Making Sense - Sam Harris - April 29, 2020


#200 — Creatures of Habit


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James Clear is the author of the book Atomic Habits, which has been repeatedly recommended to me over the years. It's an analysis of habit formation, and what it takes to discontinue bad habits and form good ones. In this episode, we talk about how James came to think about habits, and how he learned to break bad ones. And he tells the story of a near-death experience involving a baseball bat and a broken nose that changed the course of his life, and led him to believe that habits are the key to becoming a better human being. He talks about how he re-learned how to form new ones, and the challenges he faced when he had to rebuild his life after being hit in the face with a bat by a classmate's baseball bat in a baseball accident. He also shares how he managed to get back on the field and resume playing baseball at a high school he had never even thought about playing before the accident, even though he couldn t remember much of what happened the day before it happened. If you want to learn more about habits and habits, you ll have to listen to this episode of The Making Sense Podcast by talking to James Clear, who is an expert at breaking bad ones and breaking good ones, which is a skill that can be taught to us by anyone who has ever had to do it. Thanks to Sam Harris for coming on the show, and for being willing to share his story and share it with us! making sense of it all. Thanks also to the people who helped him make it all happen. and for supporting the podcast and making it all the best he can be heard on the best possible way he can do it, no matter where he can get it even if he can, no questions asked or not thanks to you can t do it . thank you, Sam Harris, and thank you for being a good friend Thank you for listening, and thanks for listening and supporting if you re listening and sharing you re making sense, and you re good enough, thank you Thanks, and good day to you're listening, good day, good morning, and Good morning and good night, good night bye, bye bye bye Sarah, bye, and bye, Bye Bye, bye. - MYSELF, MRS. - Sarah - Sarah, Caitlyn, Elyssa


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00:00:47.860 Okay, today I'm speaking with James Clear.
00:00:51.320 James is the author of the book Atomic Habits, which has been repeatedly recommended to me.
00:00:57.440 Many of us go through life aspiring to acquire good habits and aspiring to lose bad ones,
00:01:05.780 and we treat that process as though it were fundamentally mysterious.
00:01:12.220 But, as it turns out, some people have thought a lot about habit formation, and James is certainly
00:01:18.420 one of those people.
00:01:19.640 So I wanted to get him here on the podcast to talk about it.
00:01:22.440 So, really, anything you want to accomplish in life that depends on your behavior, in
00:01:29.800 any sense, is almost entirely dependent on the kinds of habits you can form, whether they're
00:01:37.760 around work, or diet, or fitness, or relationships, or a practice like meditation.
00:01:45.060 It's really all a matter of acquiring good habits.
00:01:50.200 And now I bring you James Clear.
00:01:57.520 I am here with James Clear.
00:01:59.360 James, thanks for joining me.
00:02:01.080 Hi, Sam.
00:02:01.500 Good to talk to you.
00:02:02.580 So you wrote this book, Atomic Habits, that was recommended to me many, many times before
00:02:08.240 I picked it up, it's a great analysis of habit formation and what it takes to discontinue
00:02:17.140 bad habits and form good ones.
00:02:20.240 And there's a lot of detail here that I want to get into, but you have an interesting personal
00:02:26.360 story of how you came to this.
00:02:28.560 You really, you had an experience of having to rebuild your life in an impressive way.
00:02:34.380 But maybe we should start there.
00:02:36.040 How did you come to think about habits and how was this forced on you by the whims of
00:02:44.120 chance?
00:02:45.740 Right.
00:02:46.760 Well, I grew up in a family that played a bunch of different sports.
00:02:51.360 My dad was a professional baseball player.
00:02:53.480 He played in the minor leagues for the St. Louis Cardinals.
00:02:56.240 And I played a variety of things growing up and sports played a big part in my childhood
00:02:59.940 until I was about 16 and the final day of my sophomore year of high school, I suffered
00:03:06.660 this very serious injury where I was hit in the face with a baseball bat.
00:03:10.300 And it was an accident.
00:03:12.000 A classmate of mine took a swing and the bat slipped out of his hands and sort of rotated
00:03:15.660 kind of helicopter style through the air and struck me right between the eyes.
00:03:19.560 So broke my nose, broke the bone behind my nose, your ethmoid bone, which is like fairly
00:03:24.700 deep inside your skull.
00:03:26.160 Shattered both eye sockets.
00:03:27.440 I looked down, I had spots of red and blood on my clothes.
00:03:31.380 I had one classmate who literally took the shirt off his back and gave it to me to kind
00:03:34.720 of plug up the blood coming from my broken nose.
00:03:37.540 And I was sort of unaware of how seriously I had been injured.
00:03:41.540 You know, everybody's running over to me.
00:03:43.260 We kind of started making the long march down back into the high school.
00:03:47.080 We were on this field outside of the school.
00:03:49.700 And I got to the nurse's office and started to answer questions, but I didn't answer them
00:03:54.020 very well.
00:03:54.500 And I think the third question they asked me was, what's your mom's name?
00:03:58.780 And that took me about 10 seconds to answer.
00:04:00.640 And that was the last thing that I remember.
00:04:02.260 So the swelling in my brain got to the point where I lost consciousness, you know, taken
00:04:06.960 out of the high school on a stretcher, went to a local hospital.
00:04:10.260 When we got there, I started to struggle with basic functions like swallowing and breathing.
00:04:15.000 A couple minutes later, I lost the ability to breathe on my own.
00:04:17.460 So they had to intubate me.
00:04:19.720 Nurses are pumping breast into me by hand.
00:04:22.140 Around that time, I had my first seizure of the day.
00:04:24.760 I'd end up having three more.
00:04:27.160 And so the doctors conferred and decided it was too serious to handle at the local hospital.
00:04:32.080 So they had to air care me to a larger facility.
00:04:34.520 So my mom came with me on the helicopter.
00:04:38.200 I'm unconscious at this point.
00:04:39.660 She holds my hand the whole way down.
00:04:41.060 We fly to this larger hospital in Cincinnati and we land on the roof of the hospital and
00:04:46.420 a team of, I don't know, a dozen doctors and nurses come out, wheel me into surgery,
00:04:50.540 take my mom off to a waiting room where she meets back up with my dad.
00:04:53.300 And as I was getting ready to undergo surgery, I had another seizure.
00:04:58.760 And so I guess they decided that I was too unstable at that time.
00:05:01.680 So they placed me into a medically induced coma.
00:05:04.340 And around this time, a priest comes up to my parents and actually this particular facility,
00:05:09.700 this particular hospital, they were familiar with it because about a decade before my sister
00:05:15.040 had been diagnosed with leukemia at the age of three.
00:05:17.480 And this was the same hospital where she had received her chemotherapy treatment.
00:05:21.180 So it turns out it was the same doctor, uh, or the, sorry, the same priest that had met
00:05:26.200 with them a decade prior that they also talked to that day.
00:05:29.880 Thankfully, the story, you know, has a, a good ending.
00:05:32.560 So I spent the next day in that medically induced coma about 24 hours later, my vital signs
00:05:39.060 had stabilized to the point where doctors decided to release me from the coma.
00:05:42.620 So I wake back up and, um, the process of healing sort of begins.
00:05:46.640 And this, the reason I tell this story, the reason I think it's related to the
00:05:51.100 discussion we're having now is this was a time in my life, you know, all humans have
00:05:56.200 habits.
00:05:56.540 I mean, we're building them from the time that we're born, but this was the first
00:06:00.240 time when my hand was forced and I had to start small.
00:06:03.320 Uh, you know, I didn't have a choice.
00:06:04.700 I couldn't just flip this switch and go back to the normal, young, healthy person that I
00:06:08.700 was before.
00:06:09.820 All I really wanted was to get back on the baseball field, get back to, you know, living
00:06:13.920 my normal life.
00:06:14.740 But my first physical therapy session, I was practicing basic motor patterns, like
00:06:19.360 walking in a straight line.
00:06:20.660 Uh, I couldn't drive a car for the next nine months.
00:06:22.880 I had double vision for weeks.
00:06:25.180 And so I started by just doing these small, simple things that almost now, like, as I
00:06:30.400 talked to you now, it almost seems insignificant.
00:06:31.960 You know, like I went to bed at the same hour each night or prepared for class for an hour
00:06:36.760 each day.
00:06:38.220 This is the first time in my life after physical therapy was done that I started training consistently
00:06:43.240 in the gym.
00:06:44.040 So, you know, first once or twice a week, and then eventually three or four times.
00:06:48.060 And they were small habits, but they gave me a sense of control over my life again, something
00:06:53.040 I felt like had been ripped away.
00:06:55.480 And so gradually I started to build confidence, rebound, recover.
00:07:01.100 I never ended up having a successful high school baseball career.
00:07:04.360 I got, was the next year when I went out for the team, I was cut.
00:07:07.300 It was the only junior to be cut from the varsity team.
00:07:09.720 Senior season, I made the team, barely got to play.
00:07:11.860 But I did manage to kind of weasel my way into a college team and continue to build those
00:07:17.000 small habits and get better.
00:07:18.720 And so my freshman year, I came off the bench.
00:07:21.400 Sophomore season, I was a starter.
00:07:22.880 Junior year, I was a team captain.
00:07:24.180 And my senior season, I ended up being named the Academic All-America team, which is about
00:07:28.540 30 players around the country.
00:07:31.240 And, you know, I never played professionally, but I do feel like I was able to maximize my
00:07:35.380 potential and kind of make the most of the circumstances that were pushed my way.
00:07:40.540 And I think that's really kind of the lesson for many of us with habits and the role that
00:07:45.420 they play.
00:07:46.060 You know, I kind of broadly see three major pillars or things influencing our outcomes
00:07:51.740 in life.
00:07:52.240 I mean, you got luck and randomness, which by definition is not under your control.
00:07:56.260 You have your habits, the behaviors that you practice and the actions that you take.
00:08:00.480 And you have your choices, the strategy that you follow.
00:08:03.400 And you can't control luck and randomness, but if you can control the other two, if you
00:08:08.460 can make good choices and build good habits, then you can often kind of get luck to sort
00:08:13.160 of go your way.
00:08:13.860 You can increase your surface area for good things to happen, despite the randomness that
00:08:19.120 comes along.
00:08:20.160 And that's kind of, I feel like the punchline of my story.
00:08:22.420 You know, I don't really know that there's anything legendary or heroic about it.
00:08:26.300 We all face challenges in life, and this was just one that I faced, but it did teach me
00:08:31.580 about the importance of small habits and how they can help you rebound from challenges if
00:08:36.120 you're willing to stick with them for months or years.
00:08:39.060 Was your ability to rebound obvious from the start, or was there a period where you kind
00:08:45.020 of tipped into depression or despair and took some significant period of time to even find
00:08:51.320 your way toward growing your way out of this predicament?
00:08:54.540 Well, the first thing I said when I woke back up and sort of was cognizant of what was going
00:09:00.280 on was, I never asked for this.
00:09:02.320 And I think a lot of people feel that way when challenges kind of come their way.
00:09:07.440 It's like, you know, why me or stuff like that.
00:09:09.780 So I'm sure that I did have a period where, you know, it was hard.
00:09:14.780 Looking back on it now, what I remember is trying to be very positive about it.
00:09:21.040 There's this interesting, I've been thinking about this more recently.
00:09:23.260 You maybe you've seen this in your own life as well.
00:09:26.120 There's this, they're like positive and negative feedback loops throughout life.
00:09:29.780 And there's this, this interesting thing where stuff kind of feeds on itself in either
00:09:33.560 direction, you know, like you're a little bit overweight and that makes you feel a little
00:09:37.680 depressed.
00:09:38.220 And so then you feel like sitting on the couch more and eating your feelings away.
00:09:41.580 And then you get more overweight and just kind of this downward spiral.
00:09:44.140 And then the same is also true on the upward side, you know?
00:09:48.160 And so I, for whatever reason, I think as I was rebounding from that, I tried to focus
00:09:53.380 on some small win, some little foothold that I could get to push off of and move the momentum
00:09:59.540 in a positive direction.
00:10:00.440 So maybe, you know, that first physical therapy session, that was something like, you know,
00:10:05.920 being able to successfully complete each exercise or to do the number of reps that were prescribed
00:10:10.720 from the physical therapist or whatever.
00:10:12.300 But that is a very small, tiny thing, but gave me a little foothold and I could use that
00:10:17.760 to propel a little momentum into the next thing.
00:10:20.080 And it weirdly, if you're, if you're willing to do that, if you're willing to look at life
00:10:24.220 that way and to continue to try to drive that momentum, you do sort of get this flywheel
00:10:29.000 effect over the course of a couple of years.
00:10:31.460 And pretty soon you're almost surprising yourself by what you're doing.
00:10:35.040 And I think that small habits do sort of compound on each other in that way.
00:10:39.900 I'm struck by the fact that many of us don't spend a lot of time thinking about habits
00:10:44.980 per se, but we think about our lives.
00:10:47.960 We think about our relationships.
00:10:48.940 We think about our health, our finances, our careers.
00:10:51.940 There's the distance between our moment to moment experience and the experience we imagine
00:10:59.100 we want in life.
00:11:01.200 And when you look at that distance, when you look at the quality of any aspect of our lives,
00:11:06.200 we are quite obviously inheriting the consequences of our habits moment to moment.
00:11:12.700 And yet it's, I mean, often it's once a year.
00:11:15.060 It's at the New Year's resolution moment that people think about actually getting behind
00:11:20.220 themselves and pushing to change something they're doing in their lives or not doing.
00:11:26.220 How do you think about a habit?
00:11:27.380 How would you define habit?
00:11:29.500 Well, there's a couple of different ways to define it.
00:11:31.420 The way that you would usually hear it defined is, you know, a behavior that's been repeated
00:11:35.520 enough times to be more or less automatic.
00:11:38.120 But I think there are a couple other interesting lines of attack or lines of explanation that
00:11:42.520 reveal a little bit more about it.
00:11:43.960 So they are these automatic, relatively mindless behaviors, almost like you're playing a cognitive
00:11:48.620 script.
00:11:49.200 You know, you like pick up your toothbrush and then you play the toothbrushing script or
00:11:52.540 you put your shoe on and you play the shoe tying script.
00:11:55.140 But another way to define a habit would be a behavior that is tied to a particular context
00:12:00.140 or environment.
00:12:00.800 So I think that's kind of interesting because it reveals that you cannot have a behavior outside
00:12:05.820 of an environment.
00:12:06.640 And habits are often heavily influenced by the environment that we're in.
00:12:10.920 So like your habit of watching Netflix might be tied to the environment of your couch at
00:12:17.460 7 p.m.
00:12:18.540 Or your habit of journaling each morning might be tied to the coffee shop across the street
00:12:23.160 at 10 a.m. or whatever.
00:12:24.800 And so those behaviors linked to the context around them.
00:12:28.200 I think that's another interesting way to think about it.
00:12:29.900 And then the third way, there's a researcher, behavioral economist too, I think his name
00:12:37.080 is Jason Rea.
00:12:38.120 And anyway, I like the way that he defined to have it.
00:12:40.480 He said something to the effect of they are solutions to recurring problems in your environment.
00:12:46.580 And I like that idea because you could imagine, for example, somebody comes home from work
00:12:52.140 and they're exhausted.
00:12:53.460 So you kind of have this recurring problem around, say, 530 each evening where you're feeling
00:12:58.600 sort of exhausted and stressed and tired from the day.
00:13:01.900 And the brain wants to come up with solutions and automate those as best as possible.
00:13:07.620 So one person might fall in the habit of playing video games for a half hour, and that's how
00:13:12.280 they do stress.
00:13:13.160 And another person might smoke a cigarette.
00:13:15.140 And a third person might go for a walk with their spouse.
00:13:18.400 And you can start to see that even though the underlying or root cause is the same or similar,
00:13:24.640 we can come up with very different solutions to that same problem.
00:13:28.060 And so I think in, to a large degree, people sort of stumble into their habits, sometimes
00:13:34.480 literally stumble into them.
00:13:35.800 Like we, you know, just stumble across the solution that, you know, this happens to be
00:13:39.900 the information that came your way throughout life.
00:13:42.580 Often you're imitating the habits that your friends or your family or your parents or somebody,
00:13:47.920 what they do to solve that recurring problem.
00:13:50.260 So you sort of inherit the habits of the people around you.
00:13:53.220 And then at some point you get to be 20, 25, 30 years old, and you have to like step outside
00:14:01.160 and above yourself and realize, okay, I have all these recurring problems, these things
00:14:05.340 that come again and again that need to get resolved throughout my life.
00:14:08.260 And I have this set of habits that I use to resolve those problems.
00:14:12.280 But what are the odds that the habits that I have now are the optimal solution to the problems
00:14:18.980 that I face repeatedly?
00:14:20.600 It's probably very unlikely in the universe of options that you have that you happen to
00:14:24.920 come across the ideal solution at first.
00:14:27.980 And I think as soon as you realize that, you start to see that your habits are more of your
00:14:32.220 responsibility now.
00:14:33.540 You know, it's your choice as an adult how you respond to these recurring problems.
00:14:37.060 And if you have the option to build habits that solve those things in a healthier or
00:14:42.480 more productive or more fruitful way, then that's your responsibility to try to build those.
00:14:47.600 So I think all of those different lenses give you kind of a various ways of describing a
00:14:52.840 habit and what it is, but that's kind of roughly the role that they play in our lives.
00:14:57.560 Is there a difference that you can generically state between acquiring a good habit and discontinuing
00:15:04.760 a bad one?
00:15:05.380 Is there a different dynamics to that problem?
00:15:08.640 Yeah, that's a great question.
00:15:09.760 So first, I should say, I think it can be very useful to look at your bad habits because
00:15:14.880 and I think we all have had this experience, bad habits seem to form so readily, so easily.
00:15:20.580 And yet good habits can be kind of difficult to build and to last.
00:15:24.860 I think it's interesting to ask, like, why is that?
00:15:26.940 What qualities of a bad habit make it so readily formed?
00:15:31.460 And so there are quite a few insights that I discuss in atomic habits that sort of came
00:15:35.360 from that opposite lens, from looking at the inverse.
00:15:39.160 So I'll discuss some of those in a few minutes as we kind of get deeper into the conversation.
00:15:43.400 But to answer your question, what's the difference between a good habit and a bad habit?
00:15:46.800 Some people are like, well, if it's bad, why would I do it, right?
00:15:49.640 Like, if I know this isn't good for me, why do I keep coming back to it?
00:15:53.220 And depending on which experts you talk to, some habit experts don't even like the terms
00:15:57.460 good and bad because they're like, well, all behaviors serve us in some way.
00:16:01.080 So they, I don't know, there's kind of this philosophical or semantic discussion about it.
00:16:05.780 I don't know that that's quite right.
00:16:07.140 It goes back to Socrates, essentially, that no one knowingly does bad.
00:16:11.440 Everyone has a story about why what they're doing is good, at least for them.
00:16:15.480 So I think there is truth to that.
00:16:18.080 But from a practical standpoint, from a useful standpoint, I think we can define what a good
00:16:23.340 habit and a bad habit is.
00:16:24.400 And the way to do it is to consider that behaviors produce multiple outcomes across time.
00:16:30.200 So broadly speaking, let's say there's like an immediate outcome and an ultimate outcome.
00:16:35.000 Now, the immediate outcome of most good habits is, or sorry, most bad habits is pretty favorable.
00:16:40.900 Like the immediate outcome of eating a donut is great, it's sweet, it's sugary, it's tasty,
00:16:45.560 it's enjoyable.
00:16:46.500 It's only the ultimate outcome if you keep repeating that behavior for a year or two years
00:16:50.320 or whatever that's unfavorable.
00:16:52.100 Same story kind of with like smoking a cigarette.
00:16:54.520 The immediate outcome of smoking a cigarette is, you know, maybe you get to socialize with
00:16:58.560 a friend outside the office or you curb your nicotine craving or you take a break from
00:17:02.840 work or reduce stress.
00:17:04.260 It's only the ultimate outcome that's unfavorable.
00:17:07.460 With good habits, it's often the reverse.
00:17:09.460 Like the immediate outcome of going to the gym, especially that first week or first month,
00:17:14.420 not very favorable.
00:17:15.900 Your body looks the same in the mirror.
00:17:17.600 Scale hasn't really changed.
00:17:18.680 If anything, you're sore.
00:17:19.760 It's only the ultimate outcome a year or two years from now that is favorable.
00:17:24.620 And that misalignment between the immediate outcome and the ultimate outcome, I think is
00:17:29.500 one reason why it's so easy to slide into bad habits because they feel good in the moment
00:17:34.360 and can be difficult to build good habits because a lot of the returns are delayed.
00:17:40.500 And I think this comes back to some sort of, you know, evolutionary wiring.
00:17:44.720 I mean, from the vast majority of human history, humans have lived in what scientists would call
00:17:50.960 an immediate return environment.
00:17:52.780 Almost all of your choices had some kind of immediate or near-term impact on your life.
00:17:57.400 Do I take shelter from the storm?
00:17:59.200 Do I run away from the lion?
00:18:00.500 Do I forage for berries in that bush for my next meal?
00:18:03.740 And then now, really just the last 500 years or so, you know, we could debate exactly how
00:18:09.300 much time, but relatively short in human history.
00:18:11.480 We live in this modern society where a lot of the greatest returns that we get now are
00:18:17.480 actually a delayed return environment.
00:18:19.740 You go to work today to get a paycheck in two weeks, or you go to class today to get a
00:18:25.600 college degree in four years.
00:18:27.000 You save for retirement today so that you can be retired and free in a decade or two.
00:18:32.700 And so we have this weird shift where increasingly the payoff of delaying gratification or of making
00:18:40.120 long-term choices is greater and greater because the institutions and society and culture we've
00:18:44.600 set up, and yet our paleolithic minds seem to be wired to prioritize the immediate outcome.
00:18:51.680 And so I think all of that together helps explain sort of what the difference is between a good
00:18:56.660 habit and a bad habit.
00:18:57.860 What does that behavior get you in the long run, the ultimate outcome?
00:19:01.800 And also why it's like kind of easy to build bad habits and fall into them, slide into them so
00:19:06.820 readily.
00:19:07.160 So I like to summarize that by just saying, the cost of your good habits is in the present.
00:19:13.840 The cost of your bad habits is in the future.
00:19:16.100 And I think that kind of helps describe the difference between the two.
00:19:19.760 Yeah, that's really interesting.
00:19:20.980 It relates to a few other issues we should discuss here, and that is the difference between
00:19:26.300 focusing on goals and focusing on process because that has significant consequences.
00:19:32.800 And also there's just this distinction.
00:19:36.300 I know you're familiar with Danny Kahneman's work, and he's famous for many things, but
00:19:40.940 one of his useful distinctions is between the remembering self and the experiencing self.
00:19:46.760 And the experiencing self is your moment-to-moment experience of your life, and just integrating
00:19:52.060 all the data under that curve is what it's like to be you.
00:19:56.100 And if we could ping you randomly 20 times a day in an experience sample from you, asking
00:20:03.600 you how you feel in each moment, we would get some measure of what it's like to be you.
00:20:08.340 And you'd report back your well-being, such as it seems to you, in a window that's very
00:20:13.640 focused around the present moment.
00:20:16.040 But the remembering self is who comes online when anyone's asked how they feel about their
00:20:21.920 life in a much more global, retrospective sense.
00:20:26.840 How's your career going?
00:20:28.180 How are your relationships?
00:20:29.800 And it's the remembering self that is the one that tends to make decisions about what to
00:20:36.000 do in life, what kinds of goals to pursue, which in this case, what kinds of habits to
00:20:40.440 rethink and try to change.
00:20:43.480 And there is, you know, Danny has noticed and more or less surrendered to this fact that
00:20:51.900 there is a reliable mismatch between the remembering self's account of what is good and what is
00:20:59.900 worth doing and who it's becoming and what its life is like, and the experiencing self's.
00:21:06.000 data that can be reported back.
00:21:08.280 So you can think you had a terrible time over the last week, but the sampling would say otherwise
00:21:15.480 and vice versa.
00:21:16.780 And he thinks there's really no way to get the remembering self and the experiencing self
00:21:21.960 into, you know, true harmony.
00:21:24.740 I have my doubts about that.
00:21:25.880 I mean, we have a sort of an ongoing disagreement on this front.
00:21:28.140 But I'm wondering what you think about this distinction between what you're doing with your
00:21:34.420 mind when you're making some kind of global assessment of who you are and how it seems
00:21:40.540 and where you want to go and what it's like to be you really moment to moment throughout
00:21:46.980 your life.
00:21:47.660 And then how this relates to this effort to change habits and whether we could prioritize
00:21:53.480 a focus on goals where we want to get to versus a focus on process or the kinds of systems
00:22:00.560 we create to produce certain results.
00:22:03.920 So let me take the remembering self versus experiencing self first, and then we can come
00:22:08.300 to the systems and goals piece.
00:22:10.080 Yeah.
00:22:10.180 So all of Kahneman's work is very interesting.
00:22:14.480 And, you know, my main takeaway from a lot of these discussions, and you'll hear him say
00:22:21.220 this as well, a lot of the time, basically, it comes down to like, you will not be the
00:22:24.340 exception, you know, we'll talk about all these biases, and just knowing about them does not
00:22:28.480 shield you from them, you still can be the victim of all of these things.
00:22:33.680 And so my practical takeaway when it comes to building habits is, you don't want to go against
00:22:38.680 the grain of human nature, you want to work with it.
00:22:41.640 And that's one reason, for example, a large part of my philosophy is around making good
00:22:45.820 habits, the path of least resistance, because what you find is that regardless of what your
00:22:50.820 remembering self or your most strategic self would think, if you sit down and try to design
00:22:55.400 out your ideal day or remember what your best performances are like, the truth is moment
00:23:00.000 to moment, when you're sitting there and about to make the next decision, we often choose what
00:23:03.780 is easiest or what is the path of least resistance?
00:23:05.680 What is the action that requires the least energy?
00:23:07.800 And so we want to design environments, design a lifestyle and situations that make those
00:23:13.860 good actions as easiest and as obvious as possible.
00:23:17.280 And so for that reason, I think that's kind of my main practical takeaway from it.
00:23:21.680 There are a lot of interesting, you know, theoretical or things to just kind of consider.
00:23:26.380 Some of the discussion about the remembering self versus experiencing self reminds me a little
00:23:31.300 bit of I think Ray Dalio has like a little division where he basically says like, you're both
00:23:36.100 the strategic controller of your life and you're the in the mix, like operator as well.
00:23:41.660 You know, you're, you're both the CEO and the frontline worker, you're both the general
00:23:45.720 and the soldier.
00:23:47.100 And sometimes we kind of alternate back and forth between those selves.
00:23:51.240 And I think what the best plan that the general can come up with is often very different than
00:23:55.920 what it's like to be on the battlefield as the soldier.
00:23:57.860 And I, I don't know, I don't know how it may be possible to get those fully aligned, which
00:24:03.740 is what you're kind of hinting at.
00:24:05.080 Even doing so might be very hard or maybe it's fleeting.
00:24:08.060 That's kind of how it feels to me is that occasionally I have moments where I can glimpse
00:24:13.800 that and it's like how I'm acting or what I'm thinking in the moment is maybe more aligned
00:24:18.700 with what that remembering self would say.
00:24:20.480 But then I get distracted or my attention goes somewhere else or somebody walks in the room
00:24:25.720 or new project arises and I had it, but I had it only for a moment, almost like chasing
00:24:31.140 a state of flow.
00:24:32.120 It's different than flow, but it's similar in the sense that it doesn't last all the
00:24:36.000 time.
00:24:37.400 So I don't know.
00:24:38.800 That's just, those are kind of my thoughts off the cuff about it, but happy to talk more
00:24:42.240 about the systems and goals piece as well.
00:24:44.640 Let's segue to that.
00:24:45.880 So how do you think about the difference between a focus on goals versus a focus on systems?
00:24:53.480 And one thing that jumps out to me is that goals are really just ideas and even when
00:24:59.840 they're realized, I guess there are different kinds of goals and some can seem more durable
00:25:04.220 than others, but many are, even in their moment of fulfillment, are enjoyed very briefly.
00:25:11.100 Let's say you decide to, you know, you form the goal that you want to run a marathon and
00:25:16.720 then you run your first marathon.
00:25:18.820 Well, you know, that took, you know, if it's your first, it probably took, you know, five
00:25:22.400 or six hours, but however long it took, the moment of fulfilling it, of crossing the finish
00:25:27.200 line, then you have that fulfillment and then, you know, thereafter you have this memory,
00:25:32.800 you have this idea that you met your goal and you can try to wring out whatever satisfaction
00:25:37.300 you can get out of repeating that to yourself.
00:25:40.480 But the process is the life of being someone who is now a runner, who, you know, who trained
00:25:47.620 for the marathon and hopefully continues to like running thereafter.
00:25:52.200 So they're very different in terms of duration and most of life is clearly the process and
00:25:57.700 our goals are these brief landmarks on the landscape of our moment-to-moment living.
00:26:03.160 But I know from your book, there are other consequences to focusing on one versus the
00:26:09.040 other.
00:26:09.340 So how do you think about goals and process or systems?
00:26:12.600 So, yeah, that's a great entry point to this discussion, this point.
00:26:15.780 This is one of the core ideas in Atomic Habits, which is that you do not rise to the level of
00:26:20.600 your goals.
00:26:21.200 You fall to the level of your systems.
00:26:23.520 And the reason I, you know, bring that up or feel like it's so such a central thing is
00:26:28.020 that often when people discuss behavior change, when they talk about habits that they want
00:26:32.820 to shift, it usually is centered around some kind of goal.
00:26:36.340 They start with like, oh, I want to lose 40 pounds or I'd like to double my income or I
00:26:40.120 want to reduce stress.
00:26:41.020 They have some kind of outcome that they want.
00:26:43.660 And so the implicit assumption behind that is if I can just achieve this thing, then I'll
00:26:49.800 be the kind of person I want to be.
00:26:51.260 Then I'll have, you know, the life I want to have.
00:26:53.220 And so there's this focus heavily, heavily, we are heavily focused on outcomes, but, and
00:27:00.120 this sort of comes back a little bit to what you mentioned near the beginning of the conversation
00:27:03.240 where you said, you know, we have habits all the time, but we don't think about them that
00:27:06.680 much.
00:27:07.300 And yet they're kind of in the background influencing all these outcomes that we have.
00:27:11.960 And so the way that I would describe that is most of your outcomes in life are lagging
00:27:17.360 measure of your habits.
00:27:18.640 So for example, your knowledge is a lagging measure of your reading and learning habits.
00:27:25.100 Your bank account is a lagging measure of your financial habits.
00:27:29.120 Your physical fitness is a lagging measure of your eating and training habits.
00:27:33.280 Even the clutter on your desk at work or in your garage or your bedroom is a lagging measure
00:27:38.660 of your cleaning habits.
00:27:40.220 And so if you get really motivated and set a big goal, like I have the goal to clean my
00:27:45.220 my room, and then you spend a couple hours doing that, you have a clean room for now.
00:27:50.600 But if you don't change the sloppy, messy habits that led to a dirty room in the first
00:27:55.560 place, then you turn around two weeks later and you got a dirty room again.
00:27:59.300 And so we often think that the outputs are the things that need to change, but it's not
00:28:03.780 really the results that need to change.
00:28:05.480 It's like fix the inputs and the outputs will fix themselves.
00:28:08.560 And that's kind of this, this language of systems versus goals.
00:28:12.560 I first heard that, that specific phrase from Scott Adams, but you hear it in many different
00:28:17.480 ways, process over outcome, whatever.
00:28:19.160 It's been discussed, you know, ad nauseum for centuries, but to put a little finer point
00:28:24.020 on it and to link it back to habits, this is how I would describe it.
00:28:27.740 Your goal is your desired outcome.
00:28:29.660 It's the thing that you want to achieve.
00:28:31.560 Your system is the collection of daily habits that you follow.
00:28:35.220 And if there's ever a gap between your desired outcome and your daily habits, there's ever a
00:28:41.540 gap between your system and your goal, your daily habits will always win, right?
00:28:45.400 Like almost by definition, your current habits are perfectly designed to deliver your current
00:28:51.120 results.
00:28:51.560 Like whatever system you've been running, let's say the last six months or last year, whatever
00:28:56.180 collection of daily habits you've been following have carried you inevitably to this place that
00:29:01.440 you're at right now.
00:29:02.760 And, you know, there, again, you know, I mentioned this earlier in the conversation, there are of
00:29:06.980 course other forces, right?
00:29:08.160 There's luck and randomness and so on, but I think largely speaking, we could say that
00:29:12.740 that is true, that you're, that the, the things that you repeat day in and day out, the system that
00:29:17.100 you run carries you to this outcome.
00:29:20.440 And so for the, all of those reasons, I think we should focus much more on the daily habits
00:29:26.080 on the system than we do on the goal and the outcome.
00:29:29.500 And as you mentioned, there's sort of these downsides or, you know, these negative effects
00:29:34.680 that come from focusing too much on, on the goals.
00:29:37.360 So the first one is that, as you mentioned, achieving a goal really only changes your life
00:29:42.540 for the moment.
00:29:43.320 You know, like it's only, it's only a momentary thing.
00:29:45.740 It doesn't make, it's not like, this is one of my challenges when people talk about like
00:29:49.820 a 30 day challenge for habits or, you know, 21 days and then the habit is formed or whatever.
00:29:54.360 It's like habits are not really a finish line to be crossed in that sense.
00:29:58.200 You know, they're not, it's not like just do this for a little while and then you'll
00:30:00.740 be a healthy person.
00:30:01.600 And achieving a goal only changes your life for the moment.
00:30:04.960 The second thing though, and I thought this was so interesting when I first came across
00:30:08.520 it is that the winners and the losers, so to speak, in any given domain, they often have
00:30:14.080 exactly the same goal.
00:30:15.800 So, you know, say you're at the Olympics and you've got 25 people competing in an event.
00:30:20.560 Presumably all of them have the goal of winning the gold medal, right?
00:30:24.020 It's not the goal that makes the difference in their performance.
00:30:26.260 Or if you have a job opening and a hundred people apply for a job, presumably all of them
00:30:31.580 all of the candidates have the goal of getting the job.
00:30:34.620 And so a goal might be necessary, but it's not sufficient for success.
00:30:39.840 What you really need is the daily habits, the preparation, the behaviors that lead to
00:30:44.280 that outcome.
00:30:45.500 Now, now that I've criticized goals a little bit, I should say, I do think they can be useful.
00:30:49.800 And two of the things that I think they can be useful for.
00:30:52.780 So one is clarity, setting a sense of direction.
00:30:55.440 If you have a clear goal, you know what direction you want to row in.
00:30:57.860 Or in the case of a team, what direction you want the whole team to row in, get everybody
00:31:01.600 on the same page.
00:31:02.640 And I also think they're useful for filtering.
00:31:04.720 If you have a goal and somebody comes to you with an opportunity and they say, hey, would
00:31:09.540 you like to join or work on this project?
00:31:11.600 Or can I, you know, are you interested in this?
00:31:13.880 You can run it through that filter of your goal.
00:31:16.240 And it's easier to say no, if it's like, oh, no, that doesn't help me achieve my goal.
00:31:20.680 But short of that, I think that it's much more useful to focus on the habits in the system.
00:31:27.300 And most of the time we probably spend, I don't know, 80% of our time, let's say, talking about
00:31:32.380 outcomes and goals and what we want to achieve and what the future should look like.
00:31:36.280 Yeah.
00:31:36.500 And I think it should be flipped around.
00:31:38.240 It should be, that's fine.
00:31:39.360 We know where we want to head.
00:31:40.420 Now let's put the goal on the shelf and focus instead on the system and the daily behaviors.
00:31:44.940 Yeah, and another way to merge these two ways of thinking is to recognize that the real
00:31:52.540 goal that you want to achieve, a more rational goal, is to find a way to do it.
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