Order of Man - Are You a Liability or an Asset？｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.420 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.780 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan

00:00:27.340 and I am the host and the founder of the older man podcast and movement. I'm not going to waste

00:00:32.460 any time with you guys today. Normally I talk with you about announcements and everything that you can

00:00:37.560 do and how you can support this mission, but I'm not going to waste time talking about that today,

00:00:41.120 because I honestly believe that what I'm about to share with you over the next 30 minutes or so

00:00:45.840 is likely to be the most important podcast that I've done over a period of six years.

00:00:51.960 And I want to say that's probably over at this point, over 600 podcasts. And for me to claim that

00:00:59.380 this is going to be the most important one. I hope there's some evidence of validity to that when I

00:01:04.980 share that. So we're going to get into it. What I want to do today is I want to talk with you about

00:01:09.120 10 things, 10 comparisons to really identify whether you're an asset or a liability, because it's clear

00:01:16.780 to me that right now in society that we need men to be assets, not liabilities. And as I look around,

00:01:24.840 I think there's a broad swath of the population, specifically men who are acting and behaving

00:01:32.240 like liabilities and they aren't adding value and they aren't serving and they aren't being moral and

00:01:38.860 they aren't doing the things they know they should be doing and they aren't capable. So they're not

00:01:42.140 putting themselves in positions where they can become the type of assets that their families

00:01:47.280 and their communities and businesses need them to be. So we're going to talk about it today.

00:01:51.580 And I want you to ask, as I go through this list of 10 items, 10 comparisons, honestly, ask yourself

00:01:57.540 whether or not you stack up. Now, some of you will say, well, Ryan, who are you to say

00:02:03.380 what makes a man, a man? And who are you to say I'm an asset versus a liability?

00:02:07.600 All I'm going to tell you to that is that I have some beliefs about myself and the kind of man I

00:02:13.660 want to be. And I ask that you evaluate for yourself. And I think the overwhelming majority

00:02:18.800 of you will agree with what I have to share. But if you don't, that's fine. But I want you to take

00:02:25.500 an honest assessment, an honest evaluation and ask yourself, do you stack up to these metrics?

00:02:31.620 And do you think these metrics are important? Do you think these are the kind of qualities and

00:02:36.900 virtues and characteristics that are going to help you perform in a way that you want to perform?

00:02:40.100 And I feel like you probably wanted to perform to some degree. Otherwise you wouldn't be listening

00:02:44.420 to this podcast. So ask yourself, do I stack up? And you're going to find out that you fall short

00:02:50.120 on some of these things. As do I, I'm not positioning myself as being better than you. Some of these

00:02:55.640 things I have on lock and other things I don't, but what I want you to do is I want you to ask yourself,

00:03:00.660 where can I improve? How can I become more of an asset to myself, my family, my business,

00:03:04.720 my community, my coworkers, my colleagues, friends, whoever it is I interact with on a daily basis

00:03:09.240 and in what areas do I need to improve? So let's get into it. Number one, emotional versus

00:03:16.020 rational. Now, please don't misunderstand me. I'm not telling you that you as a man should not

00:03:22.200 have emotions, that you shouldn't experience love and joy and pride and sorrow and guilt and remorse

00:03:29.160 and greed and all these other emotions that were naturally faced with. I'm not saying that at all,

00:03:34.320 but what I am saying is, are you using your emotions as the sole metric for progression

00:03:42.380 in your life for the way in which you will respond and react to situations within or without your

00:03:48.440 control? And if you're using your emotion as the sole factor for the way that you do things,

00:03:54.400 obviously you're not taking into, into consideration, everything that needs to be taken

00:03:59.580 into consideration so that you can make rational, logical, sane conclusions, and therefore responses

00:04:08.100 to the circumstances you might find yourself in. Do you get overly emotional? Do you get heated?

00:04:17.140 Are you up and down? Are you like a rollercoaster? Are you high and low and crash and everything else?

00:04:22.020 Or are you able to take a level-headed approach to what you see around you?

00:04:27.000 Are you calm? Are you collected? Are you cool? Have you chosen not to take things personally?

