Order of Man - June 03, 2022


10 Surefire Ways to Turn Boys into Men ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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10 Steps to turn boys into men. 1. Be a good role model. 2. Teach others how to be a better man. 3. Lead by example. 4. Inspire others to be better.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.180 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.740 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Brian Michler.
00:00:27.500 I'm your host. I'm also the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. And of course,
00:00:31.920 I want to be the first to welcome you here. This is a podcast dedicated to helping give you as a man
00:00:37.060 the tools, conversations, resources, information that you need to thrive as a man. I got a message
00:00:44.460 the other day from somebody that was mocking our YouTube channel because they said something to
00:00:49.740 the effect of, it's a sad state of affairs that men need to learn how to be men from other men.
00:00:55.860 I thought that was a very strange comment because that's always been the way that it's been.
00:01:01.120 Men need to learn from other men. Boys need to learn from men who have gone before. We've always
00:01:05.560 operated in tribes and groups and packs. And it isn't until relatively recently that we've done
00:01:11.640 away with that, that we've embraced this idea of the lone wolf and that we've found ourselves in
00:01:18.480 some of the positions societally that we found ourselves in. It's because men aren't doing it.
00:01:23.100 Men aren't teaching other boys and young men and men how to behave like men, which is the subject
00:01:30.560 of not only this podcast, but the specific conversation that I'm going to have with you
00:01:35.720 guys today. So it's not a sad state of affairs that men need to learn from other men. It's a sad
00:01:40.540 state of affairs that it's not happening as often and as frequently as it should. And the result is
00:01:46.700 despair and dangerous circumstances and situations like some of these school shootings that we've seen
00:01:53.300 depression, suicide, gang-related activity, substance abuse, physical and verbal abuse,
00:02:01.480 addiction, pornography, all of the things that we know are wrong in society seem to have a correlation
00:02:08.460 with a lack of masculine manly men present, available, and ready to teach some of these
00:02:16.500 concepts. So I'm going to hit on that today with you guys. I do want to share, we have a legacy event
00:02:21.320 coming up. It's September 22nd through the 25th. This is a father-son event on my property here in
00:02:27.520 Maine. I'm going to talk with you more about it at the end of the show, but it's again, September 22nd
00:02:33.160 through the 25th, 2022. We're going to do that here on my property in Maine. We're going to have
00:02:38.240 a great time with jujitsu and hiking and camping and learning how to shoot a bow, doing airsoft,
00:02:47.740 but then we're going to mix in some skills and some tools and some conversations that we as men need to
00:02:52.860 have with our boys and some other activities I have planned for you. So if you're interested,
00:02:57.060 you can go to orderaman.com slash legacy, orderaman.com slash legacy. All right, guys,
00:03:02.440 let me get into this 10 surefire ways to turn boys into men. Number one is you have to be an
00:03:11.420 example first. If you're hoping that boys will become men through osmosis, then it's safe to
00:03:18.320 assume that the first thing we need to do is ensure that we're acting like the men that we would like
00:03:24.220 them to be. We need to model that behavior. We can't expect that we're going to go out and be
00:03:29.600 complete bums. And then they're going to turn into something other than what we've turned ourselves
00:03:33.440 into. If you want the young men in your home and the young men within the community to start behaving
00:03:39.580 and acting differently, then that's what you need to do. Lose weight, get in shape, build a business,
00:03:43.940 serve the community, lead your family, lead your community, lead your church congregations, and be
00:03:49.120 the kind of man that you want these young men to be. When I was younger, I really didn't have
00:03:54.640 a role model in my life until I was about 14 or 15 years old. And I had some coaches come into my life
00:04:01.120 who showed me a better path than the one that I was on. It was those men who helped get me on the
00:04:07.440 path I needed to be. I was getting into fights. I was drinking. I was getting into trouble. It was not
00:04:13.060 going well for me. And it wasn't until I had righteous and capable men who came into my life,
00:04:18.460 who spoke to me differently, who had different conversations, who looked different. They acted
00:04:22.860 different. They behaved different. People love them. I saw that. And I picked up on all of that.
00:04:28.040 So the change that we need to say, see, starts with us first. It's always with us first. It's
00:04:34.660 easy to say, hey, I'm going to go make my impact in the world and not believe that you have to change
00:04:41.180 yourself. But you do. You absolutely do. Number two is that you have to be present in these young
00:04:47.460 men's lives. If you're not present, they're not going to pick it up. Occasionally, I'll say the most
00:04:51.840 important parent in a young man's life is his father. I'll say that on social media.
