Order of Man - Advice I Would Give My 20-Year Old Self ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

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00:02:19.620 self, something along those lines? I'm going to get to that in just a very quick minute

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00:03:43.420 Again, this is advice that I would give to my 20 year old self, things that I wish I would have

00:03:47.640 learned. I've got five here. Really? Ultimately, I would have just smacked myself around a little bit

00:03:52.860 and told myself to stop being an idiot, but such as the way it goes when you're 20 years old and 1.00

00:03:58.840 you're full of piss and vinegar and all hopped up on life and the hormones are raging through you and 1.00

00:04:03.340 you're immature and you don't have enough life experience to really understand how, 0.98

00:04:07.060 how this world works. And even at 38, which is how old I am now, and I'll be turning 39 here very,

00:04:12.900 very shortly, still don't have this thing figured out, but maybe a little bit more than I did almost

00:04:17.260 20 years ago. And this is the question. The reason I don't like this question, I wanted to tell you this

00:04:21.520 is because we can't like this, this almost is an exercise in futility. Like we can't as, as adults,

00:04:28.840 as men go back in time. And unfortunately, uh, I know too many men who are living in high school

00:04:37.020 still, like these are 40 year old men who are living off the accolades and the, and the, the

00:04:42.580 coattails of what they did in high school. It's kind of like uncle Rico and Napoleon dynamite, where

00:04:47.100 he says, if I could go back in time, we'd take state, no doubt in my mind. And it's funny, we laugh,

00:04:51.880 but how many men do you know? And maybe even you fall into this camp a little bit where

00:04:56.520 you, uh, are resting on something you did last year or a decade or more ago. That's why I don't

00:05:04.060 like this question. That said, I understand the framework for it. I understand the foundation for

00:05:09.200 I understand why it's a good idea, but I'm just telling you, be careful of looking backwards,

00:05:12.880 only look backwards so that you can improve moving forward. Just be careful of not getting

00:05:17.400 trapped in the past. All right. So advice to my 20 year old self, here's five things that I thought

00:05:22.960 of that I think would make a huge, uh, a huge difference. Uh, number, let's see, let's think

00:05:28.340 about how I want to start this. Number one we'll say is I would have made, I'm trying to think about

00:05:34.980 where I want to start. All right, here's where I start. Number one, public speaking and communication.

00:05:40.120 If there, I hate to say that there's one skill that if you learn this, everything's going to be

00:05:44.500 better. This is the one thing you need to be successful. It's not how it works. Uh, I think

00:05:49.560 James clear, the author of atomic habits talks about this. Like very rarely is it one trade or

00:05:55.020 one characteristic or one skillset that makes an individual successful. It's usually a culmination of

00:06:01.520 dozens, if not hundreds and thousands of skills and characteristics and virtues that make somebody

00:06:07.620 successful. But I'll tell you what, over the course of nearly two decades from the time that,

00:06:12.840 you know, I was 18 years old to now 38 years old. I would say that communication is probably

00:06:19.380 the single greatest factor that has contributed to any level of success, whether it's success in the

00:06:26.480 relationship with my wife or, uh, engaging with my children, disciplining them, teaching them,

00:06:31.520 guiding them, coaching and instructing them, uh, whether it's getting promotions, picking up new

00:06:36.520 clients, of course, obviously my ability to start this movement and maintain the momentum and

00:06:41.540 continue to increase it develops and grows and expands as does my ability to communicate effectively.

00:06:48.500 So as an 18, 19, 20 year old kid, yeah, I wish I would have focused heavily on communication.

