Order of Man - 093： Andy Frisella ｜ A Legacy of Success

00:00:00.000 We talk a lot about success on this show.

00:00:01.740 In fact, the word gets tossed around so much that it's lost a lot of its significance.

00:00:05.620 My friend and guest today, Mr. Andy Frisilla, joins me to talk about what success is and what it isn't,

00:00:11.180 the struggles motivated and ambitious men face, his new children's book, of all things,

00:00:15.340 and our obligation to teach principles of success to our children as our legacy.

00:00:20.680 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest.

00:00:23.460 Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:26.400 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time.

00:00:29.540 Every time, you are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.

00:00:35.900 This is your life. This is who you are.

00:00:38.380 This is who you will become.

00:00:39.920 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.

00:00:45.380 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and the founder of Order of Man.

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00:01:30.320 I've got an incredibly candid interview lined up for you with my friend, the MFCEO, Mr. Andy Frisilla.

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00:02:31.540 Now I want to introduce you to my guest, Andy Frisilla.

00:02:33.860 Guys, I've had Andy on the show before and many of you know who he is and probably listened to his podcast, The MFCEO.

00:02:39.220 So I've been fortunate enough to build a relationship with this guy over the past year.

00:02:42.340 And I can tell you that he is one of the most genuine, sincere, humble people that I know.

00:02:48.660 Now I know he's got a tough exterior.

00:02:50.240 This is actually something that we get into in the show today.

00:02:52.580 But Andy truly cares about your success and also the success of our children.

00:02:58.080 So based on our conversations and the conversations I'm seeing him having in the public,

00:03:02.280 I can see that he's got a huge desire to help people learn the true principles of success before it's too late.

00:03:08.060 So of all the books that he was supposed to write, and I'm using supposed to in air quotes if you can see that,

00:03:13.960 Andy decided to write a children's book.

00:03:16.080 I'm not going to tell you too much about the book.

00:03:17.540 I'm going to let him do that.

00:03:18.620 But I can tell you that the stories he's sharing will truly have an impact on our children

00:03:23.800 and allow us as men to leave a legacy of success.

00:03:27.620 And he looks pretty damn good as a cartoon too, by the way.

00:03:30.380 So today we talk about the book.

00:03:31.720 We talk about the mindset for success.

00:03:33.900 We talk about dealing with depression, his plans moving forward, how you can meet Andy in person,

00:03:38.260 and again, how we can all be more successful.

00:03:42.740 Andy, what's up, brother?

00:03:43.540 Thanks for joining me on the show.

00:03:44.900 What's up, Ryan?

00:03:45.620 How you doing, bud?

00:03:46.280 Good to see you, man.

00:03:46.920 Yeah, it's good to see you.

00:03:47.840 It's been about a year we were talking about that.

00:03:49.860 It's been about a year and honored to have you back on.

00:03:52.220 And we've got some exciting news to tell the guys about.

00:03:53.980 So it's going to be a good conversation today.

00:03:55.760 Yeah.

00:03:56.140 Yeah, I can't wait, man.

00:03:56.900 I've been looking forward to it.

00:03:57.880 Yeah, and you're like a different dude, quite honestly, at this point.

00:04:00.440 You're a lot lighter for sure.

00:04:02.500 Yeah, it's been a, you know, at the beginning of the year, you know, like all of us who

00:04:07.000 are constantly juggling life, I like to think of myself as a busy person, but we're all busy.

00:04:12.960 We all have our own things that we do, and we all have our own busy life.

00:04:17.420 You know, I just hadn't been taking care of the physical nature of my body for a long time.

00:04:22.800 It had been two, three years of not training and not eating well, which is, you know, something

00:04:27.520 that I'm supposedly, supposed to be an expert at considering what we're living.

00:04:32.600 And dude, I just had, I didn't realize how, how bad I let it go.

00:04:35.980 And, you know, I started the year at 330 pounds and that's heavy, but I'm lean at like 260,

00:04:43.780 255.

00:04:44.800 Yeah.

00:04:44.920 So, I mean, it's not your typical 330 pounds, I guess, but it's still 330 pounds.

00:04:50.940 And dude, I look terrible and felt terrible.

00:04:54.800 I was very depressed, no energy, no ambition.

00:04:58.940 And dude, I felt like a fraud, man, because I was, and that's why I haven't done so much

00:05:02.740 speaking this year, because I did feel like a fraud. 0.96

00:05:05.060 I felt like I was, you know, going to speak and telling people to get their shit together 0.99

00:05:09.860 when I had my own shit together. 0.98

00:05:11.020 I turned down a lot of really big, huge speaking engagements this year to pursue my fitness. 0.98

00:05:16.860 It's been good.

00:05:17.460 I'm down 75 pounds from when I started, you know, I've probably got another 10 or 15 I

00:05:21.320 want to get rid of to be completely back to where I was and where I need to be.

00:05:25.600 But yeah, it's, you know, it's been good, man.

00:05:27.360 It's been the best decision I've made in the last, you know, and maybe in my life because

00:05:31.440 it's given me back that youthful fire that I, that I used to have, you know, like, like

00:05:36.740 I was admittedly, you know, I could get fired up for a podcast or for a video, but in my

00:05:42.240 day-to-day life, man, I wasn't feeling that way.

00:05:44.100 Like I used to, you know what I mean?

00:05:45.660 And that back has been a big deal.

00:05:47.600 So it's been really, really good decision for me to kind of put things off and focus

00:05:51.620 on that for a while.

00:05:52.660 No, I mean, I love seeing it.

00:05:53.580 And I got to be honest, when I was out there and visiting you last year, whenever it was

00:05:57.120 earlier in the year, that was one of the things that I was impressed about is that

00:06:00.320 you owned it and you lived up to it and you said, you know, I'm not in congruency

00:06:03.300 right here and just to see you go through that and then stick with it.

00:06:07.180 I mean, I see your post every day, dues paid, that you're sticking with it and going through

00:06:10.760 this thing, which is a lot more obviously than a lot of people can say, because anybody

00:06:14.380 can get hyped up, especially this time of year for a month or two and then let it fall

00:06:17.560 off the, off the wagon.

00:06:19.260 So it's pretty cool to see.

00:06:20.160 Yeah, man. 0.98

00:06:20.560 I just had to, I had to show everybody that, uh, I'm not just talking shit, you know, that's 0.99

00:06:25.720 what it comes down to. 0.99

00:06:26.780 So yeah, well, right on.

00:06:28.300 Well, all right, man, we got to address the elephant in the room.

00:06:30.480 All right.

00:06:31.220 And the elephant in the room is you wrote a book, but it's not the book everybody expected.

00:06:36.880 Yeah.

00:06:37.320 And that's what I want to talk to you about.

00:06:38.760 So, so drop it on us right now.

00:06:40.540 Tell us what's going on and then let's have this conversation because I love it, man.

00:06:44.000 And I'm excited to talk with you about this today.

00:06:46.120 You know, for the last five years, people have been asking me to write a book and, uh, and

00:06:50.740 I've wanted to write a book, but the timing just hasn't been right.