00:04:56.940 And I met with a broad array of feedback, positive and negative, when I do say that.
00:05:03.760 But inevitably, I'll have somebody say, well, you know, the kid can have a father, but if he's not
00:05:08.060 there, it doesn't matter. Right. That's exactly what I'm saying. When I say an engaged, present man,
00:05:14.180 ideally in the home, I'm not talking about a bum. I'm not talking about a loser. I'm not talking about 0.98
00:05:20.880 somebody who's drunk and high and completely disengaged from the family. Clearly, that's not
00:05:26.220 what I'm talking about. What I'm talking about is A, somebody who's setting an example. We just talked
00:05:31.300 about that. And B, somebody who's present physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, checked in,
00:05:38.580 engaged, being active with his sons, being active in the community, going where the young men are so
00:05:44.860 that you can serve them more effectively, meeting them where they are, even mentally and emotionally.
00:05:49.440 We can't expect to have any sort of impact on these young boys if we aren't willing and able
00:05:54.880 to go where they are and meet them physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually where they
00:06:00.060 might be. And that's what I mean when I'm saying be present, be in the moment, get your work done
00:06:04.900 over here, be so good at all the other things that you're doing that you actually have the time
00:06:09.260 and the resources to be able to engage in your community and engage with these young men the way
00:06:17.720 that they need to be engaged with. Number three comes down to communication. So the first five
00:06:22.700 I'm going to address today are more of the soft skills and how you can behave. But the last five
00:06:28.840 are actual physical things that you can do to be present in these young men's lives. But number three
00:06:34.000 is the way we communicate with them has to be firm, but fair. There's a big difference generally
00:06:39.340 between the way that men and women communicate. And overwhelmingly, a lot of our young men are only
00:06:44.380 learning from other women. And it's not wrong that they're learning from women. It's not long
00:06:48.880 that they're picking up on some of these cues, but it is wrong that they're not getting a masculine
00:06:53.220 influence. And so what I see with men who have been raised by women who went through the public
00:06:58.620 school system and were taught exclusively by women who never did any sort of sports, they grow up more 1.00
00:07:05.800 feminine. Again, that's not wrong for a woman, but if a man can't learn to assert himself, 0.99
00:07:11.280 if a man can't learn how to be assertive, if a man can't learn how to talk to other men,
00:07:16.660 if he crumbles at the slightest sign of adversity or another man gets upset or frustrated with him,
00:07:22.660 it's clear that he probably didn't have a man in his life. I know that was the case for me.
00:07:27.880 I always had a really, really hard time identifying with other boys my age, with other men. I looked at
00:07:34.440 assertive behavior as aggressive behavior. It was threatening to me. It was concerning to me.
00:07:39.340 I lacked a lot of confidence as a young boy because I didn't have that masculine presence of
00:07:45.680 strong, bold, assertive, firm communication. And I had that, I think life would have been
00:07:53.020 differently. Now I'm not complaining because I'm pretty happy with where I am, but I've had to learn
00:07:57.000 these things along the way. I've had to learn how to communicate with other men and be engaged with
00:08:02.040 boys. And it's always very interesting to see emotionally how a young man responds when he's
00:08:08.560 only had women in his life. He's just not as mentally tough. He's just not as mentally resilient.
00:08:14.580 And I know a lot of people are going to say, well, Ryan, women are tough and they're, yes, 1.00
00:08:18.980 they're strong, they're tough, they're mentally resilient, but they communicate differently.
00:08:23.860 And so when you get that firmness or that push or that kick in the pants that a young boy might need,
00:08:28.340 and he's never been exposed to that before, he crumbles.
00:08:30.900 I saw this in my military service. I saw a lot of guys who you could tell didn't have a dad around
00:08:39.700 and, or didn't play sports. And then a drill sergeant got in their face and all of a sudden
00:08:44.920 life was over and they just could not function. So guys, we need to be sure that we're communicating
00:08:52.120 with our young men in a firm way and a very fair way as well. The next one is that we need to be
00:08:59.620 humble. We need to humble ourselves. We need to be open and receptive to what they need to learn.
00:09:06.920 We need to realize that our job is to put ourselves out of work. I've often said that as a father,
00:09:11.980 it's your job to render yourself obsolete. And I know I get, again, exceptions, nuance. Okay.