00:06:56.360 I would have joined organizations. Uh, I would have looked for opportunities to speak in public,

00:07:01.840 whether that was presenting to my class in high school or college. Uh, I would have looked for

00:07:06.920 opportunities to present to, uh, rotary clubs. I probably at some point would have started a

00:07:12.300 podcast because not only do I get to have great conversations and impact the lives of millions of

00:07:17.460 men. Every single time I get behind this microphone and in front of this camera, uh, I improve and

00:07:23.820 increase my ability to communicate and deliver a message effectively because I'm in the trenches,

00:07:28.760 I'm doing it. So if you're young or if you're not young, that's still a great time to always be

00:07:35.480 thinking about how you can more effectively communicate with other people. And this is a

00:07:41.620 huge factor when it comes to your ability to influence. And as a leader, which is one of the

00:07:47.120 core tenants of masculinity that we talk about preside leadership, your ability to communicate a

00:07:52.820 message, your ability to cast and articulate that vision to other people, uh, your ability to work

00:07:59.900 through issues and disagreements and, and debates with other individuals is really going to mark the

00:08:06.380 difference as to whether or not you're successful on a project or securing a promotion or picking up a

00:08:11.940 new client or courting a woman or influencing your children. So keep that on the forefront of your mind,

00:08:18.240 whether you're 20 years old, 38 years old, 65 years old, if you can get better at communication

00:08:24.000 and you can put yourself in front of people, cause that's what communication is, right? You're in front

00:08:29.500 of other people, whether it's a party of one or a party of 10,000, the more often that you can get

00:08:36.300 in front of people, you can learn, you can read, you can listen to a podcast like this. You can read

00:08:42.520 great books and then ultimately put that into practice. The better off you're going to be. If I

00:08:46.980 would have developed that at 20 years old, and I would have been focused on that, I'd be light years

00:08:51.160 ahead of where I am today, which is why I'm so focused on it now. Remember, I'm not getting caught

00:08:55.820 in the past and what could have been, coulda, shoulda, woulda. No, this is what I would have

00:09:00.360 done. Therefore I should start this now. I should start doing this now. All right. Number two, let me

00:09:06.040 think about how I want to do this. I should have more planned, but I didn't. Number two, I would have

00:09:11.660 made a plan. I felt like at 20 years old, I was kind of just going wherever, like wherever the wind

00:09:18.000 took me, I go here, I go here. I had no compass, no purpose, no direction, no clarity, no focus,

00:09:24.120 obviously, right? Like I'm 20 year old kid. That that's pretty obvious. That was the case,

00:09:28.740 but I would have been more deliberate about things I wanted to do and things I wanted to

00:09:34.880 accomplish and how I wanted to proceed and how I wanted to move forward. And although some of the

00:09:39.900 other points that I'm going to talk with you about today might be counter to what I'm telling you now,

00:09:44.220 like, I think you have to have a goal, even if the goal ends up moving down the road, like it ends up

00:09:50.480 becoming not a priority or not important to you. I think having a goal and an objective in mind is

00:09:56.680 going to channel and harness this energy that you have at 20 years old or 30 years old, or now me,

00:10:02.960 almost 40 years old, like always have a plan in place, be willing to adjust, be willing to adapt

00:10:09.340 and overcome where necessary. But ultimately, if you don't have a plan and a direction in your life,

00:10:16.160 even if the direction is wrong, or it has to be changed down the road, you're just not going to be

00:10:20.400 as effective as you could have been. Had you had a plan? Had you had purpose? Had you had clarity? Had

00:10:26.120 you had focus? Which leads me into point number three at 20 years old. It's very difficult to

00:10:34.200 have purpose and clarity. Like you don't have a whole lot of life experience. Frankly, you don't

00:10:39.840 have a lot of failures under your belt, which is, which are learning opportunities. Now you don't

00:10:44.120 have a lot to draw from by way of experience that will help you identify what you want and what you

00:10:50.620 don't want. So point number three is finding mentors. This is something that I didn't do. You know,

00:10:57.080 at 20 years old, I was worried about the party and I was worried about, you know, buddies and

00:11:03.100 girlfriends and drinking. And I think, again, this is the nature of being young, but if you can get

00:11:09.780 ahead of this early and find mentors who are going to guide you and lead you and coach you and instruct

