Order of Man - 7 Traps to Avoid in 2020 ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

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00:02:48.180 Let's jump into the conversation today. We are going to be talking about seven traps to avoid in

00:02:54.720 2020. Now I made a post about this on Instagram and Twitter and all the places, by the way,

00:03:00.180 you can check that out at Ryan Mickler. My last name is spelled M I C H L E R. If you're interested

00:03:05.480 and talked about these seven traps. And I think for the most part, everybody understood. But there

00:03:14.040 was some pushback because this is polarizing. Anytime you talk about behavior and patterns and

00:03:18.460 activities, obviously not everybody's going to agree. So in an attempt to explain what these seven

00:03:24.660 traps are and also bring some context to the conversation. I thought I'd do that here on this

00:03:31.340 Friday field notes because when you post things on social media in absolutes, you're inevitably

00:03:36.840 going to get people who disagree and that's fine. I have no problem with that. And you're going to get

00:03:41.120 people who either don't want to see the context or they can't see the context more often than not.

00:03:48.820 I think it's people who don't want to see the context. And it's funny to me because you see these

00:03:53.060 guys, they're obviously intelligent, but I've never been so fascinated with somebody's desire to

00:04:01.220 play dumb in order to appear smart. It's a really silly tactic. So what these guys will say is,

00:04:07.920 is they'll say, well, in this situation, I realize everything that I talk about and everything that

00:04:13.160 anybody else talks about always has exceptions. And I wanted to bring some clarity to that.

00:04:18.240 And we're bound to agree on some of these and we're bound to disagree on others. So I'd love to

00:04:23.360 continue to have an intelligent discussion, a thoughtful discussion, a respectful discussion,

00:04:28.720 and continue the conversation offline or in the comments. So let's jump into it guys. Again,

00:04:34.220 seven traps to avoid in 2020. Uh, number one, pornography. Again, these are going to be

00:04:41.360 polarizing. I understand, but I think there is enough research out there that suggests and shows

00:04:47.220 that pornography is not good for us. You know, these, these seven traps I'm going to talk with you

00:04:52.100 about today are things, behaviors, actions, patterns, beliefs that a lot of men fight very,

00:04:59.560 very hard to justify and rationalize. And, uh, I think this first one is a real danger to who you

00:05:07.560 are as a man, to women and to society in general. Now I know there's been a lot of chatter about

00:05:13.480 regulating pornography. Uh, and is that something the government should do? My belief is that,

00:05:19.540 no, that's not something the government should do. People are adults. You can make your own

00:05:23.900 decisions. Obviously you don't need me to approve or disprove of, of, of anything that you may be

00:05:30.380 engaged in. It's certainly not the government's place, but I would say that we ought to make the

00:05:35.380 conscious decision to avoid pornography altogether. It rewires the brain. Uh, it makes us think

00:05:41.480 differently about women and intimacy and sex in general. Uh, it's, it's unhealthy. It certainly 1.00

00:05:49.000 is unhealthy for women and men who engage in pornography. And you're contributing to that by

00:05:54.480 you're watching and use of pornography. Uh, there's all sorts of reasons. And in addition to that,

00:06:00.640 it's, it's not, you give away your power when, when you watch pornography and you rub one out.

00:06:06.860 Uh, there's a lot of research out there that suggests that even semen retention is something

00:06:10.680 that's very, very powerful, uh, which I am going to be talking about in the future and bringing on some

00:06:15.720 guests. Cause I don't know enough about it, but there's a lot of reasons why I think it's in our

00:06:19.760 best interest to avoid pornography altogether. There's the lust and there's the thoughts and

00:06:25.300 there's the unhealthy, uh, view of, of sex. And then of course that's damaging to a relationship

00:06:31.380 as well. So if you're engaged in a relationship and you're watching pornography, uh, she's going to 1.00

00:06:37.020 be impacted by that. And she probably doesn't know that's why you're hiding it. Uh, if you didn't

00:06:42.200 think there was anything wrong with it, then why would you hide it? Now, some guys will say, well,

00:06:45.620 I don't hide it. That's fine. Again, you make your decisions, but if you're hiding that, then

00:06:50.760 you know, there's something inherently wrong. You know, that she's not going to be approving of it.

