Order of Man - Anxiously Engaged in the Fight ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 The fight is not my fight, guys.

00:00:01.800 The fight that I'm talking about today is your fight.

00:00:04.020 It could be politics.

00:00:05.580 You know, maybe your wife came to you and said,

00:00:07.400 hey, we're not doing good in our marriage

00:00:08.680 and I'm considering a separation or divorce.

00:00:10.600 Okay, that's your battle then.

00:00:12.020 It could be your health.

00:00:13.120 Maybe you just got a health diagnosis

00:00:14.560 and the doctor says you're pre-diabetic.

00:00:17.200 That's your fight.

00:00:18.420 It could be business.

00:00:20.120 What matters is what you think.

00:00:21.280 What is your fight?

00:00:21.960 So let's talk about this.

00:00:23.240 Five key steps that you can employ

00:00:25.060 to ensure that you are anxiously engaged

00:00:28.180 in not only the fight,

00:00:29.700 but your fight.

00:00:32.440 You're a man of action.

00:00:34.120 You live life to the fullest.

00:00:35.560 Embrace your fears

00:00:36.420 and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:38.500 When life knocks you down,

00:00:39.860 you get back up one more time,

00:00:41.860 every time.

00:00:42.920 You are not easily deterred or defeated,

00:00:45.260 rugged, resilient, strong.

00:00:48.020 This is your life.

00:00:49.100 This is who you are.

00:00:50.320 This is who you will become.

00:00:52.320 At the end of the day,

00:00:53.460 and after all is said and done,

00:00:55.280 you can call yourself a man.

00:00:57.200 What does it mean to be anxiously engaged in the fight?

00:01:02.660 Well, it means that, number one,

00:01:04.180 you have a fight worth fighting.

00:01:06.660 Not every hill is worth dying on.

00:01:08.920 Not every issue is important.

00:01:10.740 Not every concern is relevant to you.

00:01:13.680 But if you found something that's meaningful

00:01:15.520 and significant to you

00:01:16.720 and you feel like it's worth fighting for,

00:01:19.100 then being anxiously engaged in that fight

00:01:21.580 or in that battle

00:01:22.420 means that you are pouring fully into it,

00:01:26.640 you're investing your time, energy,

00:01:28.800 and resources into it,

00:01:30.360 and you're taking the fight to the nth degree.

00:01:34.500 Guys, today we're gonna talk about

00:01:36.140 what it means to be anxiously engaged in the fight,

00:01:38.460 including where that term comes from,

00:01:40.520 and also we're gonna talk about

00:01:42.220 five key strategies that you can employ

00:01:44.820 every single day

00:01:46.320 to ensure that you are anxiously engaged in the fight,

00:01:49.740 and I'll also share with you why that's important.

00:01:52.840 Before I get into that conversation, though,

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00:02:43.960 And the last announcement that I wanna make

00:02:45.680 is that we have a very brand new event

00:02:48.840 coming up May 1st through the 5th, 2025,

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00:02:58.240 and Matt Boudreau with Apogee Strong

00:03:00.060 to put together a conference slash event

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00:03:06.060 My job, my goal, my ambition and desire

00:03:09.820 with this experience is to create a new wave

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00:03:17.240 that will help not only you learn the information

00:03:20.200 that you need to learn to be a better man,

00:03:22.860 but to actually apply it.

00:03:24.220 So we're gonna be doing activities,

00:03:26.340 including shooting and ropes courses and jujitsu,

00:03:29.900 and then we're gonna mix in some conference-style talks.

00:03:33.080 We're gonna hear from incredible men

00:03:36.040 on what it means to be a father, husband,

00:03:38.040 business owner, and community leader.

00:03:39.620 If you wanna know more about that event,

00:03:41.720 act very quickly.

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00:03:55.860 This is gonna be different.

00:03:57.700 I'm so tired of going to conference centers

00:03:59.880 and listening to all the guys talk at me for three days.

00:04:03.120 This is so different, and I want you to be there.

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00:04:07.640 Men, let's get into it today.

00:04:10.320 Some of you may know,

00:04:11.360 if you've been following me for any amount of time,

00:04:13.460 for a long time,

00:04:14.100 you might know that I used to be LDS or Mormon.

00:04:17.800 I am no longer.

00:04:19.160 But I also recognize that we ought to look for truth

00:04:22.580 where it exists,

00:04:23.820 and I believe that this is true.

00:04:25.140 This is a statement from Doctrine and Covenants,

00:04:28.520 and this is, again, Mormon doctrine.

00:04:30.940 But I also believe that there's some validity to this.

00:04:33.840 There's some truth.

00:04:34.980 And regardless of where you are

00:04:37.600 with regards to religion or spirituality

00:04:39.340 or just your walk as a man,

00:04:41.200 we should always be looking for truth where it exists.

00:04:44.000 And I wholeheartedly buy into this reference.