00:06:53.400 And this year going through this whole transformation, because a lot of it's been mental to be completely

00:06:59.340 honest with you, uh, it felt more right to do something like that.

00:07:02.680 So, um, you know, we wrote a book and the, it, it was clearly not the book that everybody

00:07:09.600 thought that was going to be written.

00:07:11.140 Um, you know, everybody expected me to write, uh, you know, a business book, uh, or a motivational

00:07:17.160 book or a mixture of both, which I am doing and have done.

00:07:21.380 And I just haven't published it.

00:07:22.700 But one of the things that, that has become clear to me since I started public speaking,

00:07:26.600 uh, a lot more and became very clear to me, uh, on my way out to Sundance film festival

00:07:33.700 last year, when I was speaking out there with Sean Whalen, I was on my way there and I was

00:07:38.280 just not in a good mood.

00:07:39.720 And I, I was getting frustrated because I value my time and I don't really like to travel.

00:07:46.060 Yeah.

00:07:46.480 And we were flying out there.

00:07:47.720 Or I was just bitching. 0.97

00:07:49.180 I was saying, you know, I'm going to go up there.

00:07:51.100 I'm going to talk.

00:07:51.920 People are going to act like they're paying attention.

00:07:53.920 They're going to clap.

00:07:54.680 They're going to cheer.

00:07:55.860 They're going to, you know, come up afterwards and tell me how awesome it was because that's

00:08:00.520 what happens every time I talk.

00:08:01.900 Of course.

00:08:02.320 And I'm not saying that to be, you know, arrogant.

00:08:04.940 I'm just, it's just the way it goes.

00:08:06.620 And then they're going to leave and then they're going to do nothing. 0.98

00:08:09.180 So what the fuck am I doing this for? 0.99

00:08:10.900 Is what I was thinking. 0.98

00:08:11.900 And, uh, you know, it got me thinking, I'm like, look, man, there has got to be a way to reach

00:08:16.620 these people, not just get up there and pump them up for an hour and then let them go out.

00:08:20.760 You know, there's got to be a way.

00:08:21.780 Cause I care, man.

00:08:22.560 I don't, I don't really do this like for any other reason than I think there needs to be

00:08:26.860 a change made.

00:08:27.700 I started thinking, I'm like, you know, how do we reach these people before they get

00:08:33.040 into these mindsets of not taking action or not believing or not, uh, be willing to do

00:08:39.680 the things that need to be done and just accepting what the world gives them?

00:08:43.600 How do we reach them before their parents tell them, you know, to be realistic or their teachers

00:08:48.800 tell them along the way that they're no good.

00:08:50.980 Yeah.

00:08:51.240 Those dreams get squashed, right?

00:08:52.740 Yes, man. 1.00

00:08:53.580 Society in the world crushes people to a point where they can't even fathom the shit that 0.99

00:09:00.780 they used to be able to dream about when they were three, four, five, six years old. 0.99

00:09:04.280 And you know, the idea came up and I laughed at it at first.

00:09:07.760 I'm like, you know, like I even said, I even said it as a joke. 0.98

00:09:10.880 I said, you know, we should be writing fucking kids books before these kids get to a point 0.99

00:09:16.440 where everybody gets to squash them. 0.99

00:09:17.860 We should be writing little books for kids on success.

00:09:20.600 And I was kind of joking because I knew it was so like out there for me, the guy who,

00:09:25.800 you know, is the MF CEO, you know, and curses and is hard and abrasive and aggressive.

00:09:32.920 I know.

00:09:33.420 I told, I got to tell you, I told my wife and she was like, what?

00:09:35.940 He wrote a what?

00:09:37.040 Yeah.

00:09:37.380 I know that's probably the response that you've been getting.

00:09:39.940 And you know, I am that way because that's how you have to be.

00:09:42.760 I think, you know, I think you've got to have an edge to you.

00:09:45.080 And I think a lot of people, to be completely honest, have become pussified for lack of better

00:09:50.620 terms.

00:09:51.260 You know, I'm not always that intense.

00:09:52.840 You know that, dude, like it's, it's just when I get fired up because I care.

00:09:56.580 I said it half joking and my wife and Vaughn, my co-host on the, on the podcast and Tyler,

00:10:02.340 our producer, were on the plane with me and they all like, I said it out loud and like,

00:10:08.780 I kind of laughed and they all looked at me like, dude.

00:10:12.060 Maybe we should.

00:10:13.160 Yeah.

00:10:13.640 And then I'm like, yeah.

00:10:15.100 So, so instantly I was like, okay, this is, we're onto something here.

00:10:19.140 And then it came the, uh, you know, I'm like, dude, we can make it about my dogs.

00:10:24.100 You know, I've got these two English bulldogs, one's Charlie, one's Otis, and we can make,

00:10:28.200 you know, little lessons about them for kids that are based around entrepreneurial success,

00:10:33.340 life values that make people, you know, not only just think big, but also do big.

00:10:40.040 Right.

00:10:40.320 And, uh, and so that's what we did.

00:10:41.800 We created a series of, of eight books.

00:10:44.180 It's the first one just released it's Charlie, the bulldog's fantastic fruit stand.

00:10:49.180 And it's, it, the series is called Otis and Charlie's hardworking tales.

00:10:53.000 It's really cool.

00:10:53.940 I got one right here.

00:10:54.920 Yeah.

00:10:55.240 And it's, it's really, I mean, it's like Dr. Seuss, man.

00:10:57.880 It's illustrated really well.

00:10:59.400 Um, the lessons are really, it's, you know, it's top notch in terms of, of quality, but the

00:11:05.800 main thing is, and what I like about it is that it's a tool, right?

00:11:09.200 A lot of people watching this or listening to this right now, they want the best for

00:11:14.400 their kids, but they're just not sure what to teach them.

00:11:17.420 They're not sure how to do it.

00:11:19.220 And I don't know many tools out there that are geared towards what this is geared towards.

00:11:25.920 You know, this would be something that let's say you're a regular guy and you, you feel

00:11:30.900 like you should be further in life and you wish that, you know, you would have had, uh,

00:11:36.780 somebody teach you these things earlier in life.

00:11:40.180 This would be a tool for you to start that with your son or daughter.

00:11:44.460 I love it, man.

00:11:45.920 Yeah, man.

00:11:46.540 And, and so that's what we designed, you know, it's, it's entertaining a hundred percent.

00:11:50.460 I mean, we've tested the book.

00:11:52.260 The kids love it.

00:11:53.360 It's entertaining.

00:11:54.180 They love the dogs.

00:11:55.140 They love the stories because the stories make sense.

00:11:57.240 Like the first story, for example, is called, uh, Charlie, the bulldog's fantastic fruit

00:12:02.800 stand.

00:12:03.080 And what it's about is basically Charlie and Otis who are brother and sister.

00:12:06.800 And then me and my wife, Emily are in the book as their parents.

00:12:10.240 Charlie wants to buy a toy.

