Order of Man - A Conversation with My Son ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.

00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.

00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.

00:00:25.100 Reckon, glad to have you in the studio today.

00:00:26.840 Glad to be here.

00:00:27.860 How are you feeling about things?

00:00:28.760 Good.

00:00:29.280 We've made a big move here in the past couple of weeks.

00:00:32.360 Yeah.

00:00:33.380 How are you feeling about the move?

00:00:34.740 Good.

00:00:35.560 You've been wanting to do this podcast for a while. You've been on my back about it for the last three or four days now.

00:00:40.800 Yep.

00:00:41.740 Hold me accountable to having this conversation.

00:00:44.780 Yes.

00:00:45.280 Why do you want to have the conversation so bad?

00:00:47.200 I don't know, because it sounded fun.

00:00:49.420 You like podcasting?

00:00:50.680 Yeah.

00:00:51.160 How many podcasts have you done now?

00:00:53.200 Only one.

00:00:54.180 With me, right?

00:00:55.740 So what do you like about podcasting? You think it sounds fun. What do you like about it?

00:00:59.900 Just fun to talk.

00:01:01.680 You like to talk?

00:01:02.740 To somebody, yeah.

00:01:03.420 You like to tell jokes?

00:01:04.940 Mm-hmm.

00:01:05.500 Do you have any knock-knock jokes for us?

00:01:07.500 Knock-knock. 0.68

00:01:08.260 Who's there?

00:01:08.820 Cash.

00:01:09.680 Cashew.

00:01:10.220 No, thanks. I prefer peanuts.

00:01:13.960 You like your jokes. You're actually pretty good at memorizing jokes.

00:01:17.340 Okay.

00:01:18.140 No, you're good. I can't memorize jokes.

00:01:20.260 Okay, tell me one.

00:01:21.520 I don't have one.

00:01:22.540 Okay.

00:01:23.140 Should I just say the polar bear one?

00:01:24.460 Yeah.

00:01:24.880 How do you catch a polar bear?

00:01:26.780 I don't know.

00:01:27.880 You cut a hole in the ice, and you take peas, and you set the peas around the hole, and then

00:01:33.340 you go hide behind a snowbank. And when the polar bear comes over to take a pea, you kick

00:01:37.760 him in the ice hole. That's my favorite joke.

00:01:41.780 Yeah, that's pretty good.

00:01:42.900 It's funny. Probably the first dozen times you've heard it.

00:01:45.360 Yeah.

00:01:45.860 So what do you want to talk about today, man? People are listening. They're excited about

00:01:49.240 our conversation. What do you want to talk about?

00:01:51.260 I don't know. I thought you had something in mind.

00:01:53.960 I thought you had something in mind.

00:01:55.240 No.

00:01:55.720 You're the one who wanted to do this so bad.

00:01:57.080 You never told me.

00:01:58.300 Was it my responsibility to tell you?

00:01:59.840 No, you said we were going to talk about the trip.

00:02:02.740 You want to talk about that?

00:02:03.640 Yeah.

00:02:04.180 So we moved from Utah. What? Almost two weeks ago now is when we left.

00:02:09.300 Yeah. But we've been here for about two weeks.

00:02:13.200 No, we've been here for one and a half.

00:02:15.900 Yeah, actually pretty close to two weeks now.

00:02:17.980 Yeah.

00:02:18.360 That's crazy.

00:02:19.300 Yeah.

00:02:19.700 How are you feeling about the place we're at, just in general?

00:02:23.100 Good.

00:02:23.820 What do you like about it?

00:02:26.320 That we're so close to origin.

00:02:28.740 Yeah, you like that, don't you?

00:02:29.840 Yeah.

00:02:30.320 Yeah, you did some training the other day, last week.

00:02:34.080 Yeah.

00:02:34.680 And we're going again tonight for you.

00:02:36.540 Yep.

00:02:36.940 I'm really sore today.

00:02:38.640 I trained last night. I got my butt kicked. 0.99

00:02:41.480 Yes. 0.99

00:02:42.060 And I'm so...

00:02:42.520 Yes.

00:02:43.200 How do you know?

00:02:44.140 You told me last night.

00:02:46.440 And I'm so sore this morning.

00:02:48.160 Yeah.

00:02:48.860 So you haven't done much jiu-jitsu. You've done a little bit through some of our events.

00:02:53.260 Yeah.

00:02:53.840 And then you were at training last week.

00:02:56.660 Yeah.

00:02:56.760 And then you're going to train this week.

00:02:58.700 What do you like about jiu-jitsu?

00:03:00.380 That you get to learn how to defend yourself in situations and to protect yourself. Yeah.

00:03:10.140 That's what I like about it.

00:03:11.620 Were you sore last week at all from working out, from training?

00:03:15.040 No.

00:03:15.300 You're pretty tough.

00:03:19.180 Not totally, though.

00:03:20.620 You will be.

00:03:21.640 Yeah.

00:03:22.100 You will get tough.

00:03:23.700 So you like origin.

00:03:25.060 What else?

00:03:25.640 What else about the move?

00:03:26.560 What's been your favorite part so far?

00:03:28.800 Like here or just on the trip?

00:03:31.300 Yeah.

00:03:31.640 Either.

00:03:32.080 Both, maybe.

00:03:34.160 I like how much land we have.

00:03:37.560 We can just roam around here.

00:03:39.680 Yeah.

00:03:39.920 On the trip, I like seeing the new states and sites and that stuff was fun.

00:03:46.300 Do you remember like your favorite state or your favorite site?

00:03:50.640 I like Tennessee and Arkansas.

00:03:52.840 What did you like about Arkansas?

00:03:54.040 We'll get to Tennessee in a minute.

00:03:55.100 They're just like all green and lush.

00:03:58.240 That's pretty amazing.

00:03:59.400 Yeah.

00:03:59.760 Everything was amazing.

00:04:00.620 You don't think it looks like that because like we've never really done that stuff.

00:04:05.940 So when we see it, we're like, what?

00:04:07.620 What?

00:04:08.380 It's so cool out here, like outside of Utah.

00:04:12.600 Right.

00:04:12.860 It's a new experience, right?

00:04:14.300 Utah is cool, but it's just, it's desert.

00:04:16.460 It's so dry.

00:04:17.400 I didn't like New Mexico very much.

00:04:19.200 No.

00:04:19.980 No.

00:04:20.380 It was a little sketchy going through there on the roads and everything else.

00:04:23.060 But outside of that, everything.

00:04:25.700 Arizona was.

00:04:26.580 Arizona was.

00:04:27.700 Arizona was similar to Utah.

00:04:28.940 Yeah.

00:04:29.680 Connecticut was rough because of the traffic.

00:04:31.120 Do you remember that?

00:04:31.780 Yeah.

00:04:32.300 What did you like about Tennessee?

00:04:33.620 You said you like Tennessee as well.

00:04:36.520 Same thing.

00:04:37.620 As Arkansas, just very green and like there's farms everywhere you went and that stuff.

00:04:45.480 Well, and it was nice to be able to see grandma and grandpa and then Austin and your cousins

00:04:50.620 and hang out there for a couple of days.

