Bad Habits or Destructive Tendencies, Why Work Life is Easier Than Home Life, and That Which is Measured Improves ｜ ASK ME ANYTHING
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When life knocks you down, you are not easily deterred or defeated. You are a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears, and boldly chart your own path. You are not weak, you re strong.
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
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When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
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This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
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At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
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Kip, what's up, man? Great to see you. Good to have you back. I think I ran it. I think I ran solo last week.
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I think you ran either solo or with Sean the week before. I don't know. It all gets mixed in the wrong.
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You were just so out of it last week that you just don't even remember that we had a conversation together.
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That's right. You know what's funny? Actually, people...
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I had so many people ask if I was drunk or high when I did the AMA last week
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and when I did the Friday field notes. And the answer is I was high. I was high on prescription
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medication. It was the week from hell. Look, I don't want to complain. I really don't. But I do
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want to say this, that sometimes life is just going to kick you in the dick and you just kind of have
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to take it and adjust. So I think I told you I had that panic attack, which I'd never had before.
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Did I mention that? Yep. Yep. We talked. We didn't talk about it online. We talked about it
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before. Okay. So yeah. So I didn't tell anybody, I guess, online. I had a panic attack. I didn't know
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if I was having a heart attack or I didn't know what was going on, but I had my kids and I was
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driving and I was about to go through the Jimmy John's line and I was going to take them and get
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some food. Normally I'd make them dinner. I'd cook dinner for them, but I'm like, guys, I can't cook.
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I'm not feeling it tonight. So we're in the Jimmy John's line and I'm lightheaded. I'm like,
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heart rates accelerating. I'm like, what in the world is going on? So I called her mom and I'm
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like, Hey, I, something's going on. Like, I don't know what's happening. Something's going on.
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So, uh, can I bring the kids by? She's like, yeah, bring them by. I'm at Costco. I'll be back in 10
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minutes, drop them off, go into the ER. So I do. That's what I, I went into the ER and the doc came
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in great ER doc. What was your thoughts? Your thoughts were your thoughts like something wrong
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or was it like, I might be having a heart attack or no, I knew I wasn't, I knew I wasn't having a
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heart attack. It felt like maybe a little bit like that, but I thought I was having a panic attack
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or an anxiety attack. I don't know if there's a difference or whatever, but, um, but that's what
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I thought it was. And I went in and they did an EKG and ran the blood work and the doc came back.
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He's like, your blood work looks good. Everything's solid. He's like, are you healthy? I'm like, yeah,
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I'm totally healthy. And he's like, um, I think you, I think you're just having a panic attack.
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So we're just going to keep you here and monitor you for an hour, hour and a half or whatever,
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give you an IV. And they gave me this, this medication. Um, it's like some strong anti-anxiety
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medication. Oh, dude, the dosage is heavy the first couple of days. And then it gradually
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weans you off of it over time. And I feel a lot better now. Yeah. So I had that happen. And then
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two days later I'm driving down. So I'm going to, it's going to be a gripe session, but the point
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that I'm making is like, just roll with the punches guys. So I'm driving down from, uh, from
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Zion area. I live, I live near Zion national park. I'm driving down. Um, I'm on a date and
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we're coming back from, from dinner and a deer is in the middle of the road. I'm like, Oh shit,
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I'm going to hit this deer. Like I'm a hundred percent going to hit this deer. So I hit my brakes,
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slow down. And I hit the deer at maybe 25 miles an hour. And the, and it was a doe and she was big,
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big mule deer. She rolls like four times. Like I wasn't speeding or anything, but she rolls four
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times. And the, the woman I was with like screamed and she covered her eyes and I'm like, I'm like,
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it's all right. Like, are you okay? She's like, yeah, I'm okay. I'm like, it's okay. The deer's okay.
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She's like, the deer's not okay. I saw its head bounce off the hood of the truck. And I'm like,
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no, I promise when you closed your eyes, it got up and ran away. She's like, no, it didn't. I'm like,
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where is it? Like, show me where is it? And she looked and she's like, I don't see it. I'm like,
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yeah, it ran away. She's like, how? I'm like, cause they're resilient. So I get up, I get out,
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I pull over, I turn my hazard lights on. And I look at the front of my, my truck. And there's
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like this little teeny dent on the bumper, just a teeny little dent on the bumper. And she's like,
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Ryan, I'm like, what? She's like, here's the deer. And I'm thinking to myself, sweet. The deer died.
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I'm going to throw the deer in the back of my truck. And her and I are going to clean this thing
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tonight. I'm going to have more. He's joking by the way, for anyone that wants to like,
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no, I'm not joking. I'm dead serious. You can't do that, man. That's actually,
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they would classify it as poaching. You still have to go to like fishing. No, I would call. I would
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call. Yeah, of course. I wouldn't just take it. I'm helping you out here. No, no, I would,
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I would have called DNR and said, Hey, I just hit this deer. Come check it out. You know,
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they have to check and make sure everything's on the up and up, but you can, you can actually take it
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with permission. So yeah, I would definitely call for sure. Yeah. So I'm thinking sweet. I have more
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deer in the freezer. And she's like, here's the deer. And I go over there and I'm like,
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it's alive. And it runs up the hill and it runs away. And she's, you know, she was fine.
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And she's, she's, she's a softie when, when it comes to that stuff, which is fine. It was just
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kind of funny. So I got this little dent on my truck. So I'm thinking to myself, I don't know if
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I'll get a replaced. I got a $500 deductible. Maybe I'll just leave it. It's a small dent. No big deal.
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So I'm driving down the road yesterday. I make a turn and I'm driving. And all of a sudden,
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wham, this car just drills me out of nowhere. Like T-boned or not T-boned hit the front driver
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side of my truck. Just, just, just rams right into me. I'm like, what in the world?
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So I, I'm like, I think my truck's still drivable. I look, I'm like, I think I can drive it. So I pull
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it over. I turn my hazards on again. I pull over the side of the road. This woman's in the middle
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of the road. Her car is demolished. Like the whole half of it is just thrashed. And I go over there.
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I'm like, are you okay? And she's like, yeah. And I could tell she was in shock. And I said,
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you're in shock. Like everything's okay. I'm okay. I have a passenger in the car. They're okay.
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We're okay. Everybody's fine. You're not hurt. You don't look like you're bleeding. Are you okay?
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She's like, yeah. So somebody comes over and they're like, Hey, have you called the police yet?
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I'm like, no, it just happened. So this guy calls the police and long story short, she,
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I don't know where she came from, but she fit. They gave, they cited her for failure to merge.