00:11:18.040 you and tell you the things that you need to hear, by the way, not necessarily the things you want to

00:11:22.780 hear, but the things that you need to hear, man, you're going to put yourself in so much better

00:11:27.640 position than your buddies who are more concerned about which party they're going to go to on

00:11:32.760 Friday night. And I'm not saying you can't indulge in some of that stuff, right? You're young. You're

00:11:36.960 having fun. Life should be experienced to some degree within a set of parameters that you have

00:11:41.880 determined what they are, but find mentors. Now, this is where a lot of guys get hung up because

00:11:47.160 they'd like to find mentors. They'd like to find people to guide them. I made a video about a

00:11:53.280 conversation my son and I had had regarding me apologizing. I had to apologize to him. And I made a

00:11:58.160 video and put it up on YouTube and you can check it out again, youtube.com slash order of man. It's a

00:12:02.960 very important conversation that I think you guys will get a lot of value from, but there's been

00:12:07.840 thousands, I think almost at this point, tens of thousands of comments on that video itself.

00:12:14.360 And most of the comments are like, my dad wasn't around. I wish I had a dad growing up. I didn't have

00:12:19.960 a role model. I didn't have a male influence or presence in my life. Like this is an epidemic in society.

00:12:25.680 And if you're listening to this, there's a strong likelihood that a lot of you who are listening

00:12:32.480 to this podcast, don't have a father figure, don't have a male mentor in your life. It doesn't matter

00:12:39.100 if you're 20 years old or 60 years old. So a lot of guys get hung up on this. Like, how do I find a

00:12:45.660 mentor? How do I develop and articulate a relationship with another man? Who's going to help lead me to

00:12:50.220 where I want to go? Very simple is, and it sounds oversimplified and I'm not trying to do any

00:12:57.180 injustice here, but very simply, the way that you do this is you find people who are experiencing

00:13:03.140 the results that you're after. And then you pay them to teach you how to experience those results

00:13:10.080 for yourself. That's it. Now, granted, there's some nuance there and some, there's some ways to

00:13:14.900 approach this and do this, but ultimately that's what it is. Find people who are doing what you

00:13:20.380 want to do. They're experiencing the results that you want to experience and then reach

00:13:24.000 out to them, compensate them. By the way, this doesn't always have to be monetarily. A lot

00:13:28.420 of the cases it is, but not always compensate them to teach you what they know, how they do

00:13:34.320 their life, how they have success, what pitfalls to avoid, what mistakes to remove and eliminate

00:13:40.840 from your life. And it will leapfrog your success. Like you're, it's been said that smart men learn

00:13:48.200 from their mistakes. Wise men learn from the mistakes of others. You can accelerate like warp

00:13:55.080 speed, your success by not stepping into every damn pothole and roadblock and mistake and mess 0.69

00:14:01.980 up that comes your way by accessing a map, if you will, to identify where those roadblocks 0.68

00:14:13.920 are. And the men who have gone before I look at them as, as time travelers. I know it sounds

00:14:19.060 a little funny, but if you find a mentor, that is a time traveler. All right. What, what that

00:14:24.020 individual is doing is they're going into the future and then they're going to come back and

00:14:30.080 they're going to tell you how to do it based on their experience. That to me is time travel,

00:14:37.080 right? Like you get to see what your future would look like if you mess up and also see

00:14:41.980 what your future looks like. If you don't mess up, if you're willing to have these mentors

00:14:45.700 in your life. So find people who are doing what you want to do, compensate them financially.

00:14:51.240 Maybe it's just lunch, you know, take somebody to lunch. Maybe there's a buddy or somebody in,

00:14:55.360 in your church or an organization that you belong to that you really admire because

00:14:59.560 he's a great father or he, he has a lot of business acumen, just invite him to lunch.