00:04:52.480 Yeah.

00:04:53.160 Their, their farm was awesome.

00:04:55.580 It was awesome.

00:04:56.120 Yeah.

00:04:56.480 It was cool to catch lightning bugs out there.

00:04:58.400 Yeah.

00:04:58.680 So, okay.

00:05:00.180 So you liked the States.

00:05:01.360 Now what?

00:05:02.220 So you like origin here.

00:05:03.400 What do you think about the house?

00:05:04.700 The house itself?

00:05:05.700 House is awesome.

00:05:06.840 What do you like about it?

00:05:07.640 Um, I like, like it just has a cool history behind it and it's big.

00:05:16.440 It is big.

00:05:17.260 Like compared to our house in Utah, it's big.

00:05:20.320 It's like twice as big.

00:05:21.460 Yeah.

00:05:21.820 It's almost too big.

00:05:22.540 Is it almost too big?

00:05:23.540 No.

00:05:24.160 You don't mind, huh?

00:05:25.160 Can't be too big.

00:05:26.580 Hmm.

00:05:27.500 Probably could be too big.

00:05:29.180 This one's borderline.

00:05:30.660 Yeah.

00:05:31.100 But it's got plenty of room where we can spread out.

00:05:33.140 Are you, were you scared at all?

00:05:34.940 Like being here in the house itself?

00:05:37.900 A little bit like our first night.

00:05:40.100 What were you scared of?

00:05:40.860 I was scared to go to sleep.

00:05:42.280 What were you scared of?

00:05:43.080 It's just a new place and you don't really know things.

00:05:46.500 So you don't know what will happen.

00:05:48.800 How'd you get over that?

00:05:49.420 That's true.

00:05:50.100 That's true.

00:05:50.580 That's, that's not uncommon for people to think.

00:05:52.800 Um, we just like, I got over it just like driving around.

00:05:57.460 Checking out places and seeing where everything is.

00:06:00.680 That familiar, you made you more comfortable?

00:06:02.560 Yeah.

00:06:02.940 Plus you got a big A German Shepherd to help you out. 0.76

00:06:05.200 Yeah.

00:06:07.260 That's kind of nice, huh?

00:06:08.360 Yeah.

00:06:08.820 Except for he hangs out more with Viv than he hangs out with you now.

00:06:11.400 Well.

00:06:11.820 Just at night.

00:06:12.460 Yeah.

00:06:13.080 What do you think about that?

00:06:15.080 I was like, uh, dang it a few nights ago.

00:06:19.880 But now I see that he needs to protect her more.

00:06:23.620 She, it probably makes her feel pretty good.

00:06:25.760 Yeah.

00:06:26.060 Knowing that the dog's in there.

00:06:27.580 Yeah.

00:06:27.960 And then soon our other dog, Shiloh, won't have to sleep in her, uh, her crate anymore.

00:06:34.280 Just joking.

00:06:35.120 You made a face like, oh, why'd you make that face?

00:06:38.440 I just don't want her to poop everywhere. 1.00

00:06:41.540 Well, that's the reason we put her in the crate. 0.99

00:06:43.480 Cause she doesn't, if she was out outside of the crate, then she probably would poo and pee all over. 1.00

00:06:48.700 Cause she has bear sized turds. 1.00

00:06:52.380 Yeah. 0.91

00:06:52.560 She has pooping and peeing problems. 1.00

00:06:55.000 Definitely.

00:06:55.320 Everybody knows that.

00:06:56.180 But once she's in the crate, she doesn't do it in there.

00:06:58.140 No.

00:06:58.360 That's what's so great about crate training.

00:06:59.740 It's because she sleeps there.

00:07:02.120 Right.

00:07:02.440 So she doesn't want to mess it up.

00:07:04.620 I've thought about that too.

00:07:05.920 It was like, so dogs won't crap where they sleep.

00:07:08.700 Right.

00:07:09.200 Yeah.

00:07:10.200 But humans will. 0.81

00:07:11.380 And I don't mean like literally, I don't mean literally crap where they sleep, but I mean,

00:07:18.560 we as human beings have a tendency of like messing up our environment.

00:07:24.760 Yeah.

00:07:25.200 It's like, why, why would you have a messed up house or a dirty office or a dirty car where

00:07:32.200 you're actually doing your business, where you're conducting your business?

00:07:34.620 You shouldn't, it's called figure.

00:07:36.700 You know what it means to say figuratively?

00:07:38.420 What does that mean?

00:07:39.560 Like I'm trying to think of, do you know what the opposite of figuratively literally means

00:07:44.920 it's actually happening.

00:07:46.960 Right.

00:07:48.020 Right.

00:07:48.840 Like, so what's figuratively like woke up on the wrong side of the bed.

00:07:53.360 That can be literally and figuratively could be either or.

00:07:56.800 Yeah.

00:07:57.100 Right.

00:07:57.580 So figuratively is just like a figure of speech.

00:08:00.240 It doesn't mean that's actually what happened. 0.98

00:08:02.780 I'm not saying that humans actually crap where they sleep, where they eat. 0.99

00:08:06.640 Maybe some do. 0.99

00:08:07.660 I don't know.

00:08:08.620 I just mean that we have a tendency of having chaos in our lives where we're trying to conduct

00:08:15.900 our business. 0.97

00:08:16.360 And it's always a good idea to like leave the crap somewhere else. 0.99

00:08:20.420 Yeah. 0.99

00:08:21.000 Or pick the crap up. 0.99

00:08:22.260 Yeah. 0.99

00:08:22.700 You know what I'm saying?

00:08:23.420 Yeah.

00:08:23.660 So, you like the property.

00:08:27.780 You love the tractor.

00:08:29.280 Yes.

00:08:29.860 I had to pull out my mom from the zero turn yesterday. 1.00

00:08:33.260 Yeah.

00:08:33.600 Well, you weren't supposed to throw her under the bus, but that's okay. 0.99

00:08:36.680 Oh.

00:08:37.000 That's another figure of speech.

00:08:38.420 Yes.

00:08:39.140 Not literally throw her under the bus.

00:08:40.760 Yeah.

00:08:41.740 It's okay.

00:08:42.280 You're not in trouble.

00:08:43.040 I know.

00:08:43.480 But yeah, she got stuck in the zero turn.

00:08:47.020 So, you and I got the tractor out.

00:08:48.900 And you did good, man.

00:08:49.700 How'd you feel about that?

00:08:50.720 Good.

00:08:51.640 What felt good about that to you?

00:08:53.900 That I got to do something.

00:08:55.820 That you were productive.

00:08:56.580 That's exactly right.

00:08:57.840 That's another thing that I think a lot of guys need to learn is like we're supposed to

00:09:03.180 be productive.

00:09:04.220 Yeah.

00:09:04.520 Men are supposed to produce. 1.00

00:09:06.820 So, when you're not being productive, how do you think you feel?

00:09:10.820 Like kind of bored and you don't have a place kind of.

00:09:14.840 Yeah.

00:09:15.180 That's a good way to say it.

00:09:17.240 Kind of feel like a bum, right?

00:09:18.760 Yeah.