00:12:11.980 And so, uh, she comes up with this idea of, you know, she tells her dad, like, which is

00:12:17.820 me, you know, Hey, and you look good as a cartoon by the way.

00:12:20.820 Right.

00:12:21.100 Thank you.

00:12:21.480 Yeah.

00:12:22.080 Uh, she says, you know, I want this toy.

00:12:24.400 And I tell her, you know, Hey, you know, toys don't just come off the tree, man.

00:12:29.900 You've got to work to earn something.

00:12:31.260 And so she comes up with this idea to start a fruit stand and it goes, follows her little

00:12:35.560 journey through like creating the idea and making the fruit stand.

00:12:39.440 And then Otis is telling her the whole time, her brother, you're wasting your time. 1.00

00:12:43.780 This is stupid. 1.00

00:12:44.780 You're never going to be able to do it. 1.00

00:12:46.560 You know, all the real shit that we hear. 1.00

00:12:48.380 Yeah, of course. 1.00

00:12:49.360 And in the end, of course, you know, she sells fruit and then she comes home with her toy.

00:12:53.520 And then all of a sudden Otis is like, man, I want to work with you at the fruit stand.

00:12:57.200 Yeah.

00:12:57.480 You know, and that's how it goes.

00:12:59.040 That's real life.

00:12:59.880 That's real life.

00:13:00.920 Why do you think, uh, why do you think society has gone this way?

00:13:03.440 Cause I know you noticed this, which is obviously part of a big part of what you talk about,

00:13:07.500 but why are we moving away from the mindset of entrepreneurism and, and, and the things that

00:13:12.460 you talk about on a daily basis?

00:13:14.080 I don't really know why, man.

00:13:15.840 I, the, the, I don't, I actually think entrepreneurship is becoming more and more popular.

00:13:19.860 I, I actually have a saying that I use now that entrepreneur is the new rapper.

00:13:23.940 Yeah, that's true.

00:13:24.860 You know what I'm saying? 0.99

00:13:25.780 Like, you know, everybody that sells a fucking t-shirt is an entrepreneur. 0.99

00:13:29.920 And I think there's a big difference between owning a business and being an entrepreneur. 0.99

00:13:33.940 You know, owning a business is, you know, you own a business.

00:13:37.500 Uh, being an entrepreneur is somebody who takes an industry or a product or a service and

00:13:44.060 innovates it and creates it their own way to make it successful.

00:13:46.840 And they think of new original ideas and create a brand based around original thought, not

00:13:53.100 just me too, you know, just like in any industry, there's me too guys.

00:13:57.240 And then there's entrepreneurs, there's guys who are leaders.

00:13:59.480 And I think there's a difference, but you know, everybody overuses the word entrepreneur

00:14:04.140 now, and it's become more popular because of the internet, because there's more tools available

00:14:09.800 for people to be entrepreneurs.

00:14:11.720 Yeah.

00:14:11.980 That barrier to entry is extremely low, right?

00:14:14.260 Oh yeah, man.

00:14:15.180 I mean, everybody, you know, and, uh, it's cool.

00:14:18.540 I like it.

00:14:19.120 You're ambitious, but dude, you've got to follow it with the work.

00:14:22.260 And I think that's what you're saying is, you know, that's become unpopular. 0.98

00:14:26.540 People think they're going to click a couple clicks on the fucking phone and be a millionaire. 0.99

00:14:30.800 And that's just not- 0.99

00:14:31.520 They see so many people do it.

00:14:32.820 They see you do it.

00:14:33.500 They see all these other people who have supposedly done it, but we don't really know

00:14:36.360 if they have because there's this illusion.

00:14:37.920 Yeah, dude.

00:14:39.180 And you know, you got to remember, I'm utilizing social media as a way to bring attention, not

00:14:46.900 only to, uh, what we do with the motivation, but also my business, you know, and what you

00:14:53.140 see in my life is the result of 17 years of work without really utilizing social media or

00:14:59.620 the internet.

00:15:00.040 So there's the, what you see on the front end is, is pales in comparison to what the

00:15:05.620 work is on the back end.

00:15:06.920 And I think that's what people miss.

00:15:08.220 You know, they think they're just going to post, post, post, post, post, and eventually

00:15:11.860 the dollars are going to come in and there's just more to it.

00:15:15.080 I get that a lot.

00:15:15.740 A lot of people will say, I really love your job.

00:15:17.800 You just get to sit on Facebook all day.

00:15:19.180 I'm like, ah, there's a little more to it than just posting a couple of things on Facebook.

00:15:23.200 Right, right.

00:15:24.080 But you know, the overall attitude of being a high achiever has definitely, uh, been lost.

00:15:30.320 There's people that say it hasn't.

00:15:31.860 I disagree with them.

00:15:33.300 Uh, I think it has, you know, I don't think it's as cool to be successful.

00:15:38.700 You know, when I was growing up, it was, you know, that was something that we aspire to

00:15:43.000 be, you know, we saw somebody with a nice car or a nice house and we, we said, man, what

00:15:47.840 does that guy do?

00:15:48.900 Yeah.

00:15:49.160 You know, now, dude, I get it all the time, man. 0.99

00:15:51.740 I drive down the street, my Rolls Royce, people give me the fucking finger. 0.99

00:15:54.480 Yeah. 1.00

00:15:54.740 Like who did this guy rip off or who did he steal from or who did he manipulate?

00:15:58.820 Yeah.

00:15:59.040 And it's just a, it's just a cultural, uh, mentality that, you know, it's not cool anymore.

00:16:06.100 And I disagree.

00:16:07.080 I think it's pretty fucking cool. 0.93

00:16:08.460 How do, well, so how do we change this? 0.67

00:16:10.540 I mean, cause obviously that's what you're trying to do with MFCEO.

00:16:13.140 Obviously you're trying to even get to the root of the problem with children with the,

00:16:16.100 with the book.

00:16:16.680 How do we, how do we teach this not only to our children, but the other children?

00:16:20.400 Like, I feel like we as men have an obligation to even children in our neighborhood, in our communities,

00:16:24.800 outside of just our own children, dude, you know, that's why I created the book and I'm

00:16:28.840 not trying to overly plug the book, but like, this is something that could, this is a real

00:16:32.800 tool, you know?

00:16:33.620 And I don't have the real answer to that because believe me, dude, if I did, I'd be doing it.

00:16:38.480 I'm doing the best that I've been able to figure out.

00:16:40.580 And, you know, I'm committed to solving that problem.

00:16:43.180 Just like, I believe that you are, but I don't really know, man.

00:16:45.940 I think it comes down to, you know, our individual households.

00:16:49.940 You know, I think it comes down to what we teach our kids.

00:16:51.960 I think it comes down to what we, how we speak when we're frustrated, you know, are

00:16:56.920 we expressing frustrations with our job or with our career in front of our kids to where

00:17:02.740 they pick up on that?

00:17:03.720 And like, maybe sometimes like, and this is true for anybody, right?

00:17:06.980 No matter who you are.

00:17:08.560 And I'm, I think of myself as a very, very, very consistent accountability taker.