00:06:54.500 Uh, and she's going to feel like, uh, she's well, in a way that you're cheating on her and you, 1.00

00:07:00.060 you are in a way, at least mentally you're cheating on her. So, and emotionally probably as well.

00:07:04.380 So be very, very cautious of the use of pornography. It's more prolific. It's on our mobile devices.

00:07:12.080 It's more accessible. It's more common. And again, this is something that men fight really

00:07:15.960 hard to justify and rationalize. And I would say we would be better off avoiding that.

00:07:20.940 Another question that I want you to consider, or a question I want you to consider is as I'm

00:07:26.760 talking through these, even some of you who are listening are probably going to say, well,

00:07:30.240 there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with these certain behaviors.

00:07:32.740 And that may be true, but what I'd like you to ask yourself is this, am, is my life better or worse?

00:07:41.720 Or we'll just say it like this. Is my life better if I don't engage in these activities? And I would

00:07:48.360 argue that the overwhelming majority of us would say, yes, our life would be better if we weren't

00:07:54.140 engaged in these activities. So number one, pornography, number two, alcohol and drug abuse. Now, to be fair,

00:08:02.040 in the post on Instagram, I said, alcohol and drug use, I am changing that because I think within

00:08:08.940 reason, uh, and under, again, the right nuance and the right context that there's times where

00:08:14.860 using drugs not only is, uh, okay, I would say it's advisable prescription drugs, for example,

00:08:21.900 in the right situations. Uh, even marijuana has shown medicinal, uh, properties. And so of course

00:08:28.700 there's things like that, uh, alcohol, I mean, some guys use this as, as a way to relax and to,

00:08:35.600 you know, just, just calm down after a long day or a stressful day and, or do it casually or do it

00:08:42.440 socially. And so I see where maybe that's, uh, not going to be a real problem. I think the problem

00:08:50.440 comes. And the reason I called it a trap is because it's very easy for men, especially those who have,

00:08:56.760 uh, the personalities who become addicted to certain things or just addiction in general,

00:09:03.080 uh, to go down that rabbit hole very, very quickly and not realize that things are getting

00:09:09.160 out of hand. Now I've chosen altogether to do away with drug and alcohol use, unless again,

00:09:14.440 it's medicinal and it's for my health. But outside of that, I don't consume any alcohol or use drugs

00:09:21.460 because I want to be clear. I want to be level-headed. I don't want to fall into any sort

00:09:27.220 of a escapism or any sort of addiction that I know is not good for me. I know that there's guys

00:09:32.180 out there who may be able to control it. And if you feel like that's you, then all the power to you,

00:09:36.780 because you're going to need it. Uh, because again, we do have a tendency to become addicted,

00:09:41.360 to focus on these things. And then the use becomes more and more and more. And we gradually,

00:09:46.120 again, justify it, rationalize it. And it becomes part of who we are and ultimately detracts from

00:09:52.020 our focus, our clarity, our level-headed thinking, and ultimately what it is that we

00:09:57.560 truly want out of life, which is not to get drunk and high, but to have a little money in the bank

00:10:01.540 account, have some great relationships, have some experiences and live life to its fullest.

00:10:06.540 And I believe that alcohol and drug abuse, uh, is going to keep you from, from that.

00:10:11.720 Number three gambling. Now I don't, I don't know too many men who have this problem. And I feel like

00:10:17.640 it does fall into the, uh, into the addiction side of things. Um, I used to live a couple of hours

00:10:22.920 away from Vegas and it was really interesting when my wife and I would go to Vegas and we'd watch a

00:10:27.500 show or stay down there and, uh, just see the sites and whatnot. It was really interesting to walk

00:10:33.420 around the casinos and see these individuals who were just popping quarter after quarter after quarter

00:10:40.640 and dropping so much money, uh, on, on gambling. Now, look, if you're using it as entertainment

00:10:47.160 and I'll say, for example, that when I was in Iraq, we played, we had Texas hold them tournaments and

00:10:52.560 you know, we'd put five or 10 bucks in and whoever won, won the entire pot that's gambling too. So I'm

00:10:57.560 not saying again, that this is always going to be a problem, but you have to be very, very careful.

