00:00:46.960I'm a little banged up and sore because I have this reoccurring thought that I can actually keep up with my oldest son in athletics and feel okay about it.
00:00:56.320So, you know, I can hold my own when it comes to performance, but man, my body feels it after.
00:01:04.280So last week he challenged me to a pit.
00:01:09.320He just came over one day and he's like, dad, let's go play pickleball.
00:03:10.600Bryce Beattie, what tips and tricks do you recommend for a leader who struggles with asking questions instead of making demands and statements?
00:03:21.200What recommendations do you have for asking better questions without them seeming leading or like gotcha questions?
00:03:28.420Do you think that Bryce is talking about him being a leader or wanting another leader to be that way instead of more authoritarian in his approach?
00:04:01.200So if I'm leading you towards something, it's because I already have a predetermined outcome in my mind that I want you to adhere to, but I want to manipulate and massage you into a way of quote unquote coming up with it yourself.
00:04:24.900And I'm not talking about your physical capacity, that type of energy.
00:04:28.000I'm talking about the energy that you bring into interpersonal dynamics.
00:04:33.240So if you're on a date, for example, and you're desperate, you could say the exact same things as to the exact same woman as a man who's not desperate.
00:04:44.140And she will feed off that energy and know that, oh, this guy is just reeks of desperation.
00:04:52.180If you go into an employee-employer situation or a manager-subordinate situation and your energy is, I know the answer, I'm going to manipulate these guys to come up with a solution themselves, they're going to read that energy.
00:07:12.240And it's like, or you know what you could do is just be trustworthy.
00:07:15.880What you could do is actually just believe in people and shift your mindset and be rooted with proper intent.
00:07:23.600And then the tactics aren't tactics of manipulation.
00:07:26.840They're just tactics to help clarify how you already feel.
00:07:31.460But to your point, if our intentions are off and we're trying to do one thing that's out of alignment with the intentions that we have, people sniff it out.
00:07:39.320We know those people that are not authentic, that are lying to some extent, or they're manipulating, and there's alternative motives.
00:09:09.080But if you go interact in the real world, go to the grocery store, walking down your neighborhood, wherever, out at the ballpark at a game, the overwhelming majority of people that you come in contact with are good, decent, hardworking people.
00:09:28.400They want to provide for their family.
00:09:29.740They want to have a few experiences, and they want to be fulfilled in life, period.
00:09:33.820That's what the overwhelming majority of people want.
00:09:36.160And if you start to embrace that idea instead of looking at everything as they're just out to get me or they're only going to work as hard as their income, and you start believing that people are good and decent and have experience and have knowledge and have ideas, then I think we're more likely to not be so directive in the way we lead and more inquisitive and curious about what they might bring to the equation.
00:09:57.940A quote that comes to mind is, most critical thinking is difficult.
00:10:25.460It's way more complex than you realize.
00:10:27.560And I think, actually, to be honest with you, Ryan, is I feel often we're overly critical of people because we're overly critical with ourselves.
00:10:36.760If you're not self-aware enough to understand the elements by which drives your behavior, you're not going to have that level of empathy and open-mindedness towards others.
00:12:15.460And the other guy went and found somewhere else to rip around the lake.
00:12:18.940And it was such a cool example of just being normal.
00:12:23.800And just having a little grace, not trying to be upset or bothered by anything.
00:12:30.280And just live and let live, let people do their thing, be decent and kind to each other, and just let yourself roll with the punches.
00:12:40.240And I think that goes to what you were saying about not only affording other people grace, because the guy who was ice fishing did afford that guy grace.
00:12:47.820And the guy who was dirt biking afforded the other guy grace.
00:12:52.300And I thought it was just a great example of how men could resolve minor issues that could turn catastrophic very quickly.
00:14:42.280So not to say I haven't lost a few matches or bouts here or there, but in the grand scheme of things, I'm here.
00:14:49.900So I think that's what I'm most proud of.
00:14:52.080But, again, I want to say that if I'm not careful, it's like an unbridled Mustang out on the range running himself right off the cliff because he doesn't know how to hit the brakes.
00:15:03.060And I need to be careful of that sometimes.
00:15:05.140I need to be more aware of when should I not be relentless?
00:15:14.960Or how can I acknowledge red flags and potential threats sooner and not just go balls to the wall and maybe ease off the throttle a little bit when appropriate?