00:09:19.180 But when you're producing, whether it's taking the tractor out and get the zero turnout or

00:09:23.400 doing a podcast like this or my work or exercising or at Jiu-Jitsu, you're producing.

00:09:29.020 And how do you feel then?

00:09:30.340 Good.

00:09:31.740 Care to elaborate?

00:09:33.120 Huh?

00:09:33.700 Care to elaborate?

00:09:34.880 Yeah.

00:09:35.280 What does that mean?

00:09:37.400 Talk more?

00:09:38.420 Yeah.

00:09:38.660 You're like good.

00:09:39.920 Sound like Jocko.

00:09:41.260 Good.

00:09:43.740 So, when you're producing, how do you feel?

00:09:47.160 I feel like I have a place in life, kind of.

00:09:51.180 Like I'm not just somebody staying on a couch watching TV eating pizza and potato chips.

00:09:58.900 Getting fat.

00:10:00.300 Although that sounds pretty good though.

00:10:01.920 Pizza and potato chips.

00:10:02.820 A little bit.

00:10:03.120 Do you like pineapple on your pizza?

00:10:05.740 Yeah.

00:10:06.340 You do?

00:10:06.900 Yeah.

00:10:08.320 That's disappointing, son.

00:10:09.820 I failed you.

00:10:11.420 Pineapple does not belong on pizza.

00:10:13.640 To me, it does.

00:10:15.480 Well, that's okay too, right?

00:10:17.020 Everybody can like different things, I suppose.

00:10:19.400 What kind of potato chips do you like?

00:10:20.880 Um, I like sour cream and onion.

00:10:26.520 That's pretty good.

00:10:27.300 Yeah.

00:10:27.860 Do you like jalapeno, like the spicy ones?

00:10:29.800 Yes.

00:10:30.480 You do like spicy food, even more than I do.

00:10:32.660 I like the jalapeno Cheetos.

00:10:35.800 Those are good.

00:10:36.580 You like, what are they called?

00:10:37.540 Tacos or Tikis or Takis?

00:10:40.160 Takis, yeah. 0.86

00:10:41.380 Yeah.

00:10:41.700 I don't think I've ever had those.

00:10:43.020 They're pretty good.

00:10:43.960 Um, I like chips and salsa.

00:10:47.240 You don't like salsa though, do you?

00:10:48.480 Do you eat salsa?

00:10:50.020 What's up with that?

00:10:51.020 I don't know.

00:10:51.580 I just don't like it.

00:10:52.680 So let's get back to our transition here.

00:10:57.420 I know you're excited in a lot of ways.

00:10:59.300 You're excited to be here.

00:11:00.280 You get to ride a tractor.

00:11:01.240 We've got land.

00:11:02.280 We're close to origin.

00:11:03.340 You get to do jujitsu.

00:11:04.920 What are you afraid of?

00:11:06.760 Um.

00:11:07.460 Don't pull on that.

00:11:08.380 Can you hear it when you pull on that?

00:11:09.640 Yeah.

00:11:09.900 Yeah.

00:11:10.280 Try not to pull on that.

00:11:11.800 Um, now that we've been here for two weeks, close to two weeks, I feel like I've seen stuff

00:11:19.360 more, so I'm not really afraid.

00:11:21.300 No?

00:11:21.720 Anymore.

00:11:23.180 How about school?

00:11:23.940 Are you concerned about school at all?

00:11:25.240 A little bit.

00:11:26.740 In Utah, I'd be in an intermediate school, but here I'm going to be in middle school.

00:11:35.140 Yeah.

00:11:35.620 That's weird to me.

00:11:37.500 But it's not like that big of a difference, really.

00:11:40.520 Yeah, no.

00:11:41.180 What are the grades here for middle school?

00:11:43.160 Do you know?

00:11:43.780 No.

00:11:45.080 So the intermediate school was what, sixth and seventh?

00:11:48.300 In Utah?

00:11:49.540 Eighth, too.

00:11:50.940 Sixth, seventh, and eighth?

00:11:51.720 No, no.

00:11:52.300 I think it was sixth and seventh, and then the middle school was eight and nine.

00:11:55.860 And then ten.

00:11:56.320 And then the high school was ten through twelve.

00:11:58.060 Twelve, yeah.

00:11:58.680 Do you remember, do you know what it is here?

00:12:00.720 No.

00:12:01.440 That's okay.

00:12:01.960 What are you looking forward to the most of being here?

00:12:13.460 Like, I like hunting, so hunting will be good here.

00:12:18.440 And I like wildlife, so I get to see a lot of wildlife here.

00:12:22.720 What have you seen so far?

00:12:24.540 Only a deer, and I've heard a few turkeys.

00:12:28.080 I know.

00:12:28.380 I saw a turkey the other day.

00:12:29.760 Yeah.

00:12:30.200 Just a hen.

00:12:30.860 Yeah.

00:12:31.080 We were driving around somewhere, Pete and I.

00:12:33.000 Freeport.

00:12:33.980 That's right.

00:12:35.260 That was cool, man.

00:12:36.540 I'm going to have to take you guys down there, because it was a cool little town.

00:12:39.360 Sounds cool.

00:12:40.300 We did that.

00:12:40.940 We went to Portland.

00:12:41.760 Portland was fun.

00:12:43.100 Yeah, that was fun.

00:12:44.080 What did you like about it?

00:12:45.340 I just liked the buildings and the cobblestone streets, and like, it was fun where it's close

00:12:51.620 to the coast, and like, people are having fun there, so it makes you in a better mood, and

00:12:58.900 the shops were cool there.

00:13:00.440 Yeah.

00:13:01.180 Plus, the food was good.

00:13:02.460 Yeah.

00:13:02.800 What did you have?

00:13:03.380 Do you remember?

00:13:03.880 I had the haddock.

00:13:05.080 You like fish and chips, don't you?

00:13:06.520 Yeah.

00:13:07.040 And shrimp.

00:13:08.560 And I like a lot of seafood.

00:13:10.560 You like it all.

00:13:11.280 Lobster, crab, shrimp.

00:13:13.580 Do you like fish?

00:13:14.380 I mean, you like the haddock, but do you like other kind of fish?

00:13:16.560 I've tried salmon.

00:13:17.820 I like it.

00:13:18.640 We don't eat that much fish around here.

00:13:20.320 I don't like fish that much.

00:13:21.360 I like rainbow trout.

00:13:22.380 You do?

00:13:22.960 I don't like it.

00:13:24.260 It's too fishy.

00:13:25.340 It's like, I don't know.

00:13:26.020 It doesn't taste good to me.

00:13:28.960 What do you think about the opportunities that we have to travel, just with my business

00:13:33.780 and the way it all works?

00:13:35.220 Like, is this a good thing?

00:13:36.560 Did you not want to do it?

00:13:38.960 Like, walk me through how you felt as we were contemplating the move and then as we got

00:13:45.680 into it.

00:13:46.900 It's good and bad because I have friends in Hurricane.

00:13:50.520 And then, like, it's good for your job because we can literally be anywhere with your job

00:13:58.200 because all you need is really the internet.

00:14:01.380 Yeah.

00:14:01.940 It's all you need.

00:14:02.600 That's kind of nice, huh?