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And she just smashed the side of my front quarter panel and bumper. I'm like, sweet. I'm getting a
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new bumper out of the deal, you know, anyways. And so I'm like, this is crazy. Like all this stuff.
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So I'm driving my truck around and it's, you know, it's, it's fine. It's drivable, but it doesn't
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look awesome. So this morning, my buddy calls me up last story. I promise caused me up. Then he's
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like, Hey man, last night, he's like, Hey man, do you want to come play pickleball? He just built
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an indoor pickleball court at his house. It's beautiful. He's like, you want to come play
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pickleball? I'm like, yeah, that'd be awesome. So I get up at five 30 this morning. I meet him
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and two other buddies over there. We're playing pickleball. We're playing, you know, two, two on
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two. One of the guys has to go. Cause he has to get ready for work. And he's like, Hey, we'll just
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play two on one. I'm like, great. So I'm playing against these guys. And all of a sudden something
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hits me in the back of my leg. Like it felt like a rock, but it's indoor. I'm like, what
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just hit me? Like I turned around cause it felt like a rock hit me in the calf. Nothing
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hit me. I realized my calf popped. And so it's like, dude, it's almost unbearable to walk on
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right now. And I hesitate to tell that story. Cause I think I tore my calf muscle or something
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playing pickleball. Like that's totally embarrassing. So now I got to go to the doctor
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today. I got to call the VA, you know, which is even worse than just going to the regular
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doctor. Call the VA and tell him, I think I tore my calf muscle or something. It's like,
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you know, damn, you're, you're just playing mid game and pop. Yeah. It wasn't even do,
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it wasn't like, I wasn't like diving for a ball. I wasn't like doing anything particularly
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cool. Like I just like stopped and adjusted and like went and hit the ball and it just
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pop. So this has just been a week. I don't want to say a week from hell cause it can get
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way worse, but guys, the moral of the story here, sometimes like, you know, shit and let's
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just keep rolling with the punches and just hope it gets better. So how's your week been
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Kip? Now that you know all about my, uh, my life. I mean, we chatted a little bit. Yeah.
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We chatted a little bit on over the weekend. Yeah. That's right. Yeah. I'm a little stressed.
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Yeah. I'm just kind of like in those, and I like actually what you said, because that's
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how I feel. It's just like, you know, sometimes you just need to grind it out. Yeah. And so
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I'm in, I'm in a grind phase of just, just grind, just keep going. Yeah. You know, and
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not throw my hands up completely, you know, cause I have a tendency, like if I'm in a really
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bad state, I'll just F everything, you know, I go to the gym. You know what I mean? And I'm
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like, Nope. Keep, keep to my schedule, keep doing what I do. And, um, you know, I'll get
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out of my little slump here hopefully soon. Right. Yeah. It's, it's crazy. I mean, it's
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a, it's a wild thing, but I, you know, here's one other thing I would say is just don't isolate.
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Right. Right. And I'm not telling you just you that I'm telling the guys absolutely don't
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isolate. Um, don't throw a pity party, uh, find good people to be around. Even if you
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have to drag yourself out of the house, uh, engage in hobbies, like find hobbies and interests
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that are important to you. Uh, be careful of substances. I think it's very easy for a lot
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of guys to turn to drugs or, or booze. Um, you know, I've certainly done that in the
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past. Don't do that. Um, you know, keep like eat healthy. Like don't, don't, don't just
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let your health deteriorate because it's going to get worse and worse. Um, all the things that
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we've been talking about, just keep doing it and then things will get better. You know?
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And you've, you said this a couple of weeks ago, it was like disrupt. It's like, you know
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what? Go do that thing that you don't want to go do. Right. When the buddy calls you up
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and says, Hey, do you want to go? Whatever. Probably say yes. Yeah. And you'll be better
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off for it. So yeah. Agreed. Yeah, for sure. All right, man. All right, cool. Let's get
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to some questions today. Yeah. Sounds good. So we're going to field questions from the
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iron council, uh, to learn more about the iron council, go to order of man.com slash iron
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council. We'll be opening up, uh, membership enrollment roughly in about a month, uh, the
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15th of December. So stay tuned. Yep. A little less than a month. All right. Brandon Morsey.
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I've worked for the last four years on me. I've overcome obstacles, face demons, and learned
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to look at myself in the mirror again. Yet the old tendencies still linger. There's no
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flame, but the coals are still hot under the surface. Does this stop over more time? I'm
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constantly checking myself and my mindset to stay on the path. It seems like a part time
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job, keeping me in line and exhausting. Is there a point where these habits are who we
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are and not who we strive to be? Great. I really liked the question. I don't know.
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If they're the, if the habits are the problem or the underlying, uh, thought process or mentality
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is the problem. And I don't even know if it's a problem. I wouldn't say it's a problem. Um,
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I have personally, uh, propensity to be very angry. Um, I, I can get angry quickly and I don't
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think that will ever go away. I don't think that one day I'll just be, you know, a happy,
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pleasant person and, you know, everything will be wonderful and I'll never be angry again.
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I just think that things are going to irritate me and I'm going to get angry and I'm going to get
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pissed off. And so to, to the analogy he was using about the coals, it's not the, it's not the habit.
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It's what you do with that behavior. So with the propensity for anger or frustration or a short fuse,
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which is, is me, I'm describing myself. What are the outlets I need? Well, jujitsu is a good outlet
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for me. Um, physical activity is a good outlet for me. If I'm not doing those things, then I can let
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the anger that wells up inside of me overtake me very quickly. And I can actually do things that are
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inappropriate, whether it's, uh, it's, it typically comes across in, in ways that I communicate with
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people I care most about. That's how it comes across. So if I'm active physically, I noticed that
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that allows me to harness that, that frustration or the anger or the contention. Um, it gives me an
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outlet to deal with things that are challenging and frustrating. Um, I've also noticed that just
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going for a walk will actually calm me down too. So if I'm upset about something, you know,
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turn the phone off, disengage from social media, don't allow anybody to come into your space
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and just go for a walk, you know, think about no music. I don't put music on. I don't listen to
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a podcast certainly. Cause that'll piss me off too. Um, depending on the podcast they listen to
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and just going for a walk, having a little bit of, uh, some time just to decompress and unwind
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is a big thing for me. So point of the story is I don't think it's the habit. That's the problem.