00:17:15.380 You know, I will always take accountability even when it's not my fault.

00:17:18.980 Right.

00:17:19.240 But you know what?

00:17:19.860 There's always that one time where I get really pissed off and I vent and dude, are we

00:17:24.680 doing that in front of our kids where we're putting blame on a boss or putting blame on

00:17:28.280 other people or putting blame on our situation to where they pick up that victim mentality, you 0.96

00:17:33.160 know, because as hard as I try to fucking beat it out of myself. 0.76

00:17:36.440 There's always a day or a time where it surfaces. 0.97

00:17:40.520 And I think all of us, if we're being honest, that's true.

00:17:43.820 Of course.

00:17:44.660 So I think it just comes down to really, really being conscious about how we speak, how we

00:17:51.400 act and how we raise our children.

00:17:53.460 Because dude, you know, the last eight years of, of our life, maybe, maybe 12 to 15 years

00:18:00.720 for sure, kids have been taught, you know, Hey man, it's okay that you tried, you know,

00:18:05.920 you're still, you're, it's still, it's still counts dude in life. 0.89

00:18:09.260 It doesn't fucking count if you try. 0.94

00:18:10.580 Yeah. 0.90

00:18:10.940 It's if you produce.

00:18:12.120 Right.

00:18:12.760 And you can't raise people one way for 20 years and then stick them out into the real

00:18:18.800 world and have it be a totally different way.

00:18:20.880 The way that these kids are coming out right now is that it doesn't matter if the result

00:18:26.220 is produced as long as you keep trying.

00:18:28.540 Well, that's not true. 0.99

00:18:29.320 I fire people all the time because they fucking try hard and they can't produce the result. 0.99

00:18:33.800 Right. 0.99

00:18:33.940 If you're doing the wrong thing, even it doesn't matter what, what, what you're doing or how

00:18:36.860 hard you're doing if you're doing the wrong thing.

00:18:38.260 And dude, you know what?

00:18:39.300 If you're a guy who tries real hard, but can never produce the result, you're going to

00:18:41.980 starve.

00:18:43.260 That's reality.

00:18:44.200 Yeah.

00:18:44.740 And when you can't teach your kids that, what is this delusion that this thought process

00:18:49.320 of you can have everything and you can have the result without the effort?

00:18:52.920 Where does this even come from?

00:18:54.100 Cause common sense tells me and you and everybody else that probably is listening to this show

00:18:57.920 like, yeah, I get this, but there's so much that don't get this.

00:19:00.540 Do you really want to know where it comes from?

00:19:01.660 I don't know if you really want me to answer that question because it really comes from 0.94

00:19:04.500 the extreme liberal mindset that everybody's a fucking special and deserving and entitled 0.92

00:19:10.720 to a certain level of existence. 0.98

00:19:12.680 And that's not true.

00:19:14.360 It may be ideal.

00:19:16.000 It might be, it might be ideal.

00:19:17.240 It's really nice for us to say, Hey, everybody deserves to be at this level in life and everybody

00:19:22.540 deserves to live at this level and everybody that deserves to have this standard of living.

00:19:27.400 But that's not reality.

00:19:29.600 It's nice to say, it's nice to think about, it's even nice to work towards, but it's not

00:19:35.660 reality. 0.99

00:19:36.280 Reality is, is dude, the strong people kill and the people who kill fucking eat and that's 1.00

00:19:41.800 it. 0.99

00:19:42.020 And if we raise our kids in the way that is ideal versus the way that's reality, dude,

00:19:48.500 they're going to go out in the world and get stepped on, you know, they're going to

00:19:50.860 I personally think it comes from, you know, this mentality of not offending anybody and

00:19:56.880 this, you know, the super PC let in, you know, there's people listening here that are 1.00

00:20:01.880 probably liberal, but you're probably part of the fucking problem. 0.99

00:20:04.560 But the truth is, is I think that's where it comes from. 0.99

00:20:07.320 You know, I think it comes from that extreme, extreme case of trying to get everybody included

00:20:13.000 and trying to get everybody to feel good.

00:20:15.000 And it's just taking the competitive nature out of everything.

00:20:19.560 You know, I think that represents all this wrong with our country right now, because

00:20:22.620 dude, you're raising kids around something that just isn't true, man.

00:20:26.700 I think, you know, like we talk, I know what you and I've had this conversation before,

00:20:30.560 you know, we talked about it.

00:20:32.040 I don't remember when we talked about it, but we talked about it before about how, you

00:20:35.560 know, you're, you shouldn't grow up feeling like it's okay to lose.

00:20:39.340 You know, then it's a good to lose and losing supposed to hurt losing is a tool so that you

00:20:45.920 can improve your skill set so that you can succeed the next time.

00:20:50.700 It's feedback, right?

00:20:51.520 I mean, losing is feedback.

00:20:52.500 That's why we keep score.

00:20:53.900 Yeah, man.

00:20:54.400 And you can't celebrate the loss.

00:20:56.260 You can't, you, maybe you shouldn't like, I mean, you shouldn't beat your kid because

00:20:59.960 he lost a baseball game, but you also shouldn't celebrate either.

00:21:04.040 You know, you got to say, Hey, little Johnny, I'm sorry you lost, man.

00:21:07.760 That's what happens when we don't practice enough.

00:21:09.720 That's what happens when we don't work hard enough.

00:21:11.620 We lose and then teach them the lesson, you know, but you know what?

00:21:15.140 I'm going to get out in the yard and I'm going to practice with you so that next time we don't

00:21:18.540 lose, right?

00:21:19.800 You know, and we have a lot of parents who aren't willing to do that work.

00:21:22.100 And that's sad.

00:21:23.120 Yeah, that's true.

00:21:23.960 That's a great point.

00:21:24.720 Cause what we, I think what happens in society a lot, especially with, with parents is a lot

00:21:28.660 of the times we send them into the school systems.

00:21:31.040 We send them wherever they need to go, their daycare, their school systems and hope that the

00:21:33.880 teachers and everybody else will take care of them when we forget to realize that, yeah,

00:21:37.020 they may be gone six, seven, eight hours a day, but it's still our response.

00:21:40.300 There are children, dude.

00:21:42.080 That's a whole nother topic, right?

00:21:43.620 Like you should be in tune with who's teaching your kids what, you know, because there's a

00:21:49.200 lot of teachers out there that are teaching your kids values that don't align with what

00:21:53.040 you believe.

00:21:53.820 And that's, that's something that you're going to have to work.

00:21:55.900 You're, you'll be battling your whole life.

00:21:57.620 I think a lot of people let the teachers in the school system raise the kids and that's

00:22:01.680 where it comes from, man.

00:22:04.000 Man, let's talk about new year's resolutions here for a minute.

00:22:06.240 Look, I get it.

00:22:07.500 It's nice to think about how next year is going to be.

00:22:10.260 It's nice to think about how it's going to be better than it was this year.

00:22:13.400 It's nice to dream big and think about what our future might hold, but unless each and

00:22:18.400 every one of us have a plan for making it actually happen, dreaming is where it's going

00:22:23.360 to end for you and where it probably has ended in the past.

