The term personal brand has become such a buzzword these days, but the fact remains that the ability to accurately reflect who you are to the world has become more important than it ever has. Whether you re starting a new business, interviewing for a new job, maybe you re vying for a job promotion or you re in the dating scene, understanding personal branding will go a long way towards helping you get exactly what you want. My guest today, Colby Kaye, talks with us about setting yourself apart, the core elements to be aware of, where to start when it comes to building your platform, and how to create a strong personal brand.
00:00:00.000The term personal brand has become such a buzzword these days, but the fact remains that the ability to accurately reflect who you are to the world has become more important than it ever has.
00:00:10.120Whether you're starting a new business or interviewing for a job, maybe you're vying for a job promotion or you're in the dating scene, understanding personal branding will go a long way towards helping you get exactly what you want.
00:00:23.640My guest today, Colby Kaye, talks with us about setting yourself apart, the core elements to be aware of, where to start when it comes to building your platform, and how to create a strong personal brand.
00:00:34.660You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:40.540When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
00:00:44.960You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.
00:00:49.540This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
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00:00:59.780Guys, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Mickler, and I am the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast.
00:01:05.920If you are not familiar with what we do here on the Order of Man podcast, our goal is to introduce you to the world's most successful men when it comes to business and relationships, fitness, mindset,
00:01:17.420just about any other area important to you as a man.
00:01:20.820Last week, however, we actually had a woman come on the show and talk with us about her perspective on relationships and keeping that fire alive,
00:01:30.020which, guys, after 13 years of marriage and four children of my own, I know it can be a challenge at times.
00:01:36.540So make sure you check out that show from last week, and while you're there, make sure you subscribe so you never miss an episode that we put out each and every week.
00:01:44.800Also, let me give you a couple of quick resources that you are going to want to know about before I get into my conversation with Colby today.
00:01:51.640First, we have got our first ever Order of Man meetup that's happening August 12, 2017 in Kansas City.
00:01:59.340I'm going to be there. My guest, Steven Mansfield, who a lot of you guys are familiar with, is going to be there.
00:02:03.660We're hosting the first ever live Order of Man podcast. You're going to be part of that.
00:02:08.240And we're having some breakout sessions available for every man that comes along with an option of hitting the shooting range with me or getting some self-defense training.
00:02:16.960It's going to be awesome event. So come out, spend the day with me, Steven Mansfield, some other of the Order of Man members, and reserve your spot to do that at orderofman.com slash event.
00:02:27.100And second, and second, and I'm only going to touch on this briefly because I'm going to tell you a little bit more about it during our break.
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00:02:37.200We've just implemented a new program that's going to teach you the tools, give you the guidance, and show you a new system for operating in your life at maximum potential.
00:02:46.760And if you're listening to this show, I know that you're always on the lookout for becoming more effective and efficient as a man.
00:02:52.980You can do that at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil. Guys, I am stoked to introduce you to a personal friend of mine, Mr. Colby K.
00:03:00.980He is the founder of Healthy Primate, among other businesses. But more importantly, the man knows how to market himself in a way that get people to listen.
00:03:09.740So when Colby invited me to speak at his event coming up on June 24th and 25th, it's called The Meltdown in the Desert, I was honored that he would even think of and consider me.
00:03:20.720In addition to running multiple businesses, he is an expert when it comes to networking, when it comes to connecting with the world's most sought-after social media influencers like Gary Vaynerchuk and others.
00:03:32.280Today, he's here to talk about why you and I should focus on personal branding and how to make that work.
00:03:40.580Colby, what is up, brother? Glad you joined us today.
00:03:55.440That's right. Well, good. Well, hey, this is going to be a critical topic, one that I think a lot of guys might overlook as maybe not being all that important,
00:04:01.760especially if they might be an employee and they're not really worried about necessarily promoting themselves.
00:04:07.540But I want to talk with you about personal branding and maybe to give us a little bit of framework for the discussion.
00:04:13.100Is that something that is even that important for everybody to at least consider?
00:04:18.920I think it is, man. It's one of those things where each one of us has an opportunity to do something bigger than what we're doing today.
00:04:27.560Right. And there's this huge paradigm shift that I continually feel.
00:04:32.340Right. First off, I'm 41 and I had this, I would say, an awakening when I was about 35 or so.
00:04:38.780And it really started to transpire in when I took a journey outside of corporate America to build my own business.
00:04:45.900And, you know, I've always been kind of an artistic dude.
00:04:48.460I was, you know, I was doing film, I did music and then did art for a while and then came into entrepreneurship.
00:04:54.440And building out a brand has always been something that's been extremely important to me.