00:04:33.360 Do you disengage when you feel yourself becoming overly emotional? I get overly emotional. Sure.

00:04:40.780 But I make a conscious and deliberate effort to create some margin or space when I feel myself

00:04:47.080 getting charged and emotional and heated so that I can look at all the factors, all the,

00:04:51.980 all the pertinent information. And that can make rational, sane, logical conclusions that will help me

00:04:58.440 lead people. Well, so are you emotional or are you rational? Overly emotional men are a liability.

00:05:08.460 Rational men are an asset. Number two, are you selfish or are you self less? Are you so consumed

00:05:16.740 and worried about what you will get and how you will perform and how you will be perceived and the

00:05:21.560 way others will see you and your power and your, your lust for authority over other individuals?

00:05:28.040 Like we see quite often in a myriad of places, the government, your boss, we see this in people

00:05:35.960 and these individuals are a liability. They pose very real and serious threats to our own wellbeing

00:05:46.780 and the wellbeing of the people that we care about. And is that you? And I'm not saying by the way,

00:05:52.560 that you shouldn't at times be somewhat selfish. Like it's okay to take care of yourself. It's okay

00:05:57.540 to have personal desires and your own ambitions, but if they continually come at the expense of other

00:06:01.780 people, you're a liability, you're detracting, you're taking away more than you're adding to

00:06:09.040 the conversation. And so are you selfish or do you have the heart of a teacher, the heart of a

00:06:15.660 servant? You want to lead, you want to serve other individuals. You want people to thrive. You want

00:06:20.420 people to win. I want you guys to win. Now I want to make a profitable living doing what it is I do in

00:06:26.240 my business, but I also want you to win. I want you to thrive. I want you to succeed. I want you

00:06:32.500 to lead your families well and get promotions and build your bank accounts and get healthy and get

00:06:37.700 strong and build the confidence that comes with it. I want all of those things for you. And oftentimes

00:06:43.960 I find if I look at this to go back to point number one in a rational way that I will actually get

00:06:50.560 what it is. I want, if I can help enough of you get what it is you want, but that comes first.

00:06:56.240 And I have faith that, that if I provide value to you and I'm selfless in the way that I provide it to

00:07:02.360 you, that I will be provided for mentally, emotionally, physically, I will be provided for,

00:07:09.980 if I focus on the best way to serve you. Number three, are you impatient or are you patient?

00:07:22.420 Cause I found that liabilities, they play the short game, right? They're so worried about what

00:07:26.840 they can get now. Give me, give me, give me, give me. I got to get mine while the getting's good.

00:07:30.920 And that all comes at the expense of what could potentially happen over the longterm.

00:07:35.160 And so we see people, we see bosses and we see employees and colleagues and coworkers and clients and

00:07:39.660 government officials who are so worried about getting theirs right now that they set every cell,

00:07:45.380 everybody else, themselves and other people, even their legacy up for failure because they're so

00:07:49.800 focused on the short term that they can't focus on what might happen and the fallout and the

00:07:54.940 unintended consequences of what might happen over the longterm. Play the long game, fellas.

00:08:01.500 I mean, look, we're not here for a very long time, but if you think about the next 50 to 60 years,

00:08:06.260 maybe less, maybe more based on where you are in your life,

00:08:08.480 are you playing for the next one year or are you teeing yourself up for the success that will

00:08:16.060 happen over three, five, 10, 20, 40 years? Now I'm not the greatest at this. I tend to be

00:08:24.920 impatient. I tend to want all the results right now. And that's okay. I think it's okay to be ambitious,

00:08:35.120 but if you're jeopardizing, you're sacrificing who you could be

00:08:39.440 or who the people you're serving could be for your own wellbeing and the immediate result,

00:08:47.400 the benefit. I mean, doesn't it feel good to experience the result right now? Doesn't it feel

00:08:51.420 good to stuff your face with the donut instead of eating healthy? My friend, Steve Weatherford had

00:08:59.040 said something to the effect of you need to learn how to get good at sacrificing what you want now

00:09:06.480 for what you want down the road or who you want to become. Can you make that sacrifice? Or are you so

00:09:14.540 focused on what's happening right now that you tee yourself up for failure down the road?