00:22:26.220 So I want to invite you to join the Iron Council.

00:22:28.860 This is our mastermind and it's designed to help you take your life to the next level.

00:22:32.980 And this is the perfect time to join as we are focusing heavily on doing more than dreaming

00:22:39.440 and thinking about our 2017 goals.

00:22:42.420 We're actually doing something about it.

00:22:44.300 We're going to help you identify the objectives that you want to reach.

00:22:47.080 We're also going to help you identify the tactics that are going to help you get there.

00:22:50.260 And then we're going to give you the tools.

00:22:51.720 And most importantly, we're going to give you the accountability to actually make that a reality.

00:22:55.520 So don't let another year of big dreams pass you by.

00:22:59.540 I want you to do something about it and you can do that inside of the Iron Council.

00:23:03.660 You can join us at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil and I hope to see you inside.

00:23:07.980 Now, let me get back to my interview with Andy.

00:23:11.220 The one thing I wanted to talk with you about today, and I made some notes as I was thinking

00:23:14.520 about this because obviously self-awareness, right?

00:23:17.520 This is a buzzword.

00:23:18.500 It's out there.

00:23:19.080 Everybody talks about self-awareness.

00:23:20.740 And I know you've ragged on the whole concept itself and there's obviously validity to it,

00:23:25.160 but how do you even become aware of the way that you're thinking?

00:23:29.480 Or maybe even that you've stuck yourself in this box of thinking the exact way that you're

00:23:34.120 talking about right now.

00:23:35.480 Well, first of all, I think self-awareness is a lifelong journey, right?

00:23:39.420 That's why people who – you talk to somebody who's 60 and they say, 1.00

00:23:43.360 man, when I was 30, I was an idiot, you know? 1.00

00:23:45.740 Right. 0.99

00:23:46.080 And it's a constant journey.

00:23:48.200 And if you want to become self-aware, you need to be willing to admit to yourself when

00:23:53.360 you're wrong, admit to yourself when you're not on the right track.

00:23:56.580 A lot of people are very prideful.

00:23:58.380 And I think prideful people hold themselves back a lot because their ego won't let them

00:24:02.820 see themselves for what they really are.

00:24:05.460 Yeah.

00:24:05.820 And then there's the other side of that too, right?

00:24:07.540 People who see themselves as less than what they are and they can never get ahead because

00:24:11.600 they never believe in themselves.

00:24:13.020 So finding that balance, you know, of true self-awareness, dude, it is hard.

00:24:18.520 It's hard.

00:24:19.180 I just – you know, when you say the term is worn out, man, and like I say that all the

00:24:22.760 time, it's because people don't understand what it means.

00:24:25.720 You know, they hear it and they think like, I don't know what they think, but I can see

00:24:29.640 from the context that people use it, they clearly have no idea what it means.

00:24:32.820 But, you know, I think of self-awareness as more like a balance beam, right?

00:24:37.040 We're always trying to balance between thinking too much of ourselves and thinking too less

00:24:41.840 of ourselves and trying to –

00:24:43.340 Yeah, just doing it in reality, right?

00:24:44.880 Yeah, trying to keep ourselves in that middle spot where you're not great, but you're

00:24:49.220 not terrible either.

00:24:50.100 You're just you and you are what you want.

00:24:51.900 How does someone like you do that?

00:24:52.900 Because obviously you've been successful on a lot of fronts and I know a lot of people

00:24:56.080 are going to look at you and say, yeah, I mean, obviously this guy's got it figured

00:24:59.460 out, but how do you keep yourself in check?

00:25:01.540 Like it's real easy for me because my goals are so huge that I don't think I've – I

00:25:07.160 don't feel successful and I don't think I'm successful.

00:25:09.320 Like I feel like I'm underachieving for what I've done so far with the opportunity

00:25:15.340 I've had. 0.72

00:25:16.200 And a lot of people hear that and they think bullshit, you know, because they look at my 0.87

00:25:19.860 life and they see that, you know, it fits the mold of success. 0.95

00:25:24.820 Right.

00:25:24.920 But the truth of it is I don't compare myself to other guys like me.

00:25:29.800 I compare myself – and this is going to make you laugh, but like I compare myself to

00:25:34.400 like the greatest entrepreneurs in the world like Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or the greatest

00:25:40.080 guys in my industry.

00:25:41.860 Like I compare myself to that.

00:25:43.420 So it's really easy to stay balanced when you compare – when you truly believe that

00:25:47.700 that's the level you're trying to achieve.

00:25:49.640 Do you get down on yourself when you start comparing yourself and looking at those super

00:25:53.680 high objectives that you're talking about?

00:25:55.700 For sure, man.

00:25:56.500 For sure.

00:25:57.060 How do you deal with that?

00:25:58.300 I think if anything – I think of anything, I think of myself less than what I really am

00:26:02.040 as opposed to more.

00:26:03.360 Yeah, it's a vicious circle, man.

00:26:05.240 And I struggle with it too just like I'm sure a lot of other successful guys do that are

00:26:10.180 ambitious because it's kind of a hamster wheel that you get in and you can't get out

00:26:14.760 of because your ambitions are so high that you always feel less than what you really

00:26:20.380 are and you don't really ever get to enjoy what you have.

00:26:23.160 And, dude, I find myself in that place a lot more than I find myself beating my chest 0.95

00:26:27.140 about how fucking great I am. 0.95

00:26:28.640 Yeah. 0.97

00:26:28.900 You know, and people are surprised to hear that about me, but it's the truth, man.

00:26:32.820 You know, I don't – I want to be the best at what I've done like in my companies

00:26:37.560 that I own in the world, in history, and we're not that yet.

00:26:41.240 So it's real easy to stay in that space.

00:26:45.000 But, yeah, you're – I mean, dude, totally.

00:26:46.640 It wears you out sometimes.

00:26:48.460 Sometimes you do get very frustrated.

00:26:50.540 What do you do when you run into that for yourself?

00:26:52.940 I usually throw a temper tantrum.

00:26:55.400 I wouldn't want to be in the way of one of your temper tantrums.

00:26:57.660 Yeah.

00:26:58.320 You know, that's what I used to do.

00:27:01.740 Now it's more like – and I'm just being real, man.

00:27:04.560 Like, dude, I've got nothing to hide. 0.99

00:27:05.780 You know, people are going to fuck off when they hear that, but it's the truth. 0.98

00:27:08.540 That's what I want, man, and that's what I love about you. 0.99

00:27:10.260 I think that helps people, man, you know, because then when they go crazy,

00:27:13.580 they know, well, hey, Andy's going crazy sometimes too.

00:27:16.040 He just doesn't show it.

00:27:17.060 Yeah.

00:27:17.300 You know, I don't know, man.

00:27:18.360 Like I've got some certain friends that I talk to on a regular basis

00:27:23.500 who are also kind of wired my way that sort of talk me off the ledge

00:27:28.980 and so to speak, you know, not literally, but –

00:27:31.240 Sure, no, I know what you mean.