00:04:47.020 It says this,

00:04:47.580 Men should be anxiously engaged in a good cause

00:04:52.200 and do many things of their own free will

00:04:55.900 and bring to pass much righteousness.

00:04:59.220 For the power is in them,

00:05:00.700 wherein they are agents unto themselves.

00:05:04.300 And inasmuch as men do good,

00:05:07.540 they shall in no wise lose their reward.

00:05:11.160 This is talking a lot about the concept of sovereignty.

00:05:14.140 I wrote a book in 2016, I believe,

00:05:17.020 called Sovereignty,

00:05:18.380 The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men.

00:05:20.220 And this is a reference

00:05:21.480 to what it means to be sovereign.

00:05:23.260 But ultimately,

00:05:24.120 what I wanted to talk with you about today

00:05:25.600 is being anxiously engaged

00:05:27.920 in something that's important,

00:05:30.640 in a fight.

00:05:32.100 I'm not talking about necessarily a physical fight.

00:05:34.380 I'm talking about something that's meaningful,

00:05:36.520 something that's significant,

00:05:38.220 something that speaks to you,

00:05:40.080 something that is relevant,

00:05:41.940 something that actually matters,

00:05:44.680 I can engage in fights all day on social media,

00:05:46.880 very few of them actually matter.

00:05:48.320 I'm talking about things that really matter

00:05:50.220 in the grand scheme of things

00:05:51.880 and will help move the needle,

00:05:54.340 not only from a personal

00:05:56.400 and your family relationships,

00:05:58.760 but even culturally.

00:06:00.700 Order of Man is a great example

00:06:02.680 of what it means to be in the fight.

00:06:04.220 I am in the fight every single day

00:06:06.140 for the battle to reclaim and restore masculinity.

00:06:09.640 And I'm gonna share with you five things

00:06:11.160 that you can do every single day

00:06:12.500 to ensure that whatever fight you choose,

00:06:14.840 you are going to be victorious.

00:06:16.800 You are going to emerge

00:06:18.200 as a winner of this ultimate battle.

00:06:21.120 But what is the fight, guys?

00:06:22.460 That's the question.

00:06:23.980 It's not my fight.

00:06:25.360 Many of you have enlisted in my fight

00:06:27.020 and I'm glad to have you here.

00:06:28.560 You are welcome to be here

00:06:29.860 and I hope that this is important to you.

00:06:32.060 But your fight is not always my fight

00:06:34.280 and my fight is not always your fight.

00:06:36.560 Every once in a while,

00:06:37.540 I'll hear from people who will say,

00:06:38.580 oh, Ryan, you should talk about X, Y, and Z.

00:06:40.920 You should talk about A, B, and C.

00:06:42.520 Talk about D, E, and F.

00:06:44.280 You talk about that.

00:06:46.700 I talk about what it means to be a man.

00:06:48.880 I talk about reclaiming and restoring masculinity

00:06:50.880 in society and culture today.

00:06:52.920 Those are the things that I talk about

00:06:54.560 because those are the things

00:06:55.480 that are relevant to me.

00:06:56.880 If you wanna talk about something else,

00:06:58.700 you should do that.

00:07:00.480 Why are you asking me to do it?

00:07:02.060 When you have a voice,

00:07:03.340 when you have the tools

00:07:04.560 and the resources at your disposal

00:07:07.300 to be able to make that battle yours.

00:07:10.480 There's a reason why this mission

00:07:12.380 is so important to me.

00:07:13.620 And there's a reason why

00:07:14.620 whatever mission or fight

00:07:15.640 you choose to engage in

00:07:16.660 will be important to you.

00:07:18.800 I don't need to convince you

00:07:20.140 to join this battle.

00:07:21.440 I would like you to join this battle.

00:07:23.220 But if you have something more relevant

00:07:24.780 or pertinent to talk about,

00:07:25.820 then you talk about that in your own way.

00:07:27.740 And I'll even help you do that.

00:07:29.460 The fight is not my fight, guys.

00:07:31.320 The fight that I'm talking about today

00:07:32.980 is your fight.

00:07:33.660 It could be politics.

00:07:35.560 Obviously, we're on the eve

00:07:37.140 of a very crucial political election

00:07:41.020 in the United States

00:07:42.640 from our president to down ballot

00:07:45.540 to senators and house of representatives

00:07:47.660 to local state and city

00:07:50.720 and county elections.

00:07:54.220 That's very important right now.

00:07:55.460 So the fight for you

00:07:56.320 at this moment in time

00:07:57.280 might be political.

00:07:59.140 Maybe it's in your family.

00:08:00.980 Maybe your wife came to you 1.00

00:08:02.240 and said,

00:08:02.640 hey, we're not doing good in our marriage

00:08:04.040 and I'm considering a separation or divorce.

00:08:06.300 Okay, that's your battle then.

00:08:08.040 That's the thing that you need to fight today.

00:08:10.140 It could be your health.

00:08:11.260 Maybe you just got a health diagnosis

00:08:12.700 and the doctor says you're pre-diabetic.