00:15:06.920 Hey, I'm trying to start this business or I want to start a podcast or, Hey, I know you're

00:15:10.920 a really good dad. You seem really engaged with your children. And that's one of the things

00:15:13.900 that I'm working on. You know, do you mind if we go grab a coffee or I take you to lunch

00:15:18.080 or, you know, just, just so I can kind of get some ideas and insights on how you're doing

00:15:23.420 this. That's it guys. Like I, I just get, I get frustrated when people are like, how

00:15:28.140 do you find a mentor is not difficult, but you do have to put yourself out there. You

00:15:33.380 do have to take the risk. And you do have to ask, and you do have to invest by the way

00:15:38.180 to invest, invest in yourself, invest in that individual. When I started my, my previous podcast,

00:15:44.900 it's called wealth anatomy. And it was a podcast dedicated to helping financial, excuse me,

00:15:50.540 medical professionals with their financial services. There was a gentleman that I reached

00:15:54.800 out to. His name is Jeff Rose, good financial sense, by the way, check it out. If you're

00:15:58.340 interested in finances anyways, I reached out to him and cause he was doing what I wanted

00:16:03.680 to do. He had a podcast and a blog. He was successful in his financial planning practice.

00:16:08.000 And I reached out to him and I said, Hey, you know, I'm, I'm I'm wanting to start something

00:16:13.140 similar to what you're doing. Do you do any coaching? And he says, yeah, I do coaching.

00:16:16.100 Here's how much I charge. And it was a couple hundred bucks or something like that. And I

00:16:19.160 said, great PayPal them or whatever, a couple hundred bucks and had a couple of iPhone calls,

00:16:23.860 I believe with him. And he got me on the path. This is that easy. He got me on the path. And

00:16:28.900 this is somebody who I admire and respect. And somebody who led me to not only be successful

00:16:34.720 with my financial planning practice, but ultimately led into what we're doing here. But I had

00:16:40.340 to invest in myself and I had to take the risk of asking. So do it. Find mentors.

00:16:45.560 Number, let's see, that was number three. So number four, I would say is, and I kind of alluded

00:16:51.540 to this just a second ago, which is to take more risks. Look, if you're 20 years old, you're young,

00:16:56.800 there's plenty of life left. There's plenty of time to settle down. And this might be a little

00:17:00.540 counter to the make a plan thing. I still think you should have a plan, but ultimately I think you

00:17:04.640 ought to take more risks. If I went back 20 years ago, I would have told myself, man, just say yes

00:17:10.100 to a few more things. When opportunities present themselves, whether you can travel the world

00:17:14.580 or potentially invest in a business, or there's, there's a woman you might want to take on a date,

00:17:20.300 just take more risks. Just ask for what you want. Just be bold and assertive and chasing and pursuing

00:17:28.080 something that seems meaningful. That seems adventurous. That might be a little crazy that most people may not

00:17:34.580 understand. Like you'll be so much further ahead. And look, these things aren't always going to pan

00:17:39.540 out. That's the nature of risk, but you're going to learn so much from that. And I, in fact, I've learned

00:17:45.560 that quite a bit over the past eight months and moving here to Maine, you know, I moved my family, my wife

00:17:50.420 and four children and myself here to Maine, basically across the country from Southern Utah. And there's been

00:17:56.060 a lot of change, obviously climate. There's been a lot of change. Friendships are different. The, the, the house

00:18:02.320 is different. The opportunities are different. The people are different, but what an amazing

00:18:06.720 opportunity. And here's the deal guys. It's, if it doesn't work out, let's say we're here for a

00:18:12.980 couple of years and you know, we don't like it or, or we feel better about being in our home in Southern

00:18:18.080 Utah, then we can always go back. There's nothing I should say. I shouldn't say nothing, but there's very

00:18:24.480 few things that are so catastrophic that you can't recover from. So be bold, say yes to a few more

00:18:33.600 opportunities. I remember when I was, I was probably 20 years old and I had an opportunity to go to

00:18:37.820 Germany. I was working with an organization, a company, and I was managing a retail store and I

00:18:44.540 had this opportunity to go to Germany. And I said, no, because I had an assistant manager quit from,

00:18:52.200 from the store. And I, and to myself, I was like, no, I can't leave because I'm managing this store.

00:18:56.920 And so I can't leave and leave the store, which, yeah, I mean, that all sounds reasonable, but looking

00:19:01.780 back hindsight on it, I could have called and, and, and told my district manager, Hey, I'm really going

00:19:07.660 to go on this trip. I need to go. I'd like to go. I want to invest in this. And I'm sure, I'm sure

00:19:12.740 that my district manager would have been able to bring somebody else up, bring somebody in for a week

00:19:18.020 and manage the store. And it wouldn't have been a problem, but I don't know if I was scared or,

00:19:24.180 you know, I, I just, I felt so much responsibility that I wasn't willing to take that risk and say

00:19:29.600 yes to this thing. That's just one thing that is a little bit of a regret that I wish I would have

00:19:34.580 done. And I learned a lot from that. Like when opportunities present themselves, find ways to make

00:19:39.720 them work. What most people will do is they'll find ways to get out of it, right? Like I'm busy,

00:19:45.360 or I've got this responsibility and that obligation, and I can't commit to this. And

00:19:49.640 they'll justify and they'll rationalize and they'll make excuses and they'll keep themselves

00:19:54.180 safe in this little bubble that doesn't allow for any growth and expansion and opportunity guys,

00:20:02.280 risks are going to come up. Opportunities are going to come up when you're young,

00:20:06.900 take advantage of those things because you, and even when you're old, take advantage of those things,

00:20:10.660 like it's not going to get easier. And that's what a lot of people say. Well, you know,

00:20:14.460 I really like to do that thing and travel the world, but I can't because I've got this

00:20:18.160 responsibility and obligation, but in two years, in two years, then I'll do it. In two years,

00:20:23.440 you're going to be more embedded in your career. You're going to be married, or you're going to

00:20:26.880 have a kid on the way. Like it's going to get harder. So don't tell yourself you're going to do

00:20:32.020 it later. Do it now. Life is short. There's opportunities that present themselves. Sure. They possess a

00:20:37.120 level of risk, but so much learning and growth and expansion comes by saying yes to the things that

00:20:43.080 normally you would say no to. And the last one is I would have started jujitsu earlier. That's it.

00:20:51.360 When I was in high school, I played baseball. I played football. I played basketball for one year.

00:20:57.620 Wasn't very good at it because I couldn't hit people. And then I wrestled. So played a lot of

00:21:03.260 sports in, in high school. And those things don't translate into being 40 years old. Like they just

00:21:10.740 don't, I was never big enough, strong enough, athletic enough to pursue a meaningful football

00:21:16.320 career, which is something I actually would have liked to have done, but just didn't have that

00:21:19.680 opportunity, you know? And, and, and now it's gone. I remember the very last time I played football

00:21:25.260 and I remember that last game and I didn't really play all that great. And those are times that I miss,

00:21:30.520 but I'm telling you like jujitsu, you can do that forever. I just rolled with actually a jujitsu,

00:21:36.660 Joe parody is his name, jujitsu world black belt world champion. He just won the world championship

00:21:41.900 in, in Las Vegas several months ago. I rolled with him last night. I think he's in his probably

00:21:47.720 mid sixties or so. Holy cow. Like this guy is tough and strong technical. And he was on top most of the

00:21:58.080 time. And I'm telling you, I didn't get submitted, which I felt pretty proud about, but like, I just,

00:22:02.680 I just felt swamped. Like there just was nothing I could do to get him off of me. And it led me to

00:22:10.160 believe that this is something that you can do for a very, very long time. And not only is it something

00:22:15.280 that's applicable for the rest of your life, potentially, like there's so many metaphors

00:22:21.100 and analogies and translations over into your everyday ordinary life. Whether you're dealing with