00:09:18.560 You understand the point that I'm making when I say render yourself obsolete. I'm not saying you won't
00:09:22.760 ever be there anymore. I'm not saying that you won't be loved or needed. What I'm saying is you
00:09:27.100 you weren't needed to function, to be a fully functioning, capable human being. You won't need
00:09:33.940 your father ideally. And that requires humility because as leaders, don't we want to be involved
00:09:39.580 and don't we want to be in charge and don't we want to feel important? I know I see this with my
00:09:44.420 two older boys. They're 14 and 11, and they're gaining a lot more independence lately. And to be
00:09:49.420 honest, it's a little bittersweet. It's a little sour because they've been my boys for 11 and 14,
00:09:57.100 years. And I've seen them grow and they've needed me for everything. I've had to teach
00:10:00.680 them everything. I'm with them every day, all day. And now they're thinking about girls or they want
00:10:06.340 to go hang out with their buddies and they just don't need me as much, but that's good. And that's
00:10:11.540 right. And that's the natural progression of things. But that requires a humble heart knowing that
00:10:17.000 when they go out and they show independence and they're trying to assert themselves that I'm doing
00:10:22.500 it correctly, I don't need to be involved in every single decision. I don't need to be involved
00:10:28.020 micromanaging all of my children's decisions. Granted, if they're younger, yes. As they get
00:10:33.440 older, we let go and we step back and we become more humble and we let the process take place.
00:10:40.580 And then number five, this is very important, guys. We need to be proud of the right things.
00:10:47.920 So when our sons or young men in the community do something that's worth noting, that's masculine, 0.89
00:10:55.440 maybe they stick up for somebody. Maybe it's the way they went aggressively harder at the gym or
00:11:01.060 on the basketball court than they ever had. Maybe they ask a young woman on a date and they get
00:11:06.720 rejected. Maybe they start a business and it doesn't go so well, or they start a business and
00:11:11.440 thrives. We need to be positive and proud and encouraging of proper behavior. And some of
00:11:18.680 that behavior, a lot of society would say that's bad. When I see young boys compete, that's great
00:11:23.640 behavior. That's the behavior we want in our young men. We want them competing righteously, doing it with
00:11:30.320 morals and ethics and fairly, but we want them competing. That's what we want when they're training 0.94
00:11:36.240 to be big and strong and fast. And even the capability of administering righteous violence,
00:11:42.180 we want that in our men. We should be honoring that. We should be celebrating that. When they
00:11:47.380 stick up for somebody, we shouldn't be suspending them from school because there's a zero policy,
00:11:52.180 a zero, what do they call it? A zero tolerance policy on fighting. It's like, well, hold on.
00:11:57.360 There's maybe there's a reason let's figure it out. You know, maybe a young man decided to step up
00:12:03.500 and protect somebody. And that's the reason he got in a fight. Should we be dismissive of that?
00:12:09.040 Should we punish a young man for that? No, of course not. We should honor it. We should reward
00:12:14.060 it. We should celebrate it. You know, it'd be really interesting is if two boys got into a fight
00:12:18.020 at school and instead of just immediately suspending these children, instead, we actually figured out
00:12:24.960 like police would do an investigation that the school said, okay, well, let's figure out what
00:12:28.800 actually happened here. And then maybe we found out that one was being a bully to somebody else and
00:12:34.300 pushed and shoved somebody else. And the other boys stepped up and defended that person.
00:12:39.540 And you're going to expel or suspend that individual. You should honor him.
00:12:45.340 Next time there's an assembly, Hey, you know, we just want to honor so-and-so for, for good behavior.
00:12:51.240 He stood up for somebody else when he didn't have to, he put himself in harm's way.
00:12:55.080 He protected somebody else. And we here at this school, we honor, we celebrate that.
00:13:00.380 You see how different that is from society's standards. Oh, heaven forbid a boy fight.
00:13:05.820 Heaven forbid he show any sign of aggression. Heaven forbid he be competitive.
00:13:11.240 Heaven forbid he puts his head down and he charges and he works hard towards the things that he wants.