00:09:20.960 Number four, are you broke or are you wealthy? Are you an asset? I should say it this way. Are you a

00:09:28.940 liability or are you an asset? Because if you're broke and you're up to your eyeballs in debt and

00:09:35.500 you're asking for your family and friends and people you don't know for handouts, that by definition

00:09:40.760 makes you a liability. And let me reiterate, I'm always putting these disclaimers on the last three or

00:09:46.160 four things I'm sharing with you. That doesn't mean you don't accept a help up when you need it.

00:09:50.720 We've got a, for example, a financial assistance fund in our iron council. So these are for members

00:09:55.980 who have fallen apart in hard times and can't make their, their monthly membership for the month.

00:10:03.260 We know that happens. And we have other guys who are extremely, extremely successful financially,

00:10:08.380 and they volunteer to pay for these individuals' memberships on a month to month basis.

00:10:16.820 And I hear from a lot of guys who say, you know, I can't accept that in good conscience. I can't

00:10:21.720 accept that. That's not what I'm talking about guys. That's arrogance. That's pride. You're cutting

00:10:26.880 yourself off to what could potentially be because you're so worried about the image of yourself.

00:10:32.220 It's okay to accept a help, you know, a hand up. You should let the ego go. But if you're constantly

00:10:41.400 asking people for money and you can't make your bills and you're up to your eyeballs in debt,

00:10:46.920 you're a liability. And I tell these guys who have a hard time accepting help from other people,

00:10:53.160 I say, look, accept the help because we want you here. But when you're back up on your feet,

00:10:57.760 then pay it forward, become a liability, excuse me, an asset.

00:11:04.040 And an asset in this case is not only someone who can take care of himself, but somebody who can help

00:11:08.060 take care of others, right? For example, I've got three boys and a little girl.

00:11:13.480 Forget about the emotional wellbeing and the fact that are my children right now, all of that stuff

00:11:17.200 is true, but children are somewhat of a liability, right? Because we've got to pay for their food and

00:11:23.040 their housing and put clothes on their back. And they take a lot of time and attention and energy.

00:11:27.040 And I'm happy to give that. I'm happy to invest that into them because I find fulfillment in that.

00:11:32.240 But a boy doesn't really become a man until he learns that he has personal accountability and

00:11:36.000 responsibility for himself. So not only can he govern himself sovereignty, we've talked about that for

00:11:41.020 the past three years now, but now he can help turn that outwards and he can help family or neighbors

00:11:49.020 or his employees and start a business and give to charity and volunteer for charitable organizations.

00:11:55.860 And now he's no longer a liability. He's now an asset because he's expanded beyond simply being able

00:12:02.380 to take care of himself. So are you broke? Can you not make your bills? Can you not make your payments?

00:12:10.060 I get it. It's challenging right now for a lot of people. So you may have to have a hand up, take it.

00:12:17.120 Don't be so prideful that you can't take that. So you can push yourself in a better position,

00:12:21.700 but when you are in a better position, pay it forward so that you can help others the way that

00:12:27.640 maybe they've helped you. Are you broke or are you wealthy? Are you a liability or are you an asset?

00:12:34.880 All right. Number five, are you immoral versus moral? I've talked about this quite often. And I,

00:12:40.820 I feel like I probably have coined the term, the doctrine of popular culture. I'm sure you're

00:12:45.280 going to see that pop up more because I think it illustrates and articulates perfectly what we see.

00:12:51.400 It's the doctrine of popular culture that says we can be immoral. We can worry about ours. We don't

00:12:56.880 have to worry about the feelings or the wellbeing of other people. We should just worry about ourselves.

00:13:03.280 And so if you're having a struggle in your marriage, we'll just step out on her.

00:13:06.820 If you can't make your payments, you just declare bankruptcy.

00:13:09.660 If you feel like you have less than what another individual has, I'll just go ahead and steal from

00:13:15.280 them. That's what the doctrine of popular culture teaches. That's immoral. We know that.

00:13:20.820 And every time you engage in a moral behavior, a little bit of your soul dies. That's not hyperbole

00:13:26.020 guys. That's not just me, you know, grandizing the language I use in order to sell you on something.