00:04:59.040But the question that you ask is, is it important for everybody?
00:05:02.440When I was in my 30s, I would have said probably no.
00:05:05.340You know, as an employee, there's a fine line between towing the company line and then your own special interest.
00:05:31.000I think there's a lot of people who would just because of the space we're in.
00:05:33.680But I think there's a lot of people who might not even really know what the hell we're talking about.
00:05:37.220When we say personal branding, what does this even mean?
00:05:40.180The definition of personal brand for me would be how do you take your gifts, your talents, the things that you like to do and then set yourself apart and tell that message in a marketplace?
00:05:49.580Whether that marketplace is social media, whether that marketplace is at your workplace, whether that marketplace is in your neighborhood.
00:05:56.980It's being able to take your personal gifts and the things that we've all been blessed with and leverage those to share with others and kind of cut through the noise.
00:06:09.260I mean, how do you I know we don't have enough time to obviously delve into that too deep, but let's just take a component about that, which is setting yourself apart.
00:07:36.600So if you look at – if I were to draw that out and then from 74 when you retire, you're a.k.a. golden years to kind of do what the things are that you'd like to do.
00:07:46.620Well, there's an interesting thing that all kind of happens in the middle of all this.
00:07:50.180So I don't have to draw it for you to hear 25 to 74 is where we spend the majority of our lives.
00:07:55.100I'm a firm believer that we were not put on this planet to work 60 hours a week behind a desk for somebody else.
00:08:03.140If you start to look at the end of that lifeline or the end of that cycle and you look at retirement, 401ks were never a long-term investment strategy.
00:08:10.860They were something that was built by the financial system for people that were uneducated in money to spend their money.
00:08:16.420The social security system, as you and I know, it won't be there.
00:09:59.100We're not – the way that we see things or the way that we've been told to see things, whether it's get in line or be a consumer, are wrong.
00:10:06.660And the system is not built for guys like you and I or like your listeners.
00:10:10.760So when I talk about personal branding, it's more than just like you've got to stand out with a logo and a mission statement.
00:10:16.380For me, it's taking a passion, taking a drive and a talent and leaving your dent in the universe, whether you do it full-time or part-time to supplement income.
00:10:25.320But being here in the long game and a very crowded, noisy marketplace.
00:10:31.080So when I say personal branding, my man, I tie it all back to that.
00:10:34.480It's tying back to being able to take something you love to do with a talent or a skill and separating yourself from the rest and being able to drive that into the long game.
00:10:42.920Well, actually, let me give you the opposite side of this because I think what a lot of people hear when they hear personal branding is they think of, for lack of a better term, gaming the system, almost in a way manipulating the system.
00:10:52.260But if I'm hearing you correctly, it's about taking somebody you already are and maybe just living a little bit more authentic to that and actually pursuing some of these other avenues.
00:11:05.200Here's what I mean by that is everybody shows up with the logo.
00:11:08.820First, let's look at how you show up and where you show up first.
00:11:12.960Depending on what you're good at or what your business is and your personal brand and your talents and your skill sets before you turn it into something generating money, how do you show up every day?
00:12:10.680I was honest about who I am and what I do and the struggles and building a business and losing my house and sacrificing my relationships and then realizing, God, that's not the end game.
00:12:19.760I got to fix that and showcasing the entire struggle of building a business in my personal brand that turned into my business brand and taking my viewership along for that ride.
00:12:28.920So when I launched a business, my personal brand – my business brand was an extension of my personal brand, and the two were kind of the same.
00:12:35.540So people got to see me build a business on my personal page.
00:12:38.680When I launched the business, it was a transition for them to go, and it was just a natural evolution for them to follow.
00:12:44.960Yeah, I mean this has obviously been a turning point in Order of Man and my career.
00:12:49.080The more that I share about my struggles and the things that I've dealt with in the past, particularly my near divorce, our separation my wife and I went through almost nine years ago, those type of messages are really resonating with people.
00:13:01.260And that's not something I was trying to manipulate.
00:13:03.100That was just me being truthful about where I struggled.
00:13:05.560How does one maybe begin to share some of this when they've been conditioned and trained that they are not supposed to bring this stuff up, that they're supposed to toe the line and be that cog in the wheel you talk about?
00:13:31.680Like you know you put up too many videos.
00:13:33.180You know what would be cool is if you put one video out a week that people would be looking forward to your videos.
00:13:37.780Well, I did over 600 videos last year, and I looked at their profile, and they've got less than like a – they're not an expert by any means.
00:13:45.340And I said, well, when I want to go backwards, I'll take your advice.
00:13:48.760Taking advice from people that are not where you'd like to be is not the – I don't listen to it.
00:13:54.460I'm very respectful, and I'll take it with a grain of salt.
00:13:56.840But I take advice, and I take direction from people that are in places I'd like to be or I want and I strive to be.
00:14:02.600So if you listen to those naysayers and those people, I think you're going to stay and continue to be where you are.
00:14:07.100You have to get outside that comfort zone.
00:14:09.180Finding a voice, finding a passion in a drive, showcasing what it is you'd like to showcase, and then finding which platform you want to showcase that in.
00:14:17.340And I call it – there's a fine line between being vulnerable and what I'll call – Tommy Baker and I had a – he had a phrase for it that I just loved.
00:14:25.760I think it was vulnerability masturbation.
00:14:28.600Everybody has to talk about how bad their life was, and that's just this circle.
00:14:33.040And it's like – I'll use the analogy, Ryan, of life is six feet of crap, but I don't need to get a shovel and go to all six feet for you to relate to me.
00:14:40.540What I need to do is I need to skim the topic, the surface of a topic in order for you to relate and say, that guy gets me, right?
00:14:48.380So it's being able to share aspects of relatability without trying to make it too predicated, I guess you could say.
00:15:24.340My career is basically podcasting and blogging, and I think there's a lot of guys that are still in that boat like, I'm not going to share that stuff.
00:15:31.840Well, let me ask you, where did the turning point come where you decided you wanted to make it a business?
00:15:37.440For me, it was knowing that not only did I have something to share, but I saw that there was a huge gap between the information that men had and the ability to actually apply it in their life.
00:15:49.700And my goal was to bridge that gap through the business of Order of Man.
00:17:06.900And I wanted a place to share my journey because it wasn't about just losing weight.
00:17:11.420What I realized were my hormones were out of balance, my relationships were upside down, and I was clinically anxious and depressed.
00:17:17.900So I started cataloging my journey of first losing the weight, but then I spent 18 months.
00:17:23.140As a human guinea pig, experimenting on the hormone balances that are cortisol and testosterone and what they meant to my body.
00:17:30.660Like why was I so stressed out all the time?
00:17:33.220Why was I living in such an anxious state?
00:17:36.060And I could have gone the easy route, which is the way I started, which was to go down and get pharmaceuticals and get your Xanax and Afran.
00:17:42.560And I thought there's got to be a different way.
00:17:44.340And what I did is I took a journey on understanding how my body produced what it did and took natural supplementation to address it.
00:17:50.280And every 30 days, I got my blood work done.
00:18:38.000No, Sal, now you talk about bravery, which is obviously a huge component of this.
00:18:43.060I know firsthand that posting a video about your wife leaving you and why you were mostly to blame for that is a difficult thing, I can tell you from experience.
00:18:52.900How do you start to build this up and work this into a position where you at least feel comfortable to the degree that you're willing to put it out there for the world to see?
00:19:03.940That video was the first video I saw of yours, and then I remember seeing it a year later, and I remember just how – I think I was in a tough position personally, and I remember seeing that video thinking, God, I'm not alone, right?
00:19:58.800It's identifying a place where it seems like some things are lacking, and your skill set or your voice essentially is a differentiator based on what's being told.
00:21:41.020So it's one of those things where you don't look at it as much as work.
00:21:43.240It's one of those things where, okay, 60 hours a week consistently for two years and putting out countless amounts of content to get to the place you're at.
00:21:52.200It's two years of every day putting out pieces of content.
00:21:56.280I have a formula that I've been talking about for two years.
00:21:58.880It's quality content plus consistency equals value.
00:22:02.940And that value can be quantified in viewers and listeners in dollars, the variables, the value.
00:22:08.560But you have to show up every single day, multiple times a day sometimes, putting out pieces of content to stay relevant because our attention span is so short.
00:22:16.520But you have to be putting out – not just putting out content for the sake of content.
00:22:36.040But what you might not know is that each month we change the topic and the focus and we focus on things that are important to you as a man.
00:22:43.380And this month we are covering the area of protection.
00:22:46.100We're going to be focusing on situational awareness, self-defense, home defense, emergency and disaster preparedness, and of course a whole lot more.
00:22:53.660These topics are very, very important and I know they are interesting to you because every time I bring on an expert on the podcast to talk about them, those shows do very well.
00:23:01.400So we're going to focus on that within The Iron Council.
00:23:04.060You're going to get the tools, the guidance, the direction to improve in each one of those areas and you're going to gain access to months' worth of other content and conversations with 280 other high-achieving men who want to succeed and they want to see you succeed.
00:23:19.540So if you'd like to learn more about what we're up to and claim your spot within our brotherhood, you can do that at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.
00:23:26.840Now with that said, let me get back to our conversation with Colby.
00:23:32.020What do you say to the guy who might have identified a gap to some degree, feels like he might be able to fill that gap, but in the same breath, he's saying to himself, the market's saturated or there's too many people talking about health or there's too many people talking about masculinity and so I'm not going to throw my hat in the ring.
00:24:24.080So being able to sub-segment, take a topic, take a subtopic, take a niche, then niche that down to be very specific about what it is you want to talk about, what it is you want to take a voice in, and you just put the work in.
00:24:36.640And I know that can be a scary thing because when you start narrowing it down, you start thinking, oh, I'm going to alienate people.
00:24:41.780But that's kind of the point too because I think it's very difficult for human beings to wrap their head around the fact that there's 7 billion plus people.
00:25:22.840You need 1,000 true raving fans, and 1,000 true raving fans will create a lifestyle that will allow you to live on $60,000, $70,000, $80,000 of additional revenue a year.
00:25:32.100The next question, if I look ahead at where you could be going in this conversation, Ryan, would be, well, I'm not an expert.
00:25:44.760I think that people don't think that they're unique.
00:25:48.440I think we underestimate our abilities or gifts or talents, and probably a lot of that has to do with the fact that we don't recognize our talents because we don't assume they are.
00:25:57.780We assume everybody's probably like this.
00:26:01.780It's called Catch Me If You Can, right?
00:26:03.900So Leonardo DiCaprio plays Frank Abagnale, right?
00:26:06.960So Frank Abagnale, he was an imposter that was able to play the role of many different things.
00:26:12.560One of those roles was a professor at a graduate school of sociology specifically.
00:26:17.920When he got caught, they asked him, how did you get away with teaching a semester as a sociology major without knowing anything about sociology?
00:26:25.980And he said, I don't need to know anything about sociology.
00:26:28.360All I need to know is two pages ahead of my students.
00:26:31.940And if you look at it, you take – the skill set that you're at today, there is somebody behind you.
00:26:37.000Believe it or not, there's somebody that is like two pages behind you at all times.
00:26:40.640That's the market that you're going after.
00:26:42.100You're not going after the guy who's an absolute – I'm not going after Tim Ferriss to break into the genome hacking project.
00:26:48.960But what I'm trying to do is get niched down and order a man to teach men how to be better men because there's a huge marketplace there.
00:26:56.020And I don't have to be ahead of Tim Ferriss as the number one podcaster on the planet.
00:26:59.740I need to be two steps ahead of my audience.
00:27:02.260So when you start to look at building your personal brand and the expert syndrome, you need to look at it like that is you're always going to be – if you put the experience in, you're always going to be two pages ahead of your students or the people that you're attracting.
00:27:15.740What's your philosophy on building a personal brand?
00:27:19.700You and I very much have personal brands, but we also have business brands as well.
00:27:24.100When is one more important than the other or render the other brand obsolete?
00:27:28.920How would you identify whether it's all about business branding or personal branding?
00:27:39.140I just choose to carve out time with my family as a schedule.
00:27:41.560And with personal brand and business brand, you just need to – you need to draw a line on what you're most comfortable sharing.
00:27:47.400But I think the framework would be the same.
00:27:49.380When I launched the Healthy Primate, dude, I spent 18 months telling my story and then building a company.
00:27:54.540So when I launched the supplement line, it was a six-figure supplement line in three weeks because people thought it was the next thing they needed to do in the cycle of following me on my personal page.
00:28:24.800And that comes along with personal branding as you're trying to build – by telling your story, you're going to naturally attract people around you that have the same likes and the same kind of feelings.
00:28:34.520You know, the other piece is, well, what if it offends other people and it's the fear because that's why people don't do it.
00:28:40.400You need to realize that your neighbor and the guy you went to high school with is not going to pay your bills.
00:28:45.260And if you say something that offends them because of your stance, you need to realize that's probably okay and you're going to thin out.
00:28:52.000But as you thin out, you're going to start to attract people that are of the like mindset.
00:28:56.140I don't want to be around the guy who's still living in my hometown, reliving his days as the high school quarterback who's now 200 pounds overweight walking at a loading dock.
00:29:04.360Like I don't relate to that dude anymore.
00:29:06.360I didn't relate to him in high school, man.
00:29:07.760I did him a favor by being friends with him on social media.
00:29:10.360I want to hang out with guys like you.
00:29:11.960I want to hang out with guys in our circle like Tommy Baker.
00:29:14.660I want to hang out with guys like Tom Bilial.
00:29:16.740Like I want to hang out with guys that are in our circle doing cool stuff that are going to push me to the limits.
00:29:31.480You talk about being able to offer a product or a service just because they know you and they've connected to you personally.
00:29:38.100I can give you another example of that just to give the guys that are listening some ideas of how this might work.
00:29:42.740One of the things that I've been preaching for all of my life but more specifically the last couple of years is the importance of planning out your morning and how exactly I do that.
00:29:50.740I had so many people reach out and connect with me personally that said, hey, I know you do planning.
00:32:34.660And then going back to that group of people that you've identified with a problem, and I call it the validation step, is will they pay for that product or service and have them engaged in your proof of concept build out?
00:32:45.980It's one thing they'll say, yes, I love it.
00:32:47.820I'll give you a t-shirt analogy is how many people come to us and they're like, I want to start an apparel company.
00:33:22.660It's understanding through the validation process of being able to go back to that group of people that said they had a need and will they actually pay for it.
00:33:29.580But charging them something and building a model around your proof of concept now allows them to be part of a beta.
00:33:34.940That beta program where they buy into the reciprocation for cash for your idea now bankrolls you to scale versus raising money and saying you don't have the money and the time.
00:33:44.620And then the last pillar is what I call sell your face off.
00:33:47.360That's the sales and marketing piece, which is its own podcast.
00:33:50.060But those four things are how I take every idea, whether it's a new entrepreneur who says I've got an idea to do this, or Cisco or Microsoft says we have a new product and we want to get to this marketplace.
00:34:03.120I followed it for 10 years, and it works.
00:34:05.600How do you avoid when it comes to – I'm kind of getting into this last bucket of selling your face off.
00:34:10.160How do you avoid trying to do it the way everybody else does it?
00:34:15.240Like I might look at Colby and say, oh, I love the way he communicates on a video or the way that he speaks on this podcast.
00:34:20.400Or I might look at like a Sean Whalen and his posts and the way that he posts those things, and we fall prey to wanting to be like everybody else.
00:34:29.500You have to be your authentic self, and that's probably a really easy answer for me just to say, and it's something we all kind of struggle with.
00:34:37.060It's you have a different story than I have.
00:34:39.620Waylon has a different story than either of us have.
00:34:42.240The people we look up to all have different stories.
00:34:44.680Emulating their delivery style is one thing, but making it your own by telling your story is how people relate, and you just – you have to do it.
00:35:20.540It's standing out and people relating to your story.
00:35:23.340It's why people really start to buy on.
00:35:25.860And I'll give you really just a super quick example because I know we're pressed is I launched an online education platform recently that came out of necessity because every day I get people asking me, how do you make money?
00:35:45.780Well, we built an online course that helps people essentially take stuff around their house and sell it online to people who've never done it.
00:35:51.840OK, so through this process, there are the way traditionally people show up in the marketplace of helping people build financial freedom is the guys of like a Tai Lopez, dude.
00:36:09.380First off, second off, I'm going to show you a way to make a couple extra hundred bucks a day or a couple hundred bucks a week.
00:36:14.380It's not going to get you a Lambo, but I got to tell you, it's going to give you some breathing room between gas and groceries every month.
00:36:37.660And when a guy says, I'm down to my last thousand bucks and I just got divorced and I got full custody of my kids and I don't know where to spend it.
00:36:44.100I don't say buy my course or your life is going to end.
00:36:46.540And I say, what we need to do first is look at your, have you paid your mortgage?
00:39:52.400The people speaking are people that are leveraging social media to build their personal business brands, provide value, and they're tacticians.
00:40:40.600On that website you gave me might be a little tricky for guys to remember right off the fly, especially if they're working out or driving.
00:40:46.460So, guys, just go to the show notes, and I'll make sure I have all the links on that as well.
00:40:49.840And if you just type in, go to Google, type in Meltdown in the Desert, you're going to find the Eventbrite page, the first thing that pops up.
00:41:39.080In the meantime, if you are interested in joining us at our live one-day meetup, you can register at OrderOfMan.com slash events.
00:41:45.800And if you're interested in joining our exclusive band of brothers inside the Iron Council, you can do that at OrderOfMan.com slash IronCouncil.
00:41:52.760You can see, guys, we've got a lot going on, but we want to make sure that we give you what you need, what you want, what you're looking for.
00:41:59.200So, giving you a lot to choose from here today.
00:42:01.740Guys, I'm going to look forward to talking with you on Friday for our Friday Field Notes.
00:42:04.920But until then, take action and become the man you are meant to be.
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