00:15:26.920And then I can press back on the throttle when I'm in a different position.
00:15:31.880So my greatest strength is probably also my greatest weakness.
00:15:42.440We're talking about, you know, our strengths in 2025 and bad habits.
00:15:48.280And I can't help but see the correlation constantly between the two things.
00:15:51.300In fact, I was even having this conversation with the wife around, you know, the pivot that I've made recently from an employment perspective.
00:15:58.040And she's like, I don't know why it took you so long.
00:16:00.400And I'm like, well, babe, as much as that's annoying to you that it took me a while to pivot, that's also my quality.
00:18:32.640So I don't want to be overly critical here, but again, the power of questions, right?
00:18:36.100Ask general questions, get broad, general answers, ask specific questions, get better, more specific answers.
00:18:42.100But, you know, I think anything in technology, actually, you know, what I would say is just look at the things that you have an affinity for, you know, just, just look at the things that you have an affinity for and try to figure out how to streamline them.
00:18:53.720So, you know, obviously you could say stocks, real estate, that sort of thing.
00:18:59.520But what I think a lot of people overlook, and I'm going to give you three questions here to ask yourself in a minute, is that you can take anything that you do and you can turn it into passive income.
00:19:07.760And, um, so here's the three questions I'd ask.
00:19:13.160Um, number one, what are you doing when time moves the fastest?
00:19:19.040What are you doing when time moves the fastest?
00:19:22.300Number two, what are people asking you for advice for repeatedly?
00:19:28.180And number three is what would you do with your time if money were not an issue?
00:19:35.240And you can't say sit around on the beach and like, no, like, give me a real answer.
00:19:40.540You could do that for a weekend, but, and then you get bored.
00:19:44.060What, what would you do with your time?
00:20:02.320And when you start asking yourself questions like that, you'll find some correlations between the three, the answers to the three questions.
00:20:11.040And when you find that merging point, then you're onto something that you might not even acknowledge in yourself that you're good at.
00:20:19.160And this is what, this is how you often know you're overlooking some natural talent.
00:20:27.020When you discount what you do, when somebody gives you a compliment.
00:20:31.480So let's say, let's say, um, to me, uh, Kip, you said, Ryan, you know, you're, you're so good at design, man.
00:21:08.200But no, I don't, I don't really feel that way, but I appreciate it.
00:21:10.620You know, you might just be trying to be humble, but I think most of the time you're discounting what you don't think is talent because you have it.
00:21:38.280Embrace that fully and ask yourself, maybe I actually am good at this.
00:21:44.100Maybe I do know a thing or two, or maybe I, I do have an art or an eye for art or marketing, or I do have the aptitude for martial arts or whatever.
00:21:53.960But if you start discounting, then, you know, you're probably overlooking a God-given talent that you should lean into a little more than you currently are.
00:22:03.960You teach other people how to do the thing.
00:22:07.960So if you're a great, if you're really good at martial arts and that's how you'd spend your time and people are asking for advice, well, you can either turn that into one-on-one coaching, group coaching, open a gym, but that's not really passive yet.
00:22:20.820You can make that passive by building the gym, having another coach come in and train.
00:22:26.660And now you're earning income when other coaches are training your students or the Gracie's are really good at this is they put together a video course on the basics of jujitsu.
00:22:38.880And so him and his brother, uh, I can't remember who it is.
00:23:14.680If you're really good at woodworking, put together a video course on the basics of woodworking and what tool, how to set up your tools and what tools you need to get started.
00:23:25.260And what's the best tools for the job and how to build your first bench and how to use a router.
00:23:31.780And I only say that cause I messed some crap up on my boat with a router the other day.
00:23:35.480And like, make a video, start posting on social media, what you're doing now.
00:23:43.020And I, I don't want the, I want you to get that out of your head.
00:23:46.020There's not a button that you can go press and you're like passive income, bing, because if that button were there, everybody would have already pressed it and it would be meaningless at this point.
00:24:04.220I had to bust my tail upfront in order to create a profitable business.
00:24:08.280And now this movement, but, um, hopefully that gets you pointed and oriented in the right direction.
00:24:14.300I mean, I, I see people have done crazy stuff.
00:24:16.640Uh, one guy that comes to mind, it's not that crazy, but it comes to mind is John Dudley.
00:24:20.420He's a world-class archer and bow hunter, and he's got incredible courses on for free.
00:24:27.280A lot of them for free called one's called the school of knock on how to begin to get into archery and bow hunting.
00:24:34.200Um, he has his own merchandise now that's somewhat passive.
00:24:39.100Uh, he's got arrows and, um, he does custom bows all because, so he used to be, he used to go around and coach people on archery around the world and travel around the world and work with Olympians and world-class archers, how to improve their archery game.
00:24:57.600And instead of doing that so much now, he turned it more into an online business, way more efficient, way more practical, and doesn't have to travel the way that he did before, which is free does time up to bow hunt.
00:25:20.500I've, you know, I've done consulting the majority of my career and I've been exposed to, let me say, a consultant is really good at identifying solutions to problems.
00:25:31.980And I have seen so many problems that are fascinating to me, like just fascinating.
00:25:38.180I remember early on in my career, I was a software developer.
00:25:41.600I ran a software development team for a firm in Phoenix.
00:25:45.000We had a client that literally built a business model on creating a blacklist of agents.
00:25:53.660Like if an agent owed money back to their previous employer, they would blacklist them.
00:26:01.520This individual would maintain the list and sell the list to other firms.
00:26:09.420He made a naughty list and people were paying massive amount of money to check the naughty list before they bought be like, literally they had clients like Prudential.
00:26:19.080They would go buy another firm and they would check their naughty list against agents as part of the purchasing, the due diligence of purchasing an insurance company.
00:26:34.960Find a problem, you know, like, and that's, that's always what I do is like, and maybe that's a little bit one-sided to this, but problems need solutions.
00:26:43.920Sometimes people dream and they're like solution.
00:26:46.400And it's like, but it's not a big enough problem.
00:27:05.180I'm a man of faith, family, and pursuit of a life with honor.
00:27:08.740I wholeheartedly believe in the mission of order of man and the values and principles of this group, but with so much in recent, recent years coming to light about government deception, media lies, and even churches who fall away from their convictions in the name of inclusion or to prevent members from leaving faith as men.
00:27:28.300Again, what outside of our core principles can we still hold on to as certainties?
00:27:34.000We see narratives spun to distract or influence action or inaction, and I struggle to find anything or anyone that is without reproach.
00:27:43.040Again, outside of our principles as good men, what can we still hold on to that is true?
00:27:48.740Well, what was the last part you said, Kip?
00:27:52.920As men, what can we still hold on to as true?
00:28:11.800Now, I think you would say it's objectively true, but now that's talking about an appeal to a higher authority, so you can't say it's truth with a capital T.
00:28:22.020But it might be to you, and that's good.
00:28:40.820But a lot of the stories and lessons from the Bible are historical accounts, and we know as human beings how accurate we are when we recall events that happened two days ago, let alone 200 years ago.
00:28:53.740So there's inaccuracies, but I'm probably going to get really tore up for that one, but it is what it is.
00:29:32.660And we laugh at times, and we lash out.
00:29:34.280We make bad decisions, but we're human beings.
00:29:39.240We're human beings with our own desires, selfish at times, and our own temptations, also selfish.
00:29:47.540And I wonder what life would look like for you if you just stopped setting the bar so high on other people.
00:29:55.180And you just decided that these core principles, kindness, empathy, love, honor, integrity, whatever your principles are, are true.
00:30:08.720And you fall short of them every day, and so does everybody else.
00:30:12.700And now, look, I'm not telling you that if somebody falls short on one of those virtues that you're obligated to maintain a relationship with that person.
00:30:47.400We want to help overcome medical ailments.
00:30:51.600I mean, human beings are incredible creatures.
00:30:55.140And we're also horrible at the same time.
00:30:57.840I think this goes back to what we were saying earlier.
00:30:59.760Our greatest strength, the desire for advancement, for example, I think is one of our greatest strengths as a species.
00:31:06.120It's also our greatest weakness because it causes us to leave a wake of collateral damage in our path sometimes, to take advantage of people, to cheat the system, to get ahead.
00:31:20.020And so those are temptations we need to fight.
00:31:23.060So figure out what your truth is, what it is for you, and then find the people who align to that as closely as possible and within reason afford them grace and dignity when they mess up the same as you.
00:31:36.160And stop expecting human beings to be perfect.
00:32:11.140So when your church, let's say you're Catholic, when your church fails you, I have zero expectations of the way that those leaders within the church show up.
00:32:24.380But I have high standards for myself, so I'm going to keep working the way that I think is fit.
00:32:33.780Ness Sojo, people's lack of self-control overall.
00:32:38.160Wide spectrum, a larger growing number of people are showing their inner child with content for others, sometimes even with a, I don't even know that word, with a bad attitude.
00:32:49.940Seemingly, as we're regressing as a society, there is less actual adults or just mature individuals.
00:33:20.120This is where that idea of moral relativism comes in, where morality is just relatively based on what, who's in power, who's saying what, who's the loudest, who has the most social media followers.
00:33:31.320If morality is relative, who gets to decide?
00:33:35.060And if that's the case, let's say, for example, you believe that morality is relative and it's dictated by the government through laws enacted by our representatives.
00:33:50.300Well, then are you willing to acknowledge that if there is a law enacted that you don't agree with, that it is too moral?
00:33:59.640Well, I don't think you would say that.
00:34:03.100I think you'd say that's immoral because your morality comes from a different place.
00:34:10.840And the institutions of objective morality are being dismantled piece by piece deliberately by the enemy and by the tools of the enemy, the government, academia, just culture, the entertainment industry, the medical community, piece by piece being completely dismantled.
00:34:32.580Because if everybody disagrees on what is moral, then who's right and who's wrong and what actually is, and that's a problem.
00:34:42.520We need to get back to the institutions like church, like neighborhoods.
00:40:36.860Johnny Loretty, he's my nutritionist and fitness coach.
00:40:39.500He's also a member of the Iron Council and he's on my battle team, put together this incredible,
00:40:44.220incredible program for helping men get fit and strong in the first quarter of 2026.
00:40:50.440The way it was before is we had 11 metrics from bench press to pull-ups to farmer's walks to broad jump to sprint to mile run to squats to deadlifts.
00:41:01.100And there might be one or two other things I was missing in there.
00:41:03.860And the goal was to complete those tasks to a standard.
00:41:08.720And that was all it was, is just figure it out and do it.
00:41:12.460This iteration has a 12-week course attached to it, which gives workouts about how to train and exercise in a way that makes you holistically fit and strong.
00:42:04.000The vision is a bunch of men who are capable, who are fit, who are strong, who have the energy and stamina and strength to lead and to protect and provide and take care of their families and love themselves
00:42:15.340and be fulfilled in life and chase meaningful things and overcome some temptations that maybe they've had with food choices or substance abuse
00:42:23.020and really start to become the men that they're meant to be.
00:44:14.000And our emotions are never the problem.
00:44:16.980Our reactions to our emotions are the problem.
00:44:19.740So if you're angry and you're lashing out and you're being aggressive or yelling or shouting or being short or being violent even, that is not an appropriate justification for your behavior, your anger.
00:44:35.260But if you use it to maybe be a little bit more aware of red flags with people in the future, to address problems when you see them and not wait too long before they actually become a problem,
00:44:50.720or put yourself, excuse me, avoid putting yourself in unnecessarily risky compromising situations with characters that are less than scrupulous,
00:45:03.560then I would say that your response to your anger is actually a pretty worthy thing and a good thing.
00:45:14.040Now, regarding moving on, when you talked about forgiveness, I still think you might be wrapped up in the idea that if I forgive a person, it's to release that other person of the burden of what they did.
00:47:10.580I'm like, Oh man, what is this going to be?
00:47:12.580And this person said, Hey, you know, I was really upset with you for a long time, but I think you're holding onto something that I forgave you of a really long time ago.
00:47:27.760Uh, and they had told me about some experiences that they, that we had that were good and some, the, and the way they felt and we're very grateful.
00:47:39.280They said, Hey, thank you for reaching out.
00:47:43.660I forgive you, but it means a lot to me that you would reach out and say that that was really great of you.
00:47:51.840And even if that response would have went poorly, I still would have been released.
00:47:57.080And I know that's shoes on the other foot with Patrick here, but that person was able to move on with their life because they forgave me even without me doing anything else for years.
00:48:09.700I hadn't apologized and they forgave me that releases you that unshackles you.
00:48:18.800It lets you go out into the world and make new relationships and create new experiences and start new businesses and be better at the things that you're currently doing.
00:48:29.900The question is, do you want to be angry all the time?