Order of Man - Become a Force Multiplier ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:04.880 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.180 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:16.800 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.240 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Mickler.

00:00:27.040 I'm your host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast. Welcome here and welcome back.

00:00:32.800 Today, I want to talk about becoming a force multiplier. A force multiplier, if I can say

00:00:39.840 that correctly, is a man who is able to think big picture, a man who's able to get beyond himself,

00:00:47.720 who's able to impact more people than he could if he thought he had to go at it alone. It's the

00:00:52.920 antithesis of the lone wolf mentality, the guy who believes that he has to do it all or believes

00:00:57.800 that if, quote, you want it done right, you have to do it yourself. We're going to talk about how to

00:01:03.280 empower others. We're going to talk about how to make sure other people are buying into your vision

00:01:08.160 and your mission, and they have the tools and resources they need to thrive, but also for you

00:01:12.440 to help you expand your mission and your contribution to the world. So, I'll get to that in just a minute.

00:01:17.540 If you want to know more about this topic, you can check out my book, The Masculinity Manifesto,

00:01:23.220 How a Man Establishes Influence, Credibility, and Authority. I talk quite a bit about becoming a

00:01:28.020 force multiplier in that in some roundabout ways and some direct ways as well. You can also check

00:01:32.800 out our free Battle Ready program, which is a series of 17 emails over the course of 30 days that

00:01:39.820 are going to help you define your vision, cast your vision, think about tactics and objectives you

00:01:45.340 want to complete over the next 90 days and really gear you up for a powerful, powerful 2023. We got

00:01:53.200 to think about that now. What we do now is what's going to determine what December and January is

00:01:57.880 going to look like in our lives. So, with that said, let's talk about becoming a force multiplier.

00:02:03.220 Now, I very first heard this concept, this subject, when I moved here to Maine,

00:02:07.960 I had the opportunity to spend some time with Border Patrol on the northern border of Maine,

00:02:15.460 and they talked about the concept of becoming a force multiplier or having assets and technology

00:02:20.860 that would allow them to expand their capabilities above and beyond just the agents they had at their

00:02:26.880 disposal. So, there were cameras, fencing is a force multiplier in the border patrol world,

00:02:32.640 helicopters, different technology that they have available that will allow them to cover a wider

00:02:38.800 range and be more proficient in their objective of securing our borders, even though they may not

00:02:45.660 have the adequate manpower to do it. It's a very, very strong concept. And I thought about how it might

00:02:51.840 apply in our own personal lives. We have so much that we want to do, so much that we want to accomplish.

00:02:57.960 We have our family, we have our business, we have our own personal pursuits and desires,

00:03:02.340 and it seems like more often than not, we don't have enough time throughout the day to accomplish

00:03:07.280 all that we want to accomplish. If we could just have a few more hours, and I would argue that even

00:03:13.080 if we did have a few more hours, we probably wouldn't get much more done if we didn't learn

00:03:17.940 the concepts that I'm going to share with you today. So, becoming a force multiplier is getting

00:03:23.340 outside of yourself, getting out of your own way, and really leveraging the tools, the people,

00:03:28.440 the assets, the technology that you have available and at your disposal to accomplish more in your

00:03:34.000 life. So, let's talk about this. These are not in any particular order. Number one, you have to drop

00:03:39.300 your ego, right? All of us are emotional creatures. All of us, especially as men, want to be propped up,

00:03:46.940 want to be lifted up. We want the accolades. We want the notoriety. We want the recognition that comes

00:03:51.800 with doing everything on our own. And we don't want anybody else to get the credit. We don't want

00:03:58.020 anybody else interjecting. We think that if we want it done right, that we have to do it ourselves,

00:04:03.240 and nobody can do it as good as us. And those are all very ego-driven concepts. They're ego-driven

00:04:09.980 ideas and ideologies. And they're dangerous because you're only one man. You only have 24 hours in a day,

00:04:17.560 and you can't get more hours, but you actually can. And the way that you get more hours out of the day

00:04:23.280 is you start to empower other people to do things that you shouldn't be doing.

