Order of Man - September 20, 2019


8 Tips for Men Dealing with Depression ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan discusses the growing problem of mental health in men and how we can address it. He also provides 8 tips on how to deal with it and what to look out for when dealing with it.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
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00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
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00:01:31.460 out into the hands and ears of those men who need it. So we've got a good one lined up for you today.
00:01:36.980 It's something that seems to be continuing to grow as far as trends go. And I want to talk a little
00:01:43.160 bit about mental health, specifically in men. And more specifically, I want to talk about how we can
00:01:49.580 come up with some solutions for that. Now, before we get into that, I do want to mention our show
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00:02:58.500 that's it by way of announcements. Now today I want to get into the discussion of men and mental
00:03:06.220 health. This is an increasing trend. It seems to be something that has been more prevalent,
00:03:11.800 seems to be something that is growing in men. And I hear from a lot of guys within our Facebook
00:03:16.180 group who are dealing with mental health issues. You know, I've been there. I've been down. I've
00:03:21.480 been depressed. I've been beat up in my life. I've been in the pits and in the dumps and I've had bad
00:03:28.080 things happen and it's easy to fall into this pit of despair. But before I get into the eight tips that
00:03:34.760 I wrote down here, I want to say this, and this is my disclaimer. I am not a medical expert on
00:03:41.740 the subject. And I'm not frankly, even talking about clinically prescribed or diagnosed depression.
00:03:48.960 It's not what I'm referring to here. I'm referring to bouts of anxiety and feeling low and being down
00:03:56.080 something that's not chronic or reoccurring, but something that pops up now and again,
00:04:00.020 because of your circumstances. So I do recommend first and foremost, before I get into any other
00:04:05.180 tips that if you are dealing with mental health and depression and anxiety and potentially even
00:04:12.560 suicidal thoughts, that you reach out for help, that you reach out for medical qualified help.
00:04:18.620 What I'm going to share with you today, I think will ward off some of the, I would say natural 1.00
00:04:24.000 tendency that we have at times to feel down and depressed and anxious. And I think if you really
00:04:29.880 incorporate these eight steps that I'm going to share with you today, then you are going to start
00:04:33.400 feeling better about yourself and who you are. And ultimately that's what you want. You want to
00:04:37.540 feel better with about who you are because you're going to be more productive. You're going to show
00:04:41.860 up more effectively at home and be more engaged with your wife and your children. You're going to be
00:04:47.080 more productive at work. You're going to make more money. You're going to help your clients. You're
00:04:51.460 going to help your business grow. You're going to be able to be more involved with your community
00:04:55.380 and in coaching or ecclesiastical services, or just mowing the neighbor's lawn. You're going to be
00:05:02.220 more productive and ultimately you're going to feel better about yourself. And isn't that what we
00:05:07.300 want? I think the reoccurring thread that I see among all the posts and conversations that we have
00:05:14.040 in the Facebook group and within our mastermind and brotherhood, the iron council, it's that guys
00:05:19.160 want to develop and build more confidence. And these eight steps, in addition to help you feeling good
00:05:23.600 about yourself mentally and building up some of the mental and emotional resiliency and strength that
00:05:27.640 you're going to need to excel in your life will help you develop that level of confidence.
00:05:32.920 And let me tell you this, confidence is not something that you have a right to. It's not
00:05:39.640 something that you just get to have. And that certain men have just developed this sense of
00:05:44.180 confidence or were born with it. No confidence is earned. And the eight steps that I'm going to lay
00:05:48.640 out with you here today, uh, will help you develop and earn that level of confidence. So let's jump into
00:05:55.480 it. And these are not in any order guys. So please understand that. But again, you want to
00:05:59.620 incorporate all eight of these steps into your life. And even if you're somebody who you wouldn't
00:06:04.100 consider yourself, uh, depressed or suicidal or down, even these are still things that you probably
00:06:12.720 ought to be incorporating into your life. Okay. So number one exercise, and I don't care what form
00:06:17.780 of exercise it is, whether it's CrossFit or power lifting or strength stuff or running or cycling or
00:06:24.900 jujitsu, I do not really care what it is, but you need to get the body moving. You need to get the
00:06:30.880 blood pumping, the air coursing through your lungs. You need to get moving and be active.
00:06:36.420 Of course, there's all sorts of other benefits outside of the mental health component of exercising.
00:06:41.920 You're going to lose weight. You're going to be physically healthier. You're going to be more
00:06:45.540 capable physically. Uh, you're going to be a better protector, provider, presider, the core tenants of
00:06:51.240 what it means to be a man. And ultimately you're just going to feel better about yourself. It's very,
00:06:56.160 very difficult in my experience. So this is anecdotal to that, that, that you're going to
00:07:01.120 be down. I think it's difficult to be down if you're exercising, if you're actively pursuing
00:07:07.020 a healthy lifestyle. So go to the gym, uh, sign up for martial arts classes, uh, go running around
00:07:15.300 your neighborhood. Just go for a walk in the morning, do some pushups, do some sit-ups. My son,
00:07:20.160 in fact, he's hopped up on being in shape because he's got football right now. And so
00:07:24.380 every time I turn around, it seems like he's doing five or 10 or 15, 20 pushups,
00:07:28.440 you know, in the middle of the living room or up before he goes to bed or when he wakes up and
00:07:32.820 it's really cool to see. And he feels better about himself because he is moving his body in the way
00:07:37.200 that it is designed to be moved. So get up, get the blood pumping and get going. Now, a lot of guys
00:07:44.720 who haven't been exercising or doing any of this for a long time, they don't know where to start,
00:07:50.320 right? I'd love to exercise, but I don't know where to start guys. That's an excuse. All right.
00:07:55.440 You don't need to have the best equipment. You don't need to have the perfect gym membership.
00:07:59.840 You don't even need to have the perfect plan. You just need to do something. Just go do some pushups,
00:08:06.000 jumping jacks, sit-ups, air squats, pull-ups. If you have a bar, uh, maybe you have some lightweights,
00:08:10.720 do some, do whatever presses, bench press, squats, deadlifts, carry it on your shoulder,
00:08:16.480 do a press over your head and walk 200 yards, do whatever you can to get that blood pumping and,
00:08:22.020 uh, and the body moving. And I would also say too, I've got some friends that you really need
00:08:27.060 to be aware of. Uh, it's my friends over at Sorenex. They have amazing, amazing exercise
00:08:31.840 equipment. The thing that I like most in my repertoire of gear is my center mass belts. These are you guys,
00:08:39.740 if you've been listening to the podcast, know them as hollow balls. Cause I like to joke about that,
00:08:43.880 but, uh, it's basically a hollowed out bell round bell. That's got a handle inside of it.
00:08:50.140 And they're so versatile. You can do push presses. You can do thrusters. You can do air squats. You
00:08:55.120 can do curls. You can do tricep extensions, rows. I mean, the sky's the limit with these things. So go
00:09:01.220 check those out. But exercise is number one, make sure you're exercising, moving your body,
00:09:05.740 blood pumping, air flowing. You're going to feel better about yourself. Number two, compete.
00:09:11.580 I know that's a little taboo in modern times to say that we should compete and have winners and
00:09:16.540 have losers. Heaven forbid somebody feel bad about themselves because they lose. But look,
00:09:21.260 it has been clinically proven that competing and more specifically winning is good for men.
00:09:28.600 How is it good? It boosts testosterone production. And when you are boosting your levels of testosterone
00:09:34.820 in a healthy, effective manner, you are less likely to be depressed and anxious and down. And again,
00:09:42.220 even potentially suicidal. Your goal as a man in your activities and you're in your, in your day-to-day
00:09:47.580 life is to build up testosterone production. And some of the things that I'm going to talk to you
00:09:53.020 about, we'll naturally do that. Like number one, exercise and number two competing. So find other men 0.84
00:09:59.180 who you can compete with physically, mentally, emotionally, in every way, look for little ways
00:10:05.180 to create competitions. That's why when I go out with my buddies or, uh, you know, at, uh, origins
00:10:10.260 immersion camp, we didn't do it this year, but last year we were all swimming in the lake together and
00:10:14.820 it didn't take long before we were competing and seeing who could jump off the dock the furthest and
00:10:19.960 who could hold their breath underwater the longest, or who could go the furthest off of one swim stroke.