00:27:32.300 Yeah, and my business partner is awesome at that, like getting me calmed down

00:27:36.500 and getting me to see the big picture again when I'm focused on, you know,

00:27:39.600 whatever I'm frustrated about.

00:27:41.500 One of my good buddies, his name is Rob Bailey.

00:27:43.980 He owns a company called Flag Nor Fail.

00:27:46.100 He's a lot – him and I are almost the same person in terms of mentality.

00:27:49.560 So, like – and it's funny too because when he's real fired up,

00:27:52.380 I'm usually calm and it's vice versa.

00:27:53.880 Yeah, yeah.

00:27:54.600 So it works out that way.

00:27:55.880 I can always go to my dad too, man.

00:27:57.640 My dad is always good at putting it back in perspective.

00:27:59.600 But, you know, when you have a lot of fire, man, sometimes that fire gets a little too hot.

00:28:05.380 Yeah, I get that.

00:28:06.420 I get – yeah, but I think you're going to run across – anybody who's passionate,

00:28:08.760 anybody who wants something big out of life, I think you're going to run across that for sure.

00:28:11.600 Yeah, for sure, man.

00:28:12.900 And, you know, so I do struggle with it.

00:28:15.320 You know, something that I've talked about recently on my podcast that I'm not really afraid to talk about

00:28:20.120 is, you know, I've struggled with depression for almost 20 years.

00:28:22.980 And a lot of that depression comes from – it's not because – and people are going to say, 0.98

00:28:26.760 oh, see, there's another rich guy that's fucking depressed. 1.00

00:28:29.540 No, motherfucker. 1.00

00:28:30.460 It's not where it comes from. 1.00

00:28:31.500 I don't do this for money.

00:28:32.780 I could quit today and never work again.

00:28:34.180 It doesn't matter.

00:28:34.880 Yeah, yeah.

00:28:35.140 It comes from the want to achieve and the time not moving fast enough.

00:28:41.460 I get that.

00:28:42.140 That patience.

00:28:43.300 Yes.

00:28:43.880 Talk to me about – well, no, finish what you're going to say because I've got another thing I want to ask you about.

00:28:48.240 No, no, no.

00:28:48.280 That's cool.

00:28:48.880 I'm just saying, you know, it's something that, you know, I think a lot of entrepreneurs suffer from

00:28:54.780 and it's not talked about enough, you know, because I get a lot of messages from people, man.

00:28:59.660 Dude, I'm so depressed.

00:29:00.800 I'm so this.

00:29:01.420 I'm so that.

00:29:02.800 And they feel like they're alone, you know, in that regard.

00:29:05.940 And it's something that this career path will inflict on you because it's so high and so low,

00:29:12.040 so high and so low and so high.

00:29:14.780 And for every big high, there's a big low.

00:29:18.100 You know, I just like to let people know that if that's you, if that's what you feel like,

00:29:21.420 I realize that a lot of people are like that too.

00:29:23.720 A lot of people, they won't talk about it.

00:29:26.460 And I – you know, I love your thought about patience.

00:29:29.580 And I think if I remember right, you call it – do you call it aggressive or active patience?

00:29:33.020 I can't remember right offhand.

00:29:34.240 Aggressive patience.

00:29:34.980 That's right.

00:29:35.320 Talk to me about what that means.

00:29:37.000 So aggressive patience is basically a concept.

00:29:40.520 It's a term that I started using that has started to be used more and more, which I'm happy about.

00:29:45.520 It's cool.

00:29:45.880 But basically, you've got to understand that things are going to take time, okay?

00:29:52.140 If you're going to create a million dollar or a $10 million or $100 million company,

00:29:59.380 you have to understand that that's going to take time and you have to be patient.

00:30:04.040 And a lot of times when you tell people to be patient, they take it as relax.

00:30:08.180 Yeah, just wait back, sit back, do nothing.

00:30:10.680 So basically, it's the idea of, you know, understanding the concept that things are going to take time,

00:30:17.320 but also understanding that during that time, you need to be doing every single possible thing that you can

00:30:23.120 to bring this closer to where you are.

00:30:25.800 It's just how you use time.

00:30:28.660 A lot of people don't understand that.

00:30:30.660 Like if I tell somebody, hey, man, it's going to happen.

00:30:33.580 Just be patient.

00:30:35.120 They're going to hear that as like, oh, okay, well, I don't have to worry about it.

00:30:38.260 I can relax and I can chill and I can put my feet up and just hang and watch Walking Dead all day.

00:30:44.220 No, you're going to have to do every single thing that you can still knowing that it's still going to take that time.

00:30:51.180 So it's just being aggressive and also being patient.

00:30:54.240 How do you decide?

00:30:55.600 Because I think a lot of people might hear that and think, okay, well, I'll just keep doing what I'm doing

00:31:00.120 or more of what I'm doing and they might actually be doing the wrong thing.

00:31:04.200 So how do you measure what's actually being aggressive and what's working?

00:31:08.680 Yeah, man.

00:31:09.200 You've got to pay attention to every single detail.

00:31:11.900 I'm a huge numbers guy.

00:31:13.460 I'm a huge, huge numbers guy.

00:31:15.980 For example, anytime you advertise, this is a free tip that should help a lot of you guys who are entrepreneurs.

00:31:22.800 If you start advertising, it's going to take 8 to 12 weeks for it to start working.

00:31:26.880 This is why most businesses don't succeed because they don't advertise long enough.

00:31:31.440 However they advertise, whether it be traditional media, whether it be social media, it doesn't matter.

00:31:37.320 It takes time.

00:31:38.700 Most people will go 4, 5, 6, 7 weeks and be like, oh, dude, I'm sticking to it.

00:31:45.640 It's still not working.

00:31:46.600 Yeah.

00:31:47.060 And then they'll quit.

00:31:48.640 And then forever, the rest of their life, you'll talk to them and they'll say, dude,

00:31:51.960 I tried advertising.

00:31:52.800 It doesn't work. 0.99

00:31:53.800 Well, that's because it takes 8 to 12 weeks, not fucking 6 weeks. 0.98

00:31:57.180 Right. 0.98

00:31:57.400 I know that from a scientific standpoint.

00:31:59.740 I can see it.

00:32:00.680 All right.

00:32:00.900 Now, there's direct marketers out there that will tell you, oh, well, if you write the right ad, it'll return today.

00:32:06.560 That's true, but that's a different kind of media.

00:32:09.040 Now, how do you know you're doing it right?

00:32:11.280 Well, first, you have to know if you're doing it long enough to know if you're doing it right.

00:32:15.680 Okay.

00:32:16.080 Yeah, it makes sense.

00:32:17.240 Okay.

00:32:17.560 So, second of all, you've got to pay attention, man.

00:32:21.700 You know, are the things you're doing making the needle tick forward or are they keeping it the same?