00:08:15.820 That's your fight.

00:08:17.320 That is your fight right now.

00:08:18.540 You need to lose 20, 30, 50, 80 pounds

00:08:20.740 and get out of that window 0.62

00:08:23.700 of potentially becoming a diabetic.

00:08:25.960 It could be substance abuse.

00:08:27.100 And if you followed me for any amount of time,

00:08:29.120 you know that I've had my fair share

00:08:31.400 of struggle with alcohol abuse.

00:08:34.820 And if that's something

00:08:36.100 that you've been confronted with

00:08:37.800 or are dealing with,

00:08:39.020 then that is your battle.

00:08:40.380 And that was certainly a battle

00:08:41.460 at a point in my life

00:08:42.680 where I really needed to rein that in.

00:08:44.700 It could be business.

00:08:47.000 Maybe you're starting a new business.

00:08:48.660 Maybe you're trying to grow your business.

00:08:50.300 Maybe you're just trying to keep your business

00:08:51.580 from going belly up.

00:08:52.660 But that is your battle.

00:08:54.300 It could be a cultural issue

00:08:56.000 from transgender issues.

00:08:58.260 You know, I saw this thing,

00:08:59.520 University of Nevada in Reno

00:09:01.280 just decided to forfeit

00:09:04.180 against the University of San Jose

00:09:07.340 because I guess San Jose has a man

00:09:10.560 on their women's team for volleyball.

00:09:13.300 So the University of Nevada, Reno

00:09:16.280 is the fifth school,

00:09:18.880 if I understand correctly,

00:09:19.800 that has decided to forfeit

00:09:21.460 their competition,

00:09:24.180 their game against University of San Jose.

00:09:27.320 And by the way,

00:09:27.740 I think that's a good thing.

00:09:29.740 That's not the battle I'm engaged in,

00:09:31.520 but culturally,

00:09:32.340 I think that's a battle worth fighting.

00:09:33.960 And these young women, 0.99

00:09:35.340 to their credit,

00:09:36.420 are doing exactly what they need to do.

00:09:37.980 I've got a lot of flack

00:09:39.060 for saying that once women

00:09:40.300 finally stand up

00:09:41.560 and stop playing these teams

00:09:43.240 that have men in them,

00:09:44.180 then things will change.

00:09:46.600 People say,

00:09:47.040 well, they've worked so hard.

00:09:47.940 They should give that up.

00:09:49.360 Yes.

00:09:49.680 You know,

00:09:51.260 if you want what you want,

00:09:52.480 it requires sacrifice

00:09:53.700 and commitment

00:09:54.420 and risk.

00:09:57.120 So congrats and kudos

00:09:58.780 to the young women

00:09:59.580 of University of North,

00:10:01.640 excuse me,

00:10:01.980 University of Nevada, Reno,

00:10:03.280 for deciding to forfeit their game

00:10:05.400 against the University of San Jose.

00:10:07.660 I think that's a tremendous thing.

00:10:09.180 You might not think that.

00:10:10.540 It doesn't matter what I think.

00:10:12.480 What matters is what you think.

00:10:13.760 What is your fight?

00:10:14.700 So let's talk about this.

00:10:15.600 Five key steps

00:10:16.700 that you can employ

00:10:17.520 to ensure

00:10:18.700 that you are anxiously engaged

00:10:20.980 in not only the fight,

00:10:23.040 but your fight.

00:10:24.360 Number one,

00:10:25.220 pick a fight.

00:10:27.320 All right.

00:10:27.600 Not everything in your life

00:10:29.520 is worth fighting over.

00:10:31.500 I could jump on social media right now.

00:10:33.360 In fact,

00:10:33.700 I'm getting alerts

00:10:34.400 and messages

00:10:34.940 and notifications

00:10:35.760 about people responding

00:10:37.840 and people arguing

00:10:38.700 and people debating

00:10:39.540 about things I post,

00:10:41.220 things other people post,

00:10:42.320 things about Elon Musk,

00:10:43.440 things about Trump,

00:10:44.280 things about this person,

00:10:45.220 things about that person.

00:10:46.800 99% of them,

00:10:48.220 I don't care anything about.

00:10:52.400 I don't.

00:10:54.280 And yet,

00:10:54.840 I'm just as susceptible 0.94

00:10:56.120 to getting sucked 1.00

00:10:57.060 into the bullshit as you are. 1.00

00:10:59.200 Is that a fight worth having? 1.00

00:11:01.100 No.

00:11:02.260 It isn't, guys.

00:11:03.920 99% of the things

00:11:05.640 that we see on TV

00:11:07.080 or on the silver screen

00:11:08.720 or on our little tablets

00:11:10.260 and phones and devices

00:11:11.780 and our computers

00:11:13.500 are not worth

00:11:15.620 getting engaged in.

00:11:17.180 But 1%,

00:11:18.300 maybe less,

00:11:19.260 are worth

00:11:20.300 actually fighting for.

00:11:22.180 What is it

00:11:22.920 that you want to fight for?

00:11:24.720 What hill

00:11:25.340 would you literally

00:11:26.340 and figuratively

00:11:27.280 be willing to die on?

00:11:28.840 If you don't know

00:11:29.580 what that is,

00:11:30.220 that's the first step.

00:11:31.500 If you have so many

00:11:32.820 to choose from,

00:11:33.680 the second step

00:11:34.580 is to pick one.

00:11:36.680 Pick one.

00:11:37.920 Pick a battle.

00:11:38.800 Pick something meaningful.

00:11:39.780 To go back

00:11:41.100 to what I said

00:11:41.580 about Elon Musk

00:11:42.460 and I mentioned him earlier,

00:11:44.980 Elon Musk

00:11:45.720 is not solving

00:11:46.980 insignificant problems.

00:11:49.660 I mean,

00:11:50.320 he started PayPal.

00:11:52.180 That might have been

00:11:53.180 an insignificant problem

00:11:54.280 at the time.

00:11:55.600 But now he's moved on

00:11:56.800 to much bigger

00:11:57.320 and better things.

00:11:57.940 He's talking about

00:11:58.540 colonizing Mars.

00:11:59.740 He's grabbing rockets

00:12:01.340 out of the air.

00:12:05.680 He's electric vehicles.

00:12:08.080 He's providing

00:12:08.880 communication software

00:12:10.600 and technology

00:12:11.440 to underprivileged

00:12:13.920 and underserved

00:12:15.080 and disastrous circumstances.

00:12:17.660 These are big problems

00:12:19.120 that he's trying to solve.

00:12:20.940 Again,

00:12:21.680 not my problems.

00:12:23.980 Not things

00:12:24.880 that I'm interested

00:12:25.740 necessarily in investing in

00:12:27.480 at this point.

00:12:28.420 I can see the need

00:12:29.380 for those things,

00:12:30.240 but I'm investing

00:12:30.860 in different things.

00:12:32.080 What is your fight?

00:12:34.540 Is it the fight

00:12:35.540 for masculinity? 0.52

00:12:36.520 Is the fight

00:12:37.020 to colonize Mars?

00:12:38.140 Is it the fight

00:12:38.700 against domestic abuse?

00:12:39.920 Is it the fight

00:12:40.300 against substance abuse?

00:12:41.300 Is it the fight

00:12:41.960 against having Democrats

00:12:43.780 take the presidency

00:12:46.460 and the Senate?

00:12:49.620 I don't know.

00:12:51.080 I don't know

00:12:52.060 what your fight is.

00:12:53.720 But what I do know

00:12:54.860 is that as a man,

00:12:56.040 it's not our job

00:12:56.820 to be necessarily happy,

00:12:58.000 but it's our job

00:12:58.760 to have meaning

00:12:59.420 and purpose

00:12:59.900 and fulfillment

00:13:00.460 in our lives.

00:13:01.080 And we won't have that

00:13:02.140 until we latch

00:13:03.160 onto something

00:13:03.680 to fight against.

00:13:04.540 That's the difference

00:13:07.020 between men and women.

00:13:08.040 Women are relational. 1.00

00:13:09.340 They'll turn inwards.

00:13:10.600 Look at them.

00:13:11.400 Look at how they congregate.

00:13:12.960 Just go observe

00:13:13.760 a group of women

00:13:14.560 relative to a group of men.

00:13:17.140 Groups of women 0.98

00:13:17.880 will generally turn inwards

00:13:19.660 and they'll communicate

00:13:21.020 and they'll talk

00:13:21.720 about nothing

00:13:22.360 and everything

00:13:23.020 and they'll laugh

00:13:23.880 and they'll play

00:13:24.440 and they'll do the things

00:13:25.300 they need to do,

00:13:25.880 but they're always facing

00:13:26.800 inwards towards each other.

00:13:28.380 What do men do? 0.95

00:13:29.440 We form lines,

00:13:31.120 which means

00:13:31.620 that we're directional.

00:13:32.520 Consider an offensive line,

00:13:35.860 right?

00:13:36.840 Or if you don't want

00:13:37.620 to look at a line,

00:13:38.440 consider in the NBA

00:13:39.380 how we come up

00:13:42.240 with formations

00:13:42.920 in order to attack

00:13:44.140 or in order to defend,

00:13:45.500 but we're never

00:13:45.960 looking at each other.

00:13:47.540 Men don't look 1.00

00:13:48.040 at each other.

00:13:49.160 What men do

00:13:49.860 is we look outwards,

00:13:51.320 back to back,

00:13:53.080 shoulder to shoulder.

00:13:54.160 I'm not looking at you.

00:13:55.140 You're not looking at me.

00:13:56.020 We're looking outwards,

00:13:57.200 observing threats

00:13:58.100 and recognizing opportunities.

00:14:00.320 And that's what we as men do

00:14:02.580 is we are looking

00:14:03.980 for the fight.

00:14:06.480 What is your fight?

00:14:08.620 Who are you enlisting with?

00:14:10.180 If you don't have anybody

00:14:10.900 to enlist in,

00:14:12.220 enlist in me.

00:14:13.180 Enlist in order of man.

00:14:14.200 Enlist in this movement.

00:14:16.080 And eventually,

00:14:16.880 you'll find

00:14:17.400 what is important to you.

00:14:18.600 All right,

00:14:18.800 number two.

00:14:19.320 So that was first.

00:14:20.060 Pick a fight.

00:14:20.540 Number two,

00:14:21.420 take it to the nth degree.

00:14:23.760 I talked a little bit

00:14:24.720 about my substance abuse issues

00:14:26.240 over the past several years.

00:14:27.520 I've had people ask like,

00:14:30.240 well,

00:14:30.340 can't you just have a drink?

00:14:31.740 No.

00:14:33.780 No.

00:14:34.760 The answer is no.

00:14:36.920 I don't have a drink.

00:14:39.520 I have all the drinks.

00:14:43.060 I don't start a business.

00:14:45.500 I start the business.

00:14:49.120 Guys,

00:14:49.660 when I go,

00:14:50.600 I go 100%.

00:14:51.860 And if I'm not willing

00:14:53.040 to go 100%,

00:14:53.940 I don't go at all.

00:14:55.020 The second step

00:14:57.720 in picking a fight

00:14:58.440 and being anxiously engaged

00:14:59.800 in that fight

00:15:00.400 is taking it

00:15:01.140 to the nth degree,

00:15:02.220 looking about

00:15:02.800 how you can invest,

00:15:03.940 how you can make it better,

00:15:05.040 looking at it

00:15:05.540 over the long term,

00:15:06.780 not worrying about

00:15:07.880 short-term failures

00:15:09.180 or losses

00:15:09.740 and thinking about

00:15:10.500 what happens

00:15:11.100 in the grand scheme

00:15:11.840 of things.

00:15:12.740 One of my favorite quotes,

00:15:14.120 and I'm going to butcher it here,

00:15:15.700 comes from the movie

00:15:16.920 A-Team

00:15:17.440 where Liam Neeson says,

00:15:18.900 you know,

00:15:19.160 give me a week.

00:15:20.020 I'm paraphrasing.

00:15:20.760 Give me a week

00:15:21.500 and I'm good.

00:15:22.700 Give me a month

00:15:23.420 and I'm really good.

00:15:25.400 Give me,

00:15:26.000 you know,

00:15:26.540 three years

00:15:27.760 and I'm unbeatable.

00:15:30.780 That's the point

00:15:31.560 that I'm making.

00:15:32.500 If you're going to get

00:15:33.360 in a fight, 1.00

00:15:34.060 you better fucking 0.99

00:15:34.880 win that thing. 0.99

00:15:37.080 And if you're not

00:15:37.880 willing to win it

00:15:38.620 and you're not willing

00:15:39.240 to do what it takes

00:15:40.000 to win,

00:15:40.840 maybe find something else.

00:15:42.240 That might be

00:15:42.720 a good indicator

00:15:43.540 that there's something else

00:15:44.920 that's more relevant

00:15:46.120 and pertinent for you.

00:15:47.920 If it's fighting

00:15:48.720 for your family,

00:15:50.140 nth degree.

00:15:51.360 Starting that business,

00:15:52.500 nth degree.

00:15:53.420 Worrying about

00:15:55.520 joining the gym

00:15:57.140 and getting involved

00:15:58.380 in a bodybuilding competition,

00:15:59.960 nth degree.

00:16:00.820 Getting that black belt

00:16:01.860 in jiu-jitsu,

00:16:02.800 nth degree.

00:16:04.660 And I know

00:16:05.340 there's a lot of people

00:16:06.060 who'd say,

00:16:06.440 all right,

00:16:06.880 that's toxic.

00:16:08.540 Can't people just join

00:16:09.700 what they want to join

00:16:10.440 for fun?

00:16:11.100 You can if you want,

00:16:12.180 but I'm interested in winning

00:16:13.240 and I think you are too.

00:16:15.160 Fun isn't my goal.

00:16:17.060 I like to have fun.

00:16:19.060 I like to enjoy my life,

00:16:20.600 but you know what's fun?

00:16:21.680 Winning.

00:16:22.040 Winning.

00:16:23.860 Being successful

00:16:24.920 in business,

00:16:26.140 paying off my debt,

00:16:28.020 losing weight,

00:16:29.620 being successful,

00:16:31.780 getting that next belt

00:16:32.840 in jiu-jitsu,

00:16:34.500 winning the political race.

00:16:37.260 What's fun is winning.

00:16:39.600 And anybody who says

00:16:40.820 that it's just about having fun

00:16:42.560 regardless of what you win or lose, 0.99

00:16:44.980 that's a loser. 0.98

00:16:46.460 Only losers say that. 0.99

00:16:47.600 I've never heard a winner say,

00:16:50.540 oh,

00:16:50.880 you know,

00:16:51.360 it's just more about having fun

00:16:52.560 than anything else.