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I think it's your underlying personality. And the more, you know, yourself,
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the more you can equip yourself with proper actions that allow you to deal with the frustrations
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or the temptations, you know, one temptation might be lust for example. I mean, how many guys do we
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hear who are dealing with, uh, sex addiction, pornography addiction? It's not the habit. That's
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the problem because sex, physical release in a healthy relationship is actually a good virtuous,
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righteous thing. It's when it's inappropriate that it's not. So what's the behavior, what's the
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trigger? And then what can you do differently so that you don't act out in inappropriate ways?
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Absolutely. I feel, yeah, I might go a little off tangent here, but this is one of the dangers
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when we get wrapped up in what should or should not be. Because if we look at this Ryan and I go,
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well, I shouldn't have these tendencies or I shouldn't be this way. Then, then we almost like,
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so if it's stuck with me, then it's like, it's, it almost perpetuates it and makes it worse
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with this idea that it shouldn't be this way. Right. And, and there's value in just saying,
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hey, this is, this is, I made up this way, you know, like I've had these experiences and I have
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these tendencies. So I'm dealing with who is Kip and I've accepted it. And I know I have tendencies
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to do certain things and I got to watch myself. I got to avoid certain circumstances because of, of,
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of my upbringing and my experiences and what, what I've made those things mean in my life.
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And, and there's some, there's some power in just saying it's okay. Like those coals are,
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are just coals. That's all they are. And, and we all have those coals in our fires that if we're not
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careful, can catch the house on fire or they can keep us warm and we can actually use them to benefit
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us in some cases as well. And so I would celebrate who you are as a person. I know it sounds a little
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foo foo-foo-y, but you know, you're, you're whole and complete. It's amazing what you can accomplish,
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but we just got to be careful on how we use our talents and our experiences and our mindsets to
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serve ourselves and others. You know? And, and I think when we need, when we demonize it, it almost
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makes it, makes it feel like, well, it shouldn't be right. I shouldn't have. It's like, but you are.
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So what are we going to do with it? And what's still in reality? And it's okay. Yeah. But I I'm
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in the same camp. Those things will never go away. They'll never go away. Um, and you don't want
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them to, you know, like I think about my part of who you are angry or get frustrated. You know,
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when I'm my most productive, when I'm angry and frustrated, like that's when I'm most, like,
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if there's an issue that I'm dealing with it with work that I'm frustrated about, guess when I'm the
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most productive when I'm dealing with those issues. So I don't want to lose that part of me.
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That part of me is good. It's when it's not tempered and controlled. If we're using that
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analogy of Kohl's, think about this. You're, you're out this weekend, you're with your family,
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you're on a camp out and you let the campfire burn that evening and you go to bed and you want to wake
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up and you want to stoke the fire. You want to put a pot of coffee on the fire or cook some bacon for
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the family so they can wake up and have breakfast. You can see the hot coals. And what do you do?
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You put a little kindling in there and you blow on those coals, just a little slow blow, a little
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air on those coals. Those things light up, they ignite dry leaves, dry pine needles. And all of a
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sudden you have a fire because the coal was still burning. So the coal is a good thing to your point.
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It keeps you warm. It starts the fire. It cooks the bacon. It could also burn down the forest. So
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let's be aware of how we're using it. Yeah. I love it. All right. Andy Collins in currently load
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trailers. I currently load trailers by hand. I currently, yeah, I saw that. I currently load
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trailers by hand in a distribution center. And to be honest, there will be a point eventually that I
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cannot physically do the work anymore. How would you suggest finding a new path of work to go towards?
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I've tried skill trades and didn't have the necessary aptitude in that line of work and was on
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the path towards being a management, but found that, that it's an area I have no desire to pursue.
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I'm looking for a career that I can enjoy and feel like I can contribute to others and be satisfied.
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Well, I got a little distracted because I was thinking about an answer before I heard the entire
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question. He said that he is not interested in leading. What is he not interested in?
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Yeah. He says, you know, he's thought about a path towards management, but found that area has no
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desire to pursue. Okay. Yeah. The only reason I thought about that is because to me, as,
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as an entrepreneur, I'm thinking to myself, I'm just going to, I need to hire somebody to load the
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trailer. Yeah, totally. That's where my, my, my first thought was, yeah, I don't want to load the
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trailer. I want to set up the trailer. I want to do the marketing. Uh, I want to, I want to get the
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business. I want to grow the business. I want to, I want to do all of that. And I want to hire a couple
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of kids to load the trailer. Cause I don't want to load the trailer. So that's where, that's where
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my thought goes. He doesn't sound like he's interested in that. I don't even know if he
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owns the business necessarily or where he's at, or if that's even a possibility. Uh, but what I would
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say for somebody, anybody who's not satisfied in their career, I like what you say actually is
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make the most of it of what you're currently doing. Maybe you can find a new and better way
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to load trailers that doesn't require as much physical labor. Uh, maybe there's a, a, a better
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way to, you know, to, to back the truck up or, or, Hey, we need a new place. Cause we need a loading
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dock. Cause none of us want to kill our backs. Maybe we need new equipment. We need a new lightweight
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forklift, or we need a lift on the back of one of our trucks. And that will help us load these
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trailers quicker. There's certain things that you can do, but whatever it is with your business that
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you're already in, if you can maximize, and I'm stealing this directly from you, Kip,
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if you can maximize what you're currently doing, everything about your life will get better.
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And in the meantime, then you can also follow pursuits that are interesting to you. And that's
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all you do is you follow veins. Like what a lot of people will do is they'll say, well,
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Hmm, I don't like what I'm doing right now, but maybe I could do this. Well, I can't do that
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cause I can't make money. Well, maybe I could do this. Well, I can't do that because I don't know
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anybody. Maybe I could do this. Well, I can't do that cause I don't have capital. And so what they
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do is they'll disqualify everything that sounds even remotely interesting to them before they even
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give themselves an opportunity to do it. What I would suggest is pursuing something that is
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interesting, pursuing something that you're doing when time moves the fastest. Um, I really like
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coaching type situations. That's my personality. If I'm good at something, I, I feel like I have the
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heart of a teacher where I actually, I really am excited about teaching people things. If I know
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something, I want somebody else to know it, whether it's jujitsu or how to hunt, um, or, you know,
00:22:23.180
how to, how to, how to build a cabinet. I really enjoy figuring things out, tinkering with projects,
00:22:29.100
tinkering with mechanics. These are all things that I like, and you can pursue those. And all
00:22:35.720
you have to do is invite one other person to come with you and charge them for it. You know, Hey,
00:22:40.680
I'm going to do this camp out and, uh, I'm bringing four guys. I'm going to teach some survival stuff
00:22:46.960
because I really enjoy doing that. We're going to make fires. We're going to do lean twos. Um,
00:22:52.400
I'm going to show you guys some basic medical survival stuff, and we're going to, uh,
00:22:57.880
learn how to build a fire and I'm not charging a lot for it. I need some help just with some
00:23:04.180
materials and just a little bit of money for my time. So it's, you know, 75 bucks each or a hundred
00:23:08.860
bucks each for the weekend. And, uh, I'll teach you guys some skills and now you're doing something
00:23:14.340
you love and you're making a little bit of money doing it. And you're just, you're finding out if
00:23:19.440
this is something that you could do on a greater scale. So look for things that you're interested in,
00:23:24.200
that you're already doing, that you already enjoy other prompts that you can consider is what are
00:23:29.320
people asking you for advice for? If con, if people are constantly asking advice about, Hey,
00:23:35.760
Ryan, how do I build a website? They're seeing something in you that you might not see in
00:23:40.340
yourself. If they're constantly asking you, Hey, you take beautiful pictures. Like, could you take
00:23:45.440
our family photos? They're seeing something in you that again, you may not recognize in yourself.
00:23:50.920
And so you can look for those little prompts and you can do those things while you're loading trucks
00:23:56.280
and getting really good at loading trucks. So you're being invaluable at work, but also creating
00:24:01.260
something over here on the side. Yeah. That's spot on. I, the, the, and you've already kind of allude
00:24:07.240
to it a little bit, but like Andy, like, and, and obviously we read these questions for everyone
00:24:11.600
it's benefit, but like, be careful. Like those guys that are like, if, if you're where you don't want
00:24:16.560
to be, be careful not to show up weak there, this is not going to serve you. In fact, if it's good,
00:24:22.900
it's going to hinder you because you're going to rob yourself of opportunity for growth in,
00:24:27.640
in what you're currently doing, but you don't know, right? Like let's say Andy's like, man,
00:24:32.380
I hate loading trucks, but man, the logistics and the scheduling of things is really interesting.
00:24:38.920
Well, do you, if you show up poorly and you came to me and it's like, Hey, Kip, I want to learn
00:24:43.400
about the logistics and scheduling of trucks. I'm like, I want to give you a chance. No way.
00:24:48.140
Because you're, you're being lazy and not loading. You're not winning at the very little simple task
00:24:54.200
of loading the truck. So why would I even give you an opportunity? Right. Some far too often. We're
00:24:59.720
like, Oh, this is not my thing. But if I go do this other thing over here, Ryan, then,
00:25:03.200
then I'll show up powerfully. Then I'll, I'll bring it to the table. It's like, no, you won't.
00:25:09.660
If you're lazy where you are now, you're going to be lazy in some other role.
00:25:12.440
So stop, just don't be lazy and like win at it. So then that way people will see something in you
00:25:20.100
and they can trust you because you're consistent and you work hard because I could even see a talent
00:25:27.140
in you, Ryan and go, man, Ryan's so talented here. But if you're flaky with what we do today,
00:25:32.540
I'm still not going to give it to you because I can't rely on you. You're inconsistent.
00:25:40.760
You know, one of the things that you could do as you're saying this is, I don't know how you measure
00:25:46.460
what you, what you track or what, like, I don't, I don't know what you, what you look at, but
00:25:50.900
let's say that you load 5,000 pounds and, and you actually spend some time and you calculate it.
00:25:58.920
And, and I'm just throwing out numbers here. So I could be completely off, but let's say it takes
00:26:03.060
to load a thousand pounds, uh, takes you 30 minutes. I don't, whatever, right.
00:26:08.760
It takes you 30 minutes, track it and see, see if you can get a thousand pounds down to 28 minutes,
00:26:15.400
down to 25 minutes, down to 20 minutes and do that. That little competition right there will allow you
00:26:22.020
to be better and make it more enjoyable. You'll, you'll have other guys that want to compete with
00:26:27.920
you. And all of a sudden now you're going to get noticed because you're leading and your boss is
00:26:33.160
like, man, why all of a sudden is our entire crew so productive? Like this used to take us four hours
00:26:39.720
and what was taking us four hours is now only taking us two hours. Like what, what, what's going on here?
00:26:44.820
And to your point, they're going to start looking for what's happening and they're going to notice,
00:26:49.060
oh, it's Andy. Andy's the one who's doing this showing up powerfully. All the other guys are
00:26:53.460
excited about being here. Cause he's here, man, this guy's a natural leader, right? Like,
00:26:57.920
yeah, man. And, and I know Andy, by the way, like in college, I loaded, I loaded trucks at a
00:27:03.440
distribution center. Yeah. I stand at it out of the back of a semi conveyor belt, giant boxes coming
00:27:08.940
at you. And you're just loading trucks all day. And, and it's hard work, man. I smell like cardboard.
00:27:15.660
I know it's kind of weird, but I totally smell like cardboard all the time. But it's funny when I,
00:27:20.560
when I went to go leave there, the guy's like, dude, Kip, we wanted to make you a trainer. I'm like,
00:27:28.140
Yeah. I'm like, yeah, that's funny. Of course. When I'm like, Hey, what does that mean? And he's
00:27:32.700
like, well, you get a t-shirt and you get a trade. And I'm like, wait, no comp. You're like, and,
00:27:38.400
and my income goes up by how much? Oh no, it doesn't go up. You're like, no, I'm good. Thanks
00:27:43.220
though. But you don't get out, but you don't have to load the truck all the time. Save your back.
00:27:46.500
Oh, that's true. Okay. That's true. All right. Um, Steven church, what Thanksgiving traditions do
00:27:55.220
you carry on from your youth and maybe just add maybe from your youth or Thanksgiving traditions?
00:28:01.040
I don't know. I mean, I, we get these questions a lot. I, I'm not real nostalgic on this kind of
00:28:07.180
stuff. So these questions don't really resonate with me too deeply. I'm sure I do the same things
00:28:11.420
as everybody else, you know, you like break the wishbone. Um, we never do that actually. So,
00:28:18.420
Oh, you don't. Yeah. No, not at all. I don't know. Eat Turkey. I don't know what,
00:28:23.000
how you cooking your Turkey you like deep frying this year was a patch, spatch,
00:28:29.220
spatch cocking it, whatever. You know what I'm talking about? Yeah. No. Where you like
00:28:33.380
splay it open. Right. Yeah. Um, I don't know. I'm going to sound like my kids are with their mom
00:28:39.900
this year. So you're going, uh, you're going to, uh, um, golden Corral or something. Yeah,
00:28:47.480
exactly. It's the, it's, it's my first year of doing this where, you know, the kids are on this
00:28:52.700
holiday. Maybe possibly. Yeah. I mean, for Thanksgiving, I've got a couple of, I appreciate
00:28:58.140
the invite, you know? So yeah, I've got a couple of invites. Um, and so I'm sure I'll find somewhere
00:29:03.000
to go eat something. You should, you should go like, I, I, and then I'm not, I'm not babying you
00:29:09.700
or anything, but I, I don't think that. Yeah. I remember having my first holidays alone. Um,
00:29:16.420
they were, they were horrible and I didn't want to go with anybody, but it was, I hated it.
00:29:22.480
So, yeah, I don't. Yeah, no. And I will, I've got a couple of invites, you know, and I'll, and I'll,
00:29:28.440
and I'll find something to do. And I appreciate the invite from you too. And I, and I'll take that
00:29:32.300
into consideration. So, but yeah, I'll find something to do. Um, so anyways, it's not about me. I'm not
00:29:36.660
trying to be like, well, I don't have anything to do. Like who can somebody, you know? So, uh,
00:29:41.560
but as far as traditions, I don't know. One tradition I always liked is the day after Thanksgiving,
00:29:47.080
we'd always go cut down a Christmas tree. That was always a cool thing. I like doing that.
00:29:51.540
You do that on the Friday. Yeah. Um, but yeah, just same things as everybody else. I'm sure,
00:29:59.900
you know, cool. Yeah. We boycott black Friday. That's something we've done for the last eight
00:30:06.160
years. Yeah. We, we hop in the car and we drive to lava hot Springs. Oh, you do? We rent an Airbnb
00:30:13.640
and we just hang out lava all weekend. That's cool. I like that. It's super like lazy. Just like
00:30:20.000
watch Netflix, eat scones from the wagon wheel diner and hot and hop in hot water during the evening.
00:30:27.380
Like that's all we do. Perfect. I think that's perfect. Our kids love it. So I don't do,
00:30:31.920
I don't like, I don't like sales in general. Like the one that bothers me is 4th of July sales,
00:30:37.840
uh, Memorial day sales, veteran day sales. People ask me like, Oh, are you guys going to do a sale
00:30:43.780
for Memorial day? I'm like, no, it's fucking Memorial day. Good to work. And you're asking me for
00:30:49.260
10% off on a t-shirt. Like get out of here. I don't know. Maybe I need to be better at that.
00:30:54.780
But I, so when you said boycott black Friday, I'll do sales. I just, I just think if you're
00:31:00.740
going to do veterans day, like it's veterans day, it's not 20% off of your shit from China day.
00:31:12.740
That's funny. All right. Uh, Kyle, uh, Christian, uh, I would like to hear about each of your first
00:31:21.600
hunting experiences, probably yours more than mine and what you have learned about yourself,
00:31:26.920
uh, hunting. Uh, my first hunting experience was with Colin Cottrell and he invited deer deer. Yeah.
00:31:37.340
White tail. He invited me out and he was like, Hey man, let's, um, let's go on. I want to take
00:31:41.940
hunting. I'm like, I've never been hunting. He's like, yeah, that's what I want to take you.
00:31:44.760
I'm like, it's super cool. I didn't know this by the way, until you brought this up last week.
00:31:47.880
Oh, you didn't know just to invite you. And that was your first hunting trip. Yeah. That's my first
00:31:52.320
hunting trip. Yeah. That's cool. So I was like, cool. I'll, I'll go hunting with you. And I'm like,
00:31:56.060
what do I, what do I need? He's like, well, we're going to kill two deer each. And so one with a rifle
00:32:00.140
and one with a bow. And I'm like, well, I don't have either. He's like, yeah, we'll go buy,
00:32:04.140
like go buy something. I'm like, oh yeah. Okay. I guess I could do that. Right. Cause like,
00:32:07.600
isn't that what we do? We come up with all the excuses. Like, yeah, I can't do it. I don't do it.
00:32:12.340
You're like, let's go bow hunting. I'm like, I don't have a bow. And you're like, well,
00:32:15.220
you could get one. Yeah. So I go buy a rifle and buy a bow and I go out there and I'm sitting there
00:32:22.660
and a deer comes in and the guy that we're hunting with, uh, he, um, he, he was trying to,
00:32:31.480
he's trying to manage his property. So he wanted to shoot deer that were not, that didn't have good
00:32:37.100
genetics. So if people know anything about deer population, you have certain deer that are mature
00:32:43.620
and old, uh, but their genetics aren't good. Like they don't grow good horns and you don't want
00:32:50.640
those, those deer breeding. You want good genetics. If you're trying to grow a good ranch. And this
00:32:56.120
wasn't high fenced, this was just public land. That's private land, but it's not high fenced.
00:33:00.620
Yeah. And so he's like, Hey, I just want to shoot deer out of here that are mature old, but aren't good
00:33:08.900
genetics. We just need to get them out of the gene pool. So this deer comes in and Colin's like,
00:33:13.920
that's a good deer. Like shoot that deer. I'm like, that's looks like Bambi. Cause it just has
00:33:18.280
these like little horns. And I'm like, that looks like Bambi. He's like, if you're not going to shoot
00:33:22.600
it, I'm going to shoot it. And I'm like, okay, I'll shoot it. And he's like, all right, shoot it.
00:33:26.460
And I had my phone on my knee and I had my rifle on my scope or on my, uh, my shooting stick.
00:33:33.540
And I was about to shoot it. And my phone fell off my knee and Siri was like, I'm sorry. I did not
00:33:41.180
recognize your command or whatever she said. I'm like, and the deer didn't hear it. And it was like
00:33:47.720
75, 80 yards away. And so I took a shot and I didn't know. I'm like, like, I know I hit it. I'm
00:33:53.780
like, I hit it. He's like, that was a great shot. I'm like, I wasn't, I don't know. Like it ran off.
00:33:58.440
I didn't, I didn't know if they just died or what. Yeah. You thought it would maybe just drop
00:34:03.000
right there. That's what I thought. And he's like, no, it's a good shot. He's like, did you see
00:34:07.020
where it went? I'm like, no, I just like, I shot it. And then I was just gone. And he's like, okay,
00:34:12.080
I watched it. So this is the value of going with somebody who's hunted before. Yeah. So we go up to
00:34:17.760
where I shot it and we found blood and we're looking around and I was a little discouraged. Cause I'm like,
00:34:22.040
I don't know. Did I hit it good? Or he's like, no, it's dead. We just need to find where it is.
00:34:25.940
And it was like 40 yards away. We found it and it was dead. And it was awesome. Like it felt
00:34:30.640
really good. It was kind of sad. And it, and I have it, it's out in my living room. And it's this,
00:34:35.060
it's like, it's called crab claw. Cause it has these like long, just single horns and just like
00:34:41.040
two little crab claws at the top. So it's an old deer. It's a really old deer, but it's a, it's just
00:34:47.640
a weird rack. It's bad genes. So it was like the perfect deer we wanted to get out of there.
00:34:52.620
So what did you, and then, Oh, good. What's that? No, go ahead. I was just going to ask you
00:34:56.620
just to make sure that you share, like, what did you learn about yourself? Cause that was the second
00:35:00.620
part of this question. Yeah. So I'll, so let me explain the next deer that I shot. So two days
00:35:05.360
later I shot, I shot another deer. Uh, it was a young deer. It was a spike. I probably like now I
00:35:12.520
probably wouldn't want to shoot that deer. That wouldn't be a deer I would shoot or try to shoot. Um,
00:35:18.280
I had an experience last week where I inadvertently shot a very young buck and we'll just leave that
00:35:25.840
story for another day. I killed him and harvested him and he's in my freezer, but, um, you know,
00:35:33.320
so it worked, it, it was a success, but not the way I wanted it to play out. But I shot this deer
00:35:39.460
with my bow and I gut shot at it and clay and calling the guys we were with were like, Hey,
00:35:47.040
let's just let it bed down. It's not dead. Just let it bed down. We went into town. We went and had
00:35:52.240
dinner. We waited like three hours, came back out, found it. It was still alive and I had to kill it.
00:35:58.160
That wasn't cool. Yeah. I didn't like that. Um, you know, but what I learned about myself is I'm
00:36:04.100
really impatient. That's, and I knew that already and hunting will draw that out. Oh, for sure.
00:36:10.740
So I, that that's been helpful. Um, and then also I get really excited when I see a big,
00:36:17.620
nice buck that I want to shoot. And so I get buck fever is what it's called. And you end up just doing
00:36:23.200
dumb things. You just make bad shots. When I was in Minnesota last week, this giant buck came in and
00:36:29.560
I'm like, Oh, like he was, he was a beautiful buck, big, mature buck, kind of a weird left antler.
00:36:37.420
Um, but a beautiful buck. And I'm like, Oh, this is awesome. I'm going to shoot this thing. And I
00:36:43.280
drew back. I went through all of my routine and I shot and I thought I got shot at him. I'm like,
00:36:48.700
Oh man, like I knew I was, I was pretty certain he was going to die. I just knew it was going to take
00:36:54.160
a while to find him. Yeah. Especially with an arrow, right? Like that's going to take an arrow
00:36:58.300
much longer. Yeah. And the arrow didn't pass through him like it. So it just stuck, you know,
00:37:04.520
I'm like, Oh, this is not good. And we spent hours, we spent two hours, maybe a little longer
00:37:10.660
that night. We went out the next morning and spent a couple hours looking and just never could find
00:37:15.300
the thing. And actually a couple of days after I left the guys that I was with, um, Tom and his
00:37:21.580
grandson, uh, they actually saw the buck and the arrow wasn't there, but the wound was still there.
00:37:30.860
And I shot it in its back hip and his, I won't say his grandson's name just out of respect, but
00:37:36.300
the grandson, he's a, he's a great kid. I love the kid. He's awesome. He's a, he can find blood.
00:37:41.600
He's a little blood hound. He can help track deer. He's awesome. But I'm not going to say his name just
00:37:45.180
out of respect. Um, but yeah, he saw the deer. He's like, that's an awesome deer. His left side
00:37:50.920
was weird, but he was awesome. And he had a big hole in his back hip where I had shot him with the
00:37:56.060
arrow. And he's like, other than that, he looked healthy. So he was fine. So it felt a little better
00:38:00.240
than they do. He's going to live. Yeah. Um, but yeah, I just do dumb things when I'm rushed or when
00:38:07.660
I'm anxious or not prepared. So I actually, so the, the moral of the story is for me is to really be
00:38:16.580
prepared. So in my garage right now, I'm actually building, uh, a 17 foot tripod. So I can practice
00:38:24.680
archery, not just from my workout. I can practice from no. So I can practice from, um, shooting,
00:38:34.000
shooting down. Cause with a whitetail hunt, you're shooting from a tree stand or a tripod.
00:38:37.660
So the angle changes and that changes the trajectory of your arrow. Cause I've got physics
00:38:43.240
and gravity, gravity is in play. Yeah. In a different way. Yeah. Well, gravity is less,
00:38:48.060
if it impacts your arrow less, if you're shooting down. So you need to actually aim lower. If you're
00:38:54.720
shooting from above, you need to aim lower because gravity is not going to impact your arrow as much
00:39:00.520
as if it would, if you were shooting level. Yeah. Like all sorts of weird stuff. You would
00:39:06.960
never know until you just go out in the field and you learn it. That's cool. Yeah. Super cool. Um,
00:39:14.340
I want to get to this other question and I know we're, we have a hard stop at the top of the hour.
00:39:18.000
So I'm going to skip my, plus my first hunting experience was, isn't as entertaining. All right.
00:39:25.160
So Tyler Smith, we're hopping over to Facebook here. Why is it easier to perform or excel at work
00:39:31.100
than it is at home? I recently promoted to E seven senior non-commissioned officer in the military
00:39:36.700
and just also got picked up to be a commissioned officer. So things are going great professionally,
00:39:41.420
but at home, I feel like my wife and I frequently are on the verge of arguments. My kids and I have
00:39:47.060
good relationships, but could always be better. And I feel like there's never enough time to spend with
00:39:52.160
them. And my finances are a mess. We have never been able to really get ahead of our debts.
00:39:57.020
So I'm starting a second job this week to work on that front, but I feel like it's going to take
00:40:02.760
years to fix our financial mess. I think it's easier because the role at work is more defined
00:40:09.100
and definitive than the role at home is. I think that's the ultimate thing. You know,
00:40:14.100
when you go to work, especially as, as a military man and congratulations on your promotion,
00:40:19.000
everything is lined out. Like, you know, what needs to be done. You know, what performance,
00:40:24.140
you have a deadline, uh, you know, yeah, you know, what performance is, uh, you know,
00:40:29.860
what marks or measures, uh, whether that's a success or, or not a success. Uh, and, and so
00:40:37.680
everything is measured. Yeah. It's, I mean, it's just really funny, right? Just, just interrupt your
00:40:44.160
thought really quick. Cause like E seven, right? Like there's no E seven for marriage. You know,
00:40:48.560
it's like, dude, I reached E five. Really good job as a husband. You know, there's nothing.
00:40:56.280
Right. Yeah. There's nothing. And even, you know, because we like to talk about jujitsu so much,
00:41:01.920
it's the same thing. You get your blue belt, you get your brown belt, you get your purple belt.
00:41:05.160
You're like, okay, I'm getting better. Like I know these moves now, or, uh, you know,
00:41:09.860
I know this submission or I know how to defend myself in this situation. And so there's actual
00:41:15.640
tangible metric of improvement and there's acknowledgement of it. You get your black
00:41:21.240
belt, you know, or you get your E seven at home, going outside and playing basketball with your son
00:41:28.360
doesn't really move the needle the same way it does. Don't, don't get me wrong. It moves the needle.
00:41:35.920
Yeah. But you don't see the needle moving. Yeah. Like you, you don't like if, for example,
00:41:42.300
if you're looking at your bank account, he's 30. Yeah, exactly. But if you go and you,
00:41:47.860
you're talking about your financial situation, if you go put 10 grand in your bank account,
00:41:51.740
you can pull up your bank account and say, okay, well, I had 30 grand in my bank account and now
00:41:55.860
I have $40,000. Like I'm doing pretty good. Yeah. But if you go outside and you play basketball with
00:42:02.300
your kid for a half hour and you joke and you play and you're having a good time, you're having fun.
00:42:07.060
And he's like, thanks dad. I love you. You know, that feels good. And then you go inside and his
00:42:11.340
buddy calls and he's like, Hey, can you come over? He's like, yeah, I'll come over. And he leaves
00:42:15.040
and it's like, well, shit. Like I thought we were having a good time and you were having a good time
00:42:21.760
and you did move the needle, but it, there wasn't any, there wasn't any metric of improvement
00:42:27.500
immediately, you know? And that, and that's the hardest thing is that this is why I think if you
00:42:33.980
take somebody who's a contractor, for example, a builder, like you could drive around town and they're
00:42:39.660
so excited. Like I built that house. I did the electric on that house. Oh, I did that yard work.
00:42:45.500
And they're so excited because they can actually see the, the, the result of their effort, but you
00:42:52.420
can't see that as easily at home. And so when things are wrong and you want to improve, like we all do,
00:43:00.220
you don't think about going to talk to your wife. Cause like, how do you measure that your
00:43:06.440
relationship is better because you had a good conversation. So you think, well, I'll just go,
00:43:11.480
I'll just go get another job and put more money in the bank account. Cause that I can measure that.
00:43:15.920
And that that's what the family needs. And that might be what the family needs,
00:43:19.280
but that's not all that the family needs. So I think what you can do is you can start looking at ways
00:43:27.360
to quantify your success as a father and a husband. And so playing 30 minutes with your kid,
00:43:35.180
playing basketball for 30 minutes with your kid. That's a, that's a metric you can measure
00:43:40.220
and you should measure it. Like, Hey, I played 30 minutes. So this week we, we spent two hours in
00:43:47.460
the driveway this week. Okay, good. Next week. See if you can do two and a half hours, right? Or you can
00:43:53.900
say, all right, we got three meals a day, uh, seven days a week. That's 21 meals this week.
00:44:00.540
We had 10 meals together as a family. We had every dinner together as a family. We had a few
00:44:06.360
lunches together as a family. And we did two breakfasts as a family. So we did 10, 10 out of
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21. Can we do 11 next week? I think we can do 11. Let's try to do 11. And so you can find things that
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you can quantify and put metrics to with your, with your wife. You want to have a good relationship
00:44:24.860
with her? Look, I went through a divorce. And so people say, well, who are you to say? I'm just
00:44:29.660
telling you what I wish I would have done. And one thing I wish I would have done is had more of these
00:44:34.780
conversations instead of zoning out and having a few beers at night and getting drunk. I wish I would
00:44:40.160
have talked to her and I could say, okay, my wife and I had a great conversation for 20 minutes tonight
00:44:45.440
about how her day went and how my day went or, you know, what, what the rest of our week looks like,
00:44:50.840
or, you know, what she's excited about for Christmas. And so 20 minutes. So I would write
00:44:56.180
that in my journal, 20 minute talk with my wife. And then you look at your journal on Sunday and
00:45:00.420
you're like, you know, I spent, I, I talked with my wife for, for three hours this week,
00:45:05.900
specifically about like just her and I undivided three hours worth of time. Can I get four hours next
00:45:12.480
week? Yeah. I think I'm going to try that. And I wish I would have done things like that
00:45:17.040
because then that allows us as men to quantify. And sometimes people will say things like, well,
00:45:23.260
that's disingenuous. Um, you know, you should just do it. That sounds all fine and great,
00:45:29.780
but that doesn't work. So anything that we care about, we invest in and we quantify it and we track
00:45:39.340
it and we measure it. And then we look for ways to improve. You could look at it with sex. Hey,
00:45:46.020
I want to be more intimate with my wife. So last week we had sex once. That's not enough for me.
00:45:53.180
So next week will be five seconds. That's right. So I want to have more sex with my wife. Okay.
00:46:00.180
That's fair. I think most guys listening would, would probably fall into that camp. Like I'd like
00:46:04.980
to have more sex with my wife. Okay. What does that take? Well, I got to take her out. You know,
00:46:11.260
I can't just show up naked, you know, looking like an orangutan at the end of the bed, thinking that
00:46:15.940
she's going to be turned on and want me to jump her bones. Right. So, okay. Well, date night.
00:46:22.440
I've noticed that if I take my wife out on a date and I take her to this particular restaurant and we
00:46:27.720
laugh and we play and we have a few drinks, if that's your thing, or we go, you know, bowling or go see a
00:46:33.300
movie or go see a play, the odds of me getting lucky improve. It's like, why wouldn't you document
00:46:39.820
that? And so if you want to have more sex, maybe do that two nights a week instead of one night.
00:46:46.000
The point I'm making here is that whatever you want to get better in your life, you have to measure
00:46:52.600
it. And this is our battle planner. I have it on my desk because I go through it every day. And the
00:46:58.720
first quote on there, I don't know if people can see right there. That first quote is this,
00:47:05.340
that which is measured improves that which is measured improves. So the reason you're so good
00:47:12.760
at work, like most guys are, is because you think that's your job that you think that's your only job
00:47:17.420
and you know what you need to do. So you do it, but at home, you don't measure it like you do at work.
00:47:23.680
And that's a different and differentiating factor. Excellent. And we were up on time. So
00:47:31.000
we'll go ahead and wrap you good. Yeah. I mean, anything you want to add to that? I've got a
00:47:35.480
minute or two. If you, um, no, I mean, I, I always use the analogy, you know, we're talking about
00:47:41.160
hunting, you know, but I always use the analogy of like shooting arrows too. It's not fun. It's not
00:47:46.260
just fun when you don't track. Like we, you and I would never go out to a field and just say, Hey,
00:47:51.400
what's sling arrows down that way. It sounds so dumb after the first arrow, you'd be like,
00:47:58.220
okay, why are we even doing this? Yeah. Right. But if you went out there and you painted like a red
00:48:03.140
circle and you're like, let's see if we could drop it into the red circle changes the game,
00:48:07.180
right. It makes the shooting the arrow more enjoyable. So, and that's what tracking does.
00:48:16.040
Obviously we get results that way, but we get, but we enjoy it a little bit more because we actually
00:48:20.260
know like that, that we're working towards something right. That we're on a path of growth
00:48:26.300
and improvement and there's purpose and fulfillment in just doing that act. Even sometimes, even if we
00:48:33.500
fell at it. Yeah. Yep. I look at guys like Cam Haynes, you know, that guy shoots every day, every
00:48:41.900
day he shoots. But if you watch him, his videos, like he's shooting at 120 yards. Is he going to shoot
00:48:47.940
an elk at 120 yards? I mean, maybe, but I'd be willing to bet that he'd like to be closer to 60 to 80
00:48:55.020
yards, but he shoots at 120 yards because he wants to prove he can do it. And then not only that, he puts
00:49:00.960
a balloon out and he tries to hit the balloon. This is exactly what we're saying. So this is a guy
00:49:06.240
that does something every single day. And yet he finds little ways to try to improve by measuring
00:49:13.020
it and making it more enjoyable by hitting, you know, a six inch, eight inch inflated balloon at 120
00:49:21.260
yards. Yeah. This is the same concept. And it's interesting to play with this thought a little
00:49:26.680
bit. Like I think about jujitsu, right? Like what's the measure for jujitsu? The measure is
00:49:30.820
open map. Yeah. Is this working? Can I, can I actually catch someone in a Kimura? Can I do
00:49:37.060
this mission? Does it actually work? Can I escape? It's a measurement. Not everyone goes open map
00:49:42.260
though. And it's because, because they don't want to face, is it actually working either? So I think
00:49:48.760
there's a human tendency to go, Hey, I'm doing fine, but I'm not going to track. Right. Cause I may
00:49:54.980
not want to face the music and go, you know, maybe I, maybe I'm not as good as I think I am.
00:50:00.420
Right. Maybe it's not actually working. Right. And, and so I'm going to feel good in just showing up,
00:50:05.940
but I'm not going to measure it as much because I don't want to deal in reality. And I think there
00:50:11.500
might be a little bit of tendency that we might have there as well.
00:50:14.840
I had, um, I actually had a really interesting experience several weeks ago. I went to train with
00:50:19.260
Tanner Guzzi. A lot of guys know Tanner, you know, got Tanner. He came down. He's like, Hey,
00:50:23.000
do you want to go train jujitsu? I'm like, yeah, I'd love to. So we went and trained and I was
00:50:26.600
looking forward to just like training with him, like him and I rolling in this, uh, this woman
00:50:31.320
comes up and she's kind of a smaller little thing. And she's like, Hey, can I train with you guys?
00:50:35.960
It was Saturday. So it was open mat only. There was no instructions, just open mat. And I'm kind of
00:50:40.520
like, Oh, you know, like this woman, she's little, like, and, and I'm like, yeah, come train with us.
00:50:46.360
And she goes and gets her gi and she's a Brown belt. I'm like, Oh shit. Like, okay. Like this could get
00:50:52.380
interesting. So I like how she asked without the belt first. She asked me without the belt. She had
00:50:57.820
her, she had her gi pants on and a rash guard, but she didn't have her top or her belt on.
00:51:02.860
And so she comes and she's got her Brown belt on and I've got 60 pounds on her, like easy 60 pounds,
00:51:09.740
maybe more. Yeah. And I could not submit her. And she said something interesting to me and she wasn't
00:51:17.080
rude about it. She couldn't submit me. Uh, no, I think she had just moved there or she was from
00:51:24.320
Hawaii and she was either visiting or had just moved there. And, and she, she said something
00:51:30.520
interesting. She couldn't submit me cause I have 70 pounds. Like she could grab my, I could give her
00:51:35.600
my arm and she probably still couldn't do anything with it. Right. Yeah. And so I couldn't submit her
00:51:41.180
cause she's way too technical. She couldn't submit me cause she just didn't have the size.
00:51:45.480
And she said something interesting. She's like, Hey, I think when we roll next, we should just
00:51:52.240
flow. She's like, because that last time we rolled didn't serve either of us.
00:51:58.820
Like stalemating almost. Yeah. We stalemated. She's like, I couldn't do anything against you
00:52:03.900
cause you're way bigger than me. And you couldn't do anything against me because you're just not
00:52:08.360
as skilled to be able to do anything. So let's just flow. Yeah. And I was like, Oh, that's cool.
00:52:14.480
So that's exactly what we did. The next time we rolled her and I just, we just flowed and you
00:52:20.640
caught me here, let her go. I caught her there, let her go. And I was like, Oh, that's, that's
00:52:26.240
actually really cool. Like it was cool of her to say that because she recognized me just laying on
00:52:31.520
top of her. Isn't going to help her. It's not going to help me. So she came up with a solution
00:52:37.420
that would serve both of us. I don't know. I just thought it was a pretty cool experience and it was a
00:52:42.440
way for us to just engage in something that served both of us. Yeah. Yeah. I like that.
00:52:48.400
I like that. All right, sir. Well, as always, you can connect with us on Facebook. That's
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Mickler. That's right. All right, guys. Appreciate you. Um, hopefully next week is a little better
00:54:48.820
for me and I don't have as many gripe story. Your first world problems. Yeah. Yeah. Hopefully,
00:54:56.300
uh, I don't hurt myself. Pickle ball anymore. Pickle ball. I got to come up with a better story
00:55:02.340
than that. Yeah. That'd be embarrassing to say. Jiu Jitsu, that chick, that Brown belt, like
00:55:06.880
twisted my leg. She, she, he hooked me and I didn't tap and snap my knee and calf and everything
00:55:13.220
else. All right. Well, anyways, guys, you have a great day. Uh, we'll be back on Friday until
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