00:14:04.100 Yeah.

00:14:05.360 You used literally in the right context.

00:14:07.260 Good job.

00:14:10.220 Internet was a little dicey for the first couple of days.

00:14:14.400 Yeah.

00:14:14.780 I think we got it worked out, though.

00:14:16.220 That guy had to come out, what, two or three times?

00:14:18.140 Three times.

00:14:18.820 He was pretty nice, though.

00:14:19.740 Yeah.

00:14:19.960 What do you think about the people here?

00:14:21.180 Everybody seems to be nice.

00:14:22.600 In Hurricane, like, it seems like nobody would wave to you here.

00:14:27.140 Everybody's waving to you.

00:14:28.880 Truckers honking their horns.

00:14:30.320 That's cool, huh?

00:14:31.140 Yeah.

00:14:31.620 What do you think about all the logging trucks that come by?

00:14:33.720 It is so cool to watch them.

00:14:35.580 And the sound, they're like, boom, boom.

00:14:40.020 I think that's their engine brakes, yeah.

00:14:42.820 What do you like about those logging trucks?

00:14:45.380 They're just big and strong.

00:14:47.340 And it's kind of cool, like, looking at their trailer with, like, the logs on them.

00:14:52.740 Some big old trees on there, huh?

00:14:54.100 Yeah.

00:14:54.640 Yeah.

00:14:55.880 Um, what do you think about mowing the lawn out here?

00:14:58.120 It's so fun.

00:14:59.520 It's awesome, isn't it?

00:15:00.560 Yeah.

00:15:01.020 That zero turn is incredible.

00:15:02.600 Yeah.

00:15:02.960 I think you're going to have to fight mom for the opportunity to mow the lawn. 1.00

00:15:05.620 Yeah.

00:15:06.060 I was thinking we could charge people to mow the lawn for us, just because of how fun it is.

00:15:10.180 Yeah.

00:15:11.060 I don't know.

00:15:11.460 Enough people have lawns around here, they don't need to come mow ours.

00:15:13.880 Yeah.

00:15:14.980 Big lawns, too.

00:15:16.160 Yeah.

00:15:16.820 Uh, what about the ticks?

00:15:18.840 Uh.

00:15:19.140 How are you feeling about that?

00:15:20.720 Okay.

00:15:21.080 I haven't found one on me yet, but Otto had one.

00:15:25.260 Yeah, he had one.

00:15:26.540 Dogs have a few.

00:15:28.020 Yeah.

00:15:28.440 Well, Sarge does.

00:15:29.420 I know Sarge does.

00:15:30.680 Yeah.

00:15:31.640 But, like, I'm scared to get one, so I'm, like, checking every day.

00:15:38.040 Well, that's all you have to do, is just check, right?

00:15:40.400 Yeah.

00:15:40.940 As long as you check and stay vigilant on top of it.

00:15:43.140 You know what vigilant means?

00:15:44.400 Yeah, like, head on a swivel, that's what you always say to me.

00:15:47.660 Yeah, that's more of, like,

00:15:48.940 Yeah, but that's more situational awareness.

00:15:51.400 Yeah.

00:15:51.500 But vigilant, I think it falls.

00:15:52.920 Yeah, that kind of makes sense, too.

00:15:54.220 Vigilant is, like, being proactive.

00:15:56.780 Yeah.

00:15:57.140 Right?

00:15:57.400 So if there's a problem or something that you recognize or something that needs to be addressed.

00:16:01.680 Yes, exactly.

00:16:02.720 That you want to fix it.

00:16:03.620 So vigilance, proactive, those are important characteristics.

00:16:07.220 Yeah.

00:16:08.000 Yeah.

00:16:08.800 So, are you excited to go to school?

00:16:11.500 Yeah.

00:16:12.620 What are you worried about with school?

00:16:14.260 Um, don't know kids here yet.

00:16:17.580 Yeah.

00:16:17.880 I think you make friends pretty quick.

00:16:19.960 We've got to get you enrolled in football.

00:16:21.400 You want to play football this year?

00:16:22.520 Yes.

00:16:23.060 Yeah.

00:16:24.020 Last year was your first year of tackle football.

00:16:25.880 Yeah, and I loved it.

00:16:27.220 What did you like about it?

00:16:28.660 I just like being, like, active and, like, smashing people's heads. 0.61

00:16:37.120 Because I was going to say, you could be active doing anything, but you like smashing people's heads. 0.78

00:16:40.940 Yeah.

00:16:41.280 What do you like about that?

00:16:42.660 It's just fun.

00:16:45.040 I don't know why.

00:16:46.400 You get to let out your rage.

00:16:48.340 You do, man.

00:16:48.940 As long as it's controlled, right?

00:16:50.140 You want to be controlled, controlled violence and aggression, and then go take it out.

00:16:53.680 It's awesome.

00:16:55.540 Yeah.

00:16:55.900 So that's what I like about football.

00:16:58.220 Yeah, I get that.

00:16:59.260 What else?

00:16:59.600 What else are you excited about with school?

00:17:02.680 Like, new teachers.

00:17:04.380 It's kind of fun meeting new teachers.

00:17:07.300 How about girls?

00:17:08.560 I don't even talk about it.

00:17:10.640 You don't like girls yet?

00:17:11.800 No.

00:17:12.420 I mean, it's okay to like girls.

00:17:13.900 Yeah.

00:17:14.740 But you don't like them yet?

00:17:16.280 Not really.

00:17:16.940 I mean, kind of, though, right?

00:17:18.060 Kind of, yeah.

00:17:18.460 Like, if we're being truthful.

00:17:19.800 Yeah.

00:17:21.120 Any crushes that you had to leave behind that you had to give any goodbye smooches to?

00:17:25.460 I didn't give any goodbye smooches to anybody.

00:17:29.120 But you wanted to, right?

00:17:30.440 No.

00:17:30.840 Maybe one or two girls? 1.00

00:17:31.800 No.

00:17:32.160 No?

00:17:32.500 Okay.

00:17:32.900 Well, not yet.

00:17:33.440 That's good.

00:17:34.220 Yeah.

00:17:35.020 There'll come a point in time where you actually like girls.

00:17:37.600 You know that, right?

00:17:38.300 Yeah.

00:17:39.060 Where you do want to smooch.

00:17:40.420 Yes, I know.

00:17:41.160 Better not be doing that.

00:17:42.880 I'm watching you.

00:17:43.760 Got eyes in the back of my head.

00:17:45.080 Why were you even talking about it if you, hmm?

00:17:48.600 Because we got to talk about it.

00:17:50.040 Okay.

00:17:50.660 We got to talk about all kinds of stuff.

00:17:53.160 Smooching, the birds and the bees, which I know is totally uncomfortable and awkward

00:17:57.020 for you, right?

00:17:57.800 Yeah.

00:17:58.180 You don't like having that conversation.

00:17:59.800 No.

00:18:00.500 Drugs, alcohol.

00:18:02.480 Yeah.

00:18:04.440 Pornography. 0.65

00:18:05.320 Yeah.

00:18:06.160 It's not comfortable stuff to talk about.

00:18:08.560 Nope.

00:18:08.920 Have we had conversations about that stuff?

00:18:10.580 Yeah.

00:18:10.740 Why?

00:18:11.380 Even though, let's think about this for a second.

00:18:13.260 Even though that kind of stuff is uncomfortable sometimes to talk about, do you think it's

00:18:16.460 important to?

00:18:17.320 Yeah, because then you learn and when it comes to that time, you know what to do.

00:18:22.640 Yeah.

00:18:23.420 Yeah.

00:18:24.380 Yeah.

00:18:24.780 It's good to, it's good to have that information ahead of time.

00:18:27.640 Yeah.

00:18:28.000 Because sometimes when you get into a situation, let's say.

00:18:31.000 You don't know what to do.

00:18:32.340 Right.

00:18:32.740 Or, or let's say somebody says, do you want to smoke a cigarette?

00:18:37.340 Or to have a drink of this alcohol?

00:18:39.020 Well, if you, if you don't know what to do ahead of time, you might find yourself in a situation

00:18:46.100 where you're peer pressured into it, where you like, you want to be part of the cool crowd.

00:18:50.300 Yeah.

00:18:50.500 And so you do it.

00:18:51.280 And so you let other people dictate your decisions.

00:18:54.420 Yeah.

00:18:55.180 So that's why it's so important to arm yourself ahead of time.

00:18:57.620 And before you get to that point, so that if you do find yourself in that situation and

00:19:02.560 you probably will, somebody's probably going to ask you if you want to smoke, somebody's

00:19:05.420 probably going to ask if you want to drink, or somebody's probably going to ask you to

00:19:08.260 want to, if you want to look at, you know, pictures that, that are inappropriate, that

00:19:11.940 you shouldn't be looking at, then you've already made the decision beforehand.

00:19:15.580 Yeah.

00:19:16.080 Does that make sense?

00:19:17.060 Yeah.

00:19:17.640 So totally awkward to talk about.

00:19:20.120 Yeah.

00:19:20.960 We've had multiple, multiple conversations like that, huh?

00:19:24.220 Yeah.

00:19:24.720 I know.

00:19:25.480 Do you know that it's uncomfortable for me just the same as it's uncomfortable for you?

00:19:29.580 No.

00:19:30.320 It is, man.

00:19:31.520 It's weird to talk about that stuff.

00:19:33.260 Yeah.

00:19:34.000 But I think a lot of guys, a lot of dads won't have those conversations with their son because

00:19:39.200 it's uncomfortable.

00:19:40.080 Yeah.

00:19:40.600 So like, oh, I don't know.

00:19:41.380 They're scared.

00:19:41.780 Right.

00:19:42.360 And so rather than facing it and dealing with it anyways, what do they do?

00:19:45.960 They just let it go and then their kids make a bad choice and they, they like, don't

00:19:53.540 get another chance to fix that because they're, um, can't find the word, but like, just like

00:20:03.200 kind of like a magnet, they're stuck to it now.

00:20:06.500 Hmm.

00:20:07.200 I don't know.

00:20:07.960 That's cool.

00:20:08.460 I never heard that before.

00:20:10.520 Like stuck to their bad decision.

00:20:12.240 Yeah.

00:20:12.680 So let's talk.

00:20:13.800 Addicted.

00:20:13.980 That's what I mean.

00:20:14.820 Yeah.

00:20:15.240 Yeah.

00:20:15.780 They get addicted to it.

00:20:17.040 I actually liked the magnet analogy though.

00:20:18.920 That makes a lot of sense.

00:20:20.340 Did you just think of that?

00:20:21.320 Yeah.

00:20:22.120 Beautiful.

00:20:22.680 Couldn't find the words.

00:20:23.760 I'm like, let's, so let's talk about bad decisions.

00:20:28.460 Have you made any bad decisions?

00:20:29.900 You don't have to tell me what they are, but just have you made bad decisions?

00:20:32.300 John, everybody really makes bad decisions.

00:20:35.140 And so, yeah, I mean, there isn't a person who doesn't make a bad decision.

00:20:40.880 So when you make a bad decision, what do you do?

00:20:43.000 Fix it.

00:20:44.520 How?

00:20:45.720 You got to tell the truth.

00:20:47.280 Yeah.

00:20:48.180 Because then there's more pressure on your back and it's harder to unfix, well, fix that.

00:20:55.160 Well, the longer it goes.

00:20:56.880 So let's say you mess up, right?

00:20:58.340 You do something you shouldn't do.

00:20:59.560 Let's look at a real example.

00:21:01.540 Let's say that you break something.

00:21:04.760 Yeah.

00:21:05.400 And you try to hide it and you try to put it off and you kind of, kind of try to avoid it.

00:21:10.480 It's only going to get worse if you don't ever come clean and you keep trying to hide

00:21:15.200 it or you dig yourself deeper into a hole by lying more and more.

00:21:18.720 It only gets worse.

00:21:19.960 Yeah.

00:21:20.240 Like we've caught you in a couple of lies, right?

00:21:21.840 Yeah.

00:21:22.360 And it gets worse rather than just, hey, here's what happened.

00:21:25.880 I screwed up.

00:21:27.140 Here's how I'm going to fix it.

00:21:28.360 And then you fix it and all is good.

00:21:29.900 Yep.

00:21:30.200 The other thing about decisions is that not all of them are permanent.

00:21:36.920 In fact, most of them aren't.

00:21:38.100 Yeah.

00:21:38.520 You know, that's one of the things a lot of people, a lot of people asked me when we moved

00:21:43.200 or when we were contemplating moving out here, they would ask, well, why would you do that?

00:21:52.020 And I thought, you know, this doesn't have to be a permanent thing.

00:21:55.920 That's a new chapter in our life.

00:21:57.880 Yeah.

00:21:58.700 And if it doesn't work out, well, let's say if it, you've got to look at it from this

00:22:01.880 both sides.

00:22:02.840 If it doesn't work out, what can we do?

00:22:04.620 Move back to her.

00:22:05.580 Can we have a house still there?

00:22:07.360 Right.

00:22:07.780 And if it, if it, if it does work out, then what?

00:22:11.640 We don't know.

00:22:12.860 Right.

00:22:13.300 So many cool opportunities and potential and growth.

00:22:16.660 For me, I wanted to explore it.

00:22:18.360 I wanted to find out if like what this would represent.

00:22:22.520 Yeah.

00:22:24.240 What do you think about that?

00:22:25.420 I think it's cool that you can either go either way.

00:22:32.000 Yeah.

00:22:32.020 That's the thing about decision.

00:22:33.580 Free agency.

00:22:35.080 What does that mean?

00:22:36.040 It means that you have a choice to choose between two or more decisions.

00:22:41.200 You can pick which path you want to follow.

00:22:43.940 And how do you know which one is the right one?

00:22:45.520 Um, like it feels right to you.

00:22:51.600 So you pick that one.

00:22:54.040 It's a good answer.

00:22:54.860 I don't know.

00:22:55.300 But how do you, so no, it's a good answer.

00:22:57.240 I mean, cause there's a lot to be said for intuition and feeling and gut instinct.

00:23:01.280 But when you, let's say you have two choices, you personally have two choices or more, what

00:23:08.660 is, you say this one feels right.

00:23:10.800 What is that?

00:23:11.600 What actually feels like, what, how, how do you, how do you know that feels right?

00:23:15.880 Like between drinking or not, you shouldn't pick that because it's the right thing to

00:23:21.960 do.

00:23:23.120 How do you know that?

00:23:24.200 I don't know.

00:23:25.060 No, it's, I'm not trying to question.

00:23:26.880 It is a tricky question.

00:23:27.780 And I'm not trying to like paint you into a corner or like prove you right or wrong.

00:23:31.620 I'm, I'm genuinely trying to extract and know your thought process about how do you know

00:23:37.560 that's the right thing?

00:23:38.300 Like, since we talked about that stuff, I kind of already know which path I want to

00:23:44.440 go because we've already talked about that and I know the answer.

00:23:48.860 You and me have talked about it.

00:23:50.500 Yeah.

00:23:51.520 Do you know there's, there's kids, boys and girls who don't have these types of conversations?

00:23:56.140 Yeah.

00:23:57.280 What's your thoughts on that?

00:23:58.520 Makes me feel sad because they don't have somebody to talk to when they have hard times.

00:24:04.700 Do you think that our relationship between you and me as son and father, um, is hard

00:24:10.960 at times?

00:24:11.860 Yeah, sometimes.

00:24:12.940 What makes it hard?

00:24:14.860 Sometimes we don't, um, like agree on stuff and we fight, like argue a little bit.

00:24:23.360 Mm-hmm.

00:24:24.480 That's.

00:24:25.440 What, what do you see as the benefits of it?

00:24:29.180 Benefits.

00:24:30.480 Of our relationship.

00:24:31.580 I think it's a good relationship.

00:24:34.700 How so?

00:24:36.280 I just feel like usually sons and fathers do get in little knots, kind of, but then

00:24:43.180 they fix it.

00:24:44.920 And it's okay that we don't have to agree on everything.

00:24:47.240 Yeah.

00:24:48.060 What do you think about the role of fathers in general?

00:24:51.400 Do you think fathers are important?

00:24:52.860 Yeah.

00:24:53.440 Why?

00:24:54.500 Um, like, women can do this too, but it seems like it's more of a father's job to protect, 0.60

00:25:01.600 provide, and preside to me.

00:25:04.500 Yeah.

00:25:04.940 What do you think?

00:25:05.880 I agree.

00:25:06.620 I mean, I think women are capable of a lot of those things, but I think ultimately it 1.00

00:25:09.660 is our responsibility is me, a man, and you soon to be a man, right?

00:25:14.300 You're a young man, I would say.

00:25:15.700 Yeah.

00:25:16.420 And we've had conversations about that too, right?

00:25:18.420 Yeah.

00:25:18.580 Is that your goal is to become a man.

00:25:20.260 You're not now, you're a male, right?

00:25:21.520 You're a boy.

00:25:22.280 Yeah.

00:25:22.580 Now you're transitioning more now that you're getting older, a young man, right?

00:25:26.540 Yeah.

00:25:26.660 And then you're learning, you're in the apprentice stage, you're learning.

00:25:30.220 And I think that's what's so important about not only fathers, but mentors and coaches and

00:25:36.500 grandfathers and uncles and teachers is that when you're young, a lot of the times you think

00:25:44.400 you have it all figured out.

00:25:46.320 Yeah.

00:25:46.940 Right?

00:25:47.160 Like, you know the answer and it feels so right.

00:25:49.480 And yet you have a very limited experience and perception than I do, right?

00:25:56.020 Because you're 11 and I'm 38.

00:25:58.360 Yeah. 0.98

00:25:59.280 Holy crap. 0.99

00:26:00.740 That's crazy. 0.99

00:26:02.580 That's so crazy to think about.

00:26:04.080 No, it isn't.

00:26:04.800 Do you think 38's old?

00:26:06.060 No.

00:26:07.200 When I was 11, I would have thought 38 was old.

00:26:09.880 What is old?

00:26:10.960 At what age do you like, do you turn old?

00:26:13.840 What would you say?

00:26:14.480 I think mid 40s kind of.

00:26:17.820 Like 45, you would say?

00:26:19.120 That's pretty old.

00:26:19.780 Yeah, 45 and older.

00:26:21.700 I'm pretty, I'm pretty close to that, dude.

00:26:24.240 I'm only seven years away from that.

00:26:26.560 That's a long time.

00:26:28.160 To me, anyway.

00:26:29.180 Well, yeah, but to you, because that's represents the majority of your, your life.

00:26:34.600 But to me, I'm like, dude, that goes quick.

00:26:37.380 I don't think so.

00:26:38.820 Some years are long for me.

00:26:41.020 Oh, what makes them long?

00:26:42.280 I have no clue.

00:26:43.340 Some years, they're like, bink, and they're done. 1.00

00:26:46.280 And other times, they're like, like a turtle.

00:26:50.120 I'm like, come on, speed up.

00:26:51.420 Be the rabbit.

00:26:52.240 Come on.

00:26:53.700 Why do you want, why do you want time to speed up?

00:26:57.560 No, I don't want time to speed up.

00:26:59.900 Oh, you just said like, be a rabbit.

00:27:01.220 Like, hurry up.

00:27:02.600 Sometimes it feels like that in years to me.

00:27:05.220 I think it's important.

00:27:07.700 I think what a lot of people do is they anticipate what's down the road, right?

00:27:12.200 So, for example, I know a lot of people say, because they're miserable in their jobs, they'll say things like, oh, I can't wait for this weekend.

00:27:18.340 And I understand what they're saying, but when they say that, at the same time, I think, what a crappy way to live.

00:27:25.660 Yeah.

00:27:26.180 Because you're alive right now.

00:27:28.100 You have things you can do right now.

00:27:29.600 Why not be present and live in the moment?

00:27:32.480 And that way, you're not having to wait for the weekend or for next year or next year.

00:27:39.840 That's kind of a pet peeve of mine.

00:27:41.100 It's like when people say, oh, I can't wait for this day to be over.

00:27:44.000 I can't wait for the weekend.

00:27:45.140 I can't wait for tomorrow.

00:27:46.140 I can't wait for our vacation in two months.

00:27:48.520 Like, I think that's a hard way to live.

00:27:50.640 Yeah, it's like, you're in this day.

00:27:52.720 Make it a good day.

00:27:54.320 Don't just be a miserable day.

00:27:56.800 Make it a better day for you.

00:27:58.700 Do you think you have that much power to make it a good day?

00:28:01.420 Yeah.

00:28:01.720 Like, you say, like when me and Eli get in fights, he's like, he says, like, you made me do it.

00:28:12.960 I say, because you say it, you can't, people can't make you do something.

00:28:20.520 Right.

00:28:21.280 So it's your choice to pick.

00:28:24.400 If you react a certain way, it's not because somebody made, like, you didn't make me mad.

00:28:29.180 Now, you may have done something that I responded to.

00:28:32.420 Yeah.

00:28:32.920 But you didn't make me mad.

00:28:34.540 I decided to be mad.

00:28:36.060 Yeah.

00:28:37.400 And sometimes it's justified, right?

00:28:39.100 Sometimes I should be mad about things.

00:28:40.720 Yeah.

00:28:41.080 Other times maybe I shouldn't.

00:28:42.620 Because I do lose my patience at times.

00:28:45.480 Sometimes.

00:28:46.120 It's okay.

00:28:46.480 I mean, that's true, right?

00:28:47.680 What are things that you think I could work on as a father?

00:28:50.240 I don't know.

00:28:52.840 Be more patient, probably.

00:28:54.500 Yeah.

00:28:54.680 That's a hard one for me.

00:28:57.500 Yeah.

00:28:57.860 That's all I have for you.

00:28:59.300 That's it?

00:29:00.000 Yeah. 0.99

00:29:00.700 Dude, I'm killing it then. 0.93

00:29:02.100 Yeah. 0.91

00:29:02.940 I do a pretty good job, I think.

00:29:04.780 Yeah.

00:29:05.060 But patience is definitely something I need to work on.

00:29:07.740 How could I work on that, do you think?

00:29:09.460 What can I do?

00:29:13.080 One of my favorite movies right now is Blindside.

00:29:17.140 And Michael, he closes his eyes and he counts to three.

00:29:21.160 And then he opens his eyes back up.

00:29:23.260 That always helps me.

00:29:24.920 Why does that help?

00:29:25.700 So, um, just like gives you a moment to calm down.

00:29:30.620 Or do you just walk away from the situation?

00:29:33.980 Go do a room all by yourself and calm down.

00:29:38.940 Go crush heads. 0.64

00:29:39.760 Could I go crush heads?

00:29:40.660 Isn't that what you said earlier?

00:29:41.700 What did you say?

00:29:42.420 Crush heads or bash heads? 0.69

00:29:43.860 Yeah.

00:29:44.940 No, that's good.

00:29:45.800 I think that's important.

00:29:46.860 I call it margin.

00:29:48.400 Margin.

00:29:49.000 Do you know what margin is?

00:29:49.920 Nope.

00:29:50.840 Margin is space.

00:29:52.460 Oh, yeah.

00:29:53.280 Right?

00:29:53.520 So, so the space between the desk, for example, and the window, there's a gap there, right?

00:29:59.400 That's the margin.

00:30:00.460 Or if you think about the margins on a, on a computer, on a, on a piece of paper, like

00:30:05.380 word, for example, you know what the margins are?

00:30:08.320 Yeah.

00:30:09.020 Like from the edge of the paper to where the words start, that's the gap, right?

00:30:12.180 That's the margin.

00:30:13.240 Indent.

00:30:14.380 Indent.

00:30:14.880 Yeah.

00:30:15.460 So you have this margin on the paper, but you also have margin in your life.

00:30:19.380 And so what a lot of guys will do is they'll stack up their day, right?

00:30:22.340 So they've got this event, then this activity, then this appointment, they've got so much

00:30:26.140 stuff loaded, loaded, loaded, loaded, loaded.

00:30:27.760 And they never give, like you said, the space to just reset or think about a new life or

00:30:35.340 envision something different.

00:30:36.660 And so they just keep running the same patterns that they always have.

00:30:39.120 Yeah.

00:30:40.020 So you got to create margin.

00:30:40.860 That's what you're saying.

00:30:42.180 And I agree with that.

00:30:43.080 Yeah.

00:30:43.300 What do you think you could work on as a son?

00:30:47.900 You should be giving that advice.

00:30:49.580 I will in a second.

00:30:52.560 I will.

00:30:53.740 I think that's right, that I should be because I'm the parent, but I also think it's good

00:30:57.740 to identify it for yourself.

00:30:59.120 Yeah.

00:30:59.680 Because I said I need to work on patience, right?

00:31:01.420 So I identify it for myself.

00:31:02.380 I kind of think I need to work on patience too.

00:31:05.880 Yeah.

00:31:07.200 You're kind of what I would refer to as a mini me.

00:31:10.740 Don't have the beard yet.

00:31:12.180 No.

00:31:13.020 You do have an armpit hair though.

00:31:14.540 Yeah. 0.94

00:31:15.060 Big black hairy one. 0.99

00:31:16.720 What do you think about that?

00:31:18.380 I'm kind of happy about it.

00:31:21.360 Why?

00:31:21.880 Because you're being a man now?

00:31:23.120 Yeah.

00:31:23.820 That's right, man.

00:31:25.620 You're getting some hair.

00:31:26.720 You'll have a beard before too long.

00:31:28.220 Are you going to grow a beard?

00:31:29.200 Yeah.

00:31:29.940 Like this?

00:31:30.580 You think it's going to be red like mine?

00:31:32.880 Hopefully.

00:31:33.500 It's probably not going to be as cool as mine though.

00:31:35.620 Mm-hmm.

00:31:36.240 Maybe when you get older it will change its color.

00:31:39.960 Mine?

00:31:40.460 Yeah.

00:31:40.860 Mine might go gray.

00:31:42.000 Yours might go white.

00:31:43.500 That's what I'm saying.

00:31:44.480 Santa Claus?

00:31:45.980 Should I play Santa Claus if I do that?

00:31:47.960 Yeah, that'd be funny.

00:31:49.060 But I don't have the fat body and gut.

00:31:51.720 No, you don't.

00:31:52.560 I shouldn't do that though, huh?

00:31:54.340 Should I be the healthy, lean...

00:31:56.160 Santa Claus.

00:31:56.960 Santa Claus?

00:31:57.840 With his shirt off.

00:31:59.000 That's right, man.

00:31:59.920 Wax.

00:32:00.600 Wax first, okay?

00:32:02.520 Wax my body?

00:32:03.620 Yeah.

00:32:04.040 Why?

00:32:04.560 You're Bigfoot.

00:32:05.420 You're Sasquatch. 1.00

00:32:06.140 So what, man?

00:32:08.800 It's what it is.

00:32:09.520 It is what it is.

00:32:11.960 So speaking of growing a beard and things changing, what things do you want to do in

00:32:19.260 the future?

00:32:20.300 Whether what you want to do for work or where you want to live, or maybe there's some adventures

00:32:25.220 you've been thinking about.

00:32:26.440 What are some things that you've thought about maybe that you want to do in the future?

00:32:29.420 I want to go to Africa someday.

00:32:32.060 Yeah?

00:32:33.200 And...

00:32:33.600 I've got a friend in South Africa.

00:32:34.920 He invited me over.

00:32:35.680 He said you could come.

00:32:37.000 He did?

00:32:37.580 Yeah.

00:32:38.460 Yes.

00:32:39.500 Yes.

00:32:40.260 Lucky day today.

00:32:41.480 Should we do that?

00:32:42.200 Yeah.

00:32:42.600 Okay.

00:32:43.580 Why do you want to go to Africa?

00:32:44.620 I just like animals a lot, and there's a lot of cool animals there.

00:32:51.780 You've always liked animals.

00:32:53.220 Yeah.

00:32:53.580 What is it about animals?

00:32:55.120 They're just cool.

00:32:56.860 They're like...

00:32:58.060 Like, I don't know.