00:10:26.320 There's little stupid stuff. And it sounds stupid when you say that, but I'm telling you, ultimately
00:10:31.220 that level of competition, it breeds and builds camaraderie. It helps you improve because it pushes
00:10:37.280 you. It gives you the opportunity to win, which boosts testosterone production. And it's good overall
00:10:42.800 again for men. So make sure that you're competing. If you have no level of competition in your life,
00:10:48.480 you're selling yourself short and you're missing one of these eight opportunities to really boost
00:10:53.020 your level of mental health and feel better about who you are and how you show up. And by the way,
00:10:58.180 to the people who say, well, if there's competition and there's got to be a loser and you're going to
00:11:01.620 feel bad about yourself, people are resilient, or at least they used to be, uh, they're tough.
00:11:07.680 Uh, and the more that we can expose ourselves and our children and those we have an obligation for to,
00:11:14.640 uh, a healthy dose of losing and how to deal with loss. I mean, that's, that's important.
00:11:20.660 We, that's life. We've got to get each other exposed to winning, to losing for opportunities
00:11:26.260 for growth. And you know what, when you lose, the idea is that somebody teaches you how to lose with
00:11:31.600 class and, and some, some honor, if you will, and use it as fuel to improve your life or your
00:11:38.180 performance moving forward. So number two is compete. Uh, and I was going to go to number three,
00:11:43.540 but I'm, I'm going to skip that one for a minute. I'm going to go to number four, which I
00:11:46.300 written down here in my, uh, in my notepad. And I'll show you guys, if you're not viewing this
00:11:52.680 video, you can check it out on YouTube, youtube.com slash order of man. That's new, but I use field
00:11:57.660 notes for some of my notes and what I want to talk with you guys about today. But number four is
00:12:02.560 building a band of brothers. And this goes in line with, uh, with competition as well. You've got to
00:12:08.780 have a solid band of brothers. And I know for me personally, what happened in my life when I
00:12:13.600 let go of my band of brothers was that I started dating, dating my wife and as much as I wanted to
00:12:19.680 be around her and spend time with her. And as much as I enjoyed it and it was good for both of us,
00:12:24.560 I let go of the friendships that I had. And it actually came back to bite me in the butt when
00:12:30.420 my wife and I went through a separation because I was alone. I didn't have a band of brothers. I
00:12:35.760 didn't have people to, uh, to, to help me through that difficult time to support me, to uplift me,
00:12:41.460 to go out and distract me. Uh, I just, it was, it was me. I was alone. And because I was alone,
00:12:48.120 I sat there and I wallowed in my own self pity. And I thought about all of the negativity that was
00:12:53.160 happening in my life. And of course, of course I felt depressed. Of course I felt down. I was never
00:12:59.200 suicidal. Uh, it wasn't a quote unquote mental illness per se, but I was depressed. I feel like
00:13:07.300 had I had a band of brothers that I would have put myself in a better situation. And what a lot
00:13:12.420 of guys think is just because, uh, they aren't necessarily going through a difficult time right
00:13:17.380 now that they don't need to worry about that. Look guys, life's rough. We know that you're going
00:13:22.360 to go through a divorce or a separation or a bankruptcy. You're going to lose your job.
00:13:26.260 You're going to have a medical condition or an illness or something that you're dealing with.
00:13:31.160 There's going to be a bankruptcy. I mean, there's also a death in the family. There's all sorts of
00:13:35.040 things that could go wrong. Uh, you, you really want to make sure that you're building your band
00:13:39.400 of brothers now so that when the time comes and it will, we don't know when we don't know what,
00:13:43.880 but it will come where you're down on, on your luck. Then you can rely upon and be carried by
00:13:51.760 these men who you've developed and built a friendship and a trust and a brotherhood and camaraderie
00:13:57.000 with. So make sure you're building your band of brothers, a great resource for that. If you don't
00:14:01.360 know where to turn, look to our iron council. These are guys who, yeah, the majority of the
00:14:05.860 time we're meeting digitally. Uh, but we're also meeting and having local and regional meetups.
00:14:11.340 And you can check that out at order of man.com slash iron council. If you're having a hard time,
00:14:16.020 uh, figuring out where to build this band of brothers, uh, number three, pursue meaningful
00:14:22.400 hobbies. Guys, if you don't have a hobby, something that you can call your own, man, what a shame.
00:14:27.460 Of course you're going to feel down and, and be upset. And you're going to let these life stressors
00:14:33.200 get to you because you have no release for these things. Personally, I enjoy exercise and working
00:14:38.500 out. We talked about that already. Uh, I enjoy archery and then I enjoy Brazilian jujitsu. And
00:14:44.580 the interesting thing about let's take jujitsu, for example, you have exercise in there, you have a
00:14:49.720 level of competition in there. It's a meaningful hobby, certainly. And also you happen to be building
00:14:55.900 a band of brothers while you're doing it. So I'm checking off every one of these bullet points
00:15:00.580 that I've talked about already with one activity. And that's what I want you to be aware of is that
00:15:06.120 look, time is finite. Like you don't have time to do all of the things individually that I'm
00:15:11.220 telling you to do on a daily basis. But if you can have one of these things that checks off all of
00:15:15.420 these, then I think that's a more effective way, obviously to go about doing it. So what is a hobby
00:15:22.060 that you've thought about, that you've been interested in, that you've wanted to engage in
00:15:25.700 drawing, archery, jujitsu, uh, graphic design. Maybe there's a musical instrument that you want
00:15:33.140 to learn how to play the guitar or the piano or whatever, but there's all sorts of hobbies that
00:15:37.940 you can pursue. Uh, and, and I think there's probably an idea that you already have. And for
00:15:42.620 whatever reason you haven't pursued it, I'm telling you, it's good for you and it will help you be more
00:15:46.680 productive. It'll help you be more positive. And ultimately it'll keep you to some degree from
00:15:52.500 getting into that state of depression and sadness and everything else that comes with not having
00:15:58.200 these things in place. Uh, number five, getting the right amount of sleep. You know, I, for guys,
00:16:04.900 it's really difficult, right? We, we, we hear the things and maybe you've, you've even subscribed to
00:16:09.520 the idea that you can sleep when you're dead. And I guess you, you can do that, but you're, it's been
00:16:15.660 going to die a whole lot quicker if you do, right? It's been proven and shown that if you're not
00:16:20.160 sleeping, if you're not getting the right amount of sleep, then you are jeopardizing your mental
00:16:25.580 and physical health. So get over yourself, get over the ego thing. And I know, I know there's guys
00:16:33.880 on social media that, you know, they don't sleep or they sleep for two or three hours a night.
00:16:38.740 All right. If, even if they're telling the truth and we'll just assume they are, I don't know that
00:16:43.020 they are, but let's assume they are there. They're reducing their effectiveness. They're
00:16:47.600 hurting their performance. And you might say, well, these guys are still high performers.
00:16:50.480 We'll imagine what they could be doing if they got the proper amount of rest and sleep at night.
00:16:57.000 We've done a couple other podcasts in the past on how to sleep effectively. And I think there's a,
00:17:01.740 there's a book called sleep smarter. I think it's by Sean Stevenson, who has actually been on the
00:17:06.520 podcast, the model health show, uh, check that out, sleep smarter, but get getting the right
00:17:11.300 amount of sleep guys. We know, we just know is crucial and critical. So don't sell yourself short
00:17:17.400 on sleep because you're busy. You're active. I'm telling you, if you do these things and I'm,
00:17:21.480 and I'm actually asking, asking and suggesting that you carve time out of your day to do these things.
00:17:26.160 Uh, so you might say, well, I'll lose productivity. You'll lose time for other endeavors,
00:17:31.920 but you won't lose productivity. You'll actually increase productivity by carving out some of the 24 hours
00:17:38.140 of your day to, to do these things more effectively sleep being one of those things. Uh, number six.
00:17:45.320 Yes. Number six, nutrition guys, if you're filling your body fuel that is harmful or toxic or destructive,
00:17:56.480 and basically just a bunch of junk food into your body, then yeah, you're, you're going to be down.
00:18:02.940 You're going to feel bad about yourself. Not only is your body not going to look what it, what it
00:18:08.340 should look, it's not going to perform the way it's going to perform. And that impacts your mind as
00:18:12.320 well. So think about what you're putting into your body and be consistent about doing the right things.
00:18:18.520 I get a lot of questions about what, uh, what diet I use. And I don't, I don't use a specific diet.
00:18:25.640 My goal is to eat clean and guys will say, well, what does that mean? You know what it means?
00:18:30.160 You know what it means? I know there's a bunch of, bunch of shows on iTunes and YouTube that tell
00:18:37.340 you all the little foods you need to eat and count your macros and your micros and everything else.
00:18:41.280 And yeah, maybe you ought to do that, but why don't you just start with eating clean? What I mean is
00:18:45.920 eliminate the processed sugars, uh, limit the, the carbs from your breads and your pastas and your
00:18:52.100 gluten and things like that. Uh, fruits, vegetables, meats, we know what to eat. All right. Water
00:18:59.120 consume more water. We all know. So do that consistently. Don't make it a fad diet. Don't 0.99
00:19:05.180 make it the next 30 or 60 or 90 days or the beach body that you want or whatever. Make this a lifestyle
00:19:10.940 that you eat clean, that you eat healthy and you put the right fuels into your body because it's
00:19:16.120 going to affect your body and it's going to affect your mind. Number seven, I'm going to flip flop a
00:19:22.420 couple of you here, here. Number seven, uh, remove negative people. All right. That stuff wears off.
00:19:28.440 It's been said you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. That's
00:19:31.640 trite. I know we hear that a lot, but I think there's some truth to it. You know, I noticed
00:19:36.440 myself personally that when I'm around negative people that I tend to be more negative when I'm
00:19:40.940 talking about other people or, or saying how stupid things are and focused on all of this stuff,
00:19:46.200 then yeah, it's that rubs off on me. And that negativity is gradually going to increase into my,
00:19:53.000 my sanity and my wellbeing and the way that I show up and the way that I perform. So
00:19:57.180 make a list and you, you might not even need to make a list. Like, you know, who in your life is
00:20:02.920 toxic. You know, who in your life is negative, who probably you shouldn't let so close to your inner
00:20:08.180 circle, take that individual, remove that individual from your life. And you will start to
00:20:13.480 notice that you start feeling a whole lot better very, very quickly. And part of this, so I guess
00:20:19.540 this is a seven B. Uh, so seven A is removing negative people. Seven B would be add positive
00:20:25.720 people instead. Okay. You can't have a vacuum. So if you just say, Hey, I'm not going to spend time
00:20:30.360 with those people anymore, then you're going to resort to something else that might be destructive.
00:20:33.680 So what are you going to fill that time and that attention, that energy with fill it with positive
00:20:38.060 people look around you who in your office is positive, who in some of these, your band of
00:20:42.840 brothers is, is positive. Who are you competing with? Who are you doing hobbies with that are
00:20:47.180 positive people that you can surround yourself with and ultimately start feeling better about
00:20:51.460 yourself. So seven A again, removing negative people. And the way we do that is by seven B
00:20:57.440 filling that void with positive people. The last point, and I stated it simply. And at the risk of
00:21:05.240 people saying, well, it's easy for you to say, and that's too simple. It is simple. It's not easy
00:21:10.420 a lot of the times, but it is very simple. And that's take action. If you're at home
00:21:16.160 and you recognize that you're feeling down or depressed or anxious, or potentially even suicidal,
00:21:24.380 get up and get moving. Start taking action towards your goals, towards your ambitions,
00:21:30.400 go for a walk, go moving. You know, maybe there's a project at home. You need to work on. My mom would
00:21:35.480 always say, and I'd roll my eyes. She would say, idle hands are the devil's workshop. I'm sure all
00:21:40.720 of you guys heard that as well. And I would roll my eyes and I would mock it and give her a hard time
00:21:46.800 for saying it, but it's true. I don't answer the devil's workshop. Same thing with an idle mind.
00:21:52.440 If it's just sitting around and you're not consuming it with positive thoughts and positive
00:21:57.560 planning and positivity and emotion. I mean, you're, you're naturally going to default towards
00:22:03.580 being negative and being down and destructive. So keep the mind engaged, keep the body active,
00:22:10.720 and you're going to feel better. I know that when I've felt down, as soon as I've got up and I went
00:22:16.200 to work on my own project, or maybe potentially even done some service work in my community,
00:22:20.800 it's very, very difficult to be down when you're actively working towards something that's meaningful
00:22:28.060 and significant to you. So make a list, you know, using your, your notepad or whatever,
00:22:32.920 make a list of things that are, are meaningful to you projects around the house that need to get
00:22:39.480 done and start working towards those things. Guys, I know this isn't groundbreaking. This is not
00:22:44.580 earth shattering, but look, if you're in this boat, you, you saw this title for a reason you clicked
00:22:49.940 on this video or clicked on this podcast. And you said, you know, I need to understand what this
00:22:54.520 is for myself, or maybe somebody close to you, who's dealing with some, some mental health issues
00:22:59.480 or depression or anxiety, or potentially even suicide. I saw a study not too long ago that said
00:23:04.240 that men commit suicide at a rate of that of four times what women do. I think women 1.00
00:23:12.780 attempt suicide more often, but men pull it off more often. And it's unfortunate. I'm sure that
00:23:19.460 everybody listening or watching is familiar with, or has somebody they know, or is somebody
00:23:24.320 close to them who has committed suicide and barring some sort of chronic and serious medical
00:23:32.000 condition. I think a lot of this can be warded off with the eight steps that I've shared with you
00:23:37.580 today. Again, my disclaimer to cap this thing off is I'm not a medical professional. I'm not qualified
00:23:43.200 to talk about specific mental health issues, but I am qualified to tell you what's worked for me.
00:23:49.660 And these steps have helped me in bouts of depression and bouts of feeling down. But if you're
00:23:56.520 feeling this way, get some medical help, get some medical attention, especially, especially if you
00:24:02.720 start going down that slippery slope of having suicidal thoughts, find other people, seek professional
00:24:09.260 and medical attention and help. Don't, don't be a part of that statistic. It's, it's a shame. It's a
00:24:16.760 real travesty that so many men who are loved and appreciated and cared for and needed in society are,
00:24:25.600 are offing themselves because they're, they're down on their luck or they don't find themselves
00:24:32.220 any worth in who they are. These things will help with that. It's not the end all stable,
00:24:37.880 but they will help. So let me recap these things and then we'll call it a day. Again, exercise every
00:24:44.440 day, exercise. Don't worry about rest days and all that kind of stuff. Yeah, you can rest and take it
00:24:49.180 easy, but you should be exercising every day. Number two, compete, compete. It's good to compete.
00:24:54.520 It's good to win, boost testosterone production, and therefore will help you from a mental health
00:24:59.760 perspective. Number three, pursue meaningful and engaging hobbies and activities. Number four,
00:25:05.740 build a band of brothers. Number five, sleep, six, nutrition, seven, get rid of or eliminate
00:25:12.140 negative people and substitute them with positive people. And then number eight is to take action.
00:25:18.760 All right. So make a plan, incorporate these eight steps into your day. I don't think it's going to
00:25:25.160 take you a whole lot more time, especially if you find activities that are going to check off,
00:25:28.920 you know, three or four or five things off the list at once, but get every one of these into your day
00:25:34.080 and you're going to feel better. You're going to be more productive. You're going to lead a better
00:25:37.480 life. You're going to help your family more effectively, your clients, your employees,
00:25:41.880 your business partners, your neighbors. You're just going to be a better, more capable man.
00:25:48.040 And that is the mission here at order of man is to help give you the tools needed to do that.
00:25:52.900 If this has helped you or, and this is really important specifically with this episode,
00:25:57.200 if there's somebody that, you know, who's dealing with some bouts with depression,
00:26:02.360 please share this with them. Please share this with them. Or at least just on a sticky note,
00:26:08.880 write down the eight points and say here, or even better is call that individual up and say,
00:26:15.360 Hey man, uh, I'm going to shoot my bow. Uh, or we're going to go to jujitsu,
00:26:20.040 or I'm going to take an art class. I'm going to be by your place in 10 minutes. Don't ask for
00:26:25.680 permission. Hey, I'm going to be by your place in 10 minutes to pick you up. Love to have you with
00:26:29.800 us. Like reach out to a brother who needs this stuff. Another man who needs this, they need us.
00:26:35.320 You're going to, you're going to need them at some point. So be that individual at this point.
00:26:40.500 All right, guys, that's it. We'll call it a day. And of course, a weekend as well. We'll be back
00:26:44.100 next week for the, uh, the interview episode on Tuesday. Of course, the ask me anything, uh, on
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