00:13:31.020 That's, that's the truth. There's decisions I've made that are not moral decisions in my life.

00:13:36.760 And every time I do that, a little piece of who I could potentially become dies.

00:13:41.300 And the only way to salvage that is by first becoming somebody who's moral, having a moral

00:13:46.700 code, something that you have committed to living towards and also making amends where

00:13:53.380 you've screwed up. You know, I've, I've, I've stolen. I've, I've cheated people out of money.

00:13:58.020 I've done, I've done things that I'm not proud of. And, and I attempt to make those right

00:14:02.460 as best that I can because that path to redemption, you have to make amends. You have to make it

00:14:10.020 right to, to the best of your ability. That's living a moral life. And by the way, it's not

00:14:15.780 always easy. It's not comfortable. You're probably going to lose time, money, attention, influence,

00:14:22.800 credibility when you have to apologize and make things right. And so, you know, that's goes back

00:14:27.140 to point number three, where I talked about playing the short game. It's going to, it's going to hurt in

00:14:30.880 the short game. It's going to hurt right now when you have to make amends and you have to live a

00:14:34.520 moral life. And it isn't easy and it isn't comfortable, but that's what men do. That's

00:14:40.440 what assets do. They make amends and they fix it and they correct it. And they started a level

00:14:45.380 playing field and then they improve themselves moving forward. So are you immoral? Do you manipulate

00:14:52.100 other people? Do you take advantage of other people? Do you screw them over when you get the

00:14:56.360 opportunity? Do you take their emotions and their wellbeing lightly? Or do you care about the way

00:15:05.160 that you show up regardless of the result that you produce? And by the way, sometimes being a moral

00:15:09.880 individual produces inferior results as the doctrine of popular culture would define, right? You might

00:15:18.780 make less money if you don't steal from somebody or manipulate somebody,

00:15:22.240 but that's definition is not what an asset lives by. Not what a man lives by.

00:15:30.740 I talked about it in sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men, which is the book I wrote

00:15:34.780 three years ago. I talked about having a code that you live by and we aren't going to be perfect.

00:15:41.160 I'm never perfect. You weren't perfect, but we strive to be, and we make amends where we can.

00:15:46.440 Number six, are you a victim or a victor? And this one's confusing for a lot of guys. Cause every

00:15:51.480 time I talk about the reality of what I experienced anyways, and I'm not telling you my reality is

00:15:56.460 quote unquote, my truth. I'm not ignorant or, or arrogant enough to believe that what I share is

00:16:04.040 truth with a capital T it's my perspective. It's my opinion. But when I share the reality of the

00:16:10.940 circumstances in which I see, whether it's the government encroachment on first amendment rights,

00:16:16.640 second amendment rights, things that I don't think are going to serve me or my family, community,

00:16:20.400 and country, well, I'm going to share that. That doesn't necessarily paint me as a victim.

00:16:24.840 A lot of people like to say that, Oh, this is, this is victim language.

00:16:29.580 It's not victim language to point out possible threats guys.

00:16:34.360 You know, what is victim language to point out possible threats and then do nothing about it.

00:16:40.260 If you experience or see something that is a danger to you or the people that you care about

00:16:45.300 and you do nothing about it. Yes. You have positioned yourself as a victim,

00:16:49.740 but if you talk about what you see and the threats that you experience and, and, and your personal

00:16:56.200 experience and, and your set of skills and expertise, and you recognize these things,

00:17:00.900 and then you come up with a plan of action to address it, to deal with you, what you actually

00:17:07.980 see and experience, you're not being a victim. You're being a victor because you're going to

00:17:13.420 overcome those hardships and those obstacles on a very small micro level. An example, somebody who says,

00:17:22.180 Oh, you know, the reason I can't get healthy is because my family is, is genetically unable,

00:17:28.140 unable to, and, and we're just, we're fat or we're big bone genetically. Okay. That's,

00:17:33.440 you've just resigned yourself to being a victim. Oh, I can, there's nothing I can do about it. I guess

00:17:39.180 we'll just kind of continue in my perpetual state of unhealthiness. Okay. But if on the other hand,

00:17:45.200 you say, you know what, my family deals with these things and these genetics run in my family.