00:16:53.960 Winners don't say that.

00:16:56.420 Winners say,

00:16:57.160 I worked my tail off.

00:16:58.440 I did everything

00:16:59.120 I possibly could.

00:17:00.100 I sacrificed.

00:17:00.780 I committed.

00:17:02.060 I went all in.

00:17:03.560 And now I get to experience

00:17:05.940 the results of my effort.

00:17:08.660 Number three,

00:17:09.880 define your enemies.

00:17:10.960 And look,

00:17:11.360 guys,

00:17:11.540 I'm not here to tell you

00:17:12.520 that everything needs to be an enemy

00:17:14.140 and everything is against you.

00:17:16.380 I do want to put this disclaimer out there

00:17:19.240 that it's very easy

00:17:20.220 when you pick a fight

00:17:21.400 to be pessimistic about

00:17:23.320 everything that's around you.

00:17:25.220 And there are very real threats

00:17:26.720 for sure.

00:17:28.520 But not everything is your enemy.

00:17:31.420 And I would just be

00:17:32.860 very aware of that.

00:17:33.880 And I say that as a disclaimer first

00:17:35.280 because it's very easy to think

00:17:36.680 that when you are going to

00:17:38.380 get involved in this fight

00:17:39.620 that everything is against you.

00:17:41.240 And it's not necessarily against you.

00:17:44.440 Sometimes we even take things

00:17:45.920 that are neutral

00:17:46.420 and we paint them as the enemy.

00:17:48.380 But I will tell you

00:17:49.380 there are risks.

00:17:52.260 And there are threats.

00:17:53.660 And there are things

00:17:54.320 that are against you.

00:17:55.160 You know,

00:17:55.860 if you're trying to overcome

00:17:57.140 being a pre-diabetic,

00:17:58.660 then processed food is your enemy.

00:18:01.440 And you ought to look at it that way.

00:18:03.880 If you're trying to start

00:18:04.880 and grow your business,

00:18:05.760 then your competition is your enemy.

00:18:07.700 That doesn't mean

00:18:08.240 you can do things

00:18:08.860 that are immoral

00:18:09.520 against those individuals,

00:18:10.600 but you have to win.

00:18:13.460 If you're trying to salvage your marriage,

00:18:16.380 then the culture of degeneracy

00:18:20.280 and the risks of temptation

00:18:21.880 and infidelity,

00:18:25.160 those are enemies.

00:18:28.960 And unless you can be honest

00:18:30.360 about what your actual enemy is

00:18:32.220 and what the threat

00:18:32.960 that is present in your battle,

00:18:36.560 you're not going to win. 0.61

00:18:37.960 You're going to get punched. 0.99

00:18:39.320 You're going to get cold cocked. 0.99

00:18:40.340 You're going to get blindsided

00:18:41.320 by something you're not even aware of.

00:18:45.260 Be vigilant.

00:18:46.260 We are to remain vigilant.

00:18:47.640 You know, every single night, 0.94

00:18:50.300 this is a small, silly example, 0.85

00:18:51.780 but every single night

00:18:52.620 when I go to bed,

00:18:54.380 I go around

00:18:55.380 and I do a sweep of the house

00:18:57.740 and make sure everything's secure,

00:19:00.300 make sure everything's

00:19:01.380 where it needs to be.

00:19:02.680 The lights are off

00:19:03.420 that need to be off.

00:19:04.380 The lights are on

00:19:04.880 that need to be on.

00:19:05.620 The doors are locked.

00:19:06.460 The security alarm is set.

00:19:08.300 That's vigilance

00:19:09.120 because there's very real threats.

00:19:10.820 Now, some people would say,

00:19:11.780 oh, that's paranoia.

00:19:13.420 Well, you know, so be it.

00:19:15.020 If you think that's paranoia,

00:19:18.180 but that keeps me

00:19:18.860 and my family safe,

00:19:19.940 then I'm okay

00:19:20.880 with you saying it's paranoia.

00:19:23.000 I'd rather be paranoid

00:19:24.480 than complacent.

00:19:26.440 And those are false dichotomies.

00:19:27.800 That's either or.

00:19:29.080 That's extreme thinking.

00:19:30.420 But if I'm going to err

00:19:31.440 on one side or the other,

00:19:32.820 it's going to be vigilance

00:19:34.720 because the consequence

00:19:38.700 of not being vigilant

00:19:39.900 is too high.

00:19:41.420 It's too great for me.

00:19:43.060 I'm not willing to risk that.

00:19:44.300 I'm not willing to roll the dice

00:19:45.600 on my children.

00:19:47.860 So I'm vigilant about it.

00:19:49.940 I'm vigilant about my competition

00:19:51.740 in business.

00:19:53.000 I'm vigilant against substance abuse

00:19:56.020 because I know I'm susceptible to that.

00:19:58.660 I'm vigilant to temptation

00:20:01.080 with other women

00:20:01.820 because I'm in a committed relationship

00:20:03.380 with my girlfriend.

00:20:04.940 I'm vigilant against those things,

00:20:07.280 actively working against those things

00:20:08.980 because they're real threats

00:20:10.020 to my well-being

00:20:12.640 and the fights

00:20:14.000 that I'm willing to engage in.

00:20:16.500 All right, number four,

00:20:17.460 if we're going to define our enemies,

00:20:18.920 then we also need to simultaneously,

00:20:21.260 number four,

00:20:21.900 enlist our allies.

00:20:24.540 Who are the people

00:20:25.300 that believe in you?

00:20:26.100 Who are the people

00:20:26.640 who stand by you?

00:20:27.640 I talked a little bit

00:20:28.340 about my issues

00:20:29.760 with substance abuse

00:20:30.740 over the past couple of years.

00:20:32.280 You know what?

00:20:32.640 There's a bunch of people,

00:20:33.860 notable people,

00:20:34.540 people you would know

00:20:35.340 who literally tried

00:20:36.460 to throw me under the bus.

00:20:37.900 Maybe not literally,

00:20:39.100 figuratively,

00:20:40.020 tried to throw me under the bus.

00:20:42.060 They used the darkest time

00:20:43.660 in my life

00:20:44.300 as a stepping stool

00:20:46.040 to prop themselves up.

00:20:48.480 Those are my enemies,

00:20:49.560 number one.

00:20:50.400 But I also need to focus

00:20:52.700 on my allies.

00:20:54.240 There were people

00:20:54.920 who threw me under the bus

00:20:55.960 and there are people

00:20:56.800 who regardless of what I did

00:20:58.160 and how I behaved

00:20:58.880 and how I showed up,

00:21:00.000 stood by me,

00:21:01.600 believed in me,

00:21:03.180 didn't coddle me necessarily,

00:21:04.980 but didn't leave me.

00:21:07.300 Those are my allies.

00:21:09.480 Those are the people

00:21:10.380 I want in my life.

00:21:11.460 All those other people

00:21:12.280 who wanted to throw me

00:21:13.080 under the bus

00:21:13.540 to prop themselves up,

00:21:14.680 they can get lost.

00:21:16.040 Those are enemies

00:21:16.780 and I consider them as such.

00:21:19.140 But those individuals

00:21:20.280 who stood by me,

00:21:21.500 who believed in me,

00:21:22.280 who supported me,

00:21:23.080 who called me,

00:21:23.740 who edified me,

00:21:24.760 who checked in on me,

00:21:25.980 who held me accountable

00:21:27.200 to the poor decisions

00:21:28.240 I was making,

00:21:29.320 those are allies.

00:21:31.060 Those are the people

00:21:31.900 I'm going to invest in.

00:21:32.980 Those are the people

00:21:33.440 I care about.

00:21:34.180 Those are the people

00:21:34.700 that I'm going to stand behind

00:21:35.600 when they have their own issues

00:21:36.880 and they do.

00:21:38.500 I just heard from a friend

00:21:39.660 the other day

00:21:40.100 and I'm not going to get

00:21:40.680 into personal details

00:21:41.600 that is going through

00:21:42.300 a very difficult circumstance

00:21:43.540 in his relationship

00:21:44.540 and marriage.

00:21:45.860 He's an ally.

00:21:46.620 Maybe he made some bad decisions,

00:21:50.600 decisions I don't believe

00:21:51.600 and agree with,

00:21:52.180 but he's an ally.

00:21:53.040 I'm going to support him.

00:21:53.960 I'm going to stand by him

00:21:54.880 and I'm going to give him

00:21:55.640 what he needs,

00:21:56.520 whether it's easy

00:21:57.860 or whether it's difficult for him.

00:21:59.640 I'm going to give him

00:22:00.460 exactly what he needs

00:22:01.620 because he gave me

00:22:02.620 exactly what I needed

00:22:03.620 when I was going through

00:22:04.520 my own personal

00:22:06.320 and relational struggles.

00:22:08.500 Who are your allies?

00:22:10.340 So we can define our enemies

00:22:11.900 and let's figure out what it is,

00:22:13.120 but let's be indifferent to it

00:22:14.440 and just deal with it

00:22:15.440 as we need to,

00:22:16.640 but when it comes to our allies,

00:22:18.540 let's really think about

00:22:19.960 how do we invest in them?

00:22:23.480 How do we allow ourselves

00:22:25.200 to be invested in

00:22:26.980 and how do we grow

00:22:28.540 with these individuals?

00:22:31.460 And the last point, guys,

00:22:33.280 is in any battle,

00:22:36.160 you cannot quit

00:22:37.600 until the fight is over.

00:22:40.500 I'm a big Rocky fan myself.

00:22:42.900 Rocky doesn't quit.