00:13:16.160 We wouldn't want that. Would we? Of course we want that. It's crucial that we have that,
00:13:20.460 but unless we're willing to be proud about it and celebrate it and honor it, we will not see it to
00:13:25.380 the degree that society needs. So let's shift gears here now, guys. I talked about in the first five,
00:13:31.580 more of the soft skills, the way that we behave, the way we do it. Now I want to talk about how we
00:13:36.900 show up as men and specifically where we can show up. So number one is you need to get involved in
00:13:43.940 your school. Now we homeschool. So obviously I'm very involved in the education of my children,
00:13:50.400 but even outside of that, we need to be very involved in government schooling, because if we're
00:13:55.280 not, we're going to let some real morons to put it nicely, some, some deranged lunatic morons dictate 0.58
00:14:03.500 the tone of the conversation and the way that our young men are learning and growing up. Case in point
00:14:09.220 is the point I made a minute ago, zero tolerance policy on fighting. Even if there was a perfectly
00:14:15.660 acceptable reason that somebody might actually get into a fight. I think that that's probably
00:14:23.620 school policy that has been dictated by either women or misguided men. And it's unfortunate and it's 0.74
00:14:32.640 harming our young men. So you need to get involved in PTA. You need to get involved in booster club.
00:14:39.220 Or any of these sporting type organizations, fundraising type programs, uh, get involved
00:14:45.320 in the school board, be present in your schools, because this is where all of this stuff is
00:14:50.560 happening. All right. There's no neutral ground. Okay. If they're at home and they're learning from
00:14:55.520 righteous and capable men, then they're going to be on the right path. If they're at school and
00:15:01.600 they're learning from degenerates and peers who don't have other men in their lives and adults who
00:15:06.680 are trying to indoctrinate them into dangerous and disgusting ideology, when it comes to critical
00:15:11.460 race theory and gender ideology and the zero tolerance kind of stuff, it's not good. It's not
00:15:18.920 like it's neutral. That's actively working against our young men. And the only way to turn that tide
00:15:25.160 is to fight the battle where it is. And the battle is on the school grounds. The battle is in the
00:15:31.900 administration. It's in the conversations that elected officials are having it's meet school
00:15:37.900 board meetings with the community. You need to go to those. You need to be involved. You need to be
00:15:41.960 involved in booster club and PTA and all of these other parent teacher organizations. Cause if you're
00:15:46.560 not, somebody else is doing it. And I can assure you that it's not going to be what you would like to
00:15:52.560 see. And your voice needs to be heard. Number two is we need to start coaching youth sports more,
00:16:01.020 right? I've coached for a long time, basketball, football, baseball, T-ball. I think I may have
00:16:07.600 done soccer, wrestling, jujitsu. I've coached all of these in some capacity. Now, some I'm fully capable
00:16:14.980 and qualified to teach football, for example, to young men, probably not at the college level,
00:16:20.140 but I could be involved at the high school level. Not any much more than that. Some of them,
00:16:25.140 I'm not even qualified at all. What do I know about soccer? I never played soccer. I think I
00:16:28.780 played one year when I was six years old. And yet I go because the coaches, they need help as do our
00:16:34.500 young men. So guys, if you have a son or a daughter playing sports, you might be the only other man in a
00:16:41.980 young person's life. And, and your presence there, because we talked about presence earlier is
00:16:48.780 crucial. It's critical that you're there. When I was, uh, coaching for my boys, baseball team and
00:16:55.780 football, that's primarily what I did. It was always a bit disheartening to see how hard it was to find
00:17:01.200 other men. I always had one to two coaches who would come help. And I'm extremely grateful for
00:17:05.880 that, but it was so hard to find other men who were engaged and wanted to be present and could make
00:17:12.300 the time. And I understand we have work commitments and we have other obligations and we have travel,
00:17:17.000 but like, this is the most important thing. So get yourself into a position where you have the time
00:17:24.280 and the money and the resources and the energy and capacity to step up and lead youth sports teams.
00:17:30.960 I've had so many young men, boys who I know that I was their only righteous and capable masculine
00:17:38.220 present as a fixture in their weekly life. And it was usually two to three nights a week and that's it.
00:17:44.760 And that's all they got. They need more. We can do better on that. Number three is community
00:17:51.900 programs. Guys, there are so many different community programs that you can get involved
00:17:57.080 with. I bet that if you went to the community center right now and you said, Hey, how can I help?
00:18:01.660 Where can I volunteer? What can I do for our young men? They would give you a laundry list item of
00:18:06.640 things that you could do and the ways that you should get involved. But what I would also suggest
00:18:10.900 is most communities, every community I've ever lived in usually has, especially in the summer,
00:18:16.040 because that's where we're at right now is they have afterschool programs, community courses that
00:18:23.180 are available. And you might know something about firearms or jujitsu or painting or photography or
00:18:31.020 podcasting or web development or construction or business communication or setting up business plans.
00:18:38.780 There's things that you know. I'm not telling you to go out on a limb and talk about things you don't
00:18:43.660 know. But if you went to the community center and you said, Hey, I'd like to do a course every
00:18:46.940 Wednesday night for four weeks on an intro to photography. And my age ranges are for boys between
00:18:53.600 the ages of 10 to 18, because I want to teach them photography, or I want to teach young men and
00:18:58.880 maybe young women too, but I want to teach these young people how to start a business, how to start a 1.00
00:19:04.280 podcast, how to use social media better, whatever it might be. There's skill sets that you have.
00:19:10.020 Just exert yourself. Just go to the community center and say, I want to do this. What's your
00:19:15.700 deadline for putting together a course curriculum? And how often do I need to be involved? And what
00:19:19.740 can I make work? And they would be ecstatic to have you get involved in your communities.
00:19:25.720 Number, I said, number three on the last one, it was actually number eight. So I'm on number nine.
00:19:29.880 Is within your church organization, get involved in your church organization. There are men in the
00:19:36.260 I'm telling you church is failing our men because it's overly feminized. It's, it's, it's not conducive 0.99
00:19:43.080 to the way that men bond and connect. And the way that we practice communication with each other is
00:19:49.460 just not conducive for that. So what you can do is you can go to your pastor or your clergy member or
00:19:55.580 your bishop or your preacher or whoever it might be. And you could say, I would like to put together
00:20:00.660 a men's group. Or if there's already a men's group, figure out who's heading at men's group
00:20:06.020 and ask to be involved. And then you guys can get together on a weekly basis, but you can also do
00:20:11.140 this with a young men's group, get two or three other fathers in your church congregation and go
00:20:16.800 to the pastor, the head of the church and say, Hey, we would like to put a program together for young
00:20:21.360 men. And we're going to meet on Thursday nights at seven o'clock every Thursday at seven. And we're
00:20:27.620 going to learn about the gospel. Uh, we're going to teach them principles. Some nights we're going
00:20:31.540 to go shoot, uh, other nights we're going to go bowling. Sometimes we're going to take them to
00:20:35.720 other professionals to teach them about these things. When I was serving with the young men in
00:20:41.020 our community through our church organization, uh, this was a couple of years ago. Uh, these are the
00:20:46.380 things that we did. So we would, we would go, we would meet at the church and we would pray.
00:20:50.660 And we usually have a spiritual lesson. And then afterwards we would, I have a 40 airsoft guns.
00:20:56.960 I would take the boys out South and we would go set up a course and we would do airsoft and shoot
00:21:02.200 each other. Now you might hear that and think, Oh, that's not good. I don't know what man would
00:21:05.960 think that, but believe it or not, there are, I can't believe you do that. Well, it was the funnest
00:21:10.480 time we possibly could have had. And those boys are all together. They're learning from each other.
00:21:14.540 They have us there as leaders, helping them to reign it in where needed and to watch their
00:21:19.160 language and to act like gentlemen. Uh, we would go to, uh, one time we went to a dentist office.
00:21:25.300 We had a dentist in our congregation. I said, Hey, can I bring our young men on Thursday evening,
00:21:30.180 uh, to, uh, just check out your work. And that's what we did. We did dinners in the community,
00:21:37.280 actually within our church congregation. So we, we picked a night, I think it was a Friday or
00:21:43.040 Saturday evening and we had all of the young ladies come to the dinner. And then the men
00:21:48.520 had learned how to, how to welcome somebody in, how to pull out a chair, when to stand,
00:21:54.880 when to sit, how to use the silverware and how to be gentlemen and how to actually interact
00:21:59.480 with a young woman. And yeah, it was awkward and uncomfortable, but that's the point. They 0.93
00:22:03.540 never done it before. There's so many things you can do within your church congregation.
00:22:07.040 And the beautiful thing is everybody there already shares the same values. You guys wouldn't be part
00:22:12.660 of the same congregation if you didn't share the same values. So I'm sure that your head of your
00:22:17.700 church, pastor, preacher, Bishop would be ecstatic. If somebody would a step up and create something
00:22:23.560 like this, or be just getting more involved with the current program. Cause I promise you
00:22:27.780 it could be doing better and you could be the catalyst for that growth. And guys, the last thing
00:22:33.020 that I want to share with you today, so point number 10, 10 surefire ways to turn boys into men
00:22:37.100 is run for elected office. Okay. We have to make changes at the city, the local, the state,
00:22:44.180 and the federal level. We have to, because again, there's no neutral. Everybody's actively working
00:22:49.800 against our young men and whether it's by design or whether it's just the fallout from horrible,
00:22:55.700 atrocious policy, it's ruining the lives of our young men. They are more and more likely to drop out
00:23:02.060 of school. They are more and more likely to get into drugs and alcohol, pornography, and other
00:23:08.540 addictions. They're more likely to engage in violent situations. They're more likely to be depressed.
00:23:13.500 They're more likely to go to prison. They're more likely to commit suicide. This is an epidemic
00:23:18.220 against our young men. And we need to be in those elected positions to illustrate and introduce
00:23:27.300 legislation that's actually going to enhance and improve the lives of not just our young men,
00:23:32.620 but everybody. And that's the beautiful thing. When we go out and we serve our young men and we help
00:23:37.860 raise them into men, then the entire community, all of society is served. It's better when there's 1.00
00:23:45.240 righteous and capable and moral men doing what righteous, capable, and moral men do. Society is better.
00:23:52.500 Crime rates go down. Poverty goes down. Wealth and abundance goes up. Fulfillment goes up. Safety
00:23:59.240 improves. It's better when men are acting like men. And contrary to what that guy told me earlier about
00:24:06.500 it's strange that we live in a time where men need to teach other men how to be men. It's exactly what's
00:24:13.160 needed. It's always been that way. And I want to make sure that we are continuing the traditions
00:24:18.920 of our forefathers in, I don't want to say grooming because it has such a negative connotation, but
00:24:24.840 helping these boys evolve into men. So let me do a recap real quick. Number one, be an example.
00:24:33.280 Number two, be present. Number three, be firm, but fair. Number four, be humble and know that you're
00:24:41.020 to put yourself out of work. Number five, be proud of the things that make them men. Violence,
00:24:48.260 aggression, dominance, competitiveness, stoicism. Be proud when they exhibit those behaviors in
00:24:53.800 proper ways. Number six, get involved with school, PTA, booster clubs, fundraiser activities,
00:25:02.440 school board meetings, those sorts of things. Number seven, coach youth sports. Number eight,
00:25:07.780 community programs. Number nine, church organizations with men and young men. And the last point that I
00:25:15.640 wanted to make is run for elected office at the local state and or federal level. That's it.
00:25:24.060 That's it. If we, if all of us did pull out one or two of those things and just improved in one of two
00:25:31.800 of those things, we would drastically within a, within a period of five to 10 years, we would radically
00:25:37.820 and drastically improve the lives of tens, if not hundreds of millions of people around the planet.
00:25:46.100 It's a worthy fight. It's a hill that I think is worth dying on. It's where I've planted my flag.
00:25:53.840 You know, I hear a lot of people talking about the rise of fatherless homes and the epidemic of boys.
00:25:58.280 And I'm wondering, as they're saying that, what are you doing about it? Are we just going to continue
00:26:03.460 to talk about it on social media? Or are we going to start to implement some of these steps and more
00:26:07.940 to improve not only our own lives and our family's lives, but the lives of the young men in our
00:26:12.560 community and the people that they will eventually lead and serve. I hope you implement it. If you are,
00:26:17.580 let me know, share your resources, share your website, share your nonprofits, share your success
00:26:22.620 stories, uh, to tell, give me your testimonials. Like I want to hear about that stuff. Cause this is so
00:26:27.840 important to me and it should be important to everybody. I hope it is. And I hope we can make it more.
00:26:32.660 So, all right, guys, I'll be back next week. Actually, no, sorry. Before I leave,
00:26:37.260 we have our legacy event again, September 22nd through the 25th. If you're wondering how to get
00:26:42.840 your boys involved in something like a program that's designed as a rite of passage to usher them
00:26:49.220 into manhood, our legacy event is a great thing to do. Uh, we do jujitsu every morning. We'll go on
00:26:55.480 hikes. We'll have campouts. We'll do some basic survival stuff. There's a lake that we're going to do a
00:26:59.840 little swimming, um, and a couple of relay activities. Uh, we have other activities designed
00:27:05.360 to push and, and test and forge these guys mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically.
00:27:12.680 It's an amazing, amazing three and a half day experience. You can check it out at order of
00:27:17.380 man.com slash legacy. It's for fathers and their sons. And when I say father, biological adopted
00:27:24.340 foster, uh, stepchild nephew. You guys get the point of boys between the ages of eight to 15.
00:27:32.720 Again, order of man.com slash legacy. Hope to see you guys there. All right, guys,
00:27:36.760 we'll be back next week until then go out there, take action and become a man. You are meant to be.
00:27:41.520 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life
00:27:46.140 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.