00:04:28.600 Now, there are things you should be doing. Relationships, your fitness, your health,

00:04:34.620 finances. There are things, of course, you should be doing, but there's other things that you can have

00:04:39.140 other people do, and that's going to help you recapture the day. So, a small example,

00:04:43.860 we're getting ready for an event right now. It's called the main event. And downstairs are my four

00:04:49.420 children. And they're all working on different parts of the business. My oldest son is filling

00:04:55.620 orders right now from our store, which you can find at store.orderatman.com. So, he's doing that.

00:05:01.340 My youngest is wiping down with wet wipes the seats, cleaning the seats off and the chairs for the

00:05:06.000 event. My daughter is doing some vacuuming and picking up leaves and debris and dust that was on the

00:05:11.620 floor from our last event. And my second son, because he's technologically driven,

00:05:17.160 is setting up the sound system. I trained him how to do that. He's setting up the sound system.

00:05:21.220 And now here I am in my office doing this work, doing a podcast. We are a force multiplier. I'm

00:05:27.820 not down there doing that work. I think probably I could do most of it better than they can, but that

00:05:34.520 would be my ego talking. And that gets in the way of allowing us to do more and to accomplish more.

00:05:39.660 Number two is we have to empower others. So, once we identify that our ego is getting in the way

00:05:46.320 and that we want all the praise and the accolades and the notoriety that comes from doing it ourselves,

00:05:51.520 we have to now empower other people to do that. So, how do we do that? We train them. We teach them.

00:05:59.520 We care about them. We celebrate when they win. We let them take credit where it's due,

00:06:04.780 of course. We let them participate in the accolades and the notoriety and the things that come from it.

00:06:12.540 And we create a team. We give them the tools and the training and the resources. We give them the

00:06:18.580 opportunities to thrive. Now, they might fail and that's okay. It's bound to happen, but we can train

00:06:24.740 them. We can coach them. We can educate them and we can lift them up and prop them up. But guys, as men,

00:06:29.740 if we want to be forced multipliers in the world, we need to empower our spouses, empower our children, 0.69

00:06:35.600 empower our teammates and employees and colleagues and coworkers and friends and other people.

00:06:40.660 It's the old adage of teaching a man to fish versus giving him a fish. Of course, if you teach

00:06:45.920 and not only teach, but invest in your people, they're going to be able to do a better job.

00:06:52.400 I have a couple of people that work for me in particular that help with our email newsletter,

00:06:56.380 which you can find at orderman.com. And also, so that's Ron Inman. And then we also have Chad

00:07:02.040 Robeson who does the podcast editing and video production. These are guys who do a wonderful job.

00:07:07.800 And I've told both of them explicitly, if you need a course, if you want to take a program,

00:07:13.720 if there's an investment you need to make in a technology or a course that you want to make

00:07:17.660 available to yourself, just let me know what it is and I'll pay for it. I'll cover the cost of that

00:07:23.400 because two reasons. It makes their job easier, which means they're going to put out better quality

00:07:29.940 content that helps me and it helps you guys. And it also helps them. If at some point they

00:07:34.740 stop working with me and they go on and do bigger and better things, I don't care. In fact, well,

00:07:39.760 I do care. I care that they have that information and that working with me for a period of time

00:07:45.520 made their life better. And they could take what they learned from me and go out into the world and

00:07:50.100 do something completely different. That's how we empower people. And when you empower people that

00:07:54.860 way, they're going to work harder, they're going to do a better job, and they're going to help

00:07:58.760 contribute to your mission. Number three, we have to consider that it's our job to render ourselves

00:08:06.420 obsolete. I talk about that in my new book, The Masculinity Manifesto, but it is your job to put

00:08:12.300 yourself out of work. I specifically think about this in the context of my children. I really want my

00:08:17.940 children to be able to thrive and be independent and self-reliant regardless of what I do and how

00:08:23.780 I can contribute down the road. Now, I always want to be wanted. I want to be enjoyed being around,

00:08:30.260 but at some point I need them to be able to go out on their own and have confidence that they can do

00:08:35.180 that. We need to put ourselves out of work. And we do that by dropping the ego, by empowering other

00:08:41.540 people. And the last component is to train to replace. Train people to replace you.

00:08:48.980 You don't want to be doing the same thing over and over and over and over and over again for the

00:08:55.400 next 10, 15, 20, 30 years. I hope that you want to get better. And I hope that you want to improve.

00:09:03.100 But here's the thing. And I notice this a lot in the career arena is guys won't replace or train to

00:09:10.320 replace themselves because they think that they don't have anywhere to go. Let me flip this on

00:09:15.100 its head. What if the reason you aren't getting promoted or you aren't excelling or graduating or

00:09:20.620 improving or getting better is because your higher-ups, your boss, don't have anybody to replace you?

00:09:27.720 If on the other hand, you decide, well, I'm going to train these individuals to do my job really well,

00:09:33.880 you think they're going to replace you. That's a scarcity mindset. Now they might because that's what

00:09:37.980 you're doing, but all you're doing is giving yourself an opportunity for upward trajectory,

00:09:42.620 upward momentum. And some of you guys might be saying, well, that's not available in my career

00:09:47.820 or my company. It may not be, but I promise you, if you can be one that empowers and trains other

00:09:54.160 people, other opportunities are going to present themselves where you're going to be able to step

00:09:58.840 into. And you're going to be able to do that confidently because you know you're not leaving

00:10:02.440 anybody high and dry. So if you have a colleague, a friend, a client, a coworker, whoever it might be,

00:10:08.200 never be afraid of training them to replace you. Now you might not be needed in that job anymore

00:10:15.700 because that other person can do it, but that gives you opportunities to do something bigger,

00:10:21.100 better, grander, and helps you evolve into new things. You might even create a new job for yourself

00:10:27.900 as a trainer within the entire organization. Guys that train other people, they are indispensable

00:10:35.280 because there's not very many of them. So there's a book, I think it's called So Good. Let's see,

00:10:40.800 by Cal Newport. So Good They Can't Ignore You, Making Yourself Indispensable. Seth Godin, I believe,

00:10:46.920 wrote another one called Linchpin. Guys, these are great books on the subject of training other people

00:10:51.800 and being so good that other people can't ignore you. All right. The next one, this is very important.

00:10:59.540 A lot of people overlook this. Observe people's strengths. Observe people's strengths. When they

00:11:06.260 say things, when they do things, when they exhibit some behavior, look for their strengths. I'll give you

00:11:14.200 a great example. Brandy, she does a lot for us here at Order of Man. She does our podcast scheduling. 0.85

00:11:19.260 She helps me with logistical planning and travel. She helps me keep things organized.

00:11:23.900 She does an incredible job. Well, the reason that she started working here with us is because I

00:11:29.160 recognize how good she is with connecting with other influential people. I recognize that. I

00:11:35.180 acknowledge that about her. And I asked if she would help do that here. And she said, yes.

00:11:39.620 Now her role has expanded and grown into different capacities. But the point I'm making is that you have

00:11:44.660 to look for where people exhibit strengths and then to go back to a previous point, empower them to step

00:11:50.720 into that. Because people are going to be happy, more satisfied, more fulfilled, more productive if

00:11:57.720 you find out what their strengths are. And then you give them opportunities and you empower them to

00:12:02.880 utilize their strengths. It's going to be a win-win. They're going to win because they're going to feel

00:12:07.840 better. And they're going to be more fulfilled. You're going to win because they're going to be

00:12:12.360 more productive. And whatever your mission is, is going to be accomplished faster or greater than

00:12:17.440 you previously thought possible. And the people you're trying to serve are going to be better off

00:12:21.980 because they're getting a superior product than what they could have got before if you were so worried

00:12:26.740 about only doing it yourself. So look for people's strengths. And then as a corollary to that,

00:12:33.620 look for opportunities in your life, your business, your family dynamic, any facet of life where you can

00:12:39.640 start plugging these people in and letting them go, giving them the reins. You don't need to hold

00:12:44.720 the reins and micromanage. Let them have the reins, let them go and make your course corrections along

00:12:49.540 the way. And guys, the last one, and this is huge. This one doesn't have too much to do with people,

00:12:55.920 but more to do with technology. You need to create systems in your life using calendars, using technology,

00:13:04.780 using emails, whatever systems you can create. Notebooks, there's online note systems. The one

00:13:13.840 I use a lot is Evernote. And then I also use one that's available on my phone, but use these systems

00:13:21.000 that are available to you. If you do something and you're doing it regularly, whether it's sending out

00:13:27.200 an email that you send the same one over and over again, or some sort of podcast or audio or video

00:13:34.400 production, create a system, go into Word and do a point by point. Step one, step two, step three,

00:13:41.800 step four, step five. And why do we do this? Well, number one, it's much more efficient if you have a

00:13:46.620 system because all you have to do now is follow the system. Okay. Number two, you can begin to identify

00:13:52.680 which elements of the system are working well and which elements of the system are not working.

00:13:58.280 So you can experiment with new elements that are going to help that become a much more efficient

00:14:03.000 system. Number three, as I said earlier, in empowering and training other people to replace you,

00:14:09.300 now you can give them that system that you created and you can say, here's what I do.

00:14:15.540 A great example, Chad, who does our audio and video editing. I mentioned him earlier.

00:14:20.100 When he started doing that, I sent him documents and a video that showed exactly how I personally do

00:14:27.040 the podcast editing and video production. Now he's taken that and he's tweaked, he's adjusted,

00:14:32.160 he's made some changes to it based on his workflow, based on his knowledge and expertise. And that's

00:14:37.300 wonderful. Again, empowering him to be able to do that and not micromanaging the situation,

00:14:42.140 but it started from a system and he knew exactly where I was coming from. He knew exactly what I was

00:14:48.180 looking for. And then he took it and he ran with it. Guys, create systems, use technology,

00:14:54.860 invest in other people, invest in yourselves, invest in that technology. Whatever you invest,

00:15:01.120 we'll come back to you over and over and over again. This is some of the ways, not all of the ways,

00:15:07.420 but some of the ways that we become force multipliers for good in the lives of the people

00:15:12.380 that we love and we care about. And even in the lives of the people that we're just trying to serve

00:15:16.040 our businesses or our missions and organizations and nonprofits and everywhere else, guys, you need

00:15:21.840 to be a force multiplier. You cannot possibly accomplish it on your own. You have to do it with

00:15:28.380 the help of other people, other tools. And as a bonus, what I would say to you, and this has been

00:15:35.320 true in my life, you can take it or leave it, but having God in my corner, working to learn more

00:15:43.260 about him, learn more about the gospel. And admittedly, I haven't always been as spiritual

00:15:49.820 as I would have liked. These are things I'm trying to figure out, but there is already a system in

00:15:55.940 place. And knowing that he's in my corner and knowing that I can utilize a system, the gospel

00:16:01.940 that's been created and try to implement more of that into my life has been instrumental,

00:16:07.540 instrumental. And again, I don't want to make any qualms about it and tell you that I'm an overly

00:16:12.860 spiritual man or that I have this thing on lock. I am personally trying to figure it out, but I'll

00:16:17.740 tell you having that in my life has been very, very powerful. And I'm trying to find more of that as

00:16:25.140 well. Okay. So there's a bonus for you. Maybe the greatest bonus. All right, guys, that's what I've

00:16:29.940 got for you. You need to become a force multiplier. I hope that helps a couple of resources to do it.

00:16:34.440 Again, the masculinity manifesto, which is our book that just came out several weeks ago. You can check

00:16:39.600 that out wherever books are sold. And then also our battle ready program, which is at order of man.com

00:16:45.840 slash battle ready. All right. There you go, guys. There's your marching orders. We'll be back next

00:16:51.760 week until then go out there, take action and become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for

00:16:56.600 listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man

00:17:01.720 you are meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.

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Become a Force Multiplier ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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