00:11:03.660 This is a trap. This is a trap that you need to avoid stepping into. So if you're going to gamble

00:11:09.940 with your money, um, even here in Maine lottery is, is something that's available and it wasn't

00:11:15.000 available in Utah. And I see so many people spend so much money. I was standing in the convenient

00:11:20.420 store line the other day. And, uh, there was a guy who was buying, buying lottery tickets

00:11:26.900 and he came back up to the counter before I had left. And the woman at the counter said,

00:11:31.660 Oh, did you win something? He says, yeah, I won $10. And he was so excited about that $10. And

00:11:35.920 you know, I just thought to myself, I wonder how many hundreds of dollars or potentially

00:11:40.320 even thousands of dollars this guy has spent, uh, in order to win that $10 back. And now

00:11:46.860 psychologically feels like he, he won just enough to keep them coming back. And that's the point

00:11:53.000 you have behavioral psychologists who, and very intelligent people that study human psychology,

00:11:59.140 uh, who are designing these programs, building out these slot machines and, and strategies for

00:12:06.080 gambling. So you have to be very, very careful with this. And that's why it's a trap that you

00:12:09.020 could fall into. So be careful of that. Uh, number four infidelity guys, I know it's easy to get caught

00:12:14.700 up in the moment. You have somebody who is attractive. She's beautiful. She's paying a little

00:12:19.340 bit of attention to you, making you feel like you're a King or special, or maybe, maybe more

00:12:24.300 important than you've ever felt in your entire life. Uh, maybe there's some dullness in your

00:12:29.080 marriage and things are on the rocks and it's not going well on the home front. And it's very,

00:12:34.040 very easy to fall prey to infidelity. You're not going to find what you're looking for unless you're

00:12:40.700 looking for just a good time. And that's it. But at what cost, at what expense, when you step away

00:12:47.460 and you step out on somebody that you've committed to, not only do you have an issue with this infidelity,

00:12:53.060 that there's going to be consequences to, you are showing a lack of integrity and a lack of

00:12:58.000 character. And that I guarantee is spilling over into other facets of your life. The way that you

00:13:04.520 show up at work, the way you show up to the gym, uh, how you work with your clients, how you communicate

00:13:09.020 with your children, your character isn't isolated to this one-time experience that you have with this

00:13:15.860 attractive female. Who's paying you a little bit of attention, not to mention disease, unwanted pregnancy, 1.00

00:13:22.440 the emotional baggage that comes from connecting with a woman that way. And then also the consequence

00:13:28.380 of it, your wife, who there's a strong likelihood that she'll, she'll leave and that you'll lose your

00:13:35.740 children and you'll lose money because you're going through a divorce. There's all sorts of reasons why

00:13:41.660 you need to stay strong. You need to make the decision to be an integrity in your relationship now,

00:13:48.080 before you get caught up in the moment. Cause I talk with a lot of guys who will tell me,

00:13:52.300 man, I just got caught up in the moment. I just, I just lost who I was for a minute.

00:13:56.840 Don't let that happen to you. Stay strong, stay bold, stay engaged with your wife, cling to her.

00:14:02.560 If you've made that commitment and no other woman, uh, and you will keep yourself from falling into the 1.00

00:14:07.580 infidelity trap. Uh, it's a, it's a dangerous game. I would encourage you not even to toe the line on

00:14:14.180 that game. I had a, uh, a woman reach out to me. This was several years ago and she was really

00:14:21.900 excited about what we were doing with order of man. And she wanted to start something very similar.

00:14:25.580 And, and she asked if I would coach her and I said, yeah, you know, I can help you out. And here's

00:14:32.240 how this would work. And she wanted to get together or she wanted either, either she wanted to get

00:14:36.500 together. I can't remember right off hand and have me come meet her at her place or her office

00:14:40.400 or something. Or she wanted to come to my house and my family was out of town. And, uh, you know,

00:14:45.400 I just, I told her, I said, you know, I appreciate what you're trying to do. I appreciate this,

00:14:49.220 but this relationship needs to be, you know, business and you're not going to come to my house,

00:14:53.820 especially if my family's not here. Uh, we can do this over the phone. We can do this in business.

00:15:00.300 Now this is funny because a lot of people will say, Oh, you know, you're just,

00:15:02.680 you're just being approved. And I know, uh, there was some, some heat that I believe vice

00:15:07.640 president Pence received because he doesn't go out with women in public, even if it's business

00:15:12.860 meetings, look, it's just a strategy to keep yourself out of that situation. And that's what

00:15:19.200 you have to do. You have to employ tactics to keep yourself safe and protected and out of the traps

00:15:25.460 that I'm talking with you about today. So don't even toe the line. Don't even have the appearance of

00:15:30.240 just keep it at arm's length and do what you know you need to do. So that was number four is

00:15:35.040 infidelity. Number five debt. I talked about it on last week's podcast, as we talked about,

00:15:40.400 um, getting your financial house in order, but debt is the plague. Now, again, I know there's

00:15:47.000 exceptions. I know that there's nuances. And that's why I wanted to have this conversation with you is

00:15:51.320 because yeah, there's some times where going into debt makes some sense. If I told you that I was

00:15:56.820 completely out of debt, I'd be lying. We have, excuse me, a mortgage on this, uh, on this property.

00:16:02.900 Um, I've, I've, uh, taken out some loans for business in the past, which are now paid off,

00:16:07.260 but ultimately that's the goal to pay off your debt. And although there might be instances and

00:16:12.860 situations where it makes sense that you incur some debt for an investment in your future,

00:16:17.680 I would say that you ought to pay that off quickly, that you ought to be very, very careful of

00:16:22.740 the debt that you're acquiring and err on the side of not picking up new debt. Uh, and, and I think

00:16:28.840 you're going to be better served again. These are traps because you don't see them. So common,

00:16:34.060 commonly held belief is that there's good debt, right? And so because there's good debt and you

00:16:39.220 associate good with the debt, then you're justifying it and you're rationalizing it. And it becomes a

00:16:44.980 muddled line. If you will, there's a lot of gray. Okay. Is this good? Is this bad? Did I take out

00:16:50.780 too much debt? Am I just trying to rationalize my decision to get into debt? This is something

00:16:55.680 that I think will enslave you. Um, if you're paying interest to other people, you're paying

00:17:00.480 significantly more than you need to. Um, several years ago, we had done very, very well, more so

00:17:06.320 than I ever have in my life regarding, uh, my income. And, uh, my accountant called me up and he

00:17:12.600 said, you know, here's you owe this much in taxes. And I was blown away. I did not realize how much

00:17:18.300 in taxes I had to pay. So I had to set it up so that I could make, uh, make, uh, installment

00:17:23.760 payments on, on my taxes. And I, and I finally got them paid off. And I remember one of the last two

00:17:30.200 or three statements I looked at, I saw the interest that I had paid on this. And it seemed like if I

00:17:35.700 remember correctly, it was like 20 or 25% of my total debt. That's crazy. And that happens all the

00:17:44.220 time. When you buy a house, let's say you buy a $400,000 house, you're going to pay five, six,

00:17:50.920 $650,000 for that $400,000 house. It just, it makes no sense at all. Unless you're doing it short

00:17:59.440 term, unless you're going to make more than that, uh, back. And it's an investment. Just be very,

00:18:04.820 very careful with the debt that you're incurring. And you're going to be in a much better position.

00:18:08.500 Number five was debt. Number six, this one was the deal killer for everybody. This is where

00:18:13.860 everybody got upset divorce. All right, look, I know that there's situations in which divorce is

00:18:21.140 probably the best course of action. I also understand, and I'm fully aware that divorce

00:18:27.800 is not always your decision. Sometimes it's out of your hand. It's too in a relationship. And if she

00:18:32.500 decides she wants a divorce, there's not a lot that you can do about that. Uh, sometimes not always,

00:18:38.100 but sometimes I get that. I understand that when I say divorce, I'm not saying that you should never

00:18:44.740 be in that situation. What I'm saying is that you should do everything within your power to keep

00:18:51.000 yourself out of that situation. I think most of us would agree that the family court system

00:18:56.720 is stacked against men. The way that we have our fatherly rights, uh, our, our income,

00:19:03.340 our wages, potentially garnished, we have alimony and child support, uh, excessive, uh, things that

00:19:09.920 we need to pay back. We need to split up businesses and real estate and other assets. It's a problem

00:19:14.980 for men. Divorce is not a good thing. Not only is it emotionally and mentally draining and physically

00:19:20.780 impactful as well, but it is a stress to say the least on your financial position.

00:19:28.160 So the reason I said it's a trap is because we don't want to rush quickly into divorce. If we can

00:19:35.860 figure some things out and we can improve ourselves and we can be influential in the lives of our

00:19:40.220 spouses, that's a better alternative than divorce. I would also say, and I've talked about this at

00:19:46.920 length in the podcast is that we need to be very, very careful of a dating crazy women. And guys will 1.00

00:19:53.620 say, well, all women are crazy. No, just because you don't understand them doesn't mean they're 1.00

00:19:58.300 crazy. It means they're different and you don't understand them. And that's okay. That's kind of

00:20:02.860 the point. She won't fully understand you. You won't fully understand her. That's why you decide to

00:20:08.000 enter into a union because you both bring something different to the table. So again, there's a

00:20:14.280 difference between somebody being crazy and a woman being intriguing, or you just not understanding

00:20:19.980 her. So be very, very careful of dating crazy women of marrying crazy women. And then also address 0.97

00:20:27.020 red flags early. If there's any sort of red flags in the relationship, you need to bring those things

00:20:32.180 up. You need to address them head on and you need to deal with them before you engage in a marriage, 0.69

00:20:36.500 because that is going to be, if you do that, it's going to be more likely that your marriage will not

00:20:41.620 lead to divorce. Then had you not address those things again, guys, I understand that sometimes you

00:20:48.380 don't see these things. Sometimes it comes out of left field. Sometimes it's out of your hands.

00:20:52.640 I understand that. I'm not saying that just because you happen to be in a divorce that you're doomed to

00:20:57.820 a life of misery, but it is going to be uncomfortable at a minimum for a while. So address the red flags

00:21:04.420 early. Don't date crazy women. Don't get involved with crazy women and then make your decision. We had a 0.81

00:21:09.440 guy in the Facebook group who, and I don't know all the context behind this. So I'll do my best. He was

00:21:18.000 dating a woman who was pregnant and he was wondering if he should continue the relationship. And most of the

00:21:23.720 guys were like, dude, run, like get out of this situation as quickly as possible, which I air more

00:21:29.040 towards that side. I don't know if he knew who the father was or she knew who the father was. I don't know

00:21:35.040 the backstory. I just think that you have to be careful of that. We had a couple of guys in the

00:21:39.700 Facebook group say, well, you're, you're not a man. If you leave her now, that's a ridiculous thought.

00:21:45.120 And let me tell you why there's all sorts of reasons why we would not decide to pursue a relationship

00:21:51.560 with a woman could be her hair color could be the way that she thinks about certain topics. It could be 1.00

00:21:59.400 her body. It could be that she's pregnant. It could even be that she already has children. 0.91

00:22:04.820 And just because you decide not to get involved with a woman, a woman for any one of those reasons,

00:22:09.980 whatever those reasons are. And by the way, you don't need to justify what they are.

00:22:12.900 Those are your decisions. It does not make you less of a man. If you decide not to get involved

00:22:18.160 with a woman who is pregnant or a woman who has children already, that makes you no less of a man.

00:22:23.840 This is your life too. And you have to decide what you are willing to engage in. You have to decide

00:22:29.400 what you're willing to get involved in. And you are not obligated by any means to get involved with

00:22:34.500 a woman who is pregnant and, or has children with another man. If you decide to do that, 0.91

00:22:40.020 all the power to you. And I hope and pray that you'll be the best father to those kids that you

00:22:44.100 can possibly be because Lord knows they need it, but you aren't obligated to do it. Address the red

00:22:49.760 flags early. Don't get involved with crazy women. Be careful of your one night stands. Cause sometimes 1.00

00:22:58.580 those lead to things and do everything within your power, not to get a divorce. Again, I understand

00:23:04.060 that sometimes that's what the situation calls for, or it's out of your hands, but it is a trap

00:23:08.360 that you want to avoid. And not to mention how you show up. We didn't even get into that. And that's

00:23:14.180 really what we talk about at length here in the podcast. And you hear a lot more about that.

00:23:18.020 If you're new and you've already heard a ton about it, if you've been with us any amount of time,

00:23:21.960 there's a lot that you can do your own to be more influential, to be the kind of man that

00:23:26.840 she's engaged with and she wants to be committed to. And number seven, excessive body fat. There's,

00:23:33.920 there's the trend in society of the dad bod and that it's okay to be a little doughy. It's okay to

00:23:42.400 gain, you know, the extra spare tire around your waist. It's not okay. It's not okay. It's not okay

00:23:48.780 to be mediocre. You're not living to your full potential. And I'll be the first to admit that I

00:23:53.200 have room to go on this. Um, and, and these are not meant to cast stones at you guys. All right.

00:23:58.700 This look, I fall into these traps at times, some of these traps anyways, and it's something that I

00:24:04.260 constantly have to fight against and be very, very aware of. And my eating and that sort of thing at

00:24:11.360 times tends to be a problem for me. So I recognize it. I deal with it. I don't justify it. And I certainly

00:24:18.160 don't normalize the fact that it's okay to be 20, 25, 30% body fat. We are meant to be strong.

00:24:26.020 We're meant to be lean. We're meant to be capable. And as you get in shape and you lose that spare

00:24:31.940 tire and you build muscle, you are going to be a more capable man, which frankly makes you a better

00:24:37.280 man. We are who we are based on our actions and our results and men who are fit and strong and lean

00:24:45.220 and capable are going to inevitably produce better results. So let's dismiss the fallacy that a little

00:24:51.800 excessive body fat is okay. Let's dismiss the fallacy that the dad bought is what women want. 1.00

00:24:57.040 They don't. If a woman can choose between a guy who's ripped and jacked and capable and a man who's 0.96

00:25:04.100 soft and doughy and weak considering everything else is equal. She's always going to choose the stronger

00:25:10.820 man. That's how it goes because he is showing through his body alone in this case, that he is

00:25:18.920 more capable of producing results. And that's what a woman is interested in. Simple as that. 1.00

00:25:24.800 So there it is guys. Now I know there's a lot more. And I know again, that we're bound not to agree

00:25:29.500 on all of these. And that's okay. The thing I would ask is if you disagree, let's have an intelligent

00:25:33.760 discussion about it. Let's talk about it and let's get to the root of some of these problems and maybe

00:25:38.040 come to some mutual assumptions or, or agreements about what we're talking about here. I realize

00:25:44.960 it's not always so black and white. I realized that when we're talking on a podcast or social

00:25:49.380 media that, you know, we're limited to some degree and generalizations aren't always the most effective

00:25:56.480 way to communicate, but at least this will get us thinking about what traps we want to individually

00:26:02.300 avoid come 2020. It's good to think about what you want. It's also good to think about what might

00:26:07.240 potentially get in the way. And it's my belief that these seven steps and these seven behaviors

00:26:11.300 will get in the way of you producing the results and making 2020 the best year that it possibly can

00:26:17.260 be. So let's continue the conversation on YouTube in the comments below. Let's continue the conversation

00:26:22.100 on my social media channels at Ryan Mickler. My last name is spelled M I C H L E R. I'll make a post

00:26:29.220 about this. You can let me know what you think, because I'm sure you will. So for better or worse,

00:26:34.220 anyways, guys, appreciate you being on the battle in the battlefield, I should say. And in this battle

00:26:38.620 with me, it's good to know that there's like-minded men who are all working towards similar goals and

00:26:44.460 aspirations and objectives. And it's nice to know that we're holding each other accountable,

00:26:49.200 that we're having conversations that aren't always popular, but are worthy of, of having,

00:26:54.720 because they move us all in the right direction. All right, guys, we'll be back on Tuesday for our

00:26:59.160 interview show and, uh, make sure you subscribe, subscribe, subscribe on YouTube or iTunes,

00:27:04.960 wherever you're listening or consuming this podcast. And thanks for being in the battle with

00:27:08.620 me. All right. Until next week, go out there, take action, become the man you are meant to be.

00:27:13.480 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:27:17.880 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.

Order of Man - December 27, 2019

7 Traps to Avoid in 2020 ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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