00:33:00.700 It could be...

00:33:03.000 They were like...

00:33:04.540 They're when the dinosaurs were.

00:33:07.600 Like, not exactly like that period, but they were far back ago, and I think that's cool.

00:33:14.740 They're kind of like modern day dinosaurs, like an alligator and a crocodile.

00:33:20.120 They were back when the dinosaurs were around, so they're modern day dinosaurs.

00:33:24.960 Pretty cool, huh?

00:33:25.660 Yeah.

00:33:26.180 And birds are dinosaurs.

00:33:27.560 Yeah.

00:33:28.060 Do you believe in evolution or creation?

00:33:31.260 Do you know what those two are?

00:33:33.600 I know the game, Shark Evolution.

00:33:36.260 So, evolution is that an organism, whether it's a human or...

00:33:41.600 An animal.

00:33:42.260 An animal.

00:33:43.300 Can evolve, can adapt, can develop new traits and characteristics and skills and instincts

00:33:50.260 in order to help improve.

00:33:53.340 And usually what they'll do...

00:33:54.060 It's their environment.

00:33:54.860 Right.

00:33:55.380 Usually.

00:33:56.060 That's exactly right.

00:33:56.840 So, you think about like anglerfish, for example.

00:33:59.660 Well, they...

00:34:00.200 They have the light.

00:34:01.020 They have the light, right?

00:34:01.960 Because they operate in the dark.

00:34:03.480 So, they have this light that attracts fish.

00:34:06.540 There's other...

00:34:07.120 I heard there was another animal.

00:34:08.180 I can't think of what it was.

00:34:09.420 Maybe you told me this, Rose, in one of your books.

00:34:11.980 But their eye...

00:34:13.040 Oh, it was that eye book we read about animals.

00:34:15.400 I can't remember what animal it was, but there's light literally in the back of their eye.

00:34:20.500 And it's like a flashlight because they're in the dark.

00:34:23.420 Oh, yeah.

00:34:24.080 Do you remember what that was?

00:34:26.680 Trying to...

00:34:27.540 Oh, it was...

00:34:29.400 It was a squid.

00:34:31.500 Wasn't it?

00:34:32.040 Was it?

00:34:32.720 No, squid have the biggest eyes on the planet. 0.74

00:34:34.660 Was it the...

00:34:37.340 Wasn't it like the clouded leopard?

00:34:40.100 Is that a fish?

00:34:41.300 No, it's a...

00:34:42.400 It's like a jack fire.

00:34:44.120 I think it was the leopard.

00:34:45.700 Maybe.

00:34:46.180 I can't remember.

00:34:47.300 Anyways, that was pretty cool.

00:34:48.580 Yeah.

00:34:48.880 So, that's what evolution is.

00:34:50.640 Creation is that the universe and the animals and humans were created by God.

00:34:55.560 Yeah.

00:34:56.460 What do you think?

00:34:58.200 About what?

00:34:59.560 Which one is it?

00:35:01.380 Created by God, I think.

00:35:03.720 Do you think there's evolution?

00:35:06.080 Evolution there?

00:35:07.280 Yes.

00:35:07.780 I actually think it's both.

00:35:08.980 Yeah.

00:35:09.880 I think that we were created that...

00:35:11.920 So, we were created in the image of God and that this world was created.

00:35:15.360 But I think also we've all evolved.

00:35:17.360 Yeah.

00:35:17.740 Animal, species, humans.

00:35:18.740 I think it's a bit of both.

00:35:20.100 Yeah.

00:35:20.640 Yeah, I think it's both too.

00:35:22.460 It's good to think about this stuff.

00:35:23.900 Yeah.

00:35:24.220 These are some of the big questions people have a lot of concerns and ideas and thoughts about.

00:35:28.540 Yeah.

00:35:28.880 It's good to ponder on this stuff.

00:35:30.600 Yep.

00:35:31.260 Cool.

00:35:32.540 Well, we've been going for like, I don't know, 35, 40 minutes now.

00:35:36.480 Didn't feel like that, did it?

00:35:37.700 No.

00:35:38.120 Goes pretty quick.

00:35:39.000 Yeah.

00:35:39.480 You like podcasting?

00:35:40.480 Mm-hmm.

00:35:40.980 So, do you want to be a podcaster when you grow up?

00:35:43.620 Do you want to be a...

00:35:44.440 You used to say you wanted to be a cowboy animal doctor. 0.95

00:35:47.780 What the heck?

00:35:48.780 You don't remember saying that? 0.92

00:35:49.720 No, I don't.

00:35:50.480 Dude, you used to say that all the time.

00:35:51.940 You wanted to be a cowboy animal doctor.

00:35:53.580 I want to be a podcaster and like maybe go to college and get a veterinarian degree.

00:36:00.800 So, that could be like, the podcasting would probably be like a side job.

00:36:05.360 I could teach kids and adults about being a veterinarian.

00:36:10.240 It's a good idea.

00:36:10.880 I don't know.

00:36:11.340 That's what's cool about social media is that we can do that kind of stuff.

00:36:15.320 You know, we can talk about whatever we want.

00:36:16.960 We can start YouTube channels and create movements and rally people around a thought or an idea,

00:36:22.780 in this case, animals.

00:36:23.900 It's pretty cool what the internet can do.

00:36:25.900 Yeah.

00:36:27.700 Are you zoning out on me?

00:36:29.520 Oh, I'm just like...

00:36:31.020 What are you thinking?

00:36:31.920 Thinking a little bit.

00:36:33.200 Are you hungry?

00:36:33.940 It's about lunchtime.

00:36:34.800 Yeah.

00:36:35.320 I think mom has some lunch for you.

00:36:37.380 Yeah.

00:36:37.800 Should we go eat?

00:36:38.600 Yeah.

00:36:38.880 All right, buddy.

00:36:39.800 I love doing this stuff with you.

00:36:41.220 I like doing it with you too.

00:36:43.680 Just like?

00:36:45.680 No, love.

00:36:46.500 I'm just kidding.

00:36:47.620 No, I like doing this stuff because we have these conversations every day.

00:36:52.620 Yeah.

00:36:52.880 But I think it's also important to have these conversations in a platform like this because

00:36:57.300 then other people, other fathers and sons who are hearing this might be inspired by what

00:37:01.900 we're doing and have some of these conversations for themselves.

00:37:05.260 Yeah.

00:37:05.540 I think the more conversations we can have with the people we care about, the better off we're

00:37:08.720 all going to be.

00:37:09.220 Yeah.

00:37:10.020 Cool.

00:37:11.040 Any parting words of wisdom for anybody who might be listening?

00:37:16.640 Protect, provide, beside.

00:37:18.740 Boom! 0.99

00:37:20.440 Perfect.

00:37:21.320 Way to end.

00:37:22.240 That's all I need to say.

00:37:23.500 All right.

00:37:24.000 I appreciate you, bud.

00:37:24.680 Love you.

00:37:25.160 Love you.

00:37:25.560 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.

00:37:28.460 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,

00:37:32.140 we invite you to join the Order at orderofman.com.

00:37:40.060 Thank you.

Order of Man - June 21, 2019

A Conversation with My Son ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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