00:22:26.860 a difficult time with your spouse, or you're working with a hard client, or you're trying to 0.99

00:22:32.580 get a promotion or your boss is maybe a bit of a jerk and you're trying to figure out how to best 0.97

00:22:37.080 deal with that, or you're trying to grow your business or connect with your kids or any number 0.98

00:22:42.060 of things that we as men deal with on a daily basis, not only will jujitsu make you physically

00:22:48.640 stronger to be able to have the energy to do those things, it will give you the mindset to be able to

00:22:53.440 approach life in a completely different way and start to see solutions and answers to problems

00:22:59.580 that you didn't know previously existed. So I would have started training when I was 18, 19,

00:23:07.380 maybe even high school, maybe even earlier than that. Like my, uh, my kids, in fact, all four of

00:23:11.580 them are involved in jujitsu now and all four of them love it. In fact, my two oldest boys have, uh,

00:23:17.920 have advancements coming up next week. They don't know that. And my girl is going to earn her first 0.99

00:23:23.580 stripe. So, uh, pretty cool. Like it's pretty cool to see. And I know that I'm giving them a leg up.

00:23:29.000 They can face bullying. Uh, they're going to feel more proud about who they are. They're going to

00:23:33.880 be physically stronger and more capable mentally. They're going to be more resilient and tougher and

00:23:40.220 grittier because they're involved in the practice of, of martial arts, specifically jujitsu. So for me,

00:23:46.480 I would have started earlier. And I have a lot of guys who are like, Hey man, I'm, I'm 45 now. I'm 50.

00:23:51.940 I'm 60. Is it too old to, to, to, or too late to start? It's like, if you wait, what's the

00:23:58.340 alternative? You waiting for five years and asking the same question, except for now you're five years

00:24:02.800 older. It's never too late to start. And this is what I started the conversation with is don't get

00:24:08.900 trapped in the past. Oh man, I wish I would have done it then, but I didn't. So I guess I'll just

00:24:13.100 throw up my hands. There's nothing I can do. No, that's not what this is a lesson in. This is a lesson

00:24:19.080 in what should I have done 20 years ago, and then making better choices. Now making the right choices

00:24:26.160 now, so that in 20 years, you're not regretting things that you could have done when you listen to

00:24:32.240 this podcast in February of 2020. All right, let me recap guys for you. And then we'll call it a day.

00:24:39.160 And also, if you would make sure you share. So if you're listening to this on iTunes or whatever,

00:24:44.320 follow me on social media, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, all at Ryan Mickler, I'll make a post and

00:24:51.800 you can share with me things that you wish you would have implemented or learned in your life

00:24:57.520 when, when you were younger and what you're going to be doing now about it. And then if you're on

00:25:00.800 YouTube, you can just drop it in the comments below. Okay. All right. Number one, public speaking

00:25:05.160 and communication. Again, that's, that's a skillset that I think will improve every facet of your life.

00:25:09.720 Uh, number two, I would have been more deliberate and intentional and started planning out my life a

00:25:15.340 little bit better. Uh, number three, I would have found mentors to guide and coach and instruct me.

00:25:20.660 Uh, number four, taking more risks, saying yes to a few more opportunities that presented myself

00:25:25.740 and finding ways to make things work, not justify or rationalize out of an opportunity. And number five

00:25:32.760 is starting a jujitsu earlier. So that's it guys. I hope that helps. Hope that gives you some insight.

00:25:38.480 Again, not my favorite question, but because I understand the nature of the question and where

00:25:42.480 it's coming from. I just think again, as I reiterate, the trap is that we could begin to fall

00:25:47.880 into is living in the past being uncle Rico who wants to take state. Don't let that be you fix your 1.00

00:25:55.760 life. Now use, I don't want to say regrets, but missed opportunities in the past as fuel for the fire

00:26:03.600 of taking advantage of those opportunities in the present so that the future looks different.

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Order of Man - February 21, 2020

Advice I Would Give My 20-Year Old Self ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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