00:17:49.640 And so I've had to work extra hard at overcoming that here's the reality. And I know that this is

00:17:55.460 something I deal with, but here's my plan to overcome it. And here's how I'm going to continue

00:17:59.860 to be healthy in spite of it. You're now a victor. You're not a victim. And doesn't society

00:18:05.560 just love the victim these days? You know, it's like, Oh, this person or this group of people have

00:18:12.220 been victimized. And so we need to make reparations and we need to make everything right. And yes,

00:18:18.660 we have an obligation to make things right, where we have, we have individually

00:18:23.020 caused people harm, but my ancestors haven't caused any, or excuse me, I have not caused harm to anybody.

00:18:31.240 My ancestors, other people may have, but there's no burden of responsibility from me.

00:18:38.400 And so stop expecting that other people are supposed to give you whatever it is that you want,

00:18:43.760 or because your dad wasn't in the picture, or your mom was out of your life, or she died early,

00:18:50.140 or, you know, there was a history of abuse and all of that stuff is tragic, by the way. I'm not saying

00:18:54.960 that it isn't, I'm not saying that you should ignore what's happened in the past. I'm simply saying that

00:18:59.640 what's done is done. Some of you may interpret that as being insensitive. Maybe it could be interpreted

00:19:07.220 that way, but I want you to know that what's done is done. Let's chalk it up to learning lessons

00:19:14.340 and let's figure out why we're better for it. And then let's come up with a path forward and then

00:19:19.360 start walking that path forward. That's how you turn yourself into a victor. I know it's infinitely

00:19:25.460 easier to be a victim. Why? Because to go back to point number three, it's the short game.

00:19:29.360 If I'm a victim, if other people are to blame, then I'm going to get what it is. I want money,

00:19:35.360 attention, notoriety, power, authority, attention. I think I already said that one.

00:19:41.980 That's the short game. I'm going to deceive. I'm going to lie to myself so that other people will

00:19:47.880 give me what I want right now. It is not a strategy for long-term success. Be realistic about the

00:19:54.980 situations, the difficult situations you faced, come up with a plan to be better moving forward. 0.99

00:20:01.380 Number seven, are you ignorant or are you knowledgeable? 0.98

00:20:06.160 You know, I talk with a lot of people on a daily basis. Some of them are extremely, 0.99

00:20:09.260 extremely knowledgeable when it comes to this stuff. And I feel like the ignorant one, 0.98

00:20:12.540 especially on the podcast or even on social media, where these individuals are 0.68

00:20:16.180 incredibly intelligent and thoughtful and experienced.

00:20:21.760 Those are the kinds of individuals that I aspire to be like. Those are the kinds of people I want

00:20:27.440 to talk with. And then you hear from people who are just running their mouths, just jack and jaw

00:20:31.120 on, on, on things. They have no idea what the hell it is they're talking about.

00:20:35.240 And unfortunately, social media has given us the opportunity to do that.

00:20:39.340 And we've been led to believe that everybody's voice is equal. Now, look, we all have a right at this

00:20:45.200 stage anyways, in the game to be able to speak what's on our mind. We have that right

00:20:48.920 that has been granted to us by God and protected by individuals who I fear were significantly stronger

00:20:56.640 and more capable than we currently are. And so we do have, have the right to, to be ignorant,

00:21:05.260 to spout off, to talk about things that we don't know what we're talking about. And people would say,

00:21:09.660 well, that guy's opinion is just as relevant or important as that. No, no, it isn't. The right

00:21:14.900 to talk doesn't mean that your opinion is as relevant as that guy's opinion, who has the

00:21:20.500 expertise and the knowledge and the information. So let's get educated. Let's learn. That's what

00:21:26.040 this podcast is about. Let's find other men who are doing it, who have experience, who have

00:21:29.800 expertise. Let's learn from them. Let's figure out how to make this thing better, how to make

00:21:33.980 ourselves better so we can improve our own lives in the lives of other people. But let's not be ignorant

00:21:39.040 to what's going on. Let's gain knowledge. Let's gain that information so that when we speak,

00:21:43.780 we speak with authority and credibility and people listen because we know what the hell we're talking

00:21:50.000 about. All right. Number eight, are you incapable or are you a capable person? Are you pathetic

00:21:59.400 when you're faced with a challenge? Do you cower in the corner? Do you not know how to do things? 1.00

00:22:05.520 Do you not know how to exercise creativity and thoughtfulness? Do you not have a set of skills,

00:22:12.440 whether it's survival skills or financial skills or the ability to speak in public or whatever it is

00:22:18.740 you deem important? And there's an infinite number of skills we could work on and develop.

00:22:22.860 Is that the kind of man you are? You know, your, your, your, your resume consists of being really

00:22:29.260 good at Xbox, or I guess it's PlayStation five now is, is the cool thing, right? Like,

00:22:34.040 is that what your resume consists of is that you're really good at some, some video game.

00:22:41.680 You're really good at manipulating mommy and daddy to keep you, uh, to, to allow you to stay in their

00:22:46.040 basement for, for the next two decades. Are you really proficient at making people believe that

00:22:55.220 you do have a set of skills or that you're valuable and you really aren't, or that, you know,

00:22:58.980 you're just doing the bare minimum to get by at work. So you don't get fired or are you hyper

00:23:04.380 capable? And are you developing new skills and hobbies and activities and interest and

00:23:09.600 capabilities and pursuits and knowledge and expertise and applying it and learning it and

00:23:13.940 being creative and growing and expanding again, to reiterate, are you a liability incapable or are

00:23:21.780 you an asset capable? When my family is met with difficult or even dangerous circumstances

00:23:28.580 and situations, I want them to look at me as what are we going to do about this? Because they know

00:23:32.980 I will have the answer. And so I'm running through scenarios, situations, potential violent

00:23:39.640 encounters, natural disasters. I don't feel like I'm paranoid, but I want to be prepared so that when

00:23:45.840 that day comes and it will come by the way, it's just a matter of what it's going to be. But when that

00:23:49.540 day comes, they will be able to lean on me as a, as an asset for getting them to a safer, more fulfilled,

00:23:58.760 happy place. All right. Number nine, we've got two more. So we've got number nine and 10. Number nine,

00:24:03.140 are you weak or are you strong? And I'm talking about physically right now, because we've talked a

00:24:08.560 lot about mentally and emotionally and rational. We talked about all that stuff, right? But I'm talking

00:24:12.460 about, are you physically strong or are you physically weak? Do you train every day? Do you move your

00:24:19.820 body? Do you go on walks? Do you have the right nutrition? Do you have the right recovery? Do you

00:24:22.780 have the right sleep? Because if not, you might find yourself wanting in a, in a situation in which

00:24:27.800 you can't control. I don't want to be that guy. So I train every day, jujitsu strength training. I walk in

00:24:39.740 the field. I'll sit here in my office and I'll use my origin war clubs or my sore necks center mass

00:24:46.960 bells. And I'm moving and I'm stretching and I'm drinking water and I'm hydrating and I'm sleeping

00:24:51.760 and I'm exercising and dieting and getting strong and training jujitsu because I want to be a strong

00:24:57.020 individual. I'm not at the pinnacle of my, my health right now. I think I'm stronger than I've ever

00:25:02.180 been in my entire life, but I know I have so much more to go. And by the way, your physical strength

00:25:09.060 isn't only going to help you in the physical realm. It's going to help you mentally, emotionally,

00:25:12.840 spiritually. It's going to help you keep a level head. All these things are intertwined.

00:25:16.740 Talked about nine factors right now. They're all intertwined. You get better at one. You're

00:25:20.500 going to get better at another naturally, inevitably. So we'll go get strong workout every

00:25:25.520 single day. Oh, Ryan, you know, the, you should only be training three to five days a week because

00:25:30.580 that's what, okay, look, I get it. And maybe if you're looking for these, you know, these specific

00:25:36.200 result based on what you're doing. Okay. I can, I can appreciate that, but you ought to be moving at

00:25:41.000 least stretching, moving, walking, recovering, training, getting strong every day. There should

00:25:47.600 not be a day that goes by that doesn't have some sort of deliberate strength, health training

00:25:53.960 regiment built into it. And guys, the last one, number 10, and I saved the best for last. And maybe

00:26:01.720 this encapsulates all of this, but are you dependent or are you independent? The word I've

00:26:06.960 used for the past three years is sovereign. Are you sovereign? Do you have control of your finances

00:26:13.160 and your health and, and, and your wealth and your wellbeing? And your, are you confident in who

00:26:18.620 you are and where you come from spiritually? Maybe even like, are you independent or are there things

00:26:25.800 that you're relying upon? Are you relying upon other people to save and rescue you? Are you

00:26:31.940 relying upon services and organizations and companies being there? And as long as they're

00:26:37.860 there, you're good. But if they're gone, then you're in trouble. Like if, if that's what you're

00:26:41.160 relying on, then you're positioning yourself for failure. So let's not do that. Let's look at every

00:26:46.660 circumstance, situation, item, product that you rely on currently. And let's make yourself more

00:26:53.040 independent. I don't want you to rely on your parents. I don't want you to rely on the gas

00:26:57.240 station. I don't want you to rely on the fact that social media will be here. All these things

00:27:01.020 could go away at any given moment. And if you're not realistic about that and preparing currently

00:27:08.100 for that, you're setting yourself and other people up for failure. So be sovereign. Take

00:27:15.040 responsibility for your life, for your own wellbeing, for the wellbeing of the people under your

00:27:21.120 care, your wife, your children, colleagues, coworkers, neighbors, strangers that you don't

00:27:25.660 even know. This is what's required guys. We need to become assets. Like I said, at the beginning of

00:27:32.580 this podcast, this is the most, I honestly believe this is the most important podcast I've ever done.

00:27:38.700 And I know it isn't in depth and I know I could probably go deeper and I probably will over the next

00:27:42.140 12 months into each of these subjects. But I want to give you this view for, for now, I hope you wrote

00:27:47.300 these things down. And if you didn't go back and jot them down and then give yourself an honest

00:27:52.040 assessment. Am I on the liability column or the asset column? And if you find yourself on the

00:28:00.760 liability column, okay, well that's the truth right now. So fix it. Come up with a plan

00:28:08.860 so that you can move yourself to, from the liability to the asset column. Let's recap and we'll call it a

00:28:15.660 day. Number one, are you emotional or are you rational? Number two, selfish or selfless? Number

00:28:22.000 three, are you playing the short game or the long, long game? In other words, are you impatient or

00:28:27.080 patient? Number four, are you broke or wealthy? Number five, are you immoral or are you a moral

00:28:33.580 individual? Number six, are you the victim perpetual state of victimhood or are you a vector? Number seven,

00:28:41.740 are you ignorant or knowledgeable? Number eight, capable, excuse me, incapable or extremely capable. 0.99

00:28:49.360 Number nine, weak or strong. And number 10, dependent or independent, also known as sovereign.

00:28:59.320 All right, guys, I hope that helps. Let's get after it. I want hundreds of thousands, if not millions of

00:29:04.980 men banded with us in this mission to reclaim and restore masculinity. And I feel like these 10 factors

00:29:10.620 are crucial on our own personal journey. And of course, the journey of society. And we have a part to

00:29:20.080 play, a large part to play. And if you fall into the liability column, you aren't in the game.

00:29:28.640 I mean, maybe you're in the game, but you're passive. You're not actively participating.

00:29:34.460 Get yourselves in the game, become an asset, move yourself over to the right column. You'll feel

00:29:40.100 better. You'll be more fulfilled. You'll produce better results in your life. And you'll help those

00:29:44.800 along the way. All right, guys, that's all I've got for you. We'll be back next week. Until then,

00:29:49.300 go out there, become an asset, not alive, and take action. Become a man you are meant to be.

00:29:55.440 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:30:00.120 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

Order of Man - January 22, 2021

Are You a Liability or an Asset？｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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Order of Man - January 22, 2021

Are You a Liability or an Asset？ ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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Are You a Liability or an Asset？｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES