Order of Man - July 12, 2024


Be Strong in a Weak World ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

Topics
strengthening resilience men and masculinity emotional development strength
Hosted by
Ryan Michler
Mentioned
Ryan Mickler
Secrets to Thriving Relationships ｜ ASK ME ANYTHING CLINT EMERSON ｜ Trump's Assassination Attempt and Preparing for the Worst

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As a man, it's our job to protect, provide, and preside over others. That's a noble calling, and it's worthy of the pursuit. But it's also important to develop the mental, physical, and emotional fortitude to deal with all that life has to deal you.

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00:00:00.000 stop complaining. Just stop. I know things are hard. I know things can be challenging. I know
00:00:05.980 life doesn't always go your way. I know you might find yourself in a really uncomfortable situation.
00:00:11.420 I know the hike that you might be on might be hot. I know that your boss might be an asshole. 1.00
00:00:16.180 The more you complain, the more you validate your weakness. You're justifying and rationalizing 1.00
00:00:21.600 why you're not doing what you want to be doing. You're telling yourself it's hard. You're making
00:00:26.620 it harder than it needs to be. Man, we don't complain. You're a man of action. You live life
00:00:32.920 to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path. When life knocks you down,
00:00:37.820 you get back up one more time. Every time. You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged.
00:00:44.320 Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:50.540 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:56.620 Man, as you may know, we live in a world of increasing weakness, increasing softness,
00:01:03.420 and fortunately, in the ease of our modern times, we've been able to get away with it
00:01:08.200 for the most part. But when we're confronted with something challenging or something confrontational
00:01:14.420 or maybe even a life and death situation, you're going to find out very quickly
00:01:18.360 if you're prepared to deal with all that life has to deal you. I get so frustrated when I see
00:01:28.280 so many people taking the path of least resistance and believing that nothing's ever going to happen
00:01:34.180 or finding themselves in a very dangerous and wanting position when it does. And I'm talking about
00:01:40.320 divorce, loss of a loved one, medical complications, losing a job, getting into a car accident, getting sued.
00:01:49.040 There are so many things that can happen to us. And unless we develop the mental, physical, and emotional
00:01:54.620 fortitude to deal with these things when they arise, we will be wanting and will also ensure that the people
00:02:01.340 we love and care about, our friends and family members and communities and neighbors, are going to be
00:02:06.820 in a bad position as well. So today, I'm going to share with you five things that you can do to strengthen
00:02:12.400 your mental, physical, and emotional resilience and toughness. And we're going to address those things
00:02:19.240 because as a man, it's our job to protect, provide, and preside. That's a noble calling. It's worthy of the
00:02:28.240 pursuit. None of us have it completely figured out, but it is something that we all ought to pursue. And only strong
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00:03:28.680 All right, guys, let's get into this. I'm sorry. I thought I had my notes pulled up here. Let me move
00:03:34.380 this around a little. What happened to my notes? There we go. All right. The reason that this came
00:03:40.040 up for me is I had a really interesting conversation, so to speak, on Instagram the other day. Not really
00:03:46.300 a conversation, just everybody yelling at each other and shouting over each other and everything
00:03:50.160 else. And this woman had made a comment. I had made a comment about men in women's locker rooms 1.00
00:03:56.500 and this person who, a man trying to swim with the women's swim team in college. So I'd made some
00:04:06.840 comments about women need to stand up for themselves. I mean, that's the reality of it. You know, men do
00:04:13.600 as well. But the reality is, is that unless women stand up for their sports, they're going to continue 1.00
00:04:19.020 to have this happen. And two things can exist at once. Men ought to step up and do what we need to do
00:04:24.600 to keep the women in our lives safe. And also, you know, women, you need to step up too. And I said
00:04:30.120 something about the concept of equality and wanting equal rights, and that's all fine and great. But
00:04:35.420 sometimes when it comes to responsibility, it's like all of a sudden the tune changes. So I'd made
00:04:40.580 some comments about that. And this woman, I assume, she said that my language was abusive language. 1.00
00:04:50.180 Nothing about what I said was abusive. I wasn't mocking or belittling anyone. I wasn't verbally
00:04:59.960 abusing anyone. It wasn't anything with that. But this is the kind of stuff that you hear when we
00:05:06.300 grow into this increasingly soft and weak society. The other one you often hear is, words are violence.
00:05:12.560 No, they're not. They're words. Violence is violence. If somebody's doing something to you,
00:05:17.520 or I would say maybe words can be violent if somebody's actively calling for violence towards
00:05:22.840 you. Okay, I would lump that into that category. But for the most part, words are not violent.
00:05:28.740 For the most part, words are not abusive. They can. But I think it's really important that we
00:05:33.400 acknowledge that not everything is a big deal. And not everything is dramatic as it needs to be.
00:05:40.460 There's a real problem with people getting increasingly weak. And then what ends up happening,
00:05:45.080 and I think this is part of the grand design, is that we as weak citizens need to then what?
00:05:51.800 Rely on big daddy government. And that's the point. Make you weak, make you desperate, make you broke,
00:05:57.820 make you pathetic, make you cowardly. Don't allow you guys to band as men and people together in 1.00
00:06:03.140 communities because the more the government can keep you weak and soft and pathetic, the more easily 1.00
00:06:08.180 manipulated you are. So that is the antithesis of what we talk about here when it comes to protect, 0.98
00:06:14.460 provide, preside. We're looking for strength. So let's get into it. Number one is you are not in
00:06:19.560 today's society required to be strong. And that's the first thing that all of us as men need to
00:06:24.780 acknowledge and recognize is not only are we not required to be strong because other institutions
00:06:30.000 and the government will come in and quote unquote rescue us from our problems, but there are people,
00:06:34.980 and I just alluded to this, and institutions and governments who are actively working against you,
00:06:40.860 they want you to be weak. An example of that would be Big Pharma. Big Pharma is not interested
00:06:46.460 in solving your problems. They're not interested in making you healthy. They're interested in selling
00:06:50.640 you a pill that you can buy for the rest of your life so that they can make their money. And I'm a
00:06:55.560 capitalist. I believe in free markets. What we have is not a free market. So please don't think that
00:07:00.740 what we operate in currently, I believe is free. It's not. Crony capitalism at best, but significantly
00:07:07.740 worse when you start to get these governments involved in our day-to-day affairs and how we
00:07:12.280 conduct economy in our business. That's beside the point. But there are institutions actively working
00:07:19.240 to make you weak. So if you're going to be a man, then you need to wrap your mind around the fact that
00:07:26.060 you're going to do something that is not easy, convenient, comfortable, or common for other people.
00:07:32.980 Everybody's used to being sedated. Everybody's used to all the processed foods. Everybody's used to just
00:07:38.120 sitting their fat asses on the couch and watching TV and playing video games all the time. Everybody's 0.99
00:07:43.500 used to you just being kind of sad, pathetic, and mediocre. You have to make a conscious decision, 0.99
00:07:49.580 and it takes time, and it takes energy, and it takes an investment in yourself to be strong. But I
00:07:56.040 hope because you listen to this podcast, you understand that if you are to fulfill your mission
00:07:59.760 as a man, a father, a husband, a leader in your community, an owner of your business, if you are to
00:08:05.720 be an asset, then you need to buck the current system, the status quo. I remember when years ago,
00:08:13.260 when I was doing a lot of Spartan races, I'd have people mock me because I can't believe you pay to go
00:08:20.080 do this hard and difficult thing. Well, of course I would. I can't believe you wouldn't. I'm willing
00:08:26.200 to invest in myself. I'm willing to push. I'm willing to see what I'm capable and made of because
00:08:32.160 I realize that if I do, the one day where something goes wrong, all those people who complained or
00:08:39.220 griped or moaned or mocked me for doing something hard are the same people who are going to look to
00:08:44.560 me to solve their problem, to rescue them financially, to get them out of a difficult pickle
00:08:50.040 or situation, asking me for advice on how to have a hard conversation with other people. And I'm happy
00:08:55.580 to do that because I want to be an asset, but it's a little bit ironic that the people who complain 0.96
00:09:01.020 and gripe and moan and mock are the same people who are kind of pathetic and weak when the rubber meets 0.98
00:09:06.820 the road. Guys, make a decision today that part of your core, part of your standard operating system, 0.92
00:09:15.160 part of the way that you live life is that you're going to be a strong man mentally, physically,
00:09:21.060 and emotionally. And we'll talk a little bit more about that in a bit. Number two, stop complaining.
00:09:27.040 Just stop. I know things are hard. I know things can be challenging. I know life doesn't always go
00:09:33.560 your way. I know you might find yourself in a really uncomfortable situation. I know the hike
00:09:38.980 that you might be on might be hot. I know that your boss might be an asshole. I know that your 1.00
00:09:43.900 wife maybe is not giving you all the attention you feel like you deserve. I get it. I understand.
00:09:48.180 And there's some valid points to all of that, but stop complaining. The more you complain, the more
00:09:55.220 you validate your weakness. You're justifying and rationalizing why you're not doing what you want to
00:10:01.220 be doing. For example, if you're on a hike and I have to hear and listen to you cry and complain
00:10:07.260 the entire hike, you're telling yourself it's hard. You're making it harder than it needs to be.
00:10:13.020 Man, we don't complain. Now, we can acknowledge that our circumstances and that there's challenges that
00:10:19.520 we're dealing with, but the difference between complaining and addressing those is having a solution.
00:10:26.760 Or if you don't have a solution, at least be working towards creating a solution. Damn, if I don't hear 0.98
00:10:33.060 men on a daily basis, just gripe and moan and bitch about every little thing they possibly can. 1.00
00:10:38.800 These are weak people. They see life as something that's happening to them. It's working against them, 0.99
00:10:46.320 conspiring to their downfall. That's not what life is about. I think for the most part,
00:10:52.060 most of the circumstances we find ourselves in are pretty amoral, neither conspiring against you
00:10:58.500 or for you. It's just what you make of it. So yeah, your boss isn't the best boss in the world.
00:11:04.580 What are you going to do about it? Your wife and you don't have a great relationship right now. 0.52
00:11:09.460 Maybe she's being a bit moody with you or it's been a year and it's been a rough year between you
00:11:13.940 two. Okay. Damn, don't complain about it. Fix it. Acknowledge what's going on and fix it. Maybe the
00:11:21.040 economy, maybe the president, maybe this, maybe that, maybe you're dealing with some medical or
00:11:24.500 health conditions or whatever. Change your mindset to that of just acquiescing to the weakness and
00:11:30.280 the softness to, hey, you know what? I'm going to confront this the way a man I want to be would
00:11:35.120 confront it. I'm going to start coming up with solutions. I'm going to start investing in myself to
00:11:40.140 fix my own problems. I'm going to surround myself with other good men who are strong and bold and
00:11:44.840 capable and don't complain. Also don't get into gossip and nonsense because that actually makes
00:11:51.100 you weak. It's, it's actually worse than you complaining because now you're leveraging what
00:11:57.680 everybody else is feeling and experiencing and you can't control that. So if you surround yourself
00:12:03.980 with a bunch of complainers and people who gossip and make stories up and make things harder than
00:12:09.680 they need to be in life, you're going to feed off of that and it's going to impact you in a negative
00:12:14.120 way. Get rid of those influences, get rid of that own influence in your, in your mind of complaining
00:12:19.440 all the time and start being more solution oriented. Number three, this one's going to rub people the
00:12:25.580 wrong way, but I got to say it. We have to, as men, stop taking all of our advice from women and 1.00
00:12:32.180 feminine men. And I know I hear the messages. Oh, I can't believe you'd say that. You're such a
00:12:37.280 misogynist, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm not saying that women don't have a really 0.96
00:12:41.600 important role in society. And I'm not even saying that they can't offer us invaluable feedback.
00:12:47.060 There's women in my life who I honor. I cherish. I respect. I want their opinion. I want their
00:12:53.340 feedback. I have accountability from them. I love it. And also I don't get all of my advice from women, 1.00
00:13:01.100 but society is building us as men into a more feminized version of who we could be.
00:13:09.080 It's softness. And I'm not even saying that in this context in a negative way, but if you think
00:13:14.300 about the general characteristics of women versus men, typically women are going to be more compassionate,
00:13:22.360 more empathetic, more understanding, more kind, more nurturing. These traits are not bad. In fact,
00:13:30.240 if anything, they're admirable. And we, as men can incorporate some of these traits into our lives,
00:13:36.300 but if we don't get the healthy dose of the masculine on the other side of it, then we're 1.00
00:13:40.260 just going to be soft, cowardly, little pussies, frankly. So what should we do? Well, you should start 1.00
00:13:48.300 taking your advice from strong, bold, capable men. And generally speaking, what do these men do and how
00:13:55.240 do they act? Well, they're strong. They're bold. They're assertive. They take risks. They confront
00:14:03.060 challenges. They push each other. They hold each other accountable. They do not accept mediocrity
00:14:09.320 and they're strong. Think about this for a second. You look at the rate of fatherless homes and how
00:14:15.920 many boys are being raised without a father around. Couple that with the time they get to school,
00:14:20.520 four, five, six years old. From that point forward until about the time they reach age 18, it's likely
00:14:26.880 that almost exclusively the people they're spending the most amount of time with as a parental figure
00:14:33.260 is a female school teacher. And if that's the case, then they're being conditioned to believe and act a
00:14:40.300 certain way. And this is why you'll see so many men approach situations from a feminine perspective.
00:14:47.720 Again, femininity, femininity, it's a hard word to say, is nothing wrong with it. But when men start
00:14:55.360 acting overly feminine, then there's nothing to balance out the feminine approach to life and the 1.00
00:15:01.480 masculine approach to life. Our job is to be masculine. Our job is to bring a set of characteristics
00:15:09.180 and virtues to the table that women don't generally bring on their own. And alternatively, 1.00
00:15:15.680 a woman's job is to bring those characteristics that a man doesn't generally possess to help round 1.00
00:15:21.160 out the approach. The problem is, is when it's all feminine, every influence, every discussion, 0.96
00:15:28.320 every conversation, every influencer, every person in your life is a woman. And you're taking all of that 0.93
00:15:34.280 advice from them and you're going to start acting more feminine. Women will say that all the time. 1.00
00:15:38.460 Why can't guys just get along? Because that's not what we do. Women are relational. That's wonderful. 1.00
00:15:45.800 Men are directional. So of course, men are going to have more confrontation because we have things to
00:15:51.100 do. And sometimes we can align ourselves with other people, but we're going to make sure that the guy
00:15:55.700 standing next to us is going to push as hard as we are. And sometimes there's going to be somebody in
00:16:00.240 the way. And through the nature of who we are as men and women, men, of course, are going to be more
00:16:05.140 confrontational. So no, we're not always going to get along. And yes, we are going to compete. And
00:16:10.960 yes, we are going to take risks that seem silly to women. You don't need to understand it. You need 1.00
00:16:16.740 to, I would suggest, actually encourage it and foster it. Now there's unhealthy ways to do it.
00:16:22.580 And I'm not saying that we take unnecessary risks at the expense of other people, or we do dumb things,
00:16:27.180 or we run around picking fights or taking advantage of people. We could certainly go that route with our
00:16:32.860 masculine characteristics. I'm talking about using those for the positive benefit of yourself and the
00:16:38.700 people around you. So who are your male influences? Who are your brothers? Not just your biological
00:16:44.940 brothers, but the men in your corner, your band of brothers. Who do you hang out with at work?
00:16:50.660 What kind of podcast and information do you consume and listen to? Is it coming from the kind of men that
00:16:56.760 you want to be? And if not, you probably ought to add that to your equation because short of saying
00:17:00.780 you're going to pick it up by osmosis, you're definitely going to be influenced by the people
00:17:06.280 who you're hearing the most from. So that's number three. Number four, do the uncomfortable thing.
00:17:14.080 You know, there's a quote that's going around and I'll probably butcher it, but what you want most is
00:17:18.560 found on the other side of discomfort, right? Or what you want most is found where you're least willing
00:17:24.160 to look. Variations of that. I think that's true because we are biologically hardwired and conditioned
00:17:30.980 to avoid the things that might put us in a dangerous and compromising situation, a vulnerable
00:17:36.440 situation. So we shy away from those things. We don't go do the challenging Spartan race like I was
00:17:43.560 talking about earlier. When there's an opportunity to speak in public, we don't do it because we don't
00:17:48.360 want to be found out or feel dumb or ostracized from the group. So what do we do? We cower. We shy
00:17:56.260 away. We miss those opportunities. And in the next breath, we say, oh man, I wish those opportunities
00:18:01.180 would come to me. Well, they're there. They're available. They're present. The problem is you're
00:18:07.560 not taking advantage of them because they're scary and they're uncomfortable. I would also suggest that a lot
00:18:14.420 of the times I hear from guys who need to have a very difficult conversation with a spouse, for
00:18:19.980 example, or a client or an employee or some sort of coworker or maybe even a boss or supervisor and
00:18:28.420 they won't have it. But how many times have you had that situation where you need to have this
00:18:32.900 conversation and you procrastinate and you put it off because you know it's going to be uncomfortable
00:18:36.980 and difficult and scary and then you have it and it's like this burden has been unreleased from you.
00:18:43.760 You've been unshackled from these chains that you put on yourself. Have the difficult conversation.
00:18:50.000 So what does it look like in the three realms I'm talking about here? Again, physical, mental,
00:18:54.120 and emotional. Physical is pretty easy. Get up, get your butt to the gym, go train jujitsu, go for a run,
00:19:00.380 be active, sign up for one of these events, really challenge and push yourself physically. I think most men 0.52
00:19:06.980 get that naturally. Whether they do it or not is a different story, but that one's a pretty easy one.
00:19:11.540 Mentally, it's to push yourself into new areas. So this might be learning a new skill.
00:19:21.900 Investing or engaging in a hobby or a pursuit or an activity that you know you're terrified of.
00:19:27.320 For example, several weeks ago, we went skydiving. I don't like planes, number one, and I'm not
00:19:34.880 particularly fond of heights. But this is something that we went and did. And that was hard for me
00:19:41.000 mentally, but I had to figure out how to do it. Physically, it wasn't hard, but mentally, it was
00:19:45.880 very difficult for me. This is the kind of thing I'm talking about. The more you can engage in those
00:19:50.620 things that scare you and freak you out and make you feel uncomfortable, the better off you're going
00:19:55.200 to be. So do those from a mental perspective. From an emotional perspective, how can you get
00:20:01.560 stronger? I think the best thing that you can do is counter to what I hear a lot of guys talk about,
00:20:07.040 even subconsciously, about be stoic. And by the way, there's a misconception about stoicism. We
00:20:12.940 might get into that. Be stoic. Suppress your emotions. Don't bring it up. Don't talk about it.
00:20:18.380 I disagree. I think what we ought to do is we ought to acknowledge how we're feeling. If you're feeling
00:20:24.760 sad, that's okay. If you're feeling down or upset or hurt or angry or jealous or resentful,
00:20:31.760 those are all okay. I've said this countless times. There's no negative emotions. People equate anger,
00:20:38.280 for example, with negativity. I don't think it is. Now there's a difference because the way you react
00:20:44.100 and respond to the emotion you're feeling could potentially be bad, right? So if I'm angry because
00:20:53.860 something didn't go my way with work, for example, and I decide, you know what? I'm going to punch a 0.92
00:20:59.340 hole in that wall or even worse, punch another person just because that's a improper response 1.00
00:21:06.200 to the anger that I have. Why is it improper? Because it doesn't help me and it doesn't help
00:21:11.500 anybody else. And that's how you know if it's proper or not. Alternatively, I could be mad about
00:21:16.760 that situation. And instead of punching the wall, maybe I go for a walk. Maybe I go work out or a run.
00:21:22.860 I do something physical that seems to help me. And then I come back to my desk and I start to
00:21:28.460 analyze why that went south or why that went wrong. And anger is okay because it's going to drive me
00:21:35.640 to doing something better. So anger is not wrong. But the problem is most guys don't want to be angry,
00:21:43.340 for example. And so they think, I'm just not going to be angry. I'm just not going to be sad.
00:21:48.800 I'm just not going to be hurt. Well, good luck with that because it's just not possible.
00:21:55.220 Instead, what I would suggest from an emotional development of strength is start to sit with the
00:22:00.380 way that you feel. And specifically, don't respond. See how long you can sit in your anger.
00:22:07.840 See how long you can sit in your sadness or your sorrow. I'm not going to tell you to wallow in it
00:22:12.280 because we want to come out of it at some point. But the other thing that I do, and I'll show you
00:22:16.880 here, is I've got this journal right here. I've got this journal in my desk where if I'm feeling
00:22:24.420 a way and I don't quite know how to process it, I'm not going to just stuff it down. I need to get
00:22:30.700 rid of it. I need to, whether it's vocalize it or some way to externalize what I'm feeling. And so
00:22:38.940 what I do is I just go ahead in here and I write down the way I'm feeling. No solution necessarily.
00:22:44.320 No expectation that I need to walk away with a perfect answer. But getting it out of my head
00:22:48.680 and getting it down onto paper externalizes it. And it really, a lot of times, makes it less
00:22:52.920 relevant. I found myself being upset or frustrated about something and I write it down and all of a
00:22:58.200 sudden it seems less important than it did before I got it out of my head. So sit with the way you
00:23:05.260 feel. Don't suppress. Don't stuff it down. Externalize it. Sit with it. And certainly don't
00:23:12.560 respond until you're ready to appropriately respond to the way that you're feeling. These
00:23:17.780 are the ways that we get strong physically, mentally, and emotionally. And guys, the last
00:23:22.540 thing here is you just have to practice being bold and assertive. Again, I go back to having
00:23:28.580 a difficult conversation or maybe even setting and establishing boundaries or having an opinion.
00:23:34.060 How many of you have an opinion but you're unwilling or at least you're afraid to express
00:23:40.340 that opinion because you're worried about how you might be perceived or how somebody might
00:23:45.180 take it? You're not responsible for that. What I will say is you're responsible if you're
00:23:49.760 communicating with other people for delivering your feedback or your opinion in a respectful,
00:23:57.720 proper way. That's one thing you don't hear a whole lot about when we talk about these
00:24:02.680 conversations. Just say whatever you want to say and F what everybody else thinks. I don't
00:24:07.940 think that's appropriate either. Because for example, if I want to share an opinion with
00:24:12.200 my girlfriend or I want to share an opinion with my kids, if I yell at them about it or I 0.79
00:24:19.080 make them feel stupid about their opinion and how mine's better or mine's right, I'm undermining
00:24:25.640 my credibility and influence with them. And I want credibility and influence. Those people 0.98
00:24:29.960 matter in my life. So you can have an opinion. You can establish boundaries. But there's a tactful
00:24:36.760 way to do it. And that takes practice. And you'll learn through feedback of others what works,
00:24:42.540 what people respond to, and what they don't. But if you're not practicing being bold, being
00:24:47.620 assertive, not just in your words, but when you see problems, go fix them. If something
00:24:53.740 comes up at work, for example, and it's not getting done, step into it. Lean into that.
00:25:01.780 We talked about opportunities earlier. Those opportunities will come up to the person who
00:25:05.640 takes initiative. Now, we as men are problem-solving machines. I should say problem-identifying
00:25:12.620 machines. I don't know if we're problem-solving machines by default, but problem-identifying,
00:25:17.060 absolutely. So everywhere you go, you're going to see, oh, that's a problem, that's a problem,
00:25:21.140 that's a problem. This should be addressed. This should be dealt with. Well, that's an
00:25:25.720 opportunity for you. So you start to figure out how you're going to deal with it appropriately
00:25:30.040 and be the kind of man that you want to be, and you'll be presented with more opportunities.
00:25:34.820 So men, that's how you get stronger. That's how you develop strength. That's how you overcome
00:25:40.540 the weakness of modernity by doing these things. Again, realize it's a choice that you have to make
00:25:47.280 to be strong. Number two, stop complaining. Number three, stop taking all of your advice
00:25:51.780 from females and from feminine men. Number four, do the uncomfortable thing physically, 0.98
00:25:58.280 mentally, and emotionally. And number five, practice being bold and assertive. You do this
00:26:02.320 day in and day out, and you commit to being a strong man, you will be a strong man, and you will
00:26:07.080 get stronger. People will acknowledge it, and more opportunities will be afforded to you,
00:26:11.140 and you will be the kind of man that your community, your family, your business, and every other
00:26:15.260 aspect of life need you to be. Guys, that's all I've got for you today. I hope you have a great
00:26:20.300 weekend. If you have other ideas on how to build up your mental, physical, and emotional strength
00:26:24.880 and fortitude, please share those with me on Instagram at Ryan Mickler. Take a screenshot, let
00:26:30.680 people know what you're listening to, and let's get the word of this grassroots movement, Order of
00:26:36.100 Man, of reclaiming and restoring masculinity out to the masses. Again, check out my friends over at
00:26:41.120 Montana Knife Company. And the last thing I want to tell you is I've got a new course that's
00:26:45.160 going to be coming out in Q4 called Divorce Not Death, where we're going to walk you through the
00:26:49.760 first 12 months of divorce and or separation and help you navigate all that you need to
00:26:55.520 navigate as you're dealing with this very difficult time. Not only am I going to be sharing some of my
00:27:00.420 own personal story and things I've learned over the past year and a half to two years, but I'm also
00:27:05.520 bringing experts in from legal experts to relational experts to financial experts to help those men
00:27:11.480 dealing with that navigate those difficult waters. If you want to know more about that, we're going
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00:27:30.380 weekend. Go out there, take action, be strong, and become the man you are meant to be.
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00:27:50.180 We'll see you next time.