00:32:26.540 And if you know that you've been doing something for long enough for it to supposed to produce result,

00:32:32.360 which is usually much shorter in people's mind than what it is in reality,

00:32:36.240 meaning that most people will say if they do something for 2 weeks, which would actually take 6,

00:32:42.200 they'll say it doesn't work.

00:32:43.240 Yeah.

00:32:43.660 You know, whether that be anything like posting on the internet or, you know,

00:32:48.620 a certain technique they're doing at their job or anything.

00:32:52.260 Like, a lot of people want things to happen so much faster than what they really do.

00:32:55.800 Yeah, even like the gym.

00:32:56.720 I mean, all of this.

00:32:57.340 I get this.

00:32:57.860 Yeah, that's a perfect example.

00:32:59.400 Like, people will come back.

00:33:00.940 Dude, I'm in that business.

00:33:02.340 You know, we have sports nutrition retail stores, and people will come back in 3 weeks and be like,

00:33:07.280 dude, I've been doing everything, and I've only lost 5 pounds. 0.84

00:33:10.520 It's like, dude, 5 pounds in fucking 3 weeks is pretty fucking good if it's 5 pounds of fat. 0.96

00:33:14.760 Sure. 0.98

00:33:15.200 You know, and so you just see a lot of people who can't understand how long something is supposed to take.

00:33:22.100 And a lot of people will quit and then assume it doesn't work and then be done with that whole idea because of that.

00:33:27.800 So telling somebody how to know when to adjust, you first have to know how long something's realistically supposed to take.

00:33:33.440 But, you know, if you're working out and you're eating right for 12 weeks and you've only lost 5 pounds, you're most likely doing some things wrong, you know, depending on how you start with or whatever.

00:33:44.600 You know, some people can stay the same weight, but you get the idea.

00:33:47.440 Right, no, no.

00:33:47.720 We know what you're talking about.

00:33:48.440 Yeah.

00:33:48.900 What do you say about, like, personally, do you have coaches or other people that you're looking to that are helping you establish some of these benchmarks and see this from a different perspective?

00:33:56.340 I don't have any coaches personally.

00:33:58.840 I don't work with anybody like that.

00:34:01.340 I have guys who are peers that I talk to on a regular basis, and I guess they play the role of that, you know, sometimes.

00:34:08.520 And sometimes I play the role of that for them.

00:34:10.480 Right.

00:34:10.860 So it's more so surrounding yourself with people who have experienced the things that you have so that you can find common solutions.

00:34:21.880 You know, that's where your peer group, I mean, dude, it's everything.

00:34:25.160 Yeah, I mean, we talk about this quite a bit, of course.

00:34:27.340 Yeah.

00:34:27.780 I mean, you've got to surround yourself with people who I personally believe are at least on your level or above your level in that area of life.

00:34:34.680 You know, and like, dude, that's different for every area, right?

00:34:36.780 Like money and success and financial wealth, you know, somebody might be here.

00:34:41.100 But on, you know, their family life, they might be here.

00:34:44.180 It's all about finding the right fit.

00:34:46.420 So one coach doesn't always fit all.

00:34:50.540 Right.

00:34:50.860 Right.

00:34:51.220 Finding what you specifically need, finding a coach for that or a peer for that, and then working with those people.

00:34:57.040 Exactly.

00:34:57.780 Exactly.

00:34:58.400 Yeah, makes sense.

00:34:59.380 Tell me what's on the docket next.

00:35:00.560 Obviously, we've got the first book, and then we've got what's – is there six, seven other books coming out?

00:35:05.060 So there's eight books total.

00:35:06.440 Okay, right.

00:35:06.840 At least we're releasing one book per quarter until they all come out.

00:35:10.480 So that will take, you know, basically until the end of 2018 for all the books to come out.

00:35:17.120 During that time, I'm going to release, quote, unquote, the real book because I've had a lot of people tell me, when's the real book?

00:35:23.660 The real book.

00:35:24.060 Yeah, I get that. 0.96

00:35:24.820 And this is a pretty fucking real book, dude. 0.95

00:35:26.700 It looks pretty real to me. 0.95

00:35:27.940 Yeah.

00:35:28.220 But the real book, hopefully we're looking at April.

00:35:32.720 So pretty soon.

00:35:35.520 Yeah, and that's going to be – I believe that that's going to be an awesome book.

00:35:39.680 We've edited and read it and edited it many, many times.

00:35:43.720 It's going to be really cool.

00:35:45.380 The next big speaking engagement, I have a couple private engagements coming up for sales conferences and things like that.

00:35:51.500 But the big one – the next big public one is I'm speaking at Grant Cardone's 10X –

00:35:56.160 Oh, you are?

00:35:57.160 Yeah, 10X event in March.

00:35:58.900 Awesome.

00:35:59.060 So I'm really excited about that.

00:36:01.760 It's three-day event.

00:36:02.360 Is it like 10XCon or something?

00:36:03.800 I saw it the other day.

00:36:04.740 Yeah, yeah.

00:36:04.760 It's 10X Growth Seminar.

00:36:06.800 Okay, yeah.

00:36:07.340 So I forget what he's – I mean, it's going to sell out.

00:36:11.220 I think it's close to sold out already.

00:36:12.660 But it's 16, 17, 18 in March, and I think I'm speaking every day.

00:36:17.520 Right on.

00:36:17.760 So, yeah, I'm excited about that.

00:36:19.460 He just reached out to me last week on that, and I was really happy that he did because I'm a big fan of Grant.

00:36:25.620 I get along with him really well, and I'm really excited about hitting the stage with him.

00:36:30.180 Yeah, lots of energy, man.

00:36:31.620 We've had him on the show about four – I think four or five months ago, maybe not even that long.

00:36:35.880 And just tons of energy.

00:36:38.480 Yeah, and he's cool.

00:36:40.180 He's legitimately a good dude in real life.

00:36:43.280 Like I like – a guy you would hang out with, you know what I mean?

00:36:46.360 Yep, yep.

00:36:46.940 So I like him a lot.

00:36:47.980 Well, I'm excited to get this book.

00:36:49.700 I've got a project that I'm actually doing with my kids.

00:36:53.500 We've got a cherry tree out here, and I call it the Cherry Picker Project.

00:36:57.480 Yeah.

00:36:57.720 And so they literally pick cherries.

00:36:59.280 We built a cherry slash lemonade stand.

00:37:02.580 They paid me back from their earnings for all of the supplies and my time for building that.

00:37:07.900 That's awesome.

00:37:08.200 And these kids will go out on a weekend, and they'll make hundreds of dollars.

00:37:10.760 In fact, last year, they hired their very first employee, which was a neighborhood kid, to come work it with them.

00:37:16.020 So I'm excited to take some of these lessons you're talking about and apply it for my kids as well.

00:37:19.960 Dude, that is badass.

00:37:21.200 Yeah, it's fun.

00:37:21.760 That's super cool, man.

00:37:22.320 Yeah, it's a lot of fun.

00:37:23.440 Well, hey, as we wind down, Andy, I know I've asked you this question before, but I want to ask you again.

00:37:27.240 And that question is, what does it mean to be a man?

00:37:30.160 I hope I answer it the same way I did last time.

00:37:33.880 There's a lot of ways to describe this, for sure. 1.00

00:37:36.000 Yeah, because I know there's going to be the dude that goes back and listens and be like, oh, dude, you're full of shit. 1.00

00:37:40.360 Yeah, he contradicted himself. 1.00

00:37:42.000 Yeah.

00:37:42.560 That's nothing new to you, though, right?

00:37:43.840 I'm sure you get that all the time.

00:37:45.200 Yeah, dude.

00:37:45.960 You know, you've got the guy.

00:37:47.160 I call them the astericals. 1.00

00:37:48.400 Yes, yes.

00:37:49.840 But I get that a lot.

00:37:51.420 So I'm just going to speak what's on my mind right now, and hopefully it lines with what I said a year ago.

00:37:56.320 Right on.

00:37:56.500 You know, I believe being a man has to do with fulfilling the obligations that you have to those around you.

00:38:05.560 I think that as a man, you are obligated to do certain things.

00:38:09.640 Obviously, take care of your family.

00:38:11.900 Teach the next generation the right things through your actions, not just your words.

00:38:16.320 You know, live a life of integrity and show people.

00:38:20.560 And this is something this is the thing that that I I believe the most is to show the next generation what's possible if you decide you want to do something.

00:38:31.620 I always say success is your obligation.

00:38:33.980 Grant always says success is your duty.

00:38:36.940 And both of us have been using those those terms independently before we even knew each other.

00:38:43.100 And I believe that I believe that it's your duty or your obligation, however you want to say it, to become successful to a point where you can take care of your family.

00:38:52.560 And you can also teach the next generation what the fruits are of a dream plus effort plus time and what happens about that, you know, with that.

00:39:02.280 So I think that's probably not all of what it means to be a man.

00:39:06.080 I mean, you've got to have a badass beard, right?

00:39:08.080 You have to.

00:39:09.120 It is a prerequisite for sure.

00:39:10.820 Yeah.

00:39:11.380 But that's the main gist of it.

00:39:14.020 I think I think we have an obligation that is often overlooked that is bigger than ourselves.

00:39:19.160 That is not just about, you know, how much money can I make or what kind of life can I live or making it all about yourself and making it about other people, you know.

00:39:29.460 And the cool thing about it is if you make it about other people, usually all the things that you do will grow from that.

00:39:35.600 Yeah.

00:39:36.280 You know, because you're giving so much that people will actually feel obligated to to be a part of your mastermind or be a part of or buy your book or buy your supplements or buy whatever.

00:39:46.680 You know, that's how it's worked for me, man.

00:39:48.680 Yeah.

00:39:49.140 Again, that's something that takes years to build.

00:39:51.320 But it's I think it's the way to do it.

00:39:53.560 Right on, man.

00:39:54.280 I'm in agreement wholeheartedly.

00:39:55.920 Yeah.

00:39:56.220 Cool.

00:39:56.700 All right, brother.

00:39:57.060 How do we connect with you?

00:39:57.920 We get the book.

00:39:58.500 We want I know it's on preorder right now.

00:40:01.040 They're sneaking a couple copies out early.

00:40:02.860 But how do we connect with you and get the book?

00:40:04.200 Yeah, the book's on Amazon.

00:40:06.200 Just Google my name or not Google it, but put it into Amazon or type in the name of the book.

00:40:12.960 Charlie, the Bulldog's Fantastic Fruit Stand or Otis and Charlie's Hardworking Tales and just go on Amazon and buy it.

00:40:18.520 And we are going to have a book launch party.

00:40:21.060 And anybody who's bought 15 books is going to be able to get a ticket.

00:40:24.620 So if you buy 15 books and you can validate that, we're going to let them come for free, which we'll be doing a keynote.

00:40:30.380 I'm going to try to get a couple of my buddies to come speak at that, too.

00:40:32.620 You can find me on social.

00:40:34.300 I do a lot of things on social at Andy Frisella on Instagram.

00:40:38.480 And then my website is TheMFCEO.com.

00:40:42.440 Right on.

00:40:43.020 Yeah, I think most of the guys listening to this know of you anyways.

00:40:45.440 They're going to be excited to have you on the show and listen to what you have to say or had to say.

00:40:49.160 And we'll make sure we link everything up, though, man.

00:40:51.760 And make that available.

00:40:53.220 Your guys are the best, man.

00:40:55.160 I love whenever they comment saying, hey, listen to Ryan Mickler's show, blah, blah, blah.

00:41:00.380 And let me know that they're always the most polite and cool dudes.

00:41:03.440 Good.

00:41:03.720 That's what I like to hear.

00:41:04.900 Trying to keep those guys in line.

00:41:06.700 Yeah, man.

00:41:07.220 They're good.

00:41:08.000 They're doing good by you.

00:41:09.120 Right on.

00:41:09.660 Right on.

00:41:10.380 Well, Andy, I got to say, man, I appreciate our friendship.

00:41:12.340 I mean, one of the most sincere, humble men that I know and the opportunity I had to come to visit you earlier in the year and the way that you show up in the world has been inspiring to me.

00:41:20.980 I know it's inspiring millions of people across the planet.

00:41:23.300 So I appreciate you and everything that you are and what you represent, man.

00:41:26.880 I really do.

00:41:27.940 Thank you, brother.

00:41:28.660 Likewise, man.

00:41:29.480 I appreciate it.

00:41:30.420 We're both trying to make it count.

00:41:31.820 You know what I mean?

00:41:32.580 Yeah, absolutely.

00:41:33.840 All right.

00:41:34.100 Thanks again, Andy.

00:41:34.740 Appreciate it.

00:41:35.380 All right.

00:41:35.720 Thanks, Ryan.

00:41:36.240 See you, bud.

00:41:36.660 Okay.

00:41:38.500 There it is, man.

00:41:39.240 My friend, Mr. Andy Frisilla.

00:41:40.480 Like I mentioned earlier, I know a lot of you are already following him, but if you're not, make sure you do moving forward and make sure you buy the book.

00:41:47.000 I promise you will not be disappointed and your kids will not be disappointed.

00:41:50.480 Again, guys, just wanted to remind you about the Iron Council.

00:41:53.040 We talked a little bit about the mindset for success, and we talk about this at length within the Iron Council.

00:41:58.780 In fact, this week, we're focusing heavily on how to achieve those New Year's resolutions.

00:42:03.620 We're going to help you identify the objectives.

00:42:05.460 We're going to help you identify the tactics.

00:42:07.140 And then we're going to give you the tools, the resources, the skills, and most importantly, the accountability to actually help you get to that point.

00:42:13.860 So you can learn more and sign up for the Iron Council at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.

00:42:18.980 Guys, I look forward to talking with you on Friday for our Friday Field Notes.

00:42:21.420 But until then, take action and become the man you were meant to be.

00:42:24.840 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.

00:42:27.800 You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.

00:42:31.420 We invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

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Order of Man - December 27, 2016

093： Andy Frisella ｜ A Legacy of Success

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