00:22:43.820 You don't think about any movie

00:22:46.000 that you really aspire

00:22:47.040 to be like that character

00:22:49.160 or you really resonate with

00:22:51.080 or the theme

00:22:52.600 or the storyline

00:22:54.300 that you believe in.

00:22:55.900 It's the underdog, right?

00:22:57.640 It's the guy that shouldn't win

00:22:58.860 but does anyways,

00:22:59.920 and he's confronted.

00:23:01.840 This is the hero's journey

00:23:02.880 that you guys,

00:23:03.540 I think it's,

00:23:05.080 is it John Campbell?

00:23:06.440 Somebody who had coined the term

00:23:08.880 or wrote the book

00:23:10.140 on the hero's journey?

00:23:11.040 I think it's Campbell

00:23:11.700 but I don't know for sure.

00:23:14.220 The hero always goes

00:23:15.760 through his trials

00:23:16.580 and his obstacles

00:23:17.280 and his hurdles.

00:23:19.100 You can't be a hero

00:23:20.440 without those trials.

00:23:21.920 If you'd never had any trial

00:23:23.020 in your life,

00:23:23.580 you're never going to achieve

00:23:24.600 anything great.

00:23:25.420 It's the people

00:23:26.100 who overcome the obstacles

00:23:27.680 and the trials

00:23:28.920 and the hurdles

00:23:29.460 and the challenges

00:23:30.180 that then become something great

00:23:32.460 that we believe in.

00:23:34.240 Whether it's a fictional character

00:23:35.720 like Rocky

00:23:36.520 or it's an actual character

00:23:38.560 like George Washington

00:23:40.140 or Theodore Roosevelt

00:23:42.540 or Alexander the Great

00:23:45.100 or fill in your hero of choice,

00:23:49.460 Jesus Christ even, 0.72

00:23:51.760 overcame the ultimate sacrifice,

00:23:54.880 the ultimate challenge

00:23:55.980 and there's no wonder

00:23:58.660 why he is the most recognized

00:24:01.020 and influential human being

00:24:04.120 to ever walk the planet.

00:24:08.240 It's not because he was free

00:24:10.100 from adversity,

00:24:10.940 it's because he overcame adversity.

00:24:13.460 And so when you're confronted

00:24:16.020 with trial and obstacles

00:24:17.560 and challenges

00:24:18.460 and struggles

00:24:19.220 and toil and strife,

00:24:21.400 consider that it's God's way

00:24:24.320 of saying,

00:24:25.100 I'm going to prepare you

00:24:26.440 for what's next

00:24:27.380 because there is something

00:24:29.280 bigger and greater

00:24:30.480 than what you're dealing with now.

00:24:33.260 Guys, if you're in the throes

00:24:34.600 of despair

00:24:35.060 and you're struggling

00:24:35.720 and you're having a hard time

00:24:37.800 and you're wondering

00:24:38.420 how you're going to make it

00:24:39.300 through life

00:24:39.800 and you're even,

00:24:40.380 maybe even considering suicide,

00:24:42.080 don't do that.

00:24:42.900 You are being prepped

00:24:44.480 for something greater.

00:24:46.880 Believe it.

00:24:48.420 Have some faith in God.

00:24:49.880 If you don't have faith in God,

00:24:50.940 have faith in me

00:24:51.660 that I'm telling you

00:24:52.500 that I've been in difficult

00:24:54.040 and demanding circumstances,

00:24:55.680 some that I thought

00:24:56.340 my life is over

00:24:57.580 and yet here I am

00:24:59.420 still kicking,

00:25:01.200 still going strong,

00:25:02.140 maybe even stronger

00:25:02.860 than I was before.

00:25:04.080 Guys, all of us

00:25:05.220 should be anxiously engaged

00:25:07.220 in a fight.

00:25:08.080 Not my fight,

00:25:09.360 not your neighbors,

00:25:10.300 not your dads,

00:25:10.960 not your brothers,

00:25:11.560 not your colleagues,

00:25:12.200 not your coworkers,

00:25:13.480 your fight.

00:25:14.740 What is your fight

00:25:15.880 and what are you willing to do

00:25:18.040 to make sure

00:25:19.200 that you're victorious?

00:25:20.300 Consider it.

00:25:20.980 Think about it.

00:25:21.540 This weekend,

00:25:22.800 jot it down,

00:25:23.400 write it down

00:25:24.020 and then come up with a plan

00:25:25.340 and I'll help you.

00:25:26.440 But come up with a plan

00:25:27.160 to address it

00:25:27.920 and emerge victorious.

00:25:29.580 That's all I've got

00:25:30.040 for you today, guys.

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00:25:49.160 Until then,

00:25:49.580 go out there,

00:25:50.020 take action

00:25:50.560 and become the man

00:25:51.800 you are meant to be.

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Order of Man - October 18, 2024

Anxiously Engaged in the Fight ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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Order of Man - October 18, 2024

Anxiously Engaged in&#xA0;the&#xA0;Fight ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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Anxiously Engaged in the Fight ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES