840 And there are kind of four basic specialties and there are four basic real different types.
00:03:39.180 You know, negotiation is one of those.
00:03:42.420 And you can be a hostage negotiator with the FBI.
00:03:44.720 You can be a hostage negotiator with New York City Police Department.
00:03:48.160 So you got to be a law enforcement guy with that agency first.
00:03:52.280 And then if you find it, if it finds you, you know, whatever serendipity lines up and
00:03:58.320 hopefully it's, it's your calling.
00:04:00.160 And I originally thought SWAT was my calling and thank God I hurt my knee because negotiation
00:04:06.740 was better for me than SWAT ever was.
00:04:10.280 And SWAT was great.
00:04:11.760 How long were you a SWAT operator?
00:04:13.460 Probably two years, roughly.
00:04:16.320 I mean, I got on the Pittsburgh SWAT team actually before I'd actually gone to our SWAT
00:04:20.460 school, but there was a lot of local training with the Pittsburgh team.
00:04:24.700 And then plus I'd been a cop before.
00:04:27.040 So I was used to running around waving guns responsibly as opposed to not paying attention
00:04:33.360 to what you were doing.
00:04:34.280 So I was a Pittsburgh SWAT for about, about a year and a half, two years.
00:04:38.520 So you went from Pittsburgh SWAT to FBI SWAT or, or FBI negotiation?
00:04:46.320 Yeah, it's all confusing, right?
00:04:47.640 All right.
00:04:48.060 So Pittsburgh FBI office has its own office and they got their own SWAT team.
00:04:52.440 They got their own negotiation team.
00:04:53.940 Each field office, about 56 of them have their own teams, if you will.
00:04:59.020 And I had gotten transferred to New York in the interim and then, uh, worked to get on
00:05:04.780 the Pittsburgh, uh, New York hostage team.
00:05:08.300 And how many hostage negotiations were you involved in?
00:05:11.920 Is this the kind of thing you, you keep count of?
00:05:13.960 I would imagine it might be, well, Hey, yeah, you know, not just on a bedpost, right.
00:05:18.360 Um, or on, on the, uh, on the belt or the totem pole or wherever you want to put it.
00:05:22.460 But, uh, um, I was, while I was in New York, uh, I was involved in probably about off the
00:05:28.900 top of my head, three sieges, um, of varying sizes.
00:05:34.500 Fortune, fortunate for me, one of them was a bank robbery with hostages, which is really
00:05:38.780 a really extremely unusual event, uh, happens in the movies all the time in real life.
00:05:43.960 Bank robberies where hostages are taken and negotiations subsequently ensue are very rare.
00:05:49.420 It happens about, uh, it does once every 20 years in New York city, about the same amount
00:05:55.880 across the U S I mean, just rare.
00:05:57.700 Usually the bank robbers get away first.
00:05:59.740 Right.
00:06:00.160 Right.
00:06:00.400 So yeah, I'd, I'd been in one of those and a couple of, um, some fugitives in a, in a
00:06:07.460 high rise in Harlem, um, smaller situation in, uh, upstate New York.
00:06:14.860 Um, so that was a fair amount, relatively speaking.
00:06:19.240 Um, most negotiators don't get that many in an entire career.
00:06:22.080 I got them in, in just a couple of years.
00:06:23.520 And then when I became a full-time hostage negotiator at the FBI Academy Quantico, you
00:06:29.040 know, we started working stuff right and left.
00:06:30.780 And I probably worked counting the kidnappings I worked internationally.
00:06:34.540 My rough guess is no less than 150 situations around the world.
00:06:39.240 And can you generalize about the dynamics of a hostage negotiation or do they change radically
00:06:47.520 and maybe even totally invert depending on the context?
00:06:52.720 Cause I can imagine there are, I'm kind of thinking in international terms here where there
00:06:57.780 are countries where they routinely take hostages as a kind of, you know, cottage industry where
00:07:04.380 it's just, it's, it's not routine to kill the hostages and it's very routine to, to just
00:07:09.420 negotiate until you get some economic completion.
00:07:12.980 Whereas, you know, if ISIS is taking hostages now, we know all too well that it's, it's very
00:07:18.660 common to have them killed.
00:07:20.760 What can you say about the different kinds of situations people are in?
00:07:25.620 Yeah, great question.
00:07:26.860 I mean, um, so domestic U.S.
00:07:29.260 contains situation inside a bank, inside somebody's house, inside an apartment in Harlem.
00:07:34.380 You know, that resembles a family holiday dinner.
00:07:39.540 A guy gone terribly awry.
00:07:41.600 Lots of people upset, you know, past wrongs that other people have completely forgotten
00:07:47.600 about being thrown at people's faces.
00:07:50.200 You know, like all the, you know, every year there's, there's a movie out about a holiday
00:07:54.900 dinner at somebody's house and with siblings mad at each other and parents trying to hold
00:07:58.740 it all together.
00:07:59.320 That's, that's, that's a little more common, uh, contained situation, if you will.
00:08:05.040 Uh, very much as you, uh, observed, uh, international kidnapping mostly is a commodities business.
00:08:11.200 Commodity cold heartedly happens to be human beings.
00:08:15.100 And there's perception in reality.
00:08:17.860 Perception is people get killed all the time.
00:08:19.840 Even with ISIS reality, it's a financial transaction.
00:08:25.260 You know, ISIS, their commodity was a lots of different citizens and they got what they
00:08:31.280 could out of them, whether it be publicity or money.
00:08:33.760 They get, they get money for Western Europeans.
00:08:35.820 They get publicity for Americans, but there's always a commodity there.
00:08:38.980 The challenge is spotting what the commodity really is in any negotiation.
00:08:43.620 Yeah, well, that, that's an interesting point because with respect to international hostages,
00:08:49.060 even with a group like ISIS, you have the effect of the different countries' policies.
00:08:54.820 So we, we have a policy, if I'm not mistaken, that we don't pay ransom under any conditions.
00:09:01.640 And there were, there were a few well-publicized cases where the U.S. even made it illegal for
00:09:07.120 the families to pay ransoms.
00:09:09.100 Whereas these Western European countries, many of them routinely pay ransoms.
00:09:13.800 And so it, it becomes this, you become a very unlucky hostage if you are the American
00:09:18.360 among many Western Europeans.
00:09:21.260 I don't know if that's changed at all.
00:09:22.760 What, what is the, the current U.S. policy with respect to negotiating and paying ransom
00:09:28.900 for international hostages?
00:09:31.260 Well, the U.S. policy is all gray and that's why it's been reported so many different ways
00:09:36.400 in the media and there, and it was actually funneled back to the families improperly by
00:09:41.260 the wrong U.S. government officials.
00:09:43.100 I mean, there was, there was a bonehead at the, uh, and I'm happy to say it was a bonehead
00:09:48.380 at the National Security Council that was quoting it wrong the entire time.
00:09:52.780 You know, what nobody knew was that nobody from the Department of Justice ever told the
00:09:58.720 families it was illegal for them to pay ransom.
00:10:00.800 And the Department of Justice, people responsible for prosecution, uh, the National Security Council
00:10:06.880 Bozo was not responsible for prosecution and was ultimately essentially relieved of his
00:10:12.700 position because he handled the family so badly.
00:10:15.220 Um, what does all that mean?
00:10:17.280 What all that really means is the U.S. doesn't make concessions.
00:10:21.420 Um, and there's, there's some real fine nuancing to that, but there is room to allow ransoms
00:10:29.540 to be paid, but the U.S. government officials aren't always smart enough to know that.
00:10:34.880 Um, the issue is what's the long-term consequences as opposed to the short-term expediency.
00:10:40.780 And of course, there's the way the Europeans do it and, you know, they back up to the hostage
00:10:46.120 takers strongholds with truckloads of money and dump it all out on them, which makes it
00:10:51.400 far worse for the rest of the world.
00:10:53.880 And, and that's what, what turned it into chaos.
00:10:56.060 I mean, all the Western European nations are famous for showing up with suitcases, if not
00:11:01.200 truckloads of money for hostages.
00:11:02.900 And that, that's where things really get, really get out of control.
00:11:05.760 Yeah.
00:11:05.780 So what should the policy be in your view?
00:11:08.620 Because yeah, it's easy to see how we would be creating this industry by rewarding it so reflexively.
00:11:18.720 And yet when you are in a specific situation where, you know, especially if it's your loved
00:11:24.440 one who's hostage, you can imagine that there's just this moral and psychological imperative
00:11:30.860 to just pay at any cost where, and you really don't care about the, the external effects
00:11:35.880 of creating higher risk for other people in the future.
00:11:39.700 What do you think if we could get everyone on the same page with respect to how to treat
00:11:44.200 these situations, everyone being all the relevant countries, what should people do?
00:11:49.020 Well, you know, the best analogy, um, is the bank robbery analogy.
00:11:53.920 We give bank tellers bait money and that way you give the bank robber a little bit of money.
00:12:01.100 Uh, the money's marked and the bank robber gets his money and he leaves.
00:12:06.660 I didn't even know that.
00:12:07.480 Is this widely reported?
00:12:09.140 Or I just, or I just haven't watched the right movies.
00:12:11.320 All bank tellers have money that they can just hand over.
00:12:13.960 All bank tellers have bait money and every single one of them.
00:12:19.260 And they're all trained.
00:12:21.300 Bank robber comes in a bank, you reach for the bait money, you hand them that money.
00:12:25.700 It's not worth losing the life of a bank teller over a couple of hundred, few thousand dollars.
00:12:32.720 So you save the bank tellers life.
00:12:35.580 The bank robber gets some of what he came in for.
00:12:38.740 He's scared.
00:12:39.240 He's rattled.
00:12:39.860 He just wants to take some money, take the money and run.
00:12:42.040 He gets the money and run.
00:12:42.900 Now the bait money's marked.
00:12:44.780 So the great thing about that is there's probably an exploding die pack inside the bait money.
00:12:49.400 And as soon as the bank robber steps out, it goes pout poof and it puts all sorts of
00:12:53.020 green dial over the bank robber.
00:12:54.680 But even if the die pack doesn't go off and he goes back to his hideout and he splits the
00:12:59.580 money up among his co-conspirators who didn't go to the bank, money's ridiculously easy to
00:13:07.300 trace, insanely easy to trace.
00:13:10.000 How is that?
00:13:10.720 I can't picture how it would be easy to trace.
00:13:12.360 Yeah, you know, it's only in the serial numbers.
00:13:14.980 I mean, it's in those of us that aren't in the business of tracing money.
00:13:19.480 We figure it's complicated because we don't keep close track of our money.
00:13:22.680 But ever since, you know, the U.S. Watergate days, the refrain was follow the money.
00:13:27.940 Well, it's follow the money because the money is insanely easy to follow.
00:13:31.340 You can follow it back.
00:13:33.420 You can find out, you know, who else had the money.
00:13:36.140 It actually is a great way to round up the entire gang instead of just, you know, the
00:13:43.280 guy that they thought was expendable enough to send into the bank to get the money for
00:13:47.180 everybody else.
00:13:48.080 So you can round up the whole gang if you follow the money.
00:13:51.440 And that's really where it comes down to.
00:13:53.660 There was a kidnapping in Ecuador in about 2000, the first time the U.S.
00:13:57.800 government tried this.
00:13:59.300 This kidnapping gang had been hitting oil platforms every year around October and had
00:14:03.940 been getting away with money because there's insurance money for kidnapping.
00:14:09.180 And the third time they hit it, unfortunately, an American was executed.
00:14:14.360 But then the U.S.
00:14:16.260 government decided, like, all right, so we're going to get behind this payment and we're
00:14:20.340 going to follow the money.
00:14:21.640 And what ended up happening, because it only takes about five or six guys to conduct the
00:14:25.220 kidnapping.
00:14:25.860 Well, they made the payment.
00:14:27.020 They followed the money.
00:14:28.160 They rounded up 50 people.
00:14:30.440 And they shut down the entire kidnapping gang.
00:14:33.320 And they never executed another kidnapping.
00:14:36.800 They never killed another person.
00:14:38.300 This was the first time the entire organization had ever been taken down.
00:14:42.300 It was incredibly successful.
00:14:43.640 Now, they didn't get all the money back.
00:14:46.280 But what they did was save countless lives on down the line by following the money and
00:14:53.240 taking out the entire gang of 50 instead of maybe taking five, you know, had they gone
00:15:00.320 on a rescue.
00:15:01.280 Maybe they'd have gotten three, four, five kidnappers.
00:15:04.240 The rest of them would have gotten away.
00:15:05.420 A lot of hostages would have got killed.
00:15:07.340 You know, the long-term solution is to be smarter than the bad guys.
00:15:11.440 And that's the way you're smarter than the bad guys.
00:15:14.580 Walk me back to the analogy from bank robbing to other hostage situations.
00:15:20.180 So what should be the international policy with respect to terrorist organizations?
00:15:25.340 Well, first of all, yeah, you go ahead and engage in the conversation.
00:15:30.800 The U.S. policy actually is explicitly stated these days that we shouldn't be afraid to communicate
00:15:36.060 with anybody.
00:15:36.940 We should, the old John F. Kennedy line, you should never be afraid to negotiate, never
00:15:41.000 negotiate out of fear, but never be afraid to negotiate.
00:15:44.340 So communicate.
00:15:45.920 The communication process becomes an intelligence gathering process.
00:15:49.400 You generate a lot of information.
00:15:51.340 You learn a lot about them.
00:15:52.660 You learn their, you profile them.
00:15:54.520 You learn their, their tendencies.
00:15:56.660 They tell you who they are inadvertently by their word choice.
00:16:01.120 You can narrow down where they're from, how old they are, where they grew up by their choices
00:16:04.800 of words.
00:16:06.360 And you talk to multiple people on the other side.
00:16:09.000 You gather a massive amount of information.
00:16:11.100 You actually give yourself a better chance to conduct a rescue if you engage in communication.
00:16:15.860 Then, you know, if you get into some bargaining, you bargain them down.
00:16:20.420 They want some money.
00:16:21.200 They want to take the money and run.
00:16:22.480 You find a way to make the delivery.
00:16:25.760 You gather information over the delivery.
00:16:28.000 You find out about how they pick up money, where they go, what they do with it.
00:16:32.360 You follow the money and you follow them back to their hideout.
00:16:35.140 You trace the money.
00:16:36.460 You find out where they're buying weapons.
00:16:38.120 You find out where they're buying bandages.
00:16:39.840 You find out where they're buying beer.
00:16:41.840 Whatever they're buying.
00:16:42.800 Who are they doing business with?
00:16:44.440 What's the illegal markets they're spending their money in?
00:16:46.800 Because they're buying weapons.
00:16:47.740 In some place, you want to know who they're buying them from.
00:16:50.500 You trace all the money.
00:16:52.400 You do a couple of month investigation.
00:16:55.120 You not only bring the kidnappers to justice, but you bring justice to their colleagues that
00:17:01.680 have been supporting them also.
00:17:03.520 It's long term.
00:17:04.900 It requires patience and it works.
00:17:07.040 But how does one trace money in these kinds of transactions?
00:17:11.580 I mean, for instance, I just walked into a market and used a $20 bill.
00:17:17.300 Had I gotten that from a bank robbery, I can only imagine that just disappears into the
00:17:22.920 economy without a trace.
00:17:24.660 That's what you imagine.
00:17:26.220 And that's why...
00:17:27.300 That's why I'm a bad bank robber?
00:17:28.700 The guys that do white collar round all these people up.
00:17:33.380 I mean, the greatest investigations in the world that...
00:17:35.740 Al Capone was taken down by a white collar investigation following the money.
00:17:40.360 Watergate was unraveled by following the money.
00:17:44.180 You know, our brothers and sisters in forensic accounting work magic on following the money.
00:17:51.520 The rest of us think it disappears into oblivion when we walk into a 7-Eleven and drop a $20
00:17:55.920 bill.
00:17:56.740 And that is not the case.
00:17:58.700 But how is it getting tracked?
00:18:01.200 So when the 7-Eleven sends their cash to the bank, it gets scanned as coming from the
00:18:06.680 7-Eleven?
00:18:07.300 All right.
00:18:07.540 So you want me to reveal to the bad guys right now that we're tracking their money?
00:18:11.160 Well...
00:18:11.680 I'm not going to do that.
00:18:13.280 I'll let you judge what's prudent here.
00:18:15.180 But it is interesting.
00:18:17.480 So we have different situations here.
00:18:20.220 So you talked about the highly personal hostage situation.
00:18:25.640 I mean, just a boyfriend taking his girlfriend hostage.
00:18:28.700 This is clearly a situation born of real emotional distress.
00:18:34.640 And I could imagine that has a very different character than the routine hostage taking overseas
00:18:42.920 done by people who do this all the time as a business.
00:18:45.800 Do they require radically different approaches?
00:18:49.200 Or can you generalize about the commonalities between those situations?
00:18:54.140 No, it's a great question.
00:18:56.060 And the answer is every hostage negotiation team in the world and every situation that they
00:19:02.380 approach, whether it be contained, emotional, or transactional kidnapping, they all use the
00:19:07.980 exact same aid skills.
00:19:09.280 Now, the commonality is there's going to be an emotion, and there aren't that many emotions.
00:19:15.960 Now, it's either going to be anger, it's going to be greed, it's going to be excitement,
00:19:19.340 it's going to be a sense of loss, it's going to be a fear of loss.
00:19:21.880 Daniel Kahneman, who won the Nobel Prize in behavioral economics, said that human beings
00:19:29.580 around the planet, regardless of situation, are most driven by fear of loss.
00:19:37.440 Not exclusively, of course, but most driven by fear of loss.
00:19:42.620 So this encompasses human behavior, it doesn't matter what it is, whether it's a kidnapping,
00:19:50.060 whether it's a bank robbery, whether it's a business transaction.
00:19:54.720 So human beings have the same basic set of emotions, and they're all driven from the caveman
00:20:01.000 days by the same survival instincts and fear of loss.
00:20:04.820 Fear of loss is the biggest single driver of human behavior globally, and I mean globally
00:20:11.880 by age, gender, ethnicity, or globally in terms of situations.
00:20:19.680 So you start with those rules, and then you begin to look for commonalities, you start to
00:20:23.820 find them really quick, regardless of whether or not it's a bank or it's a kidnapping.
00:20:28.060 Well, we'll get into the general principles that you've extracted here in a minute, and
00:20:32.140 these don't just apply to hostage negotiations, but to negotiations of any type.
00:20:37.520 But let's just talk about your experience in the trenches here a little bit more.
00:20:42.680 Are there any negotiations that stand out for you as far as having taught you the most
00:20:48.740 or having been the most intense or impactful on you?
00:20:54.460 Well, yeah, I mean, kind of try to learn from all of them, but let's go to the bank robbery
00:21:00.160 first, the bank robbery with hostages, Chase Manhattan Bank.
00:21:02.740 The ringleader in that group was a ridiculously controlling guy.
00:21:09.540 Interestingly enough, right on, you call into a bank, you expect the bank robbers to be upset,
00:21:14.880 concerned.
00:21:16.040 He actually said to the NYPD negotiator, who was the first negotiator on the phone with
00:21:19.960 him, he literally says to him, I'm the calmest one here.
00:21:23.140 He was a really manipulative guy.
00:21:28.940 Crazily enough, he exhibited the same negotiation approach as a really smart CEO.
00:21:37.400 He tried to diminish how influential he looked on a phone when he was talking on a phone with
00:21:44.240 us.
00:21:44.440 He was saying, yeah, it's not up to me.
00:21:45.920 There's a lot of other guys here, and they're more dangerous than I am.
00:21:49.680 They're the unreasonable ones.
00:21:52.400 He was in love with plural pronouns.
00:21:56.400 What's the guy who's in love with plural pronouns going to do?
00:21:59.640 He's trying to hide his influence, he or she, so that you don't pin him down at the table.
00:22:04.240 And this is what this guy did in the bank.
00:22:06.440 By the time I got onto the phone with him, I used a hostage negotiation technique that
00:22:10.580 we refer to as mirroring, which is just repeating what someone has said, kind of word for word.
00:22:15.500 Because he said stuff that startled me, and it's a great verbal reflex when you're caught
00:22:21.920 off guard, and it buys you a lot of time.
00:22:23.920 And the other side ends up just blurting stuff out that they wouldn't blurt out otherwise.
00:22:28.820 When I mirrored this guy, because I was asking him about the getaway van, and he said, we don't
00:22:36.860 have one van.
00:22:39.160 I said, you don't have one van?
00:22:40.540 He said, we have more than one van.
00:22:42.040 I said, you have more than one van?
00:22:44.740 He said, yeah, well, you chased my driver away.
00:22:47.120 Now, what he did when he said, you chased my driver away, he just roped in a third guy
00:22:51.100 that we didn't even know was involved in a bank robbery, which is, you know, he was so
00:22:57.060 controlled, he involuntarily blurted out admissions of guilt, not just on him, but on other people.
00:23:04.520 And we ended up rounding up the whole gang.
00:23:06.880 Everybody surrendered.
00:23:07.580 It took about 12 hours from start to finish, which is kind of par for the course when you
00:23:13.920 begin to understand a profile of situations, if you will.
00:23:18.400 And I learned a lot from that.
00:23:21.380 You know, once he realized that he'd voluntarily given us stuff that he wished he hadn't said,
00:23:27.360 he actually handed off the phone to another guy.
00:23:30.560 The controlling negotiator will get flustered.
00:23:32.700 They'll get frustrated, but they won't get angry in a way that damages the situation.
00:23:38.540 He got so frustrated and flustered, he just handed off the phone to his colleague who had
00:23:44.140 been manipulated into the situation.
00:23:46.700 I got that guy to surrender to me in about 90 minutes.
00:23:49.280 He met me outside the bank.
00:23:51.620 And when he came out, he admitted to everything that was going on, told us who was inside and
00:23:55.660 what was going on.
00:23:57.000 Then it was just a matter of time for us to continue to work our process and get everybody
00:24:01.680 out of line.
00:24:02.180 So is it common in these situations that you're able to exploit different levels of
00:24:08.480 commitment or different goals on the part of the people involved, the hostage takers?
00:24:13.780 Yeah, it's real common.
00:24:15.680 And you start out just sort of feeling your way through the situation, you know, looking
00:24:20.620 for gently for whatever thread you could get.
00:24:23.740 And then, you know, with a gentle sort of patient approach, you can unravel the situation
00:24:29.780 really easily and it works.
00:24:32.840 I mean, it just works consistently.
00:24:34.400 And if you work the process, you'll actually negotiate through the entire situation with
00:24:39.480 patients faster than you will by being in a hurry.
00:24:43.440 There were a few cases in your book where you essentially give the blow by blow for some
00:24:48.300 of these negotiations where it's a family who is in the loop with, I guess, the FBI in this
00:24:56.040 case, and you're trying to negotiate the price down.
00:25:01.200 This is not a bank robbery, but some international hostage kidnapping.
00:25:05.480 Kidnapping, yeah.
00:25:06.420 In a situation where the initial demand is so sky high that no one involved could possibly
00:25:13.840 pay it.
00:25:14.340 I sort of understand it.
00:25:15.480 But at a certain point, it must begin to seem unethical to be driving a hard bargain in dialogue
00:25:23.820 with someone who is threatening to kill or dismember your loved one.
00:25:29.280 I mean, what is the point of, you know, when you, you know, get it down to whatever it is,
00:25:34.020 $50,000 that the family can pay, to be driving it lower than that?
00:25:39.280 I mean, some of these negotiations that you detailed continued past the point where I thought,
00:25:43.780 okay, this seems like it's just raising the risk to the hostage.
00:25:47.900 Yeah, great questions.
00:25:50.620 I mean, some of the issues of ethics, morality, any negotiations?
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